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Are Tradwives Taking Over + Trump's Crazy Iran Messaging | LIVE · The Lila Rose Show

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Hey, we're going live. It's Wednesday.
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There's a new study out that says that 47% of Gen.
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Z wants to be trad wives. I don't know if you heard that.
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And it's only 23% that want to be girl bosses.
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We're going to be unpacking this.
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Where's the culture at right now with what it means to be a woman
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and what is the right view of women?
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What should we be aiming for as women?
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We're also going to get into the Iran war.
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I had some takes yesterday online that went that little bit
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controversial, at least among some people.
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We're going to be unpacking that.
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Thank God we're in a ceasefire right now.
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But this is something that I think all Americans, especially
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us, who care about peace and wanting to protect the dignity
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of human beings, should be thinking about.
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Welcome back to the Lila Roe show.
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All right, so this caught my eye recently.
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You have heard these phrases, girl boss, trad wife.
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We hear about women and all the time and what they should be or
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they shouldn't be. There's a lot of discourse about
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this and there's a whole generation of young women.
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There's certainly Gen. Alpha, even younger than Gen.
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Z. And then there's Gen.
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Z who are making their way in the world and trying to discover
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what is my purpose? How should I live out my life in
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this one life that I have? How should I show up as a woman?
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What kinds of careers or jobs should I pursue?
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Should I get married? How do I get married?
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Should I have kids? All of these are the questions
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that young girls and young men are asking themselves.
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Of course, there's more specific questions for men, but we are
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asking ourselves these questions.
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And there's a little bit of a history I want to do here about
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millennials versus Gen. Z versus Gen.
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Xers and how we've gotten to come around these terms and come
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to understand these terms. But first, I want us to take a
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look at this video about a survey that Fox News News has
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been promoting over the last few days that concluded that 47% of
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Gen. Z girls said that they would
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they wanted to be trad wives as opposed to 23% of them who said
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they wanted to be girl bosses. Let's take a listen to this Fox
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News clip. For so long there was this
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feminist movement that tried to push and tell us that we should
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all just kind of put aside wanting to start a family.
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Don't worry about getting married, don't worry about
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having kids. You should solely focus on your
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career. And I know so many women and you
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probably do too, Rachel, who got to a certain age and realized,
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wait a minute, this is something I actually want.
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And in many cases, they either had a huge struggle to have
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children or they couldn't do it at all.
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And they were left absolutely devastated.
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So we can give this a little pause.
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So this has been going viral because I think it's hitting a
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nerve. It's hitting a very real nerve
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because it is a fact that women have undergone societally huge
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shifts in the last several decades.
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Of course, it's significantly impacted men.
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It's 100% impacted children. It impacts every part of
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society. What is this shift?
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Well, since 3rd wave and then the subsequent 4th wave, 5th
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wave, maybe there will be a 6th wave.
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Feminisms. We have this now mentality today
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that women and men are not only equal under the law and equal
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indignity, but that women should be able to do do anything that a
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man does. That includes not be pregnant,
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that includes going to the workforce and not be shackled by
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children. That we need to have women in
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STEM the same amount that we have men.
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I think about Sheryl Sandberg and she was a COO of Facebook.
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She wrote the book Lean In. She had this very controversial
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view in the book that we need at least 50% of women in the people
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in the boardroom to be women. So it needs to be 5050 women and
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men. I wonder if Cheryl has that view
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about active duty people on the front lines in combat.
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Should it be 50% percent women, 50% men?
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But it's this idea that we need to push women more into the
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workforce. Now, I have a lot of thoughts on
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this. I've talked about this before in
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the show, but I think it's really important.
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It's important because it matters how we raise our
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daughters. I have a daughter.
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It matters how we think about ourselves as women, if we're
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wives and mothers or aspiring wives and mothers.
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And so I first, I'm going to take issue with these terms and
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unpack them a little bit. And then I'm going to point to
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what I think is the right view at large of womanhood.
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But first, this this survey that Fox News has been promoting, 47%
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of Gen. Z women want to be trad wives
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today, as opposed to 23% want to be girl bosses.
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There's already an issue with the survey.
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So it's a little bit tricky to call this some sort of, you
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know, definitive study that's done on what girls today really
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think. They they got this survey from a
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essay writing service website that does uncontrolled online
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polling. So it basically was an online
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poll. And they also didn't define what
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these words meant for people who clicked the buttons on the poll.
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So in that sense, we don't know that we have a representative
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sample size. We don't know what women were
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thinking when they clicked the terms.
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If I had to pick between as an example, I was given only two
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options, Lila, you have to be a girl boss or you have to be a
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trad wife. I would 100% pick trad wife
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because girl boss basically sounds like I'm immature,
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focusing only on work and I don't care about marriage and
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family or God, which is all the most important things.
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So those are all issues. But underneath here there is a
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real current happening, and that's what I want to get to.
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So the memes of girlboss and tradwife have actually been
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along for a long, have been around for a long time.
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They're kind of becoming more of the common lexicon today.
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But girlboss was actually a fixture of 2010's, 2010's
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millennial feminism. So you might remember some of
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these older brands which were originated with the title of a
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memoir by the CEO of Nasty Gal. Which is a terrible.
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Brand name in my view, Sofia Amoroso, who said that she that
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the girl boss became that as a girl boss.
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She's a symbol of an era that explodes throughout Silicon
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Valley of prosperity of women who are being the leaders, the
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entrepreneurs. The CEO's then enters in Sheryl
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Sandberg and lean in. I remember being gifted.
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That book, I think maybe 15 years ago, and she wrote Lean In
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about this idea of women should double down.
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On being successful in the workforce.
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Now there's some things about that that I think are true and
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there's some dangers there that I think are problematic.
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We'll get into that in a moment, but then we've got trad wife and
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trad wife as this kind of meme answers the lexicon later.
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It was actually originally a 4 Chan me.
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I don't know if you can pull up this link Harris for trad wife
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being a 4 Chan mean, but it gained popularity mostly in the
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early 2020. So that's kind of a COVID post
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COVID aesthetic that became very popular on Instagram and TikTok.
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You have creators on Instagram and TikTok influencers like
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Hannah Neilman of ballerina farms and Nora Smith who are not
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very political, but they present the trad wife aesthetic as
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understood to be the trad wife aesthetic.
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Now, interestingly enough, these to women are not necessarily
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themselves branding themselves as trad wives.
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They're not saying I am a trad wife, but they're representing
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an aesthetic where they're with their kids a lot, they're
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working from home a lot. They're still very successful
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and beautiful, but they're very feminine.
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They often work very closely with their husbands.
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They're often cooking in their kitchens on camera and that
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represents at least has an aesthetic of a more traditional
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lifestyle. Now interestingly, Nara Smith
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has even said publicly recently that she's not a trad wife
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actually want to play this clip Harris if you can pull it so
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this is she's an extremely popular tick tocker and
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Instagram or and she is very lovely.
