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💆🏼‍♀️Self-Care Series: Gratitude over the Grind 🙏🏼 · ✨️Aligned and Thriving: For Teachers🌿

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  Hey guys, and welcome back to another episode of Aligned and
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  Thriving for Teachers. Now, what happens, do you think,
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  when you stop pushing and start appreciating?
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  Today's episode is about a shift from hustle mode into alignment
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  mode with a little bit of science and just a whole lot of
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  soul. Because you know what I'm like?
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  This one's called gratitude over grind.
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  The mindset shift that changes everything.
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  Now, we've all been sold the lie that if we're not exhausted,
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  we're not doing enough. That success is a reward for how
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  hard we grind. But what if I told you that the
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  real shift, the one that changes your mindset, your energy, and
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  your whole damn life, it starts with gratitude.
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  Today we're flipping the script. We're going to talk about why
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  gratitude will get you further than the grind ever could.
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  And gratitude it's it's not just woo, it is wiring.
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  OK, there is a science behind this and I want to talk you
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  through it without sort of over overloading you because yeah,
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  we're teachers, but we're going to learn.
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  So enter the reticular activating system.
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  So your Ras, it's your brain's personal filtration system.
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  OK, it's a philtre. The rest helps you notice things
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  that are important to you based on what you focus on, repeat and
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  emotionally charge. This is why things like
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  affirmations actually work because you are literally
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  training your brain to notice more of what you want.
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  So I'll give you an example. You know, when you learn a new
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  word and suddenly you hear it everywhere or you decide, and
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  this one's always me, you decide I want a new car.
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  And you've got the particular model and the colour and then
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  literally you've seen it 15 times in a week when you had
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  never seen it before. And then you're like, oh, the
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  new. And for me, it's like the new
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  Prado. Sorry, I've already got a car
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  that I love. But then that new Prado came out
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  and I was like, Oh yes, I love that.
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  And I want it in this colour and da, da, da, da, because you've
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  got to have dreams. It's the next step up, right?
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  Then I just saw it every day. I'm going, oh, everyone has one.
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  This is crazy. They've only just been released.
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  But that is your Ras at work. It's not magic.
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  It's just focus. You have literally told your
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  brain, this is what I'm looking for.
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  So then it seeks to notice all of the things.
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  OK, so when you're starting your day with gratitude and
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  affirmations, your Ras, it kicks in and it says 0.
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  This is important. Let's find more of that to then
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  sort of confirm it. So affirmations are more than
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  just quotes that I tell you to do or to write.
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  They are actually things that are training your brain.
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  Your brain is always, always listening.
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  So when you say things like, oh, never get a break.
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  What's this about 30 minute uninterrupted lunch break?
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  Oh I'm so behind, I can't do this.
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  It's just like I'm roadkill and people are eating me alive.
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  Your brain believes you and it adjusts its philtre accordingly.
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  So instead I would really like you to start changing the way
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  you think and the way you talk. The words that come out.
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  I am safe to slow down. Do you see how that just sits
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  different sometimes when things are getting a bit too heightened
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  and a bit too heavy? I am safe to slow down and then
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  your brain will start slowing down.
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  I attract aligned opportunities daily and you will because
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  that's what you're telling your brain to do.
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  My energy creates my reality. Even if you don't believe it at
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  first, you need to keep repeating.
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  Your mind is going to catch up to you.
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  So those affirmations, they're decisions, they're not wishes.
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  It's you deciding to focus on something different and you you
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  get more out of them. I think if you sort of talk like
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  you already are that. So I am this not I am going to.
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  And you're putting yourself in that situation and saying them
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  to yourself in the mirror. Mirror work is so powerful
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  because you are literally looking at yourself and saying
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  those things. And I've talked about that
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  before, but gratitude is a productivity hack in disguise.
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  It's not about ignoring problems, it is about seeing
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  more than just the problem. OK there's actually some
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  scientific based benefits. Like honestly gratitude reduces
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  cortisol which is your stress. Isn't that a bonus?
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  It literally reduces stress. It increases dopamine which is
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  your motivation and you feel good chemical.
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  It improves your focus, your memory, and your decision
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  making. So really it's just a win win.
