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Dr. Nicole LaBeach on being a Master Relationship Coach & Knowing Who NOT to Marry · The Steve Harvey Morning Show

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Speaker 1: a new relationship show called Put a Ring On It,
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Speaker 1: which you may known from that fantastic song that Beyonce
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Speaker 1: had several years ago, put a Ring On It. Put
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Speaker 1: the Ring on It show follows three longtime couples with
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Speaker 1: help from Dr Nicola Beach, who embarked on the Ultimate
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Speaker 1: relationship Test. From week to week, the couples are pushed
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Speaker 1: outside their comfort zones, the comfort to confront the question
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Speaker 1: they've been afraid to ask. Is there happy? Is there
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Speaker 1: really happiness? Ever after? I don't know. We'll find out.
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Speaker 1: That's why I got on the show. Dr Nicola beach
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Speaker 1: wisdom has inspired the audiences of Essence Magazine, The Steve
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Speaker 1: Harvey Morning Show, T D. Jake's audiences, all these different
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Speaker 1: things rolling out in magazine, CBS Radio. Please welcome to
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Speaker 1: money Making Conversation. I'm gonna call my friend. She's into
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Speaker 1: the relationship business now. Dr the Cold Little Beach, Hello,
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Speaker 1: that you well, I need to ask how you you
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Speaker 1: know you are in the relationship business in the middle
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Speaker 1: of a pandemic. All I know is I will not
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Speaker 1: want to be single right now. People wearing masks you
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Speaker 1: don't know, you know talking about you can have it.
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Speaker 1: You might have me making love and get the COVID ninty.
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Speaker 1: You kiss, you get the COVID n Holding the hands,
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Speaker 1: you get the COVID naty. I don't know if his
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Speaker 1: relationship is a dead thing. What is the new way technology?
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Speaker 1: The way you you? You you see somebody online and
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Speaker 1: just marry them? What you do? What you can't hold hands? No,
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Speaker 1: that's not that's not it. Please don't see them. Aline
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Speaker 1: then you'll be asking me how to help. I can't
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Speaker 1: happen that you do. But you know, first of all,
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Speaker 1: list a delight to be here with you you. Um,
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Speaker 1: you are so wonderful and inspiring and um you might
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Speaker 1: not remember Roushawn, but you actually helped me um when
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Speaker 1: I first came on the Steve Harvey Morning Show. So
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Speaker 1: just a little blast from the past of gratitude because
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Speaker 1: your footprint and presence has been so big over the years.
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Speaker 1: So I absolutely thank you for that. I believe you
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Speaker 1: have to thank people who helped you along the way.
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Speaker 1: So you know now that I'm I'm in this relationship space,
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Speaker 1: UM and hosting this show, must we never forget We
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Speaker 1: must never forget, um, those who came and helped to
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Speaker 1: create the narrative. The thing about that is that I
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Speaker 1: appreciate you saying that, but uh, when I hear that
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Speaker 1: a lot from people, and just like you're talented, and
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Speaker 1: I've always been a person that you know, it wasn't
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Speaker 1: risky for me to give anybody an opportunity that I
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Speaker 1: felt was solidly I had a solid understanding of their capabilities.
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Speaker 1: And I always felt you had a solid understanding of
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Speaker 1: your capabilities. Plus you because blood people, they're passionate about something.
