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Old School Relationships, NYE Resolution, Suspect Cheating, L'EVATE BY STEVE HARVEY and more. · The Steve Harvey Morning Show

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  Speaker 1: God has been good to me. Man, I can't really
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  Speaker 1: in perspective. You really can't count all that God has
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  Speaker 1: done for you if you look at every little thing.
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  Speaker 1: It's unbelievable the things He's done for us. How many
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  Speaker 1: times you know, we got through something without even talking
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  Speaker 1: to him about it. He just he just blessed us
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  Speaker 1: with it. How many you know? It's just it's so
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  Speaker 1: much that the fact that you wake up in the morning,
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  Speaker 1: the fact that you still have a place to stay,
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  Speaker 1: the fact that you know may be struggling out here,
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  Speaker 1: but guess what, You're still going to work you. You know,
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  Speaker 1: you live in check the check, but but you're making
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  Speaker 1: it all. You got all the plates spinning. You know,
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  Speaker 1: it's hard. You got a lot of plate spinning, but
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  Speaker 1: you keep him up there somewhere. Every now, I near
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  Speaker 1: one break, but he put two more back up there
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  Speaker 1: to look a little bit better. And you got to
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  Speaker 1: get to spending them so it all works. And then
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  Speaker 1: you got a lot of people who just can't seem
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  Speaker 1: to mentally put it together as to you know, why
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  Speaker 1: their life isn't in a position that they wanted to be.
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  Speaker 1: We talked about this oftentimes, but I want to try
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  Speaker 1: another angle with you today. You know, maybe it's you.
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  Speaker 1: Have you ever thought about that? Maybe it's you. Maybe
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  Speaker 1: it's no external force that's at fault, like you keep
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  Speaker 1: making the excuse to be You know, so many people
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  Speaker 1: I hear, well, if this hadn't have done this, if
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  Speaker 1: he hadn't have done that, if she hadn't have done that,
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  Speaker 1: I would have been further along. I wasted all my time,
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  Speaker 1: my years with this man, and he did this, and
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  Speaker 1: I could have been here, and I could have been there,
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  Speaker 1: and this woman she did this to meet them. She
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  Speaker 1: hadn't have done that. I could have been here, and
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  Speaker 1: I could have been there. Maybe it's you. Maybe it's
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  Speaker 1: not really that external force that you keep making it
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  Speaker 1: out to be. See, I've done this to myself before.
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  Speaker 1: Once again, I'm talking to you about something I know about.
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  Speaker 1: I've done this to myself before. I've had the reason
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't where I wanted to be. I had it
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  Speaker 1: figured out as some external force. I had worked it
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  Speaker 1: out in my mind. Clearly it wasn't me, because if
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  Speaker 1: so and so, or if this hadn't happened, and if
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  Speaker 1: they hadn't have done this, I would have been further
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  Speaker 1: along up the road. That's what I was saying. But
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  Speaker 1: woldo hold on it or learned a valuable lesson? Man, See,
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  Speaker 1: if you don't ever let it go, it's gonna be
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  Speaker 1: hard for you to go. If you don't ever let
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  Speaker 1: it go, it's gonna be hard for you to go.
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  Speaker 1: I was listening to Bishop td Jake's one day, and
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  Speaker 1: I heard him say, you can't drive your car if
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  Speaker 1: you're gonna keep looking in the rearview mirror. You go
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  Speaker 1: outside and try that. Try to drive your car, but
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  Speaker 1: keep your eye in the rearview mirror. All you looking
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  Speaker 1: at is where you're being. All you're looking at in
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  Speaker 1: that rear view mirror is where you're passed or should
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  Speaker 1: have passed, something you should have moved on from. All
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  Speaker 1: you're doing is looking in that rearview mirror at what
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  Speaker 1: happened back there. If you don't stop looking in the
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  Speaker 1: rearview mirror, you're gonna crash your car over and over
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  Speaker 1: and over again. All you got to slow it down
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  Speaker 1: so bad in order for you to keep looking in
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  Speaker 1: that rearview mirror. If you don't learn to let it go,
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  Speaker 1: it's gonna be hard for you to go forward because
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  Speaker 1: you keep reviewing the past. The past is the past,
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  Speaker 1: and I know it's hard. Man. I watched a show
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  Speaker 1: and this lady said, well, I just can't ever forgive
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  Speaker 1: them for that, or guess what. Guess what God may
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  Speaker 1: have already forgiven that person. That person may be extremely remorseful,
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  Speaker 1: could have gone to God and godd and forgiveness for
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  Speaker 1: it years ago. But you you sit here and you
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  Speaker 1: keep hanging on to the back. I can't ever forgive that.
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  Speaker 1: Then I heard Bishop Jakes come on the show one
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  Speaker 1: time and say something that really really struck on. You
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  Speaker 1: keep drinking the poison, waiting on your enemy to die.
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  Speaker 1: He said that. I just shook my head and went, wow,
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  Speaker 1: you drinking the poison, waiting on your enemy to die.
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  Speaker 1: Revenge is poor to you, you know, if hatred is
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  Speaker 1: poison to you. Unforgivingness, when you won't forgive a person,
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  Speaker 1: that person could be going on with their life, made
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  Speaker 1: the right with God. Don't know how you're feeling. They're
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  Speaker 1: skipping through life now. You make adjustments every time you
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  Speaker 1: see them, and it takes energy. Man, it takes so
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  Speaker 1: much energy to hate. It takes so much energy not
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  Speaker 1: to forgive too. If that ain't come in the room,
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  Speaker 1: you got to avoid them. Stay over here, Oh here
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  Speaker 1: they come. Now you got to make a situation over here.
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  Speaker 1: They come into the house. It's family reunion. Oh here
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  Speaker 1: they come. And where they're gonna be in the basement.
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to be on the third floor. I want
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  Speaker 1: to go ahead and get some barbecue. She out there
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  Speaker 1: at the barbecue, staying, oh lord, I don't want a barbecue.
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  Speaker 1: I just eat to take the salad. People man take
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  Speaker 1: themselves all out of position, trying to make adjustments, when
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  Speaker 1: if you it would simplify your life, if you would
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  Speaker 1: let just let it go. Maybe you ain't where you
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  Speaker 1: need to be because of them external forces altogether. Maybe
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  Speaker 1: you're not where you need to be cause of you.
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  Speaker 1: Because you won't let it go, you won't move forward.
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  Speaker 1: Look at this, ladies. Let's say you've been in a
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  Speaker 1: situation with a man for years. It didn't work out
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  Speaker 1: for whatever the reason, it just didn't work out. I
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  Speaker 1: got I got what you say he did. I got
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  Speaker 1: what he did. I got all of that, YadA, YadA YadA.
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  Speaker 1: When you get through, did not God get you through it?
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  Speaker 1: Did not he allow you to survive it? I got you,
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  Speaker 1: got some cuts on you, I got you been a
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  Speaker 1: little bit bruised. But did he not get you through it? So,
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  Speaker 1: now that he's freed you from it, now he didn't
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  Speaker 1: went on. He got a whole an other family over
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  Speaker 1: that somewhere. He not. Now he trying to make it
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  Speaker 1: right because maybe he learned the mistake he made and
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  Speaker 1: now he trying to be a better man. He just
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  Speaker 1: trying to get it right now. But you're sitting there
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  Speaker 1: holding onto it. You're drinking the poison, waiting on your
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  Speaker 1: enemy to die. So now instead of you enjoying the
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  Speaker 1: blessing of finally being free from a situation that was
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  Speaker 1: not healthy for you. You create an even more unhealthy
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  Speaker 1: situation in your mind by hating, by having revengeful thoughts,
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  Speaker 1: by hoping he fall on his face. Maybe you're even
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  Speaker 1: doing something to the other situation to make sure they struggle.
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  Speaker 1: Oh man, you're drinking the poison, waiting on your enemy
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  Speaker 1: to die. Maybe you ain't where you ought to be
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  Speaker 1: in life, not because of your external forces, but maybe
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  Speaker 1: it's you. If you don't let it go, it's gonna
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  Speaker 1: be hard for you to go. You can't keep driving
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  Speaker 1: your car looking in the rear view mirror. Come on, man,
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  Speaker 1: Forgiveness is not for the other person. Forgiveness is for
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  Speaker 1: you to show. Ladies and gentlemen, let me have it
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  Speaker 1: you undivided attention. Papa was who rolling stone. Wherever he
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  Speaker 1: laid his hat was his home. All who he left
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  Speaker 1: this was a loan. M M. Papa was who rolling Stone,
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  Speaker 1: wherever he laid his hat was his home. And when
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  Speaker 1: he died, oh, he left this was alone. Hey Mama,
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  Speaker 1: that was my part right there, Hey mama. Any of
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  Speaker 1: the harding heard some folks talking about Papa doing some
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  Speaker 1: stove front preaching talking about saving souls and all the
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  Speaker 1: time reaching, dealing and dealing in the name of the Lord.
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  Speaker 1: Shelly Strong Bay, how are you doing that? Hey, good morning, Steve,
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  Speaker 1: Good morning, tripping too hard? Calling for real? Never on
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  Speaker 1: the temptations, never baby, Mama, what you know about that
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  Speaker 1: that Junior? Not too much. But I'm waiting for that.
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  Speaker 1: Never I never got mine, never had a chance to
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  Speaker 1: see him, never heard nothing but bad things about him. Mama.
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  Speaker 1: I'm depending on you to tell me the truth. Who
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  Speaker 1: Mama just hold her head down and said, nephew Tommy.
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  Speaker 1: But the checking, okay, because that's Papa doing grad Folks say,
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  Speaker 1: Papa with bag babroo Steve to pay his bills. Did
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  Speaker 1: I'm fine? Are you good? Girl? Good listen. My name
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  Speaker 1: is ice Man with Ice Man Productions. Uh, I got
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  Speaker 1: my own record label. I've stumbled up on a CD here.
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  Speaker 1: I'm assuming this is your demo. You have a demo
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  Speaker 1: that's out right now? Yes, all right, with a couple
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  Speaker 1: of songs on it, right, Yes, okay, hey listen, I
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  Speaker 1: am actually putting together a female group one of my
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  Speaker 1: employees gave me your stuff and I've been listening to it.
