Why You Feel Watched (And Why You're Not)

Logosofia no Dia a Dia · May 1, 2026 · 33m

Ever feel like everyone's staring when you're just sitting on a bench or eating alone? This episode unpacks the spotlight effect — the psychological bias that makes us think we're far more noticed than we actually are. We explore where this self-consciousness comes from (formative experiences, high-surveillance environments like Jerusalem, social communities), why knowing about the bias doesn't make it go away, and what actually works to reduce it: exposure therapy, cognitive defusion, and the liberating power of anonymity. Plus, the illusion of transparency and why other people like you more…