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She has several children, she's cooking in her kitchen while
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she's all glammed up. And she talks here about how
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actually, even though my aesthetic is commonly understood
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to be the trad wife aesthetic today, that's not actually how I
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identify. So we'll pull up this clip from
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Nara. They use me as this poster child
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of this like very traditional wife, and I'm not.
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There's nothing truly traditional about us as a couple
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apart from maybe that we chose to have kids young and get
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married young. But apart from that we split
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chores. 5050 There's things that Lucky does that I guess
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traditional men wouldn't do, like do the dishes or get the
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kids dressed. And there's things that I do
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like having a full time and having Lucky be home watching
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the children while I travel for two weeks.
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All right, so there she's saying very definitively, like I'm gone
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for two weeks and my husband's watching the kids.
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Like that is not typically the trade aesthetic at all.
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But I think what's universal here?
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Is that there is a natural order to being a woman.
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And I think separately, there's a natural order to masculinity
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that has a drive to, yes, reproduce, to create a family,
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to bring new life into the world, to find purpose in family
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and to find purpose in caring for that family.
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And as a woman, you naturally care for your family first and
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foremost through conceiving life, through nurturing life in
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your body, through delivering that life, nurturing life at
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your chest, through nurturing the life.
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Of this little young one and being there for them through
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mothering. Similarly, the the father does
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fathering but in a dissimilar way and that he's not nurturing
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the baby this with the way a mother will he'll he's
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protecting and providing. So there is this.
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Innate, I would say gender role that is very much connected to
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how we are designed. But how that looks couple to
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couple, person to person, is going to be very different.
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And that's where we get into the question of what is God's
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design? What is the universal
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prescription, if there is one for?
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Women in how they should identify as trad wife or how
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they should be trad wife, girl boss, whatever it is.
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And I think the answer that I'm going to give on this show is
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one that's going to be very freeing, I hope, and one that
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will, I hope, connect and resonate at a very deep level.
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For. Both men and women who listen
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before I get into that though, I want to look at another clip
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that's been circulating. This was a bit of a part of a
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controversial conversation controversial like I should say
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among some by the way, anything on the Internet becomes
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controversial. You guys, I'm sure you've seen
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this. So it's funny when I say it's
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controversial, you can literally post like I like Cheez its and
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it's. Controversial because cheez its
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are completely toxic for your body so it really you can do
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controversial things anytime any day by just giving any take
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because someone out there is going to disagree with you
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probably. Passionately, but this interview
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was between Caroline Lovett and I believe Erica Kirk, and it was
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about motherhood and work. Let's take a quick listen to
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this clip from Caroline Lovett, who's the press secretary for
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Donald Trump. You can and you should do both
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because actually being a mom and and having a family and having a
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job, it gives you the greatest perspective because you you can
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have the hardest, worst, most stressful day at your job.
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But when you go home to a beautiful baby and children who
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are just happy to see you no matter what, it is the most
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refreshing, beautiful thing and it gives you the best
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perspective on life like nothing else matters except for that you
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can and you should. So I love this last bit of what
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she's saying about how there's nothing more perspective giving
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than having children. And I think there's nothing more
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valuable. I think she was indicating that
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this first part there, she says you can and you should do both
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talking about work and motherhood.
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And this is where it gets tricky, right?
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So she's kind of giving offhand. I don't think this is like her
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main campaign of what she's trying to communicate.
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Caroline, I think she says a lot of lovely things, but this
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prescription of you can and you should do both.
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You can be a mother and you can and you should and you can work
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and you should do both. I think this is where we get
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into danger. We get into danger generally
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when we give universal prescriptions, universal
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prescriptions, meaning they're for all people and they're a
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prescription. It's like what you should do.
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We lay it out for all people, and we call that gospel.
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I think we can give principles and we should give principles,
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and Holy Scripture as Christians gives us principles.
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Our faith gives us beautiful principles, eternal truths for
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how we should. Anchor and structure our lives.
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But to give specific prescriptions for how to live
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out that life in terms of a marriage and how we set up our
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household, in terms of the economic aspects of our
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household, in terms of the details of our child care, all
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of this, how we raise our children, this is where it gets
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tricky. It gets tricky to give very
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specific prescriptions as somehow Word of God.
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This is how it needs to be. This is what God's law is for
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things that can be ultimately very much subjective and based
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on the discernment of the couple.
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And I think we can do principles and we should do principles, but
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we have to be careful with prescriptions.
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And so I would say the title of trad wife versus the title of
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girl boss misses the mark. It misses the mark and the title
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that I would like to use besides daughter of God, which is what I
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am, what you are. If you're a woman listening.
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If you're a man listening, you. Are you are?
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Called to be a son of God is the Proverbs 31 woman.
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In all of Scripture there are some key examples of womanhood
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that should inspire us and should give us a vision for
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womanhood. While not giving us every
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prescriptive detail, it can give us principles 1 of this.
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One of these examples is embodied in a human being in
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Mary, the Mother of God, and how she served God and loved God and
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was courageously obedient to God.
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And then another one is actually a written out prescription in
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Proverbs 31 about what this woman is that surpasses all
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other women. And I want to unpack some of
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Proverbs 31 and talk about why I think it is so countercultural,
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even for today, and why I think it is so essential for women to
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understand studies Proverbs 31 and be inspired by it.
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All right, so before we get into universal principles for women,
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not prescriptions of your details of your life, but
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principles for how we're called to live, I believe as daughters
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of God and as Christians, I want to just say a big thank you to
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everybody for your love and your prayers.
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I shared on social media last week some very personal news
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that my husband and I had gotten pregnant and we were expecting
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our baby. We have three living children.
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We've at the time had one in heaven.
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So this was my fifth pregnancy and I was so thrilled to
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discover I was pregnant. We were hoping to have more
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children. Of course, it's totally in God's
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hands, but it was such a joy to see that positive pregnancy test
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and just feel overwhelmed by the generosity of God and just know
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that God has a plan for this. And then the day of Live
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Action's Young Leader Summit, which we had I think 1600 young
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people in Anaheim, CA, was a beautiful event that day.
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Actually, after I gave a talk and we had just amazing.
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People there, I started experiencing miscarriage
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symptoms and I'm just sharing this because I did already share
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some of this through social media, just wrote something and
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put it out there. But it was very public because
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that happened at that event and some of the people there learned
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about it. I shared it with some friends.
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They, they asked the folks there to pray for me, which I was so
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grateful for. Honestly, I was so deeply moved
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to get so many messages from you all saying you were praying for
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me. It meant the world to me.
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Anyways, in the following days we did pass.
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Our baby we lost our little one. I know this little guy is in
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heaven. That's what life is all about in
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the end is total and perfect union with God.
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Our children are not our own. And so I know that as painful as
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miscarriage can be, it is just a reminder that these are not my
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children in that sense. These are God's children and we
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are entrusted with them for whatever time on earth we have,
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whether it's our life or their life, and that the end game is
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for our children to be in heaven with God.