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  It's literally rewiring your neural pathways towards optimism
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  and resilience. Gratitude does not make you
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  soft, it makes you stronger, calmer and clearer and that's
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  the energy that gets things done.
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  OK, on my busiest, most chaotic days, it is not the To Do List
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  that saves me, although I do love a jolly good To Do List.
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  Organised human here. But it is my 3 deep breaths and
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  the whispered thank you and the reset in my energy of I can do
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  hard things, we can do hard things, we're gonna have a great
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  day. We're having the best day.
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  I'm happy, I am safe, it's whatever you need to tell
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  yourself in that moment. And sometimes I'm just saying
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  I'm calm and I'm settled and I'm going to have a great day.
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  It's just little things. Taking a breath and completely
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  shifting. Gratitude will shift your vibe
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  and attract aligned people as well.
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  The more grateful that you are, the more magnetic you become, I
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  think your whole tone changes, your body language changes, your
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  words softened, The way you talk to yourself completely changes.
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  And the way you talk to others, that energy spreads.
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  It spreads through your family, through your team, your
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  audience, just whoever's gonna listen.
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  It honestly changes the way you are.
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  People don't always notice what you're doing.
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  They notice how you're being. It's your actions, your
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  perception. It's just all of those things.
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  I've had people messaging me saying that they feel calm just
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  listening to me. And that didn't happen because
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  I'm hustling harder. It happened because I was
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  showing up. And I'm being grounded in
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  gratitude. Like I am so utterly and
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  completely thankful that I have the opportunity to share with so
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  many people. I am thankful that people are
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  actually willing to listen to me because I believe that I have
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  some important things to share. So does Nyla, apparently, if you
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  can hear her in the background, because she loves life and loves
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  to bark during the podcast episodes.
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  But again, this is real life. But I could choose to get really
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  annoyed by that. I could.
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  Or I can choose to just acknowledge it and name it up
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  and say, yeah, my dog's barking. But I have important things to
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  say and that's not going to stop me because I can do hard things.
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  So I'm going to keep pushing forward and I'm going to keep
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  going and moving. Moving on.
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  The grind tells you to push harder, but gratitude says
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  pause, align, and then act. This doesn't mean you stop
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  working. No, no, no.
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  This means you stop forcing because alignment equals working
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  for a purpose and from a purpose, letting your energy
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  lead and saying yes to what expands you, not to what drains
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  you. So, and This is why the whole
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  podcast is called Aligned and Thriving, because alignment is,
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  it's a purpose. It's leading with energy.
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  It's saying yes to the things that are gonna expand you.
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  And then what happens when you're doing those things in
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  alignment? You thrive.
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  And that's what I want for all of you.
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  I want you to be able to work for purpose, to have that
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  positive energy and to say yes to what is lighting you up and
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  having boundaries in place to say no to what's going to drain
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  you. OK, so when you pay gratitude
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  with aligned action, that's when momentum just hits differently.
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  It's ease without laziness, it's flow without chaos.
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  Like it's just amazing. I want to give you some daily
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  practises to try. This will help you get into that
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  gratitude and into that mindset of being grateful.
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  So something simple to start the day in the morning to get you in
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  that mindset. Just write down three things
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  then and there that you are grateful for.
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  Just three and say 1 affirmation that matches your goals.
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  If you don't know how to do an affirmation, again, you can talk
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  to me about that and I can help and guide you to do that.
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  Or you can literally Google it or U.S. chat GTP to create use
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  of affirmations based around what you're trying to achieve
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  and just pick one and say 1 and repeat it.
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  Then during the day if you notice that there's something
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  triggering you or you're getting a really low vibe negative
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  thought, just stop and say no. I choose to find something good
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  here and look at it differently. I know that there's one that I
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  go to when things are feeling a little bit rough and tough and I
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  just tell myself let it be easy, let it be easy, it's easy, it's
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  done and just keep repeating it. Let it be easy.
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  It shouldn't have to be hard and sometimes I'm the only one
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  making it hard. So let it be easy and it will.
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  In the evening, ask yourself what went well today?
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  What moment did I feel most myself?
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  This is when for me, I'm doing my journaling.
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  So I have a journal that I write in every night.
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  It sort of has, it's all set out for me.
