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5/27/26 - AM I SUPPOSED TO FULFILL MY DREAMS OR ARE MY DREAMS SUPPOSED TO FULFILL ME · Leading Leaders Podcast with J Loren Norris

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  I remember rolling up probably close to 2:00 in the morning,
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  knocked on the door, no response for a couple of minutes, knocked
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  on the door again, no response for a couple of minutes.
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  And then finally, Colonel Bjork's wife, the Wing
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  Commander. She opens the door and looks at
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  us like we were Martians. Big green fire truck lights
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  flashing, all of us standing there with our fire suits on,
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  air packs on, two of us with masks on, ready to enter.
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  And she asked that existential question that most people are
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  not ready for. Why are you here?
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  We thought it was pretty clear. The flashing lights might have
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  been a clue. The yellow suits, the helmets,
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  the air packs, that might have been a clue.
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  The fact that we showed up at your house at 2:00 in the
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  morning when there's no smoke and there's no fire, I can
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  understand how that might be a bit confusing.
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  I see. The reality is most people don't
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  know when they've already succumbed to CO2.
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  You know when you turn on the furnace for the first time and
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  you don't know it's got a bit of a gas leak?
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  Most people have nowadays, this was in the 90s.
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  Most people nowadays when they build a new house, it has smoke
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  detectors, ionization detectors, heat detectors and CO2 detectors
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  so that you know if carbon monoxide is going to knock you
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  out because for the most part, it's odorless and tasteless and
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  you just feel like you're getting drowsy.
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  And then you take a very, very, very, very, very long nap.
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  But back in the day, rather than putting those alarms in the
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  house, they would connect the CO2 detectors back to the fire
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  department. And so in the form of a 911
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  silent alert, we would get an alert that one of the executive
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  officers had a problem in his house, and we would roll up to
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  make sure that they weren't asleep unwillingly.
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  And we did at 2:00 in the morning.
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  And I can certainly understand her confusion.
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  I didn't call 911. There's no flames coming from my
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  house. There's no smoke in my house.
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  We are not on fire. Why are you here?
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  Valid question. Now, what if we took that
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  question completely out of the context of that scene?
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  And I said to you, why are you here?
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  Is that a vocational question? Is that a relationship question?
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  Is that a life meaning question? For a long time and I still have
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  some of the business cards on the back of them.
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  It says the toughest leadership question I've ever asked or been
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  asked. What do you want?
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  There's no phrase that says you have not because you ask not,
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  but what do you want? This is not just a what do you
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  want for dinner question, which if you've ever been married for
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  any period of time, I've got 32 years under my belt almost.
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  If you've been married for any period of time, you know that
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  question well, it doesn't really have an answer.
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  What do you want for dinner? What do you want to eat?
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  Where do you want to go? That could go on for hours.
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  In fact, sometimes I'll set it up and I'll say I've got to go
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  do these five tasks when I get back.
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  I'm hoping in the time that I'm doing that you're pondering
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  where we're going for dinner. And I don't really care because
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  I just like to eat. So pick what you want and still
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  what do you want Seems like the impossible question.
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  Let me just tell you this, the answer to what do you want is
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  never the Impossible Burger. I'm just my opinion.
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  That is not a valid answer to what do you want?
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  Well, what do you want in the way of success?
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  What do you want your relationships to look like?
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  What do you want out of your life or your career?
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  What do you want in the next 5 minutes?
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  What do you want in the next 5 years?
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  That That's a pretty valid question, and it's one that I
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  find most people have a real hard time answering.
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  Now here's the real challenge with not being able to answer
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  that question. If you don't know what you want,
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  you're not likely to get it. I don't care if you'll believe
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  in the law of attraction or the God of the universe.
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  If you don't know what you want, it ain't coming.
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  Try it. Just go to any restaurant, go to
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  any bookstore, go to any retail shop.
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  Walk in and look at the cashier and just stand there.
