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A transformational life coach, Mental health trainer, and Licensed therapist, D. Renee Smith . · The Steve Harvey Morning Show

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  Speaker 1: is important. My next guest, you know, I'd like to
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  Speaker 1: call her a transformational life coach. She's called a transformation specialist.
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  Speaker 1: She supports a professional women by rediscovering who they are
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  Speaker 1: after losing themselves in life, love or loss. They provide
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  Speaker 1: proactive mental health and wellness solutions to corporations and small businesses.
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  Speaker 1: Their service is about you and the mental health and
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  Speaker 1: how you feel. I always remember one of my stories
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  Speaker 1: I would like to repeat sometimes I live such a life,
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  Speaker 1: a stressful life, because my wife always asks, how do
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  Speaker 1: you just keep going? How do you get up? You know,
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  Speaker 1: because I I just get up and keep moving. I
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  Speaker 1: don't know if that's healthy. All I know is that
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  Speaker 1: it's just been that's my model, that's my moto. It
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  Speaker 1: may not be good for you, it might not be
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  Speaker 1: good for me, but I've learned how to deal with stress,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm willing to understand that it exists. A lot
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  Speaker 1: of people don't want to acknowledge that it exists. Well,
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  Speaker 1: my next guest is here to help us acknowledge it
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  Speaker 1: and also show us ways that we can overcome it.
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  Speaker 1: Please welcome to the Money Making Conversations Masterclass, d Renee Smith.
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  Speaker 1: How you doing, mister Renee?
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  Speaker 3: I am great, Rashwan, how are you well?
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  Speaker 1: You know if your face may look familiar because you're
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  Speaker 1: on TV a lot, but you're on radio this time.
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  Speaker 1: Because I remember she said, can I come down to
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  Speaker 1: the studio? I say, hey, you just called it? You know,
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  Speaker 1: I say, this is not TV. I know you used
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  Speaker 1: to do on TV, e Miss Smith, but you know
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  Speaker 1: this just radio show. Tell us about you, how you
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  Speaker 1: get into this business and realize because we wanted to
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  Speaker 1: talk about it. Because I hope you listen to the
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  Speaker 1: first half of my show the promoter East York who's
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  Speaker 1: talking about using this events and creating it an avenue
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  Speaker 1: because a lot of times people come to entertainment, people
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  Speaker 1: go to movies, people go to concert because they're stress
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  Speaker 1: and they're looking for outlets. And so he's providing that
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  Speaker 1: tool while you there. Guess what you can seek? You
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  Speaker 1: can seek a counselor what are your thoughts on what
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  Speaker 1: he's doing in this profound way of using his live
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  Speaker 1: events but also providing mental health awareness as well as
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  Speaker 1: counselors at these live events.
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  Speaker 3: I think that's awesome. It makes it It makes it
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  Speaker 3: so that the people are there with the counselor being
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  Speaker 3: on site, so they don't have to go look for them,
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  Speaker 3: They don't have to go find them, they don't have
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  Speaker 3: to take any additional steps other than take a couple
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  Speaker 3: of steps around the corner and have a seat and
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  Speaker 3: discuss whatever it is that's bothering you at the time.
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  Speaker 3: So I think that's a great concept.
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  Speaker 1: When we talk about this, you know, mental health, What
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  Speaker 1: exactly is mental health? What do we strive in your
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  Speaker 1: profession when you say mental health awareness or mental health
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  Speaker 1: calming people down? What do we do? What do when
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  Speaker 1: I use the word mental health. What am I talking about?
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  Speaker 3: I like to think of it in a way. You
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  Speaker 3: know how people are trying to be in like the
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  Speaker 3: best physical health and wellness that they can be. Like
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  Speaker 3: they're they're jogging, they're dieting, they're taking vitamins, they're doing
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  Speaker 3: all these things. So they're going to the gym and
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  Speaker 3: they're doing all these things so that they can be
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  Speaker 3: so fit and be in great health so that they
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  Speaker 3: don't obtain get any diagnoses or illnesses or anything that's
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  Speaker 3: brought on. That's the same thing when you think about
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  Speaker 3: your mental health as it relates to physical health. So
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  Speaker 3: you're obtaining you're getting to a point to where you
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  Speaker 3: can obtain wellness. Wellness is something that you seek after
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  Speaker 3: that's ongoing. It's an active process that you're continuing to
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  Speaker 3: do on a daily basis. As it relates to your mind,
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  Speaker 3: that means what are you consuming in your mind right?
