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E59: Yes, I’m Pregnant! Announcement and Q&A · The Lila Rose Show

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So yes, I'm pregnant. We are pregnant.
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We are due next spring. We are so excited.
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I kind of let it slip in a couple episodes almost
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accidentally, because to be honest, when I find out, when we
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find out, my husband and I, that we're pregnant, I'm the kind of
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person who just shares the information as soon as possible
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with whoever wants to hear because I'm so excited and my
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husband's so excited. And, you know, I do not know if
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it's a boy or a girl yet. We're going to find out probably
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in a few weeks. We are so excited.
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I truly believe every child is an incredible gift from God.
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This is a precious new soul. And my husband's one of eight.
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I'm one of eight. So I always would have dreamed
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of having a big family. Always thought that I'd love to
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have one. We're on to three now.
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We actually have one in heaven. So this is our fourth child and
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we are, yeah, 33 strong. So 3 is a good number, but I'd
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love to have more kids. We're having a new baby and I
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So when we found out we were pregnant, we told our two boys.
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So we have two little guys, one is 3 1/2 years old, one is 22
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months, and our 3 1/2 year old is very excited.
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So he is super pumped. He was excited when our second
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was born. He's like the Big Brother, so he
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takes care of his little brother.
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Yes, they fight and squabble, but he is the consummate Big
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Brother. He's the eldest child.
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He's got the responsibility thing in and he was really
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excited that there's a third coming and he thinks it's a
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girl. He's definitely gunning her
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sister because we have two boys. My other son, our other son, our
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22 month old at first expressed the confusion and shock.
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When we tried to explain there's a new baby coming.
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We said, you know, do you want a baby sister or baby brother?
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And the 22 month old just said no at first.
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So we had a little bit of a frosty reception with the
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youngest. After a little while, he warmed
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up and now he'll say things like, you know, do you want a
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baby brother, baby sister? And he'll say I'm baby.
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So he's not fully bought in. He still is asserting himself as
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the baby. He needs Big Brother training,
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which he will get in due time. But he is warming up.
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He does point sometimes to my stomach and he says, OK, baby.
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And so I think it's, it's kind of dawning on him that there's a
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whole new world awaiting him. But it's just been, I mean,
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we've been married almost five years and you know, a lot of you
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on the podcast have been kind of following the journey of even me
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dating, getting married, having my first, having my second,
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having our miscarriage. Now we're pregnant with our
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third. And I thank you so much, by the
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way, for all those who've just shown so much support and love
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over the last few years. And, you know, obviously being
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involved in pro-life work, this makes me all the more convicted
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and it makes the fight for life all the more real.
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This podcast, I think, is just born out of my heart for life
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and just the value of life and the power of relationships to
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bring life, you know, physically bring new children into the
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world. But also the importance of
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protecting marriages and families because they are so
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needed today. Strong marriages, strong
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families, strong kids. Like we cannot have a society
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without them. Our society will crumble without
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them. And so I consider my privilege
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of being married, my privilege of having children.
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You know, now we're having growing our family with our
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third. It is the greatest contribution
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I can give in this world is the love I give first to my family.
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And so it's just I feel very privileged and extremely
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grateful that I have an amazing husband that we now get to have
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another child. And it's just, it is a
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countercultural mindset I think today for many because I do
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think many people are open to marriage and children.
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Yes, but we do have a lot of negativity about children today.
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And you know, people have kids, they want only one or two,
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right? They don't want to have 34567,
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certainly not 8. You know, my parents were
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beautifully crazy having eight kids.
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I'm so grateful my siblings wouldn't be here without them
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saying yes to life. And same with my husband's
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siblings, like we love all his family, his his amazing sisters
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and brothers. And if his parents hadn't said
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yes to life, they wouldn't be here.
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And so I just think about the rippling effects through
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generations of saying yes to life, one more soul being open
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to life and how beautiful that witness is to other people to
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see a strong, thriving family. Yes, with its imperfections.
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You know, it's not like we never fight.
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We never have issues. We don't have our are wounds,
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but wanting and seeking love for each other.
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And I really believe that is the anecdote to basically all the
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confusion and chaos in our culture in the Western world,
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particularly today. What's the answer to the
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excesses of modern feminism? Family, you know, healthy
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family. What's the answer to the angst
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of red pill family? Healthy family, You know, what's
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the response to extreme leftism and Marxism?