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  It's pretty easy to follow. I just write a couple of
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  sentences about how my day was. And then there's actually a
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  section that says, what are you grateful for?
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  And oh, what's the other one? Oh, my mental blank.
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  How am I feeling? It's literally so a little
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  space. It's got the day of the week.
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  It's like a year in review. So at the end of the year, I get
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  to keep it like a keepsake. And that's my year.
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  And then next year I'll get a new one.
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  And I go from there. So I have multiple journals and
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  I love writing things down because it, it is, it's, it's a
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  scientific fact that if you're writing it down, it does help
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  you to remember. And it also helps you to get
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  stuff out because it's the physical movement.
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  And this is what I have to tell students, like you can't just
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  use a computer all the time because you're actually not
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  going to remember it. You will have more chance of
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  remembering something if you are doing the mental act like that,
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  the physical action, I should say, of writing it down.
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  OK. So yeah, doing it that way, that
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  that helps for me. So in the evening, what went
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  well? What did you feel?
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  When did you feel most yourself? What's like you're grateful for
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  today? You can even set up reminders on
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  your phone that pop up with affirmations every few hours.
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  There's actually a couple of apps that you'd be able to look
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  up if I find which ones I've got, you can find free ones.
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  You can even just use the Google, I think they keep keep
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  notes and you can create your own affirmations and set
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  reminders and they'll pop up on your phone and you go, oh,
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  what's that? Oh, and you just read them and
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  it just reminds you instantly and you're back in that mindset
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  of being grateful and just checking in throughout the day.
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  So you don't need more hours in the day.
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  Like you've got 24 hours. You can divide them however you
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  wish, but you just need to use them intentionally grinding all
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  the time. It's just going to exhaust you.
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  But gratitude is going to help elevate you.
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  So what are you going to focus on today?
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  Because your mind is listening, remember, and your energy is
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  creating Because remember your Ras, your reticular activating
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  system, it's there and it's going to focus on whatever you
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  tell it to. So you're telling your mind, I
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  attract aligned opportunities. I'm grateful for this moment.
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  Everything is always working out for me.
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  Life happens for me. It's all those positive things
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  that you can keep telling your brain.
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  It's going to boost your blame brain, blame clarity.
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  Trying to say 2 words at once. It's going to boost your blank.
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  I did it again. My brain is not braining.
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  It's been a long day, but I am so thankful that I still have
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  words to say. It's going to boost your brain
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  clarity. There you go.
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  It's going to lower your stress levels and you're going to
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  attract people and aligned results.
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  It's just going to happen. So choose gratitude over grind
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  because you get to show up aligned and not exhausted.
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  That is why this is called aligned and thriving.
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  So you are going to go now, you're going to go and create
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  some amazing affirmations about being grateful that you're going
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  to refer back to during your day tomorrow.
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  And you're going to flip that switch and get your reticular
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  activating system in your brain, thinking about the positives,
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  the things you are grateful for and changing your thought
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  patterns because then that's what it's going to look for.
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  And you are going to have the most amazing day once you have
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  sat down and had a bit of a think.
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  Because remember those those actions were really simple.
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  Three things that you're grateful for in the morning.
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  Notice any triggers during the day and replace them with those
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  affirmations. Set some reminders on your phone
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  and then reflect again in the evening.
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  What went well today? What felt good to you?
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  What are you grateful for? Honestly, you can find something
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  in every single day that you are grateful for.
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  And just remember that when you are getting into that mindset of
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  a whole meltdown, just stop and breathe through all that
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  discomfort and come out the other side and start telling
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  yourself some of those positive affirmations that you have
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  written down that are for you. And again, if you need help to
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  do all of that, make sure you send me a message.
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  Make sure you share this episode with people that you think need
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  to hear it. The most powerful thing you can
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  do is share it with someone, because then they will get the
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  message too. And imagine if we were all
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  grateful human beings in the world.
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  Wouldn't it be just such an amazing place if everyone could
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  just pause, breathe, and say thank you?
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  Imagine the mindset shifts we would have and the momentum that
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  the whole world would have. Like #gratitude over grind.
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  Like honestly, we can do amazing things.
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  So go do some affirmations daily, go and change your
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  thinking, and go and have the most amazing day.
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  I'll talk to you guys soon. Bye.