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Martha Berry; IMarE Boutique · Spinning the Light Podcast

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Hello, and welcome to two girls in a pot.
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I'm Sharon, I'm Christie. And once again, we are super
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excited to have a guest on in. What's kind of cool about this
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one is, we are on vacation to Puerto Vallarta and we ran into
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these two incredibly talented people who started your own
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business and so we loved their story.
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So we're going to get to share that with you guys today.
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Nice, welcome Martha. Berry and you Uh, owned, Amari
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folding line, correct? Yes, okay.
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We're welcome to have to thank you, so glad to have you on.
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So you've been doing this business for how many years for
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seven years? It actually be seven years, fun,
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Jones, 26, which is very cool. Seventh is good number.
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And it sounds like, you know, we got to sit down and have lunch
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with you and get to know you a little bit more but your story's
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really important because for so many people.
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It didn't it just didn't And overnight.
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So you were saying that you started out this business, why I
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started the business because I have been through a divorce and
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I just wanted to be able to provide for my two girls and so
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I actually decided to start a business so that I can teach
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them about generational wealth and you know, just teach them to
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depend on themselves and not depend on other people for money
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and just be dependent be there. I mean be very independent.
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So you said you started out married and you wanted to still
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do this but that it kind of just wasn't working with the
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marriage. Yes, it just wasn't working
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because my previous husband wanted me to not start a
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business and so I was like, but this is my passion.
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And so, I decided to after we decided to not be married, any
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longer, I decided to just go ahead and start the business.
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So what I did was, I did it correctly.
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I took six months of research. Arches.
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So that it when I was started that I can study correctly and
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legally. So for you was that a difficult
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process to learn to navigate that it was very difficult
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because I didn't have a mentor. I made a lot of bad financial
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decisions with, you know, buying inventory and different things
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like that. So it was very difficult because
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I didn't have anybody to help me.
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So I had to do everything myself.
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So that's part of the reasons why I have a mentorship program
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now, where I teach ladies or Guys, or whoever to start a
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boutique and not make some of the mistakes that I made.
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And, you know, that was the thing I really liked about your
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stories, because one of the things we really promote is
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mentoring others. If you have a skill, and you can
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pass that on and help somebody else to be successful.
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When there are new therapist or whatever, I'll be there, like,
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don't reinvent the wheel here. If you need this paperwork,
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don't, it's that think of helping others out, and which is
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another big part of what you do. So, and where I really want to
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get into that as well. Because it's something that we
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About a lot give back to the community because it's the
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community that gives to you. Yes, and you talk about that
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partnership with your community. So you started this, you said
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you didn't have a mentor and then how did you turn all that
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around? What because you talk to us
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about manifestation. So I pretty much, you know, I'm
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a Christian and I am a woman of faith and so I was taught how to
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manifest things how to write it down, make it clean.
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And so I went in all these celebrities there.
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Um, so I wanted to work with and I asked them to wear my clothes.
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I'm use any perfect terminology. I just went, hey, you know, I'm
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the owner of amun-re Boutique. I would love to see you some
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pieces from charge, if you would just wear them to take me,
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straight to the point and nobody answered.
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But, six months later, it was different.
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I met with one person who was my number one fan and because of
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her wearing the pieces, everybody who I wanted to wear
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the outfits actually ordered because of her.
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To me. So it was funny that when they
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were weary and they will go to tag me, they would see that.
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I have reached out to them like years were like oh you were in
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my damn, yes. So that's how I say.
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I manifested this thing and I still do that to this day.
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I write down in crazy ideas and be like, okay, I wanted to do
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something, is that in it always manifested.
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So you have to speak it and you have to believe it and you have
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to have faith in yourself and trust, God, that it will work
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out and it will, it might not happen the next day in my Not
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happen, three days later but when it happens, it happens.
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And you just have to be ready to receive it.
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Well I think that's the important thing.
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How difficult was it to receive it too?
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Because even though I think that a lot of times because you know,
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a lot of times people want it when I want and then they
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haven't like, oh shit. Yeah now that was tough because
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I didn't know what to do when it started and I never forget I had
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got a job offer, I've been looking for a job looking for a
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job looking for a job and so the lady had The person I was
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talking about she has for like five outfits.
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I sent them all to her, so I had got a job opportunity.
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I never made $35 an hour. So I was like okay what the hell
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is? So it wasn't matching with the
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time because I was like, it's no way I can be there at 7:00 when
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I got to drop my girls off the school and so I was going crazy,
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trying to figure it out. And you know, one thing I did
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want to do is put my girls In Harm's Way.
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And so my mom told me, she said, Going to happen to the job.
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No. And I was like, I'm just a
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certified as I widen already calculated for the hours.
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I'm gonna try to calculate this planning and so she said that it
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would God, God is not the author of confusion and he would not
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give you something with this much chaos if it's for you to
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have it. So you're going to have to tell
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them. No and so I remember that Friday
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telling them. No.
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I was so depressed. I just went I went to bed by
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8:00. I was so so so depressed.
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So the person who wore my clothes she is I guess on the
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west coast in California and so it's eight o'clock.
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I went to bed. So it's 10 notice, 12:00
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midnight, almost midnight. And I hear my phone do this to
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do this. I'm like, what the hell is going
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on? My view is 10:00 her time so she
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wears the outfit. She post me when I checked my
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PayPal early that day. My balance was like $14.
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That's all I had my fill of a balance when I got up my villa
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balance was like 4500. So I'm Like what the hell is
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like? What is going on?
