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Dr. Geneva Williams discusses reinventing yourself in your sixties. She is the owner of a leadership development organization, Master Leadership Strategist, Speaker, and Author · The Steve Harvey Morning Show

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  Speaker 1: Dr Geneva Williams. After a forty plus year career as
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  Speaker 1: an order winning, innovative nonprofit leader, Dr Geneva Willis reinvented
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  Speaker 1: herself as an author, international speaker, podcaster, entitle holding an
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  Speaker 1: advocate for women to live, fit, fine, and a vibrant life.
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  Speaker 1: She says as she went from her stellar career as
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  Speaker 1: a president CEO, becoming a widow at the four decades
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  Speaker 1: of marriage, still raising two millionnaires at home, to become
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  Speaker 1: the oldest contestants to win to Miss Black, Fit and
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  Speaker 1: Fine Patch, to be recognized as a leading Michigan businesswoman,
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  Speaker 1: and going on to be the star in the very
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  Speaker 1: first television commercial. She's on the show today. Please welcome
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  Speaker 1: to Money Making Conversations, Dr Geneva Williams. Did I get
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  Speaker 1: everything right? Doc? Oh my goodness. I want you to
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  Speaker 1: come right for me and introduce me everywhere I go.
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  Speaker 1: How and you got something to say? Though? You have
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  Speaker 1: something to say, You have a life to say. And
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  Speaker 1: I want to talk about your life because you know,
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  Speaker 1: I always look at people your youth, we do, we
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  Speaker 1: don't see uh, you know, you're eighteen nineteen. You tell
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  Speaker 1: us used to mention worth. Forty six is so far off.
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  Speaker 1: You can't even conceptualize what it feels like to be
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  Speaker 1: forty or sixty or and you look around and you
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  Speaker 1: see people who are forty and sixty and you go,
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  Speaker 1: I never you might not even say how I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: walk or what I'm gonna do, because we don't think
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  Speaker 1: about preparing for retirement. Now, let's talk about your early life.
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  Speaker 1: You know, successful, married, happy, uh, two beautiful kids. How
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  Speaker 1: was that life like for you? Oh? It was fabulous? Um,
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  Speaker 1: you know I am. I have three children and three grandchildren,
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  Speaker 1: so you know I I, you know, really was living
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  Speaker 1: a fabulous life. I had the career where I didn't
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  Speaker 1: think I had a job because I was doing what
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  Speaker 1: I love doing, uh, running the United Way, working in nonprofits,
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  Speaker 1: helping create change, raising millions of dollars for various community initiatives,
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  Speaker 1: and you know, had a real good, good marriage, um,
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  Speaker 1: and things were going along for me great. I come
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  Speaker 1: from a small town in New Jersey, and I grew
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  Speaker 1: up in a community of adults. You know, ra Sean,
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  Speaker 1: you know, my sister, and I used to always think
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  Speaker 1: that the adults in the community would go somewhere and
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  Speaker 1: have a meeting on us, because they seemed to know
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  Speaker 1: thing about us, and they gave us constant advice and
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  Speaker 1: endless questions about how we were doing, and how are
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  Speaker 1: our grades and how were we making it? And you know,
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  Speaker 1: it was like this community consensus where everyone was interested
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  Speaker 1: in our success. And I still today think even though
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  Speaker 1: then I thought it was a big time conspiracy, but
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  Speaker 1: what I know now is it was about adults in
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  Speaker 1: a community caring. Until so much of my life's work
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  Speaker 1: has been about trying to rebuild that community consensus that
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  Speaker 1: many of us grew up in in black communities where
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  Speaker 1: every adult, you know, it was a big Mama or
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  Speaker 1: auntie or some Everyone cared about who we were and
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  Speaker 1: what we would do. So that's the kind of environment
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  Speaker 1: I grew up in and really shaped um my career,
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  Speaker 1: what I got into. The influences that and my parents,
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  Speaker 1: who were ordinary people, also were civil rights activists. Right now,
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  Speaker 1: let's talk about it. So that's that's certainty right there.