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  Speaker 1: I liked the tune. I liked the vibe and wanted
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  Speaker 1: to see if if that's something of interest to you,
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  Speaker 1: if you'd like maybe being a in a female group.
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  Speaker 1: What kind of female group? Four females in one group.
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  Speaker 1: How do you feel about that? I think that could
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  Speaker 1: be workable. Okay, okay, um, hold on, I want to say, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: who is that? That's Diddy Diddy. I'll call him back,
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  Speaker 1: tell him I'm working on this group I talked him about. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: sorry about that. Hello, Okay, yeah, you listening to them? Yes?
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  Speaker 1: Are you okay? Good deal? So listen if you don't mind,
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  Speaker 1: could you? Uh? And I know I'm catching you off
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  Speaker 1: gods like this here, you know ice man, Really, I
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  Speaker 1: really don't know. Only get on the phone and call people.
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  Speaker 1: But I'm heavy about this group and getting it out.
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  Speaker 1: I got puffed at he on my butt about it,
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  Speaker 1: and uh, you know, he's one of the producers on
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  Speaker 1: this thing, and I'm trying to really bring this thing
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  Speaker 1: to a head. So why don't you too me in
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  Speaker 1: favor if you can, If you don't mind, I take
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  Speaker 1: it right, Yes, could you could you possibly maybe uh
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  Speaker 1: seeing something for me real quick so I can just
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  Speaker 1: you know, I just want to hear straight from the
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  Speaker 1: straight from your your mouth to my ear. If you
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  Speaker 1: don't mind, just anything, Okay, there's a heelo. If you're
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  Speaker 1: look inside your heart, you don't have to be afraid. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: what do you want? There isn't if you're reading through
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  Speaker 1: your soul and the soul that you know. Okay, Okay, Hey,
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  Speaker 1: I don't want to say who is that? Think? Don't
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  Speaker 1: think I got his solo? Tell him I'm gonna listen
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  Speaker 1: to it. Tell him I'm working on a female group
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  Speaker 1: right now. Tell them I get back at it. Hello,
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  Speaker 1: I apologize for all the interruptions. That was good. That
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  Speaker 1: was good. Can you give me maybe give me a
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  Speaker 1: little something else real quick? Okay, I'm trying to real quick.
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  Speaker 1: How old are you Donald? I'm twenty nine? Twenty nine? Okay, okay,
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  Speaker 1: good deal? And uh what what if you don't mind?
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  Speaker 1: What size are yea, I don't have a picture on
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  Speaker 1: the on the demobout size three. Oh yeah, oh yeah,
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  Speaker 1: oh yeah, that'll work, that'll work. Okay, give me, give me,
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  Speaker 1: give me if you can maybe maybe do something else
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  Speaker 1: for me. Okay, you got you got anything like maybe
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  Speaker 1: you can marry j Blige? It up for me a
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  Speaker 1: little bit. You know, I always see what about kids
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  Speaker 1: call kill. I'm good with that. Let's do that. Let
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  Speaker 1: me get that now you can wait to whole life
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  Speaker 1: time to change what the feeling from what is been.
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  Speaker 1: You may have got hardbooken a few times in the past,
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  Speaker 1: never left a strong as accused too. Don't feel it's
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  Speaker 1: good as acus too before and everything I used to
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  Speaker 1: say than I used to do went right out. Oh
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  Speaker 1: that's what you tell it on a vant and you
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  Speaker 1: know they've heard it on the bore. Can't you say? Yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: ice man like that. Iceman like that. Ice man likes that.
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  Speaker 1: All right, that's what I'm talking about. Okay, listen, um,
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  Speaker 1: how do you feel about flying up to h to
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  Speaker 1: New York? Maybe a couple of weeks so I can
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  Speaker 1: put all you guys together. You like that? Yes? All right,
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  Speaker 1: all right, you're excited about it? Yes, I you okay, okay, listen. Uh.
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  Speaker 1: Let me let you know this. The name of the
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  Speaker 1: group is the Lingeris, and I think you guys are
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  Speaker 1: gonna work out well once we get you locked down
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  Speaker 1: and that'll be four. So we have four girls that
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  Speaker 1: make up the Lingeris. You know, okay, they're real pretty girls.
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  Speaker 1: Oh you got I mean you know they're they're great.
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  Speaker 1: I need you to send me some pictures as well.
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  Speaker 1: Can you do that? I gotta head shot? Yeah? Okay,
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  Speaker 1: well listen, I'm gonna need a head shot. But like
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  Speaker 1: I said, the name of the group is the Lingeri.
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  Speaker 1: So is that where you can send me something of
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  Speaker 1: you in some lageraie? What is that a way if
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  Speaker 1: you can send me you know? Wait? Wait, wait, wait,
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  Speaker 1: you want me to picture of me in my larger
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  Speaker 1: raid exactly? Because see this is what when you guys
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  Speaker 1: actually perform, you're actually gonna be going out on stage
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  Speaker 1: and your lagerai. Oh no, wait what you're talking about.
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  Speaker 1: I'm trying to get you to send me a pitch
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  Speaker 1: in your lingerie. You can be a part of you.
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  Speaker 1: You got no damn Lingeri? You know what? How to he?
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  Speaker 1: Are you gonna call me telling me the fay is
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  Speaker 1: in my lingerie and get on fade. That's what we're doing, baby,
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  Speaker 1: that's what the Laingerais do. No, hell, now, what kind
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  Speaker 1: of you? You're crazy? Who you where you get my number,
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  Speaker 1: A name from where you get my CD? Frond I
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  Speaker 1: told you one of my people that work for me
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  Speaker 1: gave me your demo. I checked. I'm like, I like,
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  Speaker 1: I like what you was doing, and hey, I'm giving
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: you a shot. You. Let me tell you something. You
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  Speaker 1: will never be a star. You will never be a star.
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  Speaker 1: You're gonna have all these obstacles in your way. You
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  Speaker 1: excuse me? You? Who do you think you talking to?
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  Speaker 1: Do you need to send me a picture in your largeri?
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  Speaker 1: Is what your need to you? Don't be tilling me
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  Speaker 1: with this. You send me a picture in your larger
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  Speaker 1: raiate I'm sending you. I want to picture you in
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  Speaker 1: your drunk. I got a problem with that. You don't
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  Speaker 1: want to be a star. You don't know what to
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  Speaker 1: take to be a star. Yes, I do know you don't.
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  Speaker 1: If you do that, I'm going to be a start.
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  Speaker 1: How are you gonna do it if you ain't part
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  Speaker 1: of the larger Because I'm not a protographic star, idiot.
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  Speaker 1: I got one more thing I need to say to you, though,
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  Speaker 1: What is you listening? What do you want? This is
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  Speaker 1: nephew tire me from the Steve Harvey Morning Show. You
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  Speaker 1: just got break by your boyfriend. Oh my god, I'm
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  Speaker 1: so mad. Oh. I can't wait when you get home. Oh, Michael,
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  Speaker 1: I have never been parted in my life. I try
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  Speaker 1: to watch my language, but you know you made me Madge.
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  Speaker 1: I bet you he won't see me and no lingerie
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  Speaker 1: for about four five months. I got one more thing
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  Speaker 1: I know that this is a type of man I
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  Speaker 1: should be with, but I prefer a street savvy guy
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: with a little edge to him, great in the bed,
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: but still loves the Lord. What's wrong with me? Do
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: you think I'm going to miss out on a good
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: thing because of what I prefer in a man, street savvy,
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: edge and love the Lord. Yeah, okay, that's okay. Let
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: me get it right. You won't street savvy, edge, love
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: the Lord and great in bed? Check check right. But
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: I'm assuming you have a great man who just for
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: you ain't great in bed. Yeah, pretty much. Y'all could
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: work on the sex part, but you're thirty seven, so
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: you're gonna pass on this man because y'all could have
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: better sex and he could happen. So I would reconsider
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: because I don't know how long you've been out there
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: on this grind looking for this man, this good man
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: and all is him. But if you want to get
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: back out there and see what else is out there,
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: go ahead. But there are a lot of people on
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: this on this listening that would tell you to work
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: on that. First. You've been with him seven months. I
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: put some effort into seeing if y'all can't stretch, stretch
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: straight out this sexual problem first, for you go throwing
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: this good man back in the track. Well, she doesn't
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: tell her daddy, Well, Daddy, you know I liked him
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: and everything, you know, like he was everything you said
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: he was. But damn, Daddy, this man right him, He couldn't.
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: He couldn't carol a toe if if I put it
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: in a tight shoe, lain that. Yeah, all right, Steve.
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: This one's from Caroline. Caroline in Greenville, Mississippi. She says,
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: I am sixty two years old and about nine months ago,
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: I started dating a man that I dated in high school.
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: We're both divorced, and he told me he was looking
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: for a good Christian woman. We're both seeking a stronger
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: relationship with God. But we slipped up and had sex
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: a few times. After the first time we had sex,
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: he told me he wants to marry me. That made
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: me feel better about us having sex before marriage. He
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: hasn't talked about marriage in a few months now, but
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: he still wants sex. Do you think he brought up
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: marriage so I would keep having sex with him. I'm
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: too old for games. This ain't no game is having
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: before this ain't no game. This happened before, so this
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: is not new. How old do you have to be
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: before you onderstand that? Men tell you what they think
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: you want to hear first, then after that, then we
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: tell you what makes us sound best next, and if
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: you keep persisting, we'll tell you the truth. You didn't persist.
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: You just ran up into your old guy from high school.