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Because that was the first time she had wore.
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Something of mine that was really cute, and it was going
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viral and the people were shopping and then they were in
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my DM's, are you restocking? And I'm just like, oh my God,
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what is a restock if you're not what?
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I don't know, anything about restocking.
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And so I really can't do anything till Monday because the
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vendors are not open all weekend.
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So I placed the order the fractal Saturday morning, but I
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had to wait till Monday for themselves.
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Okay, you order is good. It's going to ship out.
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So I understood then that if I had took that job, I when the
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baby been able to restock, keep the sales coming in and then I
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wouldn't have been able to like shift the orders because I have
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been at work all day. So it kind of was like I
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understood at that moment like why couldn't take that job?
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Like manifestation was right around the corner and she would
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have closed. So it was just one of those
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things where I had so I can really trust God and that will
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support. They helped me with my faith.
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Because I say now that I'm a woman of Faith, but I really
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didn't have faith starting out. I will call my mom and ask her
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for prayers. I will be like Mom, he'll new
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mom and she was like, I'm not gonna always be around like you
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have to figure this thing out. So that was one of those reasons
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that would that was one of the things that helped me with faith
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and realize like, oh my God, God really did this thing that he
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did it real fast. It's so that's what health with
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my face because my faith was really tested.
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Like while I'm going through divorce like wild went through
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abuse. I'm homeless.
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Why all this is happening to me. Like if you want me to trust
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that and it was at that time that you were homeless.
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No it was a year later that I was homeless.
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I even after my business started blowing up, I still had a moment
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because I didn't have I started the business with zero dollars
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so I didn't have investors. And so my money was just
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flipping to pay the bills and buy a little more inventory.
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And then flipping again to pay the bills and buy a little more
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inventory because I don't have a job.
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It's so you know there's only so much Inventory.
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You can buy his own some of the bills that you could buy when
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you're doing it alone. And so at that point is when I
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got home, like, even me being high up, I got homeless.
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And, of course, I was homeless for only two to three weeks and
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then everything started working out for me.
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And then a year, later of me, being up for a payment,
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everything was working out. I did get a job.
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I think I was on the job for six months, I was able to do all my
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daughter stuff for school. I bought her senior package, I
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paid for her prom dress. I did.
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These things because I knew some layouts.
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Got the walk off the job. And when I walked off that time,
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like I felt like a woman, like, I finally was able to tell these
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people I'm done. And they're like, you're sorry,
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you know, you got two kids, how you going to just leave your
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kids with nothing and I was like, God would open a door,
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this big for me, not to walk in it.
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And so I left and from that moment, my business just went
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crazy and I just did it. So that was at the time when I
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read it. Had to like, trust God, because
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I had got a storefront at a commercial place where they
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wanted to see financials. I'm like whatever financials.
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You know, and I'm like they want to fix this cuz I'm gonna get
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approved and they told me we really want you to store and you
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know, because they saw the growth on the Instagram and so
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like three days pasted. I got three days passed.
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I got antsy, I called them, hay and my approved.
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So it was that that top that business talk.
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Well, we're Looking at all applications and we'll contact
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you. So I wasn't shit out.
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I'm back. You know, I don't get it and
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they call back two days later and was like, we really want you
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to have this little. We're going to go ahead and give
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it to you and they paid for my build-out.
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I mean, it was just so grateful and then the next week I got
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like my townhouse, I don't know how I got that because you're
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not to have their the credit. So it was all those things that
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when I stopped dating and really focused on God and focused on my
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business like my business started.
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Growing and then he started proving himself to me like I got
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you. So I think that was a moment
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where I had to depend solely on him for me to realize that I
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couldn't get any of this in doing myself or even have
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somebody to say I did that for you and it was God, that
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actually did everything awesome. And then cuz you you started
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this business and there's always that a lot of anxiety around it.
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How did you navigate the anxiety?
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Absolutely. But I have a lot of.
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Okay, my anxiety is weird because I know people get
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anxiety like when you're broke and you're not making money, but
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I get anxiety. When I'm making money.
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I didn't side to it. I drop every Friday.
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I get assigned to every Friday. I drop this weird, but after
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almost seven years I still do it.
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I get inside too because I'm like, oh my God.
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Are they gonna like it? Oh my God.
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Is going to be well. Oh my God, it's a side going to
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not crash because I've had times in my side crash and we have to
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wait till it come back up. So It's different things like
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that, cause them to have anxiety.
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And what I do is I do go to a therapist, you're not.
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No, they said it didn't bear running believe in a therapist
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but it's just somebody. I can talk to, you know, and
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just talk about things because when you become a spotlight or
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you become a certain person, it's scary sometimes where you
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can't go certain places along. You can't tag certain places
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because people are outside looking in So that's the type of
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thing is that I did inside to Frank sometimes or, you know,
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even when I go to church, sometimes I can just be myself
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and for the church, but somebody always know me.
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So those are the type of things I could decide to from and
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select. I said, I have a therapist.
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I do a lot of staycations and I just do a lot of times.
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We're okay, it's no work. I'm just wanting to take time
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out to relax. Like, you know, now on vacation,
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it's no work. I told my husband doesn't speak
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in. You believe I am.
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Answer one email, because when we go on vacation, like I want
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the laptop, I forgot the freaking charge at home.
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So firefight, I think that was gone.
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Like, I want you to take this vacation and don't do a thing,
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you know, it's like all my vendors.