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Speaker 1: But then it does that passion translate to, uh, the
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Speaker 1: ability to succeed in it? And you always felt was
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Speaker 1: the was the one and uh, and so it's it's
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Speaker 1: fun when I when I see that, and and I do,
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Speaker 1: and I've done it a lot in my life. Just uh,
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Speaker 1: just trust in my natural instincts. Do Nicole? Is that
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Speaker 1: when you when people say that to me, I go yeah,
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Speaker 1: And it doesn't really it doesn't really pop back in
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Speaker 1: my brain until somebody reminds like, oh yeah, remember yeah,
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Speaker 1: because usually when you I know, how large the brand
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Speaker 1: of Steve Harvey isn't large because I was there and
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Speaker 1: I built it with him, And so when people were
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Speaker 1: introduced to that massive audience, it really really did set
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Speaker 1: set motion a major change, and you were in a
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Speaker 1: position to take advantage of it. Well, I appreciate it,
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Speaker 1: I do. And you know, this is a really exciting time. Um,
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Speaker 1: though it is a crazy time, right you You said
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Speaker 1: it best. With everything that's happening with COVID, It's like
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Speaker 1: people are like, God, how do you date? What do
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Speaker 1: you do? And I say, you know, Um, this COVID
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Speaker 1: experience is really creating some boundaries that slow things down
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Speaker 1: in a way that many of us probably would have
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Speaker 1: benefited from if we were using some of these boundaries
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Speaker 1: before COVID in how we were dating, right, agree, because
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Speaker 1: slowing right, slowing things down. Um, what I say is,
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Speaker 1: you know, dating is about collecting data, and when you
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Speaker 1: slow things down, you get to really collect enough data
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Speaker 1: to see are you dating a representative or are you
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Speaker 1: dating a full person? So what COVID is now done,
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Speaker 1: it's forced people to take the time to do the
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Speaker 1: due diligence of conversation and um being cautiously um connected
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Speaker 1: so that they can have enough time to see who
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Speaker 1: they're really dating. And that's really important, and I are
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Speaker 1: one of the most popular lines of Steve Harvey's first book,
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Speaker 1: Act Like Lately, Think like a Man was the naty
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Speaker 1: day rule, And basically that's what you're saying and collecting
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Speaker 1: data and being able to sit back and not immediately
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Speaker 1: jump into a sexual relationship with a person, understand, or
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Speaker 1: do they like your kids that don't like your kids?
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Speaker 1: Do it like you did like the food you eat
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Speaker 1: that naty day period And and it translated to a
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Speaker 1: major reason why that book was so successful, And you're
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Speaker 1: saying the same thing here. The pandemic has slowed down
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Speaker 1: quickly maybe quickly jumping into bed with each other and
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Speaker 1: also really identifying the lifestyle of that person that you
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Speaker 1: may want a relationship with, or how are they where
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Speaker 1: do they live, or do they take care of themselves physically?
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Speaker 1: All these things, well, some of the processes that were skipped,
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Speaker 1: they're now being looked at in a different manner. And
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Speaker 1: also because of mask, you know, you can't exactly see
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Speaker 1: who you're who you're trying to create relationship right off,
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Speaker 1: and so you really need to get to know the
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Speaker 1: person a lot more. And that also leads to longtime relationships.
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Speaker 1: So those values talking of the pandemic is not a
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Speaker 1: good thing. We don't want to be in it for
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Speaker 1: form a relationship standpoint. It is forcing us to look
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Speaker 1: at the person and not just the physical or object. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: and how do they you know, how do they handle
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Speaker 1: their every day? You know, have things appropriately changed for
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Speaker 1: them as it should? Right? So even things like if
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Speaker 1: they haven't skipped to beat, then that tells you something
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Speaker 1: because in this health crisis, you should be skipping something right,
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Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, ain't that wrong with it?
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Speaker 1: Let's go no social distance and just doing it right exactly.
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Speaker 1: So if they're not skipping nothing, if they're still driving,
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Speaker 1: you know, a hundred and fifty miles an hour in
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Speaker 1: their imaginary cars on you know, on the road that's
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Speaker 1: column for forty five, then then all of that information
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Speaker 1: is saying to you, okay, is this is how they're
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Speaker 1: leading their life in this dynamic? Um it is really
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Speaker 1: the match made in heaven, you know. So it's not
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Speaker 1: a good thing. I agree with you. Lots of lost,
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Speaker 1: lots of compassion um for what we're all experiencing, but
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Speaker 1: it is pushing people to be a whole lot more
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Speaker 1: responsible with their heart and with their safety. And that
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Speaker 1: really that's what it all comes down to, is the relationship,
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Speaker 1: the essence of it. So when I look at your firm,
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Speaker 1: you know you're the presidency or relation enterprises of Premier
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Speaker 1: organizational development. The term that the one thing that pops
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Speaker 1: out to me is the word diversity because we've seen
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Speaker 1: doing this endemic run, especially with the death of murder
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Speaker 1: of George Floyd and Minnesota, that the push for diversity
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Speaker 1: has been a huge calling card. You know, that's probably
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Speaker 1: one of the reasons why Kamala Harris was chosen as
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Speaker 1: the vice president elect on the ticket for Joe Biden.
