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Hi, everybody. Happy Wednesday.
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Wednesday here we are, November 5th.
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Can you believe it? We've got two years, two months
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left in the year and we are going to talk today about Mom
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Domi. He just won in New York and what
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happened in Virginia. Everybody knows but the
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conservatives or the Republicans.
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You should, I should say it lost.
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What does it all mean? I actually have a lot of
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thoughts on this and it's been bubbling up in my mind lately of
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regarding women and this trend of women voting left and
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identifying more as left. It's much more than politics.
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It has to do with culture and identity.
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So we're going to get into that in today's episode.
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Also, I had some interesting conversations on X recently
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regarding the, I think, fallout after Charlie Kirk's horrific
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murder and people that are now trying to take on and away his
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platform or take on now leadership on what is called the
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right. And I have some thoughts on that
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too. But what does everybody think
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about Momdami? That's what the wall to wall
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coverage is about. He's a self-proclaimed
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democratic socialist. He just won big in New York
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City. Now remember Mom Domi was
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running against two other hard leftist Cuomo, Andrew Cuomo, who
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is a hardcore pro abort. So it's not as if if Mom Domi
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had lost to Cuomo that would have somehow been a win.
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But it is interesting that Mom Domi won, especially how he won
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hard with women, especially young women.
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In fact, he got 81% of the female, the young female vote,
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which is wild. So I want to take a look at
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this. This is actually some a video I
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want to watch first about Mom Domi.
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I do think that his democratic socialism that he presents is so
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appealing to younger groups, especially women, because he's
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basically saying that we're going to solve all the economic
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issues and no one's going to be hungry.
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No one's going to be without childcare.
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Everyone's going to be happy. Let's take a listen to how he
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was communicating. This is from a clip just a few
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weeks ago in it during his campaign.
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Year so we can pause it. So I want to point out a few
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things. First of all, how this is going
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to be paid for of course is not typically part of the
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conversation with mom Domi and he doesn't really have the power
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to raise state taxes. He's just a mayor.
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He's not the governor. He doesn't hold any other
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elected office for the entire state of New York.
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It's just New York City. So there's of course the
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question of what's that going to look like financially for the
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city. But look at momdami.
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Look he's he's a charismatic guy.
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He's very cheerful. He talks with a lot of inspiring
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language. He has this very positive
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sounding message and he's hitting pain points.
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He's hitting free daycare. He's hitting free buses he's
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hitting rent control for sort of the working class you could say
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of New York. Now it's interesting.
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I was looking at a study here that said that people that are
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New York natives only 50% or it was I think 40% only voted for
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momdami. But when they came in the last
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five years the last just year or two to New York City.
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Those groups of people voted in much greater numbers for mom
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Domi versus Cuomo. So that was an interesting note
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that people that are new to New York and maybe aren't as wise to
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how New York runs and what are the real costs of the government
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kept providing everything for free.
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Those people were less likely to vote for Mom Domi.
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But it's undeniable that Mom Domi had this very winsome
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message, especially with younger women.
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And we're going to unpack that today because I think it's
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really important. And I think that, you know, we
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talk about politics on the show more than that.
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We talk about culture on the show and our personal
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responsibility, but I think that we do have a personal
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responsibility for people who care about culture and politics
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to see what's happening with younger women today and to make
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a difference in that space. And that's part of the mission
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of the show, by the way. So we're going to deep dive
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that. But before I get more into that
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and another note, as I said earlier, in Virginia, which used
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to be a red state, used to have a red governor, used to have a
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Republican governor. In Virginia, young women also
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helped vote in the Democrat governor, as well as a Democrat
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AG, Attorney General Jay Jones. And this is a guy that was
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really wracked with scandal. I mean, he actually had a series
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of text messages that were leaked where he was threatening
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political violence against his political opponents as a joke in
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text message. And even people on the left and
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the right were decrying this. And Jay Jones still won
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definitively with young women. So what is going on here?
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Why are American women, especially younger women, very
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hard left? How do we solve this?
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What are the underlying motivations and reasons for
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this? That's what we're going to be
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exploring here. Before that, though, I want to
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talk really quick about something happening on X right
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now. If you're not on XA lot, I'm
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sorry if this is like, what? What are you even talking about,
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Lila? I totally missed this entire
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kerkuffle, but I wanted to address it.
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So on X right now there is. I tweeted something.
