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Life in Motion · Spinning the Light Podcast

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Hello, and welcome to two girls in the pot.
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I'm Sharon, I'm Christy, welcome everyone.
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We hope that you have had a really fantastic week.
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So far, ho organ, so close to the weekend, doesn't it?
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Feel great. Let's of course, you work on the
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weekends and maybe it's not so great.
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The rest of us are going, is it Friday yet?
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Is it Friday yet a perfect? Well, even when you love Your
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job, the weekend. Just feels so nice.
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So anyway, you know, is always, we sit here, we do our little
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morning chats or, you know, we actually get our a lot of our
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ideas come on. We're like we talked about
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sitting in the hot tub but a lot of them come up because one of
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the things we do we try to do as often as we can weekly and stuff
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like that is walk and of course it's Colorado.
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So it's a little cold, we're not big fans of the cold.
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So, what we do is we actually walk in our home, you know,
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that's one of the big things of one of my goals in the morning
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is to always get at least one mile in before I make breakfast
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or do those other little chores that we have at home.
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You know. For us it's such a creative time
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for us to not just I mean not as it just getting this moving you
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know and and having that motion exactly.
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And that's kind of like what we were talking about today, life
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and motion. And that's, I think that it
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applies in more ways than we even realize.
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I feel like that. Yeah, when we're getting our
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steps in the morning, we are very creative, our mind is
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going. It seems like it's a really
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great time for us to come up with different ideas and stuff.
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So it even shows how that movement, you know our body
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movement, really? I for me it's like creativity
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comes, I do. You know, when I pee at leads to
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another idea and then that's the mines movement and it's this
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relationship that's going on between the body and the mind,
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you know you're getting that oxygen going.
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The Bloods flowing a little bit better.
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Hopefully you're not like you know super sluggish but even if
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you are you know I find even if I'm starting my day off
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sluggish, as soon as I start getting that movement going, the
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sluggishness goes away. But not only for my body, it's
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like your brain goes, I'm awake. Yeah.
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I think that's true and it's can happen even before coffee in
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coffee, is really in for it. So I think yes, trust me.
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We could do a whole episode on copy that.
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I'm sure we come in. I think we should make that a
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thing, the flight idle, too, because we love our coffee, but
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I think the thing is that because you know, we touched a
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little bit on that last time. You know that with music comes
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dance with music comes a movement and when you're
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dancing, Gary is such a different feel.
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Don't you think? I mean it because you're
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switching it up, you know, whether you're going from Latin
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dance to. I mean if you would if you did
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to Steppin I tried that once my friend Tammy tried to teach me
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how to two-step but that's okay. I tried to teach her out.
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Latin dance and neither one of us.
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Got it very well. She didn't want to move her hips
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and I didn't want to stop moving mine.
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It's like and know the two-step you don't do that and you just
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kind of stand out there like and I'll tell her.
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No and Latin. You got to kind of move your
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hips her hips didn't want to. Move mind in one stop.
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So that was the end of our lesson.
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Yeah. But it was fun.
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And you know, what's really fun? I was thinking back is we've had
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it where even one day Mars, my sister was here, and we're up in
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the kitchen, we have music on board dancing as we're making
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dinner Tenley was here, that's always been sort of a being in
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our home that you people come over and we danced.
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A lot of times, we are doing something in the kitchen or
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something like that and we'll put music on Now we are always
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dancing. I mean we've done that.
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Yeah, I'm with a quite a few of our friends.
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You mentioned it before. We did it with your grandma when
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she came to visit. I just, I don't know.
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It's just something that we've always done.
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And I've always enjoyed. And I think that's the cool
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thing about dance. Its movement when, you know,
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without thought. It's just that mule feeling.
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Yeah. And I think that's what's kind
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of cool. You know, when you say that, you
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know, I think those are really the neat things to, you know, I
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can look back on my life and like, I talked a little A bit
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about, even with my parents dancing, that was something that
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they would do and it was something that we did.
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And you know, it wasn't uncommon for us to go to we loved wedding
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dances because it was just a big old party with lots of music.
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That was one of the things I always liked to was going to a
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lot of the Latin concerts that I went to.
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They were just concerts, it wasn't about just sitting in a
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seat or that it was dances. We went to dances.
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I, well, we went to see lows to Cana swings we And seeing them,
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a couple of times I'm steering for yeah, I was going to say
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it's you a few slides but, you know, and that was really
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interesting because you know, when the first time he was like
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oh you want to go to this concert?
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I'm there like okay. So I'm used to like you know,
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when you go to a concert no would you go to that?
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They there's no seating you just you're up dancing at the by the
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stage or dancing. It's The Dance Floor's there.
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Yeah, I was going to say well they do have tables surrounding
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but there it's a whole Dance Floor.
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The table is only there to hold your drink.
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Yeah. Yes.
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Yes, pretty much so and you know, if you do get a little
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winded, you get to go, sit down for a minute, but it is, it's so
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it's really one of those things. And then I was thinking too, you
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know what, I thought another time that came to my mind is
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more visiting my sister in California and we went to her
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friend's party and just the Latin music and just all the
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dancing and just it the fun of it and yes, you know, it doesn't
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have to be dancing but dancing if you don't dance or if you're
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one that just Senses by themselves.