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Speaker 1: Was been tied to diversity. I see I see women
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Speaker 1: being elevated. I see men getting deals they didn't getting deal.
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Speaker 1: You know, the president of Free Farm, she's female ABC.
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Speaker 1: You know digital all, there's a lot of African Americans
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Speaker 1: who are ascending the latter and that word diversity really
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Speaker 1: pops out. So during this time, how has the word
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Speaker 1: how have you? I wouldn't say the word benefit how
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Speaker 1: have you gotten calls to assist and an enhancing diversity platform?
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Speaker 1: Talk about it over. How has been different for the
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Speaker 1: term diversity in the corporate and entertainment world. Oh yeah,
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Speaker 1: I mean, you know, my business partner and I, Crystal Khalil.
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Speaker 1: I talked about her as well as my own journey.
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Speaker 1: You know, when I was in the corporate arena, I
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Speaker 1: was in senior leadership UM for News Corporation, which is
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Speaker 1: a um Fox parent company for all of the Fox affiliates.
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Speaker 1: And you know, diversity is such a challenged conversation in
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Speaker 1: this country. We have experienced George Floyd and that tragedy,
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Speaker 1: among so many others. But it's like I talked with
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Speaker 1: my partner, Christop Khalil, who is the first African American
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Speaker 1: executive pro portion. She's no longer there, but what it
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Speaker 1: took to have that part of her leadership narrative and
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Speaker 1: what it takes for our diverse colleagues and peers to
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Speaker 1: be recognized. It's it's quite interesting that often they've already
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Speaker 1: done half of the work that they deserve but have
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Speaker 1: not received the benefit of So in with all of
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Speaker 1: this happening, what our firm has seen is you know
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Speaker 1: a lot of companies saying we don't know how to
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Speaker 1: have this conversation. We're seeing means where it's saying white
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Speaker 1: people help, and we're seeing UM colleagues that there's something
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Speaker 1: different about the way they're coming to work today, there's
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Speaker 1: something different about their temperament and the sadness of still
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Speaker 1: seeing the casual nature of a George Floyd's death. And
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Speaker 1: we don't know how to talk to them. We don't
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Speaker 1: know what to say, we don't know what to ask,
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Speaker 1: we don't know what to do. And thankfully, UM, we've
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Speaker 1: had some really great conversations with corporations who've reached out
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Speaker 1: and said can you help? And what we said is
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Speaker 1: how connected are you to the solution that you're seeking?
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Speaker 1: Are you stuck? Are you refusing to move? Where are you?
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Speaker 1: And can we partner with you to answer the tough
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Speaker 1: question so we see what's next. So Tenny twenty in
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Speaker 1: that space has been a blessing that many firms like ours,
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Speaker 1: not just ours, but many firms like ours with Sean
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Speaker 1: who are connected and committed to diversity, have been praying
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Speaker 1: for and now it's actually moving forward, right, And so
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Speaker 1: that's what that's what excited me, and uh, it doesn't
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Speaker 1: excite to be the role that President Trump has played
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Speaker 1: in the White House, you know. But what excites me
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Speaker 1: is that when white people in general admit their years
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Speaker 1: a problem not tied to the fact that they've been
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Speaker 1: forced there because of affirmative action or some legal legislation.
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Speaker 1: Because I've always believed that, you know, don't deny me
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Speaker 1: because of my color, give me, give me the opportunity
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Speaker 1: because of my skill. And that's all we're asking when
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Speaker 1: you start talking about diversity. Now we're gonna shift gears
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Speaker 1: to come by. Where I really brought you on the show,
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Speaker 1: was that you you kind of a friend of mine.
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Speaker 1: I wanna calling my friend of mine because I did
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Speaker 1: two movies with him. Will Packer thinking like a man,
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Speaker 1: think like a man too. And we go all the
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Speaker 1: way back to stump the stump, the uh stump the yard. Now,
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Speaker 1: you know, this weekly series is about following three couples
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Speaker 1: right who have a long term relationship and they have
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Speaker 1: not lived the ring on the finger to put the
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Speaker 1: ring the ring on the finger? Now, what attracted you
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Speaker 1: to you? Because that that's a key moment right there,
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Speaker 1: because you know, women are interesting because because men we
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Speaker 1: we we make decisions, we're we're, we're we're kind of
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Speaker 1: like I called satisfied animals, you know, in other words,
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Speaker 1: if it ain't broke, don't don't, don't mess with it word,
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Speaker 1: So what create change? If nobody just asking for change?
