Latest / The Steve Harvey Morning Show / Exonerated Central Park Five survivor Yusef Salaam discusses his new book, "Better, Not Bitter"
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- 2:45Speaker 1: next kist is Yourself Salom. He's an inspirational speaker and
- 2:49Speaker 1: prison prison abolitionists who, at age fifteen, was one of
- 2:52Speaker 1: the five teenage bars rolling fully convicted and sentenced to
- 2:55Speaker 1: prison and then Central Park Jaga case. In seven he
- 2:59Speaker 1: left prison and as an adult to world he didn't
- 3:01Speaker 1: fully recognize, understood, or understand. In two thousand two, the
- 3:05Speaker 1: sentence for the Central Park five was overturned. All five
- 3:09Speaker 1: were exonerated for the crime they did not commit. He's
- 3:12Speaker 1: on the show to talk about his new book Better
- 3:14Speaker 1: Not Better, Living on Purpose in the pursuit of racial justice.
- 3:18Speaker 1: It's the first time that wanted the new exonerated or
- 3:20Speaker 1: the now exonerated five is telling their individual story in
- 3:24Speaker 1: his own works, Yourself Rights, his narrative growing up black
- 3:28Speaker 1: and Central all of them and in the eighties, being
- 3:31Speaker 1: raised by a strong, fierce mother and grandmother, his years
- 3:34Speaker 1: of incarceration, his re entry into the world, and of
- 3:37Speaker 1: course exoneration. Please welcome to money making conversation. I'm gonna
- 3:41Speaker 1: call him correctly like his grandmother called him. Master yourself. Salon,
- 3:45Speaker 1: how you doing, sir, show? I thank you for having
- 3:50Speaker 1: this is a great moment, great opportunity to really talk
- 3:53Speaker 1: to the power and newilized stories for what it's really for.
- 3:57Speaker 1: Right to shine light in the dockness and absolutely and
- 4:01Speaker 1: uh and I were talking off air, but let's bring
- 4:03Speaker 1: everything on there. Like I moved to New York. I
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- 5:19Speaker 1: So I didn't know you were down in definitely got
- 5:21Speaker 1: to connect. Bring you by my office and sit down.
- 5:22Speaker 1: Because I read the book man Better not Better, And
- 5:26Speaker 1: based on what happened to you at such a young age,
- 5:29Speaker 1: one would think this would be a book about anger,
- 5:31Speaker 1: about hate, a book about the hobb and done wrong.
- 5:34Speaker 1: It's a book about motivation, a book about slice of life,
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- 5:40Speaker 1: people were important your life when you're incarcerated. But also
- 5:43Speaker 1: it's a celebration of overcoming the odds. Talk to us,
- 5:48Speaker 1: you know what, I what I really want to expose
- 5:51Speaker 1: and better not better. My memoir is I want folks
- 5:54Speaker 1: to know that when you fall in life, and it's
- 5:57Speaker 1: not a matter of if you fall, because my good
- 5:59Speaker 1: friend Less Brown always reminded me, it's about when you fall,
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- 6:06Speaker 1: is about trying to find a good trying to find
- 6:08Speaker 1: the blessings and everything right, looking at the experience that
- 6:11Speaker 1: not necessarily saying to yourself, oh my goodness, this is terrible,
- 6:15Speaker 1: but looking at the experience of understanding that God is
- 6:18Speaker 1: making sure that you become a survival. Right. And so
- 6:22Speaker 1: I looked at my story and I heard the words
- 6:25Speaker 1: of Dr Maya ANGELVI and my angel, you know. Dr
- 6:28Speaker 1: Na Angelo said something so powerful. She said, you should
- 6:31Speaker 1: be angry, but you must not be bitter. She said,
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- 9:44Speaker 1: the important, important, important part of this conversation we are
- 9:48Speaker 1: having is your faith, because it drove you to to
- 9:53Speaker 1: uh sense of security, a safe zone and and and
- 9:58Speaker 1: being thrown into an armor that you knew you were innocent,
- 10:02Speaker 1: um you knew it was changed even when you got out.
