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Tragic ICE Shooting and Viral "Monster Dad" | LIVE · The Lila Rose Show

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Hey everybody, welcome back to the Lila Roche Show.
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It is a new year and there is a lot of news to do.
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A roundup on here. You may have seen the headlines
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this morning. Just a few hours ago there was
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an immigration protest in Minneapolis and ICE shot a woman
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in her car. The ICE agent is claiming
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self-defense. The Internet is also buzzing
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about a dad whose post went viral recently on acts saying
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that as much as he loves his young children, he doesn't like
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spending any time with them. Of course the Internet reacted
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and my take is going to say be that the reactions of people say
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a lot more about us than it actually does about this dad.
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All that and more. Welcome back to the Lila Rose
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show. OK, so before we get into ICE,
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and as you know on the show, we've covered immigration and
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the deportation policy of the administration.
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Our take is not the typical take you're going to see on the in
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the headlines, either on the left or the right.
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But I think it's one that I found most people actually agree
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with. But maybe you're afraid to say
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the quiet part out loud. So we're going to talk about
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that. But before that, yesterday,
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there was a statement from the president, from President Trump
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about something called the Hyde Amendment.
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Let's take a listen. Let the money go in the
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healthcare account or however you do it.
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Let the money go directly to the people.
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Now you have to be a little flexible on hide.
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You know that? You got to be a little flexible.
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You got to work something. You got to use ingenuity.
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You got to work. We're all big fans of
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everything, but you got to be flexible.
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You have to have flexibility. OK, So what is he, what is he
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talking about? You have to have flexibility on
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Hyde. So they're talking about,
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they're beginning in Congress and the White House to talk
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about the budget process for 2026.
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They're talking about the spending, you know, the taxpayer
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spending, what we're going to be spending money on.
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There has been something since 1976, before I was born, called
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the Hyde Amendment. A big shout out to Congressman
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Henry Hyde, who is no longer with us.
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He's passed on. I believe he's in heaven.
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This guy. I believe he was pretty saintly
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as falls as far as politicians ago, but Congressman Henry Hyde
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instituted something called the Hyde Amendment at the federal
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level. It's been in place since 1976.
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What does the Hyde Amendment do? The Hyde Amendment prevents your
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taxpayer dollars, my taxpayer dollars, from going to directly
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fund for abortions. So when the government, the
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federal government takes your money and gives it to states for
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their Medicaid funds, as an example, to pay Medicaid, they
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are not allowed to use that federal money.
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They can use state money because if they want do their state
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prerogative, they can do their state prerogative, but they
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cannot take your federal taxpayer dollars and give it to
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abortionists. That's what it does ultimately.
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Now, the last year has been some big wins for the pro-life
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movement. We defunded Planned Parenthood.
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I credit President Trump for signing that into law.
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I think it was Speaker Mike Johnson of the House who really
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pushed for that. Hundreds of millions of dollars
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were taken away from Planned Parenthood, which is the biggest
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abortion chain. This is different though.
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This would mean that Planned Parenthood or really any other
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abortion provider could take federal tax dollars and have it
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be paid, their abortions be paid for and they get to charge you,
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the taxpayer 500, a $1000 or more for committing an abortion
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ending the life of an innocent child.
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So it is a no brainer that we should have a Hyde Amendment,
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that we should not be putting federal money, your dollars
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behind killing babies. Even people on the left and the
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right agree there is majority bipartisan support for the Hyde
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Amendment. But of course the extreme pro
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aborts on the Democrat side are going to fight this tooth and
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nail. This is not ground that the
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Republican Party should give up 1 inch, not one inch.
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And so I think it is important to make the message loud and
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clear to the Trump administration.
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Huge thumbs up on the defund of Planned Parenthood.
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Let's keep that going. But it completely erases any
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progress to strip away a law that's been in place now for
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going on 50 years, 50 years of Hyde that was protecting babies.
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One last thing that's really important to note here.
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This is, this is incredible, what I'm about to share because
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of the Hyde Amendment, because of this, this, this law that
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stops federal money from paying for abortions.
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There have been an estimated 2.6 million babies whose lives have
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been directly saved because of this law in the last 50 years.
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Can you believe that? 2.6 million babies.
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How do we know this? The methodology is that when you
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look at Medicaid, this is where lower socioeconomic classes are
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going to be using Medicaid money for health services.
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When Medicaid doesn't pay for abortions, doesn't pay for
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killing poor babies or killing babies, right, The abortion rate
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is lower in these states where Medicaid does not fund abortion.
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That's just a fact. If it's not an option that your
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doctor's giving you, the Planned Parenthood says, oh, the state
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will pay for your abortion. The government, you know, Big
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Sam, will pay for you to kill your baby, so you should just do
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that. Yeah.
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Surprisingly, not surprisingly, women are less likely to kill
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their babies when they're being told, oh, yeah, just kill your
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baby and it's free. Instead, they're being told,
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actually don't kill your baby. Here are other resources that
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may also be tax subsidized to help you love your baby, take
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care of your baby instead of kill your baby.
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So it is a no brainer that we should keep hide.
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And I wanted to make sure you knew about this.
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I think it's. Important to raise our voices
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right now. And say this is not a not a
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matter that we should give a single inch on, do not give a
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single inch on Hyde. And there are a lot of good
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people in the Trump administration.
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There's a lot of good. People, there's Catholics,
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there's. Christians, there's people who
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are pro-life, this is their moment to shine, to say no, no,
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no, no, no. We cannot give an inch on Hyde,
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on the Hyde Amendment. All right, that being said, so
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if you're on X, if you're on social media, if you are
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connected in any way to politics right now, this is your chance
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to speak out about it, be speaking out about protecting
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the Hyde Amendment and saving lives.
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But the story breaking today on ice.
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I saw this footage. It's very disturbing footage.
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You don't see anything graphic in it, but you see ultimately
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the altercation that took a woman's life.