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Speaker 1: So we will ride out our relationship or a situation,
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Speaker 1: whether it's longest, it's not causing any disruption and how
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Speaker 1: pattern of what we're doing, We're gonna ride it out.
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Speaker 1: And sometimes women would allow that to happen and then't
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Speaker 1: want to create disruption because of fear of loss, of
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Speaker 1: fear of ending something that they believe in. But sometimes
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Speaker 1: you need disruption. And so when I when I read
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Speaker 1: about this show coming out, and then I also read
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Speaker 1: it it was being shot during the pandemic, I went, okay,
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Speaker 1: I gotta tract this now, I gotta I gotta find
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Speaker 1: up because you do all elvems right there, long term
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Speaker 1: relationship that don't have a that not have no sign
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Speaker 1: of commitment. When I said commitment, I'm talking about putting
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Speaker 1: the ring on that finger and you're shooting it doing
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Speaker 1: a pandemic. The floors you're got in the cold, the
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Speaker 1: beach that was that was loaded, Um, well you know
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Speaker 1: Will Packer. First of all, he is he is the
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Speaker 1: funniest dude. Oh my god, he is just a personality
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Speaker 1: it onto himself. What a great guy. Um, you know
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Speaker 1: saw the potential for this concept, and yes we shot
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Speaker 1: it in COVID. I you know, take my hat off
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Speaker 1: to the crew and to the executive producers because they
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Speaker 1: kept us safe. Um, they kept us tested, They kept
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Speaker 1: the the arena safe for us to do the work.
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Speaker 1: And I really appreciate that that that should not go
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Speaker 1: on set. But yeah, we have these couples who have
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Speaker 1: been in a relationship for a long time and the
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Speaker 1: question is are they stuck or refusing to move As
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Speaker 1: it relates to moving forward with with a ring with
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Speaker 1: an engagement that leads to marriage show, the premise of
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Speaker 1: the show is it's time. It's time to make a decision.
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Speaker 1: Either you are willing to put a ring on it,
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Speaker 1: or maybe this is not your happily ever after and
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Speaker 1: maybe you need to start a new situation somewhere else.
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Speaker 1: And good luck on that if that's the way you
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Speaker 1: choose to go. And I wanted to do the show
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Speaker 1: because I wanted to hold the space for folks to
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Speaker 1: really recognize that they're in the driver's seat of a
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Speaker 1: lot of the narrative, and that this process would help
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Speaker 1: them figure out where they really needed to be on
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Speaker 1: this critical question of is this who you should be
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Speaker 1: co creating your life with, is this who you should
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Speaker 1: be building a future with, or should you be doing
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Speaker 1: something else? So when it came across my desk, I
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Speaker 1: was excited. I was like, Wow, this is not going
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Speaker 1: to be fun um to help some people and hold
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Speaker 1: the space for them to do their relationships at another level,
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Speaker 1: but I believe it was going to give some people
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Speaker 1: hope that are experiencing this question in their own relationship
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Speaker 1: rushan or they're just in a relationship and they just
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Speaker 1: need some new tools to help them do the relationship better.
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Speaker 1: The measures doch Nicole uh and these three couples that
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Speaker 1: are featured, were you're part of the selection process or
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Speaker 1: they were always selected when they brought you on board. No,
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Speaker 1: I mean we talked about the folks and what was
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Speaker 1: necessary and what was needed, because you know, people come
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Speaker 1: into situation thinking the grass is greener, and usually they
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Speaker 1: have a list of what's greener. Right If you say, okay,
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Speaker 1: so what would be what would be better or what
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Speaker 1: what are you missing? They've got a proverbial list. So
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Speaker 1: then when people come into their lives that quote unquote
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Speaker 1: have the missing elements, then what do you do then?