- 10:06Speaker 1: It would change the way your perception and opportunities in
- 10:09Speaker 1: their life. At what point did it start to come
- 10:12Speaker 1: together that, hey, man, this is my life, and you
- 10:15Speaker 1: started building this support system in the prison because you
- 10:18Speaker 1: have a support system outside your sister, your mom, your
- 10:21Speaker 1: grandmother that was strong, but inside you also have to
- 10:24Speaker 1: build a support system. Tell us about that. Yeah, you
- 10:28Speaker 1: know the beautiful thing about being insulated in the fire, right,
- 10:31Speaker 1: And I call it that. I say it that way
- 10:33Speaker 1: because you know, I feel like the system created this
- 10:37Speaker 1: this condition, and then they created they said, we're gonna
- 10:40Speaker 1: put him in the fire. This situation that we're gonna
- 10:43Speaker 1: put the five of them in is going to be
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- 10:57Speaker 1: a beautiful thing, like I said, is that being in
- 11:00Speaker 1: that fire. I remember reading a poem and the poem
- 11:03Speaker 1: said prison life in many ways to be likened to
- 11:05Speaker 1: the womb. If the life inside becomes still, the wound
- 11:09Speaker 1: becomes the tomb. And so this this idea that you
- 11:13Speaker 1: do not want to die physically, mentally, or spiritually in
- 11:17Speaker 1: the womb of amount. Right. May people go in and
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- 11:28Speaker 1: I looked at my situation, I said, man, well what
- 11:30Speaker 1: can I do? How can I talk two people to
- 11:33Speaker 1: let them know that I missed? And what I found
- 11:36Speaker 1: out is that me telling people that I'm innocent. The
- 11:38Speaker 1: officers said to themselves, this guy is not supposed to be.
- 11:42Speaker 1: I mean the officers, the inmates of course as well,
- 11:46Speaker 1: but that power of being able to have them see
- 11:49Speaker 1: me for the first time as opposed to seeing what
- 11:52Speaker 1: the system wanted to be, wanted to define me as
- 11:56Speaker 1: they said, no, this guy is not all the system
- 11:59Speaker 1: is saying, is right? He started, you know, and and
- 12:03Speaker 1: it really allowed us to become modern day shot duck
- 12:07Speaker 1: in the vega, you know. And I think that that's
- 12:09Speaker 1: one of the hours of story, um that I'm telling
- 12:12Speaker 1: you this particular book and utilizing what I understand about
- 12:15Speaker 1: what happened to Well, you know, one thing you did
- 12:18Speaker 1: lose going to prison was your sense of style. You know,
- 12:21Speaker 1: your sense of you know, the shoes, you know, the tie,
- 12:24Speaker 1: the suit. You know what I'm saying. You said, I'm
- 12:26Speaker 1: looking at you even smiling, not because you know, you
- 12:29Speaker 1: know what I'm talking about coming on my show. No
- 12:31Speaker 1: tie on every every picture I see this brother in
- 12:35Speaker 1: he wearing shoes I wear. You know, I was told
- 12:36Speaker 1: mad I looking at the funk. I said, look at
- 12:38Speaker 1: the two tones right there on two tones right there,
- 12:41Speaker 1: every picture you take with the exonerated five. He the
- 12:44Speaker 1: only one got the suit on. He's he's he's the class,
- 12:47Speaker 1: he's the appear to be of excellence. He articulates, he
- 12:50Speaker 1: got his degree while he was in college, took advantage
- 12:52Speaker 1: of the system. So let's talk about this style that
- 12:55Speaker 1: you are, that you are, that you are the resident,
- 13:00Speaker 1: it's your personality. Why is that important? Yeah? So I
- 13:03Speaker 1: think I think it's important because you know, it has
- 13:06Speaker 1: nothing to do with, um, what other people seem. It
- 13:11Speaker 1: has everything to do with what you see when you
- 13:13Speaker 1: look at yourself in the mirror. Right. People say all
- 13:17Speaker 1: the time, how you clean up nights? And I'm not
- 13:18Speaker 1: talking about me, but I'm talking about any one of
- 13:20Speaker 1: us who chooses to. We find ourselves right, we put
- 13:24Speaker 1: a suit on, we put a tie on, um we
- 13:27Speaker 1: we we clean our hair up, we clean our face up.
