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EP: 60 Domestic Violence · Humanity Unplugged Podcast

• 0:08
  [SPEAKER_00]: What's going on?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What's going on people?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Glad to be here.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Welcome.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Welcome.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's got a nice little topic last week.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: We talked about I believe we was missing people.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: We have a lot of missing people and our world, people are coming up missing and the numbers don't lie that African Americans are missing from the age of seventeen to thirty-five years old and they're coming up missing and for various reasons.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But our president, with those of you who know him, our president will not look into that.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You're looking to other things.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Like recently, he released the National Guard
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  [SPEAKER_00]: to back up to watching in Capitol Police, but the crimes that's going on in Washington.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Well, if you look at the statistics, over thirty years, they got the lowest statistics in Berklery, violence, robbery, theft, you name it that the current the thirty year low, but yet he released the National Guard over there.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I think one of the biggest issues we have in our world is misuse of information, misuse of power, force, and misuse of money.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And as we go through these different episodes, we're going to see maybe if you'd like to, you can look into where the money is being spent.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: made it where we should be spending money.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: We have a large, large percentage of homeless people in the United States.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Go figure, we got tons of land, and we got a lot of homeless people.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And all the states homeless homelessness is on the rise.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The economy forces people to struggle.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If you look at the average salary in North Carolina, the average salary in South Carolina, and all over Baltimore, Washington, is rough for people that make low income.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And you cut all type of funding along with cutting other things that help people will suffer.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm talking about this because it leads into what our topic is for today.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: When people suffer, communities suffer, when communities suffer, family suffer, individuals suffer.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now, the topic for today is domestic violence.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What is domestic violence?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If you look it up, the dictionary will show us and states what is domestic violence.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Well, it is domestic violence has a violence committed by someone and new victims, domestic circle.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This includes partners and ex-partners, immediate family members, other relatives and family friends.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The term domestic violence is used when there is a close relationship between the offender and the victim.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's what the Mexican violence is.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now, what does it come from?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Well, it was first reported back in nineteen seventy three when domestic violence was first reported in the family back then.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now, I beg to differ that I challenge you in this episode to tell me who was the discipline was the difference between giving your child discipline and domestic violence.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Each of them show a point being made.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Each of them show some type of violence, whether it's a good violence, teaching someone to lessen by giving them a spanking, or punching them in a face, it is still a physical contact between the two.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Even though the love is shown on a guppy love form when you're being disciplined, you are still physically putting your hands
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  [SPEAKER_00]: on your child.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now I say that only because when we go deeper into this and you look deeper into this, is it can it be?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Can it be that domestic violence started at a young age?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: From childhood?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Is it possible that that human being receive disciplinary action on the form of physical contact from their parent in over time
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's how they learn.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I only ask these questions because these are the things that we need to look at.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: How does the brain function when it comes to receiving information?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Some people receive information differently.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Some people have to actually put their hand into a fire to notice hot.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Some people you could just tell them the fire is hot.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's because the learning capacity
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  [SPEAKER_00]: is different for every individual.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And I want us to look into this because I believe some of the stems of domestic violence starts at a very young age.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And it starts with the little child receiving the information.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: As we get older, when a man or a child form, when a man puts his hands on his daughter, it's a sign.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And it might be a good sign that he's given us banking because she did wrong.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But if she receives that as love, because there is love within that, as it's crazy, it might sound.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But as you look deeper into that, you can almost wonder, did they get the right message from the father?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's the question I don't have an answer to because everyone's understanding is different.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Even though you might have did it by giving your child discipline action by going physical, giving them a spanking and a slapping them or whatever, you did it out of love.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But they made it received it a different way.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And as they got older and it's this action continued,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Who was the say that they have received that as discipline action or as a sign of love?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So now that young girl gets into an argument with her first boyfriend.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And as they get into this argument, she used to have an away.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So she calls him out as a name and I'm just giving you a little
