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Tina Lifford Full Interview · The Steve Harvey Morning Show

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  Speaker 1: My next guest is an inner fitness strategist and coach.
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  Speaker 1: She's committed to sharing the nitty gritty aspects of developing
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  Speaker 1: your well being so that you can be fully alive
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  Speaker 1: and thrive in your life. She offers skills and practices
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  Speaker 1: that will help you to rectify past hurt, headaches, and
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  Speaker 1: pain and you transform into self confidence and personal power.
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  Speaker 1: Please work with the Money Making Conversation Tina Li Forida.
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  Speaker 1: Hey Rashon, how are you? I'm doing great? Now? Where
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  Speaker 1: you right now? My friend? I am in Vancouver, Canada
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  Speaker 1: working on a film, and Uh, I have been away
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  Speaker 1: from my home now for almost six months. I did
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  Speaker 1: the first five months in New Orleans where we shoot
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  Speaker 1: um Cuan Sugar, and then I was home for two
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  Speaker 1: weeks before I came to Vancouver to shoot this um
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  Speaker 1: this movie that I'm doing this sequel. Well, we know
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  Speaker 1: that you know that you do on the screen, You're
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  Speaker 1: recognizable face. Being a recognizable face does that? What advantages
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  Speaker 1: does it have? And are there any disadvantages to what
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  Speaker 1: you're trying to do with your life? Now? You know? Um,
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  Speaker 1: I believe that much of how we experience life uh
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  Speaker 1: starts on the inside, and so I actually am in
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  Speaker 1: a rather a rather great position as an actress, even
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  Speaker 1: though I'm on a hit show. Queen Sugar has quite
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  Speaker 1: a lot of fans. But Vy and I actually look different,
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  Speaker 1: you know, Vy is um um she she she, We
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  Speaker 1: look different. So when I'm in the airport, I don't
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  Speaker 1: get the same sort of of attention that the guys get.
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  Speaker 1: Um and and I like that. But let me also
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  Speaker 1: say very clearly, it is because of fans and an
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  Speaker 1: opportunity like Aunt VI that my other passions and entrepreneurial
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  Speaker 1: pursuits are supported. So I am good with, you know,
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  Speaker 1: connecting with fans and making sure that I am thankful
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  Speaker 1: for this opportunity that I am experienced because it's helping
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  Speaker 1: me to not just fulfill my passion my other passions,
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  Speaker 1: it's also helped me to build out my platform right
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  Speaker 1: now that I want to. And that's what we brought
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  Speaker 1: you to talk about your other passion. But before we
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  Speaker 1: move off, a Queen Sugar, you know you are working
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  Speaker 1: with associated with two of the more powerful males, not
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  Speaker 1: just in Hollywood, I think in just social social circles.
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  Speaker 1: That's Oprah Winfrey and Ava Duvenais. Absolutely um Oprah has
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  Speaker 1: transformed the game, not just for African American women women
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  Speaker 1: in period, becoming a billionaire, becoming an entrepreneur. Um, she
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  Speaker 1: was to talk to your hosts, and she she understood
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  Speaker 1: how to use the media to build brands. And Aba Duvenais,
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  Speaker 1: who Netflix series has grown at a more. It was
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  Speaker 1: the most watch Netflix series in the history of Netflix.
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  Speaker 1: And I think when they see Us has been nominated
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  Speaker 1: for sixteen. Absolutely that's how powerful that series is. So
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  Speaker 1: if people haven't seen it, they really need to tune
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  Speaker 1: into Netflix to see. When they see us, Tina, I
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  Speaker 1: can't tell you are voted for, but I am a
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  Speaker 1: Emmy voter, and uh, I knew about that sixteen So
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  Speaker 1: I kind of like got to back off a little
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  Speaker 1: bit on all that nomination talk because I don't want
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  Speaker 1: to lose my voting privileges. Well, I don't mind saying
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  Speaker 1: who I voted. There you go, you if you if
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  Speaker 1: you watch UH, when they see Us, you will experience
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  Speaker 1: the power of television, the power of of film and media.
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  Speaker 1: And I think that Eva is telling UH stories about
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  Speaker 1: our communities in ways that UH not just deserve this
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  Speaker 1: kind of recognition because she is a consummate filmmaker but also,
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  Speaker 1: you know, it is very important to our dreams, to
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  Speaker 1: our ideas of what we can achieve even this world,
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  Speaker 1: to be able to see ourselves, to see ourselves in
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  Speaker 1: all the iterations that represent to us. And so I
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  Speaker 1: applaud that um in Ava's work as much as I
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  Speaker 1: applaud her consummate filmmaking abilities. So what is your takeaway
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  Speaker 1: when you when I mentioned Nate, when I say Open
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  Speaker 1: went Free? What is your takeaway when I say Open Winter?