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  Speaker 1: That's that's a certainty. You explain a very uh you
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  Speaker 1: the eight to five children, loving husband. Then the uncertainty
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  Speaker 1: came into your life. Now, when uncertainty comes into my life,
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  Speaker 1: that's one of your critical steps that you talk about
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  Speaker 1: because a lot of people aren't ready for that uncertain
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  Speaker 1: It can be getting fired. Uncertainty can be a relationship
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  Speaker 1: suddenly Indie and you didn't expect it. A certainty can
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  Speaker 1: be uh, financial loss. A certainty can be COVID nineteen.
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  Speaker 1: That's a biging certainty. A lot of people dealing with
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  Speaker 1: that's uncertainty. How you embrace it. The uncertainty in your
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  Speaker 1: life was a passion of your husband. Correct. Yeah, And
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  Speaker 1: and it happened at a time where I experiencing all
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  Speaker 1: these ups and downs and differences in life because I
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  Speaker 1: was in my fifties and sixties And there's something about
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  Speaker 1: when you get to a half century, more than a
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  Speaker 1: half century of living, you know, you experience all these
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  Speaker 1: different changes, everything from the gray hairs to the your
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  Speaker 1: body changing, to the changing in relationships and taking care
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  Speaker 1: of aging parents and seeing children go out and do
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  Speaker 1: their thing which you want them to. But it does
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  Speaker 1: create these changes. And what was I going to do
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  Speaker 1: for retirement? All these things were going when both my
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  Speaker 1: parents and my husband got very sick and I went
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  Speaker 1: into several years of caring for them, and then they
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  Speaker 1: all passed pretty much during within months of each other.
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  Speaker 1: So for the first time, Uh, I was devastated totally.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I was just grieved out. There was just nothing.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, these were people who I had never spent
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  Speaker 1: a day in my life without, you know, I always
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  Speaker 1: had them, So total uncertainty. Uh, dark days. Um, every day.
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  Speaker 1: I was crying every day. I didn't know what I
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  Speaker 1: was going to do. Um. And even though I had
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  Speaker 1: been very successful in in my career and I had
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  Speaker 1: a forty year marriage, a good marriage that was only
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  Speaker 1: ended by the cancer that took my husband away, UM,
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  Speaker 1: I was lost. I didn't know what to do. And
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  Speaker 1: I was in my sixties and so it was like
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  Speaker 1: I constantly said, well, my life's over. What am I
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  Speaker 1: gonna do now? And ra Sean, it was one of
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  Speaker 1: those times when one night I was looking through these
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  Speaker 1: obituaries of the three most important people ever in my life.
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  Speaker 1: And you know, I was in my night nightly ritual
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  Speaker 1: of you on my knees, often crying, you know, woe
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  Speaker 1: is me? Um. I looked and saw that dash, you know, Sean,
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  Speaker 1: that dash between the day you are born and the
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  Speaker 1: day you die. And when I looked at that dash,
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  Speaker 1: I said, you know, that's what I remember about my
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  Speaker 1: mom and my dad and my sweetheart, my husband. That's
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  Speaker 1: what I remember. It's that dash. That's what life's about.
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  Speaker 1: It's where the meaning takes place. And what was I
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  Speaker 1: gonna do about my dash? Was I just ready to
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  Speaker 1: give up? And that's really Rashan. As I began to
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  Speaker 1: look at it and think about it, I slowly started
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  Speaker 1: to get off my knees, to take a step out
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  Speaker 1: and get back in the world because I found some meaning.
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  Speaker 1: And that's when I began to discover what for me
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  Speaker 1: where the secrets of um, you know, living a vibrant life.
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  Speaker 1: Let let's talk about let's talk about that, that that
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  Speaker 1: that old way, what is me? Lifestyle and mentality and
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  Speaker 1: coming out of that the little the little engine that
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  Speaker 1: could coming up that hill, you know and then going
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  Speaker 1: over you know, because what happens is when you're that
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  Speaker 1: old always mean you have a lot of tragedy, tragedy
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  Speaker 1: and tragedy in your life. A lot of people don't
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  Speaker 1: I talk to you. They know, they know they feel
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  Speaker 1: nerves by telling you to suck it up or come
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  Speaker 1: on down. You have a lot of life to give.