- 13:30Speaker 1: You know, whatever it is that we do. We look
- 13:32Speaker 1: at ourselves first of all. We other people look at
- 13:35Speaker 1: us and say, how you clean up nights? But what
- 13:38Speaker 1: happens is the most powerful thing when you look in
- 13:41Speaker 1: the mirror at your own self. I often think about
- 13:45Speaker 1: my circumstances and say to myself, Thank God, I don't
- 13:48Speaker 1: look like what I think. Right. Most people look at
- 13:51Speaker 1: me and they say, no, that's that has He could
- 13:53Speaker 1: have never gone on prison. He doesn't sound like a
- 13:55Speaker 1: person with prison. He doesn't look like or act like.
- 13:59Speaker 1: Nothing about him says prison. But I think that that's
- 14:03Speaker 1: the beauty of God. God has allowed me to be
- 14:07Speaker 1: a shining example of what could be possible for all
- 14:11Speaker 1: of us. Right, we can reject, literally throw back the
- 14:15Speaker 1: definition of life that they want to give us, and
- 14:18Speaker 1: know that we were born on purpose and with the purpose,
- 14:20Speaker 1: as opposed to being relegated to the modern big cotton
- 14:23Speaker 1: deals of America. Right, that's what they want for us
- 14:26Speaker 1: to believe. So so many many of the stories that
- 14:30Speaker 1: I've heard have been stories where people have said, no,
- 14:33Speaker 1: we are supposed to be dead, our in jail before
- 14:35Speaker 1: we reached the age of twine. And many of us
- 14:38Speaker 1: play into that false narrative and I'm gonna say false
- 14:42Speaker 1: narrative again, because it absolutely is. When you think about
- 14:46Speaker 1: the grand, miraculous thing that happens to all of us,
- 14:49Speaker 1: our mothers and fathers get together, we become one of
- 14:52Speaker 1: over four hundred million options rased into the egg, and
- 14:56Speaker 1: we are chosen to me look at the odds. That
- 15:00Speaker 1: means that we are born on purpose. And if we're
- 15:02Speaker 1: boring on purpose, we have a purpose. And so the
- 15:05Speaker 1: psycho social reality of being able to really understand that
- 15:09Speaker 1: the system, the system, they tell you you're not worth nothing,
- 15:13Speaker 1: and if you if you believe, you're gonna move throughout
- 15:17Speaker 1: your life but your mistakes. But once you believe that
- 15:20Speaker 1: you're worth everything, once you believe that you are the
- 15:23Speaker 1: future mover and you go up tomorrow, you will begin
- 15:26Speaker 1: to move throughout your life with a different type of purpose.
- 15:29Speaker 1: And that's what this book is all about. It's about
- 15:31Speaker 1: me understanding what happened to me, me understanding that I
- 15:35Speaker 1: had to remember what my mother told me, the very
- 15:38Speaker 1: lass instruction she gave me. She said, they need you
- 15:41Speaker 1: to participate, and whatever it is that they're trying to do,
- 15:46Speaker 1: not participate, refuse And so how does that show up?
- 15:51Speaker 1: It shows up by you refusing to accept the box
- 15:55Speaker 1: that they want to put you. You need to be
- 15:58Speaker 1: that not. I forget the name of the study that
- 16:01Speaker 1: they've done, but there's a study where they put in that,
- 16:03Speaker 1: you know, a container and then only jumped so high,
- 16:06Speaker 1: but then that can jump ten times higher than that. Mhm.
- 16:10Speaker 1: That beloves only that they can jump that hog. And
- 16:13Speaker 1: then that teaches the children of the that that can
- 16:16Speaker 1: only jump that high. Imagine if we teach people that
- 16:19Speaker 1: we can uh. When we see this in sports, right,
- 16:23Speaker 1: you see Michael Jordan, Kobe Bryant, Lebron James, any of
- 16:28Speaker 1: the great shot right, we see them doing sacred geometry
- 16:31Speaker 1: on the court. It looks magnificent. But when we when
- 16:35Speaker 1: we understand what we're looking at, we know that that
- 16:38Speaker 1: is us as a people. That's what it is. Wow.
- 16:42Speaker 1: You know when I'm talking to Usef Salon, Master, Usef Salon,
- 16:46Speaker 1: your your grandmother. Well, we'll always say that to you.