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As one of my clients said he goes in the closet, he can dance
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because it's a big closet so he gets a chance to do that which I
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thought was really cool but you know if you're too shy, find
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that spot find that time and just move because it does
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something. There's, you know, when you look
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I don't care what culture it is. Every culture has danced in
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every culture has music, and there's Movement, we live in a
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state that, you know, when we look at the most healthy, It's
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one of the healthiest states were always in the top three and
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when you look at that, we have a lot of cyclists.
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Here, we have a lot of hikers. Here, we have.
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No, it's we are always in motion.
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So I mean, that shows something right there.
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If it's, you know, something like those statistics about the
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state, you know, and then being more healthy.
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It just shows that through, like, I say, everybody's
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willingness to, to participate in those kinds of things, get
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outdoors, and do that kind of stuff.
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So, I was reading that Article, you know, one of the things that
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were talking about was looking at high blood pressure and blood
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sugar and they were seeing that if you could get up every half
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hour and do a little bit of a walk.
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It doesn't matter when it's 125 minutes, whatever?
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How it lowered the blood pressure and a helped the
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diabetes and they talked about why that does that, you know,
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when we sit put the blood flows in suits and all that technical
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stuff, like just kind of bypass that and all.
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But it really was about how important and that is and how we
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don't even realize and it's not that it has to be a lot of time
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and that's one of the things I love about working from home is
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I will always have about five minutes in between clients.
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So what I will do, if I will get up and I will do a walk, it
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does. And it feels that it when I have
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those days that I don't get that in.
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Like, sometimes in my office day.
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I don't because my clients come or back-to-back, I don't have
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that, and I feel different at the end of the day, you know, I
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don't fill his, I don't know. Don't feel more tired.
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Well, I know the if it's a day that, you know, I'm, I'm not
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able to give my workout on, for whatever reason.
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Or it's cut shorter that a lot of times, I feel so much more
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accomplished when I get that in, you know, even if it's for a
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shorter amount of time or whatever, but it just helps me I
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think not only physically, but mentally.
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And, I mean, that's something that we've talked about to its
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that we constantly have motion even in the mind.
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I'm that rain is constantly going and we've talked about
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that, you know, about being able to stay in the moment because
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when the brain is so fixated on, anticipating something in the
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future, a lot of times there's anxiety and or your brain is so
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caught up in the pan the past or whatever.
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And then there's a lot of times there's guilt associated with
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things and all kind of just all kinds of things.
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The brain just goes everywhere, but and there's nothing wrong
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with keeping your mind going. But I really think that we just
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have to be Be you, we have to pay attention.
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What is it? That were feeding our mind and
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that what are we keeping it in motion with well?
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And I think that in really paying attention to that
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mind-body relationship. Yeah, realizing how when you do
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have that motion with your body, how it changes the motion with
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your mind. You know, it's a weird thing
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because akaka can have the ability to slow it down, you
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know, because you get into a rhythm.
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If you're walking, if you're dancing, if you're dancing,
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you're not thinking. You're feeling I'm saying is so
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Noreen because it's not really about thought.
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When you work out, you're not thinking you're focused on
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whatever that motion is for whatever you're working out.
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So becomes that nice relationship between the body
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and the mind and with the now. Yes, I mean, I have people who
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paste because they're anxious, but he even the pacing will
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still help regulate that in a weird way.
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Do you sell to me? It's like If my body is in
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motion then there's some action taking place even though there's
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no action taking place if it's around worried, the worry does
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not create an action other than the motion of you walking but
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it's not changing the situation outside of that if not make
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sense. And so I think you know, there's
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a lot of that that takes place and I just think it's well,
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first off, I think it's fun. I'm more of a walker, you're
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more of a worker out. You like to do the more the
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where I love the workout but I loved the walk because I know
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what the walk does for me. Because I knew It for a
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different reason. So I'm having that mind-body
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thing, but I know that if I do the walking, it's so great for
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blood pressure, it keeps everything just kind of moving
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really well. I think they're not one of the
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best ways that really helped me and changing my mindset about
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working out and that was focusing on the health piece of
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it. You know?
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I mean I really saw it impact my numbers as far as cholesterol
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things like that. So I think that giving Focus to
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that and one of my main Things was focusing on strength.
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I wanted to be stronger and giving so much attention to
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that. It was about weight loss, but
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not just that, you know, I'm in for some reason having that
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focus of what I could do really helped me well and you know, we
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did the walk program on we were of mental health and the cool
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thing about that program was, is it got people up and it got
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people moving it. Got people being more healthy
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but it also created relationships.
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And I always tell people, whom if there's a group that you want
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to be a part of her stuff, there's meet up and you all of
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that, you know? So I think that's one of the
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important things to is, if movement along, doesn't motivate
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you, and if you need those partners, because I think any
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time you have a partner to do anything like that, it always
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just helps us with accountability, but it's just
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all so fun. Even when we're on Hikes, we
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stop we talked about Out. What we're looking at.
