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Financial Motivation: Unlocking Mentorship and Setting Yourself Up for Success. · The Steve Harvey Morning Show

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Speaker 3: Thank you, Thank you, Steven. I appreciate the intro. It
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Speaker 3: really makes me feel good and inspiring. We're in a
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Speaker 3: time where you know you need people to motivate you.
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Speaker 3: It's my mentorship. This is a really motivating show.
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Speaker 2: Today.
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Speaker 3: My first guest today we'll be discussing that buttet. Let
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Speaker 3: me get into my intro. I'm Rashan McDonald host the
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Speaker 3: that this show provides are for everyone. Basically, it's time
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Speaker 3: to stop reading other people's success stories and start living
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Speaker 3: your own. My next guest, who is the Mentor's Method
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Speaker 3: founder and CEO became one of the first black women
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Speaker 3: in the United States to raise over one million dollars
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Speaker 3: and seed funding for a tech startup. So please welcome
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Speaker 3: to the Money Making Conversation master Class. The author of
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Speaker 3: the book in Mentorship Unlocked the Science and Art of
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Speaker 3: setting yourself up for Success, Janis Omadeki. How you doing, Janis?
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Speaker 4: I'm doing both things. So excited to connect with you today.
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Speaker 4: Thanks for having me be you know.
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Speaker 3: I called you pre called so we get our personalities
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Speaker 3: lined up. Because of the fact that I've never had
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Speaker 3: a guest on my show Money Making Conversation master Class
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Speaker 3: talking about mentorship and author the book about mentorship, give
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Speaker 3: us the motivation behind that.
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Speaker 4: Yes, and I'm so honored. I am honored to be here,
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Speaker 4: honors to discuss mentorship. It's so important. Well, I had
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Speaker 4: an HR software company called the Mentor Method that I
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Speaker 4: built for six years and we had incredible customers like
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Speaker 4: Amazon and Department of Education and others. And before then
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Speaker 4: I worked in defense contracting and management consulting. Oftentimes I
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Speaker 4: was left out as mentorship conversations because they were always
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Speaker 4: the old boys club and anytime I participated in a
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Speaker 4: corporate mentorship program. I was just matched to the only
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Speaker 4: underrepresented executive that also signed up for the program to
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Speaker 4: mentor someone, and I found that it wasn't just my
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Speaker 4: story that was impacted by this, but hundreds of thousands,
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Speaker 4: off not millions, of people experience the exact same thing.
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Speaker 4: And when you're working at a company and mentorship is
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Speaker 4: supposed to say I see you in this individual because
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Speaker 4: of your leadership traits, and instead of saying I don't
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Speaker 4: see you at all, I just see you as a checkbox,
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Speaker 4: and I see your external factors such as age, race,
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Speaker 4: and gender. It hurts and it can be demoralizing. And
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Speaker 4: so I took those feelings and built my first company,
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Speaker 4: the mentor Method that matched people to mentors based on
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Speaker 4: industry skills, values, and their personality, and ninety percent of
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Speaker 4: the matches were in communication. Three years later, we saw
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Speaker 4: great success with it, and I've just been obsessed with
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Speaker 4: how people connect and engage and the way that's meaningful
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Speaker 4: and the way that built this joyful, passionate career that's
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Speaker 4: fulfilling for everyone, because it's the right We deserve to
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Speaker 4: feel good about the work that we do every day.
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Speaker 4: We deserve to feel good about the community that we're
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Speaker 4: building around us, and mentorship is one of the best
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Speaker 4: tools to make that happen. And so in my book
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Speaker 4: Mentorship Unlocked, besides started putting yourself up for success, I
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Speaker 4: take you through, step by step exactly how to build
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Speaker 4: that community and how to find the right mentors that
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Speaker 4: aligned to who you are versus what I had experienced
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Speaker 4: in my early corporate days of trying to fit into
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Speaker 4: a box or fit.
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Speaker 3: A mold rights what is a mentor.