- 16:48Speaker 1: And you say in your chapter you're talking about a
- 16:51Speaker 1: name is important. My name is Rushan McDonald. I thoroughly
- 16:53Speaker 1: believe that if my name is Ricky McDonald, I will
- 16:56Speaker 1: be a different person. My name is Rashan. I've always
- 16:58Speaker 1: been treated different. I've always been and noted. You know,
- 17:01Speaker 1: people can't spell it to have to I have to
- 17:04Speaker 1: correct them, or they learn how to spell it and
- 17:06Speaker 1: they respect me or understand my brand. Talk about the
- 17:09Speaker 1: why are your grandmother who passed away? I think correct?
- 17:15Speaker 1: And uh, why was Master important to her? In front
- 17:18Speaker 1: of your name? I think she was doing which was
- 17:21Speaker 1: so important and really so impactful, but that she needed
- 17:25Speaker 1: for one thing she needed to do was to make
- 17:27Speaker 1: sure that the people who are holding new capital needed
- 17:32Speaker 1: to know who they have. I always thought by male
- 17:37Speaker 1: and I'm saying that because for those who don't know,
- 17:39Speaker 1: when you write to a person in prison, that letter
- 17:43Speaker 1: is fonder is read by the prison officials before it
- 17:48Speaker 1: gets to the person that is supposed to get to. Right,
- 17:51Speaker 1: I always got my mail. So imagine the officer getting
- 17:55Speaker 1: the mail and saying, this is to Master you steps
- 17:59Speaker 1: reason sends it off. The content of the letter is
- 18:04Speaker 1: what is important, over and above the title. It's addressed
- 18:09Speaker 1: to me because the title is telling me to straighten
- 18:11Speaker 1: out that. The title is telling me to remember, not
- 18:15Speaker 1: just remember who I am, but remember in a sense
- 18:18Speaker 1: called for a kind of moment with member who you
- 18:22Speaker 1: are is attached to the people you come from. Even
- 18:26Speaker 1: though Dr James Barbin said to be African American is
- 18:30Speaker 1: to be African without memory, in America without privilege, and
- 18:35Speaker 1: so we experience this right. Many of us know we're
- 18:38Speaker 1: not supposed to be under these kinds of conditions. But
- 18:41Speaker 1: imagine when when you are told that by one of
- 18:44Speaker 1: your elders who knows the truth, he's sending you messages.
- 18:50Speaker 1: She's sending you seeds. She's allowing those seeds to blossom
- 18:54Speaker 1: and bloom in this dark space called the womb of America,
- 18:58Speaker 1: so that you can metamorphosize into the butterfly that you
- 19:01Speaker 1: need to be. And it's so important because if you
- 19:04Speaker 1: if somebody calls you out of your name, usually you
- 19:07Speaker 1: get upset until you begin to accept it. Right, And
- 19:11Speaker 1: so a couta can say, knowing that he's a press,
- 19:15Speaker 1: knowing who he is and who's he is and where
- 19:17Speaker 1: he comes from, being told you know your name is
- 19:20Speaker 1: now too, he fights tooth the nail until miraculously we
- 19:25Speaker 1: see something, and we don't see it until later. He
- 19:28Speaker 1: buries the truth inside of self even though we accept
- 19:32Speaker 1: outward believe what they are saying, but inwardly he never
- 19:35Speaker 1: accepts that his name is. He knows who he is,
- 19:39Speaker 1: he knows he's a press, he knows that his people
- 19:41Speaker 1: are looking for He was kidnapped, just like people get
- 19:45Speaker 1: kidnapped in a memory. Now today, as part of the
- 19:49Speaker 1: great transit vantic slave true, many of us have unfortunately
- 19:53Speaker 1: had the reality keeped upon us, and so we don't
- 19:56Speaker 1: know where we came from. We don't know who we are.