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  [SPEAKER_00]: something to think about in your spiritual mind of an example.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So please don't take this personal, but this is an example.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And you tell me in your comments or whatever you want to do, email, whatever, how you feel about this, because it might have been good intentions, but it turned out to get a wrong reception.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So now this young child, girl, a boy,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: is shown this physical abuse from his parents.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now, I don't want to say abuse, but physical discipline, because there's a difference between discipline and being a abuse, where someone just constantly hitting on you for no reason you're being abused physically, I get it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But where is the difference when it comes to domestic violence?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They might take that physical abuse and turn it into domestic violence.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They might take that action of being disciplined into domestic violence.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So we could have started with that individual at a very young age, and they don't even know it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So not a kindness throughout their life, and now they're seventeen, eighteen, and they express themselves by getting physical with their partner.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This trauma that they, that they receive at a young age has not yet been explained to them.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So they can get a better understanding and maybe seek help for this trauma because now they leash an out in a relationship where it is violent, but that's how they express their love.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: How do we work with that?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What are the answers to that?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now, it could be a girl on girl's situation.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It can be a boy in girl's situation.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It could be a boy in boy's situation.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Domestic violence has no creed.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: No color has no denomination.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It has no sex preference.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You can be in a domestic violence at any age in any gender.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: For those of you that need help with domestic violence, the national domestic violence hotline is eight hundred seven nine nine seven two three three again.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Hotline for domestic violence nationwide is eight hundred seven nine seven two three three and I know.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: We focus on domestic violence in the United States in the month of October for what reason I don't know.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: We should talk about it all the time along with mental health.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Those are the leading two in my eyes when it comes to crimes and things happening in the world is a mental health issue and we have domestic violence.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: We need to look deeper into this to try to find out what is the cause.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: is it that you lack the experience or the education to express yourself without having the physical contact?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Can you articulate yourself enough but just choose to have the physical contact?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Is it a possibility that you just like physical contact?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Whatever tickles your fancy,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Picking someone to be your punching bag is not the answer.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But somehow, every day, people make calls every ninety seconds for domestic violence.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I think domestic violence, along with mental health, work hand in hand.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: When you see people getting shot over biscuits at Popeyes,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: people will say to you, that's not domestic violence.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Well, I'll beg the differ and tell you, if you're first reach or outreach to any type of situations going to get a gun and shoot in someone, you have some mental issues.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's one.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Two for you to give somebody harm over that.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That might be domestic violence.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That might be some a different form of it, of course.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But in this case that I just mentioned about Chudus on one of the biscuits, they were friends.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Not partners, not relations, but they work together with coworkers.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Is that considered domestic violence?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You decide how often do you have an argument with your sibling?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: on your coworker and they go over the line.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They say something that really sparks your soul and you want to do something to them.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's not a mental issue.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I think that is just someone disrespecting you or overstepping their boundaries.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: How do you handle that?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I think the biggest issue with domestic violence and mental health is
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And as a whole, people don't know how to handle situations.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The first outreach in any type of situation is violence.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The first thing that comes to the head is they want to do bodily harm to you or to someone when you enter disagreement.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This is not the answer.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Because you might have a disagreement with someone, or a loved one, and you could be yelling in agreement, why does it have to get violent?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Most relationships have domestic violence in it, some form or another.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: just hypothetically speaking, if you in a room with your loved one, man or girl doesn't matter and you're arguing or arguing about whatever.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And a pot come flying into the wall where you sit in that is that domestic violence.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Is that a sign of domestic violence?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Do you sit there and wait for a pot to hit you?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If someone you're arguing with,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That same someone, walk near you and punch the wall.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Is that a sign of domestic violence?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Do you wait till he punches you to say that is domestic violence?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If you're sleeping in your bed, can you wake up and your loved one is over you just staring at you?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Is that a sign of domestic violence?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: or do you wait till the knife is in your chest or to be domestic violence?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: A lot of times people show our signs that things are not right, but we ignore the signs.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: having a regular dispute, a verbal altercation, a verbal altercation, a verbal confrontation of just talking, does not always mean it turns into domestic violence.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But when a person is showing you a certain level of being angry, upset, disturbed, maybe you should cut the conversation.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: walk away while you have the chance.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Later on, mentioning it by phone.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Don't be a rush to go back into that environment until you know for sure what you saw or you had a conversation about what to place.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But somehow we ignore the signs of what we see, what we hear, we ignore
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  [SPEAKER_00]: the body languages of what we see with our eyes.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Someone that goes to your phone constantly, question you over and over about where you been and you didn't do nothing.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Is that a sign of domestic violence?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Someone telling you that you can't have male friends.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Is that a sign of domestic violence?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Someone telling you that
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You cannot go to the club, dressed with that outfit.