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And so it was painful to lose this little guy.
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You know, it's very early on in the pregnancy, but it was also
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very peace filled because I knew that this child is in the arms
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of Jesus. And so I just wanted to thank
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everybody for praying for me, for praying for our family.
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Thank you for your love and your concern for all the moms out
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there, the women and the dads who have gone through
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miscarriage and and child loss. I'm so sorry for your pain.
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I know how difficult it can be. But I just want to remind us and
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encourage us that we have eternity in front of us, an
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eternity we will have with our children.
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And when we put our trust in Jesus Christ, we can trust that
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we will have that eternity with those little ones that we love.
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And we've lost far too soon. It feels too soon, of course.
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So anyways, wanted to share that.
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Thank you for the love and the prayers.
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And my heart just goes out to any mom and dad experiencing it.
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It's very painful to lose a child, but I'm so excited to
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know that this side, the other on the other side, right after
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this life has passed in eternity.
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We will be together once again and I'm feeling back to normal.
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I'm, you know, keep powering through.
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And I've got a lot of things in my life to pour my heart out
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into. Most importantly, my amazing
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husband, our three beautiful children this side of eternity.
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That we have in this lifestyle and there's just a lot of a lot
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of beautiful things to focus on, people to focus on.
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So, as sad as it can be, it is, I think, easy.
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To not get lost in the sadness when there's so much opportunity
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to love right in front of me and also the needs you know, I've
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got. We've got an almost 2 year old,
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we've got our four and six year old.
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There's plenty of love to pour out and I'm very grateful for
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that because I know some couples, they'll miscarriage
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their first baby, they'll not have any other children.
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Their first baby will be a miscarriage, miscarried.
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And that's a special kind of pain, I think, because.
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You're the love that you just want to pour.
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Doesn't feel like it has a place to go.
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But I do believe God can give us those opportunities for love if
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we just ask him and open our hearts up.
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You know, the person that we meet on the street, you know,
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extended family members or someone in our church community.
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People need love. And so if you feel like a sense
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of deep loss or pain, a good rule of thumb is find somebody.
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To love, find somebody to love and that actually transforms the
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experience of suffering and and of course, allow yourself to be
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loved too. So anyways, huge thank you to
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everybody for your prayers. Let's get into womanhood now.
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Girl bossing trad wifing I want to do proverb Proverbs 31
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womaning. That's what I want to do.
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Let's deep dive Proverbs 31 OK Proverbs 31 is attributed to
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King Lemuel who was sometimes as said is is to be a pseudonym for
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King Solomon. So it's this, you know, ancient
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Israelite king ultimately, and in this chapter there, King
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Lemuel, or maybe King Solomon is giving advice on righteous
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leadership and. Praising basically this ideal
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woman like instructing his future offspring sons about the
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kind of woman that he should marry.
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Now there is a. In in this, where we're going to
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read through parts of it, there's a lot of details about
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what this woman is doing and how she behaves.
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It opens with the words of King Lemuel.
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What are you doing, my son? What are you doing, son of my
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womb? What are you doing, son of my
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vows? Do not give your strength to
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women, your ways to those who destroy kings.
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It is not for kings, O Lemuel. It is not for kings to drink
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wine or for rulers to take strong drink.
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So there's all of this basically leadership advice.
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Open your mouth for the mute, for the rights of all who are
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destitute. Judge righteously.
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Then it gets into the wife. So these are leadership advice
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for how you should behave as a man, as a king, an excellent
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wife who can find she is far more precious than jewels.
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Her, the heart of her husband, trusts in her, and he will have
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no lack of game. Now when I first read this
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before I was married, I was like, I want to be her.
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I want to be this lady, I want to learn from her anyways so
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that I can become a great wife one day and a great mother one
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day. And it says she does him good
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and not harm all the days of her life.
21:31
Then it gets into a bunch of hardcore operational work that
21:35
this woman is involved in. Now very important note this is
21:39
not to say that what the exact details of what proverbs. 31
21:42
woman was doing is what you should do or what I should do
21:45
this is very important the exact details of how.
21:48
Mother Mary lived her life is not the exact details of how you
21:50
and I should live her life. In fact, we don't know a lot
21:53
about the exact details of Mother Mary's life.
21:54
Maybe for good reason. Maybe because we'd all get
21:56
really obsessed and think that's exactly how I'm supposed to
21:58
live. And actually, that's not God's
22:00
call for us individually. But there are principles in how
22:04
she showed up, what her modus operandi was, Proverbs 31 woman,
22:07
that I think we can all glean from and principles that we can
22:11
all follow. So there's a few things to talk
22:14
about big picture about Prophet 31.
22:16
First of all, this is a countercultural woman.
22:19
She's countercultural. And I think virtually every
22:22
Christian woman is called to a form of counterculturalism
22:26
because in every age there is evils of the age because of
22:29
original sin, because of the woundedness of the human soul.
22:33
And there is there is evil in every age that we have to
22:36
combat. And often those evils are going
22:38
to just be recycled. I mean, they're always recycled
22:40
evils of past ages. There's nothing new under the
22:43
sun. As the Bible tells us there is
22:45
evils that get recycled. Child sacrifice, abortion,
22:48
recycled evil, obsession with material goods, consumerism,
22:52
recycled evil, right, sexual perversions, recycled evils,
22:57
rejection of God's moral law, any number of those rejections,
23:02
all recycled evils. Nothing is new under the sun.
23:04
Sometimes certain evils pop up more than others in different
23:07
eras. That is the that is par for the
23:10
course. We as Christians are called to
23:12
be countercultural. So the Proverbs 31 woman was
23:15
countercultural for her norm, for the ancient norm, I should
23:18
say, of women in many surrounding cultures.
23:20
In ancient times, women were largely confined to domestic
23:24
invisibility. So they were very much in the.
23:26
Household. Sometimes they could be used as,
23:28
you know, concubines or sex slaves, or conquered in wartime,
23:33
but ultimately they were largely confined to domestic
23:35
invisibility. They didn't have a lot of public
23:37
agency and they had limited economic activity as well.
23:41
But the But Solomon's proverbs Solomon's proverb 31 women, she
23:46
engages in commerce. So in Proverbs 31, you hear
23:49
about how the woman considers a field and buys it.
23:52
She goes out and reviews basically real estate.
23:56
It talks about how she manages production and trade.
23:58
She perceives that her merchandise is profitable.
24:00
She goes and does trading. It talks about how.
24:04
She plans in the future well-being of her family estate.
24:09
She goes out and provides her her household in winter to make
24:12
sure they have all the goods that they need.
24:14
It talks about how she operates with authority and competence in
24:17
managing her household and the household economy, not just
24:20
dependency. So she's not a passive figure.
24:23
She's a builder of the household and the economy in the home, and
24:27
she's someone that is very intelligent and she's taking
24:30
initiative in family life. It also is very striking that at
24:33
the end of Proverbs 31 it says that she shall be praised in the
24:37
gates. The gates are a basically a
24:40
figure as a center of a civic life.