- 19:59Speaker 1: We actually again to hate ourselves and everything we have
- 20:02Speaker 1: been told about us, because what as we looked out
- 20:05Speaker 1: of the window of life, we see others looking in
- 20:09Speaker 1: the mirror. Every advertised with white skin, everything is talked
- 20:15Speaker 1: about the white skin, and so we look a dark skin,
- 20:19Speaker 1: and we said we must be cursed. We don't get
- 20:22Speaker 1: the opportunity to understand that the absolute antithesis is the
- 20:27Speaker 1: truth that we are not curves, but we are blessed
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- 22:20Speaker 1: and the ad Council. In the book you was talking
- 22:23Speaker 1: about sixteen years old, You're standing in the hallway and
- 22:26Speaker 1: they said that that they have a verdict and you
- 22:28Speaker 1: went back into the courtroom and uh, it was announced
- 22:31Speaker 1: guilty and they sent you to Rikers. And why is
- 22:35Speaker 1: Rikers such a horrible prison? Let me ask you that
- 22:39Speaker 1: question first, No, Wreckers is there's so many facets. I
- 22:45Speaker 1: think that makes breker Is one of the most horrible
- 22:47Speaker 1: places on her But I think part of it is
- 22:50Speaker 1: because you have the proximity of people being able to
- 22:54Speaker 1: go right to or talk right to, or be connected
- 22:58Speaker 1: right to the people they want were when we come
- 23:03Speaker 1: home from prison. One of the most transformative things a
- 23:06Speaker 1: person can do is to leave the communities that they
- 23:09Speaker 1: can come. And I'm not saying that because I want
- 23:11Speaker 1: you to to to take away your your your your
- 23:16Speaker 1: your value. Right if you you know, like a lot
- 23:18Speaker 1: of people in there in the entertainment industry, they happen
- 23:21Speaker 1: to lead because they know that they have to insulate themselves. Right.
- 23:25Speaker 1: Why do they have to insulate themselves? Because America has
- 23:29Speaker 1: created poverty and pushed it upon the people in the
- 23:33Speaker 1: margins of life, and the people in the margins of
- 23:36Speaker 1: life are now responding in a way where we call
- 23:40Speaker 1: it the struggle or the survival mentality. What happens when
- 23:44Speaker 1: you struggle? What happens when you have to survive and
- 23:46Speaker 1: that's the only thing that you can do, you do anything.
- 23:51Speaker 1: And so in prison a place like Rikers Island. Rikers
- 23:54Speaker 1: Island is a place where people sometimes have not yet
- 23:58Speaker 1: been convicted of the crimes that they have so called committed.
- 24:01Speaker 1: That's a so called because we find out that there's
- 24:03Speaker 1: so many people you look at the colored bottles of
- 24:06Speaker 1: the world who are not supposed to be there, right,
- 24:09Speaker 1: and then you have other people who are actually criminals
- 24:13Speaker 1: who have gotten card but they are still doing criminal things.
- 24:17Speaker 1: They are running the jails. Everybody has this false narrative
- 24:21Speaker 1: when they see people who show photos of the prisons
- 24:23Speaker 1: that they're and they look strong and buff and they
- 24:26Speaker 1: pose and and everything like that. And I never forget
- 24:29Speaker 1: hearing a conversation that Ross Baraka had put on one
- 24:33Speaker 1: of his albums and he said, nobody talks about the
- 24:37Speaker 1: Roman client I was. I was in Clinton with Twop.
- 24:42Speaker 1: I was thinking Danna more with two ps, and I
- 24:46Speaker 1: remember hearing him say on the gate, and that's something
- 24:48Speaker 1: that people in the officers say to the inmates. He said,
- 24:51Speaker 1: you're on the gate, and everybody got on the gate
- 24:55Speaker 1: and he said, listen, man, I'm just trying to do
- 24:57Speaker 1: my bed, just like y'all. Everybody was sending him pieces
- 25:00Speaker 1: of the magazines that they will rip out and sent
- 25:02Speaker 1: to him and say, hey, can you sign that? Sign
- 25:05Speaker 1: this to my family, my daughter, my friends. I just
- 25:08Speaker 1: want to let them know that I'm eat here with you.
- 25:10Speaker 1: You know. And when you look at prison, prison has
- 25:13Speaker 1: a way of turning people into criminals, even if you
- 25:16Speaker 1: were got mm hmm right. Why do I say that?
- 25:21Speaker 1: I say that because it is the absolute worst place
- 25:23Speaker 1: that you can go. Once you're gone there, you're going
- 25:28Speaker 1: you know that that's the worst that can happen outside
- 25:30Speaker 1: of death. And so when you're in a struggle, right,
- 25:35Speaker 1: you have to understand that in the struggle, the struggle
- 25:38Speaker 1: is not about physicality. It's not about war in terms
- 25:41Speaker 1: of fighting, in terms of beating someone. War, its greatest
- 25:48Speaker 1: tool is the mental to get you to accept defeat.
