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Consistency is Key · Spinning the Light Podcast

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Hello and welcome to two girls in the pod.
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I'm Sharon. Hi, I'm Christy.
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Hope all of you are doing well. As always you know about
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gratitude statements for that today.
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You know, one of the things we've been sometimes I think we
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struggle with this well is consistency.
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Yeah, especially when you have holidays come around.
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Sometimes consistency slips by the wayside.
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That is true, you know, And I think The thing is, is that, you
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know, we get so caught up in the tradition or all those
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activities or festivities and, you know, then we think to
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ourselves, you know, we really don't want to miss out on that
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stuff. Yeah, you know, so then we
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partake and then it turns out bad sometimes or doesn't even
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come about bad. And, you know, that's just
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about, you know, you know, we're talking about in that case, you
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know, the things that we eat and staying on your exercise
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programs and doing all of those things that I think are
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important. But it's consistency with
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everything, you know. And I think it's funny to me how
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you know, when I I'm talking with people and they say, well,
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you have to do something for 21 days or this many days, and you
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have a habit. But a habit is different than
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consistency. Consistency is something a habit
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is something that we will form over time, but it's usually not.
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We talked about while we get in the habit of working out, but
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it's the consistency that creates the habit.
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Yeah, well yeah, exactly. Cuz the it's it takes a while to
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create a habit. And I mean I don't even know how
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they can say a certain amount of days or whatever.
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I think that, you know, OK, on average they say that.
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But in order to make it a habit, you definitely have to have that
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consistency. And you know, one of the things
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we have found even with this podcast to remain consistent and
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we hear from everything that we read and other podcasts, all
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stuff, you have to be consistent and the consistency is what's
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important. And we are now over 100 podcasts
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in. So I think we're doing pretty
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good as far as consistency goes. What do you think?
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Yeah. But it does.
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It takes some ambition and effort to make that happen.
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And sometimes you know, some planning and that, but that's
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the key part of it. And I think that's what it is,
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is you know, it's consistency with and and when we're talking
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about consistency, it's not just, you know, people think,
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well, I'm consistent with my workout or whatever, but you
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know our consistency with our relationships even because when
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we stop being consistent and inconsistency requires I think
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an awareness to have a conscious awareness that you're doing
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something that there's an action taking place.
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Yes. And often times what I find is,
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and I could be guilty of this every once in a while, a little
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bit of inaction. Well, procrastination is
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definitely an issue for many, many people.
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You know, I said in action, she's saying procrastination.
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I don't know what this means. I know, it just turned so ugly
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right there, didn't it? You know?
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And procrastination can be one of those things some people say,
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well, you know, I'm a procrastinator because when I
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procrastinate, I that's when I really produce the best things,
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you know? But the problem is, is that
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without that consistency, that starts to catch up with you it.
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Becomes inaction a lot of times, absolutely.
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And I think that's what we're talking about here, is that
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consistency. And you know, one of the things
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that we've really shifted our focus to a little bit more is
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even being consistent with our relationships, making sure we're
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reaching out, being consistent with it.
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It's not that those people don't know that we still care, but
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once again, consistency is an action.
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And so that's been one of the things that we've kind of
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implemented in the last probably 8 months.
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Something like that is really shifting that focus to being
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consistent with our friendships, making sure we're reaching out
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to them, hanging out with them on a more consistent basis
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instead of once every, you know, 6-8 months, whatever.
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But I find that, and even in that, I don't know about with
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you, but I find that I'm really liking it because we're staying
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more up to date with our friends and what's going on with them
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and all that. Well, we've talked about a lot
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of times how you know those friendships and that really feed
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your soul and hopefully everyone has someone like that in their
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life. And I think if you maintain that
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consistently, that is a part of taking care of you as well.
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And you know, we talk about. You know how important that is
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and you know if you make that a priority and yeah, sometimes
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it's a it's a slow go with things.
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But that that's what that's what creates that eventually.
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Like you say a habit. You know you're building
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something takes some time. Well and I think the other thing
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with consistency is is and you know I always tell you this I've
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done how many crunches where where's my 6 pack.
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And I think that with consistency we, I think a lot of
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times our frame of mind becomes if I do this for three weeks
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then I should have this result. So therefore we then stop doing
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well that didn't work. On to the next thing, not
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understanding that it's that consistency is a continuation.