• 17:43
  [SPEAKER_00]: That's a tricky question.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe he's concerned about your well-being because I'm a one that would tell you that.
• 17:50
  [SPEAKER_00]: I would definitely tell my love one.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They would show him too much flesh.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Why do you have to wear that?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now, of course, in their eyes, they just look good.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They read a step out.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But every man don't have the same understanding.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I want to say something to a lot of men in this podcast.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If you never live with a woman for a period of time, and I talk about five months, I'm not talking about six months, year, I talk about live with a woman for a long period of time.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Seeing her with flesh showing is not really a big deal.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: She got the baddest buy in the world and walk around the house with a little bit of nothing on.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But when you undid it long enough, it should not make you crave so much for flesh.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now some men can't go without it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Some men gotta have it every day twice a day, five days a week.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If I'm on top of the woman that much,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: When am I working?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: When am I making my money?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: When am I doing me?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: No man should be that involved in a woman's life that he needed like that.
• 19:24
  [SPEAKER_00]: She could be the baddest in the world.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's just my opinion, because I don't had it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So when you don't had a woman around you for years and years and years and years and years, and the things you do is what you do, there should be some type of peace there.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not saying she can't keep it looking good and dressed up right.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Of course.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But to want to be underneath it every minute, need it, theme for it like it's the end of the day, I don't know.
• 19:59
  [SPEAKER_00]: To me, that might be a form of domestic violence because if I don't get it, if you're like that and you don't get it, what would you do?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: How would you act?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm just saying, it's just me.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This is my opinion.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This is my thoughts.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's not a right or wrong.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But what would you do?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I mean, for me,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: just because a woman offering you sex, I don't just jump to it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But some men gotta have it like that.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Some men's mentality in their head are not the same.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They haven't had it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They could have been incarcerated for years and they wanted.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And since they were in jail or whatever, that brain might function a little different.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So for you to ladies out here to dress crazy and go outside or
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  [SPEAKER_00]: For those lady that was abused and then domestic violent relationship, you might not understand that.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's not love when he beaten up on you.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's not love when he pull you by your hair.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Or he smacks you.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's not love.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Fellows, that's not love when that woman go outside just half, half dress, knowing she has a man at home.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's not love.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's not respect for you.
• 21:25
  [SPEAKER_00]: When she want to go to the club three days a week, that's not respect for you.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Because if she's out there three days a week, showing her body, what is really for you when's indoors, if she's given it all the way to the streets?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You think nobody else is hollering at her?
• 21:44
  [SPEAKER_00]: You think nobody's putting money in her pocket?
• 21:46
  [SPEAKER_00]: It happens.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I was in a relationship.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I've seen it coming.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I said it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I talked about it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It happens all the time.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Women love attention, especially when they're not where they need to be in life.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They still seek a certain amount of attention once they got good money in a house and call, but women want attention.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: There's a lot of women that are attention seekers.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And in that form, some of it is domestic violence.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They don't feel like you loving on her or loving her enough until you punch in a face.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You got to show her, you love her.
• 22:37
  [SPEAKER_00]: That's toxic.
• 22:38
  [SPEAKER_00]: That's what that is.
• 22:39
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's toxic.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Men don't fall into that trap.
• 22:45
  [SPEAKER_00]: You should be able to articulate yourself and get your point across.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And you can do it at a very mild tone.
