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Uplift: She explains why therapy helps individuals navigate uncertainty and redefine stability. · The Steve Harvey Morning Show

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  Speaker 1: My guest is a licensed clinical social worker practicing in Georgia, Colorado, Illinois,
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  Speaker 1: South Carolina, and Minnesota. With over two decades of experience
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  Speaker 1: in the field. She is the founder of Fit Life Wellness,
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  Speaker 1: a private mental health and wellness practice dedicated to supporting
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  Speaker 1: individuals through healing.
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  Speaker 2: Balance, and growth.
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  Speaker 1: She is also the author of I Can I Will,
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  Speaker 1: a thirty day guided journal designed to help individuals reflect, reset,
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  Speaker 1: and overcome challenges such as depression, anxiety, and life transitions.
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  Speaker 1: Please welcome to the Money Making Conversations Master Class. Monique guard Side,
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  Speaker 1: How are you doing?
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  Speaker 2: Monique?
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  Speaker 3: Hey, great to be here.
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  Speaker 1: How are you growing?
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  Speaker 2: Up on TV.
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  Speaker 1: You go to somebody's couch and you're laying down on
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  Speaker 1: the sofa and somebody just talking to you. You see
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  Speaker 1: on TV periodically periodically today, what is therapy and what
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  Speaker 1: is fantasy?
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  Speaker 3: Right? So, real deal therapy is not coming in laying
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  Speaker 3: on the couch. It is truly coming in now. It
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  Speaker 3: is coming in. It is being vulnerable. It's using the
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  Speaker 3: space to unpack, to talk about things that are really
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  Speaker 3: hard for you. Therapy is a safe space where you
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  Speaker 3: can talk about things that you may not feel safe
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  Speaker 3: to talk about in any other space. We're trying to
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  Speaker 3: hear you, to help you navigate. That's the real part therapy.
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  Speaker 3: We're doing the real work. The fantasy is you go
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  Speaker 3: in and you're best friends with a therapists and they
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  Speaker 3: tell you all these things about life, and you know,
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  Speaker 3: it's just pretty bils and whistles, and that's not what
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  Speaker 3: they'rep is feeling is hard work and that's the space
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  Speaker 3: that I navigate.
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  Speaker 1: Now, let's talk about this show is money Making Conversation,
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  Speaker 1: master Class, Entrepreneurship, small business owners. People out there trying
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  Speaker 1: to turn their lives around, trying to make life transitions.
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  Speaker 1: Now in your thirty day course or thirty day journal.
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  Speaker 1: You talk about life transitions. What exactly does that mean
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  Speaker 1: When you say life transitions, it.
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  Speaker 3: Could mean transitioning from corporate to entrepreneurship. You know, that
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  Speaker 3: process of what does it mean to leave stability, safety,
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  Speaker 3: things that you're accustomed to to the uncertainty of entrepreneurship,
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  Speaker 3: and how do you help someone navigate that. That's a
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  Speaker 3: very big life transition. You know, it could be life
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  Speaker 3: transitions of your kids, of your family. You know, you're
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  Speaker 3: you're divorced now, maybe your kids are going to college.
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  Speaker 3: So it's you know, various things that happen in our lives, right,
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  Speaker 3: There's various transitions, and then it just could be something
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  Speaker 3: happening with you personally.
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  Speaker 1: I'm talking to Monique Guarside. She's a licensed clinical social
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  Speaker 1: worker who practices in Georgia, Colorado, Illinois, South Carolina, and Minnesota.
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  Speaker 1: With over two decades of experience in the field, she
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  Speaker 1: founded a company called Fit Life Wellness. Now this is
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  Speaker 1: health and wellness practice. Basically, we all need this. I've
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  Speaker 1: actually been involved in personal therapy because I don't know
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  Speaker 1: how to shut down Monique.
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  Speaker 2: I am like a.
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  Speaker 1: Guy that just I'm type A with steroids attached to it. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: and you know I've reached the point of my life.