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  Speaker 1: So you don't have a lot of people around you
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  Speaker 1: that they can challenge you because they know you in
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  Speaker 1: a state of sadness and they don't want to sound
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  Speaker 1: like they they are uh selfish by telling you you
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  Speaker 1: can you can move on? And so you saw the dash.
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  Speaker 1: What were everybody else saying around your the family members,
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  Speaker 1: your friends and all that good stuff? Yeah? Everyone, And
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  Speaker 1: you know when you're in that state, everyone is so
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  Speaker 1: supportive or they try to be right. You tell you
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  Speaker 1: things like you know, you've got a lot of life
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  Speaker 1: ahead of you, Uh move forward and you know get
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  Speaker 1: over and even get over it or it's time to
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  Speaker 1: get over it. And you know, none of that helped
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  Speaker 1: me none of that. And you know, I don't believe
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  Speaker 1: there's a timeline for grief, you know, I just really don't.
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  Speaker 1: And I had to discover me for me, in myself.
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  Speaker 1: And the first thing that in what I discovered for
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  Speaker 1: a secret for me that I discovered was I had
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  Speaker 1: to reconnect with my why, So my purpose, my raisin detra,
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  Speaker 1: Why am I here? You know, not about my husband
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  Speaker 1: and my parents, and my children, my grandchildren, all the
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  Speaker 1: friends and family? Why me? Lord? Why me? You know,
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  Speaker 1: what is it that you have for me? Because I
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  Speaker 1: believe each of us has at least one unique gift
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  Speaker 1: or talent and finding that gift or talent and understanding
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  Speaker 1: your purpose. And as I began to reflect and really
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  Speaker 1: go deep with Sean, I rediscovered my purpose. I refound
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  Speaker 1: my why I'm living. And so that's one of the
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  Speaker 1: secrets I think to life at any age, and that
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  Speaker 1: is knowing your purpose, knowing why you here, Why God
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  Speaker 1: put you here? What is it you supposed to do?
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  Speaker 1: And that's the thing that helps get me up every morning,
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  Speaker 1: gets me excited and to think about, you know, I'm
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  Speaker 1: fulfilling my meaning. And I rediscovered that, you know, God
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  Speaker 1: put me on this earth to inspire and teach and
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  Speaker 1: to help, particularly women over fifty who are in my
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  Speaker 1: same age category, to UH rediscover themselves and figure out
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  Speaker 1: their neck steps because we're not done yet. And so
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  Speaker 1: rediscovering my why and my purpose really was the first
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  Speaker 1: big secret that UH I discovered. Well, you know, I
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  Speaker 1: want to go back on that saddness thing. I don't
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  Speaker 1: think there's a timeline of sadness. You have to learn
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  Speaker 1: how to just box it, put in a box and
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  Speaker 1: from compartmentalize it because of the fact that you know,
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  Speaker 1: I know when I when I think about death, I
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  Speaker 1: think about my parents, I think about my sister. You know,
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  Speaker 1: I might think about it a year from now. I
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  Speaker 1: might think about it on their birthday. I might think
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  Speaker 1: about it. So it's all right, Well we're talking about
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  Speaker 1: is compartmentalizing it so it doesn't dominate your everyday life
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  Speaker 1: moving forward, so it doesn't stop you from meeting people,
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  Speaker 1: stop you from movie, stop you from getting the job,
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  Speaker 1: stopping you from saying, you know something, I want to
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  Speaker 1: be happy, hear me. I'll get that I want to
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  Speaker 1: be happy, and so what happens is and that that's
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  Speaker 1: why I wanted to bring Dr Geneva Williams on the show,
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  Speaker 1: is that it's about you know, this is how I speak.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I speak this way and I'm not trying
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  Speaker 1: to be younger than what I am. I'm just trying
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  Speaker 1: to be Rashawn McDonald. I don't worry about another birthday.