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  Don't tell them what you want, don't tell them what you're
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  looking for. Don't tell them what the problem
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  you have to to solve. Just wait and see what they give
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  you. My guess is going to be an
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  escort to the door or help finding someplace else to sleep
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  for a few days. You can't just walk through life
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  not knowing what you want, but what you want.
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  Why are you here? These are these are powerful
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  questions that I'm afraid very few people wrestle with.
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  They don't spend time thinking about what do I want?
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  And then if you're a person of faith, you have another question
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  that follows that. And that is not just what do I
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  want, but what does the maker want of me?
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  What do you want from me? What do you want me to do?
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  What am I supposed to do about it?
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  It was a song a few years back. Was it Chris Tomlin or West?
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  It's one of those two. I'm trying to remember, is it
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  Michael West or was it Chris Tomlin that that wrote the song
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  I made you? And the question of the song
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  was, what are you going to do about it?
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  And the answer came back, well, I made you.
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  I made you capable of fixing that problem.
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  I made you willing to fix that problem.
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  I made you and I empowered you to solve that problem.
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  I've been working with a client recently.
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  Last night he kind of shared his modified version of this.
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  And what he does, he, he's an expert in the area of protocols
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  and systems and trying to figure out how to make that a very
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  relatable concept came down to the conclusion that, you know,
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  sometimes it's the unspoken protocol that rules everything.
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  And the question of do you ask the boss to solve a problem
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  you're capable of solving? Well, that ought to be an
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  unspoken protocol in everybody's business.
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  If you can fix it, what are you waiting for?
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  If there's a problem to be solved and you have the ability,
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  the talent, the skill, the resources, don't wait for
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  somebody else to tell you to do it.
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  Just get it done. That should be operating
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  protocol in every environment. It it's not, in fact, the song,
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  ask that questions. What about this?
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  What about the homeless? What about the sick?
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  What about the dying? What about the widows?
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  What about the orphans? What are you going to do about
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  that? Captain Creator?
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  You put all this on Earth and you've done nothing to fix any
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  of that. And he said, oh, I did
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  something. I made you, and I made you
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  capable. And while you may not be
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  responsible for the problem, you hold the key to the solution.
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  So let's go back to that very first question.
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  Why are you here? If you've never wrestled with
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  that question, you might want to hit pause and whatever else
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  you're trying to do in your life and spend a minute asking that
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  question until you at least feel like you've justified pondering
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  it. I don't mean write it down on a
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  piece of paper and forget you wrote it down.
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  I don't mean write it down and ask someone else and then
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  whatever their answer is, that's acceptable.
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  No, I I mean I want you to sit with that question for a minute.
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  Why are you here? Is there a purpose?
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  Is there an assignment? Is it an appointment?
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  I mean, I remember the first time my blood sugar crashed and
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  I didn't know that's what it was.
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  I and taking my insulin I drove to a job interview and on my way
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  to the job interview I remember being so confused.
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  I was literally looking at the gear shift in my Jeep going is
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  that in one or three? Because I don't know if I need
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  to go to 2 or 4. And simultaneously having to
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  cognitively consciously focus on the position of the gear shift,
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  when to push in the clutch, how to change lanes.
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  I've been driving for 25 years. This is not a new thing for me,
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  but I'm having to focus cognitive willpower to shift the
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  gears, change the lanes. When I walked into the building,
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  I did have that to the retailer kind of look.
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  Walked up to the reception and I just stood there for a minute
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  and they're like, why are you here?
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  Yes, I have an appointment. Great.
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  Who's it with? Well, he used to be my boss, and
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  now he's potentially going to be my boss again.
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  And they're like, that doesn't help me.
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  There's like 250 people in this building.
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  Oh, So why are you here? Well, I have AI, Have AI have an
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  appointment. What kind of appointment is it?
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  It's a job interview. Oh, OK, OK.