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And I hear that a lot about even like with weight loss programs
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and things like that, people eventually.
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It's like they get tired of it or that you know, and that's
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why. So if you're no longer being
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consistent, you're not going to see that result happen or what
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people are is they're consistent till they lose the weight and
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then they stop. Well, I reach my goal weight
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now. I don't have to do anything.
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Not understanding that it was the consistency of what they
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were doing that got them to the goal weight and that consistency
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is what's going to keep them at the maintenance weight.
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Yes, exactly. You know, like I said, it's with
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anything, you know. I think that people get so
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fixated on the end result and that's the thing.
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They think, OK, we'll do this and and it's for an amount of
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time and OK, I reached it, you know, but that's not how things
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work. I mean, we're constantly, you
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know, changing and we're constantly having to create
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those better healthy habits and they have to be consistent in
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order to have the result you want.
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I can't tell you how many times in therapy I'm telling my
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clients that I need you to practice this on a daily.
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I need you to be consistent with this in order for us to see
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those changes. And then, you know, once they
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see the change, then there is more of that motivation, but
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it's getting. But sometimes it's like, well, I
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tried that didn't work. Well, how many times did you try
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it? Well, twice.
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OK, well, that's not enough, you know.
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So even with that, sometimes I'll get some pushback with that
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about, well, how long do I have to do it?
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As long as it takes? As long as that consistency
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takes in order for you to get where you want to be.
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Yeah, and exactly. When you get to that point where
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you want to be, you have to understand that there still has
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to be a consistency. You just have to redefine what
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that looks like. It's, it's constantly morphing
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the things that you have to do, but it's it's maintenance.
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Well and I'll tell you know, some of my clients will say,
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well, I don't, I want to get off my medication or I want to do
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this. I said, well, then you have to
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do something consistently and practice at it to change the
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need for the medication. You know, whatever that is, you
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know, then you know, then you talk with your doctor.
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What are some of the things they're recommending?
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That's what are some of the things we can do.
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And I do have clients who will remain consistent and get off
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their medication, you know. And you reach that goal and then
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you have to look at what coping skills are you.
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Creating in the meantime to where that when you hit, you
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know a pitfall of some kind that you're able to still stay
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consistent. Exactly.
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And I think The thing is is and even when they get to that
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place, I'll tell them, but you got to keep using the skills
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that you learned on a consistent basis in order for you to not
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regress. Yeah, regress is a good word,
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you know. And so the ones who do it and
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they remain consistent. It's amazing when you you know
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when we're having these conversations, they're able to
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see, but they're able to see that there is an action that's
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taking place instead of becoming complacent.
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And I think that's the the biggest thing is we often times
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we'll fall into complacency because it feels comfortable.
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It's not a lot of work. Well, and sometimes you have to
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be able to identify, you know, we've talked about, you know,
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inconsistencies. Even where it comes to jobs or
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things like that and the way they deal with things, you know,
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So I mean you have to learn to identify what the problem is
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with that. Well, and you know, one of the
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things that sparked this conversation with us is that I
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was listening to this interview with one of the Denver Broncos
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defensive people and apparently one of the them got suspended.
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And he goes, it's not the rule that it's the problem, it's the
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consistency with the rule. If you're going to, the rule has
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to be consistent across the board.
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So apparently his teammate didn't get a penalty flag but
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got a suspension. On the other team they got the
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penalty flag but no suspension. And then he comes back and he
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said if you're going to have a new rule for us, then make it be
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consistent because the consistency is what's going to
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help us. When we don't have that
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consistency, then we then what it's creating is a mental thing.
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Exactly. Well, it sends a very mixed
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message and people don't know how to deal with it that there's
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not. If there's not a uniform way of
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dealing with something, then, you know, it throws you off when
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you're dealing with something like that.
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And I think The thing is this is people's livelihood, you know,
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and and that frustration of he made a good point.
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He goes, then teach us, tell us what we need to do in order to
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not break to to to follow this rule that you've put into place.
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And I think we find that often. And I will even hear that in my
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office over and over and over and over again.
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You know, it's parents who are not consistent with their
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parenting. Then they're in here.
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Well, why? Why is my kid doing this or why
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is this happening? Are you being consistent?