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Speaker 1: What what is it calling for now as it relates
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Speaker 1: to your work, to really see is it those outside
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Speaker 1: things or is it's things going on within you that
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Speaker 1: needs to be worked out and worked out in this
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Speaker 1: relationship so that you can have something better than where
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Speaker 1: he started. So you know it was something And if
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Speaker 1: you watch it, I think we're moving to episode four
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Speaker 1: this week. Um, when you watch it, you really see
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Speaker 1: what it looks like to call all those things forward
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Speaker 1: and say, no, let's not talk about it anymore. Let's
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Speaker 1: be about it and see what we're really gonna do.
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Speaker 1: And that's really the key. Here's the thing I al
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Speaker 1: would like to tell people, especially when you're getting into
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Speaker 1: reality shows. You know, when reality shows first came out,
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Speaker 1: was a lot of fighting going on, with throwing bottles
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Speaker 1: and busting each other side of the head. It really
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Speaker 1: was deplorable for Black America to be on TV because
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Speaker 1: we were fighting all the time. We were angry and angry, angry,
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Speaker 1: especially a lot of the women. They were always shouting
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Speaker 1: cousin and pulling hair and all that stuff that was
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Speaker 1: the portrayal of early first out. Uh, they felt that
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Speaker 1: the storylines had to be violent when it came to
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Speaker 1: black storylines. That's why I really like the show. That
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Speaker 1: what I'm starting to watch, and they appealed to me.
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Speaker 1: But it still can lead to relationship issues being halted
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Speaker 1: and treated in the negative. Like for instance, we've seen
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Speaker 1: the melody and whole relationship in on their TV show
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Speaker 1: on on Network because the fact that her husband was
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Speaker 1: another relationship and so that ended in the divorce. And
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Speaker 1: so when you become a host of the other of
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Speaker 1: a show. And there's nothing wrong with these couples. These
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Speaker 1: are three couples that came on. Okay, they were living
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Speaker 1: their lives fine. You know, they were whether they had
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Speaker 1: a ring on it or not, they were cool. They
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Speaker 1: were cool with it. Now, isn't there a certain amount
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Speaker 1: of responsibility did you hold yourself accountable to to make
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Speaker 1: sure that you're not you know, I guess using television
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Speaker 1: as a tool for ratings, but not but by not
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Speaker 1: being a create a dysfunctional relationship for these couples where
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Speaker 1: they end unnecessarily do to the TV. Yeah, I mean absolutely,
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Speaker 1: you know, the interest same thing for me is, you know,
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Speaker 1: I was offered other um television opportunities that I didn't
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Speaker 1: feel really spoke to how I lived my life, what
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Speaker 1: I think is important, and my brand of really trying
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Speaker 1: to help people in their relationships, in their leadership, in
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Speaker 1: their business moved towards the vision that's valuable to them
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Speaker 1: and value added to them. So all of those opportunities
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Speaker 1: didn't fit. One of the things that I really liked
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Speaker 1: about this one was I felt like, first of all,
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Speaker 1: for the couples that come on the show, everything is
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Speaker 1: not going the way they want and that's why they're
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Speaker 1: coming on the show. They really do have a presenting problem.
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Speaker 1: And the presenting problem is someone of these two is
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Speaker 1: not happy with where things are. So that checked the
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Speaker 1: first box. Is there something authentically happening, not just the
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Speaker 1: sensationalism or like you said, you know, folks are being
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Speaker 1: violent and all that stuff, because that doesn't fit who
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Speaker 1: I am. So yeah, there's a problem. Are they really
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Speaker 1: seeking to find a solution by doing some different things
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Speaker 1: than what they've done before? Yes? Are they bought into
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Speaker 1: the fact that there is a third party that can
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Speaker 1: hold a space for them to ask and answer some
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Speaker 1: of the critical questions. Yes, now do I believe that
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Speaker 1: I'm the third party that can help them do that?
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Speaker 1: And that really was my process, because you know, if
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Speaker 1: they're coming on for the sensationalism, that's not that's gonna
21:52
Speaker 1: wear out. It's welcome soon. Because I ask a lot
21:56
Speaker 1: of tough questions and I don't I don't have any
21:59
Speaker 1: assess smit of what the answer is gonna be. None.