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Let's pull up my tweet, Harris, if we can.
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So this was just yesterday, and this was regarding a New York
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Times profile that came out, I believe, yesterday regarding a
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streamer podcaster who's been around now for I think almost a
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decade, many years. But he's a younger, younger guy.
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And he has been ultimately ascending, you could say, in
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growing an audience, especially of younger men.
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So this is again part of that, the divide of the sexes, men,
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women, women bearing more left, many men bearing more what they
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call alt right. So this was my tweet.
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You can pull it up here. I said the New York Times taking
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glamour shots of a self-proclaimed admirer of Adolf
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Hitler as a possible successor to Charlie Kirk.
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Well, they religiously avoided featuring Charlie Kirk during
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his life is peak leftist propaganda.
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It adds insult to injury that Charlie intentionally shunned
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the Hitler admirer. Now, if you're listening to this
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on podcast later, you're like, what are you even talking about?
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Let's pull up the New York Times article so we know what I'm
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talking about. This was an opinion piece that
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came out now 2 days ago. I'm sorry.
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On Tuesday of this week, Nick Fuentes was Charlie Kirk's
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bitter enemy. Now he's becoming his successor.
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And you'll see if you Scroll down here, Harris.
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Oh, you're not able to see it. Let me screenshot this for you
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and send it. There is a kind of like a
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glamour shot of this person Fuentes in the New York Times
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article. Now, the reason that this really
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caught my eye is the fact that when Charlie was alive, and I
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knew because I would pay attention to this, there were
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very rarely anything close to positive pieces about Charlie
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Kirk in the New York Times. Occasionally they would
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reference his work, but they very rarely would sort of note
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him as some rising influential figure that people were
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attracted to. They wanted Charlie to look
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sidelined and not attractive to people.
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And so when they were would present him and their reporting,
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it was in always with a negative frame and never with a picture
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like this one. So you can pull this down now,
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Harris, but this is a what you could what you would call a
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glamour shot from the New York Times of a again, as they call
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him an alt right. You can put whatever title you
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want on it. But a growing and popularity
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streamer and podcaster who is saying that he's on the right.
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He says that he's Catholic is my understanding.
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He says that he's even opposed to things like abortion and
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transiting the children is my understanding.
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But he also makes these jokes. And he also says he actually
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thinks we are too negative about the legacy of people like, yes,
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Adolf Hitler. And so I think that this is an
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example, and I bring this up of, yes, media spin at which is
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something I'm always interested in because I've been the victim
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of media spin. Most people on the right have
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been the victim of media spin. But this is a particularly
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perverse version because they're basically propping up somebody
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who does make light of the Holocaust, who does do that,
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because they're trying to stick it to the Jewish people.
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I mean, it's a whole part of his whole stick.
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And they're trying to prop that up as the new face of the right,
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essentially, when the reality is even Charlie Kirk, especially
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Charlie Kirk was so passionately against this worldview and so
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much against even this individual and his
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representation of worldview that he would didn't even want this
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person at his events. He wouldn't give him a platform.
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He said you're not welcome here because being anti-Semitic,
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being racist, being misogynistic is wrong.
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It violates principles that are on the right.
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The deeper question, of course, is what are the principles that
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should govern the right? I mean, what are the principles
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that should govern Republican Party?
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As you all know, I got in a lot of heat last year for opposing
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President Trump's at the time, some of the pro abortion lean
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that he was going during his campaign, like coming out
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against Amendment 4 in Florida, which would basically allow for
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abortions up until birth. And he said he wasn't sure he
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would come out against it. Excuse me?
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And then later on he did, but that was only after he got
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criticized for it. So if we don't have principles
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on the right, if we give one inch of ground to things like
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the killing of babies, to things like racism, whether that's
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racism directed at the Jewish people or racism directed at any
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group, and I would say that includes of course, people in
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Gaza, Any form of racism is evil and wrong or it's misogyny or
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it's misandry. It's the hate, hatred towards
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men or the hatred towards women. None of that can survive should
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be able to survive on the right or what is the right anymore.
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If the right becomes that I don't want anything to do with
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it, right. And most I think people who are
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non X everyday and you know, steeped in the step would be
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like, yeah, I don't want to be part of that.
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So it's so important that we do have principles.
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If you are conservative, that we have foundational principles
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that we don't compromise on them.
