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Trent Shelton Full Interview · The Steve Harvey Morning Show

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Speaker 1: is a motivational speaker Extraordinary, a former NFL player and
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Speaker 1: founder of the nonprofit Rehab Time. He's a large social
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Speaker 1: media following that inspires all ages with videos about relationships,
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Speaker 1: personal success, life and faith. Straight Up This is his
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Speaker 1: best Seller Please work on the money making conversation. Mr
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Speaker 1: Motivator himself, Trent Shelter, how are you doing? Brother? Appreciate
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Speaker 1: you're having me sharing your platform with me truly? Other Well,
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Speaker 1: I well, first of all, you know the fact that
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Speaker 1: your Southern born like me. I'm from Houston, Texas, so
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Speaker 1: I was born to raise in the big state of
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Speaker 1: Texas and have traveled all over this country. And uh,
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Speaker 1: you said you're Louisiana, Arkansas with the school at Baylor
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Speaker 1: type fellow. Yes, sir, Yeah, I'm definitely uh South stating
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Speaker 1: the South from the South, still live here, so I'm
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Speaker 1: a Southern board for sure. Absolutely. Let's just talk about, uh,
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Speaker 1: but you your book. Let's talk about your personality. Let's
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Speaker 1: talk about your athleticism. You know you played wide receiver
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Speaker 1: at the Bail University. Is a question I wanted to
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Speaker 1: ask up from. Would you say that the early part
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Speaker 1: of your life was driven by your ability to showcase
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Speaker 1: your physical talents? Would you say that absolutely? Yeah, I
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Speaker 1: mean ever since I was bored, I had two older brothers,
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Speaker 1: and so I was always trying to keep up with them.
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Speaker 1: So my my even my identity and my my worst
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Speaker 1: everything was performance based. You know. I always wanted to
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Speaker 1: be the best athlete I could be, whether it's best baseball, basketball, football, track.
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Speaker 1: So now that's being said. Now along the way, other
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Speaker 1: people see things in you besides that physical talent, and
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Speaker 1: they see it. Obviously you're a great speaker. They know
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Speaker 1: you have a uh the people you you have a
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Speaker 1: magnetic personality and people see that. And now I'm sure
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Speaker 1: people told you that along the way, but of course
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Speaker 1: you were following that physical gift. Can you can you
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Speaker 1: talk about the people who were trying to tell you
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Speaker 1: about the skill set that you were not following at
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Speaker 1: the time that they felt had value in your life?
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Speaker 1: Too deep with that question. No, you're exactly right, and
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Speaker 1: it's a great question because you're right. I mean, my
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Speaker 1: whole entire life, Um, there were seeds planet uh as
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Speaker 1: my mom would say, calling is placed on my life,
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Speaker 1: you know, throughout my whole entire life to be you
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Speaker 1: know what I do now, But by even today, I'm
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Speaker 1: an introverted person. So me hearing that, it was like
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Speaker 1: I was deaf to it because I was so focused
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Speaker 1: on what I wanted to do. So if you weren't
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Speaker 1: bringing anything to my life about sports, man like, I
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Speaker 1: wasn't trying to listen to it. And oftentimes what we
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Speaker 1: do is we're so focused on what we want to do,
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Speaker 1: we become blind to what we were created to do. So, yeah,
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Speaker 1: it was tough, I know, because you know, I look
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Speaker 1: at my life. I was. I was trying to share
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Speaker 1: my life honestly with my listeners. And sometimes my view
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Speaker 1: is that you know, when you look back, you know
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Speaker 1: you have to look back. I would tell people the
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Speaker 1: resume that you have right now, that job, resume may
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Speaker 1: not be your dream, may not be your passion. It's
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Speaker 1: just something you do to get a paycheck. And I
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Speaker 1: felt that's what was happening in the NFL. That was
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Speaker 1: something you was doing to get a paycheck. And then
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Speaker 1: one day, sitting in that office of the Washington Redskin,
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Speaker 1: you realize, you know something, this is a check that's
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Speaker 1: not gonna pay off long term for me. But you
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Speaker 1: knew that anyway because of the athlete, that's a short
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Speaker 1: window anyway, But knowing that you still pursued that that
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Speaker 1: was your your number one gift at the time. But
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Speaker 1: then in that room with the when they were announced
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Speaker 1: that they were gonna let you go, a realization hit.
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Speaker 1: You tell us about that. Yeah, it was just you know,
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Speaker 1: I mean I went through that process probably like nonerton times.