24:42
This is where the pole, you know, village or city comes
24:46
together to see what's happening in the city.
24:49
It's sort of like the pedestal of the city to know what's
24:51
happening. Her work is not hidden.
24:54
It's publicly honored. It's publicly known and it's
24:56
publicly honored today. This vision, I believe, is still
25:00
countercultural because I think that, well, women in the past
25:06
may have been devoid of rights and recognition.
25:09
Modern women today, I think, are actually overexposed so.
25:13
We. Have this opposite problem today
25:16
where Proverbs 31 The Proverbs 31 of today should well how?
25:22
How does she show up today? What is a Proverbs?
25:24
31 one woman look like today, well, contrary to what our
25:27
culture might push with materialism, with consumerism,
25:32
and today she is a Provost. 31 woman would be disciplined in a
25:36
culture of indulgence. So she would practice discipline
25:39
to ensure that her household has what they need and so that
25:43
they're also prepared to be able to give away to the poor because
25:45
that's part of Proverbs 31. You're generous and extending
25:50
your hands to the needy and extending your hands to all of
25:52
the people that you. You know, work.
25:54
Alongside, because she has all these household workers, she
25:57
does business with other people. I think today our culture tends
26:00
towards self protection, a rejection of generosity.
26:04
So we can tend towards indulgence, we can tend towards
26:06
self protection. She is economically and
26:09
intellectually capable, but she's not consumed with status.
26:12
I think today we're obsessed with how we appear.
26:15
We want to look good. We want to have a level of fame
26:19
or notoriety. We want to be popular Today.
26:23
That was not Proverbs 31. That woman's focus, she was not
26:28
on her Instagram trying to build a brand for the sake of her own,
26:33
you know, popularity and, and ego.
26:35
Now, I'm not saying that today you can't build a brand on
26:38
social media. And that can be a Proverbs 31
26:40
activity. I think it definitely can be.
26:42
But it's oriented towards service of her husband, her
26:45
children, her, her staff at her household and the poor.
26:50
That's how it's oriented. That's what the purpose was, Not
26:53
for self exaltation, but. For.
26:56
Service of others and it's also oriented.
27:00
Proverbs 31 woman is oriented towards real people, towards her
27:03
husband, towards her children, towards her household, the
27:07
people who worked in her household and towards her
27:09
community and the poor in her community.
27:11
It's not just an abstract audience.
27:13
It's not just like whoever happens to hear this message.
27:16
There's concrete people that she is serving.
27:18
So I think that the Proverbs 31 message today for the girl boss
27:23
or for the trad wife is still very important.
27:28
For the girl. Boss, because it's saying no,
27:29
no, no. Your work here is under God in
27:33
service of family, in service of other people, out of love for
27:36
them. And you could say for the trad
27:38
wife, it's saying, yes, love your family, love your husband,
27:41
love your kids. But you should still care about
27:43
the poor in your community. You should still care about
27:46
working hard to use your talents to support other people who are
27:51
in need and to make sure that you are serving, you know, yes,
27:55
your family first, but being a generous for the community,
27:59
again, for every person, this is going to look different.
28:01
So we can't prescribe one thing one-size-fits-all, but the
28:04
principles here are generosity. It's attention to the care of
28:08
others in your family 1st and then beyond.
28:11
And it's using your gifts and talents, your God-given gifts
28:15
and talents to serve other people.
28:18
The Proverbs 31 woman is not passive.
28:20
She's active and she's doing it in service of others.
28:23
Another just high level thing about the Proverbs 31 woman is
28:27
that and about this Holy Scripture and it's teaching
28:30
about women is that women and men are equal in dignity will
28:35
distinct in form. So our Christian tradition is
28:39
very countercultural in this way.
28:41
It's so countercultural. In Paul's letter to the
28:44
Galatians, St. Paul, he writes there is neither
28:46
Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free.
28:51
There is neither male nor female.
28:53
You are all one in Jesus Christ. He's saying that in Jesus Christ
28:57
you are equal, equal in dignity. The Imago day, how God designed
29:02
us is equal in dignity in in an image of him.
29:06
A man and a woman is equally in the image of God and in Jesus
29:10
Christ. There's no social status in
29:12
class in Jesus Christ. There's no ethnic divides in
29:16
Jesus Christ. There's no divides of the sex,
29:19
the reproductive ability. You are all one in Jesus.
29:22
Christ, this is a radically subversive idea even for today.
29:27
Because today I think there is a lot of talk about the benefits
29:31
of diversity. There's a lot of talk about
29:33
equality. But today we go the opposite
29:36
direction of totally destroying any differences because we say
29:40
differences are somehow bad, but there can't be any differences.
29:43
No, You're equal in dignity, but you are different.
29:46
Men and women are not interchangeable.
29:50
They're not. This is where I think Sheryl
29:52
Sandberg can get some things wrong.
29:54
This is where the girl boss can, you know, boss too close to the
29:56
sun and you start to melt because you are not the same as
29:59
a man. And that's a good thing.
30:02
That doesn't mean you can't use your talents.
30:04
You can't work hard, you can't have great careers and and make
30:07
a huge impact on society, but you are designed as a woman.
30:10
And if you're married, you should be open to life.
30:12
And if you're open to life, you're very well likely going to
30:15
become a mother. And becoming a mother will
30:17
change how you interact with the world.
30:20
It will change how you interact with work.
30:22
And those changes are not bad. Those are not shackles that we
30:26
have to reject. Oh, I hate this that I have, you
30:28
know, and now I can't compete the same as a man in the
30:31
workplace because now I have this baby.
30:32
No, that's a blessing. That baby is a blessing.
30:35
And that is where the trad wife, I think aesthetic is.
30:38
So, you know, tempting for a lot of women.
30:41
It's so attractive because we are wired for that.
30:44
We are wired to want to make nutritious food for our
30:46
children. We are wired.
30:48
Maybe we don't like the cooking process, but we like the
30:50
nurturing. We want to nurture that baby and
30:51
make sure they're healthy. We are wired to be the the
30:55
mother that our children are, that our children need.
30:58
That is innate to us. And we can fight that wiring.
31:01
We can have wounded that hurts that woundedness that hurts that
31:04
wiring, but that is how we are wired.
31:07
And so the, this idea that we're not interchangeable as men and
31:10
women comes down to the sexual difference.
31:12
Our reproductive difference as men and women is our difference.
31:15
That is the, that is the whole difference.
31:17
So it really comes down to only I can be a mother, only I can
31:21
carry that child and nurture that child.
31:22
And only a man can then provide, I think a special amount of
31:26
provision and protection that in that moment, the woman is not
31:29
able to provide because she's so busy nurturing.