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We're in the moment, but we also get some really great ideas when
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we do that. So I think there's so much to
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it, you know, and there's such a, it's such a fun thing.
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If we don't view it as work sound know about how many people
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out there, but, you know, it's like, you know, we talked about
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the New Year's thing and it's like it's New Years and I got
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all these people doing their gym memberships and stuff like that.
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I'm excited to see how that turns out.
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But I think the thing is, is it's, if that's It takes to
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motivate you to start with the movement to start that motion.
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That is really cool. Start the motion.
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And once again, I think we also get stuck in that head face of
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if I'm not going to the gym, working out, two hours and I'm
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somehow not being successful. We will attach time to it.
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It is not about the time, but that is something that I think
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has been extremely hard to switch because even when I look
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at stuff, people will talk about.
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Well, you know, I bought a This much time and then pretty soon.
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So I'm not going to do it at all.
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And I often hear that with my clients, I don't have enough
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time for that and then I'll ask him, you don't have five
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minutes. Of course, I have five minutes.
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So do five minutes. That's something and they have
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shown that if you could really take five minutes and give it
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really hard. Like if you were able to go and
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do a run or whatever, maybe you're not able to do that, but
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whatever it is really be in that moment and do that at full
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capacity, Then that really does have an effect.
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They've shown that like, it's like intermittent running or
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things like that. Well, the impact that it does
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and then even God further. And even saying, even if you go
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and do five minutes of stretching, right?
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Stretching is a great. That's what yoga is so popular,
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and it's been around for so long, just because that's where
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you, truly learn your range of motion.
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Well, I don't think that people can, we're not meant to be
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still, and that's what we're talking about.
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About that, we're constantly in motion if we are still much
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muscles, atrophy, it becomes harder to move.
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You become more stiff, and I think that, if people did give
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some time to that, focus on stretching, and that amazes me
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with flexibility, how different your body feels.
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And that's not about fast movement.
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It's about, you know, just easing into those stretches.
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And relaxing your body into it. And when you have that
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flexibility you just feel more youthful, more vital.
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Just to me, I think the thing that's so funny is when you do
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stretch, which I had been stretching and doing really
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well, and then I kind of injured my back a little bit.
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So then I kind of pulled back from it.
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So, you know, just kind of going back and forth that, but one of
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the things I noticed and I think because I had, but I wasn't
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doing as much. Stretch is how that you don't
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walk as Right? I can't explain it but I can
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feel it here which is really interesting to me because once
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again the more movement and the more stretch we do the more
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fluid our movement even become. So I think that that's why I
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understand what you're saying about lighter because I think
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when you have more flexibility you have more agility.
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So your is just like there is more.
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It is almost like a lightness. I think to your your step and
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just your because you have that This ability, you're just more
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comfortable in your body in a way.
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Well, you know, because it's kind of funny and I'm an
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attribute it to this because I don't know why all she would be
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saying it to me when I get up. She'll tell me.
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Do you have to walk so hard? It's because she doesn't want to
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wake up the dog, or I think that's what it is.
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Or she just giving me or telling me.
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I'm not really sure what it is, but I have found since then.
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You've not heard me because I'm actually tiptoeing to the
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bathroom because heaven forbid. I wake her or the dock Why are
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you waking up and tromping to the bathroom so far?
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And why don't you people just mind him all business to them,
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but you know, what's really interesting though?
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After you mention that I've started to do a little more
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stretch and there's a difference in the way.
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It is so interesting, but I'm one of those people who probably
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weird, but I really pay attention to what's going on
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with me internally. Physically what that feels like.
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You know what those shifts are because I think the more in tune
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you are with your body in your mind, the more of that motion
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that relationship between the motion of the brain and the body
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becomes more synchronized. And you can tell when your you
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can tell them, that's not synchronized because it just I
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was telling you fill out ass works today and oftentimes it's
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if she hasn't done her work out, I'll say you fill out a sorts.
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Sometimes you feel out of sorts, please go work out.
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I want my loving Christina bakos at once again.
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I think that motion in that movement is it's so hard and I
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think people who are listening, who do that can probably be
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sitting there shaking their. Yes, that's it.
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That's what we need. That's what I'm talking about in
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so much of the time. You know, I tell people when I'm
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working on their mind I'm saying, but what are you doing?
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If you're just sitting around, I don't care how How healthy your
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mind, get your only partway healthy, there's not a
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relationship going on between the mind and the body when I
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think it impacts the mind. So I mean I don't know how how
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healthy you can make the mind without that component because
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it is important. And I don't think we realize our
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strength or we don't realize what we are capable of.
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And I know when you first started out, you know once again
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you grew up Athletics was just not a part of your family system
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whatsoever, you know, you know. So I know For you.
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It was a smoke start but then once you got to that place, now
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it's such a part of your lifestyle.
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Now I was always grateful that at least when I was growing up.
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I did enjoy skating so much, you know, my mom would always take
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me to that. So I really appreciate that
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because at least I was getting that hin, which she's going back
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to practicing and getting wants to get back into skating.