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I have like, maybe I do my vendors, I have like a top four
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in there. Like, we have relationships,
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like we're mother-daughter, you know, a sister sister, depending
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on the age and so they all been like you deserve it.
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She works so hard, you know, stuff like that.
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So like they're not even texting me.
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So I'm gonna go blow my phone up when I get back, but it's things
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like that is like those are the type of things that can help
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with anxiety, to help you navigate through because anxiety
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is real, you know, I've had it where my chest is pounding, and
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I wouldn't travel because I'm scared of dolls.
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So I will see the dolls in the airport.
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I know y'all, like, what the hell is she talking about?
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So I was scared of the security dolls even though they own the
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league, oh okay. You know, the big dolls and so
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Soul on their thinking, the little dogs on their patent.
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It is, it could be one of the carry, I'm going to jump and I'm
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gonna screen and so all this money and I wouldn't trouble if
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it wasn't someone. We could drive, I wouldn't go.
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And so last year, I was like enough is enough like I'm seeing
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all my friends and you know, all my friends to a successful.
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They're going to Jamaica going to Cancun.
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Just jump it up. Just going everywhere and I was
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like dummy. That all this money.
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If you just drive the San Antonio, drop the officer.
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If so, I put it, I said last year that.
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So that's what my anxiety really came from.
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And I said this year, after that tornado happen, when I turn 80
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hit my bills and we lost everything, we literally saw the
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roof. Like the roof was going to be
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like we lost everything. Almost a hundred thousand
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dollars worth of inventory. So when that happened I was like
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Like, you asked me to travel because life is too short and
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thing has happened so fast. Like the day before that, we
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were at the galleria shopping, you know, and then the tornado
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happen. And so I booked a table for
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trips. I went to Jamaica.
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We have laid all went to Cancun. Then I was in Paris.
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I was like, I mean, I just was gone and I was like, I would
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never do a flight over two hours ago, we were in Paris and I was
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Right. You know what?
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I overcame my fears and then the following year within been to.
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So it was funny that we never. I never saw dollars in the
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airport. Let all your last year when I
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travel. And so we went to Mark went to
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Vegas in March and it was me and my husband because somebody have
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to be with me to call me down. When I move traveling, it's
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familiar with to March for his birthday in our wedding
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anniversary. And so he said, oh shit.
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Martha Don't Panic calm down. I'm like, what the hell is wrong
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with you? Because I was, you know, I'm
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short. So I don't see nothing like what
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are you talkin about salts? I look, that's the old and he
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was like, baby, just breathe. And I started fishing it and he
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was like just bring because I would take the CBD coming before
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we get to the airport, but I didn't need them.
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So this time I figure all the dog.
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Can I come inside to take one. It's so I was like just going
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crazy and so he was like baby just calm down.
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So we get to the They're telling us to watch side by side but
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with the dog was, sniffing the actual carry on.
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So he was like give me your carry-on.
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I said this point I don't have nothing.
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I was like at attention like just walking straight focus and
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it was so crazy because two weeks later and I did it.
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I was so happy. I was like I did it.
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It did two weeks later, me and my youngest daughter went to
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Cancun. So I was like, oh shit, the damn
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dog again, and so this she's scared.
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So, at this point, I had to be him.
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I'm to her but he'll I'm scared. So I'm like hold my hand.
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So we stopped the whole airport like because my daughter is a
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drama. It's like the guy was I baby
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he's not going to harm you. I'm like hell you helping me so
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he was like Mom is not gonna let nothing happen to you who liked
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it and I liked how it felt was something that I felt myself
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being him to her and we just walked straight through.
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I kept the character in the middle and I was like, I mean,
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we walked fast and we got on the other side just like mine.
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Did it. It's like that moment I
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realized, like, I really overcame.
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The one thing that would give me anxiety.
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So now I'm catching flights and I just go, that was the only
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thing, it wasn't airplanes. The only thing that kept me from
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Catching flights and travel enjoying myself was seeing the
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security dollars. How?
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Interesting. And, you know, I think that
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people do understand anxiety for everybody is so different.
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It can be about anything, but I'll try.
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You right now. If there was a spider in this
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room right now and she sought she be acting the fool and I
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have to pause this because she don't care and I told her I said
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honey we can't she goes that is one fear I will keep so she
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don't want help with I just want it.
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My neighbor has we moved to a certain vision and is very quiet
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and our neighbor has a rock, a rock bottom.
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Robert tell that it's older and it was the first year we moved
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there and it was Christmas and the wife was putting out
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Christmas decorations. So we come home from church and
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down, dog is outside. So I'm just like okay like I'm
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waiting on her to see us drive up and put this dog up.
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She didn't. So I roll the window down.
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Hey, can you put your dog up? She said, oh, she's not gonna do
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nothing. I say I am scared of dolls and
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your the HLA said the dog needs to be on the least.
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You know I'm sorry I'm calling out rules here.
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So she wanted she put the dog up and so I was like like I don't
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want to be mean with my neighbors.
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Like I want them to know some men, her husband like we started
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talking and I started telling him and he was like that dog.
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I've ever been where I'm at the end when I tell you that we walk
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outside. And then don't look at us like
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y'all stupid and he wrote run to you, he ain't budging, he coming
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around you. He came my garage by three
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months ago, my oldest daughter was in there and she busts
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through the house. But she was like, I don't even
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know why I did this. Because the dog looked at me
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like, girl, what is wrong with you?