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  Speaker 1: I gotta have a birthday to accomplish my dreams. I
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  Speaker 1: don't lock myself to a certain age. I want to
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  Speaker 1: be thirty nine for the rest of my life. I
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  Speaker 1: want to be fitting that. No, I want to be
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  Speaker 1: whatever age God allows me to be on that year,
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  Speaker 1: he says, my birthday because I got gold I gotta
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  Speaker 1: put in place. And so when I saw a video
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  Speaker 1: of you, I said, this is my girl. I gotta
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  Speaker 1: bring home my show because she's not restricting the steps
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  Speaker 1: of opportunity tied to the age that she's assigned to
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  Speaker 1: that year. That's a beautiful part of your personality. Where
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  Speaker 1: did that come from? You know, I don't I think
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  Speaker 1: it came from my started with my parents because they
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  Speaker 1: were activist way into the eighties and nineties. You know,
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  Speaker 1: my I started writing my book with my dad when
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  Speaker 1: he was and we were to publish it together. So,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I interviewed him about all the things he
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  Speaker 1: went through, all his trials and tribulations, the historic uh
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  Speaker 1: landmark civil rights case he won and took all the
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  Speaker 1: way to the Supreme Court New Jersey and changed housing
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  Speaker 1: discrimination laws of New Jersey forever. And we talked about
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  Speaker 1: all of that. We did that together. Now he passed
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  Speaker 1: before the book was published, but he did read the
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  Speaker 1: final manuscript and said it was good. But that was
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  Speaker 1: like nineties, and and my mom I think left in
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  Speaker 1: her late eighties. And but they always but you know, Rashan,
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  Speaker 1: it really wasn't about the chronological age. What it really
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  Speaker 1: was was their mindset and and what they felt in
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  Speaker 1: their heart and their purpose. Uh. And that's what I
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  Speaker 1: discovered that it really is about my purpose and my
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  Speaker 1: motivation and continuing to give, you know, the gifts, and
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  Speaker 1: that compartmentalization you talk about, I think is right on
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  Speaker 1: for me. My compartment is my heart. So I keep
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  Speaker 1: you know, those who have gone on um that you
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  Speaker 1: know meant so much to me in my heart and
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  Speaker 1: so they'll always be there. So I'm not trying to
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  Speaker 1: get rid of them at all. For those they've got
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  Speaker 1: to be in your heart. And you know what, Rashan,
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  Speaker 1: we have to laugh about the good times. And one
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  Speaker 1: of the things I do is I pull out the
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  Speaker 1: albums all the time. I consider myself an amateur photographer,
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  Speaker 1: so I have thousands of pictures. I ain't in none
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  Speaker 1: of them, okay, because I'm always so busy taken over.
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  Speaker 1: But I'll pull out my albums and I'll laugh. Sometimes
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  Speaker 1: i'll cry, but I reflect and relive those good times,
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  Speaker 1: those moments Rashan. And that's why I think it's important
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  Speaker 1: to have those moments um to live because we all
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  Speaker 1: You're absolutely right, and you have to put sweat equity
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  Speaker 1: into what it is you want to You got to
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  Speaker 1: do that, okay. You know. One of the things that
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  Speaker 1: I say the folks in terms of the secrets that
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  Speaker 1: I found, is to make a plan. You gotta have
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  Speaker 1: a game plan. What is it you're gonna do with
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  Speaker 1: your life? You know? So you know, let's assume you
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  Speaker 1: you you you know what your purpose is, You've discovered
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  Speaker 1: your why, you understand why you're here, what it is
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  Speaker 1: you want to do, what your talents are. Okay, then
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  Speaker 1: what you're gonna do with it? So that's making a plan,
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  Speaker 1: you know, whether you think it in your head or
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  Speaker 1: write it down. Though writing it down, you know, writing
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  Speaker 1: it down helps you see it and achieve it better.