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  Speaker 1: My takeaway is committed um. I think that that Oprah
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  Speaker 1: understands who she is and the game, and I think
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  Speaker 1: that she understood that coming in long before she had
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  Speaker 1: the power that she has now. She was constantly I'm
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  Speaker 1: guessing because I don't know. I've been in Oprah's company
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  Speaker 1: just four times, but I believe that she is a
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  Speaker 1: person who is constantly refining who she is, and she
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  Speaker 1: comes to the table being smart enough two also leverage
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  Speaker 1: these the intelligence UH know how and wherewithal of others.
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  Speaker 1: And I think that that's really really a key component
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  Speaker 1: in leadership and success, being able to UM surround herself
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  Speaker 1: with the right people and being able to leverage and
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  Speaker 1: quickly leverage UM talent and great ideas. That's amazing because
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  Speaker 1: I feel I have been around him more than four times.
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  Speaker 1: Unfortunately to be able to um sit in the room
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  Speaker 1: and listen to her talk when I but I have
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  Speaker 1: not been around of a duvenat so I've only been
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  Speaker 1: able to hear her talk from afar watch her work.
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  Speaker 1: What is it like being around such a talented I
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  Speaker 1: would have to say visionary. Who she is a visionary,
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  Speaker 1: no question about it. She is a visionary. And um
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  Speaker 1: Eva has one of the sharpest minds I have encountered.
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  Speaker 1: She um. The way thought hits her mind and comes
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  Speaker 1: out of her mouth is admirable to me, you know, UM,
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  Speaker 1: and she is always clear about what she is saying.
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  Speaker 1: And um is very forthright, uh in my experience, UM
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  Speaker 1: about what she says. Ay, Tina, we're gonna go to
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  Speaker 1: a break when we come back, I introduced, she is
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  Speaker 1: in her fitness strategist and coach. We're gonna dive into
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  Speaker 1: all that. I got a ton of talking points, so
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  Speaker 1: they're gonna talk about. But I wanted to get the
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  Speaker 1: Queen's Sugar out the way because that's important to the
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  Speaker 1: brand that you're working with. Its important to people who
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  Speaker 1: know the three sixty life that you live, you're able
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  Speaker 1: to accomplish that at such a high level. Listen to
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  Speaker 1: what she's doing at another level. Hi, this ra Sean McDonald,
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  Speaker 1: and you're listening to money making conversations my guests on
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  Speaker 1: the show. We talked about, you know, her acting career.
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  Speaker 1: She's in Vancouver right now, uh doing some acting. As
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  Speaker 1: they say, pays the bills. There's one way I love
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  Speaker 1: her because it's called multiple strings of income, because she
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  Speaker 1: has that going on, and she has other things going
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  Speaker 1: on that that, in other words, put different checks in
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  Speaker 1: that mailbox. And that's where we're all about. She's an
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  Speaker 1: inner city fitness strategist and coach. She's committed to sharing
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  Speaker 1: the nitty greeted aspects of developing your well being so
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  Speaker 1: you can fully, fully live and thrive in your life.
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  Speaker 1: She offers skill and practices that will help you to
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  Speaker 1: rectify past hurts. Let's talk about that was past hurts.
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  Speaker 1: What does that mean, Tina, Well, it means that every
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  Speaker 1: single the one thing that we all have in common,
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  Speaker 1: the one thing that every human being across the globe
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  Speaker 1: has in common, is the experience, and often the unresolved
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  Speaker 1: experience of some hurt drama, trauma, upset, disappointment, or fear,
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  Speaker 1: and we don't talk about our hurts, drama's, trauma's upsets, disappointments,
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  Speaker 1: and fears. And the problem with that is that our
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  Speaker 1: nervous system, we have not learned the actual nature of
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  Speaker 1: our nervous system. Uh. Do you know that a gazelle
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  Speaker 1: when a gazelle is uh fleeing the chase of a lion.
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  Speaker 1: Once the gazelle gets to safety, it actually takes some
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  Speaker 1: moments to shake its shake this body, not just because
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  Speaker 1: it's nervous, but it shakes its body willfully as a
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  Speaker 1: way of releasing the cortisol and the hormones that we're
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  Speaker 1: used for the flight. We human beings have these experiences
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  Speaker 1: in our lives, and a lot of times these experience
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  Speaker 1: become locked in our system, in our tissue because we
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  Speaker 1: aren't aware of how important it is to let those
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  Speaker 1: past experience complete themselves so that they can move through
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  Speaker 1: our bodies and out. But what happens is that it
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  Speaker 1: gets stuck inside. We wind up then um having some
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  Speaker 1: sort of shame or secrecy that has now entered our lives.