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Speaker 4: A mentor is somebody that helps you become the best
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Speaker 4: possible version of yourself. It could be something in your career,
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Speaker 4: which is typically where we hear mentorship, and that's helping
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Speaker 4: you either refine a skill, get a promotion, enter into
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Speaker 4: a new company, get a new job. And this person
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Speaker 4: is exceptional at an area that you seek to develop in. So,
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Speaker 4: if you're an engineer and you want to learn a
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Speaker 4: very specific skill, you would find a mentor that can
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Speaker 4: help you become great at that. In your personal life,
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Speaker 4: this might be somebody that helps you learn more about
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Speaker 4: financial well being, or somebody that helps you get out
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Speaker 4: of a tough life situation where you can see yourself
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Speaker 4: becoming a different version of yourself thanks to their leadership.
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Speaker 4: A mentorship does not have to be older than you.
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Speaker 4: I have mentors that are several years younger. They don't
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Speaker 4: have to be in the same location. You can meet
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Speaker 4: them virtually, you can meet them in person. But it's
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Speaker 4: really boiled down to having the same value system and
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Speaker 4: being eager to learn from each other.
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Speaker 3: That's really important because of the fact that I always
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Speaker 3: tell people, you know, if you want to be a doctor,
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Speaker 3: you don't go to a mechanic for advice or mentorship.
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Speaker 3: You have to be aligned with you know, you have
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Speaker 3: to be aligned with that thought process because a lot
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Speaker 3: of people get bad advice because they're talking to the
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Speaker 3: wrong person. Or their dreams can be stymy because the
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Speaker 3: person who's telling you that's not your dream doesn't even
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Speaker 3: understand what you're talking about. And you know, sometimes I
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Speaker 3: remember early on in my career, Dennis, I was writing
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Speaker 3: on television, you know, tele sitcoms like Sister Sister, Jamie
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Speaker 3: Fox Show and The Monique Show, which was the Parker's
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Speaker 3: and people will ask me, individuals so chean, what do
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Speaker 3: you do? And I can never explain to them. Okay,
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Speaker 3: I go to work at ten, not just in the room,
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Speaker 3: just start pitching jokes and we write script and at
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Speaker 3: the end of the day, maybe ten hours later, we
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Speaker 3: have an episode. Now, if I'm telling that to somebody
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Speaker 3: who's not a right, they're looking to be like, that's it,
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Speaker 3: and they pay you money for that, so they become sarcastic.
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Speaker 3: So you have to be able to get a mentor
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Speaker 3: align yourself with somebody who understands that path correct.
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Speaker 4: One hundred percent. And you also want to make sure
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Speaker 4: that there is a strong values alignment and that that
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Speaker 4: mentor will not try to change you or fix you,
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Speaker 4: because that's actually not mentorship. They should be willing to
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Speaker 4: see who you are, what makes you unique, give you
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Speaker 4: the tools to augment. Obviously nobody's perfect. Help you refine
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Speaker 4: your documen, your strengths, things that you want to develop in.
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Speaker 4: But it's not meant to If you're a circle, they're
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Speaker 4: not going to try to make you a square or
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Speaker 4: a triangle. They will see that you're a circle and
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Speaker 4: make you the best possible circle there ever was.
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Speaker 3: It's really interesting, and again thank you Janis for coming
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Speaker 3: on the show, because a lot of people are listening
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Speaker 3: to the show and they've heard the word mentor, or
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Speaker 3: they want to seek somebody to be their mentor, or
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Speaker 3: they want to be a man and te they're just
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Speaker 3: trying to because in my role, like you know, you
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Speaker 3: can google me and people have always approached me about
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Speaker 3: mentoring them. Now that's key right there, because you know
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Speaker 3: you can approach me. That doesn't mean I'm going to
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Speaker 3: mentor you, because like you said earlier, it's about alignment.
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Speaker 3: It's about getting somebody who one has the time and
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Speaker 3: understands what your expectations out of their relationship because mentorship
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Speaker 3: or mentoring has to be a partnership. When you say.
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Speaker 4: That, absolutely it goes both ways. I have had relationships
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Speaker 4: where I was being mentored by somebody and now seven
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Speaker 4: years later, I'm mentoring them in a completely new realm
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Speaker 4: of our careers and it just ebbs and flows and
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Speaker 4: it's a really beautiful process when you can take your
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Speaker 4: walls down and be vulnerable and just learn from each other.
