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Dr. Willie & Dee Jolley talk Sex, Headaches and Other Lies, C.E.O. & C.O.O. of Willie Jolley Worldwide · The Steve Harvey Morning Show

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  Speaker 1: industry decision makers. My guest dog Dr Willie Jolly and
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  Speaker 1: D Taylor Jolly. They are the authors of the Make Love,
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  Speaker 1: bestselling author, Dr Willie Jolly and the c O O
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  Speaker 1: Willie Jolly Worldwide D Taylor Jolly, how y'all doing very well,
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  Speaker 1: LEAs the greatful and glad to have you as my
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  Speaker 1: friend for all these years, and we are honored to
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  Speaker 1: be able to be on with you and honored to
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  Speaker 1: be able to share some ideas with your audience. Hopefully
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  Speaker 1: will empower, inspire and bless their relationships in their marriage. Well,
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  Speaker 1: first of all, I got I gotta go to D first,
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  Speaker 1: you know, because I read the book. You know, because
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  Speaker 1: I knew D had swag when she had a two
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  Speaker 1: E E Z dot DOTR to a Z. I said, okay, okay, now, okay, now,
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  Speaker 1: because that was the car I have, Willie, Dr to
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  Speaker 1: a D C. You had to have a little money
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  Speaker 1: in your bake. You have to have a little flat
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  Speaker 1: board girl. You hey, Willie, you couldn't tell her nothing
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  Speaker 1: when she had adopted two easy, could you? You're right right,
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  Speaker 1: and you drove it into the ground. You know that's true.
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  Speaker 1: Car when I got married to him, a lot of
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  Speaker 1: driving it and I just drove it into the absolutely,
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  Speaker 1: yeah right when you looking go class and style and
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  Speaker 1: too easy? What color was it? Deep? What color was it?
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  Speaker 1: It was percent it special, special honor, special honor for
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  Speaker 1: you know, I took a lot of fun. That's why
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  Speaker 1: I wanted to start off with the with and talking
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  Speaker 1: about some of the things that I felt more engaging
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  Speaker 1: about your book or personal about the book, because when
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  Speaker 1: you write a book like that, it has to be
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  Speaker 1: honest and and as and and sometimes telling your story
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  Speaker 1: it takes moments because you know, as you keep writing
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  Speaker 1: the book, you start, oh let me, let me add this,
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  Speaker 1: so you start remembering a part of a story that
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  Speaker 1: you actually forgot that becomes important part of the book.
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  Speaker 1: And sitting down as a couple because I love what
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  Speaker 1: it says? What will it say? Is what he says?
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  Speaker 1: So each one of you as a couple saw things differently,
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  Speaker 1: but worked as a unit to succeed. Correct. Yes, absolutely
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  Speaker 1: you're right, and once she was one of the challenges.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I've read the number of books, many of
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  Speaker 1: them uh, global bestsellers. It only takes the many change
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  Speaker 1: of life, a setback as a setup for comeback, trying
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  Speaker 1: setbacks and the greenbacks and attitude of excellence Chicken su
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  Speaker 1: for the Christian soul. Writing one with my wife was
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  Speaker 1: really difficult because she typically has been my editor of
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  Speaker 1: all my books, and so when we went to write
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  Speaker 1: this one, it was challenging because I have my own
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  Speaker 1: voice and I had never that I had my own
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  Speaker 1: voice and that I was not simply editing what he said.
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  Speaker 1: So we we struggled for a little while. So we
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  Speaker 1: figured out our speed and how it's work, and then
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  Speaker 1: we would look at the ten principles that we had
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  Speaker 1: developed over these thirty six years or at that point
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  Speaker 1: it was about thirty thirty two years, thirty three years
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  Speaker 1: when we wrote the book also and uh, then once
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  Speaker 1: we got the principles lined up and said, okay, I
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  Speaker 1: will write my part or my take, ora she write
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  Speaker 1: her take, and that's when it really found magic, not
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  Speaker 1: one other thing. When we wrote the book. We've been
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  Speaker 1: married for thirty six years, haven't had an argument, and
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  Speaker 1: over thirty three years, now, these first couple of years
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  Speaker 1: with like World War three, I learned some principles that
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  Speaker 1: helped us stop arguing and get to loving each other.
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  Speaker 1: And I thought we were staring at you. She's staring
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  Speaker 1: at you, Willie. She's staring at you while you talking. Now,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if all that's working in the direction
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  Speaker 1: you know the book is, Willie says, and D says.