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  Yeah. So there are only three managers
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  doing interviews today. Is it this one, this one, or
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  this one? I was like, Yep, that one.
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  And in that state of mind, I went into my interview.
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  But I wouldn't have got past the door if I didn't have an
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  appointment. If I didn't have an assignment,
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  if there wasn't some very specific reason for me to be
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  there, security would have never let me pass the door.
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  I'm sure they had their suspicions when they did let me
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  pass the door. That interview was a train
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  wreck. And fortunately the guy who was
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  hiring me said, look, I've you've worked for me before, so
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  I know this is not your normal state of mind.
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  I know how your mind works and this ain't it.
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  You need to go see your doctor though, and then you can get
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  started next week. And that was when I realized
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  that the brain does not function with a blood sugar of 25, that
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  it doesn't do that well at all. And so now when I start feeling
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  that blood sugar crash, I've picked up on some of the signs
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  and symptoms that are preludes to that state of mind.
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  And I take action because I don't want to be in that place
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  where somebody's going. Why are you here?
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  And I can't answer that question, but I, I suspect there
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  are people watching right now, listening right now to this very
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  podcast and they've never pondered the question deep at
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  heart to say, why am I here now? I want to tell you there were,
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  there were a couple of podcast interviews that I've heard
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  recently and both of them in the last two weeks.
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  On one of them, I don't remember, it was the guest or
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  the host that asked the question, but the question they
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  asked was what if my dreams don't fulfill me?
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  What if my dreams don't fulfill me?
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  And the first thing that started going through my mind was with
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  all the reading and writing that I've done around the idea of
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  purpose and calling an assignment and anointing and
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  appointing. What I realized is there a whole
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  lot of people that have this grand confusion about purpose
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  that causes them to feel like life is supposed to bring
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  meaning to them, not that they're supposed to bring
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  meaning to life. That somehow the universe is
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  supposed to bend its will of existence to make sure that when
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  they get on this planet and then ultimately leave this planet or
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  come back as some other entity, however you want to view that.
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  That while they're here, it is the job of the universe to
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  ensure that they are happy, pleased, fulfilled, satisfied,
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  that all of the universe is conspiring to make them pleased.
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  There was a T-shirt that went around in the late 80s, early
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  90s that says 2 things you must know there is a God.
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  You're not him. This doesn't have to be a
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  religious argument, but I do have to ask the question, at
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  what point do your dreams fulfilling you not make you the
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  center of the universe? If your dreams and your visions
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  were designed to make you happy, if the purpose of dreams and
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  visions was to please and satisfy you, wouldn't that mean
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  that all of the universe is subject to you and and what if?
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  What if your desires today are different than they were
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  yesterday? What if your desires 2 weeks
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  from now, two months from now, are different than there are
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  today? What if, like, a toddler who
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  insists on cupcakes for breakfast every day?
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  As a parent, the universe says, yeah, that's not a good idea.
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  I mean, you could bend to the will of your toddler and feed
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  them cupcakes every day. Get ready for a big dentist,
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  bill. And perhaps, you know, some
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  blood sugar problems in their teens and some obesity problems
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  and some mental clarity problems and some mental fog problems and
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  maybe even some mental illness or heart disease problems by the
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  time they're 25. Because cupcakes for breakfast
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  every day is not a good plan for your body.
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  But if you bend the will of the universe to your desires, what's
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  the difference? Are your dreams designed to
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  fulfill you, or are you designed to fulfill your dreams?
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  I mean, dreams and visions, where do they come from?
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  Is that imagination or is that intuition?
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  Well, what if? What if your dreams and your
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  visions were whispers from beyond calling you to your
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  assignment? What if your appointment was
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  sent to you? Like those little text messages
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  that I get from the VA? When it's time for me to see my
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  doctor again, I get a text that says you have an appointment at
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  this clinic On this date at this time.
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  Click YES to confirm and no to be removed from our system.