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  Speaker 1: I go, okay, you know you got to stop with Shaw.
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  Speaker 1: How you tell me how do you stop a guy
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  Speaker 1: like with Shawn McDonald through therapy.
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  Speaker 3: That's a big question.
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  Speaker 2: Help me out. That's an honest question too.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not asking that to just be But I moved
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  Speaker 1: the story alone because I got a problem.
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  Speaker 3: I think the first thing is kind of looking at where, well,
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  Speaker 3: you know, why do we need to have all these
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  Speaker 3: things happening? And how are we prioritizing those things? So
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  Speaker 3: does everything need to happen at one time? Can we
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  Speaker 3: prioritize how you do it? I think it's just really
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  Speaker 3: looking at what you're trying to do and what needs
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  Speaker 3: to happen.
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  Speaker 1: First, here's the thing, I time management. I'm very good
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  Speaker 1: at time management.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: Secondly, I'm very good at getting up. I'm not a
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  Speaker 1: person that hits the snooze but clock goes off. I
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  Speaker 1: get up Monday through Friday, I get up at four
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  Speaker 1: thirty am.
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  Speaker 2: On the weekends, I turn off the long clock.
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  Speaker 1: I get my body back from a standpoint of out
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  Speaker 1: of that rhythm of just hopping up and going. So
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  Speaker 1: I am smart about that now. I did say Monday
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  Speaker 1: through Friday, I get up at four thirty.
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  Speaker 2: Now.
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  Speaker 1: If the basketball game ends at one o'clock, your boy
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  Speaker 1: gonna watch it. If a Netflix series I'm binging watching
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  Speaker 1: it ends it one two am, your boy gonna watch it.
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  Speaker 1: Now I am, and I am going to get up
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  Speaker 1: at four thirty. That's my personality. Now, when you hear
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  Speaker 1: somebody talking like that, how can you help me out, Monique?
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  Speaker 2: I'm very serious.
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  Speaker 1: How can you stop this ignorance that has dominated my
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  Speaker 1: life for over sixte years?
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  Speaker 3: I ask you, how do you prioritize rest the things
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  Speaker 3: that binge watching? That Netflix? Right? We need to do
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  Speaker 3: that today? Is that necessary? And it's prioritizing If you're
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  Speaker 3: still getting up at the same time, how what's the
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  Speaker 3: quality of the rest that you're getting. If you're going
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  Speaker 3: to bed at one am, right, how are you at
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  Speaker 3: your best the next day? You're waking up it for
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  Speaker 3: it if you haven't prioritized rest.
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  Speaker 1: I don't drink coffee, I don't drink put caffeine in
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  Speaker 1: my system.
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  Speaker 2: I don't drink liquor. I'm just a weird cat like that.
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  Speaker 1: But I just want to put everybody out like out
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  Speaker 1: there that I Rashaan McDonald, people deem me as being successful,
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  Speaker 1: got issues, and these issues should be tied to a
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  Speaker 1: therapist changing some of these things. Just because I'm doing
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  Speaker 1: it doesn't mean it's right, because I'm putting some undue
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  Speaker 1: stress on myself mentally and physical. Like you said, Rashan, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: you get a bet four thirty, but how you mentally?
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  Speaker 1: How you functioning like about three o'clock or you fall in.
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  Speaker 1: Because that's why mental health is so important and we
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  Speaker 1: it seems it almost sounds gimmicky. Now I'm gonna I'm
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  Speaker 1: gonna use that word right now, Monique, because just like
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  Speaker 1: the word branding, just like the word entrepreneurship, it is
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  Speaker 1: floated out there so much because people say it they
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  Speaker 1: have mental health month, like this month is Men's Mental
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  Speaker 1: Health Month. And so sometimes when you proclaim something like
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  Speaker 1: that so cavicly or so casual, it lose its impact talk.