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So we had her skates, she has her own skates now, which are so
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flipping. Cool-looking it.
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Yeah, I had a maid here in Colorado Springs though, I'm
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excited about that. And I think, invest in those
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things to, you know, and that's what I was talking to her body.
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So if you're going to go skating and stuff like that, she said
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about wanting to be covered while let's go to make that
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happen because you're not going to invest in something that's
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uncomfortable. Yeah, I mean, eventually might
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become comfortable but we don't even like to sell other people's
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bowling shoes. What was true?
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So we're getting back into our bowling, which is a really great
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motion. Then So the cool thing is that
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we're talking about that bullshit, it can be things that
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are fun. We really do enjoy bowling.
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Yes, we're not quite to, you know, bowling the 300 or
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anything. Oh no, no, but it is a lot of
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fun and that's the thing is. I mean motion can be fun.
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I mean, you just look for those things that you enjoy and give
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you that opportunity to be active exactly and You know,
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when you look out there and you think of all the activities
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there are Jesus. There's just so many of them.
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Their kids Skip, Hop, you jump rope, there's Motion in it, our
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friend, our friend Sanders, she loves change our throat.
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She does the way to jump ropes. Yeah.
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So I went and bought one and then I tried using my house and
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realized that my students are little too low for that, you
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know, so I have to wait till it gets a little bit warmer and I
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can go back out and do it on my dick or my patio.
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So yes. I think it's finding those
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things that are fun. But once again, if you're
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spending a lot of time working on your mental peace but you're
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not working on that physical piece, you're not synchronized,
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there's not synchronicity in what you are doing and that
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motion of your body. Also helps your mind to not be
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sluggish and we have to start understanding the relationship
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between those two things. Yeah, and I think once you start
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working out and doing so I was kind of a little off.
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A little bit off this morning because by the time I get up,
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you know and I get you know my role in the morning is I get up,
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make breakfast, you know put on whatever, you know, meal plan
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prep. But I always want to have my
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violin before I make breakfast because that's kind of a goal
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that I've set and if I start feeling like, that's not going
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to happen, then I was there like getting all it, cost me a little
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bit of angst, not bleeding. So I don't know that it just a
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little off put but then as I started getting some stress on
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their thinking, what Does it make?
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I get to choose what time I start breakfast.
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You know what? So here, I was creating this in
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my head and it was even relevant.
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Well, because guess what? I just put off making breakfast
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by two minutes who cares. Still got dinner started, still
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got breakfast done and we still have time to do our podcasts,
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all before work but I think that's what it is.
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Then the thing is is then we can start playing the head game of
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Find then I just won't do it all.
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Yeah I mean people do that they go, it's All or Nothing.
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Instead of understanding something is better than nothing
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and something is still part of the way to completion.
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So it's just how do we change that all up?
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You know what I need? Yeah, exactly.
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So I'm kind of curious, I think the audience might be too
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because you did grow up in a more kind of restrictive
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childhood. So music was not acceptable.
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I just can't see Busting a move to Christian music.
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Well, that's what does that look like nobody, well, back then, it
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didn't look pretty, but that's, but I didn't listen to stuff
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with young people would rock out to, but it's not.
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We weren't encouraged to dance, unless you were, of course.
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Okay. So you have to understand.
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I grew up in a pot, Pentecostal Church where they, you know, run
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the aisles and Dance and things like that, but that's the only
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time that looks more. Like Bobby Flay Li Li not
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getting no offense to the Pentecostals.
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Yeah, that was acceptable then because they send, you know,
22:44
you're dancing in the spirit and that was okay.
22:48
So what I was the ad you ever danced in the spirit at the
22:51
church, actually, I'm a nicer did get out of 10.
22:58
So there any video proof of that?
22:59
No, no. But, you know, I mean, when you,
23:03
you grow up in that mindset and that that's, you know, that's
23:06
just part of what you do, I guess.
23:08
So even though I think it only happened one time in my whole 18
23:12
years grown up in church to the ball, but that was okay.
23:16
But it wasn't allowed outside of their, and it was because
23:20
dancing was used viewed as to sexualized, those kind of
23:24
things. So, if I did dance, it was
23:27
behind closed, door Chris. So you're in the closet for
23:30
multiple reasons. I miss it cause of the dancer.
23:35
Yes, among other things. Oh my goodness.
23:43
It's so how did you learn to dance then?
23:45
Did I learn today? I thought II don't know if I
23:48
learned to dance. I think that's what looks pretty
23:50
good to me. I, let the music Move me.
23:54
Get that. We're gonna do dance well
23:55
together, we do mostly Latin dance, but that's not the only
23:59
kind that we do. I I think because we feel the
24:02
music and then we move to the music, which then we move with
24:06
each other but, you know, that's just kind of that whole thing
24:08
would dance, but because it does surprise me because, you know, a
24:11
lot of people that grow up would dance, you know, you understand
24:15
why they'd answer, how they even learn to dancer, feel the music
24:18
and do the dance, but you but Madam dancing.