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  Speaker 1: I think that was a D says stands she was
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  Speaker 1: giving she she want to say about it. We got
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  Speaker 1: the principle, but we had to then embrace them. Go
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  Speaker 1: ahead there, I'm going forward school teacher too, so the
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  Speaker 1: nonverbal communication, but embracing versus actually implementing in two different things. Right,
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  Speaker 1: So we have mentors, we had information, but we had
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  Speaker 1: to decide that we wanted to do this and that
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  Speaker 1: we wanted to work through it together. I would say
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  Speaker 1: that the most difficult part of the development of our
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  Speaker 1: relationship is actually how we communicate. Because Willie speaks for
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  Speaker 1: a living and he writes books in the life, so
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  Speaker 1: sometimes it can be overpowering until you pulled back and say,
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  Speaker 1: let's wait a minute, now, here's what I have to say,
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  Speaker 1: and this is how I need you to communicate with me,
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  Speaker 1: and that came to a head over the Chinese food. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: the biggest, the biggest challenge to our marriage came one
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  Speaker 1: night in a Chinese restaurant where we carry carry out
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  Speaker 1: when we almost broke up. And it's one of the
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  Speaker 1: biggest points in our marriage. And we talked about the
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  Speaker 1: three boulders that break up marriage, sex, money and communication
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  Speaker 1: and communication is the three that we've threw all of
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  Speaker 1: those and we almost came to to end of our
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  Speaker 1: marriage over Chinese food. It was basically happened was her
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  Speaker 1: family was coming to visit. I wanted to impress my
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  Speaker 1: brother exactly to d C. I'm a nice little southern
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  Speaker 1: girl from Hampton, Virginia. My father's was a pastor and
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  Speaker 1: the life and I wanted to simply impress my brother
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  Speaker 1: and his wife that we were doing okay and we
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  Speaker 1: were doing well. And he said he, I said, what
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  Speaker 1: do y'all want for them? He said, how about Chinese?
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  Speaker 1: Y'all got good Chinese restaurants And they don't have a
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  Speaker 1: lot of Chinese restaurants in the city where she's from
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  Speaker 1: and a southern city. I said, got you I'm a
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  Speaker 1: Chinese food of ficiatto. I'm an expert, right all the spots. Now,
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  Speaker 1: she said, you like sushi. She had be educating the
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  Speaker 1: sushi with you. Okay, so I know you got it,
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  Speaker 1: you read it. Yeah. I also know that you're introverted
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  Speaker 1: as well, so you keep going, keep going. So we
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  Speaker 1: got to the restaurant. I told her here's what we need.
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  Speaker 1: She said, no, we need more. I said, no, this
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  Speaker 1: is all we need. No, we need more, and I
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  Speaker 1: he was cheap. Okay, I'm known for metrate. You like
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  Speaker 1: a dollar hollow right right right, right, right right right,
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  Speaker 1: I said, here before we need and I got loud.
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  Speaker 1: I got loud. Don't except the will behavior for him
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  Speaker 1: to get loud with me, And so it got loud
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  Speaker 1: and more intense, and finally it got I was fever pitch.
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  Speaker 1: I was hollering, and she said, I will leave you married. Folks.
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  Speaker 1: Here's a word I want you to learn. Dial it
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  Speaker 1: back back, little phrase, dial it back, I said, dollar
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  Speaker 1: back down the value. He ordered everything that I thought
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  Speaker 1: We should have, went home, had dinner the end of
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  Speaker 1: the night, after everybody eating, we had left overs. How
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  Speaker 1: much a lot, a lot he doesn't like having Chinese
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  Speaker 1: leftovers because he says they're not good the next step.
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  Speaker 1: But he was right, it's too much. And so when
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  Speaker 1: they left, we said, let's talk. You said he had
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  Speaker 1: to have a conversation, which was a very wise thing.
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  Speaker 1: On his birthday. I said, we need to talk about this.
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  Speaker 1: You said, very clearly, I don't like anybody. I'm a
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  Speaker 1: daddy's girl. My daddy Fire Bramstone Minister never raised his
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  Speaker 1: voice to me. Always sweet, loving kind, my brother, and
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  Speaker 1: I always you. And you went this big time talker,
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  Speaker 1: this big time talker over here, he talks to thousands.