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  Speaker 3: To us, I think, especially with social media. I mean
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  Speaker 3: we talk about mental health. Everyone is, you know, talking
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  Speaker 3: about it is the buzzwords. You know they're talking about,
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  Speaker 3: you know, boundaries and balance and gas like in all
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  Speaker 3: those things, and so everyone is jumping on and without
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  Speaker 3: actually understanding what those words mean, what it means to
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  Speaker 3: actually deal with some of these things, and then you know,
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  Speaker 3: what does it mean to actually do the work. And
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  Speaker 3: so when everyone wants to talk about it, everyone wants
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  Speaker 3: to kind of say they have anxiety or they have ADHD,
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  Speaker 3: but a lot of them don't know what it actually means.
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  Speaker 3: But they also don't know what to do with it,
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  Speaker 3: like how do you support yourself? You know, how do
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  Speaker 3: you work through having anxiety? If you don't really get
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  Speaker 3: connected with the right person, people who are trained to
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  Speaker 3: do it, then it looks great, but there's no follow
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  Speaker 3: through and then no one's actually getting real help.
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  Speaker 1: Now we're talking about entrepreneurs. Entrepreneurs are small business owners.
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  Speaker 1: What's your business? How do we in touch with you?
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  Speaker 1: First of all, before I get into this met you.
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  Speaker 3: Can find me all my social media to Fit Life
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  Speaker 3: long as LLC. My website is fit Life one as LLC.
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  Speaker 3: Or you can go to money guardside dot com where
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  Speaker 3: you can see all my services and all of the
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  Speaker 3: therapy sessions that I provide are virtual. Along with I
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  Speaker 3: work with a mentor and provide clinical supervision for social
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  Speaker 3: workers coming into the field. Needing to get their licensed
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  Speaker 3: hours so that they can eventually practice them.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, cool, First question, how do you navigate entrepreneurship or
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  Speaker 1: entrepreneurs or small business owners in this space?
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  Speaker 3: So in this space we really talk about balance. We
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  Speaker 3: talk about prioritizing self along the way. A lot of
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  Speaker 3: times as entrepreneurs, when you're building your business, you're going
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  Speaker 3: going going right, you go on full force, long days,
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  Speaker 3: right late nights, early mornings, and in that process though,
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  Speaker 3: you're forgetting to prioritize self because all you see is
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  Speaker 3: I'm just trying to get here. And so what happens
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  Speaker 3: is eventually as you get here, though you're burned out,
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  Speaker 3: you're exhausted, your mental health might me in the right space.
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  Speaker 3: And so it's helping them say, but you have to
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  Speaker 3: maintain yourself and take care of you along the way,
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  Speaker 3: And it's helping to it's helping them figure out how
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  Speaker 3: to prioritize. But it's also like, how am I taking
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  Speaker 3: care of myself so that again the next day I
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  Speaker 3: am showing up or I am getting the most out
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  Speaker 3: of the work that I'm doing.
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  Speaker 1: Because as we talk about small business owners, I will
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  Speaker 1: tell you this, when I worked at IBM. I knew
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  Speaker 1: a year in advance that I was going to lead
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  Speaker 1: my job now knowing that wasn't when I came to
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  Speaker 1: the decision, that decision, I became very.
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  Speaker 2: Emotional because I knew that that was reality.
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  Speaker 1: Now a lot of people out there are listening to
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  Speaker 1: this show or where Rashaan McDonald was that decision point,
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  Speaker 1: are afraid to make that decision.
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  Speaker 2: Talk to us about that.
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  Speaker 3: I remember making that decision. I remember all the knowing
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  Speaker 3: that it's time of transit, knowing that you need to
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  Speaker 3: go create something new. But there's a lot of uncertainty
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  Speaker 3: that comes from that. There's a lot of questions that
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  Speaker 3: come up. You know, will this happen as I think
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  Speaker 3: it should, Will I succeed? You know, will I feel
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  Speaker 3: at this, What will happen? How long will it take
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  Speaker 3: me to build? All the questions that come up with that.