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Like, I'm not chasing you. I just want the coast evils in
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the garage. It's so when I tell you like
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that dog is really trained but like I think was scared to noses
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like when it's little your keys and like the route Dollars just
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hollering and screaming and making a noise and I don't get
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no, that's the type of stuff that like kind of scares me, but
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I'm to the point now, like, okay, if it's on the leash, I
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should be okay and like with the security, they're here to help
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us. They're not trying to harm, you
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know? So just talk.
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Yes. Like, you know cuz what you got,
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you're not going to go on the trip.
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That's all you'll be sitting at home.
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So I had somebody start talking to myself, like I don't want To
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just take staycations in Houston hotel or take a trip dry.
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You still got to get, like, I don't like driving now and you
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got now, he'll tell you, when I go to Dallas fly, I don't want
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to fly it and, you know, the simple day I'm flying, we're
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fine because now it's like, okay, it's so much fun and it's
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so much quicker. Oh yeah, that's what she always
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says. Yeah, what's she done to
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overcome some fear to with but flying you didn't like the fly.
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Oh, that know. My first flight was horrible,
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horrible, and I thought this must be and I thought, no, maybe
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it's just know, is that can fly. It was just as bad.
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I said, no, I don't think I meant and then we get together
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and she's, they're like, what's wrong with you?
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And in fact we're flying to Houston and see my sister and
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the flight was not good and I am there like it was so turbulent
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and I'd never been on a flight like that so that freaks me out
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and I was like, what But she's like this is what I usually go
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through and I'm like really don't like fucking now every
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flight after that's fine, we've had wonderful flights.
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I don't mind it now but even to we want to go to Europe and we
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went to a because I'm there like I can't be in a flight for that
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many hours. I in the fly over the ocean and
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you go through all these things on.
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So many of my clients who listen, yes therapists have
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anxiety as well because we do you know, whatever it is but the
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thing is is it's what do you do to overcome?
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And that's what I've done now we fly and we love trouble, we love
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meeting people, we love culture and all of that which we talked
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about the importance of travel. Is it really does has the
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ability to touch your soul in a different way because of the
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people, you meet the cultures, you get to engage with and those
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things are important for you when you travel.
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So like us, you know, we're traveling in this is our
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vacation, but we met you. We loved your story means if,
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you know, let's do this. So kind of work a little bit.
21:48
Do you ever get that one? You're traveling.
21:50
Where? If somebody sees an outfit,
21:52
you're wearing, they might say, oh my God, I love that out
21:54
fishing. Yeah, and provide my website in
21:58
just just throughout. I just did a whole Spiel and
22:03
it's because I love what I do and I love my brand and I love
22:07
what it stands for. And so, you know, even like
22:10
different races when they see me in the airport.
22:12
Like one time, I think we were going to La and my daughter
22:17
having this outfit and they just fell in love with it.
22:20
With her sight and we're bonded, just most weapons, an airport,
22:23
it was awfully cute little travel outfit.
22:25
And so I just want to a whole Spiel and then when people go to
22:28
my Instagram like, oh my God, and they're like, how did you do
22:31
all of this? And I'm like, just faith in me
22:34
just working hard and push it through it and not giving up
22:37
like even when it got really hard, I just try my best to not
22:40
give up and just be surrounded by positive people in your head.
22:45
When did you like was their magical number, or what was it
22:49
that you said? That and said, oh my God, I'm
22:51
successful. I would say it was when I had an
22:56
opportunity to go to the Stella warts.
23:00
So the Stella warrants is like a show is almost like the Grammys.
23:04
But it's like African-American or whoever gospel music is held
23:09
in Vegas. And so that was the in between
23:12
part of me walking off the job. I had that a call, it was like,
23:16
I want you to come, I want you to bring your clothes and sit up
23:19
here and say, I'm not going to charge you anything.
23:21
I just need you to get here and so I was like, okay, how the
23:25
hell I'm supposed to do this with no money?
23:26
So of course, finding a flight that quick 44.
23:31
People was like, five thousand dollars that I didn't have.
23:34
So we was like, you know what, we're going to get a
23:35
15-passenger van, we will drive to Vegas for Houston, 22 hours
23:41
and we're going to make it work. It's so when I saw when I got
23:46
there and I saw all these people that Let oh my God, you're
23:51
right. I was just like, you know, and I
23:59
am be one of them. And so at that point is when I
24:02
realized to just walk in it and I was like, I really am
24:06
successful. Like for you to go.
24:07
I can't go nowhere else. My don't know me.
24:10
And it's like, I always get caught looking crazy.
24:13
Like, that's my seeming, like, like so embarrassed, like they
24:17
all look like they catch me on Starbucks, running something.
24:19
But that's that's time side and then I realized like I really am
24:23
successful, like somebody know me and then it's going to be
24:25
like, oh my God like I follow you on Instagram and you were
24:30
homeless and not you're a millionaire.
24:32
It's that's the type of thing is that's like oh my God.
24:35
I'm so successful because I'm inspiring other people, and
24:40
that's what it's all about. When you can Inspire.
24:42
Somebody money is good, money is not everything.
24:46
Because let me tell you money, bring I'm out.
24:51
You get a whole lot of cousins and a whole lot of sisters in
24:53
the whole lot of brothers. So and you have to be okay with
24:57
saying? No because I was a yes person.
25:01
Yes, yes yes, yes, yes. And I sort of realizing it when
25:04
I was homeless all those people told, you know but you're
25:06
telling them. Yes.
25:08
And so that's things. I had to learn to be a to stop
25:13
being a yes, person not to be selfish, but to have the sermon,
25:17
in help people, who really needs help versus just saying, yes, to
25:21
everything. And even to this day, I'd be
25:24
having decisions that I be like Ellie.
