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Ep. 94: 5 Signs you need a pause for corporate leaders · The Pausecast

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  If you're here, it's not an accident.
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  implement these tools that we can all learn And that's what
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  the paws cast is all about. I wanted to talk about the five
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  signs, you know, you need a pause to me.
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  This is kind of The Tell-Tale signs and it could be anything
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  like in these five things that you can intentionally shift,
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  your behavior and align. And this is in my book, pause,
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  this is a list that I created back when I burned out at Google
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  because all of these things were happening to me, believe it or
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  not, and I learned that Even if one of these things is happening
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  to you, right now than that is a key sign.
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  A Telltale sign that intentional shift in Behavior would really,
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  really serve you. And so remember, a pause has an
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  intentional shift in Behavior, doesn't mean you take a long
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  break and if it if you're on a forced pause right now, maybe
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  you are laid off, maybe you are on a transition career path,
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  pivoting to do something different.
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  Maybe it's all of the above, it doesn't whatever it is.
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  Is know that these are normal signs to experience.
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  But all it means is, hey, let me, let me align, let me learn
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  what I need to move forward in a way that serves me, okay?
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  So are you ready for these five? And as I share these, I'll so no
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  just track for yourself. How many of them you are
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  experiencing right now? All right.
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  So here's the first one. You used to love your job and
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  now you don't really you used to love your job.
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  But now you load that, so maybe you signed up your really
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  excited, maybe the first period of time, you're in all in and
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  moving, and shaking doing great things.
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  And now, you're kind of like, why did I do this?
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  What am I doing here? I don't like it.
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  Not a good thing. I want to do something
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  different. Okay, there's just an alignment
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  issue. So something happened, and
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  chances are your job. Maybe your job changed a little
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  bit, but my guess is something happened where you shifted and
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  now your thoughts and behavior. Not necessarily the way that
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  they were For whatever reason, it doesn't even matter.
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  But now, you know, there's a misalignment malalignment and
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  you need to adjust. All right, so that's the first
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  one. You used to love your job.
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  Now you Lo the, it might be, lets say you're laid off, you
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  used to enjoy your job and now you don't want to go back to
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  that anymore. That's the same thing.
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  Number two. Okay.
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  So the number two is, your boss tells you, it's not working out
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  your manager says, you might want to do something else like
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  my manager had. Told me at one point in the best
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  of intentions. So that could mean a lot of
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  different things, right? It might be just in a could be a
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  comp casual conversation side, sidebar conversation, that's
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  like, you know, maybe you could look into different things,
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  maybe, maybe you have other interests.
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  Maybe this isn't your your special thing, especially for
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  young and early in our careers, right?
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  Like, maybe we think that we were born and bred to be a
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  doctor. Let's I'm just making this up,
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  and then we get there and we're like, wow, I really Want to be
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  this. And then everyone can kind of
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  see that the writing's on the wall, but you don't see that,
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  but you have a really close and dear Ally Who literally spells
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  it out for you, right? Maybe.
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  That's not their boss but it's your friend a trusted person.
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  So just know that if you fear that feedback maybe it's a poor
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  performance review. It's good data.
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  Everything is data right? So that is another sign your
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  your manager tells you, it's not working out and maybe there's a
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  development plan in place. There's all these things, but
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  all it means, it doesn't mean it doesn't mean that's true.
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  It just means let me, let me intentionally shift my behavior
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  and figure this out. Okay, so that's number two.
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  Number three. This is one of my favorites that
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  you need or have an technology intervention.
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  Now, what is a technology intervention?
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  You can probably guess. Right.
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  So that's either yourself or someone, you know, kind of butts
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  in and says, hey Rachel, do you really need to be on your phone
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  while you're Enjoy your breakfast or you're at dinner
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  and you just can't get some yourself away or you're talking
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  to someone especially maybe when it creeps into family quality
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  time, that would be otherwise undivided attention and you're
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  glued to a phone or your media social media could even be could
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  be your email doesn't matter what the media is.
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  It's your devices and they have a grip on us, right?
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  So that's the third one. And I know for me this is a this
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  is a funny story. I was chair when I was burning
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  out of Google. Well, I literally was driving
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  across the Golden Gate Bridge with a friend of mine, good
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  friend from business school. And I think, she's her words and
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  this isn't the book to. She her words Kathleen said to
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  me, you know, Rachel, do you always have to be on your phone
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  or something like those? You know, she just was being
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  honest. She just was like, dude, why are
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  you on your phone all the time. And I wasn't driving looking at
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  my phone at that moment. But for some reason, I think it
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  just stuck out in her mind that I was constantly on my devices
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  and it was a wake-up call for me.
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  I was like oh, Man, if she's thinking of this right now
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  goodness, like yeah, something's happening where I probably
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  should pay attention and not be on my devices so much and I
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  would be at parties like anything, really?
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  And I'd whip out my laptop like at 4 p.m. on a Sunday because I
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  knew I needed to, I thought I had to get out an email which
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  was simply just me putting pressure on myself thinking.
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  I got to look good. Yeah, so if you are had if you
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  have Had a technology intervention, if people have
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  kind of hinted to the you about that.