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  Speaker 3: And also, as you're standing in this space and you
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  Speaker 3: know I'm going here to entrepreneurship I want to leave,
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  Speaker 3: you're feeling this kind of disconnection stability, right because a
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  Speaker 3: lot of times when we work in corporations, you know
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  Speaker 3: that's that every two weeks or once someone you're getting
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  Speaker 3: your check, you know, that stability is there when you
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  Speaker 3: transition to entrepreneurship, there's a lot of unknown and so
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  Speaker 3: it's really going into the space of being able to process,
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  Speaker 3: being able to show up, but even if it's scary,
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  Speaker 3: being able to keep pushing through it as you're trying
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  Speaker 3: to really build and looking at like, but this is
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  Speaker 3: my goal, this is where I want to be, and
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  Speaker 3: so you have to fight for that space.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, because there are no gain guarantees. It's an entrepreneur.
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  Speaker 1: You know, for the our week job, you might have
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  Speaker 1: to work a little over time. You know, they're telling
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  Speaker 1: you to come to work at this time, they're telling
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  Speaker 1: you when you can leave, they're telling you your lunch break,
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  Speaker 1: they've given you an assignment. When you're an entrepreneur, you
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  Speaker 1: are everything. Now here's the thing that I feel value
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  Speaker 1: in this reason I have you on this call because
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  Speaker 1: as an entrepreneur or a small business owner, we somewhat
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  Speaker 1: are all powerful, all decision making, all kind of like godlike,
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  Speaker 1: and we can't show weaknesses, we can't show mistakes. Does
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  Speaker 1: it help having a person like you monique a relationship
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  Speaker 1: with a therapist where you can download some of this
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  Speaker 1: information to and talk to us about.
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  Speaker 3: That is really important to get connected with the therapist
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  Speaker 3: throughout the process because it's got to go somewhere Otherwise
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  Speaker 3: you're carrying the weight of it, right, it begins to
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  Speaker 3: build up. And as that build up, if you're not
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  Speaker 3: actually having if you're not able to process the emotions
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  Speaker 3: of thoughts, the feelings that you're having, then you internalize
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  Speaker 3: that and it can turn into other things like feeling
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  Speaker 3: really anxious, moving into depression, irritability because you're not able
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  Speaker 3: to freely speak and say what you need to say.
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  Speaker 3: Having a therapist offers that safe space for you, but
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  Speaker 3: it also offers someone that can process things with you,
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  Speaker 3: that can actually we're able as a therapist. I'm able
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  Speaker 3: to see things that you may not see, right. I'm
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  Speaker 3: able to hear how your day, when or how your
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  Speaker 3: week is going, and say, hm, take a cause for
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  Speaker 3: a minute, tell me about this, or how about we
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  Speaker 3: implement this to help you navigate. Right, So you have
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  Speaker 3: this kind of this person who's trained to hear things
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  Speaker 3: differently that can offer you a different view, will offer
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  Speaker 3: you some tips that can help you navigate that.
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  Speaker 4: Please don't go anywhere, We'll be right back with more
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  Speaker 4: money making conversations. Masterclass. Welcome back to the Money Making
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  Speaker 4: Conversations Masterclass hosted by Rashaan McDonald.
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  Speaker 1: Now there's passion, there's passion to help somebody.
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  Speaker 2: But how did you get a.
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  Speaker 1: Passion for this mental health field, this mental health area?
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  Speaker 1: Because you started in our conversation social worker. Now you
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  Speaker 1: dominating in the mental health field, your license in you know, Colorado, Georgia, Illinois,
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  Speaker 1: South Carolina, Minnesota, all of its virtual talk to us
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  Speaker 1: about your personal passage passion for mental health.
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  Speaker 3: So I think I've always you know, where I grew
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  Speaker 3: up kind of knowing that I wanted to help people.
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  Speaker 3: That was always something that was a part of me.