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  Speaker 1: We move into some level of judgment and all of
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  Speaker 1: those energies work to keep us in a surviving state
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  Speaker 1: as opposed to a thriving state. And we need to
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  Speaker 1: learn this information so that we can work with ourselves
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  Speaker 1: more consciously and proactively and take charge of the insanity
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  Speaker 1: that is going on inside so that we can thrive.
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  Speaker 1: That's powerful, you know when you when you talk about
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  Speaker 1: that physical release, you'll see that in sprinters. You know
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  Speaker 1: what they think in their shake and they're they're telling
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  Speaker 1: them want to slowly walk around the track to just
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  Speaker 1: a jaw. You know. Sometimes you see it when you
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  Speaker 1: take advantage when they tell you on a treadmill, it
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  Speaker 1: has that cool down session. That's what that's all about.
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  Speaker 1: When you're exerting yourself. And in this case of the
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  Speaker 1: gazelle story, it was exerting itself because it was out
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  Speaker 1: of fear. It was trying to survive or that that
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  Speaker 1: that pushed the level of stress and that in that
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  Speaker 1: animals body, that that is nature has told him you
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  Speaker 1: gotta relax, You gotta gotta like chake it off. In
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  Speaker 1: shake it off, you just can't. You can't keep operating
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  Speaker 1: at that same level. And that's what people do with hurt.
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  Speaker 1: They don't shake off the hurt, they don't shake off
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  Speaker 1: the pain, and so that pain stays with them in relationships,
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  Speaker 1: that pain stays with them, how they treat their children
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  Speaker 1: at pain can stay with them, how they work. If
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  Speaker 1: they don't shake off that pain or they don't shake
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  Speaker 1: off that hurt, then guess what, they're only hurting themselves internally,
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  Speaker 1: which can shorten their lives. We can affect their health
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  Speaker 1: and more importantly, affect their relationships. That's what you're saying.
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  Speaker 1: That's exactly right. And when it comes to shaking off hurt, drama, trauma, upsets,
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  Speaker 1: and disappointments, um, Actually, you know, there are literally physical
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  Speaker 1: exercises that include shaking the body. But when we're talking
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  Speaker 1: about that internal landscape be you know, mental, emotional, and
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  Speaker 1: spiritual landscape, one of the most important things that we
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  Speaker 1: can do for ourselves to resolve the path is to
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  Speaker 1: actually acknowledge it. So many people are walking around with
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  Speaker 1: things that took place in their lives and they learned
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  Speaker 1: some sort of message that they're just supposed to swallow it,
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  Speaker 1: act tough, get over it. And when shame is involved,
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  Speaker 1: that often includes not even talking about it, but it
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  Speaker 1: is through acknowledging, literally saying this happened to me when
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  Speaker 1: we can actually just acknowledge to ourselves. You know, it's
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  Speaker 1: wonderful to start with ourselves. If you can acknowledge to
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  Speaker 1: yourself and then maybe one place, one other person where
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  Speaker 1: you feel safe, where you feel like you can say
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  Speaker 1: this without feeling m afraid of being judged or without
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  Speaker 1: feeling like it lessens you in some way. That is
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  Speaker 1: like the gazelle shaking it off and off. You hear
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  Speaker 1: what I'm saying, You know I'm what I'm Come on,
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  Speaker 1: let's talk about this Inner Fitness, Outer Beauty Tour that's
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  Speaker 1: coming to Atlanta September fourteen at the Riverside Epicenter. Start
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  Speaker 1: to nine into two on September fourteen. I'm talking to
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  Speaker 1: Tina Star of Queen Sugar. She also was star Get
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  Speaker 1: your Life Right. You shake it off and tell you
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  Speaker 1: don't don't, don't, don't don't normal. He says, you can
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  Speaker 1: see a lot of things on this show, but that
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  Speaker 1: past hurt. Like That's why I pulled it out because
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  Speaker 1: that line right there is destroying people every day because
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  Speaker 1: they don't know how to say walk, walk away from
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  Speaker 1: the moment they hold it. That extends into so many
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  Speaker 1: thing they don't know how to say, so, I'm sorry.
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  Speaker 1: They don't how to say they don't know how to
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  Speaker 1: forgive those The hurt she's talking about isn't always a
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  Speaker 1: physical hurt. It's not a broken leg, it's not a
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  Speaker 1: some surgery that you need. It's emotional, emotional hurt and stress.