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We're going to watch that. I'm going to give you my take on
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Trial. All right, so we've been
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following, we've begun to follow the deportation policy of the
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Trump administration. And I first want to state what I
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think most people I talked to agree with, which seems like
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common sense. Number one, we need a stronger
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border. I think a lot of people are
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concerned about the fact that millions of people have entered
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this country illegally and that this exploded under the Biden
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administration. Also, if there are violent
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criminals, criminal offenders who are also undocumented in
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this country, deportation makes sense.
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Again, most people, the majority of people agree with that.
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They agree that some deportation is important, especially in the
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wake of mass undocumented immigration into this country.
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The part where I also see most people agreeing, even if they're
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may be afraid to say it, they don't want to look like they are
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opposing the Trump administration.
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Is that the enforcement, how ICE enforces its immigration policy,
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our immigration policy, our deportation policy, it matters.
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It matters. And it matters because there is,
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of course, a social contract in place with people who live in
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this country and our government, that our government is going to
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be just, it's going to follow its own laws and policies.
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It's going to respect human dignity.
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And that if you live in this country, you're going to follow
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the law. You're going to do your best to
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respect human dignity. But that even if you're a
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criminal, even if you're someone who is here undocumented, the
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government doesn't have the right to just obviously gun you
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down, right? There has to be a level of due
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process and still consideration for human dignity.
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The government is held to a high standard.
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And that's because we let them be in charge.
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We give them, you know, what is it, half our paychecks, a third
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of our paychecks. And we let them have the guns,
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the jails, the, you know, military.
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They're the ones who are in charge.
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So there is this agreement in place between citizens, between
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us, between even people who are here, who are immigrants, of
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course, and the government. So what we're about to watch is
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an altercation, and that's using it lightly, a term using, I'm
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using lightly here. It's actually more of a violent
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encounter between a handful of ICE officers who ended up
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getting stuck in the snow this morning in Minneapolis.
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And as they were stuck in the snow, there's ICE alerts that
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often go out with protesters who are protesting deportation.
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And so they show up to try to make trouble basically for the
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ICE officers and to try to obstruct what they are
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attempting to do. Let's take a look at this video
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of what happened this morning. We're going to analyze it
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afterwards. Quick content warning, you're
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going to hear some bad language in this video.
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You're also going to see a very ultimately a violent
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altercation. There's no blood or gore or
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anything, but you'll see a car and you'll see a some ICE
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officers and you're going to hear gunshots.
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Let's take a look. What the?
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What the you just what the did? You do.
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All right, so the woman who was shot was a 37 year old woman, a
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mother I think of a 7 year old. She's dead, she's deceased.
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The ICE officers thankfully I think are unharmed after this
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altercation, this violent encounter, I should say.
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Let's take a look at what people are saying about what we just
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saw and then I'll give you my take.
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So Nick Sorter, who is a independent journalist, I
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actually love a lot of the stuff that he does and he's of often
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reporting online. He says breaking new angle from
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the ice involved shooting in Minneapolis shows the woman
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clearly hitting the agent with her car before he fires at her.
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A vehicle is a deadly weapon and she used that deadly weapon
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against the agent. self-defense is what Nick Sorter is saying
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here. Here is a different take.
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Don Winslow, who's I think a New York Times bestselling author,
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he's weighing in. He says the wheels are fully
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turned away from the officer. Watch in slow MO.
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No intention IMO, in my opinion, to hit anyone.
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Sole intention based on wheel steering to leave the scene to
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get out of there. Things were heating up.
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The ICE officers knocking on the door, right?
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Not a threat. Look at the wheel.
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Now, when I saw the footage, I immediately saw it more from Don
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Winslow's point of view, 'cause I think I'm looking from the
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back, like, you know, many people are who see this footage.
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There's other footage that we don't see it from the back like
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that. And you do see the wheels
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turning. There is a ICE officer who comes
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in front. The bottom line is if an ICE
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officer believes that there's an imminent threat against his life
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from somebody, he does have the right to try to stop that
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threat. He has the right to do that in
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self-defense, right? That is actually our current
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policy right now for law enforcement.
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They can't go and hunt people on the street.
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That would be completely unethical and illegal.
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But if they are being attacked, and in this case, if the ICE
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officer thought he was being attacked with this deadly weapon
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of a, you know, however, how heavy that car is this, this
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vehicle being used as a deadly weapon, then you can understand
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in his mindset why he would say, well, I'm doing this in
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self-defense. I need to immune, you know, stop
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this threat and I'm going to kill this person or at least
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shoot at this person to get them to stop.
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So I can understand that perspective.
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And I think, you know, if you're an ICE agent today, it is a
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tough job for a lot of ICE agents because they are doing
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something very unpopular in the communities that they're in now.
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Having a tough job doesn't give you permission to do a bad job
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or to, as we discussed in my last episode, to go after it,
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you know, put recently postpartum mothers or
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accidentally pick up American citizens or to show up at a high
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school graduation. And that's when you choose to
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deport the parents. I don't think any of that is
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acceptable. So there have to be boundaries
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here about how we go about enforcing our immigration law
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and doing doing it in a way that is just, but also respects the
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public peace and respects the communities so that there's not
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an act of a sense of terror that the communities are feeling.
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But that being said, when you look at this video, my immediate
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response was it looked like she was just trying to get the hell
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out of Dodge, as they say. She's just trying to get out of
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there because she was kind of causing trouble.
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It got it escalated. They're coming up to her car and
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banging in her car. She's like, shoot, I don't know
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what's going to happen. This is like a, you know, beyond
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my scope. Now.
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I'm just a lady who, you know, is fighting for whatever rights
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I believe I'm fighting for here in my car.
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And yeah, I'm saying maybe bad words earlier or, you know,
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trying to like meddle with ice operations, but I'm going to get
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out of here now because things have gotten too heat, have
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heated, have gotten too hot, have have heated up too much.
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And but again, I can see if you're that ice officer in front
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of the car, you don't see her wheels turning necessarily to
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get out of the way. You're more thinking, oh gosh,
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she's trying to kill me right now.
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So it's going to be, it's going to be interesting to see how
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this plays out. But I think the key here is that
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it plays out with a dupe with due process.