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Speaker 1: So when it got to that place I had already
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Speaker 1: started working on. I thought, well, what I do now,
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Speaker 1: which is rehab something? And that vision was already placed
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Speaker 1: in my life, maybe a few months before. How was
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Speaker 1: that vision? How was that vision place? Man? It was
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Speaker 1: my rock bottom, to be honest with you, It was
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Speaker 1: me sitting you know, I just got cut from the Seahawks,
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Speaker 1: and it was me in my in my room at
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Speaker 1: my parents house, and I was just looking around, and
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Speaker 1: my rock bottom was like, man, like, what I'm gonna
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Speaker 1: do in my life? And at that moment, I just said,
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Speaker 1: it's rehab time. And so for me, rehab time and
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Speaker 1: for myself right and then putting straight into a weakness mind, body,
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Speaker 1: And so so I took responsibility to say, okay, let
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Speaker 1: me educate myself because I wasn't reading books. Okay, let
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Speaker 1: me further my health, let me furm my further my spirituality.
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Speaker 1: And when I went on this journey, it just I
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Speaker 1: just felt the connection. I was like, man, this something
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Speaker 1: feels right about this. And as I started continuing that journey,
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Speaker 1: you know, other people started to see my change, started
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Speaker 1: asking questions. But that was two thousand and nine, two
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Speaker 1: thousand and nine, so I got cut with the Ridskins
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Speaker 1: probably that fall, and so when they said that, I
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Speaker 1: was hurt, but it was something in me and was like, hey,
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Speaker 1: like there's something more for your life. But still even
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Speaker 1: into it. Right there, you said you were hurt. Were
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Speaker 1: you heard or were you more concerned with other people
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Speaker 1: thought that you not? You're being cut both. That's that's
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Speaker 1: definitely both because that was my significance. So in my mind,
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Speaker 1: it was like because my whole entire life was like,
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Speaker 1: oh this is my friend trend of places for failure
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Speaker 1: or even high school. So my whole value was in
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Speaker 1: that working. So I was hurting that way because I'm like, Okay,
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Speaker 1: what are people gonna think? And I knew I would
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Speaker 1: lose some people in my life that I would hurt.
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Speaker 1: Also it's like this is my whole identity, like since
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Speaker 1: I was five years old, Like what else am I
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Speaker 1: gonna do? I never worked in NUE five. I had
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Speaker 1: no knowledge of any of that, So like what am
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Speaker 1: I gonna do? So I was kind of fearful of
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Speaker 1: like my life is over because if this is the
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Speaker 1: pinnacle of my life, there's nothing more to my life,
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Speaker 1: you know. So it was hard. Well, you're the thing
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Speaker 1: about now your son was born in what year? When?
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Speaker 1: When was your son born? Two two thousand eight? So
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Speaker 1: your son is born two thousand and eight, which is
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Speaker 1: already Let you know that there's a responsibility now in
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Speaker 1: your life. You know when you're when you're at there
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Speaker 1: solo and making decisions by yourself or uh, but when
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Speaker 1: you bring a child into the world. I always tell
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Speaker 1: people a child and asked to come into this world.
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Speaker 1: You brought that child into the world, So a certain
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Speaker 1: level of responsibility. So now that's two thousand nine. You
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Speaker 1: still you got cut by the Seahawks, They got about
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Speaker 1: to be cut by the watching risk and you know
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Speaker 1: the speech, you've heard it. You know when you know
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Speaker 1: they're in the game. But now it has to be
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Speaker 1: a different journey. Now there has to be a different
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Speaker 1: story to be told about your life. When did you
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Speaker 1: start remembering all those other great moments of you can
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Speaker 1: do this, your your your future is not being a
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Speaker 1: football player, an athlete, you can be great? When did
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Speaker 1: when did when did that information started running back into
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Speaker 1: your life? It started with me stepping on stages speaking
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Speaker 1: even though I wasn't ready to speak, even though it's
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Speaker 1: my biggest spirits started with me, uh, stepping on stage
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Speaker 1: is getting invited to the y m c A Boys
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Speaker 1: and Girls clubs or church events, And in those moments
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Speaker 1: it made just the impact that I saw when I
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Speaker 1: looked down in the audience and how they were just
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Speaker 1: gravitating to what I was saying. It was like, man like, Okay,
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Speaker 1: everything that people were telling me in my past, it
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Speaker 1: could be true. And so that possibility build confidence in
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Speaker 1: my life, even in my biggest spear because you know,
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Speaker 1: public speaking was something that I was truly afraid of. Well,
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Speaker 1: we always like I've been blessed that you know, my
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Speaker 1: I was just end up coming. I was standing up
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Speaker 1: comedian and so so naturally there's a wall for me
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Speaker 1: to speak that there's uh people just watch I should
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Speaker 1: work for IBM. So when I would speak, they would
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Speaker 1: look this kind so comfortable with this stand up comedy.
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Speaker 1: So at night we didn't know that, So I I
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Speaker 1: that that public speaking wall was was shattered with me
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Speaker 1: and so, but getting out there being honest though, there's
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Speaker 1: a difference in speaking publicly Trent, and then being honest
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Speaker 1: because because because you know, you can get a prepared speech,
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Speaker 1: because see that a lot of time people do it
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Speaker 1: call a press conference and and they're supposed to be
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Speaker 1: speaking for their heart, but they're reading everything all a
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Speaker 1: piece of paper and so, and I was always always
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Speaker 1: didn't make sense to me. Okay, why if you're speaking
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Speaker 1: for your hard just speak And now now you started
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Speaker 1: speaking publicly, when did the honestly part of the conversation?