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: Y'all was both divorced, love the Lord, want a close
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: relationship with the Lord. Both y'all have sex a bunch
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: of din so you know, So y'all just in here,
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: just you know. I don't know what y'all doing with it,
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: but you know, just come on now, you're too old
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: for games. For games. He ain't about a marriage no
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: more because he don't won't get mad want though, right,
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: we know how to give you all that is man, Yeah,
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: all right. This one's from Brian and Atlanta. Stephen says,
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: I'm a single, middle aged man and my best friend
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: is a female. She has had me in the friend
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: zone for years, but I'm in love with her. I
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: have told her this and she says she loves me too,
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: but she's not in love with me. Bottom line is
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: she wants a man. With a lot of money and
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: that's not me. We do everything together like we're a couple,
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: but she won't date me. How can I show her
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: that money is not all that matters? Clo, I don't
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: know how unrich go? Okay, whoa WOA show her? Yeah?
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: How can I show her that money is not all
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: that matters? Get to show her? How is? He doesn't
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: give his age? He's literally middle aged, middle aged man
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: thirty to fifty thirty eight depending a middle aged He
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: ain't middle aged? See what a man don't tell you
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: his age? He up, and he tried to explain why
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: he ain't done yet. That's why, because dudes ain't No,
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: I'm a middle aged man, and how do you fit it? So?
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: How do I get How do I get her money?
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: Money is not all that matters? It ain't Listen to me, sir.
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: He's in love with her. I know, I know, with
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: a lot of money and that's not me, he said.
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: When I got that right, Man, well you saying it best.
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: That's just not you, and so well, bro, listen to me. Man.
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: You know, man, you had in the friend zone. I
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: told y'all, men ain't really trying to be your friends.
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: But you know you had any friends? How do I
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: get her? Money? Is not all that matters. Well, you're
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: gonna have to excel into other things. Brother, You're gonna
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: have to want her every other thing. Every I'm talking about.
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: You're gonna have to get good at every other damn
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: thing and overshadow the fact man in the words, in
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: the words of the Great Fight Trainer, you can do
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: it wrong. You're listening to old school relationship advice means
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: well most of the time, but some of it is
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: out of touch and should become a thing of the past.
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: Some of these rules or tips need to be redefined
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: and clarified for the time we live in now. This
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: is according to psychologist doctor Joshua Clappale, for example, clap
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: clapal for example, Steve the old cliche and this is biblical.
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: Don't go to bed angry. Uh. Doctor clap Howe says,
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: we've heard this classic, but it's unrealistic and sometimes going
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: to bed mad and sleeping on it is better. What
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: do you say, do you well? I don't know what
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: were you with that. I wish we could go to
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: bed and not be mad. I really do, right, I
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: don't nobody want to go to bed mad. You know,
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: you got to sleep back to each other. Somebody roll
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: over and touch you. You jumping? You don't damn foot off.
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: Nobody wants that. I think it's better to do that. Now.
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: Is it realistic to expect not to ever go to bed? Man? Now?
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: I don't think it is. That's what he's saying. But
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: that show ainclude to go to bed man. We're gonna
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: be up all night, or you wake up mad. You
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: let me tell you something that you know. I hate that.
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: If you let a woman go to bed mad, she
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: wake up, she's gonna be just as mad or mad
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: because she'd thought about some most stuff. Yeah, now dude's
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: wake up and go, hey, baby, how you doing? How
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: the hell you think? How was our last night? When
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: you shut your eyes exactly? Yeah? So no, I think
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: he's wrong about it's not healthy. All right? Doctor clip
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: House says you can change them. He says it's a
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: romantic idea, the old cliche you can change them. But
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: he points out it's not your responsibility to change anyone, right.
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: I agree with it's not your job to change anyone.
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: Nor don't you nor do you have the ability? Right?
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: That's something that women have I mean we may as
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: well admit that we're always trying to change. And I
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: think it's the nurturer in us. We always Yeah, we
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: all change him. Yeah change. I know he's like that
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: right now. But once he gave me six months, Yeah, yeah,
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: let me work on him. Yeah, I got this. You're
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: gonna have to work it every day, though, every day
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: I change, you do it everything. Yeah, but by women
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: are of that, all right. Here's another one. Some people
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: never change. That's the cliche, the old school cliche. Doctor
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: clip Howe says, on the flip side, the suggestion that
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: someone is incapable of changing is wrong, and it ignores
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: the fact that we all have control over our choices.
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: So I absolutely agree with that. That's one. Yeah, he's
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: only said one thing I didn't agree with, and that
• 30:41
  Speaker 1: was the first one. Yeah. I agree with that. You
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: don't go to bed will change. Yeah, people change man
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: all right all the time. Here's another one, old school.
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: Love will keep you together. Love keep you together. He says,
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: this works in an old romantic movie, but in real
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: life it takes a lot more than love to make
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: it work. WHOA what love got to do? Yeah? Got
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: to do? What love? But a second handed move shot,
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: try to take it off. Gotta do it. Ain't got
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: nothing to do with it. Many. Yeah, you gotta honor
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: that commitment. You got to compromise, love, understanding, take the blame,
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: not be right all the time. Yeah, it never worked
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: for me never. All right, here's junior. It's that love thing.
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: I told her I love her, But my replacement was
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: at the dog when you I'm just like, who is this?
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: Oh this Chris? We're going to dinner? You ain't Chris.
• 31:55
  Speaker 1: I love you though. To the love to the life
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: and get the lad through. You've been play hard. Yeah,
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: it's almost like what but you've grown up now, you're
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: for now. Yeah, you're good now. Yeah that was back.
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: Yeah I had We've all been through some things. Yea
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: up to the game. Yeah all right, old school love
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: will keep. I mean, know your role in the relationship.
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: That's old school. Doctor Clappal says, forget this old gender
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: stereotype and remember there's not a required way for you
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: to act. Your role in a relationship shouldn't always be
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: the same. It's constantly shifting. Mist No, your role in
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: the relationship, that's old school thinking. Okay, Doctor clip How
• 32:45
  Speaker 1: says forget this old gender stereotype and remember there is
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: not a required way for you to act. That's new
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: school thinking. He says. Your role in a relationship isn't
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: going to be the same all the time. It's constantly changing,
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: and that's a good thing, that's what he's saying. He says,
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: it'll shift organically. Yeah, yeah, and that's a good thing.
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: You think your roles should stay the same in a relationship, Well,
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: I mean I think I think your roles have to
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: be defined so that everybody has an understanding of positioning.
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: And then I think there has to be some type
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: of alved give and take where sometimes the other person
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: can do that. I'm not saying, like roles like you
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: do all the cleaning eye, I'm not talking about that. Yeah,
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: but if you're good with money, yeah, do anything. Yeah,
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: I mean you know that. And if you either side,
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: if you roll playing, then your roles change. Like you know,
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: I might be bad man one night, you know what
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: I'm saying, but then next night I might be in
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: credible hook. You know what I'm saying. Your roles do change.
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: I have to know that organically right now for and
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: organic or ganty and realistically, you're neither one. All right,
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: here's old school. You should stay with them for better
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: or for worse, he says. He says. We all want
• 34:14
  Speaker 1: to think our partner will stick around no matter what.
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: But if a relationship is unhealthy, you don't. You don't
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: need to stick it out. Out get out, all right,
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: we do have to get out. You're listening to? All right?
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: It is time for a round of would you rather
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: let's jump right in. Would you rather silent treatment from
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: your mate? Or would you rather argue with your mate?
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: Just solve it with an argument? All right? Would you
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: rather silent silent treatment? Give me silent? I knew you
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: won't anyway, all right? Would you rather your mate initiate
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: sex every time? Or would you rather skip sex for
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: a year? Your mate initiates sex every time? Or you
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: skip sex? Raise up against me, whatever it takes, yes,
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: come on, all right, all right? Would you would you
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: rather give an X five hundred thousand dollars? B okay?
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: All right? Or listen? Would you rather give an X
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: five hundred thousand dollars? Or would you rather sleep with
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: an X just one more time? Hey, nobody want to
• 35:48
  Speaker 1: go back to that? You were so sure though, Steve
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: initiate for a reason. Boy, Hey here, congratulations by house,
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: get the McDonald's or whatever you need to do McDonald's. Jay,
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: haven't heard from you. Uh, if we could lower that price,
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: we might have work that man. And if you can
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: come down on that price, that that folds right now,
• 36:18
  Speaker 1: you feel to sleep little. That's what you're leaning towards.
• 36:25
  Speaker 1: I'm just trying to work out a price as reasonable
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: the price. Tell you what? I tell you what? Jay? Who? Whatever?
• 36:37
  Speaker 1: How was you out there to consider going old back? Boy?
• 36:43
  Speaker 1: That what came through Jake drafted it brown in the
• 36:47
  Speaker 1: build was nice. Who would you rather be kissed on
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: the lips by a complete stranger? Or would you rather
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: be licked on the lips by a dog? I ain't
• 37:04
  Speaker 1: doing it. I don't do dog. No, no, you can
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: go give me that stranger. Just let me pick up
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: franger in COVID. Hey that dog, that dog stay. Dog
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: mouths are cleaner than he who told you that told
• 37:22
  Speaker 1: you that. I've seen the dog licks some things. And
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: if he lick your lips you wake up in the morning,
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: your lips will be on the pillow. Just fall off,
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: all right? Thank you? That is our round of would
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: you rather for today. You're listening to show. All right,
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: Steve your man, your boy in nineteen eighty six, as
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: you told us earlier, not staying hit though, Junior and Tommy,
• 38:02
  Speaker 1: all you guys are here for what you say, what
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: you say you're gonna do. You tell them Jay, what
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: you say you're gonna You know everybody roped rounding about
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: this time. People make plans or I'm gonna do this.
• 38:12
  Speaker 1: It's gonna be a new year. I'm gonna start off friends,
• 38:15
  Speaker 1: But I got it right here. What you say you're
• 38:17
  Speaker 1: gonna do and what you're really gonna do. Now, you
• 38:20
  Speaker 1: say you're gonna go to the gym and work out,
• 38:23
  Speaker 1: but what you're gonna do is joining membership, go one
• 38:26
  Speaker 1: day with your big ass, and then you're gonna complain
• 38:29
  Speaker 1: that machines is nasty and you ain't going back. That's
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: what you don't do. That's what you really donna do.