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  That's a, that's the third sign. Alright.
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  So we've gotten through three, there's two more number four,
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  is, there is a challenge happening in your life?
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  Which could be anything, right? So challenges arranged across
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  things like health career, relationships self, right?
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  Maybe there's a really big thing you're dealing with financially.
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  Like, there's just challenges. So there's a challenge and
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  happens if that's a clear sign. Kind of take a step back and be
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  like, whoa, what's Happening Here?
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  I need an intentional shift. I'd like I get to have an
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  intentional shift in Behavior, see that it just caught myself.
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  And so the challenges of perfect opportunity, I think.
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  What if you do, if you are in between careers or jobs, that's
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  an ideal time to assess what is needed, taking this time is so
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  huge and can really serve you as opposed to jumping into the next
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  thing you think you need. But then again, realizing wow.
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  We did it again. I'm in a job.
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  I hate now again after two months.
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  All right, so that's the fourth one.
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  And then the last one number five is an opportunity.
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  So there's an opportunity knocking, meaning, maybe there's
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  just some nag in the back of your mind that just continues to
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  come up. Like I really want to go to
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  Paris. I really really want to start
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  this passion project of mine. I really want to plant some some
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  trees in the backyard that I think just could really use.
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  Some more bushes there. And then these are these are
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  things that might seem very nuanced or small potatoes but
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  the reality is they're actually things that are going on because
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  there's probably something else happening that would really
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  serve you and that time that you do that or experience will
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  really feed your soul. It will help liberate you to
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  maybe feeling new things being in a space that's maybe close to
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  nature, maybe, not, however, the opportunity knocks.
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  Maybe it's A friend who's like, hey, let's go on this weekend,
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  long retreat? This vacation.
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  I think this would be great and I'd love to do it with you.
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  All right? There's all kinds of stuff that
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  happen, so those are the five. So now take a, take a tally.
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  What one's apply to you right now?
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  Maybe you have zero, maybe you have all five but real real
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  quick. The five are you used to love
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  your job. Now, you don't Your boss tells
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  you it's not working out number two.
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  Number three is a technology Intervention.
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  Number four is a challenge. Number five is an opportunity.
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  All right? So of those, I'd love to know
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  how many are you going through right now?
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  If you even have one of those, I'd say you're probably in the
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  majority of people. And if you have 325, that's like
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  the red flag of, hey, I think a pause would really serve you and
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  remember, pause isn't anything other than an intentional shift
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  in Behavior. So that might mean, Doing
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  something different that might mean, journaling about what's
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  going on. That might mean naming a
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  feeling. I'm feeling.
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  I'm, I notice, I'm super frustrated and angry about this.
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  So, whatever that is, that's the next step is to kind of allow
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  yourself to be in that inquiry of what could I do different in
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  intentionally, right? This isn't us on autopilot.
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  Now, how does this impact us as Leaders?
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  Well, think about yourself leading, whatever you're doing
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  at, like, in your career, Maybe. It's a even with your family as
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  a leader as a head of household or mother, whatever it is.
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  And I think whether you're an executive or a stay-at-home mom,
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  you know, whatever they are, you can be an executive stay at home
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  mom. By the way, all of it is in
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  service to you feeling more joy, feeling more fulfilled feeling
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  more aligned and when were in alignment that leads us to new
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  things that really serve us, right?
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  So we are in Inflow, we feel connected to ourselves and they
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  and others in the universe and things just happen and ways that
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  really serve us. But if we are not in alignment,
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  right? We're at the job, we can't stand
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  where in the marriage doesn't work that we want to move into
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  something different. I don't know.
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  Whatever that is. We have to get honest with
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  ourselves and I think pausing to notice that is the first step.
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  It's the Gateway. I called the pause portal to a
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  different way of to a new trajectory.
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  And for me in my world, it led to everything new like every
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  single thing in my life changed. Everything my boyfriend changed,
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  my philosophies changed. My job changed my values
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  changed. I mean, nothing didn't change
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  everything changed and that was profound and me, you'll have
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  your own experience. But listen, if you don't take
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  the pause to listen to the five, you know, signs, if you miss the
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  signs, you're just going to keep on trucking and you're going to
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  miss it. You're going to just going to
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  keep doing what you do and go back into the loop.
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  Go back into the cycle where you've got to the same place and
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  you're still in it. And then you wonder, why do I
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  keep dating the same guy? Or why am I still stuck in these
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  jobs that don't pay me. Anything.
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  Right? That's the key.
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  So, don't miss the signs, people.
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  That's all I'm saying. They are huge, there signs that
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  are red like, like, like waving at you like, hey, hey, hey, pay
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  attention. Don't let me go by again.
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  Because, guess what it'll come by again.
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  If you don't pay attention, but time will have gone by and maybe
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  different things in your life, Will Go On by you even like, why
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  didn't I figure this out? So don't worry about it.
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  Just know that these signs are there and so give yourself an
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  inventory. What is the signs you're
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  experiencing right now? And last but not least, if you
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  are experiencing any of these signs, even one of them, you can
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