25:26
What to do? I'm a mom.
25:27
No, baby, you need to pray and ask God, what you need to do
25:30
because I'm so yes, I do it. Yes, I do it.
25:34
I'll do it. I'll do it.
25:35
And it's like, you're going to bring yourself down.
25:38
So success brings heartache, it brings loneliness is brain
25:44
separation. Like I've had so many best
25:49
friends that I've lost just for me being successful and is the
25:54
crazy part is happening. People Prayed for me to be
25:57
successful. They believe they me but then in
25:59
their prayers would be answered so they couldn't handle it.
26:02
Well, I think that's hard. It's being able to where we say
26:07
always gravitate to those. People who truly are invested in
26:10
you, your success but not the success of the money, but the
26:15
success of you as an individual, you know?
26:18
I mean and when you find those people, we're like that, we have
26:21
this group of people and we cherish them, we have gratitude
26:25
for them all the time, because it doesn't matter if we have one
26:29
listener or a thousand wishes, it doesn't matter those people
26:33
are there like, oh my God, you're successful, and then you
26:36
start to it starts to build on That as well.
26:39
You know what I mean? And I think that's what you're
26:41
talking about is being able to discern.
26:43
Who really is there for me and who is not right.
26:47
It whose dad not just because of money.
26:48
Exactly like hey I see you've been working hard, are you okay?
26:53
Hey I see, you've been working hard.
26:55
Let's go have dinner. Hey, we miss my.
26:57
I have a friend that I'm friends with the mom and my daughters
27:00
friends with the daughter. So we do my middle daughter
27:02
dates. Hey, we missed it for two
27:03
months. What's the deal?
27:05
Like it's those type of people than lets, you know.
27:08
Know that I'm not just here because you have money like we
27:12
really do a staycation or hey, let's go get ice cream or hey,
27:16
let's go out to eat or hey, it's just simple things like that.
27:20
That's like, okay, versus hey, can I borrow this a heck?
27:24
I'm like, so it's to the point now that sometimes people call
27:27
me. Obviously, I do like, what you
27:29
want, what, you know, and I hate to do that but it's just Like,
27:38
that's the only time you call like, when are you going to call
27:41
and check on me, right? Albert bear horde, I run a
27:45
multi-millionaire a business, you know, and it's not easy,
27:49
it's hard. Plus I got to do all these other
27:51
things the week. So when are you just going to
27:53
call and say, hello? Or are you good?
27:57
Do you need help? Yeah.
27:58
Well why you didn't call me? You see what I'm posting?
28:02
Why do I have to call call an offer?
28:05
That's the type of in. I was grown up to.
28:08
I I was taught growing up my mom to always call and see if you
28:13
need help. Now I'm a beast.
28:15
Tell the truth that I'm in a point now that I'm so busy.
28:19
I don't call as often but I'm so busy.
28:23
When I think about it I will call.
28:25
So that's one thing that I'm trying to learn to balance to
28:29
make time to call make the law around and call everybody.
28:33
But still, it's the people who called big and all the time.
28:38
Yeah. And I think that's always hard
28:40
and we all we talk about that because I'll say, oh my God, we
28:42
haven't talked to our friend Colleen and well and Chelsea
28:45
out. Let's do that.
28:45
And then it's put behind and we're whoever it is and we've
28:49
kind of make this our year of really doing stuff with
28:53
intention. We will reach out to those
28:57
people with intention because we appreciate him in your rice.
29:01
Not like you don't appreciate him or you're not thinking about
29:03
them. But, you know, you're sitting
29:04
there thinking I got 300 items to get out.
29:07
How am I going to have? Right.
29:09
So, it's that balancing, but I think it's when you have those
29:11
relationships and they are those that are investing e, they
29:14
understand it, you know, saying, but it's finding those people,
29:18
and then making sure you do that with intention in order to keep
29:22
them in your life, right? So there's that balance and
29:24
then, I mean, we work on that balance, don't we?
29:27
Yeah, it's not always easy but those strong connections are
29:30
really important. Yes they are.
29:32
It really are it really is and then it shows you like when the
29:35
connections are real. Yes.
29:37
Because one Argument really show you a person is in a lot of
29:41
times, it's just, let's just have a conversation.
29:44
And if we have a conversation and we can't say, hey, what were
29:47
you in for lunch, or where we going, and you still holding
29:50
onto baggage or drama, then it's then you just found that their
29:53
relationship go. But I feel like some
29:56
relationships require conversation.
29:58
If you really love that person, if you really want that person
30:02
to be in your life, whether it's a marriage or what this, a
30:04
friend or just whatever. But then when you have that
30:09
conversation your realize, okay, I'm going to let this person go
30:12
or I need to stick by this person because they just crazy
30:15
at the moment. Be crazy at the moment and he is
30:22
sitting here silently just so you know.
30:24
So he is hearing all the other thing you do that.
30:30
We really liked was your think about getting back, talk a
30:33
little bit about that. So I do have a nonprofit that I
30:36
just thought it would even before the nonprofit.
30:38
Just caught on my repairs, but even before the nonprofit, I
30:41
always gave back because I never really had anybody to just do
30:46
handouts to me. So I was like, I want to be able
30:49
to make a difference. So even like how I first got it
30:52
back is having the mentorship program where I would teach
30:56
other ladies or men who wanted to start a business, I would
30:59
teach them how to suck a distance from beginning to end.