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You give in and then the rule no longer applies.
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Yes, that inconsistency sends a mixed message.
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So of course, you know, as a kid you want to do what you want to
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do. You're going to push that
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envelope if you think there's a possibility that you're going
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to, you know, be able to get by with it.
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I always tell the kids I work with, Miss Sharon's like you, I
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want to do what I want to do when I want to do it.
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And they'll often ask me, do you get in trouble?
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I said I can. I have to be consistent with you
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too, but it's true. And then, you know, on the other
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side of it, I'm having people in my office who are saying, hey,
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my boss is not consistent. I don't understand the rules.
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It keeps changing. So they're in my office, very
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dysregulated, not because they don't like the job, not because
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they don't feel like they're even good at the job.
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But though they start to question, am I even good at what
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I'm doing? Because I'm doing it the way you
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told me to, but now something's different.
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You want this, but you didn't tell me this.
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So even the more consistently are, the more there's kind of
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Peace of Mind, I think. Oh yeah, definitely.
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I think about how much more uniformly an office would run if
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if you know bosses approached it from that angle and you know it,
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you see it all the time inconsistencies, but between
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employees or between different situations and that and that
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makes it difficult for people because.
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You're you're not really sure what should be done if we don't
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have that uniform thing to follow it.
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It really. I mean I can yeah, cuz I can
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think back in my life about different times that I thought,
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I don't know what you're wanting from me.
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I don't know what this expectation is.
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So then I spend a lot of time trying to figure out the
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expectation. And even if I ask the question,
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it might be, well, today we want you to do this.
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And then the next day it's, well, maybe you got to do it,
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this man. And that's very difficult.
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And you know, one of the things is is, and this is really
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important to me, is I remain consistent with my clients, the
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way I interact with them, there's always a consistency.
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When I worked with kids, I stayed consistent and I don't
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care how cute they were, if they broke the rule, they broke the
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rule in my office. So very, it was very rare that a
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child would break the rule in my office because I was very
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consistent and I helped them understand the rule first,
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right. And I always tell people, you
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know, we have to have a little bit of a ramp up though.
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You know when you're in a new job and you're learning stuff,
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you have a ramp up period of time.
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And I always tell people, so give yourself a little bit of
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grace on that too. If you're working out, if you're
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starting a new workout program and say your goal is this, but
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say you don't meet that goal, that's OK.
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You're still having an action. And I think that's the biggest
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thing, is it's the action that we're having.
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And that consistency is still moving towards that goal.
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But often times they'll sit there and say, well, I didn't do
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it, So you know, they throw their hands up and start again.
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And I mean, I've been guilty of that every once in a while in my
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past, I think most of us have been.
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But when we do have that consistency and we get to see
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the end result. Yeah, that to me is the biggest
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thing. You know, there are some things
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you and I are always consistent on.
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That is our gratitude. Yeah, gratitude statements.
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And I wish you know more people would understand.
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Of course you talk about, you know, helping people understand
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how gratitude rewires the brain and how it helps you to change
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your point of view on so many things.
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And how it improves your life. Well and how when you started
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out sometimes it's so interesting because when I do
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this with my clients and I'll see them go blank and they're
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like you don't have anything to be granted.
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And they'll what they're doing is they're trying to think of
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this grand statement or what am I supposed to say, oh, I'm
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grateful for my children even though they just pissed you off
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5 minutes ago and you're really ticked off at them and you think
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there's that I don't want to be grateful or whatever my spouse
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or my friend or whatever. And I think that's part of the
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other thing is that there's that gratitude is for everything.
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It was something that when we first started it was the
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practice of it, you know and with the more we practice the
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more consistent. Now we do it every morning and
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we do it every night before we go to bed.
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It is part of our practice. We don't skip that.
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No. And the consistency of it, I
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feel, I feel that consistency. I feel how following through has
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had that benefit. Exactly.
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It creates that positive energy in your life around you know so
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many things and being able to have gratitude even for the
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lessons and all of that. It's really important,
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Absolutely. You know, another thing that we
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have really worked on and and are more consistent on is our
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eating. We missed that ship a lot and
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the beginning we like going along.
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We're doing so good. And then boop.