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  Speaker 3: And I remember I was actually a nursing major first,
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  Speaker 3: and I worked in the hospital because I worked throughout
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  Speaker 3: by programs. But if you were looking for me, I
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  Speaker 3: was always at the bedside and I was always trying
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  Speaker 3: to figure out what was happening with them. So I
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  Speaker 3: would tell the nurses, like, they can't go home where
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  Speaker 3: they have this and they had that, and they would
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  Speaker 3: literally like kick me out of the rooms and they're
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  Speaker 3: like this and this is not your jobs. You're supposed
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  Speaker 3: to be on this side. But my love for helping
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  Speaker 3: people navigate, helping people figure it out. I think I've
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  Speaker 3: been that way since I was a child. Having knowing
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  Speaker 3: the impact of just having outside influence in my own
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  Speaker 3: life really helped push me to the space where I knew,
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  Speaker 3: like my gift, the way that I show up in
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  Speaker 3: the world is by helping people, by helping them navigate,
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  Speaker 3: by helping them with really hard moments, and just helping
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  Speaker 3: them heal.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm speaking the Monique guard Side, a licensed clinical
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  Speaker 1: social worker. As I said earlier, got Georgia on Lockdown Colorado,
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  Speaker 1: on Lockdown Illinois, South Carolina, Minnesota. She does a lot
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  Speaker 1: of her work virtually and because of all those states,
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  Speaker 1: you know, she's not traveling all those states. Private jets
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  Speaker 1: wouldn't even get to all those get her to all
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  Speaker 1: those states.
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  Speaker 2: But she is successful.
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  Speaker 1: Now, look go to let's shift a little to your
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  Speaker 1: fit life wellness exactly. What is fit NiFe, fit life,
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  Speaker 1: fit life wellness and how to zoo.
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  Speaker 3: Fit life Wellness is again my mental health and wellness practice.
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  Speaker 3: And when I thought about that, it was you know,
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  Speaker 3: when I came up with the name, it was truly I.
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  Speaker 3: Prior to going into practice, I was very big and
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  Speaker 3: the health and wellness, and what I realized was just
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  Speaker 3: the connection of the mind body. And so in the space,
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  Speaker 3: I wanted to provide a space where we understood how
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  Speaker 3: the mind and the body connected and how that process
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  Speaker 3: worked for your healing. And so when I created it,
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  Speaker 3: I was actually working in a healthcare system and I
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  Speaker 3: needed to create a space where I had more autonomy
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  Speaker 3: of how I helped people. I didn't want restrictions. I
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  Speaker 3: knew I was trained to do certain things, but I
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  Speaker 3: also wanted a space where I had more freedom of
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  Speaker 3: how I did it. And that is how I created
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  Speaker 3: And I started felt like wellness was to create this
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  Speaker 3: space where I could help people, but I had more
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  Speaker 3: control of how I could help them and how I
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  Speaker 3: could reach them.
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  Speaker 2: So how do you get your customers?
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  Speaker 3: So when I first started, like many other therapists, you know,
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  Speaker 3: we're on platforms like psychology today, there are people black girls,
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  Speaker 3: and so honestly it is you put your profile out
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  Speaker 3: there and people search for you and they come, and
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  Speaker 3: it's really that's how it works. There's kind of it's
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  Speaker 3: hard when you talk about marketing therapy. You know it
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  Speaker 3: can look you know, great from like a marketing standpoint,
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  Speaker 3: but at the same time, it's a very sensitive subject
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  Speaker 3: and so you do have to be cautious as to
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  Speaker 3: how you're reaching out to people. But mostly I get
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  Speaker 3: on the platforms. They can search for therapists in my
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  Speaker 3: you know, in their area, and then they can get
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  Speaker 3: connected with me. And that's how I built a practice.
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  Speaker 3: That's how people started to find me. Was I got online.
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  Speaker 3: I got on Psychology Today, and people started to come
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  Speaker 3: people connected with my profile.
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  Speaker 2: Cool.