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  Hold up. That's a drastic contrast.
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  But what if I just want to reschedule?
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  Is that not an option? I mean, I want the appointment,
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  but Sunday at 3:00 AM is not good for me.
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  Can I, can I move it? I mean, I hate to be this blunt,
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  that there are times in your life when the assignment, the
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  appointment, the thing you're needed for is more like a
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  Mission Impossible kind of an assignment.
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  All right, stop the car, put it in a parking space, walk across
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  that empty field. Why in the world would I do
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  that? That's not on my agenda.
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  I never read a book that said stop the car and walk across the
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  field. There's nothing in AI that tells
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  me that's a good idea. Why would I?
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  Why in the world would I do that?
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  And the challenge is sometimes the Whisperer doesn't ask for
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  your opinion. The Whisperer knows something
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  you don't know. I love the way Michael Junior
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  says it. He says sometimes you're stopped
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  at a red light and something tells you don't go.
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  Something has a name, and if you know that name, you know you
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  should listen to something. Something told me don't go.
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  Something told me, get out of the car and walk across this
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  empty field. Something told me, just walk
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  away from this argument. Something told me get out of
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  Dairy Queen now that something told my grandmother, get out of
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  Luby's on the day that a driver drove through the front wall of
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  of Luby's and began shooting people in their seats.
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  One of the first mass casualty events in Central Texas.
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  This was way back 80s, early 90s.
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  I think it was early 90s because I was on active duty at the
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  time. Something told her get out.
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  Something gave her an appointment, an assignment for
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  the moment. These are not always lifelong
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  appointments, but there's a word that you need to know in
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  association with appointment directly related to assignment.
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  If you're told to do something, most often a parent doesn't look
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  at a 2 year old ago, hey, go move the car down the road a
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  block. Why?
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  Because they're not capable, they don't have the wherewithal,
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  they can't even reach the steering wheel, much less the
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  steering wheel and the pedals at the same time.
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  And even if they have somehow figured out how to turn on the
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  car, push the button, take the proper key with them, even if
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  they had all that going on, the likelihood that they can
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  actually navigate pushing the brake and getting it into gear
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  and then managing the steering wheel, that's a tall stretch for
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  a 2 year old. Now maybe if they're 10.
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  I drove cars when I was 10. I drove farm tractors when I was
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  8 or 9. So no big surprise, right?
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  You can reach all the pedals and almost see over the windshield
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  at that point. Great, but I wouldn't ask my
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  child to do what I know my child is incapable of.
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  I have, on the other hand, challenged my team, my
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  employees, my children, my peers even, to do that thing that in
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  their mind is just outside their reach of capability because I
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  see potential in them they have not yet experienced.
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  I know that they're empowered. They have the authority, they
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  have the skill set, they have the ability.
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  They just don't know that they can yet.
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  And sometimes my job as a coach, as a leader, is to push them off
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  the edge so that they can learn to fly in.
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  Sometimes you'll get assignments from the whisper, from something
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  to do what you have never done before and in your book it makes
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  no sense at all. Something said leave rubies.
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  I that's not in my book. I can't find anything that says
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  don't be in rubies on this day. But something new was about to
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  happen. Something changed my plan,
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  something changed my direction. Something changed my engagement.
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  Something changed my appointment by changing my assignment
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  because something new. I was empowered to do that.
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  Now that empowered word, there's another word for that.
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  And in the world of Christianese, we call that the
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  anointing. Now, let me tell you something
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  about the anointing because it's a lot like an assignment or an
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  appointment. They work together.
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  They are not the same thing. These words are not
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  interchangeable, but they are directly related.
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  Then when it comes to leadership, you better know
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  because anointing, empowerment and authority are also light
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  teeth on a comb. They are not the same thing.
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  They are not the same tooth, but they don't work well alone.