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Speaker 1: Because they're gonna drive us into this book because this
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Speaker 1: book is very honest. It talks about a lot of failures.
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Speaker 1: It talks about by these failures have to be acknowledged
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Speaker 1: in order for you to move forward. When did you start?
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Speaker 1: You started speaking at these wives, But what point did
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Speaker 1: you say, know something? I gotta tell them relatable stories.
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Speaker 1: I gotta tell them why it's important that you hear
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Speaker 1: what I got to say. Yeah, for sure, it was
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Speaker 1: early on to be real with you because and the
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Speaker 1: reason being is because one of my very first major
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Speaker 1: ones speaking engagements, I prepared to hold speech. I was
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Speaker 1: like riding and wrote it all out and then I
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Speaker 1: kind of look, I got whatever stage right I forgot,
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Speaker 1: and it was just like okay, let me just go
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Speaker 1: from my heart. And I realized, like, for one, I
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Speaker 1: always say, when you're real, you're relatable, Right, It's a
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Speaker 1: connection piece with the audience because they feel like they
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Speaker 1: can relate to you. But it also it gave me freedom, right.
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Speaker 1: I feel like like even today, like when I tried
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Speaker 1: to prepare a speech, I'm like, why am I wasting
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Speaker 1: my time? Because I never go off of the notes
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Speaker 1: that I have from my speech, and so it gives
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Speaker 1: me a sense of freedom. And uh so yeah, I'm
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Speaker 1: just I've always kind of been like that since the
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Speaker 1: start of like just telling you know, real rock other
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Speaker 1: stories from the heart about my life. Well, I'm talking
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Speaker 1: to Mr Motivator himself, That's what I called I called
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Speaker 1: you know, he got a lot of great nicknames out there,
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Speaker 1: but I'm gonna call him Mr Motivator. Trent Shelton. He
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Speaker 1: has a new book that you can buy right now
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Speaker 1: called straight Up. Uh. It comes out it released officially
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Speaker 1: August fourth. This book is a you know, is for
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Speaker 1: young adults, and I want to talk about that why
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Speaker 1: it's important that when you see younger plow, you're talking
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Speaker 1: about enneals, are you're talking about high schoolers who were
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Speaker 1: talking about when you say young adults, Trent, Yeah, I
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Speaker 1: think anywhere from the age of it could be eighty four,
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Speaker 1: you know. I mean, I think this book is and
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Speaker 1: I will say this too, I've had adults already read it,
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Speaker 1: and you know, it's a little bit language for kids,
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Speaker 1: but I have adults read it and takeing it like
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Speaker 1: they learned from it too. But I think anywhere from
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Speaker 1: the ages of where you can read all the way
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Speaker 1: to you know, early twenties for sure. Well, you know,
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Speaker 1: let's let's let's dive into the book. The book. We're
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Speaker 1: talking about this straight up and I went, I'm gonna
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Speaker 1: start in the back because it was, you know, I
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Speaker 1: read a book. I kind of like, well, I want
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Speaker 1: to start. Everybody that always starts at the beginning, you
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Speaker 1: know it is that might post start in the middle,
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Speaker 1: but it was it was something that really affected me.
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Speaker 1: I think that we needed to jump out. For me,
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Speaker 1: was like in chapter twelve, that's just straight up about
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Speaker 1: making an impact. Okay, now, what was the significance before
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Speaker 1: we even get into my what exactly I want from
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Speaker 1: chapter twelve? What was the significance of the I guess
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Speaker 1: you can say title for each chapter. Yeah, so I
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Speaker 1: just kind of dug down in my life. I asked
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Speaker 1: my son some questions kids that are coached and just uh,
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Speaker 1: you know, took that feedback and I was like, Okay,
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Speaker 1: this is what they need to hear. You know. So
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Speaker 1: I basically took the book fifty two lessons um that
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Speaker 1: I would want either to tell my former self because
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Speaker 1: I get that question like what would you tell the
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Speaker 1: younger you, it would be these fifty two things, And
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Speaker 1: so that was the inspiration behind it. Cool. Now in
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Speaker 1: that chapter twelve, you know, it says it says responsibility
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Speaker 1: means realizing you affect other people. See that was important
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Speaker 1: to me when I'm reading your book. It goes back
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Speaker 1: to the birth of your son two thousand and eight.
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Speaker 1: It goes back to two thousand nine when you're sitting
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Speaker 1: in that in the in the office team Washington red Skins,
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Speaker 1: and it was letting you know that there was no
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Speaker 1: space for you on the team, that if a spot
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Speaker 1: opens up, you know you could, you wouldn't let you know.