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It doesn't play out with Internet mobs or real life moms
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going after each other. And some of my biggest concern
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besides the loss of this woman's life is the fact that the
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response has really escalated. They're calling, both sides are
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calling each other terrorists. There's now riots happening in
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Minneapolis. Let's take a look at what that
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looks like. Here is let's start with this.
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Harris, if you can pull up the mayor of Minneapolis.
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Telling ICE get the F out of Minneapolis.
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Let's take a look. But I do have a message for our
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community, for our city, and I have a message for ice to ice.
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Get the fuck out of Minneapolis. This is a message from a lot of
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Democratic mayors who are just saying, ICE, you don't belong
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here. They're obstructing ICE
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operations. Again, ICE, the government
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should have the right to deport especially violent offenders.
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I think that that is something, again, most people agree on.
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But when it becomes this heavily partisan thing where the mayors
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are just saying we don't want you here at all and we're going
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to obstruct your operations, that's where you can understand
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a backlash from the federal government.
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The response from President Trump has been very strong, as
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you can imagine. This is kind of par for the
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course as President Trump. Let's pull up the response from
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President Trump here. This is what he tweeted shortly
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after the incident. All right, President Trump says
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I have viewed the clip of the event which took place in
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Minneapolis, MN. It is a horrible thing to watch.
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The woman was screaming, obviously a professional
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agitator. The woman driving the car was
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disorderly, obstructing and resisting, who then willfully,
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violently, viciously ran over the ICE officer.
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That didn't happen, by the way, but he's saying maybe she
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attempted to do that. Who seems to have shot at her in
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self-defense? Who seems to have shot at her in
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self-defense. Based on the attached clip, it
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is hard to believe he is alive but is now recovering in the
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hospital. The situation is being studied.
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But the reason these incidents are happening is because of the
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radical left. They are just trying to do the
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job of making America safe. So he's standing by his people,
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his lies, his law enforcement. That's understandable to some
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degree. He's the president, he's the
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commander in chief. His job is to basically have
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their backs, right? That's part of his job.
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And it's, again, very difficult for many ICE agents.
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I think the part that's tricky here is what President Trump is
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doing, which he often do, is what he often does here is
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saying the radical left at large, basically his political
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enemies are threatening, assaulting, targeting a law
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enforcement officers and ICE on a daily basis.
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And this is where it gets a little tricky.
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Is everybody on the left doing this to ICE agents?
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Is everyone on the left disorderly?
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Are they all trying to kill ICE agents?
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Was this woman trying to kill an ICE agent?
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Again, it's it's it's presuming the worst of your political
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opponents, which is not just what Trump does.
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The left does that to the right constantly.
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But this is where things become even more on fire because
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everyone is saying you were doing this, it's your fault, you
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were doing this, it's your fault.
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You're just out to get me and destroy me.
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You're out to get me and destroy me.
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It's a basically a race to the bottom.
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I mean, how can you live in peace when this is how you see
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your political opponents and they see you that way?
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We're not going to be able to live in peace that way.
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So there have been also riots breaking out.
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We can pull up that clip, Harris.
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This was just I think in the last couple hours now in
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Minneapolis, Minneapolis residents in the streets
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attacking federal agents. You can play the sound here too
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if. You've got it.
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Get out of the way. Get out.
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Get out of the way. Get out the way.
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So this is federal agents, people again, protesters, it's
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escalating and I think the OK, what's the, what's the response
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here? Things are hot, things are still
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happening. It's unclear exactly what was
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going through the ICE agents mind.
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We know that the woman is dead. She was shot 3 times.
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We know that this is just creating more controversy.
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It's creating more anger and more divisiveness,
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understandably so. Someone was just shot and
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killed. What is the response?
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What should be the response from our federal government?
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And how do we look at this, especially for people who are
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Christians who want to have the Christian posture, both in
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supporting our government are ensuring that we respect rule of
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law while at the same time having a posture of justice and
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welcoming the stranger. And I think in this case, my
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one, the one word I think of is de escalation, which I think can
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sometimes be hard in politics, left versus right, but de
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escalation, because the more that we paint the other as the
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enemy who just wants to destroy us, the more we're going to just
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constantly be at war with each other.
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That can be really hard to do too, when you're trying to stand
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by a political point and and make a strong one to be de
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escalating. But I think it is the job of law
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enforcement to de escalate as best they can.
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That is part of their mandate. And I think it should be part of
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Ice's mandate too. I also think that as Christians,
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we need to be praying for our law enforcement.
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We need to be praying for immigrants, including those that
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are undocumented. We need to be praying for just
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and wise solutions to the problem in our of, of
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immigration and how our immigration system has been
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broken in America. And I think be willing to look
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at things maybe not through the headline of left versus right,
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but be willing to look at things in a more nuanced way with the
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end goal being human dignity and its protection as well as
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justice. So let's just say a prayer right
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now, if you will, with me for what's happening in Minneapolis
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and also for all of the people who are serving in law
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enforcement and, and those that are also feeling very insecure
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or uncertain because of either their immigration status or
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because of just friends and loved ones that they have and
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they're not sure what's going to happen.
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So I'm going to say I pray her before we go to our next topic.
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In the name of the Father, the Son of the Holy Spirit, Heavenly
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Father, I just ask that you protect everyone here and that
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you help us live together in peace.
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I ask that we can find just ways to enforce our immigration
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policy and to make our immigration policy as just as
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possible while also respecting human dignity and being as
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merciful as we can possibly be. I pray for the repose of the
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soul of this woman who who just passed this 37 year old woman.
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I pray for her child. I pray for the ICE agents, for
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them to be full of justice and be full of also mercy and how
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they operate moving forward. And we just pray for the
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political system and for everybody who is involved here,
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the elected leaders, the people in law enforcement, the
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communities, that your spirit of peace and justice can reign in
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people's hearts and that we can seek to collaborate with one
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each other, with one another, instead of to oppose one
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another. And I entrust all of this and
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the future of our country entirely into your hands in the
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name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit.
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Amen. Okay, you guess.