22:02
Speaker 1: People say, well, Doc, do you know when you meet
22:05
Speaker 1: them if they're gonna make it? No, And they're like,
22:10
Speaker 1: how do you not low, I said, because people are
22:12
Speaker 1: made of behaviors. You can meet people rushaun and I'm
22:16
Speaker 1: sure you've done this. You need to be like, oh
22:19
Speaker 1: they'll never laugh. Oh God, I'm gonna go to the
22:22
Speaker 1: wedding and I'm gonna get dressed up, but this is
22:24
Speaker 1: this is never gonna laugh. And then twenty five years
22:28
Speaker 1: later and grandkids you're looking, you shake your head in
22:32
Speaker 1: silence from I didn't believe it. I don't believe it.
22:36
Speaker 1: Then you see some that are match made in heaven
22:41
Speaker 1: and two years later you're like, what happened? So what
22:45
Speaker 1: I've realized is people in relationships are made of behaviors.
22:51
Speaker 1: And really, if they've got relationship friendly behaviors, they're gonna
22:55
Speaker 1: have a greater shot if they're being honest, if they're communicating,
23:00
Speaker 1: if they're finding tools. Listen, you need a hammer and
23:03
Speaker 1: all you got is a screwdriver. The minute you find
23:06
Speaker 1: out you've got a screwdriver and it needs a hammer,
23:09
Speaker 1: what do you do? Are you the one that's gonna
23:11
Speaker 1: keep using a screw driver for a hammer job, or
23:14
Speaker 1: you're gonna go get a hammer? Right? I love you?
23:18
Speaker 1: Come on, doc, Come on dog, you're throwing out the metaphors. Yeah,
23:22
Speaker 1: you know if so so. Once you see their willingness
23:25
Speaker 1: to be flexible and to do what's needed to fight
23:30
Speaker 1: for what they have or what they want, that's when
23:34
Speaker 1: you know if they've got a running shot. And I
23:38
Speaker 1: say to people, hey, that's on them to decide. I
23:41
Speaker 1: am just a catalyst to help them figure it out.
23:44
Speaker 1: And that's what the show provided. And and when I
23:47
Speaker 1: saw that that's what Will was really trying to create
23:50
Speaker 1: with something real, I said, count me in, I'm with it.
23:54
Speaker 1: Let's do it. She said. The word we all that's
23:57
Speaker 1: the Atlanta's Busy Powerhouse produce was Sir will Packard. You've
24:01
Speaker 1: seen let me talking all the topics and movies to
24:04
Speaker 1: line of child murders, murders to basketball scammels. Now he
24:08
Speaker 1: loved the show several years ago I hosted by my man,
24:10
Speaker 1: the nephew Tommy called Owns Ready to Love. He's a
24:15
Speaker 1: new relative, like she says. The fourth episode is coming up.
24:18
Speaker 1: Please make sure you watch it. It's only Own network.
24:20
Speaker 1: It's called put a Ring on It. It was shot
24:24
Speaker 1: in Atlanta mansion during the pandemic, So you need to
24:27
Speaker 1: watch it just for that. You just dadn't happen right now.
24:30
Speaker 1: People interact doing the pandemic when they're holding hands, when
24:34
Speaker 1: they're sitting across from each other, were across them other
24:36
Speaker 1: dinner table, where they're sitting on opposite ends of the sofa.