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Principles matter. And I think that is the way to
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to win back the youth vote is by having principles.
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Keep in mind Zoron mom Dami said he had principles.
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That's what he said. Now when it comes to life, he
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was raging pro abort. Although he always said it with
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nice language. So didn't sound bad.
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That was part that's part of the sleight of hand, right?
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Oh, I support woman's reproductive rights.
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Well, he supports abortion until birth.
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Oh, I support, you know, the rights of LGBTQ plus people to
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exist and be, you know, love is love.
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Well, he actually supports dismantling the traditional
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family, which is what he has, which he ultimately ran on.
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But he couched it in nice language.
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Right. So there's two things that the
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conservative movement has to do. We have to have stand on
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principle. And then we have to do it with
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joy and do it with winsomeness and persuasiveness.
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Be, you know, make persuasion our aim while standing on
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principle. So you can't compromise
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principle for the sake of persuasion, and you also can't
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be persuasive and you know, say I'm all of these things, but
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then ultimately not care about your principles.
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You have to care about both the principles and the persuasion.
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Or I should say, you can't care about the principles and then
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not care about persuasion, and you can't be persuasive and then
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reject the principle. So it has to be both.
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So I just wanted to share that because I am seeing this
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tension. It's on the left too, by the
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way. The left is having their own
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identity crisis, but I'm seeing this tension on the right and it
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is so important to have both principles and persuasion.
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But what I really wanted to get into was this phenomenon of
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women voting left, especially younger women, and why that is.
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All right, you guys. So as everyone knows, Momdami's
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on Momdami won big in New York City yesterday for mayor.
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He is a democratic socialist, very pro abortion, very anti
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marriage. And then in Virginia we had some
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big losses as well. Two very pro abort folks, one
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for AG and the governor and for governor.
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And that's also a huge disappointment when you're
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looking at the exit polling. We see that women, especially
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younger women were big shower uppers for these candidates.
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And I actually want to pull up that data really quick.
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Harris, if you scroll back up, young women voted in Virginia
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for the Democrat candidates and pull up the ex post here from
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Election Wiz. Men favored Mayares.
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He was up for the AG by 58 percent, 18 points and women
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favored Jones by 12 points. So 12% more women, 12 women.
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Jay Jones, the Democrat AG candidate, won women by 12
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points. I think that's really
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significant and everything. All of this is significant.
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OK, so why, why is it happening? Pull up this meme for us.
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Actually, Harris, because I do think just to close up what I
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was talking about X earlier in my ex post.
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All right, this is not why I think this is happening guys and
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a whole story. But this is one element that I
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think is worth looking at. This is a meme that's going
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around women voting Republican and then you see that they get
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shot by Republicans who embrace Fuentes.
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Why would women vote against us? Cry, cry.
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That, by the way, is not what I think was motivating women going
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in and voting for Jay Jones and Mom Domi.
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They weren't thinking about that.
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They probably don't even know who ranked this is.
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But I do think it is unhelpful on the right, obviously, to bash
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women to platform and embrace misogyny.
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It's very unhelpful. So if women don't want to vote
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for that in the long run, that that's going to be why.
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I mean, that will be a big reason why, but there's a lot of
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other reasons why. So let's go into one of those
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other reasons are OK. Understanding is the first step
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to wisdom. You have in order to understand
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what's happening in the world, you have to look around and
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understand the data and look at people's experiences.
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It is a fact that there is a rise today in women who don't
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want to have children. There is a rise today in women
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who want to be Dinks. There is a rise today in women
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who don't want to get married. It's very sad and disturbing all
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of this happening. I was recently on a podcast, I
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did this debate for over 2 hours on the Ellen Fisher podcast.
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Shout out to Ellen. She's a great friend.
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And I debated this young woman, well, she I think she was in her
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30s, younger woman who is a self professed DINK, dual income, no
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kids. She was advocating for other
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women to be Dinks. She has a podcast where she
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promotes the DINK lifestyle. Here's a little clip from our
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the promo clip from our debate. And this woman has an entire
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brand about why and how you should be a DINK.
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Now she would even say in my inner, my debate with her, oh,
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I'm not telling women they have to be a DINK.
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It's all about women's choice, right?
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That was kind of a refrain. It's all about women's choice.
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But it's very clear that by her choosing that or by her
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recommending that to other women, that is part of her her
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whole persuasion that she is campaign she's undergoing, which
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is let's try to get more women to see the the upside of being a
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DINK. So what are the numbers here?