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Speaker 1: You said, don't worry you don't don't I've heard this
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Speaker 1: speech phone don't don't, don't, don't play kate me like that. Okay,
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Speaker 1: don't play kate me like that. If it was a
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Speaker 1: space open, I wouldn't be sitting in your office. Okay,
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Speaker 1: I want to be sitting there. Okay. So the responsibility
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Speaker 1: means realizing you affect other people. I wanted to start
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Speaker 1: our interview with that statement because that's what a lot
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Speaker 1: of people I want. I won't use the word selfish,
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Speaker 1: but we get so focused on ourselves that we got
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Speaker 1: responsible to other people that believe in us, and that
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Speaker 1: could be children, that could be your wife, that could
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Speaker 1: be your employees, that could be people invest in you,
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Speaker 1: that could be your your business partners. And that statement
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Speaker 1: I thought was really powerful, and I just wanted you
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Speaker 1: to comment on that, and I also provide my feedback
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Speaker 1: because a lot of people don't realize that responsibility means
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Speaker 1: realizing that you affect to other people. To me, was
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Speaker 1: one of the most powerful lines in your book. And
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Speaker 1: thank you. I appreciate that. You know. One of my
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Speaker 1: stayings for real times, it all starts with you, because
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Speaker 1: I have to look within myself and say, Okay, you
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Speaker 1: know how is my life going to affect you know,
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Speaker 1: others around and often say you can tell my kids this,
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Speaker 1: and myself always tell yourself that you are influence. I
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Speaker 1: always say I am influenced every single day. And my
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Speaker 1: someone gets around me, whether that's through you know, telling
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Speaker 1: I'm talking to Trent Shelton. The book is called Straight
17:23
Speaker 1: Up Right now. You can pre order it. Uh it
17:25
Speaker 1: comes out officially August fourth. My goal is to have
17:29
Speaker 1: this book number one. That's what I won't call you,
17:31
Speaker 1: Trent number one. I had three of them with Steve Harvey.
17:36
Speaker 1: We went three straight number one. I mean real number one,
17:39
Speaker 1: not just best seller. She best selling number one. Two
17:41
Speaker 1: different conversations. I want you because this book has so
17:44
Speaker 1: much value in it that, uh it it struck me.
17:47
Speaker 1: And that's what I'm saying is that you know eight
17:50
Speaker 1: as they say black crippler crazies, they say what I
17:52
Speaker 1: was growing up. Everybody can get value out of this book,
17:55
Speaker 1: especially if you're trying to look in your life and
17:57
Speaker 1: try to jump start it, because a lot of people
17:59
Speaker 1: need to jump start their lives because they're doing that.
18:01
Speaker 1: I always talking about because you talk about relationships and
18:04
Speaker 1: you're hitting so many areas I think that are important.
18:06
Speaker 1: Let's talk about it. Why did you want to speak
18:08
Speaker 1: about relationships? Because relationships are everything you know as human beings,
18:13
Speaker 1: you know our connections with you know, whether it's a
18:16
Speaker 1: intimate relationship, whether it's you know, a business relationship, whether
18:19
Speaker 1: it's a friendship. Relationships are important. You know, you talk
18:22
Speaker 1: to people and usually if something is going wrong in
18:24
Speaker 1: their life, it's usually tied to a relationship. So I
18:28
Speaker 1: think it's just important that we build strong relationships, we cultivate,
18:31
Speaker 1: you know, strong relationships in our lives, so it helps
18:34
Speaker 1: us be better. So yeah, I think relationships are everything. Cool. Uh,
18:38
Speaker 1: I don't know if some of the book did. Did
18:41
Speaker 1: you want some things to be humorous in the book,
18:43
Speaker 1: because some of them I just have to laugh out
18:44
Speaker 1: loud at you, you know, like, for instance, I'll tell
18:48
Speaker 1: you something man, uh the front of the front of
18:50
Speaker 1: the book, when you was in that mud race, man, Yeah,
18:55
Speaker 1: I was laughing so loud at you, And what took
19:01
Speaker 1: you so long? Yeah? I was like, man, I really
19:07
Speaker 1: thought I was gonna die that day. Like I was like,
19:09
Speaker 1: I made my piece a god man to do it
19:11
Speaker 1: matter me? I was like, you work here? Are you
19:13
Speaker 1: supposed to being came and got me. Oh no, you
19:16
Speaker 1: you're supposed to let us know what you stand in life.
19:19
Speaker 1: That's why. That's why I took from that line. That's
19:20
Speaker 1: why because so many people are out there living a
19:23
Speaker 1: life and and and they're they're not as saying they
19:27
Speaker 1: need help. They's not saying they need change. Because when
19:30
Speaker 1: you're about to make change, you have to admit a failure.
19:34
Speaker 1: Do you have to admit a failure to have changed
19:37
Speaker 1: in your life? See, so many people want to admit
19:40
Speaker 1: don't want to admit that. And that's why that's why
19:42
Speaker 1: this book is so important, because this is a great moment.