24:22
How did you I mean, you didn't grow up in a Latin culture?
24:24
No, I didn't. But, you know, like I told you I
24:27
loved going to concerts and those were dances That I would
24:32
have died and that was out when you moved here from.
24:34
Yeah, but when I got out to Colorado's, when it really
24:37
changed and I moved out here when I was 18.
24:40
So Joe could be a little rebel. I did get a little Rebel ish so
24:47
I did. I started going to the dances
24:50
and things like that and that's where I picked it up.
24:54
Nice. And I think and I really
24:56
appreciate that. And I think it's something that
24:57
we it's one of just one more thing that we'd love and share,
25:01
you know? Now, see we have to get back to
25:02
dancing while we cook but you know, sometimes by the time I'm
25:05
done with work and it's just a real quick.
25:07
You know, part of our thing is too, is that thing of being
25:10
Health would be? Don't like tea too late at
25:11
night, you know? And it's like, a balancing act
25:14
is Tetris, man, you had to put everything.
25:17
So he's a colony. Then we've how much have we
25:20
talked about that over time, it's balanced with me with
25:23
everything when one thing comes out of balance, it's a matter of
25:27
not overcompensating or doing that you just kind of take that
25:30
breath. And do a reset, and then let it
25:33
rebalance itself, you know? But sometimes I think that we
25:37
don't do that either, or we beat ourselves up being those.
25:41
We feel like something's lacking exactly.
25:43
And I don't think that it's a matter of lacking, and I don't
25:46
think, and it's definitely that we don't have enough time.
25:48
We all still have the same. Mom, kind of always had its what
25:51
we're feeling our time with. And when we're not feeling at
25:54
least some of that time with some sense of motion, you know?
25:58
And once again you know where we talk even about the mental piece
26:01
of it, when you're working on your life, it's your life In
26:05
Motion. Yes, you know, it's that
26:07
evolution of your life motion is a part of every aspect of life.
26:13
I mean, we talked about that, he's in in finances and that
26:17
money flows in. And it flows out, I mean, you're
26:20
constantly having to re look at things when you're budgeting, or
26:25
when you're doing whatever you constantly have to revisit
26:28
because it is in motion your, you know, You're, you're
26:32
spending your saving, you're getting all these funds coming
26:35
in, then you're paying bills out and do it all that it's
26:38
constantly in motion so and I think it's that way with
26:41
everything. So you always have to revisit
26:43
these things, I always think it's interesting because
26:45
oftentimes, I'll ask my clients when they come in.
26:48
What's new in different since the last time we met nothing.
26:51
That's the same. And I was of them.
26:53
Say that's not, that's not even possible and they'll look at me
26:56
and say, what do you mean? I'll say cannot be exactly as it
26:59
was last week. I said, where's the trash?
27:01
Check the same when you were driving in was an adobe.
27:04
They're like, hmm. Well, no, then what's new, but
27:09
when we start to get into a rhythm we forget that that is
27:12
still motion. We forget that things are still
27:14
happening. And, you know, always tell
27:17
people look for the little things and I'll talk when we
27:19
talk about the emotional brain because I talk about the
27:22
evolution, you're constantly evolving, nobody just stay
27:26
stuck. I mean we can stay stuck in
27:29
things but like He's still moving, there are still motion
27:33
going on, we don't solidify. If our brain stays stuck, our
27:38
bodies, doing something, even our brains doing something, it
27:41
could be going motion backwards to be regressing or whatever,
27:46
but they're still motion going on.
27:49
And I think that's the beauty of it because you're through that
27:52
bullshit and you're able to make changes, you're able to create,
27:56
an emotion is energy. At the end of the day, what
28:00
we're talking about is Energy, our brain is energy when we move
28:05
from moving my arm, that's energy that's Motion in energy.
28:09
It's a displacement of energy to make it happen and that's
28:12
probably but that you know, when you look at it, you know if
28:15
you're getting up in your having that move when your energy level
28:18
changes, it's because if we view it as our energy source which it
28:23
is, and even where we're investing in people will, I
28:27
don't have time for that and I'll say, but you have time to
28:29
go fill up your car, right? Well, yeah.
28:32
Okay, but you're not going to go put gas, that has half water and
28:35
half gasps are you? Well, of course not.
28:38
Well, why aren't you investing in your body?
28:40
Why are you putting something in it?
28:41
That's not as beneficial for or if it's movement that you need.
28:45
Why aren't you doing that? Don't take better care of your
28:48
car then you are you going to take care of yourself or your
28:50
home or other things because at the end of the day you got to
28:53
take care of you. Mmm parents will run their kids
28:56
around to every freakin activity there is but then when I say,
28:59
but what do you do for yourself? I just don't have time, so
29:03
they're tired. But as soon as I'll say, okay
29:05
you have to find and make time for yourself.
29:07
I don't care if it's five minutes a day three days a week
29:10
or whatever and you got to do something with motion, they'll
29:13
come back and pretty soon. I'm going for walks or I'm doing
29:16
this or I'm doing that because they realize the benefit to them
29:20
that energy that they get from it that relationship, that then
29:25
their mind does it feel as bogged down.
