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Dr. Cozette White (2nd Appearance) Full Interview · The Steve Harvey Morning Show

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  Speaker 1: My Next guest is a leading authority on personal finances
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  Speaker 1: and business strategies. Her advice has been featured on ABC,
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  Speaker 1: FOX Television, and numerous radio stations and radio shows, including
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  Speaker 1: my show, Money Making Conversation. She is a recurring voice
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  Speaker 1: two Millions, making regular appearances in Black Enterprise, for Upscale,
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  Speaker 1: and Huffing and Post stated that she is the top
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  Speaker 1: expert to watch in. She has on the show to
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  Speaker 1: talk about her new book, Unveiling the Mask the Ultimate
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  Speaker 1: God to Rebound from financial Disaster. This book is all
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  Speaker 1: about financial empowerment for women. Please welcome to Money Making Conversation.
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  Speaker 1: Her second appearance, Dr Cosette M White, Good, how are
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  Speaker 1: you well. I want to thank you for the very
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  Speaker 1: nice uh note you wrote in her You're amazing. Thanks
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  Speaker 1: to you for your support. Okay, that was really cool.
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  Speaker 1: You know, really says something nice about rashand McDonald in
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  Speaker 1: your book. Okay, I'm saying some really great things about
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  Speaker 1: your book, and I'm gonna be I'm gonna say I'm
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  Speaker 1: mad at you about this book. Okay, but it's still great.
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  Speaker 1: It's really great because because man, you're not telling your story,
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  Speaker 1: your recovery story. Because your story and I'm talking about
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  Speaker 1: the abuse when you when you got in a relationship
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  Speaker 1: where you met met a young man and after six months,
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  Speaker 1: I got married and you have two beautiful kids. But
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  Speaker 1: you endured over five you're five or six year period, uh,
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  Speaker 1: darkness of physical violence that you was able to overcome
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  Speaker 1: and you and that's like maybe like twenty pages in
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  Speaker 1: this book. And uh, and that's to me, was such
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  Speaker 1: a heroic recovery for you that I want to I
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  Speaker 1: want to hear that story. I want to read that
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  Speaker 1: story because step by step, uh, you did some amazing
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  Speaker 1: things there. And then you immediately go into the you know,
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  Speaker 1: the you know recovery of how you can will yourself
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  Speaker 1: to success through your ice. But the first part of
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  Speaker 1: that book, young lady, is, uh, you you overcame some stuff.
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  Speaker 1: Can you tell us my, my my listeners and viewers
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  Speaker 1: about that? Absolutely? Well, first of all, you know, I
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  Speaker 1: got into the situation quick as you can. As you
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  Speaker 1: just said, six months, I met a gentleman and then
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  Speaker 1: I got married. Now what I what I wanted to
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  Speaker 1: say to you as well as to the listeners. It
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  Speaker 1: didn't start immediately. It was a build up and it
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  Speaker 1: was basically an individual that started. Um. They brought drugs,
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  Speaker 1: probably drugs into the family, and it began to destroy
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  Speaker 1: the family, destroy the marriage, and just destroy everything. And
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  Speaker 1: with that came the abuse, that came the verbal abuse,
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  Speaker 1: the physical abuse. UM. When I say abuse to you
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  Speaker 1: as well as to the listeners, those of you and
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  Speaker 1: I don't want to tell the full story, but it was. UM.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I suffered black eyes, I suffered hot water
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  Speaker 1: being thrown on me. And I still have those cars,
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  Speaker 1: you know, the fox, the bruise is just I suffered
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  Speaker 1: abuse in those last years of that marriage. UM, in
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  Speaker 1: front of your kids, in front of the kids, definitely
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  Speaker 1: in front of the kids. And you know, there were
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  Speaker 1: so many times that I asked, could you just leave?
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  Speaker 1: Could you just leave? And and you know people ask
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  Speaker 1: me to this day, well why didn't you just walk
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  Speaker 1: away from it? What I want to say to everyone,
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  Speaker 1: it sounds easier to just walk away, but you have
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  Speaker 1: to mentally be ready, financially be ready. And it wasn't
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  Speaker 1: that I was not financially ready. That was not the point.
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  Speaker 1: It was just the mental and it got to a
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  Speaker 1: point where I had just had one fock too many
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  Speaker 1: and I was like, I cannot endure this any longer.
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  Speaker 1: This is not the life that God Um has for me.
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  Speaker 1: This is not how I was raised. This is not
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  Speaker 1: anything that I want to continue being in. Nor do
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  Speaker 1: I want my kids to be in an environment where
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  Speaker 1: they have to see this, Because, as we know, um,
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  Speaker 1: our kids are our kids. Our kids are part of
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  Speaker 1: our They're the makeup of their environment. So whatever they
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  Speaker 1: are raised in, whenever they see growing up, they tend
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  Speaker 1: to take on those same habits. So I didn't want
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  Speaker 1: my daughter to be to grow up and be involved
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  Speaker 1: in a marriage a relationship where a man was abusing her.