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Speaker 4: But that doesn't happen unless you have that alignment and
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Speaker 4: you feel emotionally and psychologically safe around each other, right you.
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Speaker 3: Know, because again as a female and I'm a male,
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Speaker 3: there are different roles we all play. Not saying that
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Speaker 3: a female can't have a male mentor, and a male
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Speaker 3: can't have a female malet. We need to make sure
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Speaker 3: we understand these values of trying to get information, trying
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Speaker 3: to get motivation, trying to get the next step. And
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Speaker 3: I think that when I look at my life and
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Speaker 3: I want to use my life as an example, is that,
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Speaker 3: like you said, people younger than you, I always tell
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Speaker 3: you people when I wake up, I try to I
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Speaker 3: always tell this phrase. I say to myself, I wake
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Speaker 3: up stupid. That way when I acknowledge myself is you know,
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Speaker 3: because what happens is you know, you don't want to
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Speaker 3: be the smartest person in the room. And if you
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Speaker 3: wake up saying, hey I'm stupid today, okay, so that
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Speaker 3: allows me to accept information, so I can be a
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Speaker 3: lot more, you know, toned down when the information comes
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Speaker 3: to I'm more accepting of it. Because when you become successful,
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Speaker 3: you tend to people tend to not want to give
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Speaker 3: you information because they think you know it already. And
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Speaker 3: so your success can also damage you from getting the
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Speaker 3: right people in your life as potential mentors who can
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Speaker 3: to take you to the next level. And I think
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Speaker 3: that you, as a successful person, do you not feel
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Speaker 3: that people think you know it all, that you're successful, janis.
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Speaker 4: One hundred percent. I wish you could see me nodding
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Speaker 4: right now. I almost broke my neck in agreeance. But
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Speaker 4: I think it's also our responsibility to share that we
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Speaker 4: don't know everything. I am the first person to go
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Speaker 4: out and ask anyone that is exceptional something that I'm
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Speaker 4: seeking to gain knowledge in and say, hi, I don't
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Speaker 4: know a thing about this skill. So, for example, I
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Speaker 4: started making videos for my Instagram and LinkedIn if you
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Speaker 4: follow me on either account on mentorship and career development,
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Speaker 4: and I'm really enjoying it, but I'm very intimidated at
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Speaker 4: first because that is not my natural wiring. I am
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Speaker 4: such an introvert. My favorite part of the week is Friday,
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Speaker 4: five pm and pajama watching the Great British Fakes Show.
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Speaker 4: So to learn how to make these videos and to
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Speaker 4: put myself out there, it required some peer mentorship where
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Speaker 4: I thought out advice and guidance from friends and colleagues
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Speaker 4: and friends of friends who are so exceptional and are
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Speaker 4: almost fearless in the way that they present themselves and
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Speaker 4: just learn I mean pages and pages of pages of
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Speaker 4: notes of how they do it. Their thought process everything
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Speaker 4: and now I'm very comfortable with it. But if I
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Speaker 4: didn't take the time to say, this is not me,
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Speaker 4: but I'm really learning, and how do I make this
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Speaker 4: something that feels like me and is naturally aligned to
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Speaker 4: my own personality but using the strengths and skills of
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Speaker 4: these peer mentors to really make it shine, I wouldn't
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Speaker 4: be doing that, and you and I may not be
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Speaker 4: connecting today. So I think there's a lot of value
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Speaker 4: in having this humility to say that you don't know everything,
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Speaker 4: still being confident, but also asking for help when needed
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Speaker 4: and being open to feedback from others to help you excel.
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Speaker 3: Wow, Grey, we're talking about mentorship. We're talking about mentors.
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Speaker 3: We're talking about mentoring, mentoring, We're talking about mentees and
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Speaker 3: an author of the book in Mentorship Unlocked, The Science
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Speaker 3: and Art of Setting Yourself off Up for Success by
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Speaker 3: Janie Omadeki Jenes Where you based at.
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Speaker 4: I'm based in Austin, Texas, but originally from Washington, DC.