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According to a Michigan State study, the percentage of US non
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parents who say they don't want any children rose from 14% in
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2002 to 29% in 2023. That's so wild.
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That is so wild. The amount of people who said
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that say non parents. So Americans who aren't parents
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yet who said they don't want any children went from 14% to 29%.
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It doubled from 2020, 2002 to 2023.
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Among that cohort adults, US adults younger than 50 who don't
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want to have children and make sure that they are unlikely ever
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to have children increased from 2018.
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So it's been speeding up in just the last five, 6-7 years from 37
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to percent in 2018 to 47% in 2023.
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So this is for both men and women, but I'm going to get to
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specifically the women in a middle minute.
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The amount of young people who want to have kids is declining
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sharply. As you may all know, the birth
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rate has basically gone off of gone off of a Cliff.
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So the amount of women now who are having children today versus
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really any other time is at its lowest.
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The birth rate I think is 1.8 is below replacement rate.
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I think it might be 1.7 now. It is below replacement rate.
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So replacement rate for a population is 2.1.
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You need 2.1 children per couple or two people to at least
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replace the population, and we are below that.
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The only reason that we are not experiencing severe economic
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collapse in the United States because of the decline in
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population is because of immigration, which is wild.
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And it's not because of, you know, any other reason.
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We are only able to replace ourselves as a population right
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now because of immigration. That's the only reason we are
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not wanting to have kids. We are not having kids.
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That is largely the state of the culture today.
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Now there's a lot of good trends of people finding faith again,
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People wanted to get married again.
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So there's positive trends that are happening amid all of this
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chaos. But the reality is we are at a
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low point in birth rate unlike we've ever seen before in our
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history. So why are people, what are the
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fears driving this? Why is this happening?
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And I'm going to just give some theories here.
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I'm not going to pretend to have all of the answers and present
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them perfectly. But I do have some theories
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about why this is happening, why we're seeing this, then show up
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in politics as these votes for these far left figures who
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promised the moon and back and who are super pro sexual
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libertinism, super pro abortion. And then why and how we can how
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we can solve for this? So I think 1 foundational issue
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is the sexual revolution. We talk about this a lot on the
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show, as you guys know, but the whole idea that your life is
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about you and sexual pleasure at your, at your fingertips
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whenever you want, As long as there's consent between adults,
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you're good. I think that is a huge
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foundational piece of why people think they wouldn't want to have
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kids, get married, etcetera. Because for them life is about
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pleasure, life is about what I want.
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It's about my autonomy, it's about my own ideas.
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It's not about any sort of ordering to relationships.
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And that's really toxic as a worldview.
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It's very damaging as a worldview.
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And it came up in my debate with the with this young woman who
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was the, the DINK side of the debate, because she would say in
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the conversation that she wanted her lifestyle, that she wanted
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the lifestyle that she had. She wanted to be able to, she
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didn't want to be up at night with a baby.
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She wanted to be able to go on vacations.
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She wanted to be able to have more money, have a better
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lifestyle. And kids would be a drain on
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that. And so in her mind, OK, well,
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then I'm not going to have kids. That was kind of the entire, not
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the entire, but that was part of the calculation for her.
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So sexual revolution is really what broke the American mind 50
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years ago on this question of what is my life's purpose
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instead of my life's purpose is about love and about
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relationship and maybe getting married one day and having
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children. My life's purpose is now about
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like what I want sexually. And I get to be free.
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And sex is no longer tied to procreation or intimacy and
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lifelong love. And so now it's a free for all.
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And we're seeing the fruit of that.
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We're seeing the free for all happening right now.
21:46
And so there's that piece of it, but then there's another piece
21:48
of it, too. And that, I would say, is the
21:51
economic peace. And I think this is where
21:53
conservatives would do well to emphasize what the right can
21:59
offer the American family and individual to make it easier for
22:03
them to live and to have a family and to have children.
22:06
Because I think there's a lot of fear today around motherhood
22:10
because of a concern for it being able to be affordable for
22:16
them to be able to be in healthy relationships that can last, to
22:20
be able to raise those children and be able to handle the
22:23
pressures of being a mom or dad. And I speak for dads too,
22:27
because I think they have their own set of concerns.
22:29
But statistically, women have them more.
