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Restoring Your Identity: Remembering Who You Are · Mentor365 Services, Inc.

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  Good morning, everyone. This is Dina from the Rory Blue Candle,
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  also known as Mentor 365 Services Incorporated.
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  And today we will discuss Chapter 5, Restoring Your Identity,
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  Remembering Who You Are.
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  Welcome back to The Healing Mind. In our last chapter, we explored resilience,
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  how to rise after the fall, but rising is only the beginning.
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  Today, we are going deeper into the question, who am I now?
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  When you have walked through pain, loss, or trauma, it can feel like your old identity shattered.
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  You may find yourself asking, who am I without what I lost? Or how do I trust myself again?
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  This chapter is about rediscovering who you are, not the version the world told
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  you to be, but the one God originally designed you to be.
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  Sometimes losing yourself doesn't happen all at once.
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  It happens slowly, through heartbreak, burnt out, people-pleasing,
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  or constant need to prove your worth.
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  You start silencing your voice to keep the peace.
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  You shrink your dreams to fit into someone else's comfort zone.
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  You forget the sound of your own soul. And one day you look in the mirror and
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  realize you don't recognize yourself anymore. But here's the truth.
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  You were never lost, only buried.
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  Beneath the layers of pain, performance, and perfectionism, your true self has
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  always been waiting, patient, kind, and whole.
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  In the scripture, your identity isn't based on what you do. It's based on who you belong to.
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  Ephesians 2.10 says, For we are God's masterpiece created in Christ Jesus to do good works.
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  You are a masterpiece, not because of your achievement, not because of how strong
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  you appear, but because you were intentionally designed, fearfully and wonderfully made.
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  The enemy of peace tries to make you forget that. He whispered lies.
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  You are not enough. You have failed. You are too broken.
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  But God speaks the truth. You are chosen. You are whole. You are loved.
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  Restoring your identity begins when you choose which voice to believe. Thank you.
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  In mental health, we call this process reclaiming your self-concept.
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  It means reconnecting with your authentic self, your values,
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  strengths, emotions, and desire.
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  When trauma or toxic environment distort your sense of worth,
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  your brain develops survival roles, like the caregiver, the achiever, or the peacemaker.
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  Those roles protect you in pain, but they can also trap you in cycles of self abandonment.
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  Healing happens when you realize the role I play was never my identity.
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  You're not just what you had to be to survive.
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  You are who you were created to be, thrive.
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  To rebuild your identity, begin with connection with God, with yourself,
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  and with safe community.
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  So, number one, connection with God. Spend time in stillness,
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  not performing, not praying for outcomes, just being.
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  In silence, you discover His voice, the one that calls you beloved.
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  2. Connection with self.
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  Journal about what brings you peace, not what brings you productivity.
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  Ask, what makes me feel alive? What values feel true to my spirit?
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  3. Connection with others. Healing is not meant to be done in isolation.
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  Find spaces whether therapy faith groups or creative communities where you can be your,
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  unfiltered self because your identity is not rebuilt in performance it's rebuilt in relationship.
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  So here are some guided reflection tools i use with clients or patients and
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  listeners who are rediscovering their sense of self.
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  One, the true self-visualization. Close your eyes.
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  Imagine a version of you before the world told you to be different.
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  The child you laugh freely, dream boldly and love easily.
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  See her standing in front of you.
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  Now whisper, I remember you and let her know she's safe to come home.
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  To the who i am journal practice every morning write one truth about yourself
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  begin with i am for example i am worthy of love and rest i am growing in grace
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  i am no longer defined by my past.
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  By rewriting your self-narrative, you rewire your brain toward self-compassion and confidence.
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  Number three, the release and replace ritual.
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  Write down every label or belief that no longer serve you.
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  Unworthy, invisible, too much, not enough.
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  Then out loud, say, I release this and replace it with the truth.
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  I am seen, I am loved, I am enough.
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  So I'm going to tell you a biblical story, the prodigal and the return.
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  In Luke 15, the prodigal son left home chasing identity in a success invalidation.
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  When it all fell apart, he returned not to shame but to embrace.
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  That's when what returning to your true identity feels like. right?
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  That's not about earning your way back to God. It's about remembering you were
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  never truly separated from His love.
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  He doesn't ask where you have been. He celebrates that you came home.
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  Now, I'm going to talk about affirmations to restore your identity.
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  I am created with divine intention. My worth is not up for debate.
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  I no longer shrink to be accepted.
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  I am returning to my true self, healed, whole, and free.
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  Healing is not about becoming someone new. It's about remembering who you have
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  always been beneath the pain.
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  It's about letting go of the false identities and standing tall in the truth of your worth.
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  You are not broken beyond repaired. You are being rebuilt with purpose.
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  So this chapter 5, restoring your identity, remembering who you are,
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  right? In our next chapter, we will explore the power of boundaries and sacred self-protection.
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  How to protect your peace without guilt and honor your energy while still walking in love.
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  Thank you so much. Take care.