31:03
Even give them vendors. I would give them like, the
31:05
sauce. And if long as you stuck, To it,
31:08
you could be successful. And so then I went behind that I
31:12
was like, you know, I want to give monetary prizes are
31:15
different things. So I started off with 100 and it
31:17
went to 250 didn't wit 2000. Now I'm giving up to like five
31:21
thousand for certain things that my nonprofit 64 which is like
31:25
helping high school. Graduates helping college
31:28
students were really already entrepreneurs.
31:31
Just helping them get there and then helping single in homeless
31:35
ladies. Well not so much what signal and
31:37
homeless His who are facing homeless like help them, you
31:41
know, provide for them. And so, giving back as always,
31:45
I'm just a giver. I'm a Virgo and we give, but I
31:50
just always, was taught if you give you will receive.
31:55
And so the bigger your give the bigger that you receive in so.
31:59
But I do have to have discernment in that area because
32:03
I'll just give it all the way. So that's a thing that you know,
32:06
I work on but I just feel like Like sometimes you just never
32:09
realized that it's one of those moments.
32:12
Like, when God said me do something and I give it it.
32:14
Did you hear the testimony behind it?
32:16
Where it's like, if you don't believe, I just went through
32:19
something and I was praying for a blessing and it be those
32:22
moments when I'm like, oh my God, God is really dealing with
32:25
me. So I don't take those for
32:28
granted, but I'm just a good right heart and I just want to
32:31
see people win and I just want to help out.
32:33
And it's not to say, oh, I gave such a such as just noise to be
32:37
like, I Point they help they worked.
32:40
You know. Well, I think that's what it is.
32:42
You know, when you look at those relationships and when you have
32:45
that ability to, or you don't even know where your part is in
32:49
and, you know, I tell you, whenever you come into people's
32:52
lives, you're playing a role in their life.
32:54
You often don't know what that role is and Greg sometimes, you
32:57
know, five years down the road, you know you here.
33:00
Oh yeah, that moment I talk with you, you know, I was in an
33:03
abusive relationship or whatever and I thought, you know what, I
33:06
can get out and I can do it. It doesn't matter.
33:08
What it is. You don't know the impact
33:10
sometimes, but it's there, you know, all of those.
33:13
That's it, always call it. That exchange of energy that
33:16
everybody we come across whether we're in their presence for five
33:20
seconds, five minutes or five years.
33:22
Right. There's an exchange of energy.
33:24
And what happens with that, you know, is such a powerful thing.
33:27
It has it has the ability to move people in really Positive
33:31
Directions. And that's one of the things
33:33
with our podcast. We want people to we want
33:36
everybody to be successful, we want Buddy to be the best
33:39
version of they can possibly be because we live in a world
33:42
sometimes that is pushing back against us, you know?
33:47
I mean and I'm sure you had that where you were trying to be
33:52
successful, but there were either people, who are doubting
33:54
you or doing stuff like that. That was about taking away from
33:59
your progress and your success. Yeah, I had to get to the point
34:02
to where I'll stop telling certain people certain things
34:04
because they'd understand it. And so I would have to wait
34:08
Until it happened even though I owe because I was always talked
34:13
out of things because when a person understand it's not that
34:16
they don't have faith, but when a person hasn't seen something
34:20
Urban around it or even experience they self, you can't
34:24
go to certain people and tell them things because then you're
34:26
going to get a negative response and does not always that they
34:30
don't believe in you, or they don't want to see.
34:31
You grow is just that they never experienced it.
34:34
So they don't know how to say. Oh yeah, this is going to work.
34:38
So, now a lot of times even with my daughter, in my husband, I
34:44
want it big like when you thought of my disk could be
34:47
because they are. Sometimes I feel like they don't
34:49
understand me. So, like, I have to find a way
34:51
to make it look good and make a sound good but not understand me
34:55
to be on the same page. And so that's and sometimes I do
35:00
stuff in it. Like okay.
35:02
So you just went out there and did it.
35:03
Yep, I did it. Here it is.
35:05
And so, I think it's because a lot of times I I feel like they
35:08
don't, it's not that they don't believe in me but because
35:11
they've never experienced it. They'll kind of talked me off
35:14
the ledge and sometimes I won't be talking about the ladies,
35:17
like I want you to do it. And so that's things that I deal
35:21
with the. So I know who to talk to in
35:23
about what to talk to with certain people.
35:27
And it just works that way. It's not that I'm keeping
35:30
secrets of holding anything back, but it's just like, I know
35:33
who the my ride or die in that moment, you know, like my
35:37
husband was go so far. Or my daughter going to go slow
35:39
for a my mom's gonna go so far. But me, I'm going all the way.
35:42
So then I sneak it in and be like, oh, I did this.
35:45
This this and he's like, what? And so that's just how I roll.
35:49
So, sometimes you need to be supervised is what I'm hearing.
35:52
Yeah. Well, and sometimes, you know,
35:56
you just got to do that, you know, and I think that
35:59
sometimes, you know, people have to step by side, those Comfort
36:02
zones. It sounds like you've done a lot
36:04
of that, you know, because there is such fear and anxiety of
36:07
starting a business and doing everything you do, sorry, one
36:10
small. You do want to just take the
36:11
reins and say, I'm going to do it.
36:13
Yeah. And sometimes it's successful,
36:15
maybe. Sometimes it's not but it's
36:17
always an experience, right? It should you also give to you
36:22
said that sometimes, Times with school coming up.