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  Speaker 1: That's that's Willie here, a big time talker, right you
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  Speaker 1: you you pe k, big time talker. Pe k at
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  Speaker 1: the restaurant, he became a big time talker. MS introverts
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  Speaker 1: stepped up a game. There you go, I said, And
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  Speaker 1: she said, I don't like people holing at me. And
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  Speaker 1: I said, got it. And now that I got yours,
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  Speaker 1: let me tell you mine. I don't like people threatening
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  Speaker 1: to leave me, and don't don't threaten me. And so
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  Speaker 1: we made a we made an agreement. I said, I'm
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  Speaker 1: never hauler at you again, and she said, I'll never
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  Speaker 1: threaten to leave you. And that's been over thirty three years.
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  Speaker 1: We haven't had an argument. Sense. We don't always agree,
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  Speaker 1: but we've learned how to have systems that will help
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  Speaker 1: us to disagree without being disagreeable. And that's a chapter
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  Speaker 1: in the book that you disagree without being disagreeable. There
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  Speaker 1: really there really isn't also isn't it also being disrespectful
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  Speaker 1: to in that part right there? You know? Which I
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  Speaker 1: which I like about the book is that you know
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  Speaker 1: it's all about communication when you said it earlier, Willie,
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  Speaker 1: because that were the communication and money, communication and big
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  Speaker 1: communication with your kids, communication when you work all that,
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  Speaker 1: if you don't communicate, and that was my biggest takeaway
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  Speaker 1: from this whole book was that you guys have mastered
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  Speaker 1: the art of communication. And that's what you're telling everybody.
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  Speaker 1: If you don't communicate, you can be two different people.
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  Speaker 1: And I love when you talk about you know, he
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  Speaker 1: liked this type of food. I wasn't a sushi love.
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  Speaker 1: I had to be brought home to that side of
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  Speaker 1: the table. And then when you got to the whole
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  Speaker 1: part about his daughter Sherry, that's the point where I
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  Speaker 1: had the most fun in the book because d I
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  Speaker 1: didn't know you but it is so vivid, it is
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  Speaker 1: so colorful. You driving at five hours to pick up
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  Speaker 1: his daughter, and you wouldn't one hundred be sent in
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  Speaker 1: the club of going back inether like you said the
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  Speaker 1: X white made her bad, as you said, sleep in it.
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  Speaker 1: You know, blending familises can be very challenging, and and
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  Speaker 1: and marriages where you're blending up families. She had been
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  Speaker 1: back before I had a child, before I got married,
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  Speaker 1: and we had to blend all of this and it
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  Speaker 1: was very challenging. But again it was the communication. It
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  Speaker 1: was the wise counsel of my mom, a mentor. When
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  Speaker 1: I called her and said, what will he was going
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  Speaker 1: to do? He was going to go pick up sherry,
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  Speaker 1: like the house is calm, everybody gets along. Well, why
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  Speaker 1: are you doing this? And my mother said to Nick,
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  Speaker 1: I think what you said? She said, this is your
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  Speaker 1: mama said, you want to be married to a man
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  Speaker 1: that wants to be responsible to the children that he
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  Speaker 1: brought into this world. That's what your mama took. Why
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  Speaker 1: would you want a man like that? Why would you
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  Speaker 1: respect a man like that? Why you wouldn't love a
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  Speaker 1: man like that? That's what your mama said in this
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  Speaker 1: book that I read, yes, you read that. That was
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  Speaker 1: her mama. And let me tell you something. It was
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  Speaker 1: the key because her mother made the difference, and so
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  Speaker 1: you know that communication. Look, the communication chapter is probably
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  Speaker 1: the biggest chapter book and we give that away free
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  Speaker 1: and everybody want to give to all your listeners of
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  Speaker 1: chapter from that book and will bless you. And if
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  Speaker 1: two copies going for each of you. We've had so
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  Speaker 1: many couples who are their way to divorce court who's saying,
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  Speaker 1: we're gonna try one more time. They've got two copies
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  Speaker 1: and at the end of each chapter they would talk
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  Speaker 1: about what they learned. And we've had so many calls afterwards,
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  Speaker 1: and one particular call and said, we've been married fifteen
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  Speaker 1: years and we're not only not divorcing, but when we
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  Speaker 1: got to the end, we closed the book and we
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  Speaker 1: cried together because we realized we really didn't know much
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  Speaker 1: about each other. So we want to give that away
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  Speaker 1: jollick marriage dot com. If ever, we're talking about sex,
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  Speaker 1: Chapter eight, Chapter eight, Chapter eight chapter eight. Now I
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  Speaker 1: know about that chapter. Now chapter the hot chapter. I
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  Speaker 1: think because it's titled Sex, Headaches and Other Lives, he
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  Speaker 1: gets a lot of attention. But sex is not just intercourse,
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  Speaker 1: absolutely the intimacy which women need more so than them man.