• 22:51
  [SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes you're not on the same level.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: She don't see what you see.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: She don't have the same understanding.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's cool what happens.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Move on.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But to turn violent.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's terrible.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Do you notice a high percentage of domestic violence that turned to death of the spouse?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Not too long ago, they had a female who helped the man, they would gather.
• 23:23
  [SPEAKER_00]: He had a barber shop, bought a brand new truck, what they call that truck, energy, the truck, what a Tesla truck.
• 23:33
  [SPEAKER_00]: She helped them with his credit, got all type of money coming in form.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And he's writing a life, banging on the doors, bought the killer.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: She took him out and then she took herself, horrible domestic violence.
• 23:48
  [SPEAKER_00]: Not too long ago, Paul can lie, do come up shoot the girl in the chest four times, shoot her four times, she lived, domestic violence.
• 23:57
  [SPEAKER_00]: It happens all the time.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: People call to the house, domestic violence.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It happens.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: People mental state,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: is not stable, so crimes happen.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: When you can't control a person, the way you want to control them, it leads to domestic violence.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And we have to get it checked out.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Oftentimes it goes unchecked.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Oftentimes we don't know.
• 24:31
  [SPEAKER_00]: What's going on with our spouse?
• 24:33
  [SPEAKER_00]: I love when we don't know what it came from.
• 24:35
  [SPEAKER_00]: What relationships they came from?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: How long they were in that relationship?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What really went down in that relationship?
• 24:42
  [SPEAKER_00]: They just shared with us what we want to know.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What they think we need to know.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Not the truth.
• 24:51
  [SPEAKER_00]: And I actually, what is the mess of violence in twenty twenty five?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Is a man telling you you can't have your girlfriend's at the house, a form of the message violence being controlled?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If you tell you can't go out, is that a sign of the message violence?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Someone that's controlling?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Is he trying to get you in line or how he want things or is that a form of the message violence?
• 25:31
  [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know.
• 25:33
  [SPEAKER_00]: you be the judge.
• 25:36
  [SPEAKER_00]: But what I do know, a lot of times domestic violence, DV starts out with small breadcrumbs.
• 25:49
  [SPEAKER_00]: It can start off with the little thing as they fix my plate.
• 25:59
  [SPEAKER_00]: And every day she fix your plate.
• 26:01
  [SPEAKER_00]: And that one day she doesn't fix your plate.
• 26:04
  [SPEAKER_00]: He shows a different tone.
• 26:07
  [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe he shows, he's angry, he's upset.
• 26:11
  [SPEAKER_00]: Is this a form of DV?
• 26:15
  [SPEAKER_00]: Can that escalate into DV?
• 26:17
  [SPEAKER_00]: Serious DV?
• 26:20
  [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know.
• 26:23
  [SPEAKER_00]: But I do know that you need to pay attention.
• 26:29
  [SPEAKER_00]: I do know.
• 26:31
  [SPEAKER_00]: When your loved one actually where you been and the tone they actually where you been, be careful.
• 26:39
  [SPEAKER_00]: Because sometimes it can lead to other things.
• 26:46
  [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know.
• 26:48
  [SPEAKER_00]: You be the judge.
• 26:50
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm just here to give you a little information.
• 26:53
  [SPEAKER_00]: Hopefully to help you.
• 26:54
  [SPEAKER_00]: The next time you sit down at a table or have a conversation with your loved one,
• 27:01
  [SPEAKER_00]: and it's a new fresh relationship.
• 27:03
  [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe you think twice about certain things they answer to and how they answer and how they act you questions.
• 27:13
  [SPEAKER_00]: Tell your secret, most DV victims don't know is domestic violence, DV.
• 27:21
  [SPEAKER_00]: Most of them don't know it.
• 27:22
  [SPEAKER_00]: It don't start off like that.
• 27:23
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's all nice and beautiful and the grass is green, but boy, it don't end like that.
• 27:33
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm your host, your main equipment, humanitarian plug, podcast, DV episode for those you need help.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: National Domestic Violence Hotline is eight hundred seven nine nine seven two three three.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You can also text the number eight eight seven eight eight eight.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: God bless.
• 27:58
  [SPEAKER_00]: Peace.