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We don't usually do that prayer in the middle of political
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commentary, but what good is going to be our politics if we
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don't pray? We're going to have a disaster,
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guys. So we're going to do more of the
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praying around here. It's a new year, our new year,
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new prayer. Lots of prayers needed in 2026.
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All right, before we go to this next topic, which is something
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So before we get into the Spiral X post that I want to read to
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you all, I want to take a look at the comments.
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The chat is buzzing here. Thank you everybody for weighing
23:16
in a few comments that I wanted to read.
23:19
So first of all, there's one here that comes from Rambo mom
23:25
saying, Lila, you seem to have no threat, no clue about the
23:28
constant threats of death daily. You need to go on a ride along
23:32
sometime, meaning right along with law enforcement with ICE,
23:34
to know what they go through. First of all, you're right.
23:37
I don't experience what law enforcement experiences on a
23:40
daily basis. That is absolutely, absolutely
23:42
true. And they do experience a lot of
23:44
risk and threats to their life. That is also true.
23:47
And I think we can appreciate law enforcement and respect law
23:51
enforcement and what they risk and even sacrifice, while at the
23:55
same time saying they have this very high and really sacred
23:59
responsibility to use force, the powerful force that they've been
24:03
entrusted with and that they're literally paid to, to use right,
24:06
in a way that is above reproach, really.
24:10
So again, I'm not casting this big judgment on this ICE officer
24:14
to say he 100% did the wrong thing.
24:16
I think they need to do a very careful review of the process,
24:18
what he was thinking, what his intention was.
24:21
But I think it's an objective tragedy that this woman is dead.
24:24
And I do think based on the footage that I saw where you got
24:26
to see the back of the car, it appeared she was trying to get
24:29
out of there. She had escalated.
24:30
She had helped escalate the situation.
24:32
That is true. She was part of a protest.
24:35
That is true. And she was not responding to
24:38
the ICE officer. He's banging on her door.
24:39
She's just trying to get out of there.
24:41
And another ICE officer walks in front of her car.
24:43
And she was, I think, looking at the other guy, and she just puts
24:47
her pedal to the metal and, you know, is going to keep going.
24:50
And that's when she gets shot. So I totally hear what you're
24:52
saying, but I also think there is a responsibility that our
24:57
wonderful law enforcement that we need to respect and support
24:59
as best we can has. And that's, you know, both
25:03
things can be true at the same time.
25:05
Another person here says that I just I just lost the chat here
25:10
saying it looks like ultimately a saying it looks like liberal
25:16
women will learn from this woman as an example.
25:20
That's a pretty harsh take. I mean, I hear.
25:23
The the thought. Behind that, you know, don't
25:25
mess with ice. They're going to kill you.
25:28
I just don't think that's the way we should all like, oh,
25:30
don't ever cross a police officer.
25:31
Look them in the wrong, you know, in the wrong way.
25:33
That's going to get you. I mean, yes, I don't think you
25:36
should be in any way doing violent protesting.
25:41
That is not good. If you're going to do it violent
25:43
protesting, you may be putting your life in danger.
25:45
That is just a fact. But I do think it's up for
25:47
debate still. Was this woman a violent
25:49
protester or was she just trying to get out of there in her car?
25:51
I think that's still the question that's at hand.
25:53
That needs to be a debate. Always forever says The thing is
25:56
they could have shot at the tires.
25:59
They are trained to avoid killing citizens.
26:02
She was trying to get away and I think there's a lot of truth to
26:05
that. And the law enforcement ICE
26:08
should be trained to avoid killing people.
26:11
That is not their job to kill people.
26:13
Their job is to protect the peace, enforce the law,
26:15
obviously practice self-defense when needed, but it's not to
26:18
just go out and kill people. So I, I think, you know, the
26:22
jury's still out on this one. There's going to be more
26:24
analysis, forensic analysis that's going to be done of this
26:26
case. But I think it's a tragedy All
26:29
in all, and a call for prayer as well as what we, you know,
26:33
everything we were talking about earlier.
26:35
OK, let's go to this next topic, which I'm excited about.
26:39
This post on X, it was a doozy. His post on X got 20, nearly 20
26:47
million views just on X. And then it was populated other
26:50
platforms too. So 20 million people were
26:52
looking at what this guy said. And this guy's like a small
26:55
account. He's not like he's some big
26:56
personality, you know, creating all this content that's always
26:59
stirring up controversy. He just happened to, like, write
27:01
out this little mini essay about what his experience was.
27:04
And then the whole world saw it. Not the whole world, but a lot
27:07
of X saw it. And then a ton of people weighed
27:09
in. Let's take a look at what he
27:10
said. So he says, am I just a monster?
27:14
This is a guy on X named Justin Murphy.
27:17
He says it's been 4 years since I became a father and I am just
27:22
beginning to fear for my. Soul.
27:25
It sounds like a humble beginning to the self
27:27
reflection. The truth is, I just don't like
27:30
being around kids for very long. Historically this is not
27:33
uncommon among fathers, but today it feels almost illegal.
27:36
It's causing me a lot of confusion and anguish.
27:38
The ideal moment of time I'd like to spend playing with my
27:41
kids is probably around 70 to 140 minutes a week.
27:45
Very precise, roughly 10 minutes each day, maybe 2 times a day.
27:49
Taking breaks for my work. My feelings of love towards them
27:52
are perfectly strong, but if they have to watch them or
27:54
entertain them for more than 10 minutes, my blood starts to
27:57
boil. I just want to be working or
27:59
accomplishing something. I try to be grateful, but it
28:00
doesn't work. At 9:00 AM this morning, it's a
28:03
sunny. Warm day here in Austin and my 4
28:05
year old son is begging me to play catch.
28:07
I was drinking coffee, still waking up.
28:09
I didn't feel like it, but his desire to play is insatiable.
28:12
He begged and he begged. I have no problem being a kind
28:15
and loving father. The problem is that I do not
28:18
enjoy it. It's not that I'm trying to
28:20
maximize my personal pleasure, it just seems that it's wrong
28:23
that I experienced so little delight when my dad friends all
28:27
claim to love the experience the to experience so much.