- 25:55Speaker 1: We know. The thing about it is that I had
- 25:58Speaker 1: a younger brother. He went to prison, and I went
- 26:01Speaker 1: to visit him in prison, and you know, like you said,
- 26:04Speaker 1: you know, I wasn't I was in tears watching him,
- 26:08Speaker 1: and he was saying, I can't cry, I gotta stay hard,
- 26:12Speaker 1: and that false narrative. And then he said he had
- 26:15Speaker 1: to connect with some certain people in the prison so
- 26:18Speaker 1: he can stay safe. He had to get into a
- 26:20Speaker 1: click or run so he can be able to have
- 26:23Speaker 1: somebody to have his back. And then you talk about it,
- 26:26Speaker 1: as you said, when your time becomes short, people can
- 26:29Speaker 1: do things to make your time extend or attempt to
- 26:33Speaker 1: kill you. So there's a mindset that operates in prison.
- 26:36Speaker 1: I'm just taking knowledge from your book. Your book is amazing,
- 26:39Speaker 1: and the book is called Better not Better, Living on
- 26:41Speaker 1: the Purpose, Living on the Purpose in the pursuit of
- 26:44Speaker 1: racial justice, and the story you take away, I'm looking
- 26:47Speaker 1: at a humble man looking at the educated man, and
- 26:49Speaker 1: you're right, you don't fit the example of somebody who's
- 26:52Speaker 1: been wrong, who's been in prison, and then actually taking
- 26:57Speaker 1: away some really key developmental years. You know, fifteen to
- 27:01Speaker 1: eighteen is when you really start learned about responsibility, learned
- 27:04Speaker 1: about being a man, learned about trying to go to college,
- 27:07Speaker 1: learned about trying to trying to if I'm gonna have
- 27:09Speaker 1: a wife in my life. You was in jail during
- 27:12Speaker 1: that period, and so what allowed you to be able
- 27:15Speaker 1: to I know your your your faith, I know you're
- 27:19Speaker 1: the Muslim community was there for you, your your your
- 27:21Speaker 1: parents were there, but you have to be there for yourself.
- 27:24Speaker 1: How did you, as a mature young man, be there
- 27:28Speaker 1: for yourself? I think I think a lot of that
- 27:31Speaker 1: was when you asked me about the name, right when
- 27:33Speaker 1: you respond to I was told this, but I didn't
- 27:37Speaker 1: yet really truly know this. And what I mean by
- 27:40Speaker 1: it is that I was told that in the community
- 27:43Speaker 1: where I came from, my parents had to observe me
- 27:46Speaker 1: for seven days. Right, they knew, just like African communities
- 27:50Speaker 1: know that the child that is born is actually a
- 27:53Speaker 1: gift from the creator, but in the it's on the community.
- 27:56Speaker 1: What happens is that you have to observe the child
- 28:00Speaker 1: to figure out who this is so that you can
- 28:02Speaker 1: need it. You don't want to name it Hennessy. And
- 28:06Speaker 1: I'm not saying anything bad about anyone who names their
- 28:09Speaker 1: child Henessey, but I want you to understand that when
- 28:12Speaker 1: you give a person a name of person a name
- 28:17Speaker 1: that defines who they are. And so my parents named
- 28:21Speaker 1: me us. I never knew what youse have meant. My
- 28:24Speaker 1: middle name is injuries, my other middle name is father,
- 28:27Speaker 1: and my last name is A loved. Oftentimes people will say, hey,
- 28:31Speaker 1: what's your name, and I would say Sometimes they would
- 28:34Speaker 1: call me Joseph, and I got upset because Joseph won'ta
- 28:38Speaker 1: sound nothing like you, not to me. I got the prisoner.
- 28:42Speaker 1: I found out in the Bible there was a young
- 28:44Speaker 1: man named Usa in the Bible. And I found out
- 28:48Speaker 1: in the Koran there's a young man named Joseph in
- 28:50Speaker 1: the Koran. And I'm mixing it up, of course, because
- 28:53Speaker 1: I found out the Arabic equivalent to the word use
- 28:58Speaker 1: of is Joseph in English, but the definition was never there.
- 29:03Speaker 1: Reading books about baby names, I found out that use
- 29:07Speaker 1: of means God will increase that injuries means the teacher
- 29:11Speaker 1: for otherly with justice and salamis peace. My parents named
- 29:15Speaker 1: me seven days after I was born. God will increase
- 29:20Speaker 1: the teacher with justice and peace. When you are looking
- 29:25Speaker 1: for purpose, quite often times it's not until later in
- 29:30Speaker 1: our lives we try to say to ourselves and am
- 29:32Speaker 1: I supposed to be dooding? What's my purpose in life?