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  If your comb has one tooth on it, your hair is going to be a
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  mess. You might as well use a
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  dinglehopper. If you don't know what a
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  dinglehopper is, go back and watch the Disney's 90 version of
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  Little Mermaid or just YouTube it.
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  But if your tooth in your comb is anointing, let me tell you
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  what that means. That means it might be only for
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  this assignment, for this appointment, that you've been
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  given a special gifted opportunity, ability, charisma.
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  You got the right rizz for this moment, not for a lifetime.
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  I know that's not what everybody wants to hear.
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  There are times that for the exact precise appointment or
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  assignment you have been given a special just for that moment
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  that that strength when grandma had to pick up the car.
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  You've seen the videos. The car has an accident falls on
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  top of her child on the bicycle and she sees that car on top of
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  her grandchild and she lifts the car off the grandchild and
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  everybody's looking at her going, what is that super
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  grandma? Where did that come from?
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  In that moment, there was a special kind of that gave her
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  their ability to do what she could never do before and
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  probably has never even attempted to do since.
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  But in that moment, there was an assignment, there was an
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  appointment, and for that appointment there was an
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  anointing. That's one version of the
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  anointing. There was a declaration made
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  several 100 years ago, maybe thousands by now.
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  A guy by the name of Isaiah said, this is what I've been
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  told to do and I've been given the authority, one of those
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  tooth Combs and the anointing one of those tooth Combs and the
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  empowerment, one of those tooth Combs to pull it off.
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  And what I've been told to do is set the captive free.
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  Yep. Like let him out of prison.
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  For the ones that can't see, give them back their eyesight.
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  The ones that can't hear, give them back their hearing.
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  The ones that are lame, they can't walk, get up.
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  I I've been given the assignment to do those things.
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  I've been given the appointment. I'm supposed to be here for that
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  purpose. Why are you here for this?
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  That was the answer to that question.
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  But see that if your dreams, the whisper, the assignment, the
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  text message, if your visions, the thing that you see coming
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  before you get there, that premonition, that prophetic
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  utterance, whatever label you want to put on it, that I can
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  see my business operating like this, making this kind of money,
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  making this kind of changes, bringing impact to the world
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  like this. If you don't have that, you
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  don't know what you want. If you know what you want, you
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  better ask this question. Is that what I want?
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  Is that what the whisper wants for me?
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  Because if it's what I want, then I'm also responsible for
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  funding it. Yeah.
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  Hold on to your britches for that one.
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  And if I'm responsible for it because it's what I want and I
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  have to fund it, then I also have to get everybody else to
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  agree. A lot of people I've never met,
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  never had relationships with, have to come into agreement with
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  me to be able to move this forward.
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  You ever try to collaborate with someone who does not see your
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  vision? Good luck with that.
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  Here's the irony though. When you're operating in your
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  assignment, when you've showed up for your appointment, when
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  that assignment has come with the whisper that says, let me
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  show you what it's going to look like when it's done.
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  Let me put a little something inside of you, a little
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  motivation that says, I've called you to do this.
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  Then suddenly Seth Godin comes into play and a little memory
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  and he says, you know, people like us, we do work like this.
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  And all of a sudden out of nowhere, people who heard the
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  same whisper show up and like, oh, you were the other person
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  told to the do what I'm doing. Let's do it together.
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  Let's lighten the load. Let's not be 1 ox trying to pull
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  this yoke. Let's be a team.
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  And ironically, when that happens, when that whisper gives
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  you the anointing, the appointing, the assignment, the
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  direction, the vision, the dream, when it all begins to
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  come together, here's what you don't have.
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  You don't have a whole lot of people, for lack of a better
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  term, in a piss and match trying to figure out who's going to be
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  the famous one, who's going to be in charge.
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  No, they all seem to step together and they all know their
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  assignment within the assignment.
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  They show up for the appointment on time, energized, ready to
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  work and they know their task. We've been working in the AV
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  world for right at 25 years and in that time my kids have grown
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  up from toddler age knowing the difference between an extension
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  cord, an XLR cord, 1/4 inch cable and a DMX cord.