28:30
It was beautiful. We live in a picturesque tree
28:32
lined block. I am even relatively relaxed
28:34
from holiday rest. Playing catch with your son is
28:37
supposed to be an iconic peak experience.
28:39
Yet for every single minute on the inside, I just don't want to
28:42
be there. I want to be drinking my coffee
28:45
in peace. Then I feel guilty and absurdly
28:47
ungrateful and ashamed when we're done.
28:49
I know that he if he was a teenager teenager I'd long to
28:51
have these days back. I have all of this perspective
28:55
rationally and I've been very patient and steadfast trying to
28:58
digest it but nothing fixes me emotionally.
29:00
Am IA terrible person or is my feeling within a certain range
29:03
of historically normal and and it's modern parenting torrent
29:06
norms that are off? Whether it's my fault or not I
29:08
don't even care. I just want to figure this out
29:10
sometime. Something is wrong and I no
29:12
longer have the excuse of being new to this.
29:15
All right, so you know, those like anonymous confessions, like
29:20
on Reddit, there's sometimes these like Anon accounts that
29:23
pour out their soul and their deepest darkest secrets and then
29:25
people weigh in and try to advise them and everything else.
29:28
This guy is definitely not anonymous.
29:29
He is going out. He's just going for it.
29:32
And I know there's a mixed reaction just on that alone that
29:36
he's sharing something so personal and potentially so
29:38
shameful for the whole world to see.
29:41
I do think there's something almost brave that he's willing
29:44
to do that. But I also think, well, I'm not
29:47
going to tell you exactly what I think until I look at a couple
29:50
other of the top comments to this guys ex post.
29:53
And then I'm going to give you guys my take because it's it it
29:57
has to in part to do with the way that people are responding
29:59
to. So I digress.
30:01
Let's look at what the brilliant philosopher.
30:04
Oh, wait, that's not this guy. Let's look at what Andrew Tate
30:07
has to say. All right, you guys have
30:09
probably heard of Andrew Tate. We've talked about him on the
30:11
show in terms of the sex trafficking allegations against
30:15
this man. He is a social media influencer
30:18
and he has really just raunchy, you know, anti human takes a lot
30:25
of the time. Unfortunately.
30:27
I think some men think he's great because he tells men to
30:29
pick them up themselves up by their bootstraps and work out
30:32
and get rich. But you can get that message
30:34
from other people that I think are more respectful of other
30:36
human beings. Anyways that being said what he
30:39
weighed in and said, this is kind of 1 extreme.
30:42
Totally normal. You're just CUCKED by the modern
30:46
woman who convinces you to be a second mother.
30:50
You should be at war or impregnate impregnating more
30:53
women. 2/3 of 2/3 hours a week is perfect with amount with a
30:58
kid. That's why I have double digit
31:00
kids with eight women. White people have been CUCKED by
31:06
females and don't even reproduce enough because they're forced to
31:09
play patter cake. Men make for, make pay for and
31:14
discipline children. The rest is for women.
31:16
OK, this doesn't even make sense what he's saying, which is not
31:18
unusual for this gentleman or this person.
31:20
I should say. I pray that one day he he does
31:23
become a gentleman. But it you know, he's saying
31:25
like you shouldn't be spending any time with him, but then you
31:27
should discipline them. You can't successfully
31:29
discipline a child if you'd ever spend time with them.
31:31
So that doesn't even make sense. He's clearly a polygamist here.
31:34
He has all these, like, sugar Mamas or Mama ladies that he,
31:40
you know, it doesn't consider them wives.
31:42
They're basically just his harem, effectively just women
31:44
that will sleep with him that he just has children with that are
31:48
kind of like single mothers. But he's, you know, helping to
31:50
pay the bills. Get, I don't know all the
31:52
arrangements and the details, but I think this is objectively
31:55
not a good advice for this gentleman.
31:57
This gentleman is saying, like, I'm a father.
31:59
I know I should be grateful for being a father, but I'm really
32:01
not enjoying time with my kids. And I just want to go work or
32:03
drink my coffee. And Andrew Tate's like, yeah,
32:05
dude. So, yeah, I don't think that
32:08
that makes a lot of sense. And this is not helping this man
32:13
have more self-awareness or have a path for how to be a better
32:16
father. This is actually just saying,
32:18
oh, you're struggling to be a good father.
32:21
OK, here's how to be even worse of a father.
32:23
Let me tell you how to like, like make your game even worse.
32:26
Go, you know, impregnate a bunch more women, spend even less time
32:30
with your kids and go to war. And I don't know, it's it's
32:35
silly. It's silly in a way.
32:37
I'm, I feel weird that I even read this on my show because
32:39
it's so silly. But this shows you an example of
32:42
the the responses that this tweet got.
32:47
And there was kind of the red pill world with their opinion
32:50
saying, oh, this is totally normal.
32:52
You shouldn't want to spend time with your kids.
32:53
OK, let's move on. Well, before we move on one
32:57
other point here, this gets into gender roles already.
33:01
Oh, the woman's job is to just play with the kids and be
33:04
nurturing and care for the kids. The man's job is to like go out
33:07
there and just make money. And well, there's some truth to
33:10
that in that women are more naturally designed to do that,
33:14
especially early childhood nurturer.
33:16
The mother's role is irreplaceable.
33:18
The father is designed naturally to be the provider protector,
33:22
especially so the woman can be that nurturer and bring those
33:25
children into the world. All that is true and really
33:27
beautiful. It's part of God's design.
33:29
I love it. That being said, it doesn't mean
33:32
that dads don't nurture and play with their kids.
33:34
It doesn't mean that moms aren't helping provide to and being
33:37
part of building that household. So there's a lot more overlap
33:41
than I think sometimes we reduce gender roles to and the harm of
33:47
creating these caricatures of what it means to be a mother or
33:51
a father, or these caricatures of what it means to be a wife or
33:55
a husband is that it doesn't benefit those people who are now
33:59
caricatured and doesn't benefit the kids.