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  Speaker 1: Now let's slide over to the book I Can, I Will,
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  Speaker 1: the thirty day guided journal designed to help endo is reflect, reset,
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  Speaker 1: and overcome challenges such as depression, anxiety, and life transitions. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: we've talked a lot about life transitions.
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  Speaker 2: How are what.
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  Speaker 1: Are the symptoms? When people may not be aware that
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  Speaker 1: they're dealing with depression.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, so depression can show up in so many ways,
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  Speaker 3: but a lot of people just think when they hear depression, oh,
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  Speaker 3: I don't want to do anything. But depression can be irritability.
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  Speaker 3: You can lose interest in things that maybe once gave
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  Speaker 3: you joy. So you begin to isolate a little bit.
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  Speaker 3: You stop doing things that you once loved. You tend
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  Speaker 3: to not be as motivated, and then you just really
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  Speaker 3: start to kind of isolate, go into a shell, and
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  Speaker 3: you don't reach out to people as much as well.
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  Speaker 3: So people start to notice that they haven't seen you
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  Speaker 3: for a while, they haven't talked to you, and so
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  Speaker 3: you're kind of really going into a shell where you're
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  Speaker 3: not dealing with anxiety. So for anxiety, anxiety can show
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  Speaker 3: up in a lot of ways. But for people who
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  Speaker 3: feel like the physical symptoms of anxiety, it could be
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  Speaker 3: like your heart racing, it could be constant worry, so
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  Speaker 3: you're constantly thinking about something. You're kind of overwhelmed with
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  Speaker 3: your thoughts, and so anxiety can help can make lose
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  Speaker 3: your focus, right, so you are maybe fixating on something
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  Speaker 3: that you're fearful about that may or may not happen,
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  Speaker 3: but it's just you're constantly in this state of feeling
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  Speaker 3: that fight or flight.
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  Speaker 2: Wow.
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  Speaker 1: You know when you talk about the I Can I Will?
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  Speaker 1: First of all, where did that name come from?
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  Speaker 3: Okay, so that name came from I wrote the book
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  Speaker 3: before I wrote the name of the book. I wrote
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  Speaker 3: the thirty day Journal, and I wrote that thirty day
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  Speaker 3: journal after I wrote it the name I Can I Will.
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  Speaker 3: I want it to be very clear and very definitely,
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  Speaker 3: so that you can and you will, right, there's no
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  Speaker 3: in between. There's no question it's your journey. But you
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  Speaker 3: can and will that. You got to take ownership of
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  Speaker 3: how you do it.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, so self motivating? Yes, okay, cool? So how does
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  Speaker 2: that layout?
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  Speaker 1: You know, if one wants to get access or get
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  Speaker 1: purchased that find out whereas that?
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  Speaker 2: How does one get it?
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  Speaker 1: But then how does that journal work if you're a
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  Speaker 1: person who buys it?
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  Speaker 3: Okay? So the journal is available on Amazon, Barnes and
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  Speaker 3: Noble as well, and you can also get it from
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  Speaker 3: my website. How does it work? So it's a thirty
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  Speaker 3: day guided journal. There are weekly things and then there
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  Speaker 3: are daily prompts. And I wrote this from if I
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  Speaker 3: was sitting with you, how would I guide you? I
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  Speaker 3: always recommend journaling. Journal is a really good tool in therapy,
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  Speaker 3: and I always recommend it to people, whether you're in
• 19:45
  Speaker 3: or not in therapy. But I always got so much
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  Speaker 3: pushback from people about I don't like the journals or
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  Speaker 3: I don't know what to do, I don't know what
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  Speaker 3: to write. And after years of hearing that, I said, Okay,
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  Speaker 3: I'm gonna sit down and I'm gonna write this, but
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  Speaker 3: I'm gonna write this is if I'm with you. And
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  Speaker 3: every week there's a thing, there's an affirmation, there's a
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  Speaker 3: journal prompt, and it's really designed for you to reflect,
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  Speaker 3: for you to I think one of the pages ask you,
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  Speaker 3: what do you want to be different the next day.