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: You say you're gonna save some money this year, that's
• 38:39
  Speaker 1: what you say you gonna do. I'm saving money saving
• 38:42
  Speaker 1: You didn't save about five hundred. As soon as that
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: sale come around, it's all ye. That's what you say
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: you're gonna do, But what you're really gonna do. You
• 38:53
  Speaker 1: say you're gonna be nicer to your mother in law.
• 38:56
  Speaker 1: You're gonna call on the phone trying to be nice.
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: You're gonna about three minutes into this damn conversation, it
• 39:03
  Speaker 1: ain't worth talking to her ass at all. That's what
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: you'll say you're gonna do. And what you're gonna do, ladies,
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: you said everywhere, I'm getting rid of him. He's useless,
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: he ain't no good, he ain't doing nothing but taking
• 39:18
  Speaker 1: me down. And I'm gonna be about me this year.
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: But what you're gonna do is let him hit it
• 39:23
  Speaker 1: one more time and then you're gonna break it up.
• 39:25
  Speaker 1: That's what you do. Wow, I wasn't expecting that. You
• 39:33
  Speaker 1: don't let you gonna let it get it one? You
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: gonna do that? What you're really gonna do? You say,
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna stop smoking that stuff. I ain't smoking no
• 39:45
  Speaker 1: mote because it ain't good for you. But dude, gonna
• 39:48
  Speaker 1: look at that big stash you got of this hit. Well,
• 39:50
  Speaker 1: I got to clean that up. I got to get
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: rid of all of that. Yeah, let that go away. Jay,
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: got one? You got one. Let me know you do
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: don't do? And what you do you make your New
• 40:03
  Speaker 1: Year's resolution that you ain't gonna cuss no more. You
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: headed to your best friend. Hey, man, I ain't gonna
• 40:11
  Speaker 1: custom more. He said, Well, your fat ass should have
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: said you're gonna lose some weight instead. Man, just right
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: the man, kiss my kiss money. That's what you're really
• 40:32
  Speaker 1: gonna do here, money. Yeah, that's a resolution, as he
• 40:39
  Speaker 1: said about your weight, do some way. What you can
• 40:43
  Speaker 1: do is kiss my you know what? Right right off?
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: Black ass. Yeah, now that's go. Oh you say you're
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: gonna spend more time with your grandkids because you love them.
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: You don't get to see him much. They're gonna come
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: over that one day. You're gonna figure out it's just
• 40:59
  Speaker 1: better to sitting there as five dollars in a card
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: and call it a damn gating. I don't need him
• 41:07
  Speaker 1: over here at all, but not least I'm gonna read
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: the Bible more. Come on God, because I need him
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: in my life. Out Joel Osten, come on in the morning,
• 41:24
  Speaker 1: and I got this. I got to read a damn
• 41:32
  Speaker 1: that's what's gonna do. And what you're gonna do that, Jake,
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: how about this, Jake? You got one? You got one.
• 41:47
  Speaker 1: I ain't eating pork no more. Yes, I gave it up.
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: Pork every year. I'm giving it up right after first.
• 41:52
  Speaker 1: I ain't gonna have January first, sausage bason all on
• 41:59
  Speaker 1: the same plate with eggs. Grif you wouldn't gonna give up,
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: that's what you're really gonna do. You decided that you
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: gonna pay your ties this year. I'm playing all my
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: tish this year. Next Sunday passed to pull up in
• 42:17
  Speaker 1: the new ride. I'm not helping him make payments now,
• 42:22
  Speaker 1: That's what I'm not. Hell, no, I'm not giving it
• 42:31
  Speaker 1: all right, guys, thank you so much. Coming up next
• 42:33
  Speaker 1: the nephew in the building with the frank phone call
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: for today. Right after this, you're listening to the Steve
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: Harvey Morning Show coming up in the top of the hour,
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: right about four minutes after. It's my strawberry letter for today.
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: Subject my husband's drinking is no longer a secret. But
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: right now it is the nephew where we know who
• 42:56
  Speaker 1: this letter, but we don't know who wrote it. Steve
• 43:02
  Speaker 1: right now, never you tell me is here with today's
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: praying phone call. Now, Oh god, I'm going to be
• 43:15
  Speaker 1: stow it up to be st know welcome to the
• 43:19
  Speaker 1: stupid universe. Oh y'all, man, let me tell yallself. Man,
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: if you got a seatbill, put it on you know,
• 43:29
  Speaker 1: if you if you, I don't know, see what else
• 43:31
  Speaker 1: can you put on on the Seatbill? Seabill? Uh? If
• 43:35
  Speaker 1: your kids got to call seat in the back, you know,
• 43:36
  Speaker 1: lock dad and make this like all lady in there? Okay,
• 43:40
  Speaker 1: Uncle Steve. This right here is Lester Tuckle. That's what
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: this is. Now though, let me kiss the climate for
• 43:52
  Speaker 1: leicster Tucker. You sure, oh this is gonna be the climate?
• 43:56
  Speaker 1: But less Tucker, what's wrong with the claim? Y'all think
• 43:59
  Speaker 1: you're about the literal weather? It's a little too testy? Okay?
• 44:06
  Speaker 1: What yes? What Wester? Read it right now? Play it,
• 44:10
  Speaker 1: cat dog, play it right now. Yes, I'm trying to
• 44:16
  Speaker 1: reach a Lester Tucker. This is Tucker all right, miss Tucker?
• 44:20
  Speaker 1: How you doing? This? Is our Curtis Walking soul brother
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: number nine. I'm with the BP of A and H
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: the BP of A Black People of America. What the okay? Listen,
• 44:30
  Speaker 1: we are we're doing a survey today. We're calling a
• 44:33
  Speaker 1: lot of white households and we're trying to figure out
• 44:35
  Speaker 1: have y'all been using the N word in your house?
• 44:38
  Speaker 1: And if you have, how many times are you using
• 44:40
  Speaker 1: the N word on a daily basis in your house?
• 44:43
  Speaker 1: The N word? What is said? I don't use the
• 44:47
  Speaker 1: N word in my house. I got youngest. We don't
• 44:49
  Speaker 1: do that around my house. Have you been using the
• 44:51
  Speaker 1: N word at your job? Ahead? Know what kind of
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: sh No? Back to hell? Up? What did you just say?
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: You got what at your job? I got black? Look?
• 45:01
  Speaker 1: Why this is yours? If I you see N word,
• 45:04
  Speaker 1: I paid the rent in this trailer, organ says, MA word. Hey,
• 45:10
  Speaker 1: hold on, hold wait a minute, brother, Now look minute
• 45:14
  Speaker 1: you called me. Hey, hey, let me explain some something
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: to you, sir. We're we're doing. All we're doing is
• 45:20
  Speaker 1: a survey. Now, I will tell you this. We do
• 45:23
  Speaker 1: have surveillances at your place, and we will be trying
• 45:26
  Speaker 1: to figure out if you and my trailer. We will
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: be taking dictating. We will be trying to figure out
• 45:32
  Speaker 1: if you're using an N word. Let me tell if
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: I won't say the N word, I say words I
• 45:37
  Speaker 1: don't want to say. If I find some surveillor to
• 45:40
  Speaker 1: my trailer, I will come and keep kill Black People
• 45:43
  Speaker 1: Association didn't hear me. You know who you? Uh? Just
• 45:48
  Speaker 1: you must the tuck? Ain't you? You got right? I'm
• 45:51
  Speaker 1: must the tucker. Do you want to know how many
• 45:53
  Speaker 1: times I said say the N word. We're trying to
• 45:56
  Speaker 1: get a survey on it, sir, That's what we're trying to,
• 45:59
  Speaker 1: just trying to starting I'm with I'm Curtis walking with
• 46:02
  Speaker 1: Black people of America. Don't give the hell I'm giving
• 46:04
  Speaker 1: who you are Curtis walking? Sir? Why are you calling
• 46:07
  Speaker 1: my house? Sir? I'm just here to ask have you
• 46:09
  Speaker 1: been using it? And have you been using it at
• 46:11
  Speaker 1: your job? Why did I tell you I don't use
• 46:14
  Speaker 1: to to my house because I got kids. I don't
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: use at the job because I got black people to
• 46:18
  Speaker 1: work for me. Okay, I don't want to run them
• 46:21
  Speaker 1: off my calling them names. Okay, Well, when you go
• 46:23
  Speaker 1: down to the club by yourself, are you guys in
• 46:26
  Speaker 1: there using it? Look? Come on, now, be honest with me.
• 46:28
  Speaker 1: Are you guys in there using it? Man? Let me
• 46:31
  Speaker 1: tell you something I don't know what about, but it's
• 46:34
  Speaker 1: sounding me like you. Look, I got black neighbors, all right,
• 46:37
  Speaker 1: I ain't. I ain't like that. I ain't like that. Okay, Well,
• 46:40
  Speaker 1: let me ask you this when you just when it's
• 46:41
  Speaker 1: just you and them, them good old boys, when it's
• 46:43
  Speaker 1: just y'all, are you using that in word? Well, let
• 46:46
  Speaker 1: me ask you this when it's just you and you're
• 46:48
  Speaker 1: and you're hoodling a little buddy, do you? I mean, what,
• 46:51
  Speaker 1: what the hell do you call white people? You use it?
• 46:54
  Speaker 1: I am not used the words, sir. I don't want
• 46:59
  Speaker 1: to get like. I tell you who the hell you are? Sir.