29:26
They don't feel like they're always like they don't have
29:29
enough time because now Wheeler to prioritize that motion that
29:34
movement van we don't she'll bogged down and it really does
29:40
come down to planning a lot of the time.
29:43
I think people are just, you know, film, like they're
29:46
constantly having to get caught up.
29:48
And it's a lot of times, it is a lack of planning when you want
29:52
something to change and you need to set aside some time or
29:54
whatever, you have to really look at the schedule to figure
29:57
it out and prioritize, what's important?
30:00
And make sure that that movement.
30:01
Movement happens, whatever. You know, it's regarding and you
30:05
know, follow up when we talk about movement and progress on
30:09
your organizational skills, her death still looks pretty good.
30:14
Yeah, the whole office looks pretty good.
30:18
The exception of the dogs toys but yeah, we can't do anything
30:23
about that. She has toys on every level and
30:26
they're all scattered about now and heaven forbid.
30:29
You go put them away because she just goes and get some right
30:31
back. Now, this is a dog that's always
30:33
in motion when it comes to play and stuff like that.
30:36
And that's the thing, she doesn't care what kind of day
30:38
we've had when I get home, she expects me to have the energy to
30:42
play with her and, you know, pretty soon.
30:44
You're play with her and pretty soon you forget, you're tired,
30:47
you know, because you're engaging and you're picking up
30:49
on her energy and, you know, all of that.
30:51
So I think people have dogs, you usually go about taking their
30:55
dogs for a walk. While some are some just Summer
30:58
of the backyard, a my yard is big enough that school horrible.
31:02
But like that's our goal with her even to when it's warm
31:06
getting her out there. Taking her for walks, those kind
31:09
of things because it's important to her to you know it's funny
31:12
because when the weather is not so good, she's in the house,
31:16
she'll go out. She's weird though, she likes no
31:19
but she doesn't like the cold cold but as soon as there's that
31:23
little bit of warmth, she is out there and she is running all
31:27
over the place. Yeah.
31:29
Oh my goodness. She loves to run.
31:31
And she'll even do that in the house.
31:33
And you can almost feel when it's like she's been still too
31:36
long. Yeah, you know, but don't you
31:39
ever feel that way? Sometimes too.
31:40
Uh-huh. Oh yeah, I think we feel that
31:42
sometimes if we've been staying in the house for a long time,
31:45
she gets a little antsy and that's like, let's go do
31:48
something. We got to go do something and
31:51
sometimes it depends on miweek, I'm there.
31:53
Like I just want to rest 30 minutes but then we go do
31:58
something. And once again even that you
32:00
know, and that was something I Had to work on because I was
32:03
such an extreme homebody, I was there, I'm perfectly content on
32:06
my home, but we did that thing of getting out hanging out with
32:11
our friends more and stuff like that and our family and stuff
32:14
and, you know, it's been really good at.
32:16
Once again, it's that motion. And when people come to visit us
32:19
yet once not winner. The first thing we do is hey you
32:22
want to go for a hike? Yeah, but your for sister, went
32:25
with the weather's. Nice.
32:27
That's like, my one of my favorite things to do is get out
32:30
and hike. I mean, I know some people like
32:33
to do this faster they can, and sometimes I'm in the mood for
32:36
that, but most of the time, I just like to see what's out
32:39
there. I take a lot of pictures that,
32:41
you know. It's just, it's movement, but I
32:44
enjoy it. When your sister came, Rebecca
32:46
comes and her daughter Kyla, so they can we do.
32:49
I was a kid, so she's got energy.
32:51
So she's hiking. We didn't Garden of the Gods and
32:54
finally climbing the rock. So they're, they're taking too
32:57
long so long that I go cowgirl with you.
33:00
So we go up ahead and she's up. Up on the rocks and she's doing
33:03
all sorts of some they're like getting that crevice climb all
33:05
the way up there, but IMA get a picture of you up there.
33:08
You know, we're doing all this. And then here you can we, you
33:11
know, we also forget that your sister has to acclimate to our
33:14
healthy fish is from those lowlands of there and so, yeah,
33:18
she's not used to this elevation, but once again, you
33:22
know, people come here, my sister comes.
33:23
Here, we go hiking. Our friend sat for Sandra to
33:28
Sandra. Hey Sandra NG, how to cook.
33:31
Not really but okay it's what I think she's thinking that we
33:35
could people not look at that. This is but you know, I think
33:39
it's just one of those things. It's something that we really
33:41
love to share with other people. And we do have some really
33:44
beautiful beautiful hiking trails here in Colorado and
33:48
that's really, really cool. And you know, we just Implement
33:52
that in as far as part of our motion as well.
33:56
Because we kind of go to I mean you know where we'd go to Club
33:59
Q, we would dance a lot and have fun.
34:01
There. But we don't go anywhere here to
34:04
go dancing. Yeah.
34:06
Not really. But I mean I just haven't been
34:09
to that many places. I know.
