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💆🏼‍♀️Self-Care Series: You're Allowed to Want More ✨ · ✨️Aligned and Thriving: For Teachers🌿

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  Hello everyone, and welcome back to another episode of Alliance
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  and Driving. Here we chat about all things
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  real life, real teaching, and real talk about living a life
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  that you're proud of both inside and outside of the classroom.
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  And today I really want to remind you of something
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  important. You are allowed to want more.
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  Now this isn't because you're ungrateful and it's not because
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  you're greedy, but because your time, your energy and your well
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  being matters and you deserve a life that feels good to you.
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  So it's time to grab your coffee, take a deep breath, and
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  let's just dive on in. I want to be honest.
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  Well, when am I not honest with you?
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  But honestly, have you seen the cost of kids sport lately?
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  Like seriously? Or is it just my children
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  because I have two doing lots of things at the same time?
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  I mean, obviously maybe you don't even have kids, but
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  signing up for a season of something, even if you play
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  sports. So put this in perspective.
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  I play sport. Both of my kids do different
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  sports and multiple sports to be exact.
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  It all adds up like for me to be able to play the cost of like
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  turf fees, training fees, uniform Subs, like your sub fees
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  to the club that you play for the fees for insurance purposes.
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  Like they all add up. And while we love what we do as
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  teachers, let's not pretend that teaching alone always pays the
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  bills and feeds our souls the way that we need it to.
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  So I'm here to tell you this loud and clear that you are
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  allowed to want more. You're allowed to explore
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  something outside of the teaching space and you are
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  allowed to dream big and you are absolutely allowed to start
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  something of your own, something that brings you joy,
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  flexibility, and maybe a little extra income too.
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  I mean, hello, hi podcast. This actually doesn't make me
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  any money, just let me make that clear.
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  But it is a passion project that I love putting my time and
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  energy into. If you watched or listened to
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  the podcast a while back that Taylor Swift starred in with the
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  Kelsey Brothers where she talked about think of your energy as
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  being expensive and it's like a luxury item.
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  So not everyone gets to have that.
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  OK? So you get to choose what you
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  are going to put your energy into.
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  So I'm going to touch on side hustle life.
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  Just let me be honest. Yep, I do have a side hustle.
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  Actually, I've got a few. No, I'm not raking in six
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  figures or anything like that yet, but yes, I do have these
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  because it helps and it's also because I care.
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  As I said, this podcast is 100% a passion projects.
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  I do not get paid to do it in any way, shape or form.
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  I make time for it in my life because I want to help other
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  teachers feel less alone. I want you to feel sane.
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  I don't know, maybe one day I'll get some sponsors, but that's
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  not why I do it. I do it because I have been
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  there or I'm actually currently here, if that made sense.
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  But the side sort of stuff that I do is stuff around health
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  because it has actually helped me.
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  And when you find something that supports you that much, why
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  wouldn't you want to share it? And if you make money while
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  doing it, I guess that's just a bonus.
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  It's not about pushing sales or pushing products or becoming
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  someone that you're not. It's about recognising the life
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  that you want. But this is completely allowed.
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  We are so utterly and truly blessed to have a salary.
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  But that should not be your ceiling, OK?
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  Like yes, that is as high at one point that you can go, but we
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  should be able to burst out above our ceiling and still have
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  a life that we love. It's a bit of an identity shift
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  because I've told you this before that you are more than
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  your job title. We get so boxed in as teachers
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  and educators like we absolutely can't be anything else.
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  But you are not just a teacher. You are a multi passionate,
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  powerful woman or man who can also be a writer, a speaker, a
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  mentor, a business owner, a course creator, a podcast host,
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  an Etsy seller, what you name it.
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  Teaching might be part of your identity, but it doesn't have to
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  be your whole identity. You're allowed to be curious
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  about more. It's for me.
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  It's literally about time too. You want more time at home, more
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  flexibility, or more mental space.
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  That's not selfish, that's just being smart.
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  Your time is one of your most valuable resources and after the
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  last few years that we've all had, it's never been clearer
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  that time is everything. You don't get that time back.
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  If you want to work part time, amazing, go do it.