22:32
And women, of course, are the ones that carry a life and
22:34
usually do most of the caretaking for the younger
22:36
children. That's biologically how we're
22:38
wired. That's a beautiful thing.
22:40
But it's also becomes it's being seen as a burden now.
22:44
And so underlying, I think the reason Momdami won free daycare,
22:49
free buses, rent control, free everything.
22:52
And underlying this trend towards not wanting to have
22:54
kids, towards being Dinks, towards rejecting marriage and
22:58
motherhood is the fear. The fear that I can't handle it,
23:04
that I don't have what it takes. And so either someone else has
23:07
to come in and be my knight in shining armor like Momdami,
23:11
effectively. And even then I have autonomy.
23:13
So I can choose not to have a baby.
23:14
It's up to me. I whatever, I, you know, my
23:17
women's rights, women's rights, right?
23:18
And I can, I'm, I will be just as happy being completely
23:22
unburdened by family and marriage and children.
23:25
But that is ultimately I think a huge reason why women are
23:31
choosing to vote left and to also reject motherhood is fear,
23:37
economic fear. They've been, we've been trained
23:39
to be selfish by the sexual revolution and by being mis
23:42
educated by our academics. The family formation today is
23:47
bad, broken families, all of that.
23:49
So we've been trained to view ourselves as really it's life is
23:53
about us and what I want and we're not going to find meaning
23:55
in relationships. It's really my own self
23:58
determination. And then there is the economic
24:01
fears and there's the economic crisis.
24:05
Now, I do think, yeah, I, I sometimes when I think about the
24:09
fact and and there's some great social data about this, you
24:12
know, world hunger is at an all time low globally.
24:15
The amount of you know what, what it means to be poor today
24:18
in America is actually other nations wealth, right?
24:21
So even the poor in America compared to a lot of other
24:24
nations are wealthier than many nations throughout the world.
24:28
So I think another factor here connected to economics and sort
24:32
of our idea of wealth and our idea of do we have enough?
24:35
Do we have what it takes to have a family etcetera is also
24:38
expectations around lifestyle and think about that for a
24:43
minute. Social media, marketing, media
24:46
in general has given all of these expectations to both women
24:51
and men about what it means to even have be successful or be
24:54
able to have a family or be able to be a mother or father.
24:57
We see constantly consumerism and materialism presented as the
25:01
end game, as a success story. And so you connect economic
25:06
challenges, difficulty to even buy a home in today's economy
25:10
for most people, student loan debt, inflation.
25:15
You connect that the dual, the dual income trap, as Elizabeth
25:19
Warren called it over 20 years ago, where now you need to have
25:23
two incomes to be able to support a household.
25:26
Often in this country. That's at least the experience
25:28
of many people and you connect all of that to also people
25:33
having this vision of, well, if I'm going to have kids and a
25:35
family, I need a 5 bedroom house or whatever it is.
25:38
I need to have the latest, you know, whatever thing is being
25:41
marketed to me on Instagram. I need to have all of that.
25:44
It feels like an impossible situation for a lot of people.
25:47
Feels impossible, especially when they have the student loan
25:50
debt piece of it for those that have that.
25:52
And so people are legitimately wrestling with what is what am I
25:56
going to do? How can I do this and do I even
25:58
why would I even want to do this to begin with?
26:00
What why, why what is in it for me, I think is a lot of people
26:03
are saying So what can we do about this?
26:08
What what's the solution? I do have some solutions.
26:12
There is hope. I think I have some solutions.
26:15
So I do think that the conservative movement can
26:18
absolutely crush this. I think we can.
26:21
I think if we present a positive, joyful view of
26:26
supporting the American family, supporting the job of mothers
26:30
and fathers in this economy, and communicate effectively how a
26:35
smaller government give back the taxes, don't tax more, how a
26:40
more empowered family, American family and small community can
26:45
actually have thriving families. Presenting that vision I think
26:49
is part of the winning strategy. And what that looks like is
26:53
talking about how we can make costs lower for American
26:56
families. I think birth should be free.
26:59
I think that we should be giving more tax credits and cash
27:02
credits to families that have children.
27:04
It should be actually honored in our government.
27:08
If you're going to have a children, you should not just be
27:10
1 little tax write off or deduction on your taxes, but you
27:13
should actually be given a cash credit for for children having
27:16
multiple children. Instead of making daycare free,
27:20
why don't we give money back to mothers so that they can raise
27:24
their own children in their homes instead of having to go
27:26
pay a job to then go drop the child off at daycare?