34:01
Because if you're a kid and you grew up thinking, well, only mom
34:03
is nurturing me and dad's job is just to like.
34:05
Go out and fight. Then your view of masculinity
34:08
and femininity is going to be skewed just by nature of that,
34:11
that that that misrepresentation of the feminine and the
34:14
masculine. The most masculine man in my
34:18
view is Jesus Christ. Second to him, I would say is
34:21
Saint Joseph. You know, the Saints give us a
34:23
really good idea of masculinity, the male Saints and God himself
34:27
in the person of Jesus Christ. And what you see is incredible
34:31
strength, self-control, immense virtue, wisdom, guidance,
34:36
leadership. You see all of that, but you
34:38
also see incredible gentleness. You see incredible patience.
34:42
You see, I'm going to be the servant of all.
34:45
You see a tenderness and a kindness.
34:48
You see all of that, and it's packaged up in this beautiful,
34:51
the person of Christ, this perfect man and God.
34:54
And you see a lot of that in Saint Joseph, so that that is
34:57
real. And then in women, you see the
34:59
archetype of Mother Mary. Mother Mary who is so tender and
35:03
meek and nurturing, so submissive and humble, all of
35:07
these beautiful qualities. But then she's also strong.
35:11
And bold she goes to Elizabeth. You know, she's pregnant, she
35:15
takes this dangerous journey, she goes to Elizabeth, and then
35:18
she's singing the Magnificat. All generations will call me
35:20
blessed. The Lord has done great things
35:22
for me. You know, ultimately I've been
35:24
elevated and I praise God for that.
35:26
How wonderful that this is my blessing to bring obviously
35:29
Jesus into the world. And here she is, you know,
35:32
saying yes despite all of the threats that she would
35:35
experience and boldly saying yes, bravely saying yes.
35:39
She's a warrior. She's a warrior for God, Mother
35:41
Mary. So anyways, both is true.
35:44
Both is true, and I think you it to have again, too much of a
35:47
caricature of the sexes is going to only harm the development of
35:52
children if that's what you're trying to impress upon them.
35:56
But let's look at another response here.
35:59
This is another X account. You view your children.
36:04
Let's pull this up from somebody named Rena.
36:06
So there were a lot of responses like this one.
36:08
Guys, I'm not just picking this one randomly.
36:10
This is representative of probably hundreds, maybe
36:13
thousands of other responses. That's kind of how I'm I'm doing
36:16
this sample. You view your children as a.
36:18
Burden Instead of accomplishing something by raising them right,
36:22
you have failed. You are addicted to a workaholic
36:25
bachelor lifestyle. You should never have had kids.
36:28
How dare you. And there are a lot of women
36:30
piling on here saying like, well, women aren't allowed to
36:33
complain about kids, but now you get to, you know, shut up,
36:36
basically. I don't think that's helpful
36:40
either because I think the underlying message of those
36:43
people is that parenting, it's not about caricaturing the sexes
36:47
or like, you know, masculinity and feminity is this thing and
36:49
parents and moms and dads do this thing like, you know, Tate
36:51
and those red pill guys were doing.
36:53
It's more saying, well, parenting is all sunshine and
36:55
roses basically. And if you feel discomfort or
37:00
sadness about. Your parenting or having to
37:03
parent, then you're have a moral failure.
37:05
Like you've literally have a bad character and that you're
37:08
irredeemable. Like the fact that you feel this
37:10
way as this guy, you are irredeemable.
37:12
You shouldn't have even had kids.
37:13
That kid shouldn't even exist, basically.
37:16
And that logic is also completely wrong in my view,
37:18
because the reality is parenting, both fatherhood and
37:22
motherhood, does require sacrifice.
37:24
It requires dying to ourself. It requires giving up some of
37:29
our selfishness. Our selfishness is tested in the
37:32
fire of parenthood. That's a good thing, by the way.
37:35
I'm so grateful for that as a mother.
37:37
I'm so grateful that my kids teach me patience and that I
37:41
have learned how impatient I really can be and how selfish I
37:44
actually can because I'm more worried about my own stuff in my
37:47
own world when I should be focused first on them.
37:50
And it's taught me. It's been a lesson of love and
37:53
I'm still learning it. But I'm so grateful for my kids.
37:56
And I try every day, my husband and I, to be a better parent for
37:58
them because that's what they deserve.
38:00
But the reality is, it's not all sunshine and puppies every
38:03
single day. There are difficult moments.
38:06
And that is part of the beautiful process of becoming
38:09
more loving as a parent. That's good.
38:12
It's good that parenthood teaches us that If we refuse to
38:15
learn that lesson, the lesson of dying to self, the lesson of
38:19
giving up our selfishness as parents, we refuse to mature.
38:23
It's like the butterfly never leaving its cocoon.
38:26
We were, we were. We're stunting ourselves as well
38:28
as our kids development by the way, because if you don't allow
38:31
yourself to mature as a parent, you're going to hurt your
38:35
child's ability to mature. So it's bull fanned, which is
38:38
also a beautiful thing that as you mature, you get to help your
38:41
kid mature. As you become less selfish, you
38:43
get to help your child feel more loved and be more nurtured and
38:48
be more formed and be more intentional about their
38:50
development. That's a great thing.
38:53
So I think that it is wrong to have a contemptuous attitude
38:58
towards our struggles as parents to say you shouldn't struggle if
39:02
you're a parent. But I think we also only
39:05
normalize. Yes, there can be struggle.
39:07
There's also the third way. And I'm going to read another
39:10
response here. This is from a girl, a lady
39:14
named Auden Christian I. Got my Truthly water jug here.
39:19
Big shout out to truthly. I did not plan that.
39:21
Guys I just need to drink some water before I read this ex post
39:24
OK? So this is from Autumn
39:28
Christian, and this was a good take.
39:30
She says no, you're not a monster.
39:33
These feelings are within your power to change.
39:35
You can change your feelings, she's saying.
39:37
They aren't bedrock personality traits.
39:39
You can't fix the results of attitude adjustments and
39:42
perceptions that you have about yourself and the world.