• 47:01
  Speaker 1: I'm doing the time. I'm doing the survey here. I
• 47:04
  Speaker 1: don't all right, why will white people of America? How
• 47:08
  Speaker 1: about that? See we can't have her home association? Oh
• 47:11
  Speaker 1: hell no calling me up, call me, ask me question. Okay,
• 47:16
  Speaker 1: I just got one more thing to tell you. Are
• 47:19
  Speaker 1: you familiar Williams. Yeah, he works for me. This nephew
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: tim Me from the Steve Harvey Morning Show. You just
• 47:25
  Speaker 1: got pranked by william You all right, man? You got
• 47:33
  Speaker 1: kind of ribbed up? Man? Well man, you you w
• 47:37
  Speaker 1: U see that? Brother? He told me, he said, he said,
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: this white guy is gonna go off. He said, trust me,
• 47:42
  Speaker 1: he does not use the N word, but just act
• 47:45
  Speaker 1: like he's been using it and he's gonna go to
• 47:47
  Speaker 1: hell offa see that man tells me money anyway. Hell,
• 47:56
  Speaker 1: all right, let's the cab. I gotta ask you, man,
• 47:58
  Speaker 1: what's the baddest radio your show in the land. Let
• 48:02
  Speaker 1: me tell you if the Steve Harvey Morning Show, and
• 48:04
  Speaker 1: you know how I know some black guys it work
• 48:07
  Speaker 1: for me. Have that? Then you have it? Baby, Wow,
• 48:16
  Speaker 1: what's wrong? Call? Call it? Don't fix the climate of
• 48:19
  Speaker 1: what were in right now? My nerves? A man, can't
• 48:24
  Speaker 1: you play way too much? I mean you just can
• 48:28
  Speaker 1: you draw the line anywhere? I drew the line and
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: then I called less the duck went over the edge.
• 48:35
  Speaker 1: But well, it's the bp A call. It's the black
• 48:38
  Speaker 1: people that number middle. Now, you took that line from
• 48:41
  Speaker 1: your uncle, that lesson from your uncle. You don't how
• 48:43
  Speaker 1: do you know when you go over the edge. Unless
• 48:46
  Speaker 1: you go over, you got to go there. And that's
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: yea yeah, the bp A baby, the black people are
• 48:53
  Speaker 1: the middle. Hello. That was my dude right there. He
• 48:59
  Speaker 1: had a good spirit, thank God, because he was cool.
• 49:02
  Speaker 1: You know, he was real right? Yeah? Yeah, I played
• 49:07
  Speaker 1: written news here trailer. I say what I won't Shay
• 49:13
  Speaker 1: Freed where they called white people what about that? Yeah?
• 49:18
  Speaker 1: But we can't why I'm from the association wiping neck.
• 49:22
  Speaker 1: We can't have a camera. Boy, he understood race relationship perfectly. Yeah, man,
• 49:34
  Speaker 1: how did you come up with this crazy stuff? Tommy?
• 49:38
  Speaker 1: Oh okay, okay, sure to check us out. So this
• 49:40
  Speaker 1: is let me tell you what I just I just
• 49:42
  Speaker 1: I just put this down. Oh my god, let me
• 49:45
  Speaker 1: show it to you. Check us out here on my
• 49:46
  Speaker 1: here on my next list, right here, y'all, y'all tell
• 49:48
  Speaker 1: me if y'all like this. Okay, okay, that's what I
• 49:52
  Speaker 1: got coming up. Come on, Tommy, where's the word? Okay? Uh,
• 49:56
  Speaker 1: this is called no No. I'm with the U Triple
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: A Bell Buns. Eric asked me to call you to
• 50:05
  Speaker 1: help pay his fifty thousand dollar bun. I'm gonna need
• 50:09
  Speaker 1: you to bring five k in the morning. When should
• 50:11
  Speaker 1: I expect y'all? That's that's that's that there's a dude
• 50:15
  Speaker 1: in jail. I'm working on that prank. Y'all ain't read
• 50:17
  Speaker 1: it for that one? Okay, how about this right here?
• 50:21
  Speaker 1: But why why would he do any of these pranks?
• 50:25
  Speaker 1: These are a good pranks right here. Check this out.
• 50:27
  Speaker 1: I overheard you give your number to the clerk at
• 50:30
  Speaker 1: the stop. So I decided to call you what you're doing?
• 50:36
  Speaker 1: Try to haul out the clerk at the store. Man,
• 50:42
  Speaker 1: you overheard my number? Okay, watch this. Watch so I
• 50:48
  Speaker 1: got somebody that gave me this information out here. It's
• 50:50
  Speaker 1: a it's a it's a guy to work at the
• 50:52
  Speaker 1: work at the Pittstough. All right. I called this bird
• 50:55
  Speaker 1: talk Um. I'm gonna call the Pittstow and ask him
• 50:59
  Speaker 1: can I speak to one of the parrots? All right?
• 51:02
  Speaker 1: And that's going to determine if I want to buy
• 51:03
  Speaker 1: the bird or not. I need to speak to the parents. Y'all.
• 51:09
  Speaker 1: Tommy working over you, okay, just to keep you up
• 51:14
  Speaker 1: at night? Do you think of this stuff at night?
• 51:17
  Speaker 1: I wake up and text myself and make show I
• 51:21
  Speaker 1: got my stuff. You do what? You wake up and
• 51:23
  Speaker 1: do what I text myself. You don't talk to you, y'all. Y'all, y'all,
• 51:28
  Speaker 1: don't see the stupivity shining through here. What if you
• 51:33
  Speaker 1: don't text you, who's gonna talk to you? Food? All right? Look,
• 51:38
  Speaker 1: just let that marinate. Let it here, all right? Thank you, nephew.
• 51:42
  Speaker 1: We got a girl coming up. Strawberry letter. Next subject,
• 51:45
  Speaker 1: my husband's drinking is no longer a secret. We'll get
• 51:49
  Speaker 1: into that right after this. You're listening to the String Show.
• 51:55
  Speaker 1: Right now, it's time for the Strawberry Letter. If you
• 51:57
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• 52:01
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• 52:05
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• 52:09
  Speaker 1: tell him Steve Man today, where she's saying, where she
• 52:18
  Speaker 1: had just say? She being mean everything, and we could
• 52:23
  Speaker 1: be reading your letter on the air live, just like
• 52:25
  Speaker 1: we're reading this one right now. Let's go, nephew, buckle up,
• 52:29
  Speaker 1: hold on tight. Here it is the straw Dary. My
• 52:33
  Speaker 1: husband's drinking is no longer a secret. Dear Stephen Shirley,
• 52:37
  Speaker 1: My husband and I have been married for fifteen years
• 52:40
  Speaker 1: and we have two children. My husband is a functioning alcoholic.
• 52:45
  Speaker 1: He can work a full day without drinking, but as
• 52:49
  Speaker 1: soon as he's off the clock, he starts drinking. He
• 52:53
  Speaker 1: drinks in private. He doesn't leave his alcohol out where
• 52:56
  Speaker 1: I can see it, but I can always smell it
• 52:59
  Speaker 1: in his up. This started shortly after we got married,
• 53:03
  Speaker 1: and I allowed it and never confronted him. I can
• 53:06
  Speaker 1: always tell when he's been drinking by the changes in
• 53:09
  Speaker 1: his behavior and how he treats me and the kids.
• 53:13
  Speaker 1: It's gotten worse recently, and I brought it to his attention.
• 53:16
  Speaker 1: I told him that I know exactly what he's up to.
• 53:20
  Speaker 1: He says that he drinks too unwind every now and then. Well,
• 53:24
  Speaker 1: a few weeks ago, he left work early for a
• 53:26
  Speaker 1: doctor's appointment, and later that evening he came home in
• 53:29
  Speaker 1: an uber and he was totally wasted. He could not
• 53:33
  Speaker 1: stand up, and he was talking so much trash that
• 53:36
  Speaker 1: I had to tell the kids to leave the room.
• 53:39
  Speaker 1: He called me all kinds of names and told me
• 53:42
  Speaker 1: that he was miserable in our marriage. The next day,
• 53:48
  Speaker 1: I took the kids and left him. I've been staying
• 53:51
  Speaker 1: with my mom for three weeks, and during that time
• 53:54
  Speaker 1: I encouraged him to get some help. My husband is
• 53:57
  Speaker 1: great when he's sober, but he needs some professional help
• 54:00
  Speaker 1: with his drinking. I have checked out, and I'm no
• 54:03
  Speaker 1: longer trying to keep our marriage going. He visits me
• 54:06
  Speaker 1: and the kids and we still do some things as
• 54:09
  Speaker 1: a family, and he's always sober when we see him.
• 54:12
  Speaker 1: He wants more, but I don't. Neither of us can
• 54:15
  Speaker 1: afford to live on our own. What should I do? Well,
• 54:20
  Speaker 1: I mean, the obvious thing is there's no kind of marriage.
• 54:24
  Speaker 1: If you're just staying together because you can't afford to
• 54:27
  Speaker 1: live on your own, you can't afford to live apart,
• 54:30
  Speaker 1: that's no marriage. I mean, what about real love and
• 54:33
  Speaker 1: real relationship and a real marriage. I mean, you're absolutely right,
• 54:38
  Speaker 1: as his wife and as his friend hopefully to encourage
• 54:41
  Speaker 1: him to get some help, because that and the Lord himself,
• 54:45
  Speaker 1: it seems, are the only things that can make this
• 54:47
  Speaker 1: situation better and work this situation out. You know you've
• 54:52
  Speaker 1: allowed it. You've been married for fifteen years. You've allowed it.
• 54:55
  Speaker 1: He started drinking shortly after you got married, and you
• 54:58
  Speaker 1: say you did allow it and never confronted him about it.
• 55:01
  Speaker 1: You can always tell when he's drinking because you can
• 55:04
  Speaker 1: smell it. This thing has blown up. It's blown out
• 55:07
  Speaker 1: of proportion. Now he's stumbling drunk when he comes in.
• 55:10
  Speaker 1: He can't even drive home. At least he has a
• 55:13
  Speaker 1: wherewithal to know that he shouldn't be driving when he's
• 55:16
  Speaker 1: that wasted. So I encourage you to continue to encourage
• 55:21
  Speaker 1: him to get some help. And if he doesn't get
• 55:23
  Speaker 1: any help, it does look like this marriage is over.
• 55:27
  Speaker 1: And that's unfortunate because you guys have kids. But he
• 55:31
  Speaker 1: says he's been miserable since the very beginning. What, Steve, Yeah,
• 55:37
  Speaker 1: he says he's been miserable since since the very beginning.