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That's it's another thing that's maintenance throughout your
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life. So you'll still have moments
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where you'll think I can go back in time and and have that
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whatever it was I used to eat. And then you realize that was a
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bad idea. Yeah, that lack of consistency
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in that instance really shows you because you're you don't
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feel good. Once again, it's those things of
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how do we be consistent. And even when we started this
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podcast that everything was you got to be consistent, you got to
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be consistent, you got to be consistent.
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And so we have worked to be consistent and I feel like we do
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that and hopefully people appreciate the fact that we have
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that consistency and we've we've always said if it's that one
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person who's listening to us and waiting for us to put out the
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podcast, then that's what we do, we do it.
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If it's for that one person 1000, it doesn't matter because
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that one person is expecting that consistency from us.
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You know, that's usually Sandra. We appreciate you.
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Yeah. When's your next podcast coming
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out? What's going to be about?
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And I love that about her. She is.
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There's others, but we know she's consistent because we
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actually talk with her about it, you know, But we talk with her,
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even we we talk with our friends about consistency.
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We talk about, you know, how do we get where we want to be?
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You know, we have those conversations with friends.
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Exactly. And, you know, I mean, sometimes
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you get overwhelmed because you feel like there's a lot to do
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when you're trying to achieve something in particular.
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But it's even in that having the consistency on, you know, if you
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only have 30 minutes to work on it today, OK, do that.
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And if it only comes down to, hey, I need to get this e-mail
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sent, go ahead and do that. Once you do that one thing, that
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sense of accomplishment. Is is so empowering.
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What I see often times is people say it's all or nothing and and
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everyone's fight could be that way just a little bit not as
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much anymore when I was younger but it was it was very much all
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or nothing. If I if I started something I
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had to finish it If I and it was like but then if you don't even
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if it caused you to run down or you know whatever that was but
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understanding you know and you know they say with age comes
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wisdom you know maybe that's what it is.
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I don't know but I do find that what I do now is I will do that
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you know and I'll and if I have you know and people are
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requesting stuff for me whether it's other but there's doctors
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requesting records or VA or Social Security.
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You know whoever it is lawyer whoever you know.
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I'll always say you know I can't get to it today but I will get
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to it by the end of the week and then I do my best to do that.
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It used to be I would stop everything, but if I stopped
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everything then that would meant I was neglecting something else.
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So I've learned that there's a balance even in that in in that
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consistency of telling them you know this and and with
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consistency comes boundaries because you have to set those
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boundaries in order to be consistent.
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You have to be consistent with the boundary.
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But you know, sometimes people want more time or things like
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that. And when I work with my clients,
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they want more from me and I don't have the time I got.
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I want to be doing this, but I can't do this.
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So that now they're trying to do both and they're they're
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spreading themselves too thin. And then it's like we'll set a
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boundary with that person and let them know, you know, know,
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on this day and this day, I'm just not available.
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Yeah, exactly. You know, and oh, being
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consistent with boundaries is that's a tough one for
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everybody, I think, right. I think so.
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Well, I think it's because you you often times people think,
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well it's only a few minutes, maybe I can just fit that in or
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you know, yeah, no we're not, you know, then pretty soon it
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becomes longer than it's supposed to be and things like
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that and a 5 minute conversation turns into 1/2 hour and you know
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you didn't get anything done and.
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And not that sometimes those things aren't important and
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they're relevant and and we have to do them, you know?
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But it's when it's it's happening more often and it's
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really interfering with the things that are important to us
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and what we're trying to do. So I think that's kind of what
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I'm saying. And and once again there's a
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balance in everything and and when we're consistent and it's
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balanced, it feels right. Definitely you feel like you're
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in alignment with things even if it's just a minute thing that
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you got done. It may not seem like a big
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thing, but like I said, that sense of accomplishment that
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comes from it, for one thing, and you're one step closer to a
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goal that you have set. I had just recently posted a
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meme on 2 Girls on a Pod on Facebook about, you know, set
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some realistic goals for yourself.
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You're you are not able to do everything all at once.
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And that's OK. It's not meant to be that way.
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We have to learn from the whole process.
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And you know, I think that's the really big thing is we forget
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that. Things can be done in baby
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steps, and you always tell my clients it's baby steps, man, we
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don't have to. We're not trying to change you
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overnight. You didn't get here overnight.