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Speaker 3: Okay, cool, Now, this book would be open to the
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Speaker 3: public April second. That's the on sale date for this
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Speaker 3: book Setting Yourself Up for Success. The entire entire titles
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Speaker 3: in Mentorship Unlocked. How did you come up with that title?
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Speaker 3: In Mentorship Unlocked, the Science and art of setting yourself
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Speaker 3: up success, where did that title come from?
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Speaker 4: It encompasses everything that mentorship should be and the problem
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Speaker 4: with mentorship today, I see that there's a lot of
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Speaker 4: gatekeeping in the way in which people build their networks,
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Speaker 4: and it really shouldn't be that way. Creating a fulfilling
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Speaker 4: career is something that if you follow a strategic process
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Speaker 4: and you know exactly what steps to take, anyone can
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Speaker 4: do it. And so the book really unlocks the process
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Speaker 4: of finding the right mentors, building the right community, unlocking
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Speaker 4: your self understanding and self acceptance. And there is an
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Speaker 4: art and science of setting your skof for success through mentorship.
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Speaker 4: And every chapter of Mentorship Unlocked builds upon itself. So
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Speaker 4: it's step by step until you're at the top of
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Speaker 4: the summit, beaming shining with the seven mentors I recommend
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Speaker 4: you have across the lifespan of your career. And you've
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Speaker 4: done it without realizing that you're doing a lot of
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Speaker 4: inner work, you're doing a lot of external work and
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Speaker 4: building the tribe that's pushing you up that summit. Every
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Speaker 4: step of the way and I'm the first person right
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Speaker 4: behind you through mentorship unlock.
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Speaker 3: Well, you know is beautiful, Like I called Jenis early
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Speaker 3: and I totally I have never any viewed anybody on
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Speaker 3: my show about mentorship or mentoring. And that's such a
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Speaker 3: popular term that's being thrown out there. And they are
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Speaker 3: gay people. There's people think that you know, you come
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Speaker 3: in there and they mentor you based on how they
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Speaker 3: feel you should be. Always follow your dreams. I always
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Speaker 3: talk about that. If somebody starts shifting your value, start
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Speaker 3: shifting your dream they're not mentoring you anymore. They're guiding
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Speaker 3: you on a path that they feel comfortable or they
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Speaker 3: have time to deliver the information that they want to
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Speaker 3: give you. That's really important in this whole mentoring process.
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Speaker 3: The mentoring process breaks down to this one thing. You're
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Speaker 3: there to meet someone who can assist you and guide
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Speaker 3: you through a sharing process of reaching your dreams. And
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Speaker 3: if you feel uncomfortable that that's not happened, to get
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Speaker 3: out of that. And it's important that we hear that.
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Speaker 3: And I brought Jenis on the show so we can
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Speaker 3: discuss that. And we're going to go to break and
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Speaker 3: we come back. I want to hear about the seven
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Speaker 3: types of mentors you need in your life. Because I
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Speaker 3: am Jenis. I got some goals I gotta say and
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Speaker 3: guess what, I need some mentors to get that. Okay,
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Speaker 3: if you want to speak to Janis, don't go nowhere.
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Speaker 3: Janie is here to talk about mentoring. I know some
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Speaker 3: people out there need to talk to her. Call us.
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Speaker 3: I am speaking with Janis Omadeki. She's the author of
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Speaker 3: the book in Mentorship Unlock, The Science and Art of
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Speaker 3: setting Yourself up for Success. The book will be available
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Speaker 3: April second. All your favorite Haunts that you Go Get
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Speaker 3: books will be available April second. Now, before we went
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Speaker 3: to break Janni's we were talking about this seven type
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Speaker 3: of mentors you need in your life. Can you expound
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Speaker 3: on that.
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Speaker 4: Yes, So in my book Mentorships from Last the Signs
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Speaker 4: that are for Success, which by the way, is available
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Speaker 4: there are seven types of mentors that I recommend you
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Speaker 4: have over the span of your career. We're not going
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Speaker 4: to hungry, hungry, get both this. I recommend no more
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Speaker 4: than three at a time, but across your career, I
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Speaker 4: recommend the following. So the first one is the company insider.