• 55:40
  Speaker 1: And you're not willing, you don't want anymore either. But
• 55:44
  Speaker 1: the part about you can't afford to live on your own,
• 55:47
  Speaker 1: you're gonna have to work that out, Get a second job,
• 55:50
  Speaker 1: do whatever you have to do, because it looks like
• 55:52
  Speaker 1: this marriage is doomed, especially if he doesn't get any
• 55:55
  Speaker 1: help and change his behavior. Steve, let me, let me
• 55:59
  Speaker 1: let me just read something to y'all. Okay, my husband
• 56:02
  Speaker 1: and I have been made fifteen years. We have two children.
• 56:08
  Speaker 1: My husband is a functioning alcoholic. He could work a
• 56:11
  Speaker 1: full day without drinking, but as soon as he get
• 56:14
  Speaker 1: off the clock, he starts drinking. Do that sound for me?
• 56:20
  Speaker 1: I don't know what you're saying, Steve. I hope, I hope.
• 56:24
  Speaker 1: I don't know. Fifteen years, got two kids. No one
• 56:31
  Speaker 1: we know wrote this letter, Steve. I didn't ask you,
• 56:34
  Speaker 1: do you know who wrote it? I asked you that
• 56:37
  Speaker 1: this part right here sound familiar to anybody other than me? No? Well?
• 56:43
  Speaker 1: To me, no, well, it sounds familiar to me. What
• 56:48
  Speaker 1: are you saying? Just say it anyway? He started. Here's
• 56:57
  Speaker 1: another one. This started shortly. I'll say it again. This
• 57:04
  Speaker 1: started shortly. Oh, the word and everybody that that sounds
• 57:11
  Speaker 1: like anybody? We know why because of the word shortly, shortly.
• 57:16
  Speaker 1: This letter is full of clues. It is not a
• 57:20
  Speaker 1: mystery that we're trying to solve. We're trying to help
• 57:23
  Speaker 1: this lady. And this is what she said. I can
• 57:26
  Speaker 1: always tell when he'd been drinking by the changes in
• 57:30
  Speaker 1: his behavior. Who the hell can't everybody? Everybody knows somebody
• 57:38
  Speaker 1: when they start drinking. She's sitting up here like she
• 57:43
  Speaker 1: the head a damn revolution or revelation comes in here
• 57:46
  Speaker 1: talking about No, I can always tell when he's been drinking.
• 57:49
  Speaker 1: Who can't. I'll be back, yeah, with part two of
• 57:55
  Speaker 1: your response. Today's subject is my husband's drinking is no
• 58:00
  Speaker 1: longer a secret? Will be back at twenty three after
• 58:03
  Speaker 1: the hour you're listening, All right, Steve, let's go. Let's recap.
• 58:10
  Speaker 1: The subject is my husband's drinking is no longer a secret. Well,
• 58:15
  Speaker 1: here's a dude who this woman claims as a functioning alcoholic.
• 58:20
  Speaker 1: He drinks in private, he never leave alcohol out where
• 58:24
  Speaker 1: they could see it. This started after they gotten married. Yeah,
• 58:28
  Speaker 1: and she never confronted him. She can always tell when
• 58:32
  Speaker 1: he's been drinking because it changes any behavior, and the
• 58:36
  Speaker 1: way he treat me and a kid has gotten worse recently.
• 58:38
  Speaker 1: I bought it to his attention. I told him I
• 58:40
  Speaker 1: know exactly what he's up to. He says he drinks
• 58:43
  Speaker 1: unwind every nine need well. A few weeks ago, he
• 58:47
  Speaker 1: left work early for doctor's appointment. Later that evening, he
• 58:51
  Speaker 1: came home in an uber and was totally wasted. This
• 58:55
  Speaker 1: when you drunk, when you leave your car anywhere, and
• 58:58
  Speaker 1: you don't leave your car telling some people after the
• 59:02
  Speaker 1: ball go hey hey you can't drive alright, Hell right,
• 59:07
  Speaker 1: we're calling you an uber and let's thank God for
• 59:10
  Speaker 1: stuff like that. He couldn't stand up. He was talking
• 59:14
  Speaker 1: so much trash. I had to tell the kids to
• 59:16
  Speaker 1: lead the room. He called me all kinds of names.
• 59:19
  Speaker 1: See when you get drunking, come out. And finally he
• 59:23
  Speaker 1: told me, this is what I was thinking the drinking
• 59:26
  Speaker 1: was about. He was miserable in our marriage. Yeah, that's
• 59:30
  Speaker 1: what he said, miserable. But let me share something with you,
• 59:34
  Speaker 1: th old lady, you've been miserable too, if you honestly
• 59:38
  Speaker 1: think about it, and I'll show you why. I know
• 59:40
  Speaker 1: you've been miserable because the next day you took the
• 59:43
  Speaker 1: kids and you left. I've been staying with my mom
• 59:45
  Speaker 1: for three weeks, and during that time I've encouraged him
• 59:48
  Speaker 1: to get some help, and he need help. My husband
• 59:50
  Speaker 1: is great when he's sober, but he needs some professional
• 59:53
  Speaker 1: help with his drinking. I checked out and I no
• 59:56
  Speaker 1: longer trying to keep our marriage going. That's because you've
• 59:58
  Speaker 1: been through for a long time. This was just the
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 1: tip of the iceberg. This was just the straw that
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 1: broke the camel's back. You got sick of it. This
• 1:00:08
  Speaker 1: was the last time. See, you've been miserable too, So
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 1: don't wear this just because this drunk dude and came
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 1: in here and had a revelation in front of you
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 1: and a kid. I've been miserable in the marriage. You
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 1: went soberly. You went, well, i'll be dam I have
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 1: to and me and the kids is over mama's house.
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 1: Now you're gonna have to go on the act like
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 1: a girl. Now he the one got to move. You
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 1: go back to the house. Let him move. She put
• 1:00:35
  Speaker 1: up with it for a long time. Yeah, he visits
• 1:00:38
  Speaker 1: me and the kids. We still do some things together
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 1: the family, and he's always sober when we seen. He
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 1: wants more, but I don't. Neither of us can afford
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 1: to live on our own. What should I do? Well?
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 1: You fit to be roommates with alcoholic. You ain't got
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 1: the money to go nowhere. He ain't got enough money
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 1: to put you out something. You're fit to live with
• 1:01:01
  Speaker 1: an alcoholic as a roommate, telling kids quick calling him daddy,
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 1: started calling him Jerome. Yeah, let's telling kids and hit
• 1:01:12
  Speaker 1: your daddy no more. He's a roommate. Don't do nothing
• 1:01:17
  Speaker 1: together as a family no more. When he come in
• 1:01:19
  Speaker 1: the room, y'all cut the TV off in league, But
• 1:01:22
  Speaker 1: he's sober when they see him. When they go out
• 1:01:24
  Speaker 1: on family outing, he gonna get drunk less he gets
• 1:01:27
  Speaker 1: some help, Yeah, yeah, he definitely needs and if he
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 1: wants more, he gonna drink when he gets off work,
• 1:01:33
  Speaker 1: and you're gonna have another episode. My suggestion to you
• 1:01:37
  Speaker 1: is follow your heart. He has to get help before
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 1: he can come back. He's probably a great guy, like
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 1: you say, But after he gets help and completes the
• 1:01:46
  Speaker 1: program twelve step and every Wednesday, probably had to go
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 1: on in every time. I'm Jerome, I'm an alcoholic because
• 1:01:55
  Speaker 1: they make you say that at the meetings. I ain't
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 1: never been to the meetings before. I've seen it on
• 1:01:59
  Speaker 1: TV in movies, like I had to go into. I
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 1: was in a group one time that was, you know,
• 1:02:04
  Speaker 1: with physical disadvantages. I was in the group one time
• 1:02:08
  Speaker 1: when you had to stand up and admit your flaw.
• 1:02:10
  Speaker 1: What I've had to do that before? And what did
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  Speaker 1: you stand up? Ad met? Tom Steve and I have
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  Speaker 1: big limps. I've had to say that big limpidonymous. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And then but the ladies standing next to me, how
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  Speaker 1: I'm class and I have a huge nose. And I
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  Speaker 1: looked at her and I went, damn, man, you should
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  Speaker 1: have been in this class where you be. I don't
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  Speaker 1: know how you deal with that. Can you see anybody
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  Speaker 1: on your right limp with your other such a group?
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  Speaker 1: Is there that problem is? You know I was looking
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  Speaker 1: at getting into him. You know what I'm saying. I
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  Speaker 1: just try to stay abreast to these type of help
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  Speaker 1: groups cases. People out there listening to straw bed letter
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  Speaker 1: that need help. You know, they got they got class
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  Speaker 1: with high Yeah, I'm harold and I'm uggled that class
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  Speaker 1: waiting lists though that hasn't waiting waiting to get in that. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: how do you get help for that? Though? I mean
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  Speaker 1: from being ugly? No, what you do, you can't get
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  Speaker 1: help from being ugly? You have you heard? You learn coping? Coping, y'all?
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  Speaker 1: How to deal with it? Like you know, don't don't
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  Speaker 1: stay in the mirror longer than ten seconds, because you
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  Speaker 1: can't at of time ten seconds? Just do your hair
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  Speaker 1: and get on. Don't you brush your teeth in the
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  Speaker 1: mirror and stuff? And I don't. I'll be in my
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  Speaker 1: calls at brushing my teeth because I know, not standing
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  Speaker 1: there and look at it, because I'm gonna see something wrong.
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  Speaker 1: Because if you stat yourself long enough, you know one
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  Speaker 1: of your eyes ain't the same size as the other one. Well,
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  Speaker 1: you just kept it too. Yeah, one of my lips
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  Speaker 1: is bigger than the other one, which one top or
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  Speaker 1: bottom or the bottom? I can't easily to bottom that
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  Speaker 1: thing got some weight, like some canny bottom lip around
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  Speaker 1: like walking around with a five pound bag of sugar
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  Speaker 1: on your face. To do that, You're crazy? All right, Well, listen,
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  Speaker 1: we gotta go. Thank you, for that, Steve. Uh, you
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  Speaker 1: know I'm here for you. Yeah, I see. You can
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  Speaker 1: Letter at Steve Harvey FM, or you can go to
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  Speaker 1: My Girls Shirley. You're listening to Steve Harvey Morning Show.