19:46
Speaker 1: And I remember when I was when I first went
19:49
Speaker 1: on tour as a stand up comedian. I can't swim, okay, tramp.
19:53
Speaker 1: And I went out there and then it was it
19:55
Speaker 1: was a major decision I had to make on the
19:57
Speaker 1: shore because my friends said, man, you know, if you
20:01
Speaker 1: want to use the jet ski, just going out there,
20:03
Speaker 1: just right there to you And then and then, and
20:05
Speaker 1: I had made a major decision in my mind. Okay,
20:08
Speaker 1: do I act like I know how to swim and
20:10
Speaker 1: get on this jet ski or do I put on
20:13
Speaker 1: a life jacket. I made the decision, that's why you
20:17
Speaker 1: still hear me talking today, to put on this life
20:19
Speaker 1: jacket because I went out there and I fell off
20:21
Speaker 1: that jet ski and that jet ski went into a circle.
20:26
Speaker 1: And if I would not have had that jacket on,
20:29
Speaker 1: I would have drowned. I would have officially drowned that day.
20:33
Speaker 1: And that's what you're saying right there, is that we
20:35
Speaker 1: have to admit what we can't do to be able
20:38
Speaker 1: to accomplished what we can do. That's a resounding theme
20:42
Speaker 1: in this book. Correct, absolutely absolutely present. And with that
20:48
Speaker 1: being says right there, now let's talk about let's walk
20:52
Speaker 1: through this whole bud race. You know, you know you're
20:54
Speaker 1: already embarrassed yourself in the previous Mother race, So use
20:57
Speaker 1: the term you're the athlete. You've probably still cut up start,
20:59
Speaker 1: probably still had that had that stomach looking right. So
21:02
Speaker 1: they walk through the steps of that. You know, when
21:04
Speaker 1: you realize you died in that cold water. You dived
21:07
Speaker 1: in that cold water, and that body, and that body said,
21:10
Speaker 1: you know something, I'm gonna start talking now. I'm gonna
21:13
Speaker 1: take over this race and let you know how I
21:15
Speaker 1: feel about what you've been doing to me. You're in
21:20
Speaker 1: the water now, you're just like Rishan. But Rashan had
21:23
Speaker 1: a life jacket. Okay that when that jet ski was
21:26
Speaker 1: circling me, I could just see it circling but out
21:29
Speaker 1: a life jacket, and I was thanking God that you
21:32
Speaker 1: told me to put on his life jacket. You let
21:33
Speaker 1: me do nothing stupid. But unlike that, you have dived
21:36
Speaker 1: in this cold water. You don't have a life jacket.
21:40
Speaker 1: Walkers through the Steps, Trenta. So I dropped into the water,
21:49
Speaker 1: and like I'm exhausted, right, I don't know why they
21:51
Speaker 1: happened at the end anyway, but I dropped into the
21:53
Speaker 1: water on the trail. See your version of exhausted exhauster,
21:58
Speaker 1: my version of do different things. You are you are
22:01
Speaker 1: a superior athlete. You gotta say that because at the
22:04
Speaker 1: time you were leading, right, yep, I was you. So
22:08
Speaker 1: you're superior athlete that you're leading the race. You're on
22:12
Speaker 1: top of the wall. All you have to do a
22:13
Speaker 1: zip line drop into this water and you swim and
22:17
Speaker 1: you declare the victor. And and you know, just the
22:20
Speaker 1: mud race. And everybody know about these mud races. See
22:23
Speaker 1: is that really not too many black people? Later black
22:31
Speaker 1: people participate in these mud races. Okay, So here you are.
22:36
Speaker 1: You know, you're black man leading the mud race in Texas,
22:40
Speaker 1: not walking through the steps, not brother, Yes, and you're
22:45
Speaker 1: very it's funny, so I say, they makes it even
22:48
Speaker 1: more true. So I jumped into the drop into the
22:50
Speaker 1: water and I can swim something okay, cool, you know,
22:53
Speaker 1: not that bad with somebody capt the full body cramps,
22:55
Speaker 1: like the water is freezing, and so immediately like i
22:59
Speaker 1: know that I'm in trouble, but I'm like, okay, I'm
23:01
Speaker 1: not about to sit here and call out for help.
23:03
Speaker 1: I'm gonna push through. So I'm trying to swim and
23:06
Speaker 1: I just can't. And so the funny thing about it,
23:09
Speaker 1: there's a guy that drops in behind me, and I'm like,
23:12
Speaker 1: I'm asking him for help, like help, and he kind
23:14
Speaker 1: of looks at me like he stops and me keep swimming,
23:16
Speaker 1: and I'm like, hey, that's messed up. You know, I
23:18
Speaker 1: guess it ruin. You know, at that point, I'm like, okay,
23:23
Speaker 1: I'm panicking. So now now my helps are getting louder,
23:27
Speaker 1: and then you know, all the embarrassment is going out
23:29
Speaker 1: the window because i feel like I'm about to die.