31:31
And so we can build all kinds of, in our discernment, in our
31:35
wisdom, we can build all sorts of systems for our household to
31:37
protect the mother's responsibility and that
31:40
beautiful role of mothering and to ensure the father can step
31:45
strongly into that role of fathering.
31:47
And that often is going to look like protection and provision
31:49
for the man. And that's going to look like
31:51
maybe the woman not always being so out front and, you know,
31:54
being in the corporate office 10 hours a day because she is
31:56
giving her child what that child needs, which is.
31:59
Her. Primarily, and so this is where
32:01
we can draw a principle as a woman, if you are married,
32:05
here's your order. God first service to God and his
32:10
moral law Service to Jesus Christ and loving him and
32:14
seeking his will husband next and your husband is God's gift
32:18
now to you for to how you can even love God.
32:21
It's so cool that with my husband.
32:22
I look at my husband Isaac and I think what a gift that the way I
32:25
love Jesus is loving my husband like that is how I get to love
32:29
God is through my husband and you honor him and you love him
32:32
and you respect him. And then if you're blessed with
32:35
children, children next, raising those children up in in God's
32:41
plan, giving them the formation that they need, the nurture,
32:44
showering them with love, right? That is what they need.
32:47
And then yes. Using your gifts and talents to
32:49
do that work, and then to use your gifts and talents to get
32:52
involved in economic activity, building career, doing ministry,
32:56
serving other people. There's a ton of other stuff you
32:58
can do around and inside that. And in my life that looks like
33:02
Live Action, I get to lead this incredible organization that is
33:05
just getting started in many ways to end abortion and build a
33:08
culture of life. It's this show.
33:10
It's GTB Media and this amazing new platform we're building
33:13
there to serve mothers and families.
33:15
It is. Yeah.
33:16
Managing my household and the people who helped make my work
33:18
possible. Managing the amazing teams that
33:21
exist at GTB and at Live Action, and empowering other people to
33:25
do a lot of the work. Because what I love that
33:28
Proverbs 31 woman does is that she involves other people in her
33:31
work. She has other teams and Staffs,
33:34
staff that she works with to help her basically serve her
33:38
family and serve the community. So I think it's dangerous for us
33:42
to go either extreme, either the extreme of overstating the
33:46
difference between men and women to try to shrink women into
33:49
these narrow roles and bury their talents, or to also erase
33:54
the difference between men and women and pretend like women
33:57
don't have a special role in mothering and being there for
34:00
their children. That leads us to abandon our
34:03
real responsibilities to our family.
34:05
The biblical vision of the Proverbs 31 women and the
34:08
biblical vision of Saint Paul and what we learned about the
34:11
life of Mary and what we. Learned from Holy Scripture and
34:13
the teachings of the Church. The biblical vision avoids both
34:16
extremes, and that's why it's so great.
34:19
It's so amazing to be a Christian, especially a
34:22
Catholic, you know, a Catholic Christian, because we are given
34:25
so many beautiful principles by which we can anchor and guide
34:29
our life. And so at the end of the day,
34:31
the Proverbs 31 woman is capable.
34:34
She is. A.
34:35
Strong woman. She is responsible, she is wise
34:40
and she is rooted in obligation. First obligation to her husband.
34:44
The heart of her husband trusts in her and he will have no lack
34:47
of gain. She does him good and not harm.
34:50
All the days of her life she is responsible to her household.
34:56
She provides for them. She makes the household stable.
35:00
She has foresight for the needs of the home.
35:03
She is responsible to the poor. It says she opens her hands to
35:07
the needy and she is responsible to the future she plans.
35:11
It says that she laughs at the days to come.
35:14
This is not some girl bossing expressive individualism or self
35:18
optimization or actualization. This is purposeful, outward
35:23
facing competence. She is competent.
35:26
And she is, most importantly, virtuous.
35:29
And I think it's such a freeing view of womanhood.
35:32
I'm going to read a few more lines here that are just so
35:34
beautiful. She's not afraid of snow for her
35:37
household, for all her household are clothed in scarlet.
35:41
She makes bed coverings for herself.
35:42
Her clothing is fine, lemon and purple.
35:45
Her husband is known in the gates when he sits among the
35:48
elders of the land. She makes linen garments and
35:51
sells them. She delivers sashes to the
35:52
merchant. Strength and dignity are her
35:55
clothing. And she laughs at the days to
35:57
come. She opens her mouth with wisdom,
36:00
and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
36:03
Her tongue. She looks well to the ways of
36:05
her household. And she doesn't eat the bread of
36:07
idleness, her children. Rise up and call her blessed her
36:11
husband also, and he praises her.
36:13
Many women have done excellently, but you surpass
36:16
them all. Charm is deceitful and beauty is
36:18
vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
36:21
Give her the fruit of her hands. Let her works be praised in the
36:23
gates. So no, no trad wife, no girl
36:27
boss, let's go Proverbs 31, ladies, and let's discover what
36:31
God is calling us to. And let's live passionately,
36:35
develop our virtue and love, love with our whole hearts.
36:39
That is our path. And I'm here to help as best I
36:43
can with this little podcast. So thank you for listening in.
36:45
All right, let's go to our next topic here really quick.
36:48
This one again, this is the extremes of the culture, guys.
36:52
Women are throwing self celebrations at age 40 who are
36:55
unmarried and motherless. Or childless I should say.
36:59
Maybe they were motherless too. Actually, this is a New York
37:01
Times article, guys. Let's pull this up.
37:03
A wedding weekend, no spouse required.
37:06
It profiles an affluent single woman who is in her 40s throwing
37:09
herself a big party that looks like a wedding.
37:11
She wears A gown that looks like a white gown.
37:13
She gives speeches. There's photo montages and
37:15
themed events. This woman named Brittany Allen
37:19
had this at this English estate celebration.
37:22
It had 4 million views online, highlighting her wish for the
37:25
joy she waited for. And obviously, there's a ton of
37:28
reactions to this. I actually want to pull up a
37:30
couple because they were interesting.
37:32
This is from Liz Wolf, who is a writer.
37:36
And over at Reason magazine, let's pull this up, Harris, if
37:40
we can. She quotes from the article.
37:43
And she says so much of our adult lives are spent marking
37:47
the traditional milestones you hear about your whole life,
37:50
engagements, marriages, babies, first home.
37:52
So this is about this woman who's throwing her herself, you
37:54
know, actualization party at 40? Miss Bart, 43, said for women
37:58
who aren't partnered, there's often no external occasion
38:00
prompting this kind of celebration, so creating one
38:03
yourself is a genuine declaration of self worth.
38:05
It's basically saying like I matter, I'm important.
38:07
Even though I'm not married, I don't have the baby, I'm not
38:09
engaged, I don't I don't own a home, I'm still important.
38:12
Now I'm. Going to read.
38:13
What Liz has to say. But first I have to say yes,
38:15
you're still important. You're made in the image of God.
38:17
You have more value than the, than anything you can even
38:20
imagine in your mind. Like you are so precious.