36:25
That's a big time for you as well.
36:26
Yes. Try to do different things for I
36:30
haven't done like a bit back-to-school drive or anything
36:34
like that, but I have done things like where I try to pay
36:37
attention to the social media. Different things where I see
36:41
people suffering are going through things.
36:43
With put a little things out there and I try to go that way.
36:47
And I also try to help teachers because I know like with them
36:50
having to buy school clothes and supplies.
36:53
Eyes and decorate a room, you know, that's important.
36:56
So I always try to help a few teachers as well just to try to
36:59
take some things off their hand, you know, financially and
37:01
mentally. Because if you financially
37:04
drained and it's going to mess with your mentors, but missed
37:06
your physical. And so that's things that I try
37:09
to do it as well. Just try to, you know, help and
37:12
give back and be a part. One of the, I think you talked
37:15
with us about, was your, give your customer appreciation.
37:20
So which I thought was great because he I said going to do
37:23
this again. Hmm.
37:25
So talk a little bit about that, so everybody can hear that they
37:28
will be up-and-coming saw is the customer appreciation where I'm
37:32
doing Bob cell and so you get it.
37:35
Be value of anywhere from 250 to 300 you.
37:38
It's a mystery box cell so we pick it and where it's from four
37:40
to six items with stuff. The Box, we send it to the
37:42
customers and a lot of times it's brand-new stuff.
37:46
So it's not so you never really risk.
37:48
Well, what about if I were to have that?
37:50
Because I do have customers who shop with me every single
37:52
weekend. It was a most of the time is
37:55
items that you don't have, but this time I'm going to ask you
37:58
to do it in Houston, where it be at a location and you can stuff
38:02
this bag. I mean, you just stuff it out.
38:04
It'll probably like 20 to 30 gallons, just stuff the bag and
38:07
whatever you get in there is yours and then we're going to
38:10
ask you to have a food truck style.
38:11
They provide food and small balls because it's hot snow
38:15
cones are probably call it and just a way of giving back to
38:18
show appreciation because it is the customers who make Who keep
38:23
us rolling and keep us in business.
38:26
So it's just different things like that.
38:28
That I like to give back whether it's online or ask you in
38:32
person. What is it like getting ready
38:34
for something like that? Because that's a lot of
38:37
inventory and that's a lot of planning.
38:39
So we've already started getting ready for it.
38:41
I've already told them and they even thought I was crazy.
38:44
I was like I want all this cuz I don't want it done at my
38:46
warehouse. I was like, we're going to find
38:48
a location. We Takin all this inventory.
38:50
So everybody was like, okay, this will be doing It's a lot of
38:54
anxiety because you get to see people.
38:57
And a lot of times when you see people because of what I went
39:01
through, they just want to give a big hole testimony or they
39:04
full life. But I'm going through XYZ right
39:07
now and you be trying to talk to everybody and it's like, you
39:11
know, you end up crying the you end up laughing and it's just
39:14
like, oh my God. So it's all of those emotions
39:18
that I be like and then I go to, right?
39:20
And chest, I go to doing this. I don't go to trying to help
39:22
somebody. You're trying to figure, so I
39:24
was trying to put somebody together to help.
39:26
And so it's just those moments that every time I'm surrounded
39:30
in those type of situations, that always shows me who to
39:33
bless nice and you're right. It's hard to know on your own
39:38
sometimes is especially if you are a giver because the Instinct
39:41
will be just give everybody. There's a thousand people out
39:45
there which and give everybody right.
39:48
You know what I mean? And I think when you do stop and
39:52
listen, Listen with intention that.
39:55
Is that message? Yeah you know and then it makes
39:58
it easier for you to say. Nope that's the one because I
40:02
think people touch you in different ways.
40:04
Yeah. You know what I mean and when
40:05
you feel that then you're able to pay it forward to those
40:10
people and it's interesting, do you ever get to follow up with
40:14
any of those people that you've helped?
40:16
Okay. Also, she media different things
40:18
like that. We had went to a restaurant last
40:21
year, November December. And it was a little guys, and
40:24
they had a podcast and what touched me was, they were like
40:27
under 16, and they hit the door and they're trying to sell their
40:30
t-shirts, and it was called desires energy.
40:32
And I was just like I was stuck on the energy part because they
40:35
gave like energy out this world and they were really trying to
40:39
serve t-shirts that they had printed themselves.
40:42
They have sweatshirts to have sweatpants.
40:44
And so I bought some for like the entire family and I was
40:48
like, what the ship ran me and I mean, he sold it.
40:51
And it was, you know, And guide meaning behind it, but it was
40:55
all about your energy, like Pinot, just a smile and be
40:58
happy, no matter what you're going through, and just always
41:02
give that energy in. So, at that moment I was like,
41:05
so $500 it to them in my husband's used to it now and so
41:11
I just did it and they were like freaking out like, oh my God, oh
41:15
my God, oh my God, oh my God. And so you know, sometimes when
41:18
you do that for people to be like you'll seem like I'm gonna
41:21
pack up and I'm gone, they still We'll stay there and went to the
41:24
next customer. Just still working hard and
41:27
trying to sell their brand and different things like that.
41:30
So it's things that I can't really say that.
41:33
I have blessed somebody and they haven't done something with the
41:37
blessing. Well I think that's always the
41:41
important thing. Once again it's you're taking
41:43
that time to listen to their message and it's one of those
41:48
things though sometimes they probably even have that
41:51
intimidation approaching people. We're getting ready to go into
41:55
marketing soon. You notice that?