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  Speaker 1: And it takes us along the road ending up with
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  Speaker 1: sex intercourse. Right. But women need the words, they need
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  Speaker 1: the roses, they need the tenderness rose, they need the
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  Speaker 1: sweet talk. Look at him, look at him too much?
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  Speaker 1: You too much? But you know it makes me want
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  Speaker 1: to be close to him. You know the thing about it.
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  Speaker 1: Times we forget then all of the confusion and chaos,
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  Speaker 1: including the pandemic, we forget kind words, something tender, It
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  Speaker 1: actually draws the woman in and helps develop romance. Right.
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  Speaker 1: And I tell brothers, brothers, if you want some action
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  Speaker 1: at night, you need to start working on it in
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  Speaker 1: the morning. Thank you very much, working in the morning.
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  Speaker 1: In the morning, I take our smoothie in the running
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  Speaker 1: a cup offee. But she's at her desk. I sent
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  Speaker 1: her a little text from my offer to her. Look
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  Speaker 1: across the hall from each other. Sure look good today
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  Speaker 1: things make a big difference and and it will work
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  Speaker 1: not just coming at the last minute at night, gone
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  Speaker 1: you're ready. You read that don't work. That don't work
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  Speaker 1: in this world. You gotta be more thoughtful and caring
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  Speaker 1: love life. You'm stopping. I'm trying to interview you, y'all.
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  Speaker 1: E R dot ai. Okay, now, now let's talk about communication,
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  Speaker 1: because I want to go back a little bit to
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  Speaker 1: the sharing situation, because that was important because it was
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  Speaker 1: about communication, because it was one person accepting another young
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  Speaker 1: lady who was hostile because you didn't know, you know
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  Speaker 1: them through our hands up after she drunk, because I
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  Speaker 1: was I always remember it was a very similar situation
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  Speaker 1: with my my older sister. I we moved her daughter
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  Speaker 1: in and we set rules, and then six months later
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  Speaker 1: she made the phone call. They treat me like I'm
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  Speaker 1: in prison. They they they won't let me go out.
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  Speaker 1: They won't and then of course, hey, the sister came
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  Speaker 1: got her. And I always regret that I didn't put
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  Speaker 1: up a bigger fight because I felt that she would
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  Speaker 1: have lived a different life if she would have been
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  Speaker 1: with us. And then but you had to change. That's
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  Speaker 1: the adjustment in communication. You know, we could joke around
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  Speaker 1: about the love, but this is the communication and accepting
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  Speaker 1: situations that you may not be comfortable with. And that's
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  Speaker 1: really what I took away when I read about the
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  Speaker 1: situation with Sherry, do you were not comfortable and also
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  Speaker 1: whether you were not comfortable because you had to mediate
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  Speaker 1: two people you love, but also had to have discipline,
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  Speaker 1: and then indeed you had to admit you had to
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  Speaker 1: set some of the rulings that he put in place
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  Speaker 1: to make this thing work. So there was acceptance, there
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  Speaker 1: was a human communication, and also accepting the ability to
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  Speaker 1: feel uncomfortable for the bigger goal. That was the most
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  Speaker 1: amazing part of the book for me because I took
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  Speaker 1: away so many different levels. That's great insight. And I
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  Speaker 1: think that you have to be willing to accept your
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  Speaker 1: own limitations and really who you are. Because if I
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  Speaker 1: had not been willing to say, I'm like, I'm doing
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  Speaker 1: this because I believe in in willing i married him.
