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🥰Self-Love Series: Shine Your Light Like You Mean It! ✨ · ✨️Aligned and Thriving: For Teachers🌿

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  Hello everyone, and welcome back to another episode of a Mind and
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  thriving for Teachers. All righty my friends, I'm still
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  male. So hi, how you going?
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  I hope you're well. This episode today is called
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  Shine Your Light like You Mean it.
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  And I'm going to start this episode with a really, really
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  bold statement. I think you're probably not
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  talking yourself up enough. In fact, I know you're not.
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  Most of us, especially women, have been taught what's called.
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  We need to have what's called quiet confidence.
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  Don't be too loud, don't be too proud, and don't make it obvious
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  that you're brilliant. And if you do dare to shine too
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  bright, oh boy, suddenly you're too much.
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  People get jealous. People roll their eyes.
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  You get those horrible backhanded compliments like, oh
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  wow, must be nice to have that much time on your hands.
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  And here's what happens. You start to dim your light.
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  You shrink a little. You stop talking about the
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  things that you're proud of. And slowly you watch as your
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  spark fades and the world gets less of you.
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  And that is such a loss for everyone.
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  So and talk to you real story again.
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  It's about me. You know when you get a
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  promotion at work or you do something amazing and instead of
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  everyone cheering for you, some people just get weird.
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  Like they start acting like your success says something about
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  them and suddenly you're on the receiving end of those subtle
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  little digs. I've been there.
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  I have felt the sting of someone making me feel like I should
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  apologise for my success. But here's the thing, dimming
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  your light doesn't make the world a better place.
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  It doesn't make anyone else shine brighter either.
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  It just makes everything in your world a little bit duller.
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  And as teachers, as leaders, as humans, we're here to light
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  things up. We are here to inspire people.
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  So this reminds me a lot about a principle in one of Gabby
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  Bernstein's book. It's called Miracles.
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  Now, one of the lessons is literally about owning your
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  light and recognising when you let yourself shine that you
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  actually give other people permission to do the same.
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  It's not about being arrogant, it's not about being loud for
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  the sake of it. It's about being
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  unapologetically you, standing in your truth, your talents,
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  your quirks, your joy, and letting that be seen.
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  And what is the first step for us to do that?
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  Well, you're going to have to look inward.
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  We get so caught up in the outside noise, the appearance,
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  the labels, other people's opinions, that we forget what is
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  beautiful about us has nothing to do with what's on the
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  outside. I'm serious.
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  I mean, if you want to judge me on my clothing, fine.
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  Kmart is life for me, OK? Honestly, I actually get so many
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  compliments on my outfits and I love turning around and saying
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  thanks. I got it from Kmart and the look
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  on their face is like, what? It's about owning what you love,
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  not what you think is going to impress other people.
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  The second step. So I said that I'm giving you
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  tips here. So the first one was to to look
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  inward. Look at yourself #2 get real.
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  You need to own your specialness, your quirks, your
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  sense of humour, those weird little things that just make you
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  you say what's on your mind. Share your vulnerable side.
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  Now you don't have to dump your entire life story on Instagram
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  tomorrow, but you can start sharing and letting a little bit
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  of you and your true self out. It's magnetic when someone is
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  just real and people feel it. Tip #3 Make some time for what
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  you love, for what you love. Focus on what inspires you, and
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  if you're not sure what that is, pay attention to the things that
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  you do effortlessly. It might be journaling, it might
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  be trying new styles or styling your outfits, it might be
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  baking, it might be colouring in.
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  Whatever it is, do more of that. Your joy in that activity is
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  part of your light. The more you feed it, the
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  brighter you're going to shine. So do the things that you love
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  to do and make time for it. Make it a priority.
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  Tip #4 Shine like you mean it and I mean it.
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  If you paint or draw, share it, share it with other people.
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  If you write poetry, post it, share it with people.
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  If you love singing, sing in front of people.
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  Gift your creations. Share what makes you happy and
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  when people compliment you, say thank you.
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  Don't like so many times for years.
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  This has taken me years honestly I am so guilty when people would
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  give me a compliment and I would turn around and be like oh I
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  like your hair too. Look it is nice to do that but
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  don't just do it automatically just like that instead of
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  actually thanking them for the compliment first.
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  Yet by all means give them a compliment back but you need to
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  acknowledge the compliment that they have said to you first
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  before you then go and give another one.
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  So say thank you and also don't ignore them and say nothing and
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  don't water it down like, oh, it's nothing.
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  Please don't you need to own it. And then then you can dish out
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  some compliments too. Because here's the ripple
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  effect. When you're shining bright, then
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  you give others permission to shine too, because your, your
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  light's shining. So then other people want to
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  shine, your students, your colleagues, your friends, your
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  family, like it's contagious, but in the best possible way.
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  So this has so many like advantages.
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  Here's the thing, like we're in this profession where we have we
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  have the perfect platform to spread light and joy every
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  single day with all of these wonderful people that we have in
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  front of us. Whether it's showing kids that
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  learning can be fun or inspiring A colleague to just try
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  something new. Our light impacts people in ways
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  that we'll never even see. But that only happens if you
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  keep your light switched on. That's how that works.