23:30
Speaker 1: So I'm going I'm really fighting my doggy paddle in
23:33
Speaker 1: the water, fighting to stay above. Make a long story short,
23:37
Speaker 1: i end up like pretty much nobody. So there's people
23:40
Speaker 1: that worked there, right and I'm like, okay, somebody's gonna
23:42
Speaker 1: jump in. People were waiting for somebody else to do it.
23:45
Speaker 1: So they were literally they were trained to jump in
23:48
Speaker 1: and help. Nobody help. This guy throws a bully out there,
23:52
Speaker 1: which is probably you know, ten yards away from me,
23:54
Speaker 1: and I can't even move a yard. I'm like that
23:56
Speaker 1: doesn't help. So I just made my peaceful God. I'm like, okay,
23:59
Speaker 1: this is it. This almost go out. It's like it's
24:00
Speaker 1: the wrong way to go out, like at a at
24:02
Speaker 1: a month rate, driving in a little lake and two ways.
24:06
Speaker 1: I'm about to go down. I see a guy finally
24:08
Speaker 1: jump in, and so that like gave me the strength
24:10
Speaker 1: and like, okay, just kid, can push the fight all
24:13
Speaker 1: you can. Like I exhosted everything. Man, I to get
24:15
Speaker 1: too much t m I, but like my whole body
24:17
Speaker 1: was depleted, and I push up and then the guy
24:20
Speaker 1: finally comes out there. He saves me. He brings me
24:23
Speaker 1: to the side. He's mad, I mean, like he's gonna
24:26
Speaker 1: he had his boots and he was he wasn't the
24:27
Speaker 1: one supposed to jump in, so he's mad and he's like,
24:30
Speaker 1: if you can't swim, why don't you come out here?
24:32
Speaker 1: And I was like, man, I can't swim. I was like,
24:33
Speaker 1: what took you so long? Like, and I was, I
24:35
Speaker 1: was angry. Make a long story short. They take us
24:38
Speaker 1: to the tent and in the tentance it's two people
24:41
Speaker 1: in the tent and both of us was black. I
24:44
Speaker 1: was like, I was like god, I was like this,
24:46
Speaker 1: this would be the perfect stereotype for this. Make a
24:49
Speaker 1: little after after they got into the tip, I said,
24:52
Speaker 1: you know what, I'm getting my medal. I was like,
24:54
Speaker 1: I did, So I went over there, I grabbed my medal.
24:56
Speaker 1: Even I didn't finish, I'm getting my medal. So that
24:59
Speaker 1: just taught me valuable some man to ask for help,
25:02
Speaker 1: you know, and not be embarrassed to do it, because
25:04
Speaker 1: I probably saved myself a lot more if I were
25:06
Speaker 1: to really called out for help earlier. Well, well, that's
25:09
Speaker 1: why this book is about lessons. And I think the
25:12
Speaker 1: biggest thing I like one of the was so many
25:15
Speaker 1: great takeaways training. I'm gonna just tell you about the book.
25:17
Speaker 1: There's so many because they're relatable, and I think that
25:20
Speaker 1: that's what makes this a That's what makes this a
25:22
Speaker 1: very effective book and the effective read because of the
25:25
Speaker 1: fact that this is a scenario about this basically a
25:28
Speaker 1: story about when you need help, ask for That's what
25:32
Speaker 1: that whole journey of that story was in a in
25:36
Speaker 1: a nutshell saying that I'm gonna just show you how
25:39
Speaker 1: I pushed my body to a level where it was done.
25:44
Speaker 1: But my ego, my ego almost killed me, almost caused
25:50
Speaker 1: me to die because I refused to ask for help.
25:54
Speaker 1: Now what did you basically outside of just learning that,
25:57
Speaker 1: did you learn anything else other than saying if you
25:59
Speaker 1: need help, uh called for uh uh? Anything that's out
26:04
Speaker 1: of that whole scenario? Well? Yeah, Another big thing is,
26:09
Speaker 1: you know, every a lot of people ain't really ain't
26:12
Speaker 1: willing to reach their life for you because there are
26:15
Speaker 1: people there that I knew, you know, like that I
26:17
Speaker 1: knew that I saw watching like my man sing past you.
26:21
Speaker 1: You said, help excuse me, the finish la finish Yeah
26:26
Speaker 1: he he like he went and went past. So the
26:29
Speaker 1: thing I stick from that I tell people to this day,
26:32
Speaker 1: like a real friend, somebody who really is for you
26:35
Speaker 1: is not going to They're not gonna be the person
26:37
Speaker 1: that talks to you about you know, and watch you struggle,
26:40
Speaker 1: reports your struggles. They're gonna be a person that says,
26:42
Speaker 1: you know what, like we we we're gonna laugh about it.