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How can we change you overnight? We just remain consistent with
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the little steps that we're doing.
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Each step, we do consistency with it.
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We're doing little stepping stones each time.
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Each thing we do is that next stepping stone to what it is
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that we're wanting, but being consistent on that first baby
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step. Is important because once I'm
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consistent on that, then I get to the next one and then the
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next one and then pretty soon that goal is not so far away and
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it actually feels more attainable.
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Yeah, and it requires some self-discipline to be able to.
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To do that, yeah, I know, but but it does.
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Well, and it does. And I think The thing is though,
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is I think sometimes when we feel it, when people think about
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consistency, I think they think, oh man, that's a lot of work.
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But I don't think it's a lot of work.
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I think what it is is that we've been taught that things are
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hard. And if it's hard, then I don't
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want to do it. You know, when we, when people
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are changing their diet, Oh my God, I've got to give this up
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and give that up. And I always tell people don't
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talk about what you're giving up, talk about what you're going
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to start taking on. I guess we're just not
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conditioned to do that, you know, early on.
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So I tell people. Think about that.
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Don't, don't sit there and say, Oh my God, I got to give up
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this, this and this. And then pretty soon it's like,
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oh, that's just too much. I'm not going to do any of that.
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I'm not going to have any flavor in my life exactly.
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You have to shift your focus on to creating something.
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And that's what the biggest thing is, is that consistency is
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about a creation. It's not about letting go of
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stuff. And I think we, as I think as a
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human beings, I don't know, we we want to hold on to crap, man.
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We don't want to give up. We don't want to give up things.
23:32
I'm not going to be a quitter. I'm not going to be a quitter of
23:34
those Twinkies or when attached. But I think that that happened
23:40
so much of the time. And then it's how do we change
23:43
that verbiage in our head in order to understand that that's
23:48
not the way this works. You know, we have the ability to
23:54
replace. And sometimes what we replace it
23:58
with is so much more valuable and important to us than what we
24:03
are not having any longer. It becomes something that's so
24:07
much more fulfilling if we just give it that opportunity.
24:10
But in order to for you know, for that opportunity, you have
24:14
to remain consistent. You know, we've talked a little
24:16
bit about that with you and your sweets, chocolate.
24:21
You know, that was one thing that was that took you a hot
24:24
minute. A lot of people will think, you
24:27
know, you're just you're you're so set that you know that I just
24:31
don't like that or I won't do this or whatever.
24:34
Well, as soon as you say that in your mind, you've given yourself
24:37
that message that you absolutely are not going to.
24:39
Giving yourself permission, right.
24:41
And what if you started saying to yourself, well, I'll try it,
24:44
I'll try it again, I'll try it again.
24:46
And eventually like I said with with food, I would say it's you
24:51
change, your palate changes over time, it really does and you
24:55
have a little bit of power in that if you continue to test the
24:59
waters. You have to be consistent even
25:01
with that. Yes, it's try a little bit.
25:04
I think this year is the year I finally said I don't like
25:07
pumpkin pie because every year at Thanksgiving I will take a
25:13
piece, I'll, I'll say OK, maybe, but I keep trying.
25:16
I say OK, that little piece, that little piece.
25:20
And guess what? No.
25:21
I don't like the consistency. I love pumpkin everything else.
25:25
And this year, there wasn't even a pumpkin pie to be had.
25:28
So we didn't. So I didn't, Yeah, I didn't have
25:29
to even sit there and say, Oh my God, because I think I'm at the
25:33
place now. I've been really consistent
25:34
trying it, and that consistency has now told me I don't like
25:39
pumpkin pie, just accept it and move on.
25:41
Yes. So on to the next.
25:43
But there are foods, you know, for you eating fruit.
25:48
Yeah, cuz I that was one of the main things.
25:50
I hardly ever ate fruit, but it wasn't sweet enough to me
25:54
because I was used to candy and that kind of stuff.
25:58
And so to to get away from that, I had to gradually start with
26:04
the fruits that I already could tolerate and then move up from
26:09
there. Now I eat different fruits and I
26:12
will. I I try to choose fruit over
26:15
anything else for something sweet.