34:11
I don't know. Yeah, it's it's really what
34:13
there is as far as that goes. Yeah.
34:16
And if I don't we were two rhinos.
34:18
We went there for my birthday and Danny's birthday and had a
34:22
good time and danced. Oh yeah.
34:25
Tim Rita, yeah, yeah. Then Gina them.
34:27
Oh yeah. It was good time.
34:30
And I think you know when you Habit, where you can go out with
34:33
and, you know, get your friends together and you can do that.
34:36
That's really cool. You know, we've taught our
34:39
goddaughter Ellie when we go out to dinner and stuff, what does
34:43
she wait for? She waits for the end and she's
34:46
constantly saying outside outside because she wants to go
34:49
outside because we hold her hands and we walk in then we
34:53
sweet her up in the air her down.
34:55
She loves that. We've been doing that with her
34:58
since well. She's still little.
35:00
She's only going to be Three. But that was something that
35:03
Christine I would do with her, and she waits for that.
35:05
She loves that motion. She loves that feel of the, you
35:09
know, her feet going up and being in the air coming down,
35:11
and it's something that she waits for it.
35:14
She knows that that's what that means outside.
35:17
But what I love about her is she's well, she just got her
35:20
cast off because she did have hip surgery.
35:23
So, but before that, even with that, hip not being the way it's
35:27
supposed to bad, little girl was in motion, man.
35:29
Yeah. Oh yeah.
35:31
She as most two-year-olds are but she loves being outside.
35:36
Yeah, she does. She you know, she loves to go to
35:38
the valley because she can go outside.
35:40
She had some yard there, she does all that, but I love that
35:43
about her that she loves the outdoors.
35:46
She loves that motion. Okay, mom and dad, probably
35:49
don't like her Motion in the house is much.
35:51
Never really after all, she's only 2.
35:54
Yeah, and we've talked a lot about physical motion, but
35:57
there's things are constantly changing in our lives.
36:01
And And I think that that's something that we have to
36:03
remember is because even maybe if something's not going, as
36:06
smoothly as we would like, it's only a moment in time and those
36:10
things will change, and we have to keep that in mind.
36:14
Well, I think even, you know, sometimes on top of my clients
36:18
in the, we talking about relationships and stuff like
36:20
that and sad over relationship, leaving or ending.
36:24
And I always remind people that even our relationships are
36:27
sometimes, transient people come into our life in a moment that
36:30
we need them. And then That there's a motion
36:32
of them, they come in. There's the motion of them
36:35
coming in. We Embrace that, you know, we
36:38
nurture that and then, for whatever reason, it leaves and
36:42
go somewhere else or we leave, and go somewhere else and it's
36:45
because it served a purpose. Exactly.
36:47
And we're all at different stages in growth.
36:50
And sometimes that happens, I know I've talked to you about
36:55
people that I was friends with when I was a kid that I don't
36:59
feel like I relate to now. And I Die.
37:01
You know I maybe maybe Fred Facebook friends with them or
37:05
whatever and and that's about the extent of it and it's
37:10
interesting because there are other people that have come
37:13
forward. More that you know, maybe work I
37:15
didn't have much involvement with when I was younger but
37:20
because of maybe they're gross and maybe they're just their
37:24
mindset. We're on a different page now
37:26
and so some of those people have stand out more than they did. -
37:32
you know what I mean? So it's interesting how all of
37:35
your relationships change and everything like that as you grow
37:38
well. And you know, I even think, you
37:40
know, when I look at a therapeutic relationship, I have
37:43
seen, I can't, I don't even know the number of people have seen
37:46
in my career, probably thousand. Yes.
37:49
And that's done understatement. But the thing is, is realizing
37:53
that even as a therapist and I always tell my clients to, you
37:56
know, this is a relationship that has to beginning and an
37:59
ending because you're going to outgrow me.
38:01
Me which I hope you do. My goal is to help you outgrow
38:05
me in that relationship because when you outgrow me, that means
38:09
your growth has really centered around you because it's not
38:12
about the relationship. I mean, we build a relationship.
38:16
We have to have a relationship of trust and and non judgement
38:19
and all of that. But when I get to discharge a
38:23
client, I know that means that I've served my purpose in that
38:28
journey in that movement for them to A healthier version of
38:33
themselves and sometimes it's hard for clients and sometimes
38:37
it's isoclines for a while. And, you know, I really care a
38:40
lot about my clients and, and I always think also turn think,
38:43
jeez. I wonder how, you know little
38:45
Susie's doing, you know, we're things like that.
38:48
It's rare that we get to know the outcomes of what we do, but
38:52
I don't think that we have to. I think that we just have to
38:55
really appreciate the fact that we got to be a stop on that
38:58
Journey on that that motion of there.
39:01
R life. And so for me, it's always a
39:03
privilege to have that, you know, but also understanding and
39:07
I tell them you will not be with me forever.
39:11
And I think that's where our Focus has to lie.
39:13
Is that hopefully, however, long that relationship last that we
39:20
leave people in a better place. Hopefully we have that positive
39:24
impact in their life. Well, I think, even though we
39:26
have those relationships that we might think as more negative or
39:30
positive, However, they still in our path for a reason, you know,
39:36
it's like, what do we learn from it?
