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The Secret Sauce to Becoming a Professional Speaker | Ep 02 · Mindful You

• 0:02
  Alan Carroll: Hi, everybody. This is part two of my introduction to the mindful you podcast. Part one, I shared with you a little of my background, how I hike how I came into the space of mindfulness. And what do I do in the world to create mindfulness experiences for other people. And I, through my own transformation, on the stage of public speaking, to share an experience there 1974 1975 California Street, San Francisco, Warner Earhart seminar trainings. And I was in the guest seminar leader program, where they were being trained to be able to speak in front of groups of people in order to enroll them into the the s training, which I found to be like one of the best, if not the best, foundational kinds of trainings that I've ever that I've ever experienced, and it's still alive. Here we are in 2023, and it's still alive. It's called landmark education Corporation now, but the work that we did at the s IX training is same work we're doing in landmark. So I encourage people, if you wanted to have a real good, grounding, clear, conscious experience about what's going on around here, and how to better navigate your own life through it. The landmark education Corporation, the forum would be I would highly, highly recommend that.
• 2:14
  And in the training for the guest seminar Leaders program, you have to you stand up and you share about your experiences and all these things. And, and I was shy. I use the word shy. Terrified is another word, but shy, we'll take we'll take a little bit for shy. And I remember there's about 100 200 people in the room. And Marcia Martin is in front of the audience, and she's saying, Okay, who would like to share? Now I knew that I'm looking around, I had not shared anything yet. And I'd been in the program for a couple of weeks and haven't raised my hand because I was terrified. Well terrified of what well terrified of, of looking like looking like a fool. You don't want to look like a fool. The ego doesn't want to look like a fool. ego wants to look like hey, I'm in charge kind of a guy. And I told myself before the weekend that you know, what am I going to share thinking about what I'm going to share, but I was going to share, to hear I was Saturday 1030 In the morning, Marsha said who wants to share? The my hangover? No, my hand did not go up. But the voices inside my head. They got pretty loud, pretty quick. One voice inside my head says What the heck are you said, you're gonna stand up? You said you're gonna raise your hand, get your hand in the air. The other voice said, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, hold on, hold on here. Since it's Wait a second. No need to rush. And the other voice comment. I know. You get your hand in the air now. And then the other voice The other side said Well, yeah, yeah. I'll tell you what, tell you what to let me think about it. And if there's an opportunity after lunch, we'll do it again. And so these battling voices went back and forth back and forth inside my head until I had the realization that the only way out of the prison was to raise my hand and I did. And it changed my life. I raise my hand and Marsha immediately called my name, couldn't take my hand down now. Standing up, take the microphone, we had one of those popsicle microphones. And this is pretty much what my first chant in front of the audience my first talk in front of the audience, my first speaking, was something like this. Good morning, my name is on the call, I got to this point, this time I got a voice as I showed you that I got to watch it. I tried to avoid alcohol. I'm here today gang. And the applause was nothing that blew your socks off polite, polite blows. Marcia looked at me. And she looked at the audience and she smiled. Thank God, she smiled. And she said, that's what it looks like. When you when you break through, you don't come out of the egg, an eagle, you come out of the egg, an egg, let vulnerable, wet little feathers kind of person easily crushed that experience of annihilation kind of thing. Because that's what I was doing, I was annihilating myself that image inside my head.
• 6:23
  And so I realized, from my own experience, the struggle that people have to become confident speakers. And fortunately, corporations have the same thought that there people need to be trained on being able to be competent public speakers, who can clearly articulate the product and services that they represent within their organization. And after watching people speak for years, after years, after years after years and training them and coaching them and videotaping them the secret sauce, that the transform, the whole speaking game is the realization the realization that between the sounds you speak there's silence between the sounds that you speak. And when you begin to take your attention off of the sounds that you're speaking and put your attention into the space, empty space, the void, the pause the stillness you begin to control the creation of the sounds and the creation of no sound and that gives you control of the timing of your speaking I can ignite the thought with the sound and I can cool down that fire with the silence and in order to control the timing of your speaking you have to be mindful present grounded relaxed in the moment and when you can do there we call it mindful spacious speaking ah What can you do in mindful, spacious speaking? Well, in the emptiness between the sounds, you can breathe consciously, you can take in more prana energy. Ah, well, oil boy does not feel good. So in the middle of your talk to the customers, where you're a little tense and little tight, you're able to stop able to take a breath. And when you take the breath, not only does an oxygen an aid, the body, also a wave of relaxation flows through your body, from the top of your head to the soles of your feet, and the energy and the tension in your body are displaced through the soles of your feet. And to be grounded, to be anchored in the space, by controlling the timing of your speaking is a key, a key indicator of a professional, a professional speaker. And so I've had the opportunity to to coach people on the ability not only to create the sounds, but also to embrace the emptiness, the silence, stillness. Clean those sounds. And what's great about it, it's free. And space is free. All you have to do is pause. And that's the power. That's the power of the pause. And that's what I do. That's my, my background is part one. And what I do is train mindful spacious speakers on being able to control the timing of their speaking, which transforms their ability to speak, but also gives them a taste of mindfulness, which brings relaxation, oxygenation, grounding and clarity to the moment that you're in. Thank you for the opportunity of being able to share that story with you. It was fun. See you next time on the mindful you podcast. Bye bye for now.