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Speaker 4: This person knows where all of the bodies are buried,
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Speaker 4: They know the ins and outs of the company, They
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Speaker 4: have tenure there, they know company politics, they've had a
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Speaker 4: history of experiencing either layoffs promotions. If you have a
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Speaker 4: question about how the company has been built and how
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Speaker 4: the culture has been established, that's the person you want
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Speaker 4: to go to. And those are the types of questions
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Speaker 4: to ask them. This skill master mentor could be inside
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Speaker 4: your company, could not be. But if you want to
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Speaker 4: get very if you want to gain experience and a
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Speaker 4: very specific skill, maybe it's creative writing or public speaking,
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Speaker 4: find somebody that's exceptional at that and have them help
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Speaker 4: you or find that acumen third is the money minded mentor.
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Speaker 4: Finances are very important and it's important nowadays to not
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Speaker 4: just be reliant upon your employer for your entire wealth
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Speaker 4: management process. So you have your farah one K, you
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Speaker 4: have your savings, but get a friend, get a mentor
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Speaker 4: that can help you understand the holistic view of your
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Speaker 4: financial landscape to help you reach your financial goals. Vollow
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Speaker 4: your less dependent on your employer, and it reduces your
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Speaker 4: likelihood of having a scarcity mindset. Very important. The first
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Speaker 4: one is the industry mentor whatever industry you're in. It
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Speaker 4: could be, you know, the creative field, it could be entrepreneurship.
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Speaker 4: Find somebody that is exceptional in your industry and gain
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Speaker 4: an understanding of how they've been able to build their
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Speaker 4: positive refugee. Understand what skills and resources they're leveraging to
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Speaker 4: upskill and remain an industry expert in that field, Potential
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Speaker 4: job opportunities, and how they've been able to form their
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Speaker 4: portfolio of work to make them somebody that you look
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Speaker 4: up to within that industry. The fifth is the network mentor.
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Speaker 4: I feel like this is probably you like this person
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Speaker 4: is the social butterfly knows everybody knows their dogs' names,
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Speaker 4: knows everything about everyone. This person will help you expand
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Speaker 4: your network and also teach you how to be yourself
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Speaker 4: while building a community that positively resonates with that because
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Speaker 4: you never know what you'll end up and again, you
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Speaker 4: don't want to be reliant on just one single employer.
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Speaker 4: You want to make sure that you have options whenever.
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Speaker 3: You need them.
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Speaker 4: Sixth is the influential Ally, this person will put their
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Speaker 4: name and their reputation behind you, and whatever they say
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Speaker 4: goes and holds a lot of weight. So if you're
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Speaker 4: inside an organization, this is the person who's referral and
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Speaker 4: recommendation sets you at the top of the list for
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Speaker 4: a promotion process and interview doesn't mean that you'll necessarily
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Speaker 4: get it, but you'll break through the crowd of people
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Speaker 4: that are also seeking that promotion and at least get
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Speaker 4: through the screening process. Externally, this could be an investor.
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Speaker 4: This could be somebody that you meet over social media
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Speaker 4: that promotes your clothing line or something, and this individual
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Speaker 4: helps set you up for success because they've put their
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Speaker 4: name behind you when other people trust them, believe them,
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Speaker 4: and they have a positive reputation. And the last one
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Speaker 4: is a peer mentor, as I was mentioning before, a
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Speaker 4: peer mentor is something that maybe is one to two
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Speaker 4: years of experience ahead of you. You feel very comfortable.
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Speaker 4: It's almost a friend relationship where you can really let
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Speaker 4: your walls down and just say, hey, I'm if this
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Speaker 4: is inside your organization, saying I am a manager, I
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Speaker 4: see that you're a senior manager in the same department.
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Speaker 4: What did you like? What was that experience like being
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Speaker 4: promoted to that? What should I do here as a
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Speaker 4: manager so that in three years I can become a
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Speaker 4: senior manager too? Who should I know? What should I do?
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Speaker 4: If this is outside of the organization, this person might
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Speaker 4: be a senior manager outside in a different company, but
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Speaker 4: still be able to give you the applicable knowledge based valley.