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Family, Strong family, What's the response to, you know, maybe
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strains of fundamentalism that, you know, have two strict, A
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rigid views of what it means to women or man, like strong,
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healthy family where the mother and the father together are
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collaborating in a marriage of respect and love and sacrifice
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and loving and serving their kids like a family, family,
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family is the future. So anyways, I'm just delighted
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that I get to do family myself. And, you know, I do have the
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best husband. I talk about him sometimes on
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the show, I know. But I can only say good things
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about my husband because he really is a man of just
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consummate virtue and he's just someone who's using his talents
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every day to serve me. Our family, the community has,
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you know, the people he works with and it's a privilege I
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know. So really grateful, really
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excited. I got a question because we did
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AQ and A so I got hundreds of questions.
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Thank you all for submitting. There's a lot of them over
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Instagram, some over e-mail, some on Patreon.
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And so wanted to run through some of the Q&A, the questions,
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a few of them are about the pregnancy and asking how's it
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going? And yeah, pregnancy for me,
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typically the first trimester is rough.
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We have, this is now the, I guess the 4th pregnancy that
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I've been through first trimester or most of 1.
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And yeah, it's rough. There's a lot of nausea, there's
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a lot of fatigue. I know a lot of ladies listening
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probably relate to this. It gets much easier in the
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second trimester for me. Then I'm like, I can do
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anything. I can go anywhere, I can start
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working out again. When I do workout, I'll work
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out, but first trimester is usually really tough.
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My best advice for those in the first trimester, if you're
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listening or just tuck this away for the future, is to make sure
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to eat something in the morning before you get up, even
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crackers. Make sure you're staying really
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well hydrated and then lower expectations as you need to, to
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try to rest as much as you physically can.
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I do think that God allowing nausea is a message to us and
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the fatigue to just take it easy if you can.
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I know we have other kids or, you know, work we're doing or
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school or whatever it is, but try to, as best you can, take
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the time to nap, take the time to, you know, do your, you know,
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work if you can sitting down in a comfortable place or yeah,
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work from bed. If you're working from home, do
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what you need to do to rest as much as you physically can.
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That's helped me a lot this first trimester.
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Thankfully, we're pretty much done with the first trimester
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and that is going to be great to move into the wonderful
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footloose and fancy free second trimester.
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Then third trimester hits and you're like, when's this baby
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coming here? I am ready.
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I actually have a sister-in-law who listens to the podcast shout
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out, sis, I won't, I won't say your name and expose your
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privacy. But anyways, my amazing
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sister-in-law who is also pregnant actually have a couple
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sisters in laws who are pregnant, which is super
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exciting. But one of them and she jokes, I
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mean, she's in 3rd trimester and she jokes about how she's ready
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to have had this baby weeks ago. And yes, that's typically third
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trimester for me too. You just want to have the baby.
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So, but the whole whole of it is amazing because you are walking
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around, eating, drinking, sleeping, talking, doing the
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normal life and there's physically another human being
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inside of you. I mean, think about how insane
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pregnancy is. You have physically a whole
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unique individual human being with a beating heart and
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beautiful developing little body, a soul inside you and
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you're just out in the world. And so I still, it's telling me
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because I'm like driving in my car.
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I'm like, there's 2 two people in this car right now.
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If I even if I feel like I'm alone, there's another person in
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here. Yes.
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By the way, I think pregnant mothers should be able to drive
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in the carpal lane. OK, Other Q&A and questions I've
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received got a bunch of them, a lot of these about dating.
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A lot of these are about advice for people.
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Let's go to what to do if you're dating someone who is Christian
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but still pro-choice. OK, so the way that I see dating
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is Dating is a discernment and preparation process for
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selecting a future spouse. Yes, dating can be really fun.
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It can be really romantic. I think you should have fun when
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you're dating. I did when I dated.
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But it really has a purpose. And the purpose of dating is to
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ultimately discern for and select a spouse.