- 29:35Speaker 1: But imagine finding purpose in the value the value of despair.
- 29:42Speaker 1: You know. Dr King said, when you find your purpose
- 29:45Speaker 1: in life, do it as if God himself called you
- 29:49Speaker 1: to do it. At this very month, he gave us
- 29:51Speaker 1: this beautiful example, not of the greatest purpose, but of
- 29:55Speaker 1: what purpose still is? He said. If your purpose in
- 29:59Speaker 1: life is a how much streets? He said, sweep the
- 30:02Speaker 1: streets like Michaelangelo painted pictures. Sweep the streets like they told,
- 30:07Speaker 1: and composed music like weal, Tom Pryce saying before the opera,
- 30:11Speaker 1: Imagine that kind of individual turning up their life in
- 30:15Speaker 1: dark spaces. Imagine that person raising their vibrations. And collectively
- 30:21Speaker 1: we can always our workers. Collectively we can altern up
- 30:24Speaker 1: our life. And I think that when I looked at
- 30:27Speaker 1: you know, being associated right in prison, it wasn't that
- 30:31Speaker 1: I was just defining myself as Muslim. But I was
- 30:36Speaker 1: born must But now I was studying. Anytime you have
- 30:41Speaker 1: a people tell you what something is. Often times you said,
- 30:44Speaker 1: if I don't want to be that you hear the
- 30:45Speaker 1: word Muslim, and you say, those are terrorists. I don't
- 30:48Speaker 1: know to tell about my daughters. Once I said, listen,
- 30:51Speaker 1: if you know, was very busy. If I'm running towards
- 30:55Speaker 1: a plane and I gotta connect to other planes and
- 30:58Speaker 1: all of this stuff, imagine this scenario to a plane
- 31:01Speaker 1: and I get to the plane about to close the door,
- 31:03Speaker 1: and just in the mid of the time, Wow, sir,
- 31:06Speaker 1: we were just about the closes the door. You've made it.
- 31:09Speaker 1: And I said, wow, God is the greatest. I get
- 31:13Speaker 1: on the plane. I see somebody in the first class.
- 31:15Speaker 1: They had yet open their water. I grabbed their water,
- 31:18Speaker 1: say said okay. They said yes. I say thank you.
- 31:21Speaker 1: I opened their water, drink the water. Said Wow, God
- 31:24Speaker 1: is the greatest. Wom scenario, same scenario. Remind you there
- 31:29Speaker 1: are Christians in a Rabio. Same scenario. They speak Arabic,
- 31:35Speaker 1: they say Allah for God. Christians. Same scenario. I'm running
- 31:41Speaker 1: to the plane, I kicked it he said, Wow, sir,
- 31:45Speaker 1: you chest made you. We were just about to close
- 31:47Speaker 1: the door. I say, a law who I thought, I
- 31:54Speaker 1: just missed my plane? But you know, you know what happens.
- 32:00Speaker 1: I'm saying that the definitions right as soon as people understand, oh,
- 32:05Speaker 1: they're just saying God. Right, there's a lot who fought me.
- 32:09Speaker 1: It means God is the greatest or God is greater
- 32:14Speaker 1: than anything. So when you hear the call to prayer,
- 32:17Speaker 1: which says a lot who I thought, say to yourself,
- 32:21Speaker 1: I'm supposed to stop everything and turned to God and
- 32:26Speaker 1: be thankfu. That's absolutely true. But I have to give
- 32:31Speaker 1: when you're thankful, God war some beautiful process. We know.
- 32:37Speaker 1: The thing about it is that because I want to
- 32:39Speaker 1: wrap up, but I want to say a few things
- 32:40Speaker 1: that I want you to respond to it. You know
- 32:42Speaker 1: it's incarcerated. Uh then uh. Donald Trump to got an
- 32:47Speaker 1: ade eighty five dollars and ads calling you guys everything,
- 32:51Speaker 1: every every bad name. He could say that, he could
- 32:53Speaker 1: put it in the newspaper. He didn become our president,
- 32:56Speaker 1: so we know the values he have for men of color.
- 32:59Speaker 1: And nineteen in each seven you walked out of prison.
