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Overcoming the Odds: She resisted pressures of conformity, loved herself, embraced her flaws and became successful, Comedian Loni Love. · The Steve Harvey Morning Show

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  Speaker 1: If you're about to make a change in your life
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  Speaker 1: and not what somebody told you to do. And that's
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  Speaker 1: I'm your host, Ushawn McDonald. Our theme is there's no
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  Speaker 1: maybe decide to your HM, it's time to stop reading
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  Speaker 1: My next guest, Different is an Emmy Award winning and
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  Speaker 1: two time NAACP Image Award winning multimedia personality that includes
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  Speaker 1: series XM's Cafe Mocal radio show, talk show, co host
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  Speaker 1: On the Real, comedian, entrepreneur, and actress. She's on the
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  Speaker 1: show to talk about her very very funny memoir I
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  Speaker 1: tried to change so you don't have to. Please. Welcome
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  Speaker 1: to the Money Making Conversation, Honey.
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  Speaker 3: Love, Thank you for the time.
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  Speaker 1: Loney, I'm telling you something. Let me just read this
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  Speaker 1: little from what I took from the book, because I
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  Speaker 1: want to want to set the stage before we started
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  Speaker 1: writing talking about this very funny book, and a very
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  Speaker 1: funny book memoir. In reading this book just came from you.
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  Speaker 1: In reading this book, you should remember that I am
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  Speaker 1: a comedian. I am also a television host and an
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  Speaker 1: actress and electrical engineer. This is my memoir and tells
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  Speaker 1: you about my life. But it's a tale told from
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  Speaker 1: a comedian perspective, a comic perspective, and I believe that
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  Speaker 1: this entitles me to a good number of liberties. I
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  Speaker 1: re ordered and combined events and people. I changed a
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  Speaker 1: whole lot of names and identify how details. And I've
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  Speaker 1: exaggerated and made some things up all together I hope
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  Speaker 1: make you smile or even laugh. But I have not
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  Speaker 1: changed the reality of my life, where I came from
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  Speaker 1: and how I've got here today. Ladies and gentlemen, Loney
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  Speaker 1: love that's beautiful.
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  Speaker 3: Called when the attorney talks.
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  Speaker 1: Loney. You know, you know you've been on the show before,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm a big fan of yours, and uh you
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  Speaker 1: know it always you know, like I always call you
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  Speaker 1: a text you Uh just just I'll let you know
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  Speaker 1: I love you and uh you're just a gifted young
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  Speaker 1: lady and never be down on yourself. And I read
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  Speaker 1: this book. It's a journey from Detroit to Houston, Texas
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  Speaker 1: to El Segondo to Los Angeles. I guess it all
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  Speaker 1: started in Detroit. Tell us about that the start, and
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  Speaker 1: then I want to break down some of my favorite chapters,
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  Speaker 1: like chapter eight when you were thrown in jail. That's
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  Speaker 1: that has to be the funniest, the funniest. I know,
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  Speaker 1: I read a lot of books. Now I'm just telling.
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  Speaker 1: I'm just telling. If I'm talking to Lone of Love,
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  Speaker 1: now this is her book. Now, this is number one
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  Speaker 1: I tried to change, so you don't have to. I'm
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  Speaker 1: telling you.
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  Speaker 3: I just think everybody should tell their journey, and especially people.
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  Speaker 3: People don't understand how hard it is for us to
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  Speaker 3: make it. That's why I want everybody to share their story,
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  Speaker 3: you know. And so this is my story. I grew
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  Speaker 3: up in Detroit and Brewster Projects and it just takes
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  Speaker 3: you through that whole life thing, because you know, some
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  Speaker 3: people only know me from real or from Chelsea lay
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  Speaker 3: or you know the shows that Rashan will put me on.
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  Speaker 1: So but you.
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  Speaker 3: Know, it's a whole journey, and I just wanted the
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  Speaker 3: people to understand, you know, my journey and why I
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  Speaker 3: appreciate where I am, why I'm vulnerable at times, while
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  Speaker 3: I'm sensitive at times, while I'm strong at times, because
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  Speaker 3: the fact is that it hasn't been an easy road.