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  Speaker 1: All right, guys, time for a comedy roulette. Today's categories
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  Speaker 1: are things you say to people to help you move. Lies,
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  Speaker 1: men tell to get out of the house, lies women
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  Speaker 1: tell to get out of the house, the warm uh huh.
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  Speaker 1: And lastly, stuff white people say to black people that
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  Speaker 1: they think is really cool. All right, Oh yeah, let's
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  Speaker 1: spend the wheel, spun it. Okay, come on, come on,
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  Speaker 1: come on, getting out the house, come on, let's go.
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  Speaker 1: Oh it stopped. And stuff white people say to black
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  Speaker 1: people that they think is really cool. Let's let's get
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  Speaker 1: right into it. Let's get right into it. Here we go.
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  Speaker 1: We just sliced up a whole lot of watermelon. I'm
• 1:05:07
  Speaker 1: sure you like it. I'm sure you like it. So um,
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  Speaker 1: do all of you all know the hip hop thing? Oh?
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  Speaker 1: Y'all know hip hop? Don't you? White people say the
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  Speaker 1: black people that they think it's really cool. I really
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  Speaker 1: want my I really want my lips to look like yours. Really,
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  Speaker 1: Oh my god, Niggie wasn't small at all. White people
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  Speaker 1: say the black people that they think is really I
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  Speaker 1: don't really mean to be out of line, but could
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  Speaker 1: I just touch your ass? Just touch? Let me ask
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  Speaker 1: you something. I don't really know you guys that well,
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  Speaker 1: but do you all have chicken farms? Hey? Dude, listen,
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  Speaker 1: if you ever really want it, you know, I can
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  Speaker 1: teach you how to swim. People, they think, Yeah, I'll
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  Speaker 1: tell you this first lady doesn't compare to yours. I
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  Speaker 1: know that was a deep one. Yeah, so let me
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  Speaker 1: get this right. You went to college, but not on
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  Speaker 1: a basketball scholarship? All right, Steve, who's the daddy? Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I'll just tell you I'm perfectly fine with another African
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  Speaker 1: American president. Yeah, I have a problem with the one
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  Speaker 1: we had. All right, Thanks, guys, you're listening to all right?
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  Speaker 1: Yahoo is reporting, guys, a new pole that finds fifty
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  Speaker 1: nine percent of couples say that they suspected their partner
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  Speaker 1: of cheating. If they suspected them, they would discuss the
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  Speaker 1: matter with them rather than jumping to conclusions. I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to say that again for the lateies. Okay. Fifty nine
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  Speaker 1: percent of couples say that if they suspected their partner
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  Speaker 1: of cheating, they would discuss the matter with them rather
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  Speaker 1: than jumping to conclusions. Okay, cool, Let me ask you
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  Speaker 1: a question, Shirley and call them now. Let me ask
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  Speaker 1: you a question. Just listen to this question. If you
• 1:07:58
  Speaker 1: suspected a husband of cheating and it was not on
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  Speaker 1: the internet, nobody knew, none of your co workers, it
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  Speaker 1: was not it wasn't made public. If you suspected your
• 1:08:11
  Speaker 1: husband of cheating, would you bring it up calmly? Would
• 1:08:15
  Speaker 1: you bring it up with anger? How would you do it? Probably?
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  Speaker 1: All of the above for me without the calm though
• 1:08:25
  Speaker 1: you're already nowhere on the coming bigger all of it.
• 1:08:32
  Speaker 1: All of the above for me, without the calm anger.
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  Speaker 1: If I suspected that not yet? No, well, I mean,
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  Speaker 1: if you had suspicious, you ain't had no proof, You ain't,
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  Speaker 1: you ain't heard nothing, you ain't got no pictures, ain't no,
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  Speaker 1: ain't on internet, and none of that. But Steve, you
• 1:08:49
  Speaker 1: know we have intuition. You know we have intuition. Disappointing
• 1:08:55
  Speaker 1: to you, mister Harvey, I don't know. I'm just trying
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  Speaker 1: to see what y'all would do. I don't really and
• 1:09:02
  Speaker 1: and the word discussion I have a problem with. There
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  Speaker 1: will be no discussion. Well all you gonna just find
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  Speaker 1: out on your own first, liked you little c s.
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  Speaker 1: I let me ask you a question. Suppose you discovered
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  Speaker 1: that you were wrong about him and that he wasn't cheating.
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  Speaker 1: What happens at that point? All, then I'm apologizing and
• 1:09:25
  Speaker 1: begging to his forgiveness, begging for his forgiveness and threatening
• 1:09:29
  Speaker 1: him he better not do it. You see what happens? Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: God in the tart, you gotta do that. Yeah, you
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  Speaker 1: apologize for your wrongdoing, but you know, make it up
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  Speaker 1: to him, you know all of that. Wow, that's any
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  Speaker 1: more questions? We're here for it. No, y'all's answers, Yeah
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  Speaker 1: and truthful, And there's no one. There's no one in between,
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  Speaker 1: ain't no? You know that's I don't like talking to y'all.
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  Speaker 1: Were you expecting something else? I don't know what I expected,
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  Speaker 1: but that wasn't it. You've obviously been through this before.
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  Speaker 1: I'll tell you what I found out, though, Uh, what's
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  Speaker 1: I'm fine out? I ain't fired up to have a
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  Speaker 1: discussion once they fired out. I'll cheat this, it's all
• 1:10:22
  Speaker 1: you're ugland sitting up here. Got the need cheat? No,
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  Speaker 1: you didn't know, but Junior, don't you know that money
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  Speaker 1: changes things? Yeah? How you get the nerve that was before?
• 1:10:37
  Speaker 1: Look at you now? But see Tommy saying, dang Junior
• 1:10:40
  Speaker 1: like you can't believe Junior called himself ugly. Tommy, you're ugly. No,
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  Speaker 1: I am not, am not gonna let you break. Stop
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  Speaker 1: doing that. You go listen twenty eighteen. You're not gonna
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  Speaker 1: do this. I'm not. I'm gonna tell the truth in
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  Speaker 1: two thousand and eighteen. Are you fine? No, I'm not
• 1:10:57
  Speaker 1: no fine, and I'm not out. But I ain't just
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  Speaker 1: been to be ugly little No, I'm not doing that. Dog.
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  Speaker 1: You're not fine, and I'm not ugly. But listen to me.
• 1:11:06
  Speaker 1: If you're not fine, then by a long ship? What
• 1:11:10
  Speaker 1: you think that is? Why you do that to him?
• 1:11:14
  Speaker 1: I don't know why Tommy keep thinking he cute, but
• 1:11:17
  Speaker 1: you're not cute. I didn't say I was cute. I'm
• 1:11:19
  Speaker 1: just saying I'm not listen to me. Listen to me.
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  Speaker 1: You look strang I'm decent. I don't look strang man.
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  Speaker 1: You do not looks great. Get a mirror and look
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  Speaker 1: at yourself from the side. You're strange. Look I'm not strange.
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  Speaker 1: Don't tell me you are. You look strange all everybody,
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  Speaker 1: all the men in our family, we're strange. Looking from
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  Speaker 1: the side. Look't have fun with the time when you
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  Speaker 1: accepted Tommy, He's never going to accept that. You guys
• 1:11:59
  Speaker 1: know that I'm not doing it. You're listening to all right, Steve,
• 1:12:12
  Speaker 1: It is time for a quick health and wellness shout out.
• 1:12:15
  Speaker 1: Give some um. You know you want. You want to
• 1:12:18
  Speaker 1: keep healthy thoughts and people being healthy, and you're launching
• 1:12:22
  Speaker 1: a brand new product, So tell us about your elevation
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  Speaker 1: well On January third, I have a new product coming out.
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  Speaker 1: It's called Elevate You by Green by Steve Harvey. It's
• 1:12:32
  Speaker 1: a green Vitality daily green drink that I have a
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  Speaker 1: special composition that I had put in here to help
• 1:12:39
  Speaker 1: cover your mitochondracts. And what that is it It it
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  Speaker 1: helps you from the cellular level. What a lot of
• 1:12:47
  Speaker 1: people don't understand is you take vitamins and stuff that
• 1:12:50
  Speaker 1: never reach your cellular level when you drink greens. Greens
• 1:12:55
  Speaker 1: especially are designed to go straight to your cellular level
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  Speaker 1: and make you feel better on the cellular level, helps
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  Speaker 1: give you better mental capacity, increases your energy where you
• 1:13:09
  Speaker 1: can work out more. It's not a workout product, it's
• 1:13:12
  Speaker 1: not protein. It gives you the energy, so you have
• 1:13:15
  Speaker 1: the energy to go for your walks, the energy to
• 1:13:18
  Speaker 1: work out, you know, the energy to think more. Clearly,
• 1:13:22
  Speaker 1: it's a lot of energy and it does wonders for
• 1:13:24
  Speaker 1: your digestive system. And that's so the things I've been
• 1:13:26
  Speaker 1: working on. People say, Steve, you look young man, and
• 1:13:29
  Speaker 1: I do, and I feel young because I take care
• 1:13:31
  Speaker 1: of myself on the cellular level. So on January third,
• 1:13:34
  Speaker 1: and the launch is called Elevate You by Steve Harvey's
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  Speaker 1: a daily vitality green drink and it's just the thing
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  Speaker 1: to make you feel absolutely wonderful. It's a great problem.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you, all right, congratulations, Steve, can't wait for it.
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  Speaker 1: January third, coming up in thirty three minutes after the hour,
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  Speaker 1: we'll play a round of would you rather? Right after
• 1:13:53
  Speaker 1: this you're listening to show, all right, it is time
• 1:13:58
  Speaker 1: for a round of would you rather? Let's jump right in.
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  Speaker 1: Would you rather silent treatment from your mate? Or would
• 1:14:06
  Speaker 1: you rather argue with your mate? Just solve it with
• 1:14:09
  Speaker 1: an argument? All right? Would you rather silent silent treatment?
• 1:14:16
  Speaker 1: Give me silent? I knew you won't anyway? All right?