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  Speaker 1: Nor did I want my son to be in a
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  Speaker 1: relationship where he felt that he had to put his
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  Speaker 1: hands on another woman. So I had to get out
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  Speaker 1: of that situation and I had to get out of
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  Speaker 1: it quick. And you did, you did, and I did.
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  Speaker 1: I did. But it wasn't easy as it sound. I
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  Speaker 1: asked numerous times, Okay, now, that's why I want more
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  Speaker 1: from you, and I want that story told more extensively
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  Speaker 1: because it sounds easy in your book. You know what
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  Speaker 1: I'm saying because because of the fact that you know,
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  Speaker 1: and I know that's a very painful part to relive,
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  Speaker 1: you know, and the details, the steps. But I think
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  Speaker 1: that and I honestly feel that because that's when that's
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  Speaker 1: why I wanted you to come back on the show.
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  Speaker 1: One of the reasons because also to talk about your book,
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  Speaker 1: but also that that courageous period because like I said,
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  Speaker 1: this is over five six year period. Like I said,
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  Speaker 1: you your daughters five weeks old when he first punched
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  Speaker 1: you in the eye, and so so so from five
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  Speaker 1: weeks old, you know, and I think your daughters like four,
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  Speaker 1: you know, which is your oldest child. So that's a
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  Speaker 1: four year run a violence, you know. And and with
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  Speaker 1: with when you was disguising your injuries by wearing sweaters
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  Speaker 1: in the summer. So so your police was telling you
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  Speaker 1: that they come again, they gotta they can't just keep
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  Speaker 1: you can't cause no more. You can't cause because you
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  Speaker 1: was living in the state of California, and so it
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  Speaker 1: was at the point where you were not able to
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  Speaker 1: to make the right decisions for the safety of yourself
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  Speaker 1: and the safety your kids because you were trapped emotionally,
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  Speaker 1: and the decision making part. That's what it's really more important.
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  Speaker 1: And so many women are living that lifestyle now, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: they are, they are, And that is why I wanted
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  Speaker 1: to get this message out. And you know, I fought
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  Speaker 1: back and forth with my emotions on whether or not
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  Speaker 1: I really wanted to really reveal who the true because
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  Speaker 1: that was who who I wasn't writing this book. So
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  Speaker 1: many times aren't told the story of I was involved
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  Speaker 1: in a marriage that was into due two drugs, but
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  Speaker 1: I never got into the domestic violence side of it.
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  Speaker 1: And when I decided to move forward with it, I
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  Speaker 1: was just totally shocked with a number of women that says, oh,
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  Speaker 1: that's my story, that's the plain exact thing that I
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  Speaker 1: went through. Um, but you never know until you just
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  Speaker 1: you tell your story. But I know today there's someone
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  Speaker 1: who's dealing with that right now, someone that's afraid of
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  Speaker 1: how am I going to get out of this? I
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  Speaker 1: don't have the money to leave. He's threatened me, he's
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  Speaker 1: done this. But you just have to step out. You
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  Speaker 1: have to get away from it. You have to get away.
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  Speaker 1: There's no way a grown man should be putting him
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  Speaker 1: or a woman and that for that matter, should be
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  Speaker 1: putting their hands on another individual, because you point that
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  Speaker 1: out in your book. You said proximately five point six
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  Speaker 1: million women and two point four million men estimated to
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  Speaker 1: be physically assaulted by intimate partner annually in the United States,
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  Speaker 1: And so you point that out, and that's very important
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  Speaker 1: that you reveal those numbers because a lot of people
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  Speaker 1: don't realize men are being physically abused as well, and
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  Speaker 1: they don't know how to walk away. You think a
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  Speaker 1: female or lady doesn't know how to walk away from
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  Speaker 1: that situation. A man really don't know how to deal
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  Speaker 1: with that situation because the fact that you can be
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  Speaker 1: called a coward, he would call a wimp, he can
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  Speaker 1: call up. Won't you man up? You know it does
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  Speaker 1: man up me physically attacking her. Now, So you're coiner
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  Speaker 1: in a lot of situations. But your situation is not unique,
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  Speaker 1: but it is special because you wrote a book about
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  Speaker 1: it and you are achieving a love of success. You
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  Speaker 1: have too fantastic kids now who are who are older
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  Speaker 1: not living successful lives because of the fact that you
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  Speaker 1: allowed them to tell your daughter, look, no man should
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  Speaker 1: treat you like this, and you told your son you
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  Speaker 1: should never treat a woman like this, and now that's
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  Speaker 1: the guide in course to you being successful. Right in
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  Speaker 1: the purpose of the book. Rahan also, yes, well it
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  Speaker 1: was to tell it is to tell my story, but
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  Speaker 1: also to let other men and one and know, Hey,
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  Speaker 1: in going through this, I fell down. I lost a lot,
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  Speaker 1: I lost my job, I lost I lost a lot.