27:30
Why not instead of just giving the mother money directly so
27:33
that she doesn't even have to enter into that part of the
27:36
workforce and that can support the American family?
27:38
There's a lot of creative things that conservatives can do in our
27:42
governmental policies to make America a healthier and happier
27:47
place to raise a family. I do think Maha is part of that.
27:51
Make America healthy again, better policies there.
27:54
Food and Drug Administration, I think, is already doing some
27:56
work in that space. But by the way, we should
27:57
absolutely have already banned the abortion drug.
28:00
If you want to make American families healthier, selling
28:02
abortion drugs that kill babies is obviously not a way to do
28:05
that. That's AI digress.
28:06
That's another point, but I think conservatives should be
28:09
emphasizing pro family policy. Momdami basically won because of
28:14
his representation of what is effectively, I think of many
28:17
people experienced it as pro family policy.
28:20
I mean, that might sound crazy to people, but I think that's a
28:22
big reason why he won. Everything was going to be
28:24
better for you individually and for your families because of me.
28:27
Momdami and women, especially younger women, bought that hook,
28:30
line and sinker. They just ate that up.
28:32
They're like, this sounds great. And yes, there's some bad
28:35
motivations in there. I think selfishness is a problem
28:37
today and sexual libertinism is a problem today.
28:40
But there's also that universal human desire to be able to
28:44
flourish. That's how we're designed.
28:46
And to be able to make a way in this world and be able to be
28:48
able to have a house over our heads and food on the table, and
28:53
if we have children, to have it for them.
28:55
Conservatives can win that game because it is better economic
28:58
policy to have a freer market than a less free market.
29:02
Just speaking very generally here of course.
29:05
And it is a generally better policy to tax less and empower
29:09
people more to be able to build their own families, businesses,
29:13
everything else. That's what we should be
29:15
celebrating and championing as conservatives.
29:18
I think another thing we can do is encourage businesses to be
29:22
more pro family and flexible work hours, including for moms
29:28
and dads. By the way, dads have
29:30
responsibilities in the home too.
29:31
It's not like they just work and they don't have anything to do
29:33
with child rearing you a dad is essential and irreplaceable in
29:37
the home. So I think more friendly
29:39
policies for families, especially for young mothers,
29:41
but for moms and dads by employers is important to the
29:46
end game of a for profit. Yes, is for profit, but it in
29:51
order to make a profit in the, the purpose of that profit is
29:55
people. So actually the end to end game
29:57
of a for profit business is people.
30:00
It's serving people. And profit is a mechanism of
30:03
serving the people who work there and own the business as
30:06
well as serving the people. You're you're giving them a
30:09
service or a good in in return for money.
30:12
So your job is then to serve people, people over profit.
30:15
In that sense, profit still matters.
30:16
We're not against profit. Of course, profit still matters,
30:19
but people matter the most and the profit is there to serve the
30:22
people. So with this mindset and I I
30:24
think you make for a better, healthier, happier workforce
30:26
when you're more pro family in the workforce, when you have
30:30
better maternity and paternity leaves, when you have more
30:32
flexible work hours, when you're there is work from home.
30:35
Think those things are all good. By the way, Hungary is a very
30:40
pro family country. They have a lot of pretty
30:43
intense pro family policies that have been successful in helping
30:47
people say yes to more children and get married.
30:51
They actually give cash credits for children.
30:54
I think after your third or your 4th, after your fourth child,
30:57
you don't have to pay the in income tax anymore in Hungary.
31:00
You're completely tax free, income tax free in Hungary.
31:03
I don't know if I read this wrong.
31:05
I think they might give a free minivan.
31:06
Can you look that up? Paris, do they give free
31:08
minivans to families? That would be an interesting
31:10
policy. If you have your fifth child,
31:12
you get a free by the 5th child. Actually, the minivan is kind of
31:16
shrinking. You need the Sprinter van and
31:19
those are pricey. But that would be an interesting
31:20
family policy if you have if you're married to encourage
31:24
marriage. If you're married and you have
31:25
your fifth child, you get a 50% off on a Sprinter van.
31:31
Hungry. It's not free, but there's a
31:32
policy idea makes make subsidized instead of
31:36
subsidizing instead of subsidizing.