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  If you want to start a little business to make that
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  financially possible for you, let's chat.
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  You want to have more time for your kids, your partner,
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  yourself? Yes, you 100% deserve that.
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  So I'm going to give you options.
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  We're just going to talk options.
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  Maybe you're still sitting here thinking, I just don't know
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  where to start. Well, that's where I come in.
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  There are so many just little ways that you could start
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  something that works for you that does not take over your
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  life or add pressure, but instead will give you some of
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  your energy back. You might go and start that
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  Instagram page that you've been thinking about to give more
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  people some inspiration or something like that.
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  You might launch an Etsy store with something that you already
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  love to do or make. I know those teachers that have
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  those hobbies on the side, like knitting or painting.
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  You could be making money off your passion projects, your
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  hobbies, so why not do that? If it doesn't 'cause you extra
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  pressure or stress. You could share your journey
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  with a product that you already use, which is pretty much what I
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  do with my health businesses. I'm just talking about stuff
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  that I use for me, for my health, and the fact that other
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  people want to join that party too.
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  Fantastic, let's go, let's talk. But that is purely because I
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  consistently use those products and I want to share them with
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  other people to help them feel good and amazing too.
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  You might create resources and sell them online.
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  Hello Teacherspayteachers, what is it there for?
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  It is there for you as a teacher.
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  If you've already made that unit, why not upload it and make
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  a bit of a profit on sharing your work with other people and
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  making their lives easier in the process?
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  You could start a blog or a podcast to connect with others.
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  Eventually you could like start making money off it if you were
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  to get yourself some sponsors or you have connections or anything
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  like that. But honestly, if you're curious
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  about coaching or mentoring around this space, send me a
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  message. You can find me on Instagram and
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  Facebook. Just search Align and Thriving
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  for teachers. The links are always in the show
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  notes, but that is what I just wanted to touch on.
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  I just don't want you to think that when you see teachers
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  putting themselves out there, they're not being greedy, OK?
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  The cost of living is so high now that we are struggling, so
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  why can't we look for other sources of income to help
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  support ourselves when we are struggling?
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  It's not the same as what it used to be when our wonderful
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  parents could go and buy a block for $80,000 and build a house
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  for maybe 150 like that. Now you would struggle to find
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  any block of land in that sort of space.
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  I remember talking to someone who about 25 years ago bought a
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  block for $7000 and then they built their house.
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  The end of their bill was like 55 grand.
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  And I'm just looking at them dumbfounded like wow, and that's
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  still the house you live in now and they're renovating.
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  And now they're like, wow, cost of everything so expensive.
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  Like but you built that for 55 grand.
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  It's completely different. I remember my mom actually found
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  one of her first cheques for getting paid as a teacher.
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  Obviously she started a little while ago and it was like 7 and
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  a half, $1000. And that was a really, really
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  high salary. And now you look at what we're
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  on and it varies state by state, but you just think, I don't
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  know. I, I just have those thoughts
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  where I am so thankful that I have a consistent income, but at
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  the same time I do get a little bit jealous and I have to think,
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  no, that's OK, They can have that.
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  When you've got personal assistance to business owners
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  that are earning way more and getting free meals, free
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  accommodation, like all these perks with their job.
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  And I'm going, oh, that looks so tempting.
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  But then you remember your why and what you are doing.
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  So this is more or less my way of supporting me to continue
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  doing what I love to do. But it means that I can do it
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  happily and not have to leave to go find other things because
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  I've got other stuff going on outside that works while I
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  sleep. So that I can actually just
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  focus on my wife and my teaching because that is my passion and I
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  love to do it and I love to do this.
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  I love to share with people just to try and help more people on
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  their journey. So for me, obviously I deal in
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  health because it works hand in hand.
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  Our health is our wealth. I can honestly say that looking
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  after my own health has changed everything for me.
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  I in teaching, you're exposed to everything.
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  I used to catch every single bug.
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  I felt drained all the time and I would just survive through
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  each term. But now I feel strong.
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  I am showing up and I am fending off sickness left right and
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  centre. Like I the only days I've had
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  off lately when my husband doesn't take them off is when my
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  kids are sick. And even then like as I said, my
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  hubby will usually take the first one off, bless him because
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  they actually rest better when he's home because they're bored.