26:17
But you've had to really work on the consistency with that trying
26:20
that little bit at a time and you would and you'd scowl and
26:25
but you know and now you know we do and that's become another
26:29
thing that we do is we will try a lot of different fruits from
26:32
different places and stuff like that.
26:35
Some not so good and some are very strange, but you know we
26:37
still that's become our thing. You know, we're consistent too.
26:42
When we go to other countries or even other places, we will try a
26:48
food from there. You know, just because we want
26:52
to you know, we want to broaden our views in our palate I guess.
26:58
Yeah, See what the rave is all about when when you go to Puerto
27:03
Rico and try the plantains. I am not fond of plantains.
27:08
So we'll see how that goes when we eventually get over there.
27:13
And I think it's. And I tell her I said I wonder
27:15
if it's the way they're made, if they make them different because
27:17
it's such a staple for them. I don't know, my Puerto Rican
27:20
client says that. We just haven't eaten, eaten the
27:23
right way. So then I can believe that I I
27:26
was the same way about Brussels sprouts.
27:27
I did not know there was another way besides boiling them, and
27:31
now that I know they could be made good, I like them so.
27:35
Yeah, oh, I know. We we went out with some friends
27:38
for her birthday and we went to a gastropub and she looked at me
27:43
and she had Brussels sprouts and she goes, you want to try my
27:46
Brussels sprouts? And I like I go.
27:48
She goes, oh really? She goes, I thought you said
27:50
you'd try new things. I said like, God, I hate that
27:53
they know this shit. So I tried and I actually liked
27:56
it. So that was my first time I ate
27:58
a Brussels sprout that I liked, and now I learned how to make
28:01
them so I can make them at home. Yeah, they're really good.
28:04
But that's what I mean, you know, it's that, it's that
28:06
consistency of trying new things too, you know, and.
28:09
Sometimes it's a hit and miss, but you know, and it takes some
28:12
self talk. I mean, I like even when I
28:15
started, you know, a workout program and that I had done that
28:18
in the past in different ways and stuff like that and
28:21
eventually just felt overwhelmed I guess and gave up on it.
28:25
And you know, the last time that I was like, you know, I'm, I'm
28:30
going to do this and I thought what if I just kept going?
28:34
What if I just keep going And you know, I feel like I feel so
28:39
much healthier than I ever have. So I mean, like I say, it takes
28:44
a lot of self talk sometimes, but.
28:47
Well, you realize you could be a little more athletic too, which
28:49
is kind of cool, but you would not have known that had you not
28:54
stayed consistent with working out and doing yoga stuff and
29:01
things like that. And I think we sell ourselves
29:04
short sometimes because. You know, whether somebody else
29:07
tells us, oh you're not good at that or you know whatever that
29:10
is and and then we we try it. You know, like you said, we try
29:15
it and we say, oh, well, they were right.
29:16
I'm not good at that. So I'm just not going to do it.
29:18
Or we put that doubt in our mind and then what happens is we
29:23
stay. We never challenge ourselves and
29:26
it do that consistency, you know your flexibility and all of that
29:31
has improved so much and you continue and you're very
29:33
consistent with it. I'm more consistent.
29:36
I found what works for me with my work schedule and stuff.
29:39
Yeah, and she told me she goes, How can you even say that?
29:41
She goes, you work every other Friday.
29:44
You have Saturday, Sunday and Monday on.
29:49
There's some time in there somewhere.
29:51
God, I hate when she said that to me, that I'm thinking, man,
29:54
I'm making excuses, but I don't do that now.
29:58
I do. I really do do my best to get it
29:59
in. And Wednesday's is hard for me
30:01
because I'm at my office. And so I don't have time I I
30:06
just go back-to-back on that day.
30:08
But I find that I miss it now well and and nobody says you're
30:12
required to do it seven days a week.
30:15
So you know, you figure out your schedule and you see what works
30:18
and and it's the consistency of that, whether it be 3 or 4 days
30:23
or whatever. But I think that's what I mean
30:25
though is that when you are consistent with something that
30:29
day, you're not consistent, you kind of miss it.
30:31
But if you. I would, I probably wouldn't
30:33
miss it. But because once again I go
30:35
back-to-back on those days, I don't.