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  Speaker 1: I don't agree. We talked about that because he's my
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  Speaker 1: best friend. The whole idea I gotta do all I
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  Speaker 1: can to save my daughter. I had to be on board,
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  Speaker 1: which meant I had to do the right thing, whether
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  Speaker 1: I felt it or not, And that I think is
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  Speaker 1: so major. We get many of us blended families. We
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  Speaker 1: get caught up in the emotions and so we get
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  Speaker 1: carried away to the wrong things. We know the right
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  Speaker 1: things to do. We must do the right things, and
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  Speaker 1: then gradually the emotions come in and the situation changes
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  Speaker 1: hopefully right. And we talked about better in this chapter
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  Speaker 1: called how to Handle a Stalemate. And it is a
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  Speaker 1: great object lesson on when you have two people who
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  Speaker 1: have opposite um. And that's something that we decided on
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  Speaker 1: before we got married. Really had already talked about that
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  Speaker 1: in terms of this is not really it's fifty one.
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  Speaker 1: That might not be a popular position today, but one
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  Speaker 1: you can't have a two headed You could have a
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  Speaker 1: two headed my, but then you've got a monster. So
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  Speaker 1: how do we work through this? We worked through it
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  Speaker 1: by deciding early on I said to her, look, you
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  Speaker 1: run everything, run the house, run the business. All I
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  Speaker 1: want you to do is to make me think I'm
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  Speaker 1: in charge. I thought that was such a wise statement
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  Speaker 1: of this young man. So I said, make me. Let
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  Speaker 1: me think I'm in charge. And I said, but what
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  Speaker 1: I will ask for is Vito power. And when we
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  Speaker 1: are at at at a place where we both are stalemate,
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  Speaker 1: and all I ask you is give me Vito power.
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  Speaker 1: And I promise you, I promise you I will never
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  Speaker 1: abuse it. And in thirty six years of marriage, I've
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  Speaker 1: used it maybe two or three times. Always related to
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  Speaker 1: the children, Always related to the children, Always related to
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  Speaker 1: the children, everything else we got. And I learned this
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  Speaker 1: from my my, my mom and dad uh Ra Sean.
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  Speaker 1: When my dad would be driving down the road, my
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  Speaker 1: mom would be in a passenger seat. And you remember
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  Speaker 1: back in old days, they didn't have lose the head
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  Speaker 1: and left and you had that one rear view mirror.
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  Speaker 1: You didn't have one on that side. And and we're
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  Speaker 1: riding down the street and he said, can I get over?
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  Speaker 1: And my mom will wrote that window down and stick
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  Speaker 1: her head out to win. And she said either yes
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  Speaker 1: or no. And he would take his action dependent on
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  Speaker 1: what she told because they were teammates and they made
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  Speaker 1: decisions together. So I took that object lesson when we
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  Speaker 1: got married. Said, look, you're my teammate. Nine times out
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  Speaker 1: of ten when you say we can get over, can,
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna listen to you because you're always in it
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  Speaker 1: for our best good. But that one time we have
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  Speaker 1: a difference, and I know morally it's this was a
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  Speaker 1: moral decision, not emotional decision. With my daughter who was
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  Speaker 1: acting up and her mama called and said you gotta
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  Speaker 1: come get her, and D said, no, I don't want
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  Speaker 1: to do it. This was a critical moral decision. I said,
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  Speaker 1: we gotta do it. It's the right thing. I know
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  Speaker 1: it's hard, but we gotta do it. And this is
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  Speaker 1: one of those times I gotta use veto power. And
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: she said it okay. Once here's a big thing, with
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: show big thing. Once we said yes, she was all in.
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  Speaker 1: But that is with anything where once you make the
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  Speaker 1: decision okay, I want to go right, I want to
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: go left, I want to you want to be Once
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  Speaker 1: you come to an agreement, you both have to be
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  Speaker 1: all in. So even if it didn't turn out right,
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: I had to make sure that I had done everything
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  Speaker 1: in my power that I could do to make it
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  Speaker 1: a success, so that he could never say, well, you know, D,
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  Speaker 1: you didn't do No, this is a joint effort and
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: we rise or fall together. And if it had gone
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  Speaker 1: south and it hadn't worked out, it didn't work out,
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: work out fine. But if it had gone south, I
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: also knew she would never say to me, I told
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  Speaker 1: you so, but that that you know, I already wouldn't
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  Speaker 1: know the fact he wants to be told I messed up,
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  Speaker 1: and you told me before and now you're gonna remind
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  Speaker 1: me against the airport's story. Oh, we have so many
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  Speaker 1: stories that it's the flight, right, but the flight and
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  Speaker 1: that was my fault. I was, I knew it all,
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  Speaker 1: I had it. I'm I'm, I'm a traveling hour. And
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  Speaker 1: I said, we'll get that fine enough time. We don't
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  Speaker 1: need to leave early. She keeps saying we need to leave.