39:37
What is our growth? What is our movement in our
39:39
life? You know, how does that help
39:41
create a path and movement for us?
39:43
Sometimes that motion that we start to have, you know?
39:49
And sometimes it's the movement of our thought processes.
39:53
Exactly. And that's why I think movement
39:56
is such a vital thing to every aspect of Our Lives.
40:00
Everything, I can't. I don't know what part of our
40:02
life that is not there's not movement with exactly.
40:06
Well. When you because when you think
40:07
about that, the opposite of that would be stagnant and who wants
40:10
that for any aspect of their life.
40:12
And, you know, I have to tell you this, you know, and I'll
40:15
tie, I just cannot believe that I can let.
40:17
I could love you anymore. And I think the think he is, is
40:21
when we look at that, it's because, as we continue to have
40:23
grouped together and stuff, and I always tell people, there is
40:27
something really amazing about the growth of love and the Chip.
40:32
And that love is one of those things that I don't think has it
40:38
doesn't stop. We stop it from growth but if we
40:42
don't stop it and we allow it to have those natural progressions
40:46
and we really like being in the moment with it and things like
40:49
that, it just continues to evolve and I think it better and
40:53
I think that as I look at our relationship, you know, over 20
40:56
years. You know, when I think of us
40:58
from the beginning, you know, to now this evolution and this
41:01
growth in our relationship and the decision for us to work on
41:05
that growth together. That movement of our life.
41:10
So that we are on that movement is in the same direction as far
41:16
as our life together but having the individual movement as well.
41:21
Hmm. Well, I think that's it really
41:23
important. I mean, you know, we've talked
41:25
about that with all different types of relationships.
41:28
I mean, if you're working on growth, you know, and you want a
41:33
better understanding of yourself, you know, and you're
41:38
At work, it's going to have impact on all your relationships
41:43
as part of that motion. And I think if we've talked to
41:45
you in about that about, you know, that we really shifted a
41:48
lot to really investing more in to our relationship because
41:52
they're valuable if our to us and it truly work because you
41:55
can almost see that it's almost like you do that and you do with
41:58
intention and then you can see that change from the other
42:01
person side too. So it starts to help that
42:04
movement in the same direction even with that.
42:07
So it's kind of a A really neat thing.
42:08
And if people take the time to sit and think about it and, you
42:11
know, really be in the moment and focus on that motion and
42:16
those things that's kind of really a meat.
42:17
They are is because you you realize that that volek, I am an
42:22
active participant. I'm not move, we were other
42:25
people are taking me or I emotions tank.
42:29
I'm in the driver's seat and I'm the one driving that motion.
42:34
Yeah. That movement and it's going to
42:35
go where I want it to go. And it's going to evolve the,
42:40
you know, in that whatever you see in your mind.
42:42
So, I guess for today, it's that thing of the importance of
42:45
movement, and it's always happening.
42:48
But either it's going to move without you being aware of it.
42:52
And then we're going to, we get upset with it, not realizing
42:55
that we have to pause and be an active participant in our own
42:59
lives, whether it's our movement of our body, the movement of our
43:03
mind, our spirit, you know, our faith-based whatever.
43:08
That is to develop that and grow that and nurture.
43:11
That be an active participant. And I'm telling you, there's
43:16
something about dance, it goes hand in hand, with our last
43:19
episode of music, music and dance.
43:22
You know, I tell you we have music on in here, a majority of
43:24
the time. The only time we don't have it
43:25
on his when I'm working, because I'd be listening to the music,
43:29
or I might get a little distracted by my client.
43:32
What's that song Milk? But I talk to my clients a lot
43:35
about music. So but you know, once again,
43:38
That investment have fun with the movement.
43:41
Yeah, whether it's the movement of your mind or the movement of
43:45
your body, or even if it's the development of your
43:48
spirituality, whether have fun with it, make it a joyous thing,
43:52
your relationships, the way you love.
43:56
Expand on it, make it joyful. I know, that's what we work at.
44:01
Hmm, so we hope you enjoyed the episode this week, you know, and
44:06
we hope we encourage you, even if it's just one person, A
44:08
person to say, you know what? I think I'm going to put on my
44:10
dancing shoes. Hmm, get up a free stop.
44:14
There you go. If you have that friend, who
44:16
doesn't dance a certain way, or needs a dance lesson by golly?
44:19
Do it? I got a real quick story.
44:21
To when Tammy, when we were going to Fort Collins, she want
44:25
we would go out to the bar while her boyfriend at the time, would
44:29
dance did not dance country. So I would she would tell me you
44:33
go down for them. So I would go dance with him
44:35
because I danced more his style. I thought they were like, let's
44:39
just work on that girl. Let's just work on it.
44:42
I'm have to follow up with her in fact on how she's to Forfeit
44:44
their freestyled. That's my goal for the weekend.
44:49
Anyway, we hope that you guys have a really fantastic week and
44:53
we will be back next week. My