39:45
Somewhat paradoxically, the guilt and shame is preventing
39:48
you from changing these things. Those negative feelings act as a
39:51
sort of ego protection that prevents real introspection.
39:54
And part of you doesn't want to change, so you're not committing
39:57
fully to the task. And that's where you're getting
39:59
stuck in a shame cycle about it. Are these feelings common among
40:02
fathers? Sure.
40:04
It's normal to be a bad at things.
40:06
It's difficult to being involved and present father.
40:08
Yet study after study shows it's one of the most important things
40:11
you can do for your kids. And your kids are your future.
40:14
Whatever you do for them, you do it for yourself inside of them,
40:17
moving forward through your time.
40:19
And this view got, I think a ton of likes that had almost a half
40:22
a million or over 400,000 views. I think there's a lot of beauty
40:25
to what this lady said. And I think between our last two
40:27
commenters, this lady is more on to the truth of the matter here.
40:31
Here is the reality. Your feelings, your negative
40:35
feelings about a situation, about a relationship, in this
40:40
case about fatherhood, do not define reality.
40:43
The feelings are real, but your feelings can mislead you.
40:48
They can say, oh, this is hard and so you think I don't want to
40:50
do this thing anymore when that hard thing is exactly what you
40:53
should do. And then when you should ask the
40:55
question, why does it feel this way?
40:58
Well, maybe it's because you have formed a habit.
41:02
You have this emotional appetite.
41:05
For the wrong things, you enjoy your I don't know what this guy
41:10
enjoys video games more than you enjoy human interaction and it's
41:14
because. You have not developed the
41:16
muscle of enjoying human interaction and receiving
41:20
consolation from it. Maybe because of childhood
41:22
trauma, I don't know. That was just like a.
41:25
You know, example of the psychological analysis this guy
41:29
could do if he went back in time and tried to understand why he
41:32
might be this way. Regardless of why you're this
41:34
way, you can change and then. Part of changing is exploring
41:38
maybe why I feel this way sometimes.
41:40
It just chalks up to we all don't want to do the do the hard
41:43
thing some days. Some days we don't want to get
41:45
out of bed and we have to. We have a job, we have kids, we
41:48
have responsibilities. But you still get out of bed.
41:51
And actually you're happier in the end when you get out of bed
41:53
and do the right thing instead of languishing in bed and then
41:55
feeling horrible because you blew off your responsibilities
41:58
and now your life is a mess, right?
42:00
Difficulty does not equal failure.
42:03
Difficulty does not equal failure.
42:05
And your feelings are not facts. Your feelings show you where
42:09
you're at, but they don't show you what you should do.
42:11
And so that's why understanding what is my purpose here?
42:14
If you're a father, your purpose is to father your kids.
42:16
If you're a mother, purpose is to mother your kids.
42:18
Your purpose is clear. The question now is how do I
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overcome my own maybe negative emotions to do the right thing?
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And then how do I better have self knowledge to understand?
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OK, what is it that I like to do with my kids?
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This, I think this is a real thing.
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There's a a woman I love named Jen Fulweiler.
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She's a author. She's written some amazing
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books. She's also a stand up comedian.
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And her daughter, by the way, Lane Fulweiler is struggling
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with cancer. So we need to pray for the
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Fulweiler family. They're from Texas, but Jennifer
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wrote this book called I think My Blue Flame was the name.
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She has another book too that was fantastic.
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But she has this whole shtick where she says if you don't like
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playing Pat a cake with your kids as a mother, you don't like
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playing play DoH, you don't like doing like whatever little doll
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game your kids like, that's OK. You don't have to enjoy playing
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Pat a cake. That doesn't mean something's
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wrong with you. But what you should do is
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identify what is something fun that maybe we can do together.
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Her point is you should want to enjoy time with your kids, not
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just the responsibilities of taking care of your kids, but
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actually enjoy and delight in their existence.
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Kids are magical. Kids are amazing.
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And so it's finding out with your unique personality may be
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an interest. What are some fun things we can
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do together like that little 4 year old boy with that dad.
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Does the dad like to go bike riding?
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Does the dad like to, I don't know, go hiking?
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Does the dad like to go to Home Depot and walk through the
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aisles? My husband loves to go to Home
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Depot. That is his Target or his
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Nordstrom or his whatever it is for a woman.
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By the way, I, I, I did not do Target for two full years
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because of their agendas, but they've, they've pulled back on
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them. So I went to Target for the
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first time a few months ago, but back in the day, I would just
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walk through Target for fun. It was just fun.
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My husband be like, OK, we came here for two things.
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Let's get out of here. Home Depot.
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We came there for one thing and it's like we got to go through
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every aisle. So no shade on on Home Depot.
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I actually really respect and love that.
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My husband loves Home Depot, but my boys love Home Depot.
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Our little boys love Home Depot. So they go in the in the like
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card and they all together and it's actually really fun and
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adorable family outing. Anyways, they love to do that
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together. So that could be something.
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Find things that you do enjoy doing together and make memories
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that way. And I think the final point here
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is approaching time with our children.
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Not as, oh, I need to check a box.
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That's not how we should parent, father or mother, certainly not
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mother because I mean, especially when they're very
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young, your whole world is creating security for that child
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and showing that child love, right?
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But it shouldn't be about, oh, I need to check the box of
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spending 10 minutes with my kid. What instead it should be, I
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have the opportunity. It has to, you have to reframe.
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That is what I'm saying here. Got to reframe it because you
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can go into the best opportunity of your life.
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You could be given, I don't know, a billion dollars, you
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know, reach the heights of whatever professional pursuit
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you were after, the best relationship you could imagine.
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But if you don't have the right mindset about that opportunity,
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about that gift, about that whatever success you're
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experiencing, you could not appreciate it.
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This happens all the time. This is, I'm sure, happening in
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your life, in my life as we speak.
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There's something in your life that you longed for in the past
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that you have and possessed today, or that you may have
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dreamed of and experienced a relationship, something and you
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have it today and you forgot to say thank you for it.
45:54
Like you don't really. You're not.