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  Speaker 1: I was pretty much penniless. Let me just put it
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  Speaker 1: like that, I lost a lot and me and that
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  Speaker 1: my background is finance accounting. That's why I put it
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  Speaker 1: in the context us. Okay, I failed down, but this
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  Speaker 1: is what I did to get back on track. This
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  Speaker 1: is what I did to get to the point where
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  Speaker 1: I'm at now today. Did I allow that to be
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  Speaker 1: a stumbling block for me? Initially? Yes, But I had
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  Speaker 1: to realize that I wasn't the only individual that had
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  Speaker 1: gone through that, and I needed to do something different.
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  Speaker 1: I needed to turn my life around financially speaking, so
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  Speaker 1: that I could not keep going back to those dark moments.
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  Speaker 1: I go back to them, but I don't stay there,
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  Speaker 1: you know what I mean. I go back to those
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  Speaker 1: dark moments, but I don't find myself just just in
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  Speaker 1: that puddle. I had to get out of that puddle.
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  Speaker 1: It's amazing. I'm talking to Dr Cosette White. She was
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  Speaker 1: She's written a an amazing book called Unveiling the Mask,
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  Speaker 1: The Ultimate Guide to Rebound from Financial Disaster is a
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  Speaker 1: must read. I'm telling people they should buy this is
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  Speaker 1: a fantastic book. I know we're running short on time here,
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  Speaker 1: but I wanted to bring out something that I that
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  Speaker 1: that I took. I started taking the Money Personality Quiz.
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  Speaker 1: That's the very front of the book. That's something that
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  Speaker 1: she's asking you to take, and it sets the tone
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  Speaker 1: for how she will direct you the rest of the book.
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  Speaker 1: My question on the money Personality quiz, how did you
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  Speaker 1: develop the questions for your money personality quiz? UM? I took.
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  Speaker 1: I took a I took He studies UM with a
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  Speaker 1: few maybe about amazing about fifty individuals, and then I
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  Speaker 1: just compiled questions and put them in there. And I
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  Speaker 1: think that they are very no, no, no, no, seriously,
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  Speaker 1: they are really good questions. Because the few people that
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  Speaker 1: have provided me feedback on the book, that's the very
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  Speaker 1: first thing that they say, I took the money personality test,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm a saver or I know what I am
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  Speaker 1: without even taking the personality test, I know I'm a spender. Um,
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  Speaker 1: one person is a worrior, so I'm a combination of them.
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  Speaker 1: But that's how I came up with the questions. I
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  Speaker 1: just took a sample of a few people, about fifty people,
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  Speaker 1: and then I just compiled all the questions and put
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  Speaker 1: it in the book. Well that's I love that idea,
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  Speaker 1: because that's what Steve Harvey did basically with his book
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  Speaker 1: Act Regularity to Think like a Man. He talked to
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  Speaker 1: a group of women to get assist a feel for
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  Speaker 1: how they were reacting. And that's why I wanted you
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  Speaker 1: to know, So you said, Richard, I took these questions
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  Speaker 1: to the people, to the masses, and this is how
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  Speaker 1: they reacted. And so when people read about them in
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  Speaker 1: the book, they get a natural field. And I thought
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  Speaker 1: they were very natural questions. That's why I wanted to know.
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  Speaker 1: When you develop those questions, it's really good. Yeah, you
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  Speaker 1: gotta go and get the samples. And you gotta because
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  Speaker 1: after all, the book is for the readers, So you
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  Speaker 1: want to make sure that you're giving them what they
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  Speaker 1: want to read. You know what I mean, Well, you're
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  Speaker 1: giving the people what they want and what they need.
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  Speaker 1: I want to tell you, I want I want to
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  Speaker 1: thank you for another call, you know, but I'll tell
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  Speaker 1: you something. You're a regular now. I'm just gonna tell
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  Speaker 1: you because this book I talked about the emotional part,
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  Speaker 1: and we've got to come back and bring you back again.
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  Speaker 1: If you don't mind, talk more detail about the financial side,
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  Speaker 1: unveiling the Mask the ultimate God to rebound from a
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  Speaker 1: financial disaster. Dr Koz White, you are a regular a
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  Speaker 1: money make conversation where you want to or not. I
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  Speaker 1: love it. I love it. Thank you so much for Sean. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: keep winning. All right, all right, thank you, have a
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