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  Speaker 3: And I also wanted to inspire and get people some hope.
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  Speaker 3: So that's that's what you're reading. And it's just a
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  Speaker 3: love letter to my fans. That's what it is.
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  Speaker 1: It's an honest letter. And the thing about it is
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  Speaker 1: that I've read a lot of memoirs during the show
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  Speaker 1: money making conversations. But I love George because it was
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  Speaker 1: just funny, but it's also trueful. It was also painful.
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  Speaker 1: It was also I was like, you know, I had
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  Speaker 1: a reason to cry. I had a reason to feel
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  Speaker 1: sorry for you. I had a reader to root for you.
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  Speaker 1: I had a reason to call you a fool. You
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  Speaker 1: know that's stupid, why you do that. And but one
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  Speaker 1: of the things that came out that stood out for
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  Speaker 1: me was like, you know, you know, it was a
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  Speaker 1: point in your life where you were surrounded by blackness.
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  Speaker 1: That's why I called in your book, you mentioned it
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  Speaker 1: yourself surrounded by blackness, protected you. The HBCU experienced a
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  Speaker 1: privyer and m the Black sisters of your sorority, Delta
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  Speaker 1: Sigma Theta. You you experienced that HBCU experienced and being
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  Speaker 1: surrounded by the sisterhood who bailed you out of jail.
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  Speaker 1: Uh second, yeah, thank you to my sro.
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  Speaker 3: They had you know, they had some credit cards. They
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  Speaker 3: was able to do that and they you know, and
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  Speaker 3: I had to lean way on the shield that that night,
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  Speaker 3: almost hard. But it's just it's a wonderful st story
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  Speaker 3: of how you know, at nineteen years old, even though
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  Speaker 3: growing up in the project, I knew nothing about the
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  Speaker 3: police because my mom always protected me from that. You know,
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  Speaker 3: the police never came into projects unless you know, somebody
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  Speaker 3: got shot. So I didn't. I didn't have this experience
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  Speaker 3: till I was in college, and I didn't realize, you know,
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  Speaker 3: I didn't have to talk. I didn't know nothing about
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  Speaker 3: you know, racist cops, and you know, I've never I've
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  Speaker 3: never experienced that. So when I experienced it, and the
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  Speaker 3: story is so interesting. It goes through the whole process
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  Speaker 3: of being arrested, you know, going to the booking center
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  Speaker 3: because I was it was a felony for trespassing, walking
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  Speaker 3: in the kitchen. I was put in a you know,
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  Speaker 3: in a sale with you know, murderers and felons and
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  Speaker 3: stuff like that, at nineteen years old with no experience.
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  Speaker 1: You know, the reason I liked the book is that
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  Speaker 1: I kind of understand you a lot more, you know,
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  Speaker 1: because you've really outspoken and you first of all, you're
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  Speaker 1: coming from you know, when you talk about prison or
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  Speaker 1: jail or wrong flair, incarcerated, or talk about being a
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  Speaker 1: call out by your name, racial statements thrown your way.
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  Speaker 1: And the thing about it in your book when I
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  Speaker 1: would is the churches in the church plays a role
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  Speaker 1: Miss Evil, jehovah witness, you know how she built those
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  Speaker 1: Just talk about some of the ladies besides your mom,
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  Speaker 1: who played an important, defining role in your personality. How
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  Speaker 1: you looked at life, how you looked at love, how
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  Speaker 1: you looked at relationships and all that stuff. Talk about
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  Speaker 1: the other women that were important in your life in
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  Speaker 1: this book.
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  Speaker 3: Well, the love that I developed a black women came
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  Speaker 3: from my foundation. You know. I had a babysitter and her
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  Speaker 3: name was Miss Brookes. She was Jehovah's witness who I
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  Speaker 3: spent a lot of my time with That's where I
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  Speaker 3: got my religious backing from. I had Miss Eva.