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So if you're dating someone and you discover that even though
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they say they're a Christian, they are in support of abortion,
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that's not someone that's going to be a good spouse in the
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future because you want to date someone and ultimately marry
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someone who shares your values. And the value of being against
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abortion, against killing a preborn child is pretty
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fundamental. You're not going to get much
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more fundamental than that, that you need to be aligned with
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someone about the value of human life and about the importance of
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protecting a baby in utero and, and valuing pregnancy and
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motherhood and fatherhood. So I would encourage you that if
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this really is where that person stands, this is not someone that
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you'd want to spend your life with and raise a family with
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when they are. I mean, it may be so confused
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that they would think it's OK to end the life of a preborn child.
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Now have a conversation with them, you know, maybe talk to
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them about why you're opposed to abortion.
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It's possible that they've never really considered the pro-life
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position. I know so many people who used
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to be pro-choice and who became pro-life simply because they
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never really considered it as a human life.
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They've been brainwashed. They didn't really know what
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abortion was. And so they just kind of went
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along with, yeah, I'm pro-choice.
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And then when they sat down and they actually understood this is
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a unique individual human life. Abortion kills this life.
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It's against the, it's violates the human rights of this new
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life that first let right is life.
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And if you're a Christian, God is very clear about the value of
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life. And it's very clear, especially
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with Jesus Christ coming into the world as an embryo in the
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womb of his mother Mary, it's very clear that God sees unborn
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life as precious and made in his image.
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So have the conversation. If this is someone who's not
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going to be persuaded, you know, they're just kind of like, no,
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I'm pro-choice. I'm, I'm strong in that
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OK, next question. I was an atheist, lost three of
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my loved ones in the past two years.
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Where do I start on my journey? So first of all, I am so sorry
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for the loss of your loved ones. Losing 1 loved one is
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devastating. Losing 3 in such a short period
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of time, I can only imagine how painful that's been for you.
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And so I'm so sorry for the loss of your loved ones.
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I think it's beautiful. You said I was an atheist.
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Where do I start on my journey? So it sounds like you're on a
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journey to discover God, to discover the truth, maybe to
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discover faith. And I think that's beautiful.
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I think there's two elements to consider here.
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There's your reason and then there is faith.
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The reason is how we use our mind, how we use our reason, our
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our intellect to think through does God exist?
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Who is God? Who am I as a human being?
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And I do think that there is proof for God in the universe.
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And using your reason to show that God is real.
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God is very real. He's not something that you just
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believe in. But I think you can actually
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using logic determine and looking at the universe and
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looking at the humanity determine that God is very real.
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And I would recommend looking at Aquinas's case for God.
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So type in Thomas Aquinas argument for God and he has some
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amazing kind of logical proofs for why God is real, why he
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exists. So yes, you can use your reason
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to come to recognize, I would say acknowledge that God is very
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real and that we can know things about this very real God from
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looking at the natural law, looking at nature, things like
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he is all powerful, He is creator and that he is good.
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He is truly good and created the world to be good.
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I think you can use your faith, though faith is more of a gift.
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Faith is more an experience that you're may be given by God that
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is not so tangible to be accessed, accessed through your
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mind through reason and to discover faith.
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I think the core way to do that is through asking for that gift.
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Faith is a gift that I think we're given.
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It's not something we can use our reason to climb into.
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And so asking for the gift of faith is really as simple as
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maybe sitting in your car right now, you feel you have little
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faith and say, God, help me believe God, if you're real,
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reveal yourself to me. God, give me faith.
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God, I want faith. God, show me, show me yourself.
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God will, I believe, reveal himself to you.
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And he does it differently for each person.
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Everybody is so individual because he loves us individually
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as sons and daughters. And he will speak to you in an
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individual way. And it may surprise you, but the
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first step is silence and opening of your heart and your
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reason, your mind to say, Lord, show me.
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So no matter where you're at, no matter where you're feeling,
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what you're feeling in your life about God, no matter the
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mistakes, the sins that you have that you've made, that you've
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done, at any point we can say to God, Lord, help me God, reveal
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yourself to me. Our relationship with God is
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just that. It's a relationship.
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It's dynamic, it's active and it requires us to open up our
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hearts to Him and to be real, to let Him know where we are AT and
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to ask Him for help. We need His help, We all need
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His help. We are mere mortals that are
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creatures created by Him that can die, that will die.
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We need Him. So we need to approach Him from
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that posture of vulnerability and need and be open to Him and
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it will amaze you. It has amazed me how He meets us
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and how He accompanies us and how He leads us when we are open
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to Him. Next question, When you were
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single, how did you keep the faith that there are great men
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out there? OK, there definitely were times
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when I was single. I didn't think that there
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weren't great men, but there are definitely times when I was
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single that I didn't know if I would meet the the man for me.