38:24
Where's your value though? Are you putting your value in
38:27
this party and in like creating this kind of faux wedding
38:31
milestone? Or is in your value your
38:33
identity as a daughter of God? Liz Wolf weighs in and she says
38:37
this totally misunderstands why we celebrate milestones.
38:40
Having a child or getting married isn't in any way a
38:42
declaration of self worth, nor is that the thing that really
38:45
needs declaring. Weddings and baby showers and
38:47
baptisms are celebrations of the formation of the most essential
38:50
building block of society, the family.
38:52
And there is a somber element, a seriousness to those things.
38:56
Our community is called together to recognize that they must see
38:59
us through the good times and the hard times.
39:01
That's part of why people gravitate towards churches to
39:04
mark milestones. Life isn't just a series of
39:06
aesthetic pursuits. Please believe there is so much
39:08
more than that. Yes, completely agree with Liz
39:11
here. You are a daughter of God.
39:13
This woman throwing in this party for herself is a daughter
39:16
of God. But again, it's like our
39:17
obsession with experience and consumerism where we're trying
39:20
to cling to identities, right? Or cling to a sense of meaning
39:24
when meaning is ultimately found in your relationship to God and
39:27
who he created you to be and other people and and you can
39:30
have incredible meaning in your life.
39:32
You can be have a life full of love and purpose and not be
39:36
married. It is possible.
39:38
Now, most people are called to marriage and I would encourage
39:40
them. Make that a huge priority in
39:42
your life. Prepare for that.
39:44
Be open to love. You know, date.
39:46
We do a lot of dating talks on this show, but some people may
39:49
not marry in this life or they might be called to maybe a
39:52
religious vocation. You are still called to love, to
39:55
be loved. You are still a daughter or son
39:56
of God. You still have a purpose to use
39:59
your talents to serve the world. All of that still stands.
40:03
Here's another comment. Let's pull this up, the last one
40:05
on the list from Mary Vinny. This is just kind of an
40:08
interesting comment from the Internet that we that I saw
40:12
going to be controversial. And say coming up with excuses
40:15
to throw big events for your friends and family is good.
40:17
Actually, I have 26 cousins and weddings used to be our way of
40:20
organizing family. Most of us are partnered now, so
40:22
we organize around alternatives. This is seeing the good.
40:26
Part of what I want to do in this show, all of you, which I
40:28
know you see me attempting to do, is, yeah, call out the evil
40:31
and the bad in the world. But.
40:33
Not the good, the good, the true, the beautiful.
40:35
There's something good here. She wants to celebrate her life.
40:37
She wants to bring her friends together.
40:39
She wants to save my life still as meaning and purpose, even if
40:41
I'm not married and don't have kids.
40:42
That is all true. Now, I think it's a little over
40:44
the top to like wear a wet as a faux wedding dress.
40:47
I don't think that's necessary. I think that's again, you know,
40:50
pointing towards trying to replace marriage somehow.
40:52
You're not going to replace marriage with anything.
40:54
You can't. But I do think you can throw a
40:57
celebration of your life and your friends lives and and
41:00
create a milestone event, but it shouldn't be because you're
41:04
running away from marriage or kids, right?
41:07
That that's where we get into problems like the girl bossing,
41:10
when the girl bossing becomes the fixation and you're running
41:13
away from love, you're running away from commitment, you're
41:17
running away from marriage and kids or you get married and
41:18
you're like, I don't want to have kids, I don't want to do
41:20
kids. I'm married.
41:22
That's enough. It'll be open to life.
41:24
The point of marriage is to bring life into the world.
41:26
If you can't bring it into the world biologically, then bring
41:29
it into it spiritually. So I think that it is tacky and
41:35
wrong to, you know, LARP as a bride and throwing your own
41:38
party. Like you don't need to do that,
41:41
but you can still throw a party to celebrate your life and to
41:44
create a moment of meaning with your friends.
41:46
So again, there's good in there. There's a little bit of edge in
41:48
there, but at the end of the day, it's because we are
41:51
starving for meaning and relationship.
41:53
We all are. And there's God's order that we
41:56
can enter into and embrace. And for those of us who may not
42:01
be called to marriage or were not married yet, you're still
42:04
living a beautiful life of love and meaning.
42:07
You are a daughter or son of God, and He has a plan for you
42:10
to use your talents to serve Him and other people.
42:13
Bottom line, OK, I promised you guys I would get into the Iran
42:16
war. We're going to do that next
42:18
because I, I care a lot about this.
42:19
I know we don't do a ton of public policy or foreign
42:23
affairs, I should say public policy on this show, but we do
42:26
some of it because it, it matters a lot to me when it
42:28
intersects with human dignity. So first of all, I want to say
42:31
it's great news that we are in a ceasefire with Iran.
42:33
I did talk about the Iran war on the show before.
42:36
I have mixed feelings about the Iran war.
42:37
I think most people do. Why are we at war with Iran?
42:41
Yeah, they they have been threatening death to America for
42:43
decades. There's a number that they've
42:45
killed 1000 Americans over the decades.
42:48
So they do acts of war occasionally against us.
42:50
You could say. Trump, of course, campaigned on
42:52
no more wars. Let's not go to war.
42:55
Last summer, I believe he did a a targeted attack and said he
42:58
took out nuclear capabilities of Iran.
43:00
Now they're saying basically they're back.
43:01
We need to take them out again. You might have all seen this.
43:04
I'm sure you did. There was a tweet put out by
43:06
President Trump just I think yesterday morning or the day
43:09
before where he basically was saying that we need to, this
43:15
was, excuse me, this was on Easter morning.
43:17
So this was three days ago where he was saying that he was going
43:21
to ultimately potentially destroy the civilization of
43:24
Iran. Let me just read this really
43:25
quick, he said. Let's pull up the quote.
43:30
Well there were a few sorry tweets that went out.
43:32
Tuesday will be power plant day and bridge day all wrapped up in
43:34
one in Iran. There'll be nothing like it.
43:36
Open the F and straight you, you crazy bastards or you'll be
43:38
living in hell. Just watch.
43:39
Praise be to Allah. Praise be to Allah.
43:41
OK, so there's a lot of tweets, people said.
43:43
Were like this looks unhinged. You know, obviously Trump's
43:46
typical critics were very critical of that and
43:48
understandably so because it did sound like what is going on?
43:51
Are we about to like blow people up?
43:53
This was the one. This was the tweet though that.
43:56
I commented on a whole civilization will die tonight.
43:59
This is from President Trump, never to be brought back again.
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I don't want that to happen. And this was yesterday, so this
44:05
was yesterday's tweet. I don't want that to happen, but
44:08
it probably will. However, now that we have
44:10
completed total regime change, we're different.
44:12
Smarter and less radical minds prevail.
44:13
Some maybe something revolutionarily wonderful can
44:16
happen. Who knows?
44:17
We will find out tonight, one of the most important moments in
44:20
the long and complex history of the world. 47 years of
44:23
extortion, corruption and death will finally end.