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Really. Deeply appreciated on a daily
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basis. That's very normal human
45:59
condition to forget to be grateful.
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And so how does this apply to being a parent, a father and a
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mother? Same thing.
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It's not about checking the box for your child.
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It's about truly being grateful for the gift of this child's
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life, for the opportunity to know this unique soul and
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practicing a habit of gratitude. It's a habit.
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It's like a muscle. You got to go to the gym and do
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the reps Gratitude is the same way.
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And for a human being, it's so important that your kids
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experience your pleasure. This is this is really
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important. The the root of love.
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Saint Thomas Aquinas says the root of love is to will the good
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for the other want the good for the other.
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And Joseph Peeper says, who is a German philosopher, that the
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exclamation of love is oh, it is good.
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That you exist, it's delighting in the existence of the other.
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That's what love is willing their good and delighting in
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their existence. If your child or friend for that
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matter, spouse, but in this case your child doesn't experience
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your delight, your pleasure, like it's so good that you
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exist. I love you so much.
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I just delight in your existence.
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That is harmful to the identity of your kid.
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They need to know that their parents are happy that they
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exist. They need to know that their
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parents delight in their existence.
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And they need to be shown that through actions of their
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parents, both to care for them and nurture them and also to
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spend time with them, to just do leisure activities with them,
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fun things with them. And so the gratitude thing is so
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important. Thank you God for my life.
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Thank you, God for giving me the opportunity in this guy's case
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to wake up on a Sunday morning in Austin and drink a cup of
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coffee in my case, to wake up this morning and get to do this
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podcast with you guys. Thank you, thank you for
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listening. Thank you for being here.
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And I get to go home to my babies and I like, I, I still
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can't believe that I get to be their mom and it, they're just
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these magical human beings made in God's image that call me
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mother and love me and I love them.
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Like thank you God for that. The more we can thank God for
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what we've been given, the more we can experience really God's
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pleasure in our existence. It's tapping into that
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ultimately. So that would be the, the, the
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message to this guy. I think if I was talking
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directly to this gentleman, I would say forget some of these
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other guys on the Internet, especially that first one that I
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read the tweet from. I'd say, listen, fatherhood can
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be hard. Motherhood can be hard, that's
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OK, it's OK to acknowledge that. Maybe don't put it on X for the
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whole world to see. Maybe this guy got desperate.
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I'd say find a group of guys to be good friends with.
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Ideally faith-based family men that are moral.
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You need those guys in your life to help you out.
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Sounds like you're a hard worker.
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Good job. Your kid loves you, you love
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them. Find things you can do with him
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that you really enjoy, you know, confess any feelings that you
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have. Ideally, find faith, find God
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and, and, and you can confess your negative feelings, your
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shame and continue to be grateful.
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Make that a practice on a daily basis.
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Well, acknowledging, Hey, I'm imperfect.
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I might always have good feelings.
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I might have my selfishness that I'm up against, but I'm going to
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overcome that by getting up and showing up and being grateful
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and knowing that at the end of the day, this is all a gift.
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My life, a child's life, everyone's life.
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That's my that's my thought for you, Sir.
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What's his name again? What's his name?
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Harris Not Sir. Justin no, Justin.
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That's my thought for Justin. Let's pray for Justin.
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Let's pray for each other that we can appreciate what we've
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been given. We've we have all been given so
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much more than we could even dream of is what we've been
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given. And it's a matter of really
49:44
embracing it. And the last thing here is the
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last thing here is listen, when you've got a really tough
49:51
situation you're dealing with, I would not go to the Internet
49:54
first. That is like pressing the
49:56
nuclear button. Only do that if you're like,
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held hostage and there's no one else to talk to.
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And that's the only way to get, I guess, feedback.
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That's not anyone's case. By the way, Get some good
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friends in your life. We need each other.
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We can't do this alone. The Internet can be a harsh,
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harsh place. I would not recommend it as the
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place to bear your entire soul unless you have a specific
50:15
reason, like there's a strategy for why you're doing that.
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All right, let's finish up with a few of your comments here,
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guys. Gin Lee, as a says or Gin Lee
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says, oh, this is harsh. OK, I can understand.
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Tate is the epitome of a selfish human being, IMO, who has double
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digit kids with eight different women.
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No one should consider that stable or same.
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Yeah, I again, I don't know that person's heart, but I agree.
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It is wrong behavior and it's harmful.
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And they're very kind of boasting about it all the time.
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It's like part of the online brand.
50:44
And I think it's very, it's very silly.
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OK, completely, Claire says. I don't, I think there's a
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deeper issue with this man, but it doesn't mean he's a horrible
50:54
person. He just needs to learn how to
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love his kids more. I think that's lovely.
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And I agree, Claire. And that's where having good
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friends, like surrounding yourself with good people that
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are walking a good path is really key.
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I mean, it is true. You become like the people you
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spend time with, the people you listen to, the people you learn
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from and the people you spend time with.
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That's what you become like, so take time to become the best you
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can be by surrounding yourself with the best inputs.
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God is the ultimate input, of course, and finding those good
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friends. All right, you all.
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Let's close in prayer again. It's 2026, time to pray.
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And then we have the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit.
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Heavenly Father, thank you so much for today and everybody
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listening to the show and for the opportunity to love.
51:42
Thank you that we live in one of the most secure, free countries
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in the world with all of our issues in America.
51:48
Thank you for the blessing of being American and the
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opportunity. And if you're in another country
51:53
and you're praying, you can thank God for whatever elements
51:56
of your country you're grateful for.
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And we thank you for the gift of the people in our lives, for
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those of us who are married, for our spouses, for those of us
52:05
with kids, for our kids, for those of us with our families,
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for our families or the people that are chosen families.
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And we just entrust this year to you and all of our friends, to
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you, our families to you, our mission in life, our purpose in
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life, to you, to do good on your behalf, to serve you, and to
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become more like you. And we surrender everything to
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you and thank you for your love and your mercy and your and your
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grace. And we pray this in the name of
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the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit.
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Amen. Thank you so much guys.
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We will see you all next time.