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  Speaker 3: I don't want you to just process today. I want
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  Speaker 3: you to prep yourself for the next day. And it's
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  Speaker 3: truly a guy to help your increase your awareness, increase
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  Speaker 3: how you think about things, and then how you handle them.
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  Speaker 1: In therapy, Monique, how do you stop being a prevent
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  Speaker 1: yourself from being judgmental one and stereotyping situations? Two different responses,
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  Speaker 1: judgmental and then stereotyping. Yes, when you're dealing with your
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  Speaker 1: different sessions.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, so how do I prevent myself to be in judgmental?
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  Speaker 3: I think it's just that's what you're trained to do. Like,
• 20:52
  Speaker 3: this space is a safe space. I honor that space,
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  Speaker 3: and so in that space, it's not my job to
• 20:58
  Speaker 3: judge it. It's to help you see what you need
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  Speaker 3: to see. It's a help you process. And so I
• 21:04
  Speaker 3: always tell people when they come in, like, this is
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  Speaker 3: your space. Whatever comes up comes out. This is your space.
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  Speaker 3: And I think remembering that's the purpose of it. It's
• 21:12
  Speaker 3: not about what I need to unloade, It's about what
• 21:14
  Speaker 3: they need to umote and what I need to help
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  Speaker 3: them process. So it's really not about me to put judgment.
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  Speaker 3: It's about me to help them process.
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  Speaker 2: Now.
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  Speaker 1: Now, I remember when I was doing therapy. Every time
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  Speaker 1: I did a session, they will always ask me, have
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: you ever considered hurting yourself? Have you ever considered suicide?
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  Speaker 1: That was the opening every time it was opening, That
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: was opening statement. Is that a major concern when one
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  Speaker 1: goes into therapy that it can be that extreme?
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  Speaker 3: Absolutely, it is a question that has always especially if
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  Speaker 3: I have a new client. Comments always at the top
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  Speaker 3: of the intake form. And the reason why that question
• 21:52
  Speaker 3: is so important is because I need to know where
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  Speaker 3: you are right now. I need to know if this therapy,
• 21:57
  Speaker 3: say space is safe enough for you, if we need
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  Speaker 3: to pull in other support, do I need to create
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  Speaker 3: a safety plan. It really helps to see where you
• 22:06
  Speaker 3: are if you have the thoughts, if you have a plan,
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  Speaker 3: because it is something that you don't take lightning, and
• 22:12
  Speaker 3: you have to you know, respond in a way that
• 22:15
  Speaker 3: is supportive, but in a way that it's very, very proactive.
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  Speaker 1: Now, this is interesting to hear you talk like this
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  Speaker 1: because I'm sure they have been challenges out there for you. Now,
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: will you yourself aka miss therapists, we come into you, you
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  Speaker 1: are some of your challenges when you're trying to help people.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, so let me first start with I am a
• 22:40
  Speaker 3: therapist who has been in therapy and who continues therapy
• 22:43
  Speaker 3: because it's very important. So I've been on both sides
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  Speaker 3: of the chair. But I think the challenges from a
• 22:50
  Speaker 3: business perspective, it's the ebbs and flows. It's once you
• 22:53
  Speaker 3: start your business right. It's being able to maintain, being
• 22:57
  Speaker 3: able to absorb when clients are coming they're not coming,
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  Speaker 3: or when you know their life changes and so then
• 23:03
  Speaker 3: you know it disrupts their sessions. It comes from that.
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  Speaker 3: As far as personal challenges, everyone hasn't and I'm no
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  Speaker 3: different than everyone else. But I think I have a
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  Speaker 3: good support system. I have my ways of processing, and
• 23:16
  Speaker 3: I tried to lead by example, so taking care of myself,
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  Speaker 3: prioritizing myself so that I am able to show up
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  Speaker 3: fully for my clients.