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  Speaker 1: Ice Cream Evil, Yeah, because she.
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  Speaker 3: Was the Bible Sudden Lady, you know. I had my
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  Speaker 3: Girl Scout Truth Leader. And these were women that impacted
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  Speaker 3: me so much that they cared for me and they
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  Speaker 3: could care of me. And this was the foundation. And
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  Speaker 3: I think that's important when they say a village, it
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  Speaker 3: takes a village to raise a child, it really really does.
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  Speaker 3: But then also is my relationship you know with men
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  Speaker 3: in general was actually defined in that era as well.
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  Speaker 3: And you know, the caring of black brothers and sisters,
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  Speaker 3: you know, was also defined from that. So it's like
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  Speaker 3: when I meet people like the fabulous Rashan McDonald, we're
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  Speaker 3: able to connect because we're down home people, you know
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  Speaker 3: what I mean. And so that's so all of this
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  Speaker 3: you can, you know, read about it in the book
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  Speaker 3: and you can really see and feel the foundation. But
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  Speaker 3: I mean, the thing if anybody I want them to
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  Speaker 3: take away from is that if you feel hopeless, if
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  Speaker 3: you need some inspiration, understand that you are from a
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  Speaker 3: strong stock of people. And we constantly prove it all
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  Speaker 3: the time. And I'm just waiting on YELP book.
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  Speaker 3: Appreciate it. I appreciate everybody that's that's we're discovering it
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  Speaker 3: a great story and I'm just thankful that I'm able
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  Speaker 3: to live to still tell it.
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  Speaker 1: And then we then we did something else. We were
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  Speaker 1: musically inclined and we love classic music. See, I was
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  Speaker 1: a B flat clarinet.
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  Speaker 3: That was me.
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  Speaker 1: So you you couldn't have let you went over to
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  Speaker 1: the French Home. And I'm gonna tell you something. I'm
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  Speaker 3: And you could use it as a weapon.
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  Speaker 1: Let me just tell everybody about the book, and then
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  Speaker 1: since how it breaks down. It talks about the early
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  Speaker 1: years in the projects and then they talked that's part
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  Speaker 1: of her life. That's important, that first eighteen years. Then
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  Speaker 1: it talks specifically about her college life, her friends, how
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  Speaker 1: she got to college, how that played an important role,
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  Speaker 1: and each each one of those layers is defining for
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  Speaker 1: her because you know, she didn't want to leave home
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  Speaker 1: when she was asked to leave home, and then she
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  Speaker 1: wasn't really ready to go to college, but she saw
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  Speaker 1: an opportunity to go, she went. She learned how to pivot.
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  Speaker 1: That's this book is about pivoting too, because in this book,
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  Speaker 1: Lonnie is a great pivoter. She's said an opportunity, she's
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  Speaker 1: going and it's going to give one hundred percent. A
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  Speaker 1: lot of people pivot and they kind of ease over
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  Speaker 1: that line, and you don't do that, do you?
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  Speaker 2: So?
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  Speaker 3: I know, I really like telling the story, telling the truth,
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  Speaker 3: but bring in levity. At the end of every chapter
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  Speaker 3: is a list of jokes. Yes, because some stories in
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  Speaker 3: the books are dark, some stories are sad, some stories
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  Speaker 3: are really happy. But I want people to know that
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  Speaker 3: after every chapter there's levity, yes, And I think that
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  Speaker 3: that's important because it shapes your frame of mind differently.
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  Speaker 3: So to know that you can get out of anything,
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  Speaker 3: even though it seems impossible, You could get out of anything.
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  Speaker 3: And this is a story for men, women, young old. Yes,
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  Speaker 3: if you're at a point in your life where you're
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  Speaker 3: trying to read and you kind of like you need
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  Speaker 3: some motivations, you read this book. You know, I mean
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  Speaker 3: if you're trying to find love, you know I talk
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  Speaker 3: about that. Oh, yes, you get to where you need to.