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  So some daily practise. So as I said, I'm a reader.
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  I've been reading the book Miracles Now by Gabby Bernstein
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  or Bernstein, and she talks about some daily practises to
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  help keep your light shining bright.
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  This is things like having a gratitude list, doing some
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  forgiveness work, and having those little moments of
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  stillness that reconnect you to your source and your core.
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  So here is your challenge from me.
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  OK, here is your challenge from me.
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  Inspired by her book and what I've talked about each morning,
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  I want you to start writing down three things that you love about
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  yourself. OK, Three things you love about
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  yourself. It could be I love my smile, I
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  love my hair, I love my teeth. It can be as simple as that, or
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  it can be. I love how creative I am.
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  I love how kind I can be. I love how passionate I am about
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  XYZ inside or outside. Just what are you thankful for?
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  What do you love about you? What makes you you?
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  I know I can talk underwater, but my friends actually love
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  that about me because I don't dim my light.
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  I am not going to quieten my voice if I have something to
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  share because that makes me, me. I love that I share my opinion
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  and I tell the truth the best that I can.
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  I love that about me. I want you to do something for
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  yourself that you would normally talk yourself out of in the fear
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  that you might be too much. And this, this 100 percent, 110,
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  I should say even more than that, like out of this world.
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  I had so much fear about things in my life about.
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  And I don't know, as I said, I can talk a lot.
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  I do have a constant fear. I don't as much now I'm a bit
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  more confident in myself and my abilities to judge situations.
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  But I always had that in the back of my mind of, oh, am I
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  talking too much? Am I wearing too much makeup?
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  Am I wearing not enough makeup? Is my outfit too much?
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  Is it too Larry? Is it too like you always have
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  those thoughts going through your head and then you talk
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  yourself out of doing something or talking to that person or
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  going to talk to that parent because you're panicking.
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  So do something that you would normally take.
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  Talk yourself out of before you go to bed.
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  Say to yourself if you need an affirmation to tell yourself
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  before you go to sleep. My light serves the world.
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  My light serves the world. Because it does.
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  Your light does serve the world. Do this for a week and see how
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  your energy shifts. Just try it.
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  Just please me by trying it. So here's your little reminder.
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  Do not play down your awesomeness out of fear of what
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  other people will think. Do not do that, please.
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  The people who can't handle your light, they're not your people.
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  They are not your people. OK?
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  Move on. They are not for you.
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  The world needs you exactly as you are.
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  Sparkles, quirks came up, bargains and all.
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  OK, And that pretty much is what my husband tells me, that the
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  world needs you. The world needs to hear what
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  you've got to say because I'm sick of hearing it.
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  But again, he he wasn't trying to dim my light.
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  He was just saying you need to, I want to sort of guide your
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  light into this direction. I hope you had a laugh at that
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  too. But that, my friend, it's an
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  absolute miracle that we can all create right now.
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  Letting your light shine. OK, So please, please go let
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  your light shine. Be amazing for your students,
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  for your friends, for your family.
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  Be yourself. Let your light shine.
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  And if this episode lit lit you up, that is a really good book
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  for you to read. Gabby Bernstein's book about
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  miracles. Now it is a book that you can
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  sort of you don't have to just sit down and read in one go.
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  You can actually just chop and change because she's done it in
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  such a way that you can just go back to it and feed little bits
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  and pieces. It's done in numbers.
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  So you could just read a number of the miracles and and we'll
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  all sort of play out for you. She's then made, I'm just trying
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  to look up the I'm picking up the box now.
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  So she's also got an inspirational affirmation and
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  life changing tools sort of card deck that's built from the book
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  that has all of the affirmations that she's written about.
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  So what she sort of does is she sort of gives you an idea.
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  So she this one was like letting your light shine.
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  Then she talks about what that looks like and how that came
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  about for her. And then an affirmation.
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  So there's like 105 of them. So you don't have to read them
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  all in one go. But it's it's just something
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  that I can go back to over and over again if I need a reminder
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  of how powerful we're we really are.
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  And if you're ready to step into that power with me, keep
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  listening to the podcast because we're only just getting started
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  here. This is only the beginning.
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  I've only just started this year, and I have so much more
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  that I would love to share with you and say to you just all of
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  those things. OK?
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  So Please remember to not dim your light this week.
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  I want you to go out and shine your light to the world.
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  Do the things that you love and that you love to do.
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  You love you love to do. Yeah, that makes sense.
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  Stay aligned, keep thriving. And in Case No one's told you
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  today, you are amazing, OK? And if this episode hasn't
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  taught you that already, I hope you're getting the message.
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  Go shine your light. You're amazing.
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  You are loved, and I will talk to you again next time.
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  I am so blessed that I have this opportunity to share with all of
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  you. So go and share all of your
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  special amazingness with the world.
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  Talk to you next time. Bye, guys.