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  Speaker 5: We talked about a little bit earlier about when I
• 23:29
  Speaker 5: was talking about people lying on the couch and technology,
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  Speaker 5: and we know that when COVID hit that, the virtual
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  Speaker 5: world exploded.
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  Speaker 2: What do you see with AI? Okay?
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: Because I got frustrated the other day trying to get
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: my credit card balance and I could not get get
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: off of the phone with this AI voice. Well can
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: I help you? Cause I said, no, I need to
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: talk to the agent. Why you want to talk to agent?
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: Because I don't want to talk to you? And it
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: was just ridiculous. And so with therapy and we and
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: if people are getting cute with this stuff, talking about
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: just asking a question and it'll give you a response,
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  Speaker 1: your thoughts, your fears, will you talk about AI and therapy,
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  Speaker 1: especially mental therapy.
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  Speaker 3: So I think that the tools can be supplementary, so
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  Speaker 3: they can be helpful in a way of like maybe
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  Speaker 3: daily affirmations, you know, things that you can kind of
• 24:21
  Speaker 3: look at from there, the breathing, the calm apps. But
• 24:23
  Speaker 3: from a therapist perspective, you can never replace like that
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  Speaker 3: human connection and the ability to help somebody process. AI
• 24:30
  Speaker 3: can't give you that. And it also can't hear what
• 24:34
  Speaker 3: we hear. We're trained to hear things differently. It doesn't
• 24:37
  Speaker 3: have that component that can do that, and so that's
• 24:40
  Speaker 3: where I feel like people have to utilize that. The
• 24:42
  Speaker 3: fear is that people will rely heavily on those things.
• 24:45
  Speaker 3: So the one they are in moments of crisis, such
• 24:48
  Speaker 3: as like they're feelings to the side of work, they
• 24:50
  Speaker 3: need a higher level of care. They're relying on this
• 24:52
  Speaker 3: tool to tell them and the guide them, and it's
• 24:55
  Speaker 3: not given them the proper direction.
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: Speaking of the Monique guard side is she's the best
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  Speaker 1: of what she does. She like she said, she's in
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: therapy and she does therapy, which I mean, she's both sides.
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  Speaker 1: That's why I was able to share some of the
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  Speaker 1: things I do when I went into therapy. And I'm
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: not saying I'm not saying that just to say it.
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: I think it's important that when I bring my guests
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: on the show, it's still a learning experience from me,
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: but also it helps that I've experienced it. So the
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: questions I ask come from an honest space. It comes
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: from a space that I've personally experienced. But here it
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: leads to my closing thing statement here Monique, and I
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: want to response for you, is that what are some
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: of the common misconceptions about mental health?
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  Speaker 3: I think some of the common misconceptions is that people
• 25:43
  Speaker 3: can just you can just you know, navigate it like
• 25:46
  Speaker 3: you can just get over and so everyone's journey is different,
• 25:49
  Speaker 3: and so really having the time to take take the
• 25:53
  Speaker 3: time to address what they need to in their own way,
• 25:56
  Speaker 3: I think is very important. Again, it's not glamorous, like
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  Speaker 3: makes it seem like you really need to get connected
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  Speaker 3: with a professional. I think you cannot. A no tool
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  Speaker 3: or TikTok or any of other things can help you
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  Speaker 3: the way sitting in front the therapist, a trained clinician
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  Speaker 3: can help.
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  Speaker 1: Clinical social worker Monique Guardside her book I Can I Will,
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  Speaker 1: a thirty day guided journal designed to help individuals reflect, reset,
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  Speaker 1: and overcome challenges such as depression, anxiety, and life transitions.
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  Speaker 1: All that's very important in our life today because there's
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: a lot thrown at us. We're tied to GPS, were
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: tied to social media, we're tied.
• 26:37
  Speaker 2: To our cell phones.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you for coming on Money Making Conversation Master Class,
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  Speaker 1: Monique Guarside.
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