26:44
Speaker 1: Because I was in there hoping you're struggling together or
26:47
Speaker 1: we didn't make it, and it's just like you realize
26:50
Speaker 1: that when struggle shows up, a lot of loyalty or
26:54
Speaker 1: a lot of you know, uh people claim that they're
26:57
Speaker 1: really for you will disappear. And they taught me a
26:59
Speaker 1: lot about that because literally, it was probably a hundred
27:02
Speaker 1: of people there that I knew because I lit a
27:05
Speaker 1: fitness class out there, and some people didn't see me,
27:07
Speaker 1: but I know for a fact about thirty people taught
27:11
Speaker 1: me in there, and they were they wasn't willing to
27:13
Speaker 1: risk their life or even you know, I don't even
27:15
Speaker 1: think it was a life risking situation, but they wasn't
27:17
Speaker 1: really get in there and helped me out. And so
27:19
Speaker 1: it just taught me a lot about when it gets real,
27:21
Speaker 1: you're gonna see who's really real, who's really there for you? Well,
27:24
Speaker 1: what's what's with that statement? Let's live the chapter five
27:26
Speaker 1: which I have that here called straight up about friends. Yeah,
27:30
Speaker 1: and I was talking to my staff the other day
27:32
Speaker 1: that was just you know, I'm I wouldn't say I'm
27:34
Speaker 1: a loner, but I'm I'm overachiever and I'm a guy
27:38
Speaker 1: who pivots, so that when I said, pivot means and
27:40
Speaker 1: when I see an opportunity trend, I will go and
27:43
Speaker 1: give to achieve success in that opportunity. So when you pivot,
27:47
Speaker 1: a lot of times you that means that the mindset.
27:49
Speaker 1: A lot of people go, hey, man, where are you
27:50
Speaker 1: going there? A lot of people will say, man, you
27:53
Speaker 1: you try to do everything. A lot of people were
27:55
Speaker 1: kind of like, uh, throw negative statements to you just
28:00
Speaker 1: because you're willing to put forth the after to be successful.
28:03
Speaker 1: So you have to always watch when people throw those
28:05
Speaker 1: cliches out there. You never satisfy or you're trying to.
28:08
Speaker 1: You're trying to be good at everything. You know, you know,
28:11
Speaker 1: so don't you just settled down? That's a lot of
28:13
Speaker 1: older people say to you, won't you just settled down?
28:15
Speaker 1: You're good at one thing? And so to me, as
28:19
Speaker 1: I went along, I told him, as a look, the
28:22
Speaker 1: people I graduated from high school, I don't really know
28:25
Speaker 1: him anymore. The people I went to college, there's a
28:28
Speaker 1: bunch of us started out together. I really don't know
28:30
Speaker 1: him anymore. The people that worked at my first job.
28:33
Speaker 1: And so as you go through life, you're you're gonna
28:36
Speaker 1: you're gonna pivot, You're gonna have people who believe in you,
28:40
Speaker 1: and you're gonna have people that support you, but more importantly,
28:43
Speaker 1: surround yourself with the people who are uh, the street
28:46
Speaker 1: term it's ride or die, but basically that's what you
28:50
Speaker 1: gotta have. And sometimes even those ride to die people
28:52
Speaker 1: when you pivot, might not be ready for that change,
28:55
Speaker 1: and you may need to say, you know, I'm sorry,
28:57
Speaker 1: this is where our relationship end. And that's what that's
29:00
Speaker 1: what professional sports does. Professional sports they know how to pivot.
29:03
Speaker 1: They go, look, you know, you you good five years ago.
29:06
Speaker 1: You may it was good last season, but I got
29:08
Speaker 1: somebody else. And life is about pivoting, and that's what
29:11
Speaker 1: That was my great takeaway from that chapter. I wanted
29:14
Speaker 1: to hear your your take on it as well. That
29:16
Speaker 1: was chapter five straight up about friends. Yeah. Absolutely. Um.
29:21
Speaker 1: I always said when when you hit new levels, you're
29:22
Speaker 1: gonna probably get new relationships because everybody won't be willing
29:25
Speaker 1: to grow with you. That's just facts. You know, there's
29:28
Speaker 1: some people that don't understand that. There's some people that
29:30
Speaker 1: don't want to put in the work, there's some people
29:31
Speaker 1: that it makes the uncomfortable. And so as you continue
29:34
Speaker 1: to move and progress with your life, You're going to
29:36
Speaker 1: lose people. And that's something I have to realize because
29:39
Speaker 1: for me, it was like, why don't you get this?
29:42
Speaker 1: And like you said, those cliches like I have, people
29:44
Speaker 1: say are you still doing that little rehab time thing?