41:58
That was not a very enthusiastic.
41:59
Yeah. But it's one of those things.
42:03
You don't keep said that, you know, one of the things you do
42:05
is you really look at what's trending, all of those things,
42:08
what's viral and all that. And, you know, everybody tells
42:11
us, you know, we have a podcast, you have to have merchandise or
42:14
they're like, okay and it is. But there's a little bit of
42:18
anxiety and intimidation about that.
42:20
You know what I mean? Hmm.
42:22
Uh-huh. And so when that happens, I
42:25
wonder to what you kind of I guess what you do is you just
42:30
Mentor people, you know, somebody comes to and they're
42:33
like, you know, yeah I want to sell this antique.
42:35
Then what I think is interesting is sometimes.
42:38
Do you ever feel like some of those people who didn't support
42:41
you the way they were? Do you feel like they were doing
42:43
more of a competition thing almost?
42:45
Whereas in your case, your there about empowering other people to
42:50
have their own business, because you're not sitting there
42:51
thinking, man, I got to call my business.
42:53
Way, right? So that's that's something that
42:57
I went through. Because everybody who had more
42:59
followers than me who were? Well established.
43:02
I was like, I kind of piggy, like, I need some help, but
43:07
nobody wanted to help me. But now, once I started getting
43:11
on the news and I started being around celebrities and I started
43:14
hanging out with certain people. Now, those people who have
43:18
passed up, it's like naughty want to be a part in this light,
43:22
but I couldn't come to You and I don't act ugly, but I'm not
43:26
crazy. And I'm not stupid.
43:28
So, I'm gonna treat you with kindness, but at the same time,
43:30
I'm not going to treat you how you treated me.
43:32
But at the same time, I won't be a fool.
43:35
Well, I think it's that thing gets when we talk about that a
43:37
lot of how do you set up those healthy boundaries with people
43:40
and how do you sometimes because you do have to say that's a big
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fat now, and you can tell, you could tell when people just want
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to be around you now because oh you popular.
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Oh, let me see what I can get out this person.
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So that's different things. That kind of discerning go
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through with watching people because it's like, I don't take
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for granted how God has blessed me and I'm not the type of
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person that's why. Oh, I'm doing better than this
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person. I don't, I don't.
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Because one thing I know you could be here today and he will
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bring you all the way down. And so I was taught that you
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never despise Small Beginnings. But at the same time you never
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think that you're better than anybody.
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But and I think that's part of the things that they would treat
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me like a she invited you. No, she just starting.
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They looked at it as I'm not going to help her because this
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competition, where is me? I don't care.
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I'm a help you because I could tell you everything I do but if
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you don't put it into action and if you don't have the heart and
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if you don't have faith, that is going to work.
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It won't work so I can give you the sauce all day long.
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Even my mentorship people is like you're giving too much.
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No, I'm not, but it you can see who was there to really do it in
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the people. Was there just to say I was
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around her for a day or two. Exactly.
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So, as we're getting ready to wind up, do a little plug for
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yourself your Instagram and where they people can find you.
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So my name is Mark, the bury? My Instagram is a reboot.
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See that's, I am a re Bo UT i q UE.
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My website is shop. I'm a reboot e.com.
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We have new arrivals every Friday at 10:00 a.m.
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Central and my Facebook is Marie Boutique and my tip top.
45:25
It's a very Boutique also. So any of you out there who are
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looking for some really cool ideas for your next outing,
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whatever it is because you fell about what I would like to talk
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about too is that I have an e-book which actually tell it's
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a mentorship in the book and so I always get the program where
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they will come to Houston like out.
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The first year, I had a hundred and something when we came to
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Houston in 2021 and then Should we had like 1780s coming to
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Houston? So we have like a two to three
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day event? Why did the whole mentorship but
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this year I wanted to do something different because I
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realize that you come and you be an oval.
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Oh, it's like overdrive. Like you have all this you
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overloaded with all this information but we have them on
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what we party we have when we cry and I feel like as much as I
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tell you take notes you didn't go take notes so I wanted to
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have something with it, can go back to bigger download and go
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back to it and just keep downloading it to themselves.
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Sales versus trying to take it all in and make this person.
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Oh she had an accountant hero. She had a marketing person
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because I provide everybody there at the event and so my
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ebook is something that I dropped on me first versus
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having the in-person mentorship this year.
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So that's something else that's doing well.
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And so the e-book that can find on my website shop, I'm a reboot
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e.com. What a wonderful idea.
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That's really fun. Love that.
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You know, you've done what you've done.
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With the company, but that you go beyond that by really
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promoting other people and get way.
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That's one of the things that we really focus on to you.
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So well, cool. Thank you so much for joining
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us, you know what, a great opportunity being out in the
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pool, enjoying the sun, maybe a little tequila, but we got this
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opportunity to reach and we always say, you know, you when
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here, you never know who you're going to meet, until you meet up
47:18
and you start talking and we promote everybody's story.
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Is that there's a story behind everything and when we stopped
47:27
to listen to the stories, they're so empowering and it
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gives people the idea that maybe just maybe that can be me.
47:34
And so we appreciate you coming, thank you for listening, as
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always, very grateful for it and we will be back next week.
47:42
Bye. Is that there's a story behind
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everything and when we stopped to listen to the stories,
47:28
they're so empowering and it gives people the idea that maybe
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just maybe that can be me. And so we appreciate you coming,
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thank you for listening, as always, very grateful for it and
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we will be back next week. Bye.