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  Speaker 3: You know, you get in situations where you know things
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  Speaker 3: ain't working out or you know, that's the part where
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  Speaker 3: really Rashan, I have to say, we were the chapter
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  Speaker 3: in Real Talks where I really mean doing Rashan to
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  Speaker 3: give me advice and it really helped me to get
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  Speaker 3: through the situation I was in my TV show. And
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  Speaker 3: you know, understanding the studio system, all of that is
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  Speaker 3: explained because you know, it's real easy for people to
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  Speaker 3: see the front side of certain things of television shows
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  Speaker 3: and things they don't understand behind the scenes. Even way back,
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  Speaker 3: my first movie Peven, don't you know a lot of
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  Speaker 3: people don't know that I was. My first movie was
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  Speaker 3: Soul Playing and definitely we all thought it was gonna
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  Speaker 3: make us all a start, Kevin Hart, Moonique, all of them.
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  Speaker 3: You know, it tells the whole The whole story is explained.
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  Speaker 3: But it's all. And I have so many more stories.
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  Speaker 3: But you know, because I people diary and I tell
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  Speaker 3: anybody you know, right now we're living in historic times.
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  Speaker 3: People diary or a journal, and you know, so that
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  Speaker 3: you can look back in five years and see where
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  Speaker 3: you come from and what you were dealing with. So
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  Speaker 3: these are like just a few stories that I put together,
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  Speaker 3: and it kind of tells the stories, the beginning story,
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  Speaker 3: and it's just something that I'm just I'm just amazed
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  Speaker 3: that people and I'm grateful that people see it and
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  Speaker 3: now they've got to they have a better understanding. But
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  Speaker 3: more importantly, black people are different. We're not all the same.
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  Speaker 3: We're not, but you know, and it's that's why it's
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  Speaker 3: important to push our stories and get our stories out
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  Speaker 3: so that they know that we're real, living and breathing people,
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  Speaker 3: so that they will stop killing us, so that they
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  Speaker 3: understand it. Wow, these people, you know, because they think
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  Speaker 3: that they can't relate to us. But the whole point
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  Speaker 3: is we're living and breathing people, and we have to
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  Speaker 3: share our stories to show them the experiences that we've
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  Speaker 3: come through. And that's what that's what we're doing.
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  Speaker 1: Wow, I'm talking to an winning She talks about that
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  Speaker 1: in the book. Two time NAACP Image Award winning co
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  Speaker 1: host of The Real She's a comedian, very funny entrepreneur,
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  Speaker 1: great clothing line, an actress. You've seen her on TV,
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  Speaker 1: Born Poorly. She has a very very funny memoir I
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  Speaker 1: tried to change so you don't have to Amazon, number one,
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  Speaker 1: Barnes and Noble. Go get it, Londey Love. Let me
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  Speaker 1: tell you what I'm doing. You know, I'm gonna put
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  Speaker 1: it on my social media. You know, don't you know
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  Speaker 1: how I do with you? Okay, on Wednesday's going out
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  Speaker 1: of my fan club, ninety thousand Wednesday morning at nine
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  Speaker 1: o'clock is going out there. So I support you, my friend.
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  Speaker 1: I just wanted to talk about that book. I know
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  Speaker 1: you've got a lot of things going on. I'm short
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  Speaker 1: on time, but I wanted to make sure I gave
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  Speaker 1: the love for this memoir that people need to need
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  Speaker 1: to hear. I read this book. It's funny. I've learned
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  Speaker 1: some things about myself. I learned a lot of things
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  Speaker 1: about Loney love. But more important, it's a love story,
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  Speaker 1: and that's that's beautiful. It's a love story.
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  Speaker 4: About her life, the people who entered her life, how
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  Speaker 4: they shape their life, and how she's happy being herself
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  Speaker 4: when she looks in the mirror with the person who
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  Speaker 4: likes what he sees in the mirror too.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you Linnie for calling my show.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you so much, Rashan for the time lessens brother.
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