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God bless the great people of Iran.
44:28
Now, there's absolutely a sense of mixed message in here, but
44:31
that opening phrase, a whole civilization will die tonight
44:35
was absolutely a threat. And afterwards, when Iran
44:40
basically semi caved and they look like they're going to open
44:42
the Strait of Hormuz and allow, you know, commerce and and oil
44:46
trade to continue to happen. And this seemed to be a
44:49
consequence of the threats from Trump.
44:51
People said, well, it's a victory.
44:52
Trump did a good job. Thumbs up.
44:54
The problem is Americans, including of course our American
44:58
political leaders, should never threaten civilians ever.
45:02
In just war theory. We've talked about this on the
45:04
show multiple times. In just war theory, it is never
45:07
acceptable to intentionally target or threaten civilian
45:10
populations or infrastructure now.
45:13
You can make a case for attacking civilian
45:16
infrastructure if it is also being directly used for warfare,
45:20
right? So first of all, adjust war.
45:22
It has to be a good reason to go to war.
45:23
There needs to be acts of aggression made against you, and
45:26
your response has to be proportionate to those acts of
45:29
aggression. So there's still the outstanding
45:30
question, is this war in Iran just right?
45:33
I don't know that there's a clear yes answer to that.
45:35
I think there can be a compelling case for no.
45:37
I can also understand the case for yes, So I'm not taking a
45:40
strong stand on that. These are very tricky things to
45:42
discern, especially if there's intelligence that we do not
45:44
have. But I can totally understand,
45:47
people are like, no, do not do this war.
45:49
I can understand where they're coming from.
45:51
But this idea that the president of the United States is
45:55
effectively threatening a whole civilization on X is a problem.
45:59
And I spoke up against that. I said what the?
46:01
I said it is gravely wrong to threaten to destroy a whole
46:04
civilization. This is unjust and it flies in
46:06
the face of our best American ideals.
46:08
It's not America first either. And I got a ton of Flack from
46:12
some folks, maybe some folks listening right now.
46:13
I I appreciate your opinions, people saying that well, Trump
46:17
was not talking about actually the people of Iran.
46:20
He was talking. About the regime, and maybe
46:23
that's what was in Trump's heart, but he should have said
46:25
that because he didn't. He said the civilization of
46:28
Iran, which typically a civilization means the all of
46:32
civil society. It means the people, it means
46:34
their infrastructure, it means their technology, it means their
46:36
culture, it means all of it. That's what a civilization
46:39
means. If you look up the definition of
46:41
civilization, that's what you're going to, you're going to look
46:43
at civilization is a stage of human, social and cultural
46:46
development and the organization that is considered most
46:49
advanced. It's not the government or the
46:51
regime, so. And here's the thing, we are in
46:55
a time of unprecedented modern capabilities for warfare, not
46:59
just with nuclear weaponry, but with artificial intelligence,
47:02
drones, Everything that we can do, there's a ton of like
47:05
biochemical warfare we can do. And so safeguarding human
47:09
dignity, we're human beings are never used as a means to an end.
47:12
We're innocent human beings. Civilians are never targeted or,
47:16
or treated callously is of the utmost importance.
47:20
And it can be so easy to not do that in Modern Warfare.
47:23
And so, well, I appreciate it and I'm grateful that it looks
47:26
like we're in a peace peace deal, at least a temporary one
47:30
with Iran. We can't even achieve peace
47:32
through threatening civilians. That is not an acceptable way to
47:35
achieve peace. And you know, somebody might
47:37
listening maybe like Lyle, you're you're playing armchair
47:39
quarterback here. What do you know?
47:40
You don't know anything. I know God's law when it comes
47:45
to the treatment of human beings and human dignity.
47:50
And I believe that the just war theory is true.
47:54
It is our it is part of our faith and it.
47:56
Includes the that you do not threaten civilians, you do not
47:59
threaten innocent people, even if you can maybe achieve
48:03
something by it. And that that's, that's my
48:06
bottom line here, guys. So you know, President Trump, I,
48:08
I will pray for him. We're going to pray for the
48:10
administration. We need to respect our leaders
48:12
and pray for them. But if, if we see something that
48:15
looks objectively wrong, you should be unafraid to speak out
48:18
against it. And what I do not like, because
48:20
I've seen this and I've been, I've been, I've been on the
48:23
brunt of this. I've experienced this is this
48:26
groupthink that says you are not allowed to ever speak up against
48:31
the actions of a public official because if you do, then you're
48:35
their political opponent. And now, like, you want the
48:37
Democrats to win or you want Kamala Harris to be president.
48:39
I do not buy that. It's not a binary in terms of
48:43
the truth about a person's actions where you can't, you
48:47
can't criticize them because they're in office and somehow
48:50
that's going to hurt their office.
48:51
You need to be able to call wrong, wrong and right right in
48:54
and out of season. And I'm going to keep doing
48:57
that. And I know it's going to ruffle
48:58
feathers, and I know that people are going to call me all kinds
49:01
of names. I'm going to continue to do that
49:02
because I believe that it's that it's right to do.
49:04
And I pray for peace in the Middle East.
49:06
I pray for peace in Gaza. I pray for peace in Israel.
49:09
I pray for peace in Iran. I pray for peace in Ukraine.
49:12
We need to pray for peace and it's never acceptable.
49:15
To target civilians in wartime, it isn't.
49:18
Some, some civilians might become a part of collateral
49:21
damage in wartime, but, and that's horrific and that's the
49:24
price of war. And we should.
49:25
That's one of the reasons we should hate war.
49:27
And we should always. Seek peace first.
49:29
But if that happens, it has to be an accident, completely an
49:33
accident. And not a the focus of the
49:35
targeting of the, of the, you know, military force, because if
49:39
the military force is ever targeting civilians for
49:41
destruction or threatening them, that is a war crime and it's
49:44
always wrong. All right, I'm going to take a
49:47
look now at comments here and see what you all have to say.
49:52
Thank everybody for tuning in. So first of all, here's a
49:57
comment. Lila, I'm so sorry for your
49:59
loss. I saw that you miscarried
50:00
recently. Thank you so much.
50:02
I really appreciate it. And again, I so appreciate the
50:05
prayers. I I really have felt your
50:07
prayers and they mean so much to me.
50:12
Here's some more comments. Too bad the cost of living
50:15
doesn't really make this an option for lower middle class.
50:18
Almost like it's on purpose. We're talking about women
50:21
working and not having to. Work and yes, I think.
50:24
In most families they have, they feel and, and they, you know,
50:27
there's, there's compelling reasons for there to be both
50:30
parents working in terms of, you know, having jobs and that is
50:34
the way our economy is. Structured right now,
50:35
unfortunately it's very hard to work on A1, have a household
50:40
function with one income. It is possible.