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Speaker 4: You understand the road ahead of you, and you can
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Speaker 4: tailor your goals and your strategy based on their lived
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Speaker 4: experiences and make it work for you.
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Speaker 3: Right, you know, thank you James for that update. Peer management,
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Speaker 3: per mantor, peer mentor, I think is really important. All
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Speaker 3: seven on very important, but I want to talk about that.
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Speaker 3: I want to zero one in for a minute because
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Speaker 3: of the fact that when you become successful, part of
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Speaker 3: success is leadership. And as you're dealing with leadership, one
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Speaker 3: word is not to show signs of weakness. You know,
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Speaker 3: in other words, if you're in a war, you don't
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Speaker 3: want the guy who's telling you to go fight and
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Speaker 3: go over that He'll start crying. That's a weakness and
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Speaker 3: you won't go is he crime? And I'm going over
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Speaker 3: that hill. I'm not going over that hill be crying.
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Speaker 3: And so so my whole thing is that you got
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Speaker 3: to have people that you can be honest when she
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Speaker 3: said that, you got to have people that allow you
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Speaker 3: to be you. In words, if you have a fear,
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Speaker 3: huh yeah, Because if you have something that bothers you,
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Speaker 3: you have to have someplace where the turret. I will
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Speaker 3: tell you this, Jane's in my life. I have been
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Speaker 3: in cornered emotionally a lot of times because I didn't
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Speaker 3: know who to talk to. I didn't know where to go,
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Speaker 3: I didn't know. You know, water calms me. So I
20:33
Speaker 3: go around water a lot. You know, it calms me
20:36
Speaker 3: down and lows my brain to settle. Because when you
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Speaker 3: lead and you're doing unique things in life, you can't
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Speaker 3: always tell people you don't know. You can't always tell
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Speaker 3: people you're afraid. You can't always tell people that I
20:47
Speaker 3: don't think that's a good idea. When you pitch the
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Speaker 3: good idea and they all want to do that good idea,
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Speaker 3: but you might have after settling down and realize that's
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Speaker 3: not the path of the success. And so I just
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Speaker 3: pulled that one out because that's so relatable because a
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Speaker 3: lot of people that they get become successful or they're
21:05
Speaker 3: trying to gain a level of success, don't realize that
21:08
Speaker 3: it's all right to be all right, it's all right
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Speaker 3: to be emotional, it's all right to say I don't
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Speaker 3: like that. So that's really what I just wanted to
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Speaker 3: add that, because all seven of their topics that you
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Speaker 3: put out there were outstanding, but that's the one that
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Speaker 3: I wanted to really drill in on because that's the
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Speaker 3: one that tinged the whole people back in their decision
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Speaker 3: making and their career path. Your thoughts.
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Speaker 4: I've seen it both ways. I've seen where well, first off,
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Speaker 4: if you're calling someone a peer mentor and they're trying
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Speaker 4: to hold you back, they're not a mentor, they are
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Speaker 4: not your friend. Trust your intuition and get out of
21:49
Speaker 4: that relationship. Don't tell them anything else. Moving forward because
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Speaker 4: they are there to steal your blessings. Yes, they are
21:56
Speaker 4: not there to amplify them. So first and foremost, take
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Speaker 4: that time the way they do not deserve you, and
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Speaker 4: they do not deserve that, and shame on them. So
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Speaker 4: if you actually have a proper peer mentor, they will
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Speaker 4: have enough security in themselves to want to help you,
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Speaker 4: and they'll recognize that life is a very long road
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Speaker 4: and it is cyclical and the world gets smaller and
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Speaker 4: smaller the further you are in your career. So while
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Speaker 4: you may be peer mentors today, you never know where
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Speaker 4: the other person's going to end up, and it's beneficial
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Speaker 4: for both of you to encourage each other, support each other,
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Speaker 4: share resources where applicable, within the proper boundaries, so that
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Speaker 4: the rising tide lifts all boats. I mean, I've had
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Speaker 4: peer mentors and friends that I've known for a decade
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Speaker 4: now and I can't imagine life about them. Or when
22:47
Speaker 4: I moved to Austin in twenty eighteen, some of the
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Speaker 4: people I met that really helped me understand the Austin
22:53
Speaker 4: tech startup ecosystem have become really close friends where we're
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Speaker 4: no longer discussing the Austin tech ecosystem, are discussing their
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Speaker 4: you know, their children, They're expanding families my books, like
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Speaker 4: we're just we're discussing so much more because life just
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Speaker 4: continues to evolve. And when you have these deep peer
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Speaker 4: mentor relationships, they're really beautiful and you can see that
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Speaker 4: evolution from something tactical in just one particular focus area
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Speaker 4: into expanding across all areas of your life. And like
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Speaker 4: I said, you just never know where each party will
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Speaker 4: end up.