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  Speaker 1: It's destroying people. So tell us about this Interfitness All
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  Speaker 1: the Beauty Tour. It's coming to Atlanta September fourteen at
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  Speaker 1: the Riverside Epicenter. Yeah. Well, I'm so excited about the
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  Speaker 1: Atlanta date. Um we've been doing this the tour. Atlanta
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  Speaker 1: is our fourth stop and UM, in a nutshell, the
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  Speaker 1: Interfitness Outer Beauty Tour is about disrupting the old patterns
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  Speaker 1: in your life, disrupting everything in a fun, interactive, uplifting,
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  Speaker 1: transformational kind of way. It is about realizing that the
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  Speaker 1: status quo, no matter how it shows up, is is
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  Speaker 1: part of the problem. When we live our lives today
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  Speaker 1: the same way we live them yesterday, we are building
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  Speaker 1: a grave for ourselves. We are putting ourselves in a
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  Speaker 1: box that doesn't have enough light in it. And so
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  Speaker 1: the Inner Fitness Outer Beauty Tour gives us an opportunity
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  Speaker 1: to talk about experience what it means to disrupt unhappiness
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  Speaker 1: and literally we are going to right there, you know,
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  Speaker 1: within the time a lot it We're going to experience
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  Speaker 1: ways of being able to just lift your spirit in
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  Speaker 1: your mood and have a higher idea of yourself, set
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  Speaker 1: an intention for your life about what's possible, and then
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  Speaker 1: no ways, UM learn ways to like get back to
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  Speaker 1: that intention over and over again. And then we are
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  Speaker 1: going to disrupt this whole concept around sex and sexuality.
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  Speaker 1: There's so much misinformation out here about sex and there
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  Speaker 1: is so much good to be found in our sexuality.
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  Speaker 1: So we're going to examine and explore what it means
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  Speaker 1: to live a juicy life and and that's not what
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  Speaker 1: you think you know, UM. And then we are going
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  Speaker 1: to learn away one powerful technique from um a yoga
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  Speaker 1: instructor by the name of on a Hawk. You don't
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  Speaker 1: need to bring a mat because we're gonna be sitting
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  Speaker 1: in this beautiful at the center. But any time, whether
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  Speaker 1: you're driving, you're at work, you know, you're standing in
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  Speaker 1: the shower, you'll be able to UM employ some of
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  Speaker 1: the information that owner is gonna share so that you
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  Speaker 1: can recenter yourself, you know, and breathe in a way
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  Speaker 1: that will less in stress and move you to a
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  Speaker 1: place where you are more open. And when we are
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  Speaker 1: more open, there is a greater sense and uh uh
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  Speaker 1: and um opportunity for hope and possibility to emerge. And
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  Speaker 1: hope and possibility are powerful actions that we take in
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  Speaker 1: in designing and moving our lives towards the experience that
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  Speaker 1: we most want. But then the part that I am
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  Speaker 1: also super excited about is I'm bringing my um celebrity
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  Speaker 1: stylists and friend Jay Bowl in to the stage and
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  Speaker 1: We're gonna disrupt the whole idea of style. You know.
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  Speaker 1: One of the things that that I love about working
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  Speaker 1: with Jay is that we both love putting together things
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  Speaker 1: that aren't supposed to go together, and we slam them
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  Speaker 1: together and oh my god, it becomes a slaying moment. Well,
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  Speaker 1: he feels that way about everything. So he loves the
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  Speaker 1: curvy woman as much as he loves the twiggy woman.
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  Speaker 1: You know, he loves he loves the opportunity, uh for
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  Speaker 1: women to to flower in who they are and then
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  Speaker 1: dress that, you know, flower in your spirit, which is
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  Speaker 1: what the inner fitness part does. And then we're gonna
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  Speaker 1: address that spirit, and we're gonna own the and we're
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  Speaker 1: gonna love our body. I'm talking to Tina. Uh, just
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  Speaker 1: the interfitness, All the Beauty to it. The schedule to
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  Speaker 1: come to Atlanta September fourteen would be at the Riverside
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  Speaker 1: epicenter Um. Tina, you have a book coming out in November.
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  Speaker 1: I want you to come back on my show. It's
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  Speaker 1: called A Little Book of a Big Lies, The Little
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  Speaker 1: Book of Big Lives. It's been an amazing I hope,
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  Speaker 1: I hope you consider me a friend and come back
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  Speaker 1: because I'm gonna read the book. And uh. And also
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  Speaker 1: when you when you, I want to let you know what,
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  Speaker 1: Sean McDonald will make himself available for any of your
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  Speaker 1: panels because I'm already connected because that past hurt hit
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  Speaker 1: home with me because you're speaking the truth and people
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  Speaker 1: didn't understand that. Sometimes when you hear the truth, you
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  Speaker 1: run from it. But if you go to this Interfitness
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  Speaker 1: All the Beauty, not only will you walk away uplifted,
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  Speaker 1: but you walk away a better person. Tina, thank you
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  Speaker 1: for coming on my show, Money Making Conversations. Thank you
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  Speaker 1: so much for having me. I'll be back, I know,
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  Speaker 1: you will, and I appreciate you