50:42
I think sometimes we because of our materialistic standards, we
50:45
think it is impossible. I think it is possible, but I
50:48
think women can contribute and shouldn't contribute
50:51
economically to the household when it makes sense for the
50:53
family. A few other comments here.
50:56
I think what's more important is that women want to be living
50:59
like an actual Christian. I think the trad wife thing is
51:02
just a current fad where people want to have the appearance as
51:05
trad. I think there's a lot of truth
51:07
to that and I don't blame people for liking the trad wife
51:11
aesthetic. I like it.
51:12
I like wearing a beautiful dress and cooking in my kitchen for my
51:16
my kids and husband. I like doing that, and I'm not
51:20
going to apologize for that. And yeah.
51:21
Do I film myself doing that? I don't think I filmed myself
51:23
doing that before. I did take a picture of the
51:25
prime rib that I made for Easter Sunday.
51:28
So I might. I might.
51:29
And if you guys want, I'll film myself cooking.
51:31
I mean, I don't know if any of you want that.
51:32
My actually, husband and I were joking about doing a cooking
51:35
show just for fun. But anyways, yeah, I as a woman,
51:38
I love, I love, you know, hospitality.
51:42
Men can like hospitality too, though I don't want to make it
51:44
sound like men can't like it. But yeah, I do think the trad
51:47
wife thing is often an aesthetic.
51:49
And I don't think it's a. Bad one, necessarily.
51:52
I just think when it's taking to an extreme and it's like
51:55
morality is attached to it. Like you have to wear a dress
51:58
and cook in your kitchen to be like a Christian woman.
52:00
I think that's where you get really into dangerous territory,
52:04
I tell. Especially like Catholic girls
52:06
and Catholic young people. Don't be more Catholic than the
52:09
Catholic Church. Like the Catholic Church teaches
52:11
something, 1000% listen to the Catholic Church.
52:14
If Holy Scripture teaches something 1000% listen to the
52:17
words of Jesus Christ. If they're not teaching it to
52:20
you, then don't go around acting like it's gospel.
52:23
You're making an idol of something.
52:24
You can be a preference you have.
52:25
That's fine if that's your preference.
52:28
If you do not want to work, you want to be a stay at home mom to
52:30
the point where you don't have any outside obligations, that
52:33
can be a preference. That could be very beautiful,
52:34
could work for your family, but don't make it sound like it's
52:36
gospel for everybody else. That's where we fall into a pit.
52:40
A trap, I believe. All right, here's another
52:43
comment. But are we ever going to fight
52:45
to get women back in the home as a majority?
52:48
Less consumerism, more mothering.
52:51
I think less consumerism is always a good idea, and more
52:55
mothering is always a good idea. I mean, as a mother, you should
52:59
be a 100% mother. It's not like you turn off
53:02
mothering when you go to the grocery store.
53:04
You turn off mothering when I'm podcasting right now and now I'm
53:07
not a mother as a podcaster, no, I'm still a mother.
53:09
I, I, my children are entrusted to someone else right now, but
53:12
I'm still 100% their mother. I'm not going to.
53:14
Ever turn that off? I will never turn that off.
53:16
I will always be their mother in this life, right?
53:18
But I think in terms of what does it mean, you know, this
53:22
question of should we fight to get women back in the home as a
53:24
majority, I do think that. Going to offices for long
53:28
periods of time is typically not good, especially for women of
53:32
young children. I think it can be more doable
53:34
for for fathers. I think it's.
53:36
Particularly damaging if a mother has to be away from her
53:39
children day after day. For. 8910 hours a day, I don't
53:43
think that's ideal and I think there's social data to prove
53:45
that. So I think I can say that with
53:47
confidence. Now, what that looks like for a
53:50
woman who's listening right now and maybe has a full time job
53:53
and she's navigating how to be the best mother she can be.
53:56
I'm not going to give you a specific specific prescription.
53:58
I can encourage you towards flexible work.
54:01
Work from homework. Part time work, I think those
54:04
are all great approaches in today's economy and the way that
54:08
our technology has structured a lot of our jobs because we're
54:11
not like working from home like, you know, dealing with the the
54:14
cow and, you know, picking vegetables and being in our
54:17
blacksmith shop or whatever, right?
54:19
That that's not like the typical, you know, set up of our
54:21
economy anymore. We order our food or we get it
54:23
from the grocery store. We go to our computer to work.
54:27
I would just say flexible work, part time work, work from
54:30
homework. Those are the kinds of careers
54:33
that I would encourage women to pursue who want to be mothers
54:38
because that is a great way to make sure that you can organize
54:43
your life to put your kids first.
54:45
All right, one more question here, if they're trad or
54:49
comment. If they're trad Catholics I can
54:51
understand. But for some, maybe because it's
54:53
difficult to find employment nowadays.
54:56
And yeah, I mean, I think I actually don't know if I
55:00
understand this. This comment here, Harris helped
55:02
me out. Do you understand this?
55:03
If they're trad Catholics, I can understand.
55:05
But for some, maybe because it's difficult to find employment
55:08
nowadays. I mean, I think that if you're
55:14
working from home because you can't find, if you're staying
55:17
with your family because you can't find a job.
55:19
Then you make your family your job.
55:21
I mean, if you, if you can make it work and you're not feeling
55:24
called to work outside the home, you're not feeling called to
55:27
even have any kind of job. Instead, you're feeling called
55:29
to just invest heavily in your household and your community.
55:32
100% do it. Treat that like.
55:34
Work. That is your work.
55:36
That's the thing at the end of the day, it's all work guys.
55:39
God worked for seven days and created the universe and then he
55:42
rested on the 7th day. He worked for six days, rested
55:44
on the 7th day and said what? What a great.
55:45
Creation I've made. We are made in his image.
55:47
We're called to work. Toil, which is a result of the
55:50
curse right after Adam and Eve sinned against God, They were
55:54
They left the garden and and were ejected from the Garden of
55:56
Eden. Toil was one of the curses.
55:58
You're going to have sweat on your brow.
55:59
It's going to be. Hard to work, but work,
56:01
generally speaking, and creation, creativity, that's a
56:04
good part of being human. It's an essential part of being
56:06
human. We should celebrate it.
56:09
The toil gets in there where it's like hard.
56:11
It separates us from the people we love or the things that we
56:13
truly love. There's, there's toil associated
56:15
with it. That's where we build virtue,
56:17
right? And we offer those sacrifices to
56:19
God, and we we offer it all up to God.
56:22
All right, everybody, thank you for listening.
56:24
It's always great to see you all.
56:26
We are doing these Wednesday lives.
56:28
I'm actually going to be out of town next Wednesday because I
56:32
will be debating up at Berkeley and then at Stanford University.
56:37
So please keep me in your prayers while I'm doing those
56:40
debates. You can also, for those who are
56:43
local, can attend those events. I think there's still tickets
56:45
that are open over at Live Action.
56:47
Please pray for me, but we will be back.
56:49
Online the following Wednesday. Thank you all so much and have a
56:52
great rest of your day.