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And I wondered, would I ever get married?
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I will be real about that. And there were even times when I
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thought, am I supposed to get married?
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You know, maybe I'm supposed to be a celibate single.
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You know, I think that is a real legit part of the church.
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The Christian body is for women and for men to choose to be.
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Another term would be a consecrated single where you are
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living a celibate life. You're still in community with
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other people, but you're living a life of service, but you're
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not married. So I did consider all of that.
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But I, I always believed there were good men in the world.
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And I think I've been fortunate and blessed to know a lot of
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good men. You know, you hang out in like
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the pro-life world and there's so many good men who are doing
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good things. I have a good father.
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I have great brothers. So all of that has really, I
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think, given me hope for humanity.
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As a woman. I can understand this question
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if you're coming at it from a point where you just didn't, we
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weren't raised with good men in your life or maybe you just
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struggle to know them now. So I get it, It is hard and it's
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tough out there in the dating world.
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Like it is tough. It's hard to find people of
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shared values, of good character who you can connect with and
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want to even get married to. It's just hard.
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So I would just say keep the faith.
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Keep the faith. There are good men out there
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there. There's actually a lot of good
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men out there and there's a lot of good women out there.
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And yeah, it may take time and it can take time to meet someone
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that you are drawn to. They're drawn to you.
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You share values and future goals and you connect with and
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the faith that you share that and and you can be a match, a
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match made in heaven. That may take time, but don't
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give up the faith. Keep on becoming the best woman
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you can be. Keep on being willing to date,
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being willing to meet people and have a positive view.
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I think this is really important.
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Have a positive view of men in general, of masculinity in
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general, just as I hope you have a positive view of women in
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general and femininity in general.
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Yes, there's plenty of people that are making mistakes and
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giving men and women a bad name, and we've all made mistakes,
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right? But God created men and women to
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be gloriously good. And there are gloriously good,
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yes, with mistakes, flawed but gloriously good human beings out
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there and men out there. So have a positive, I would say
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very optimistic attitude about the future for yourself and
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about the men out there. And I believe if you're called
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especially, you will find that special man in your future and
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have an amazing future with him. Next question, a little along
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the same lines. I got a lot of these, so I
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wanted to include some more advice for girls in their 20s.
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My Gen. Z sisters.
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I am your millennial big sister, not that far away from you, but
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I'm far enough to know that you have special challenges.
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Like I hear that it's even harder to date as a Gen.
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Z, uh, than as a millennial. And yeah, we complained a lot as
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millennials, especially those that are still dating.
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We, there's still a lot of complaints.
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So listen, girls, in your 20s, you have beautiful, beautiful
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opportunities in front of you. I think the world is your
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oyster. You can do whatever you put your
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mind to. I believe that if we as young
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women put our minds to becoming the best women we can be,
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growing strong emotionally, physically, mentally, developing
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our skills, developing our maturity.
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If we are focused on our friendships and our family,
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healthy relationships, really developing service for other
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people. Like how can I love the people
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in my life? Receive love from them.
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Just fill your cup, fill yourself so that you are a woman
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of joy character. Have a great time doing hey, you
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know, like it shouldn't be you're in your early 20s like
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this is a beautiful time to explore, to grow, to meet
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people. You know, I know a lot of girls
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who got married in their early 20s.
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So if you feel called to marriage, like be open to love,
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this may be when you meet your future man, like to be open to
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that. Maybe you don't feel called to
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that and you're, you know, really focused on a cause or
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you're focused on other ways that you're serving.
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But the bottom line is make your life about love, like being
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loved and loving other people authentically.
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And I think the first person to love and to be loved by is God.
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Like shore up that relationship with God and then become the
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best you can be. Like you have so many
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opportunities, you have so much to give, you have so much to
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give and you are worth so much. So let yourself be poured into
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and pour into others. And I'm so excited for your
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future. When you hit your 30s like me,
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it's going to be rocking. I'm I'm so three 30s is my best
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decade, but it's because I think I went all in in my 20s and it
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created this great foundation for an even better decade in
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your 30s. And you know what?
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OK, another question for women. Why isn't being happily single
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as a Christian woman talked about anymore?