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  Speaker 1: I got it, And we get caught in traffic. We
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  Speaker 1: missed the flight, and we're standing there and he's using
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  Speaker 1: all his persuasive powers to get out of the flight.
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  Speaker 1: Doors are closed, getting ready to pull back from the gate. Right,
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  Speaker 1: I say, not not a word. And we eventually got
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  Speaker 1: a connecting flight to get us to the place where
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: I had to speak the next morning. But at midnight
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: we got in where we could have been in at
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  Speaker 1: six six pm. I but you know that she's a reminder.
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  Speaker 1: Though she's a reminder, though you know what I'm saying,
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  Speaker 1: what I'm not saying anything. I was already thinking I
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  Speaker 1: would beat myself out, but I love to learn from that.
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  Speaker 1: She had my back even when I messed up. I
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  Speaker 1: wouldn't want to ask you this. I want to say
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  Speaker 1: it to two spouses that you can have each other's
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  Speaker 1: back even when you mess up, because they know they
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  Speaker 1: messed up. I want to ask you this question because
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: you know, because it's the part, and because my wife
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  Speaker 1: will go to church. I'm not the church corps. And
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: one of the one of the you know, recommendations of
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  Speaker 1: the ten points is make God an equal part of
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  Speaker 1: your marriage. I'm not saying it was not an equal part.
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  Speaker 1: And I want, I want help with this, and I
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  Speaker 1: wanted to help the my viewers and my listeners when
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  Speaker 1: you talk about God, because you talk about certain points
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: that you prayed and your decisions were brought through prayer,
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  Speaker 1: and I want help us through that whole process when
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  Speaker 1: you say anything like that, this is this is a principle.
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  Speaker 1: Now look what we talked about in this book of
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  Speaker 1: ten principles. Now we wrote our ten principles. But then
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: after I thought the book was finished, we went an
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  Speaker 1: interview people who made from marriage forty fifty seventy years
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  Speaker 1: and one of the things they all said was make
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  Speaker 1: God an equal party of marriage. They said that the
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  Speaker 1: marriage is like a triangle has three corners. This is me,
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  Speaker 1: this is the and this is God up the top.
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  Speaker 1: Now this is thirty three This is thirty three percent,
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  Speaker 1: but that's only what's left is thirty four percent. And
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: that's God. And so he has the majority ownership of
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  Speaker 1: the marriage. And so he gives us these principles that work.
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  Speaker 1: If we were use them now, so we practice the
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  Speaker 1: concepts that come from from the Bible. Then the principles
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  Speaker 1: are marriage. Now here, the principal principles work their bed rock.
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  Speaker 1: They work over and over again, and I throw this
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  Speaker 1: rock up, throw this rock up every time. It's gonna
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: come down every time, not doing a hundred times, a
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  Speaker 1: million times, ten million times, because of a principle called gravity.
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  Speaker 1: These principles work, They work overtime, over time and over
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  Speaker 1: time because they are bed rock. Principles take romance, romances Solomon,
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  Speaker 1: that's right, the Song of Solomon. So there's lots of principles.
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  Speaker 1: And the Bible says the bed should not be undefiled.
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  Speaker 1: That that you got a brother, gotta get hooked up.
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  Speaker 1: That's what it means. That's really right. Understanding the difference
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  Speaker 1: between sex and then less intimacy. Okay, women need intimacy
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  Speaker 1: and security. Men needs sex and respect, and they are
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  Speaker 1: principles that are gonna be all the time. Because even
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: the scientific study show that men think about sex seventeen
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  Speaker 1: times a day on average, and sometimes before breakfast. So
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  Speaker 1: we know that that is the case. So what we
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  Speaker 1: say to married couples is understand that these principles are bedrock.
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  Speaker 1: They work in the words, in the words, so we
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  Speaker 1: trust God through our marriage and we run it through
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  Speaker 1: that prison, everything through that thirty say about this raising kids,
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  Speaker 1: how to be sweet to each other? Yeah, and I
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  Speaker 1: stay out to be those words how to be sweet
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  Speaker 1: to each other. But the tenderness, the the what sucking
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  Speaker 1: from the breast and all that romantic stuff like that
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: that I love you. I want to thank y'all, man,
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