30:38
Sometimes I'm there like I got like 2000 steps of that one day
30:43
I got home and I had like 1700 and be like, Oh my God, you
30:47
know, what did I do? Sit on my butt all day and then
30:49
I say, Oh yeah, I do. That's what I do on those days.
30:52
But then what did you do? You went and you looked at the
30:54
days that you could do something and when you, like I said, get
30:58
into consistently doing stuff like that, it's those little
31:02
steps forward. And it was.
31:04
And I appreciated you because you really helped me with that
31:07
because once again, sometimes I can be a little, all or nothing.
31:11
Well, not as much as I used to be.
31:12
Remember that? But yeah, so that was kind of
31:16
something that was really good for me to learn not you don't
31:21
have to beat yourself up when you don't, when you don't do it
31:24
or when you don't meet that goal.
31:26
And then remembering that it's all baby steps and.
31:29
You know, sometimes I think we just get on this thing where we
31:31
have this idea and we have this vision of what it is that we're
31:34
wanting. And we see We.
31:37
I think sometimes we see the end goal.
31:40
Yeah, you know, you get fixated on it.
31:42
Yeah, that. Yeah, that's a good way of
31:44
putting it, yeah. But you can't, you know, have a
31:47
a mental implode when you know something happens that that
31:51
doesn't allow you to maybe get in everything that you wanted to
31:54
do. I mean, you do have to give
31:56
yourself that grace. This is her talking.
31:58
But ask her what happens when she has to miss a workout.
32:03
Well, I know I I have to work with it.
32:05
Exactly. It's maintenance.
32:07
Didn't we say that? I come down and I'm like, oh
32:12
God, she hasn't worked out. I think I'll go to the other
32:15
floor. Well, it's because when you, you
32:20
know, you create that and you want to have that consistency.
32:23
When you get out of your pattern, you know it really.
32:27
It throws you off sometimes. And I agree.
32:29
I think that there's, you know, but it.
32:31
But I think the really cool thing too is when is when you're
32:34
doing these things, when you can have somebody to do it with
32:38
because it helps with that accountability.
32:41
And and I have a client and that's what he says, he goes, I
32:44
have to go work out because they're expecting me.
32:47
But it's it's helped him to remain consistent whether it's
32:50
hiking or whatever it is. And a lot of times that's what
32:53
we do. It's like, Oh my goodness, I've
32:54
got to be consistent because. We we feel an obligation or
32:59
whatever, whatever it is, it works.
33:01
You know what I mean? And I don't even know if it's an
33:03
obligation, but I really do feel like it's an encouragement and
33:06
and I always feel like you're always encouraging me, you know,
33:09
to remember to to show myself a little grace to do the thing.
33:14
Because sometimes my job, you know, even though I work on
33:17
those three days, I sometimes my job is not done on those days
33:21
because I'll have other things that I have to attend to.
33:24
It's it's getting better and. You know, even our consistency
33:27
with making sure we get our podcast done, because that's
33:31
super important to us. Exactly.
33:33
And I know that there have been times, you know, where if we've
33:36
had to skip a week or something like that, I mean, and it it
33:40
bothers us if we have to do that.
33:41
But you know, life happens and and things like that, you know,
33:46
will come about. But we do our best not to do
33:50
that. But.
33:51
And that's why. Because once again, the people
33:55
who listen. They're important to us and you
33:58
know if anything we say resonates then we're happy about
34:03
that you know and you know that and and one of the things is
34:08
once again that thing of consistency and and I I know we
34:11
thought about you know it's conversations we had but when I
34:14
really listened to that football player and just his constant
34:18
thing of be consistent. Help us.
34:22
It creates frustration if you don't know what's expected in
34:25
that. So I mean I think even just
34:28
being able to identify that piece of it when there is
34:31
inconsistencies with you know, work or whatever it is that's
34:35
going to help you. And I think he made a really
34:37
good point because he said something about, you know, the
34:39
NFL is all about our mental health, he said.
34:42
But you know what happens if you're doing that to some young
34:45
player who does not have that type of support system that this
34:48
player has? Now what have we done to that
34:51
person's mental health that that lack of consistency?
34:56
I'm telling you can mess with our brain so much it wreaks
35:00
havoc. And then, like I said, I mean,
35:02
it's even like we do it to ourselves.