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This is a good question. This is a really good question.
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I've actually gotten this a lot of times, you know, in comments
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and messages from women, Christian women who are single,
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not just very young women, but like older women, women in their
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50s or 60s who are single. Maybe they wanted to get married
22:31
and they weren't able to. Maybe they never really felt the
22:34
call to get married. Maybe they, you know, had
22:37
different things in their life, different, maybe a tragedy or
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just different outcomes. But the point is, they're
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single. And I think sometimes the modern
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church, you know, I see this particularly in the evangelical
22:48
world, not to diss it because there's an amazing evangelical
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world, and but it's among some Catholics too.
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But this sort of sense of if I'm not married, if I don't have
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kids, then somehow I'm not, I'm not doing it.
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I'm not doing the Christian thing.
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That is so not true. Yes, I would say most people are
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called to marriage and to have children if they can't.
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I think that is largely speaking true.
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But many people, many people are going to be called to a
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singleness to be celibate, single.
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So celibate means you're obviously not having sex.
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So sex is for marriage. But you're living in right
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relationship. You know, you're living in
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community made with other women, your family, friends, but you
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are still living out your complete womanhood as a single
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woman in service of other people.
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Maybe you're not mothering biologically, but you're
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mothering spiritually. You're being a sister to other
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people and you are necessary. Your love, the gifts you have to
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offer the human being that you are is necessary to the body of
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Christ. And this is scriptural.
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This is in the tradition of our Christian faith, that there have
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been women from the beginning of the faith, from the time of
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Christ, who have chosen the single life, the single
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vocation, in order to serve God's people and to serve others
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in a unique way that maybe a mother and a wife cannot do.
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Now, that's not to say mothers and wife don't serve in an
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incredibly important way, but it is to say that being a celibate
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single can be an incredibly special important calling in the
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church. And in the history of the
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church, before the Protestant Reformation particularly, all
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Christians saw this as an actual vocation where you could be a
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religious, you could be a nun or sister, or you could just be a
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consecrated single woman who was out in the world working, living
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life, serving the church. And that was a legit vocation, a
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way of life for many, many women.
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Historically. We lost a little bit about a
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little bit of this after the Protestant Reformation because
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there is a big push from the reformers to say no women should
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marry and have children. That is their place in life.
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But the reality is there has always been in the Church a
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role, an important one for single women.
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This still exists in Catholicism and the Orthodox faiths today.
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And I think in even the evangelical Protestant world, I
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think it's realizing, hey, this should exist.
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That's why, by the way, I hope the Church will become all one,
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all under one authority so that we can all use the same
25:14
language, have the same prayer for this.
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But the reality is you're a single woman or a single man,
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you have a particularly important role to play.
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And I do think we've discovered that, I would say like
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ontologically, so philosophically speaking, by
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looking at the tradition of the church and the actual roles that
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the church has designed in consecrated single life, you
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know, in the religious life for single men and women.
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Now you might be listening and you're like a single woman.
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You're like, well, I don't want to be consecrated because I
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don't want to pledge my life to celibacy the rest of my life
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because I want to be open to marriage, Right?
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Well, you still have a vital role to play.
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You're a daughter of God. You're a sister.
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And you are, you know, working and loving and living.
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You're in community. Own it.
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Thank you for being you. And maybe at some point you'll
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feel called or you'll meet someone to marry.
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But you are fully alive now. You are fully a woman now.
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And you are fully necessary, needed now.
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So live your life and thank you for being a light in the world.
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OK, we're going to do a couple more questions here.
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What would your advice for single mums on finding love and
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finding success be? OK, so advice for single moms on
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finding love and finding success.
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First of all, I want to affirm that your role as a mother is
26:35
incredibly important. I know you know this listening
26:38
and you value that so much. You have been faithful in your
26:41
motherhood, raising your baby. Your babies keep doing that.
26:45
They come first. I'm not saying that single moms
26:48
shouldn't date and be open to meeting, you know, a man, the
26:51
future who could be a father and adoptive father to their kids.
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I think that's beautiful. But your priority is your kids.
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And so when you approach is dating, right, you're going to
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have standards that are really important and your boundaries
27:03
are going to be really important because you want to protect your
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most important thing to protect your kids.
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And so you want to date men that have your values, that have
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honor and integrity, that have character.