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  To this day I work with people that I'll say I need you to run
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  that speaker wire and they don't know which wire to run from the
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  speaker to the mixer. My kids have most of their life
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  knowing that difference, which also means at the end of the
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  day, when we start to tear things down, they know when I
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  pull speaker cords, I don't care if they're 10 feet long or 150
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  feet long. When we get them back here,
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  they're rolled up in a specific way.
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  They're laid in a certain pile. And you know what I don't have
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  to do? I don't have to tell them what
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  to do. They know in setup and tear down
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  there are things that I do because the equipment is
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  expensive and if it gets broke, I don't want anybody to have to
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  be blamed for that but me. So I do that.
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  That's my job, that's my role, that's my responsibility.
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  They also know if the customer shows up and has questions or
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  potential future customer shows up and have has questions, no
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  one else on the team can do that like I do that.
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  So I will step out of my role and of the people on my team
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  without a word spoken. They know who steps into that
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  role. Now, if in your organization, if
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  your dreams and your visions are here to fulfill you and you
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  don't know, am I appointed for that?
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  Am I anointed for that? Am I called to that?
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  You need to get with your team lead.
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  You need to get together with someone who knows what your
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  assignment is so they can clarify your role, your
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  capacity, and maybe even stretch you into something you didn't
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  know you were capable of yet. And let me go right back to the
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  very beginning. If I ask you the question, why
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  are you here? It might be in your current
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  capacity as a firefighter that 2:00 in the morning standing on
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  the doorstep. Why are you here?
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  A very specific reason for that. Why are you here on this base?
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  Well, this is my duty assignment.
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  I don't have a choice. Why are you here in uniform?
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  This is part of the job. This is how we show up because
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  people like us do work like this.
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  If you're not asking and answering the layers of that
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  question, chances are when it comes time for you to show up
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  for your appointment, you're going to be late.
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  Listen, when I work with communicators, you would be
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  amazed how many people, they feel like they have a story to
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  tell, but the story that they want to tell is outside of their
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  appointment. It's not what they were sent
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  here to talk about. They've abandoned the whisper.
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  They're waiting for their dreams to fulfill them.
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  They're waiting for the universe to bend its will to make them
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  happy and pleased and satisfied. And when I work with my clients
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  one-on-one, we keep asking that question, even if it's never
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  spoken directly. Why are you here?
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  What are you supposed to accomplish?
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  Who are you supposed to help? How are you going to help them?
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  What problem are they suffering with that you're going to help
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  to solve? See all of these questions?
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  Go right back into the story power process.
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  You've got to find the stories, select them and qualify them.
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  Craft those stories to be poignant and powerful as you
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  deliver them. You've got to connect them with
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  the people who need your help. And you've got to figure out
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  what is the meta narrative? What's another way of asking
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  what the meta narrative is? Why are you here?
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  The minute you realize that you're here to fulfill dreams
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  and visions and destiny, that there's something you're
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  supposed to be living out, the stories that you tell are going
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  to change. The way you tell them is going
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  to change and lives around you are going to change.
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  So if you're brave enough, right there in the comments, answer
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  the question, why are you here? I'm Jay Lorne Norris with
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  Or as John Maxwell says, everyone communicates and well,
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• 29:59
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  online, send me a chat, send me Adm, send me a text, send me an
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• 30:07
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  I'm going to go over all of that for you in just a moment.
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  I can also tell you that my clients who get the greatest
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  story crafting, connecting with your audience, and leading the
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  those parts out, you're going to find that or you're just not as
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  effective as you want to be. You're not going to grow your
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  business to the same level. You're not going to lead with
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  I can also tell you that the people who apply these things,
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  well, they're not failing in their business.
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  The reason a lot of people fail in their business is they
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  because they're not clearly articulating how their solution
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