35:04
We talked about, you know, when you get so down on yourself
35:08
because maybe you've missed something, then you know it
35:13
doesn't help you advance. When you're talking so
35:15
negatively to yourself, you end up throwing in the towel.
35:19
And I mean that's coming from you yourself.
35:22
But I think when you look at an organization that is not that
35:27
you're not understanding. So you feel like you're doing
35:30
what you're supposed to be doing, but now it's not what
35:32
you're supposed to be doing, then you sit there and say,
35:34
well, what do you see? What I mean?
35:36
I can understand why that would that would create some emotion
35:39
in that person. I would think definitely, and
35:41
that's why I'm saying I think it's important for individuals
35:44
to be able to recognize when that's happening that that is
35:47
the issue because you're, you know, you get frustrated with
35:50
yourself. But you know, if it's the
35:52
inconsistency of an employer or something like that, if you
35:56
identify that, I think it's gonna help you.
35:59
And I always tell people you know have a voice in those
36:02
situations when and I work with that been a theme of mine for
36:05
the last two or three weeks with some of my clients and and it's
36:09
the inconsistency and and they're in my office they're
36:11
frustrated they feel like they're not good employees.
36:16
Why can't I understand why am I not listening?
36:18
You know, and it's not that when they explain it exact and and
36:24
you know, they'll say and people say, well, how do you know
36:26
they're explaining it, right. Because sometimes they have
36:29
emails or texts they're trying to understand, did I
36:32
misunderstand this? Am I doing this right, You know,
36:36
and that's The thing is they're not in in that once again, that
36:40
inconsistency. So I see how that plays out on
36:44
somebody's mental health. And once again, all I tell them
36:48
is do what you have the power and control to do.
36:51
Be consistent with your thoughts and how you're interpreting
36:54
things and have your voice and go talk to people about it if
36:58
it's not working. So I really appreciated this
37:00
football player being out there and and and giving that message
37:04
of be consistent. We want to learn, teach us, and
37:10
we will gladly do that, you know.
37:13
And often times, how long? How hard is it to teach somebody
37:17
it? It's not exactly even like we
37:19
were talking about with kids. They don't have the vocabulary
37:22
to say that. And you'll, you'll see that play
37:25
out. Those frustrations of that,
37:27
those inconsistencies. You'll see it play out in
37:30
different ways because they can't communicate that to you in
37:33
any other way. But you know, I have to tell
37:35
you, one of the things that is so cool to me is when I have
37:38
those parents, and I do I I have some of the most amazing parents
37:41
I work with and when. They get it and they start using
37:45
that consistency with their kids.
37:47
And I'll always tell them it's going to be hard at 1st and
37:51
you're going to want to throw in the towel.
37:53
But I promise you if you remain consistent, they'll come to me
37:56
and they'll say, Oh my God, when you said that it would get
37:58
easier, we did not really believe you.
38:01
But now life is easy. Our home is you know pretty
38:05
mellow and and we're enjoying things and and but it was that
38:08
consistency and that follow through.
38:12
And I love when I get to hear that, and I get to hear that
38:15
often in my office because I have some of the most amazing
38:18
clients who really do follow through, have that consistency
38:23
and we see a lot of growth in them.
38:27
And that's how I know it works, you know, because it's it's
38:30
something I do in my practice and it's something that we do in
38:34
our in our personal life and being able to see that
38:38
consistency play out is amazing. And to see that sigh of relief
38:45
that, Oh my goodness, this is better, things run so much more
38:51
smoothly. Think of something.
38:53
Just pick one thing, you know, Like I said, if it's something,
38:56
pick one thing to be consistent with.
38:58
Once you're consistent with that enough and you see the success
39:01
that you feel and how it changes things.
39:04
Then you can add more stuff in and it's like, oh, you know
39:07
what, that's not too bad. Let me try something else.
39:10
And I think that's what's really important and I think that's
39:12
what's really relevant. It's what that's what it leads
39:15
to. It seems like you know it spills
39:17
into other parts of your life because you're able to to create
39:22
that. And the more we create and the
39:24
more we sustain it and nurture it, because that's what
39:27
consistency is. It's nurturing a piece of us or
39:30
it's nurturing those things that we want.
39:33
You know that are important and valuable for us.
39:34
So you know, I guess our statement for today is be
39:39
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39:44
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