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And if you see any orange flags, and if you see a red flag, like
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deeply consider that orange flag and like evaluate that.
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You know, is this someone who's respectful?
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Is this someone who treats me with sexual integrity right?
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Is this someone who has a good track record?
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Is this someone who has good relationships and who has good
27:32
integrity and is, you know, a good worker in his work and, you
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know, he has these character traits that are important.
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If he has any red flags, do not let him into your life.
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Like, you're protecting your kids.
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You're not just protecting yourself.
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And I think some single moms, they can struggle because
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they're really, you know, trying to do so much to care for their
27:51
kids and their life and but have a high standard for yourself and
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for your kids. I think that's really important.
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There are great men out there. I know many single moms who have
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young kids who married wonderful men.
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So there are great men out there.
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Don't let yourself feel looked down on because you are a mom
28:09
with kids. That's a beautiful thing that
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you've said yes to life and you have your your little ones.
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But be choosy and dating. Put your kids first.
28:17
Focus on your family. And, you know, be open to love,
28:20
but do that with boundaries and do that with standards.
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And here's a question from one of our patrons.
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He says, would you consider leading a workshop designed to
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teach people how to advocate for pro-life, where to advocate,
28:30
what to expect, how to best answer questions?
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Yes, I would consider that. Thank you, James.
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And actually we have considered that and we've done it at Live
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Action, so you can check that out through pro-life Replies to
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pro-choice Questions. It's actually a whole series.
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I'm the host in many of the videos talking about tough
28:46
pro-choice questions and how you can give a pro-life reply.
28:49
We also have an ambassador's training.
28:51
If you sign up for our Ambassadors program that's
28:53
virtual, that tells you how you can respond to pro-choice
28:57
questions and give a good and winning pro pro-life argument.
29:01
We also have a lot of live Action News articles and other
29:03
videos that just generally talk about how to represent the
29:06
pro-life position. That being said, we will be
29:08
having conferences in the future at Live Action and we've had
29:11
them in the past. So keep an eye out at
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liveaction.org because we'd love to have you at a future one.
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All right, last question here. Would you consider running for
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government? OK, so the reality is, yes, I
29:24
would. I would consider running for
29:26
public office someday if if I felt that God was calling me to
29:31
it. I don't naturally have an
29:33
affinity for politics, perfectly honest.
29:35
I actually really struggle being involved in politics because I
29:40
find it very frustrating. I think that the political world
29:44
is so full of compromise, lack of authenticity, yes, you know,
29:49
disingenuity, yes, there's a lot of corruption, there's a lot of
29:53
fake stuff happening. There's a lot of bad stuff
29:55
happening. It's just, it can be a dirty
29:57
world. I don't think we can compromise
30:00
with the lives of human beings. So, you know, we're fighting for
30:02
life. I want to stop abortions and I
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it drives me crazy when politicians constantly
30:07
compromise, especially when they don't even need to and they're
30:09
always just running, running from standing strong because
30:13
they're afraid of what people will think of them, what the
30:16
media will say about them. So I think I would be a very odd
30:18
candidate, to be honest. I think I'd be out there and I
30:21
would just, you know, be so be so firm in what I believed and
30:26
refused to budget that maybe that would turn off a lot of
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voters. I don't know.
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You can't compromise on things in politics, by the way.
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But there are some things that are non negotiables.
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And unfortunately, I think a lot of people in politics treat the
30:37
non negotiables like negotiables.
30:39
And of course, the first non negotiable, in my opinion, is
30:41
the right to human life. You can't kill people,
30:45
especially little babies. So I think, yeah, I'd, I'd
30:48
consider running for office, but my platform would be very much,
30:52
you know, you can't kill babies, be pro-life and let's make
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America the most welcoming place to have a family.
30:59
And yes, they'll be compromises and negotiations.
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How to do that? But ultimately it would have to
31:04
be a calling, a calling that I felt was from God.
31:07
And right now, I've got a lot of my plate between our third baby
31:10
coming and, you know, live action, this podcast, GTB, most
31:15
importantly, my family. There's a lot so that can wait
31:18
for a future date. All right, guys, thank you so
31:21
much for listening to this episode of the Lila Rose Podcast
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Mailbag edition. We'll be doing another one of
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these in the future. Love getting your questions.
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