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  Speaker 1: That's what all the research says. But I understand if
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  Speaker 1: you just want to keep it in your head and
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  Speaker 1: think about it. But the best thing to do is
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  Speaker 1: figure out what your goals are, what it is. You know,
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  Speaker 1: you've got this vision of your life that you want
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  Speaker 1: to be, which is first step, figure out what it
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  Speaker 1: is you want your life to be, and then decide, well,
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  Speaker 1: how am I going to get there? So those are
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  Speaker 1: your goals, and then how am I going to reach
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  Speaker 1: those goals? That's your action steps, and then what am
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  Speaker 1: I gonna do it? That's your timeline. Well, when you
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  Speaker 1: finish putting together a vision of goals, some action steps
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  Speaker 1: and a timeline, you got yourself a plan and then
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  Speaker 1: do it. And so one of the things that I
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  Speaker 1: found is you gotta have a plan. And it's your plan.
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  Speaker 1: It's not your uncle's or your aunts or your scouse is.
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  Speaker 1: It's your plan, and come on, let's do it. Get
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  Speaker 1: that game plan together. Uh, you know, male, female, black, white,
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  Speaker 1: have a game plan and that you know, and it's
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  Speaker 1: your plan, and be willing to switch it up or
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  Speaker 1: change it if you need to. You know, if people
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  Speaker 1: say to me, um, sometimes well I don't know what
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  Speaker 1: to do. You know, I don't feel I'm I'm really
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  Speaker 1: done anything. I'm stuck, you know that that kind of thing.
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  Speaker 1: One of the tips I give folk when they feel
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  Speaker 1: that way is to, uh, make a list of your accomplishments. Rashan.
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  Speaker 1: I don't care who you are, if you living and
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  Speaker 1: breathing and if you're listening to us, have this conversation.
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  Speaker 1: In your life, you've accomplished something, probably a whole lot
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  Speaker 1: of somethings, and so one of the things, pull out
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  Speaker 1: that piece of paper and write down all of the
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  Speaker 1: things you've all your successes, what have you done. When
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  Speaker 1: you sit back, I'm guaranteed you sit back and look
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  Speaker 1: at that list, you're gonna say, well, you know that's
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  Speaker 1: what you're saying. You know what I'm saying. Here's something
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  Speaker 1: that absolutely and always saying. It's like in my life,
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  Speaker 1: you know, because a lot of people have qualifiers on success,
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  Speaker 1: you know, they they look at Lebron James and that
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  Speaker 1: might be successful to them. And you have to look
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  Speaker 1: at your competition. I mean, when I was building Steve
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  Speaker 1: Harvey's or social media, I put this competition that was
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  Speaker 1: that was close to him. I didn't go way up there,
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  Speaker 1: there was way away. I started close to him and
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  Speaker 1: started setting his goals in social media and we started
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  Speaker 1: passing them as we went along the way. Now if
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  Speaker 1: I just said this goal four or five million away
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  Speaker 1: instead of fifty thousand away, then guess what it would
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  Speaker 1: look seem insurmountable. And so when you start talking about goals,
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  Speaker 1: setting said goals that are reachable. Say, I always talked
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  Speaker 1: about naty day goals. I don't talk about years where
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  Speaker 1: you know, that's why a lot of people don't go
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  Speaker 1: to college because they see here here four years. It
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  Speaker 1: just knocks him out on the four years. Uh, I
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  Speaker 1: can't contain committed something like four years. That's why people
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  Speaker 1: go to trade schools. And I'm not knocking that because
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  Speaker 1: they see a short to turn turn around. But always know,
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  Speaker 1: set a goal that you feel comfortable with and reaching.
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  Speaker 1: And that's what she's saying about planning a lot of
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  Speaker 1: people planning success, but they don't plan it with a goal,
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  Speaker 1: a reachable goal. And know that as you always treated
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  Speaker 1: like a steps on the ladder, Each step gets you hire,
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  Speaker 1: each steps gets you high. You don't want to jump
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  Speaker 1: steps on the ladder. You might fall off exactly exactly.