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  He doesn't want to entertain their thoughts of let's watch a
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  movie or let's do this. He's like no you're sick, you,
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  you sleep, you rest. That's what your body needs and
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  and that's what he does and it works.
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  But I, I haven't touched wood, been sick.
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  Like I've had gluten episodes from having gluten, being a
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  celiac, but that is all. Any sort of hint of sickness,
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  it's sort of just melted away. I've just gone to bed a little
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  bit earlier and then I wake up the next day and I'm fine.
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  Usually if you would stay home with your children, you'd pick
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  up the bugs off them as well. And we just don't.
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  In our house, we're so much happier and healthier because
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  we've done something for our own health as a family and that's
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  just a bonus that we get to it. It basically just pays for the
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  daughter's gymnastics. So why not be healthy and and
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  pay for one thing too? But it all started because I
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  gave myself permission to try something new.
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  And then from there, and this is the way it is in teaching is you
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  have that buy in of other people in your family because they see
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  what you're doing and they're like, wow, what's she on?
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  I would like what she's having. And then it flows on from there.
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  So that was pretty much how that whole system has worked for me
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  is, oh, what are they doing? I want to do that too, because
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  it all works together. So you, you're worth it.
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  If your heart is calling you to go try something, go do it.
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  If your soul is just nudging you to create something, go there.
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  If your energy is screaming I want more than this, you need to
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  listen. You don't need anyone's
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  permission but your own. And if you need a little bit of
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  encouragement, you've got me right here cheering you on.
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  Because that's what I'm here for.
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  And if you listen to anyone like Mel Robbins, she will tell you
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  what why do you care what other people think?
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  The only person that matters and what they think is you.
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  It is your body. It is your choice.
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  They are your decisions. You do what works for you
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  because that is what life is all about.
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  And you've got to start like if you've got that thought about
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  the past where you might be a bit angry or upset or annoyed,
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  like you've got to release that from your past because it will
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  set you free in the in the present.
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  So if things maybe you tried something before and it wasn't
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  successful, don't hold on to that.
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  This is a new day and age. There's lots of new things.
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  You can branch out and do new things and try new things, but
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  nothing has to take away from your time with your family or
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  your work or anything like that. We are going to make things work
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  for you. So I know this one was a little
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  bit random, but I think it was just a bit of reassurance for
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  those people who are arming and aring or are doing more than one
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  thing. I have lots of friends that do
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  more than one thing and they are teachers too.
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  OK, it's fine. We just need to give ourselves
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  permission to do so. So thank you again for hanging
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  out with me today. And if this episode spoke to
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  you, I would love for you to share it with your teacher,
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  friends or a colleague or find me on Instagram and Facebook and
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  chat about your dreams with me, side hustles or anything in
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  between. Because remember and I'm, I
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  wasn't trying to sell you anything either.
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  This is not a sales post. This is just me sharing ideas
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  with you. I'm being honest because I'm
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  real, I'm raw, I'm honest and that's what you're always going
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  to get because as I said in many, many previous posts,
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  podcast is that I cannot lie. It just does not work for me.
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  So remember that this is your time, it's your health and it's
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  your passions. They all matter and you are
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  allowed to want more and to do more.
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  So please, if you've enjoyed this episode, please give it a
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  rating, give it a review, do whatever you have to do, share
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  it because the more that we're getting this information out
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  there to people, the more people we can help because that's what
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  I'm here for. I started this passion project
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  as a way to help other educators out there hear, know and
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  understand what is really possible and things that you
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  might need to hear. And, and it just might hit the
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  nail right on the head for you at the moment.
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  This might be the message that you need to hear.
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  So please send me a message, talk to me.
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  I'm always here. But until next time and the next
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  podcast that you listen to, whatever that may be, I hope
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  that you stay aligned and you keep thriving towards your
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  goals, whatever they may be. They are amazing and you are
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  amazing and you don't need permission.
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  You're allowed to want more. So go out and have the best day,
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  night, evening, whatever it is, and I'll talk to you again next
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  time. Bye, guys.