• 1:14:24
  Speaker 1: Would you rather your mate initiate sex every time? Or
• 1:14:27
  Speaker 1: would you rather skip sex for a year? Your mate
• 1:14:30
  Speaker 1: initiates sex every time? Or you skip sex? What raise
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  Speaker 1: up against me? Whatever it takes? Yes, come on, all right,
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  Speaker 1: all right? Would you would you rather give an X
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  Speaker 1: five hundred thousand dollars? Okay, all right? Or listen? Would
• 1:14:59
  Speaker 1: you rather give X five hundred thousand dollars? Or would
• 1:15:02
  Speaker 1: you rather sleep with an X just one more time? Hey?
• 1:15:12
  Speaker 1: I don't nobody want to go back to that. You
• 1:15:15
  Speaker 1: were so sure though, Steve initials for a reason for
• 1:15:20
  Speaker 1: Hey here, congratulations, buy house, getter McDonald's or whatever you
• 1:15:26
  Speaker 1: need to do McDonald's getting friends. Jay, haven't heard from you. Uh,
• 1:15:34
  Speaker 1: if we could lower that price, we might go work
• 1:15:37
  Speaker 1: that mount. And if you could come down on that price,
• 1:15:40
  Speaker 1: that that five hundred dollars right now? You feel to
• 1:15:44
  Speaker 1: sleep little, that's what you're leaning towards. I'm just trying
• 1:15:51
  Speaker 1: to work out a price as reasonable. The price tell
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  Speaker 1: you what, I'll tell you what old ja whatever? How
• 1:16:02
  Speaker 1: would you out there to consider going old back boy
• 1:16:08
  Speaker 1: who that one came through drafted the brown in the
• 1:16:12
  Speaker 1: bull was nice boiler. Would you rather be kissed on
• 1:16:20
  Speaker 1: the lips by a complete stranger? Or would you rather
• 1:16:23
  Speaker 1: be licked on the lips by a dog? I ain't doing.
• 1:16:29
  Speaker 1: I don't do dog. Now you're gonna give me that stranger?
• 1:16:33
  Speaker 1: Just let me pick stranger in Covid. Hey that dog,
• 1:16:39
  Speaker 1: that dog stay dogs mouths than he who told you
• 1:16:46
  Speaker 1: that told you that. But I've seen a dog lick
• 1:16:50
  Speaker 1: some things. And if he licked your lips you wake
• 1:16:53
  Speaker 1: up in the morning, your lips would be on the pillow,
• 1:16:57
  Speaker 1: just fall off. All right, thank you. That is our
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  Speaker 1: round of would you rather? For today? Coming up at
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  Speaker 1: forty nine minutes after the hour, it's our last break
• 1:17:10
  Speaker 1: of the day and we'll have some closing remarks from
• 1:17:13
  Speaker 1: the one and only Steve Harvey right after this. You're
• 1:17:17
  Speaker 1: listening to all right, guys, this is our last break
• 1:17:22
  Speaker 1: of the day and it is time or some closing
• 1:17:25
  Speaker 1: remarks from the one and only Steve Harvey. Well, it's
• 1:17:29
  Speaker 1: been a good day. Let me ask you, guys a
• 1:17:32
  Speaker 1: question just off the top of your head. What do
• 1:17:36
  Speaker 1: you all and anybody can answer this question. What do
• 1:17:39
  Speaker 1: you think is probably the number one calls that gets
• 1:17:44
  Speaker 1: in the way of people moving forward or what has
• 1:17:49
  Speaker 1: gotten in the way of you over the years from
• 1:17:52
  Speaker 1: moving forward? Come? I mean, it happens to all of us,
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  Speaker 1: myself included. I'm just asking the question to the cruit
• 1:17:59
  Speaker 1: ye fear of failure, sometimes trying to fix the past, wow,
• 1:18:12
  Speaker 1: lack of faith. Well, okay, let me address three things.
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  Speaker 1: This is inture. I'm gonna try to do this quickly.
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  Speaker 1: Let's talk about fixing the past. Let's talk briefly about fear,
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  Speaker 1: and let's talk about the fear of being successful. Let's
• 1:18:31
  Speaker 1: start with the fear of being successful. A lot of
• 1:18:35
  Speaker 1: people have a fear of becoming successful because they're not
• 1:18:41
  Speaker 1: sure of the requirements that will be placed on them
• 1:18:47
  Speaker 1: once they become successful. Some people think that they won't
• 1:18:54
  Speaker 1: be able to handle the regiment of being successful, and
• 1:19:01
  Speaker 1: that right there is you're not understanding how God works.
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  Speaker 1: God never puts you someplace, He doesn't prepare you to be.
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  Speaker 1: Do you understand that as you become successful that you're
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  Speaker 1: going to be tested, You're going to be challenged, You're
• 1:19:19
  Speaker 1: going to be faced with all types of situations that
• 1:19:23
  Speaker 1: will better you, equip you and become make you the
• 1:19:26
  Speaker 1: experienced person that you need to be to be in
• 1:19:29
  Speaker 1: the place that you're going to finally wind up in.
• 1:19:33
  Speaker 1: Stop being afraid of success and understand that God is
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  Speaker 1: not going to put you in a room that you're
• 1:19:38
  Speaker 1: not qualified or equipped to be in. That's for starters. Now,
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  Speaker 1: let's talk about fixing the past. You're ready. You can't.
• 1:19:50
  Speaker 1: You can't. You get no duovers in life. The problem
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  Speaker 1: that people have when they try to fix the passages
• 1:19:59
  Speaker 1: because they're are surrounded by people who are constantly reminding
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  Speaker 1: them of the past and telling them you're not this,
• 1:20:05
  Speaker 1: and you're not that, and you can't do this because
• 1:20:07
  Speaker 1: you did that and I remember when you did that.
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  Speaker 1: When you remove those people from your life who are
• 1:20:13
  Speaker 1: constantly retrying to remind you of your past, you will
• 1:20:17
  Speaker 1: then lose the need to have to fix it. See,
• 1:20:22
  Speaker 1: but you have to fix it when there are people
• 1:20:25
  Speaker 1: in your life and including you, who keep bringing the
• 1:20:29
  Speaker 1: past to the forefront to put it in your presence.
• 1:20:32
  Speaker 1: That's why the Lord's prayer is simple, give us this
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  Speaker 1: day our daily bread. The Bible very rarely talks to
• 1:20:43
  Speaker 1: you about your past, because it's been forgiven, it's done.
• 1:20:50
  Speaker 1: I don't. I haven't read a whole lot of scriptures
• 1:20:53
  Speaker 1: to help me with my past. I read a lot
• 1:20:58
  Speaker 1: of scriptures that talk about now. I read a lot
• 1:21:05
  Speaker 1: of scriptures that talks about faith, the belief in things
• 1:21:09
  Speaker 1: that you cannot see, trusting in his word, holding onto
• 1:21:13
  Speaker 1: his unchanging hand, realizing that all things are possible through him.
• 1:21:19
  Speaker 1: I read a lot of scriptures about that. But nothing
• 1:21:23
  Speaker 1: is more prevalent in our life today than the Lord's prayer,
• 1:21:27
  Speaker 1: which clearly says, give us this day our daily bread.
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  Speaker 1: Because tomorrow you have no control over now. You can
• 1:21:36
  Speaker 1: have hopes for tomorrow, you can have plans for tomorrow,
• 1:21:39
  Speaker 1: you can have visions and aspirations for tomorrow. But everything
• 1:21:42
  Speaker 1: about tomorrow, which I have finally learned, should be tempered
• 1:21:47
  Speaker 1: with the remark if it's God's will and in God's timing.
• 1:21:53
  Speaker 1: That way it releases me from having to be worried
• 1:21:57
  Speaker 1: about the timing of an event because it's just because
• 1:22:01
  Speaker 1: it's been denied. Just because it's been delayed does not
• 1:22:05
  Speaker 1: mean that it's been denied. I had to learn that.
• 1:22:10
  Speaker 1: So fixing your past can't be done. What's done is done.
• 1:22:15
  Speaker 1: First thing you want to do about fixing the past,
• 1:22:18
  Speaker 1: remove people from your life who are constantly reminding you
• 1:22:20
  Speaker 1: of your past. And then secondly, forgive yourself, just as
• 1:22:25
  Speaker 1: God has done. I used to do it to myself
• 1:22:28
  Speaker 1: all the time. Even at my daughter's wedding, I made
• 1:22:32
  Speaker 1: the statement, I said, I've spent all of my adult
• 1:22:36
  Speaker 1: life trying to fix the mistakes I made as a
• 1:22:39
  Speaker 1: young man. You know what Bishop Jakes told me, who
• 1:22:42
  Speaker 1: was at my daughter's when he said, you're too hard
• 1:22:44
  Speaker 1: on yourself. He said, you're too hard on yourself. You
• 1:22:48
  Speaker 1: need to stop doing that to yourself, Steve, And he
• 1:22:51
  Speaker 1: was right because I keep trying to do that and
• 1:22:55
  Speaker 1: I had to stop at last, but not least, Let's
• 1:22:58
  Speaker 1: just talk about fear itself. The majority of us have
• 1:23:03
  Speaker 1: a fear of success and a fear of failure because
• 1:23:08
  Speaker 1: we don't have a strong enough relationship with God. I'm
• 1:23:14
  Speaker 1: telling you, man, God erases fear. God put you in
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  Speaker 1: a comfort zone. I mean, if you think about it
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  Speaker 1: just for a second, Everybody, everything that you've ever gone through,
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  Speaker 1: and I've said this, I can't tell you how many
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  Speaker 1: times on the show, everything you've gone through, every challenge,
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  Speaker 1: you've ever had every setback, every hardship, You've managed somehow
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  Speaker 1: to this point to get past all of them. Your
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  Speaker 1: track record for surviving rough days and challenges is one.
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  Speaker 1: Why would God not continue to do that for you?
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  Speaker 1: Lose your fear because God is near. Lose your fear
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  Speaker 1: because God is near. Those are the three things I
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  Speaker 1: wanted to address. Thank you for giving me those closing remarks,
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