29:46
Speaker 1: Or why are you you know, and it's because a
29:49
Speaker 1: lot of people don't understand just greatness. They don't they
29:52
Speaker 1: don't understand going for your dreams. A lot of people
29:54
Speaker 1: talk about it, but a lot of people don't have
29:56
Speaker 1: that mindset. And so what's helped me um, you know,
30:00
Speaker 1: over these years, it's finding people that have that mindset,
30:03
Speaker 1: finding people who who challenge me, finding people who are
30:06
Speaker 1: either at where I want to be, are are trying
30:09
Speaker 1: their hardest to get where I want to be. And
30:11
Speaker 1: the more I'm surrounded myself around people with those values,
30:14
Speaker 1: it's tended to stick relationships in my life right because
30:17
Speaker 1: I got around people not for external reasons, are not
30:21
Speaker 1: because you know, we just connect like that, but because
30:24
Speaker 1: you have a mindset that I wouldn't mind catching. Because
30:26
Speaker 1: mindsets are very constatious, which you surround your life around,
30:29
Speaker 1: you're gonna be that, you know, for if you stay
30:31
Speaker 1: around that for a long period of time, so I'm
30:33
Speaker 1: trying to find mindsets that grow mind and that give
30:36
Speaker 1: me outside of my comfort zone as much as I can.
30:39
Speaker 1: I want to close out with this last chapter here
30:41
Speaker 1: talking to Trent Shelton, I want to just talk about
30:44
Speaker 1: this whole thought about fear. And in chapter ten it's
30:49
Speaker 1: about straight up about fear. And I always talk about
30:51
Speaker 1: fear what I talk to people, because fear of change,
30:54
Speaker 1: fear of you know, the pandemic has really taught us
30:58
Speaker 1: a lot about fear because of the fact that it's
31:01
Speaker 1: it's forced us to live in a life that we
31:03
Speaker 1: wouldn't do, we didn't prepare for, and it's forced us
31:06
Speaker 1: to make adjustments, financial adjustment, social adjustments. And this chapter
31:10
Speaker 1: I think it is so relevant now and because of
31:14
Speaker 1: the fact of the pandemic, and it's about facing the dog,
31:17
Speaker 1: as you say, and the dog is about you know,
31:20
Speaker 1: I always tell when you're growing up, they say, if
31:22
Speaker 1: you stare a dog barking, if you stare at him,
31:24
Speaker 1: he had cower down. That's what they tell you, you know,
31:27
Speaker 1: you know. But but that chapter I thought was so
31:31
Speaker 1: important to me because of what is happening right now,
31:35
Speaker 1: facing reality, willing to make change, failures and fatal how
31:40
Speaker 1: they had fear talk about that and were wrapped us
31:42
Speaker 1: up trending. I really appreciate you coming on the show. Well,
31:47
Speaker 1: I appreciate you, man, And uh, you know, fear is this,
31:50
Speaker 1: you know, I think there's two types of fear, right,
31:52
Speaker 1: There's a fear that that that keeps you a live
31:54
Speaker 1: as a friend, that tells you, hey, you shouldn't go
31:56
Speaker 1: do that because more than likely, you know, maybe it
31:59
Speaker 1: was me jumped. Like if you get on the on
32:01
Speaker 1: the gear, right, it's like your fear told you, hey,
32:03
Speaker 1: you might go on like this. So there's a smart fear.
32:06
Speaker 1: But there's also a fear that keeps us from being
32:09
Speaker 1: everything that we're created to be. Our keep us from progressive,
32:11
Speaker 1: and we usually happens with here is that we allow
32:14
Speaker 1: things we can't control to control us. Are as I
32:17
Speaker 1: like to say, we create a result from a situation.
32:20
Speaker 1: We haven't experienced that. And so if when I think
32:22
Speaker 1: about my fear of public speaking, it was I was
32:24
Speaker 1: telling myself I was gonna fail. I was telling myself
32:26
Speaker 1: people are gonna laugh at me before I ever started.
32:29
Speaker 1: And so if you're telling yourself that, you're never going
32:32
Speaker 1: to do it. And so the thing that I love
32:33
Speaker 1: to tell people is that one focus on what you
32:36
Speaker 1: can control and to change the experience right, say okay,
32:40
Speaker 1: even if it doesn't go right, I'm going to growth
32:42
Speaker 1: from this. I'm gonna learn from this, and you will
32:44
Speaker 1: find the courage to walk through that door fear every
32:48
Speaker 1: single time if what it waits for you it's something
32:50
Speaker 1: that's positive. So I just think that's how we we
32:53
Speaker 1: really challenge fear is by facing it. And this is
32:57
Speaker 1: the thing too, You'll never when you're a war by
32:58
Speaker 1: runner from your battles. So people want to complain about
33:01
Speaker 1: the reality, but you'll never change it. My man. I
33:04
Speaker 1: want to appreciate you that I'm talking to Trent Shelton,
33:07
Speaker 1: the author of the amazing book that's coming out August four,
33:10
Speaker 1: but you can pre order it right now. It's called
33:11
Speaker 1: Straight Up The Helpful Book Guys young adults to establish
33:15
Speaker 1: healthy relationships, chase after their dreams, and live their very
33:19
Speaker 1: best life. Thank you Trent for coming on the show,
33:21
Speaker 1: my friend, and we will be in touch. Get those
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33:27
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