- 33:02Speaker 1: Um spend time in prison for a crime you didn't do,
- 33:05Speaker 1: two thousand two years exonerated, then you received the settlement,
- 33:09Speaker 1: and then um Able Duvename. I think what Able Duvenat
- 33:13Speaker 1: did you guys was like for me visual and a
- 33:15Speaker 1: global perspective. Really freed you guys, I said, freed you
- 33:20Speaker 1: guys from an inn a media standpoint, in a in
- 33:24Speaker 1: a standpoint. You know, the court can say you're free,
- 33:27Speaker 1: but what she did was set you all free. And
- 33:30Speaker 1: that's important to know. And now with that freedom that
- 33:32Speaker 1: you now have the intellect that you gained being educated
- 33:36Speaker 1: in prison, being educated by life, being exonerated, getting some
- 33:39Speaker 1: money for for being in jail for a crime you
- 33:42Speaker 1: didn't commit, which we know is never enough because those
- 33:45Speaker 1: years to value years. What is the purpose? What is
- 33:49Speaker 1: your goal? Because you talked about purpose as we close
- 33:52Speaker 1: out this interview, what is your purpose? Master yourself? Salon,
- 33:57Speaker 1: I think my greatest purpose is the fault with God.
- 34:00Speaker 1: The greatest purpose is to utilize my story and tell people,
- 34:04Speaker 1: like I've always said in more recent times that the
- 34:06Speaker 1: Central Park geogra case is not what you think it is.
- 34:10Speaker 1: It's actually a love story between God and the people.
- 34:12Speaker 1: Center Park geograph case. The case is a case where
- 34:16Speaker 1: God has used it in place, the whole system on
- 34:20Speaker 1: trial in order to produce some mirracle a lout of times.
- 34:24Speaker 1: It's a story of how people can be buried alive
- 34:27Speaker 1: and for God the system for God we were seeing,
- 34:31Speaker 1: and it's the story of a people who have been
- 34:34Speaker 1: given a social death, and instead of being buried alive
- 34:38Speaker 1: and forgotten, they emerged like the phoenix from the actions
- 34:41Speaker 1: because as they built the fire to consume us, they
- 34:44Speaker 1: forgot that God is the owner of the If we
- 34:48Speaker 1: believe again and we're thankful and we say to ourselves,
- 34:53Speaker 1: help me. Right when you say to God, help me,
- 34:57Speaker 1: guess what happens? God helps you. It's so beautiful. Like
- 35:02Speaker 1: I said, it's it's one of those things that it's
- 35:03Speaker 1: got until you are tested that you can really say.
- 35:08Speaker 1: I got to testify, because you can't testify unless you've
- 35:12Speaker 1: been tested, you know. I was listening to my my
- 35:15Speaker 1: inspiration et and he said something to the practice said,
- 35:18Speaker 1: you know, everybody wants to be a die, but nobody
- 35:21Speaker 1: wants the pressure. Nobody. That's the pressure. And then the
- 35:24Speaker 1: more pressure and then the more pressure that's added to
- 35:27Speaker 1: create a diamond out of that piece of cold and
- 35:30Speaker 1: then after the pressure, nobody wants to be cut because
- 35:34Speaker 1: cutting the diet, cutting the cold into the shape of
- 35:38Speaker 1: the diamond is what proves that it's a dial and
- 35:42Speaker 1: it looks so beautiful. It's one of those things that
- 35:45Speaker 1: you say to yourself, Wow, this is one of the
- 35:47Speaker 1: most rarest things for the planet. And I think that
- 35:51Speaker 1: what we need to understand is that all of us
- 35:53Speaker 1: are dying. We're just in the rock, but we're still dying,
- 35:58Speaker 1: and we see us since that would get the opportunity
- 36:02Speaker 1: to give ourselves back. Well, you're a great my friend. Again,
- 36:07Speaker 1: better not better? Living on purpose in the pursuit of
- 36:11Speaker 1: racial justice. Master didn't say master right there on the book,
- 36:14Speaker 1: but it should say that. You should say humble, You
- 36:17Speaker 1: should say uh, it should say a representation, a representative
- 36:21Speaker 1: of blackness who overshould say overcoming the odds, should say
- 36:25Speaker 1: it's just say so many blessings, a blessed man. It
- 36:27Speaker 1: should say that too, because that's what you are. Thank
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