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  Speaker 3: That means what are you listening to, what are you
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  Speaker 3: saying to yourself, monitoring your thoughts. These are all the
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  Speaker 3: things that when you think about mental health and mental wellness,
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  Speaker 3: you compare it to physical health and all the things
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  Speaker 3: you do to stay great and well over there, But
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  Speaker 3: what are you doing to stay great and well over here?
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  Speaker 1: Wow? Now with that being said, you know, we have gender,
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  Speaker 1: we have male female, we have a gay community. That's
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  Speaker 1: an whole new stress that's brought on because sometimes you
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  Speaker 1: can't even acknowledge who you are in that community, and
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  Speaker 1: then violence can come with that once you make that acknowledgement,
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  Speaker 1: which brings a whole new love little stress. But one
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  Speaker 1: of the things in you're laying in the world is
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  Speaker 1: you're very passionate about helping women. Why is that.
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  Speaker 3: Because I think oftentimes women get lost in titles and roles.
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  Speaker 3: If you're married, you're the wife, you're the mom, You're
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  Speaker 3: doing all of these different things. You're the caregiver, you're
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  Speaker 3: the uber driver, you're you're all of these things. And
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  Speaker 3: times when children leave and you become an empty nester,
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  Speaker 3: women don't know who they are. They lose themselves. Oftentimes
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  Speaker 3: in many roles, they lose themselves as a wife, they
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  Speaker 3: lose themselves as moms, and they don't know who they
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  Speaker 3: really are and what their purpose is in life. And
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  Speaker 3: so when they lose them felves when it comes to life,
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  Speaker 3: love or lost, then that's what I like to do.
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  Speaker 3: Is to help them to rediscover who they are, because
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  Speaker 3: they are awesome people. We just get caught up and
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  Speaker 3: consumed in roles and titles.
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  Speaker 1: You know, really, I hear you very clearly in that
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  Speaker 1: because of the fact that you know, I don't have
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  Speaker 1: a title. Nobody's ever given me it, you know, you know,
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  Speaker 1: and if I if I say I'm a father, you know,
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  Speaker 1: some fathers can walk away, you know, become disenfranchised themselves
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  Speaker 1: from the whole parenting, from the whole husband, try from
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  Speaker 1: the whole process, you know, for a mom. You know,
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  Speaker 1: it's really interesting when you say, but if a mom
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  Speaker 1: walks away, Oh, how dare her? They're not her children?
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  Speaker 1: How dare her not love her kids? How dare her not?
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  Speaker 1: It's really a very chauvinistic, stereotypical way that we look
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  Speaker 1: at men and women and we can make men and
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  Speaker 1: women can make the same decisions. But then we look
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  Speaker 1: at women and just really lay the hammer down when
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  Speaker 1: it comes especially when it comes to parenting, especially when
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  Speaker 1: it comes to relationships, and especially it comes to our
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  Speaker 1: dreams or what a woman's dream is versus what a
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  Speaker 1: man dream is. Talk about that whole process. If you
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  Speaker 1: can from your perspective from the mental health side, the
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  Speaker 1: stress that women have to deal with. Because I just
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  Speaker 1: brought out what you just said and I've hopefully made
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  Speaker 1: it more visual to our listeners.
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  Speaker 3: Well, it can be very stressful, like being a single parent.
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  Speaker 3: I'm just gonna I'm just gonna say that being a
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  Speaker 3: single parent with lack of support, for instance, can be
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  Speaker 3: very overwhelming. And I know some people say, oh, well,
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  Speaker 3: you know, some women, that's what they chose and things
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  Speaker 3: like that, But you don't know people. You don't know
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  Speaker 3: people's situations. One of my favorite quotes is, don't judge
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  Speaker 3: people by the choices they make, because you don't know
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  Speaker 3: the things that they had to choose from in order
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  Speaker 3: to make that choice. And so people, I mean, so
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  Speaker 3: when women are you know, single, or possibly if they
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  Speaker 3: their marriage fails or anything like that, that is stress.
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  Speaker 4: Right.