31:39
I don't know, Big Pharma, we could subsidized 50% off
31:43
sprinter vans for big families. There's an idea.
31:46
But all of these things I think can be done by both public
31:51
policy, by employers to foster motherhood, fatherhood, family
31:57
to celebrate, to uphold those things.
32:00
That's the only way out of this mess in my view.
32:02
Another thing that I need to share is some some facts.
32:06
The reality is moms are happier according to social data.
32:10
So this is a really interesting study.
32:12
This is the Institute for family Studies.
32:14
Married mothers are nearly twice as likely to report being very
32:18
happy compared to single childless women.
32:21
So here's this data. Married mothers are nearly twice
32:24
as likely to be very happy compared to single childless
32:26
women. Women should know this data.
32:29
This was from March 2025. Survey of 3000 US age women 25
32:33
to 55. Why would this be the case?
32:37
Well, as a married mother myself, and I'm incredibly
32:39
privileged and blessed to be a married mother, There is nothing
32:42
more anchoring for your life than having a husband and
32:45
children that you're there to love and serve.
32:47
It is an incredible blessing and gift.
32:49
It is part of God's design. It's not the path for every
32:52
woman, of course, but it is the past for path for most women.
32:56
And these women, according to survey data, are reporting being
33:00
very happy, twice as much as the women who are not married or
33:05
with and without children. So I think women deserve to know
33:08
this because today in the media climate, motherhood is just
33:11
presented as this dregs, as the drag.
33:14
It's presented as this burden. Babies are presented as
33:18
ultimately complete, dependent, depleting just a bag on your
33:25
back, somebody that you would not, you would not want to have
33:27
a baby. I mean, that's of course one of
33:29
the reasons we have the abortion rate, that we have 3000
33:31
abortions a day. Babies are presented as this
33:34
incredible net negative. That is how they're presented.
33:39
And the reality is children are a blessing.
33:42
They are never a burden. They are a blessing, but we
33:45
should support families who have that responsibility of raising
33:49
children. That is that should be the that
33:51
by the way, what's the point of our government?
33:53
What's the point of our businesses?
33:55
What's the point of any of it if not to support families?
33:58
Families are the future families.
34:00
Where is that? Everything should be supporting
34:02
the family. So I do think spreading the
34:05
social data that moms are happier and now this few people
34:08
could say, well, that's correlation, Lila.
34:09
That's not causation. Maybe those women were naturally
34:12
happier and they just happened to get married, whatever.
34:15
But the reality is, I think our design as human beings, our
34:18
design as women is that we are designed to be in relationship
34:22
with other people. And the most natural design for
34:26
a woman biologically, spiritually, is ultimately to
34:30
mother. We are designed to mother.
34:33
And whether we are not able to mother or we don't choose
34:35
motherhood biologically because God has a different call in this
34:38
life for us, some women will not get married.
34:40
They might choose a celibate vocation on a, I'm talking
34:43
spiritually now, they are so-called to motherhood.
34:46
They're so-called to nurture and love and mother.
34:49
But the majority of women are called, I believe, to get
34:52
married and to be open to life and, and have children.
34:55
And that's a beautiful thing. Celebrate that.
34:59
Make that talk about that more. Not to say it's oh, perfect and
35:03
there's no problems and there's no challenges.
35:04
Of course it's responsibility, it's duty.
35:08
There is a huge opportunity to give of yourself when you get
35:13
married and have kids. It's not some easy walk in the
35:16
park. You grow as a human being, but
35:18
you experience more joy, more purpose, more meaning than I
35:22
think you would get to experience otherwise.
35:24
If you shirk that call and you reject that call, it's a gift.
35:28
I remember before I got married, I had a roommate that I was
35:32
living with in the near Palo Alto in Silicon Valley in the
35:37
Bay Area. Amazing woman.
35:40
And she lets me share this story publicly because it's pretty
35:42
personal to her, but she's an amazing person, beautiful
35:45
Christian woman. Well, she wasn't always
35:48
following faith. And in her 20s and 30s, she was
35:51
really hard charging careerist. So she really was focused on her
35:54
career. She was working in New York
35:56
City, actually. This was now decades ago before
35:59
Mom Domi has taken power, but she was a real successful, I
36:03
think, investment banker. And she said that she
36:06
prioritized her career more than dating, certainly more than
36:09
maybe getting married. Career was her focus.