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  Speaker 1: And so that's what you know, be have realistic goals right,
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  Speaker 1: goals that make sense that you can touch and reach,
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  Speaker 1: and goals that you know that you've reached. Success when
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  Speaker 1: you've completed that. Sometimes we set these vague goals and
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  Speaker 1: we don't really even know when we reached them. And
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  Speaker 1: so I always tell folks when you're setting goals, um,
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  Speaker 1: speaking in the present and the now and speaking in
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  Speaker 1: positive terms, like you know, um, you know, I want
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  Speaker 1: to lose fifty pounds. Okay, that's too vague. It really
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  Speaker 1: doesn't say much, doesn't talk about when or what have you.
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  Speaker 1: But you can say, Brad said, stated in the positive terms.
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  Speaker 1: I am my ideal weight. You know it's a positive thing.
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  Speaker 1: So you've already put yourself in that future self that
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  Speaker 1: you want to be and you see yourself that way.
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  Speaker 1: Oh I gotta quit smoking. No, I'm a non smoker.
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  Speaker 1: So you claim it and say it for yourself and
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  Speaker 1: then begin to write down the action steps that will
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  Speaker 1: make that statement on a non smoker true. Absolutely when
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  Speaker 1: I when I think about it, when people, especially on
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  Speaker 1: weight laws, I always tell people just just pickle. I
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  Speaker 1: want to lose a pound a Week's like, see if
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  Speaker 1: you lose the powder week at the end of you
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  Speaker 1: lost fifty pounds, and so what if you say I
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  Speaker 1: want to lose fifty powers, I'm like, oh, I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: do that, but just to powder powder week in your mind.
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  Speaker 1: That's what we're talking about, a mindset. We're talking about
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  Speaker 1: how to relax your way into success. We're talking about
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  Speaker 1: not being overwhelmed by setting goals and planning things that
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  Speaker 1: feel unreachable because it came out of your mouth, which
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  Speaker 1: shan is that Another thing that I've learned through the years,
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  Speaker 1: and that is that one of the ways to continually
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  Speaker 1: be able to create possibilities and live a vibrant life
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  Speaker 1: at any age is to practice self care. Yes, you know,
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  Speaker 1: too often, particularly for women, Um, we get so busy
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  Speaker 1: in life, trying to be successful, trying to you know,
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  Speaker 1: climb to the top all of the things that we
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  Speaker 1: forget to take care of ourselves and and and not.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm not talking about, you know, making sure you
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  Speaker 1: get a massage every week, though that's good, now, now
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  Speaker 1: that that'd be good. Okay, that's if you can afford it,
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  Speaker 1: that's great. But you know, self care is about so
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  Speaker 1: many different aspects of your life. It deals with your
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  Speaker 1: social care, your physical care, your psychological care, your mental,
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  Speaker 1: your emotional even learning how to say no is a
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  Speaker 1: good way to practice self care, so that in fact,
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  Speaker 1: you're putting your needs your priorities first. So practicing uh,
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  Speaker 1: taking care of yourself, loving yourself the way that you should,
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  Speaker 1: eliminating the negative self talk. You know, we be you
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  Speaker 1: know talk, all these things kind of run around in
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  Speaker 1: our mind about what we can't do, these limiting behaviors.
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  Speaker 1: You know, what we can't what we can't say, what
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  Speaker 1: we can't wear, what we shouldn't do, et cetera. By
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  Speaker 1: the time we finished, you'll be exhausted, you know. So
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  Speaker 1: we need to reduce or eliminate the negative self talk.
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  Speaker 1: And that's part of taking care of yourself, that self care,
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  Speaker 1: that self love. That particularly during these times as times
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  Speaker 1: as tough as we're in pandemic, as you know, we're
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  Speaker 1: facing uncertainty. UM an uncertainty that is going to the
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  Speaker 1: pandemic is going to end where it will move into
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  Speaker 1: something different, but uncertainty it's going to be with us always.
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  Speaker 1: You know, life is about ups and downs, that's what
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  Speaker 1: life is. And so learning how to embrace uncertainty, become
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  Speaker 1: a master of UM, having yourself developed, learn the tricks
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  Speaker 1: and tips to decrease worry and stress and focus on
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  Speaker 1: your goals. You know, those are things that we should develop.
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  Speaker 1: We should become masters of that pandemic or not, because
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  Speaker 1: it will always be something that's in our lives that
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