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Speaker 3: Hey, Jens, this is where app upel. We got about
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Speaker 3: a minute and a half. I wanted to make sure
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Speaker 3: that I got this out. I'm talking to Janis Omadeki.
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Speaker 3: She's the author of the books. As she said, is
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Speaker 3: available on pre sale. The book actually comes out April
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Speaker 3: tecond Where can are there websites or places that this
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Speaker 3: is available for pre sale or pre order.
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Speaker 4: Yes, if you go to my website Jennisamideku dot com
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Speaker 4: and quick On Mentorship unlocked, you can see where the
23:53
Speaker 4: book is available via pre order. Amazon is going to
23:56
Speaker 4: be your best bet to take a look there, and
23:58
Speaker 4: then also Books a million, Burns and Noble and your
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Speaker 4: local bookshops.
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Speaker 3: Okay, my last question to you, and you have sixty
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Speaker 3: seconds to respond here, janis one size doesn't fit all
24:09
Speaker 3: when it comes to mentorship. You know you can't walk
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Speaker 3: in a room and go while that's the person because
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Speaker 3: of the fact that they may not be the person.
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Speaker 3: How do you find your mentor?
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Speaker 4: Learn who you are, Embrace who you are, find people
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Speaker 4: that will see what makes you unique and cultivate that
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Speaker 4: to make you an exceptional leader. That then creates a
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Speaker 4: tidal wave of changing your community. If they're not willing
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Speaker 4: to accept who you are and hold you accountable for
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Speaker 4: your growth, they are not your mentor and continue saying
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Speaker 4: no until you find those right people. And of course
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Speaker 4: I would be remiss if I didn't say, purchase mentorship unlocked.
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Speaker 4: That will you get a step by step strategy to
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Speaker 4: understand the depth and the power of exactly who you
24:52
Speaker 4: are to build an exceptional mentor relationship and a fulfilling privier.
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Speaker 4: As we wrap up, was that sixty seconds?
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Speaker 3: Well you were good. I'm gonna just add little color
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Speaker 3: to it because I guess it is a book that
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Speaker 3: I feel that I needed to hear someone communicate to
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Speaker 3: me and to get in on the show to talk
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Speaker 3: about mentionship because this is a word that brand is
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Speaker 3: about branded about a lot in the community and people
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Speaker 3: always walking up to me wanting can you mention me?
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Speaker 3: Can you mention me?
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Speaker 2: I don't know.
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Speaker 3: I don't really know you, so I can't really say
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Speaker 3: I'm going to mention somebody I don't know, but I
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Speaker 3: do know. This is that in Mentorship Unlocked, the Science
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Speaker 3: and Art of setting yourself up for success. It's written
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Speaker 3: by an individual. It's insightful. It's a discussion of mentorship.
25:30
Speaker 3: In this book, she explores the mentorship advice that helped
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Speaker 3: her started Groundbreaking Company after studying entrepreneurship and strategic management
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Speaker 3: at MIT and Harvard. James, thank you for coming on
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Speaker 3: the show. I really really learned a lot and that's
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Speaker 3: important and I hope my listeners were there to own
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Speaker 3: Money Making Conversation Masterclass.
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Speaker 4: It was such an honor. Thank you for having.
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Speaker 3: Me, and we'll talk soon. April second, that's the date
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Speaker 3: that this book goes on sale. Like she said earlier,
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