36:12
And she was very good at her job.
36:14
And then when she hit like late 30s, early 40s, her biological
36:18
clock caught up with her. And she was like, oh, my gosh,
36:20
wait a minute, I might not be able to have kids.
36:21
I want to have kids. What do I do?
36:22
And she was like scrambling. By this time around, this time,
36:26
she started to have find her faith again.
36:29
Anyway, she couldn't find a man, a husband.
36:31
She just, it was difficult. It's very difficult for men to
36:33
find women and women to find men today, by the way, it's very
36:35
tough. She was not able to find man.
36:38
She was not able to become a mother.
36:40
She hit 50 when I was living with her.
36:42
I think she was in her early 50s, past menopausal.
36:45
That window had passed and it was very painful for her.
36:49
And she shared that with me. And she's like you tell other
36:51
women, tell other women to be open to love.
36:54
Now, being open to love doesn't mean that God guarantees you a
36:57
husband. It doesn't mean that for sure
36:58
you're going to get married. And even if you get married,
37:00
there's not a guarantee you're going to have children.
37:02
Children are not like, you know, you press the button and the
37:04
baby pops out. Children are always a gift.
37:07
And they're not promised us, OK. But being open to love, I think
37:12
is what we are all called to and maybe we'll find in our
37:18
spiritual journeys, being open to love means that God says no,
37:20
marriage is not for you. But again, for most of us, it
37:23
will be that marriage is for you and to be open to getting
37:26
married. And I think if we had this
37:28
posture and women were encouraged to have this posture,
37:33
Mom Domi wouldn't have won in New York City to talk about, you
37:37
know, way down the line, political consequence.
37:39
We would not see the rise in DINKS and the rejection of
37:42
motherhood. I think there would be a
37:44
different vision and a different life that most women would have
37:49
and live because they would be in touch with how they were
37:52
wired and what God's design was. And so my final thought here is
37:57
the spiritual reality of all of this.
38:00
And I think the spiritual reality of all of this is that
38:04
we are not created randomly. We are created with purpose and
38:07
we are created with design. And God created the male and
38:10
female and then he said, be fruitful and go multiply.
38:14
And again, that's the call for most of us.
38:16
And we're going to find the greatest joy and meaning by
38:18
being faithful to that call. And then the ultimate call of a
38:21
Christian is to spread the gospel, which is that Jesus
38:24
Christ came to give us life in full and save us from our sins
38:28
and to be proud and joyful and spreading that reality.
38:33
But the the daily, you know, life that we are called to for
38:36
many of us is going to be marriage and kids.
38:39
And so if we can on the right celebrate that more, present
38:43
public policy to support that better, I think we're going to
38:46
see a lot more win, certainly politically, but most
38:50
importantly, we're going to see the cultural shift that needs to
38:52
happen. All right, before we wrap up, I
38:54
got to show you this. This was something really cute
38:56
that I saw on Instagram on the DINK topic.
38:59
It was a little bit of a hopeful note here, guys.
39:01
So the dual income no kids trend online, as I said, is the thing
39:05
people are celebrating. No more kids, no more kids.
39:08
We're just going to be so happy and have our lifestyle.
39:11
Well, there's also a trend against that trend.
39:14
Let's take a look at this. This is a couple pretty
39:17
hilarious Instagram influencers that I like following.
39:21
This is one of their clips where they're turning in their DINK
39:23
card. Welcome to Dual Income No Kids
39:25
headquarters. How can I?
39:27
Oh, you 2 again. Remember what we discussed last
39:30
time? Just a quick review.
39:33
No more access to the following Peace and quiet, Disposable
39:35
income, 8 hours of sleep. Privacy.
39:45
Understood. Congratulations you 2.
39:51
Congratulations, Alexandra, John are their names.
39:53
They just had a baby. Their first baby actually had
39:56
passed away after a stillbirth. It was very devastating.
39:58
And then they had another and their whole part of their whole
40:01
content now is celebrating motherhood and fatherhood, which
40:03
I love. And there's more of that, guys.
40:05
So there is a trend against this trend of Dinks and everything
40:08
else. There's a lot of reason to be
40:10
helpful. Let's celebrate motherhood,
40:12
celebrate fatherhood, and that's part of the mission of this
40:14
show. Thank you all for listening and
40:17
we'll see you all next time.