24:39
Speaker 1: How do pandemic couples interact even though they've been together
24:42
Speaker 1: for a long time. I know my wife, Dr Nicole,
24:46
Speaker 1: she still won't let me take out to a restaurant. No,
24:49
Speaker 1: she will not let me do that. She will not
24:51
Speaker 1: let me do my daughter the same way. They said,
24:53
Speaker 1: we're dad, We're comfortable. Even so, a lot of people
24:57
Speaker 1: have not accepted the mask wearing a social standpoint, and
25:01
Speaker 1: like you said, it does cause people to do Paul's
25:04
Speaker 1: moments in their lives to say, hey, that's I'm not
25:07
Speaker 1: comfortable with that. So I'm pretty sure what were the
25:10
Speaker 1: most are not trying to reveal in this series of
25:12
Speaker 1: the episodes as air so far, what are some of
25:15
Speaker 1: the moments? Do it that you realized there was a
25:17
Speaker 1: pandemic moment that is aired so far in the first
25:20
Speaker 1: three episodes, you know, just just like what you said, Um,
25:25
Speaker 1: one of the things that was big for me that
25:27
Speaker 1: you won't see in the episodes is you know you're
25:30
Speaker 1: with a crew and you you know they're they're taking
25:35
Speaker 1: care of all of the things that are necessary to
25:38
Speaker 1: make the show happen, and you realize you've never seen
25:42
Speaker 1: their faces. It's like, wait a minute, We've been working
25:46
Speaker 1: together for weeks, we've been in the same dwelling, UM,
25:52
Speaker 1: but I don't know what you look like. And that
25:54
Speaker 1: occurred to me when I finally saw um one of
25:58
Speaker 1: the guys um we can all and Mr G when
26:02
Speaker 1: I saw him with his mask hanging down, and I
26:06
Speaker 1: recognized in that moment, Wow, I've been working with these
26:11
Speaker 1: amazingly talented people for weeks and if I saw them
26:15
Speaker 1: on the streets months from now without a mask, I
26:20
Speaker 1: would not know them. I was like, we are in
26:23
Speaker 1: a different time. Stringent protocols, no hugs, no touching, all
26:30
Speaker 1: the things we were not used by the crew that
26:33
Speaker 1: was wiped down immediately and sprayed and wiped down immediately,
26:36
Speaker 1: wearing the mask. Because in the end we all want
26:39
Speaker 1: to go home, and she is the host. I would say,
26:42
Speaker 1: hot new show, door, hot new show with a hot title,
26:45
Speaker 1: put your ring on it, done by a hot big
26:48
Speaker 1: time producing will packers, by hot host Dr the Cold
26:52
Speaker 1: the beach. Check it out. I want to leave me.
26:56
Speaker 1: I'm I'm gonna reach out to him. Put some banners
26:58
Speaker 1: out there staring post yourself on my social media again.
27:00
Speaker 1: I'm so glad we reconnected. And thank you for those compliments.
27:04
Speaker 1: I really appreciate it. God has put me in a
27:06
Speaker 1: position to help a lot of people, and then along
27:08
Speaker 1: the way when I help them and they come back
27:09
Speaker 1: and they compliment me, give me credit for something I
27:12
Speaker 1: felt it was just my duty to do. And the
27:14
Speaker 1: blessing that you are showing on TV today is a
27:18
Speaker 1: blessing to me that I that I I did what
27:20
Speaker 1: I felt I had to do for you and continue
27:23
Speaker 1: to put your success. Okay, doctor, I appreciate you so much.
27:28
Speaker 1: UM love to come back anytime. You will be back.
27:31
Speaker 1: We got we got analyzes, we got for analyses coming
27:34
Speaker 1: up here post talk stuff. You know. I got a
27:41
Speaker 1: couple of idea. I'm gonna call you with a couple
27:43
Speaker 1: of ideas to me and you and will need to
27:44
Speaker 1: say that. I got another idea of a show, idea
27:47
Speaker 1: that's been bothering me for years in the relationship genre.
27:50
Speaker 1: So you're gonna hear from me this week. Okay. And
27:52
Speaker 1: we said, Rich, I'm doing some DOCU said Chan, that
27:55
Speaker 1: makes no sense. You need to stop calling me. Okay,
27:57
Speaker 1: stick to what you do. Okay, man, and these people
28:00
Speaker 1: produced people. But I think, let me tell you, when
28:06
Speaker 1: humility needs humor, I doubt that I will be saying
28:12
Speaker 1: you're talking about I doubt that. So I'm probably I
28:17
Speaker 1: go to l A to marrow. So I think I'll
28:18
Speaker 1: been flying to l A tomorrow. But this week, maybe Thursday,
28:21
Speaker 1: I want to get on the phone with you. I
28:23
Speaker 1: got an idea that it's been but it's been good
28:25
Speaker 1: bothering me because it's been something that I've been dealing
28:29
Speaker 1: with and I always thought about the what elf of life? When? When?
28:33
Speaker 1: When we come to relationship, I want to run about you. Okay,
28:36
Speaker 1: because you're on the Hot Show. I appreciate you big time.
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Speaker 1: We talked soon. Bye bye, thank you. Your more Money
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