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  Speaker 3: We know that stress comes with within a couple, like
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  Speaker 3: a whole family unit, there can be stress. Now imagine
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  Speaker 3: just one person consuming all of that, the kids, the grades,
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  Speaker 3: the activities, the finances, the stress, the overwhelmed there are
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  Speaker 3: things that come along with that, and of course that
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  Speaker 3: contributes to stress, anxiety, depression. You know, I was looking
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  Speaker 3: at something the other day and there was an article
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  Speaker 3: about a mom who a single mom who didn't have support,
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  Speaker 3: who completed suicide right because she didn't have the support
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  Speaker 3: that she needs to be able to help her to
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  Speaker 3: care for her kids. And that's stressful in itself. So
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  Speaker 3: when we talk about women in the roles that they
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  Speaker 3: play and the things that they have going on, there's
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  Speaker 3: poor self care. They don't really know who they are
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  Speaker 3: they so they get consumed, so they allow things to
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  Speaker 3: come upon them that shouldn't possibly be there, like gaining weight,
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  Speaker 3: because they're not really looking after their care. They're looking
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  Speaker 3: after everybody else care. Or I can't go to the
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  Speaker 3: gym because I got to go to the baseball game,
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  Speaker 3: or I got to go to the soccer game, or
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  Speaker 3: I got to go do this. So there are things
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  Speaker 3: that women have to deal with in those roles and
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  Speaker 3: put themselves to the side that oftentimes they don't know
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  Speaker 3: how to incorporate that self care and that mental wellness
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  Speaker 3: component within their daily routine.
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  Speaker 1: Wow, I'm speaking to d Renee Smith about just mental health.
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  Speaker 1: And you know, I'm really glad because a lot of
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  Speaker 1: the majority of my listeners are female, and I'm glad
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  Speaker 1: they're hearing this. I hope they are hearing this, because
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  Speaker 1: I'm sure some of them are who you're talking about,
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  Speaker 1: people who want to change their roles but sometimes get
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  Speaker 1: blocked into that. Are afraid to make a decision to
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  Speaker 1: better themselves but don't want to be looked down upon
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  Speaker 1: or don't want to be subject to You can't do that?
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  Speaker 1: What about your kids? Or what about your job? Or
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  Speaker 1: what about? Then they don't have any dreams, and so
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  Speaker 1: they're just blocked in to being what everybody else say
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  Speaker 1: they should be and never being who they could be.
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  Speaker 1: That's powerful statements that you're saying. How can they get out?
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  Speaker 1: How can a woman get out of that box that
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  Speaker 1: the society has put them in?
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  Speaker 3: Well, one thing that I like to say is self
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  Speaker 3: care is not selfish. You taking care, taking control of
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  Speaker 3: your dreams, you taking control of your mental well being,
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  Speaker 3: you taking a time out from having to be all
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  Speaker 3: things and do all things, is not selfish. So you
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  Speaker 3: have to seek the support that you need in order
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  Speaker 3: to get to a place to where you can you
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  Speaker 3: can do those things. It's possible, It's not selfish. You
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  Speaker 3: don't have to be all of this and none of that.
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  Speaker 3: There is a way to have harmony, not balance, but harmony.
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  Speaker 3: As long as all things are working together for the good,
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  Speaker 3: there's harmony.
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  Speaker 1: Before we return and start speaking, a continue my interview
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  Speaker 1: with d Renee Smith, transformational life coach, mental health trainer
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  Speaker 1: and licensed therapists. I'm big into women athletics, women's sports,
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  Speaker 1: and one of my favorite players is she attends the
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  Speaker 1: University of Stanford college basketball player, really huge in the NL,
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  Speaker 1: one of the top paid NL athletes, and her name
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  Speaker 1: is Cameron Brink. When you look at Cameron, she's got
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  Speaker 1: it going on. She's six foot one, she's beautiful, she's
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  Speaker 1: got all these qualities. She's probably going to be a
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  Speaker 1: first round pick and next year's WNBA draft. But that
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  Speaker 1: doesn't mean that she doesn't have mental health problems, and
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  Speaker 1: one of the things she said in the interview, she said,
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  Speaker 1: whenever I'm in a bad mood or not having a
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  Speaker 1: good day, people around me will know. Mental health should
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  Speaker 1: be seen as hygiene, like brushing your teeth every day.
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  Speaker 1: You should be checking in with yourself. So I haven't
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  Speaker 1: been afraid to share that I've struggled mentally. And I
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  Speaker 1: think what she's saying right there is that don't hide
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  Speaker 1: how you feel, and that suppression leads to a bigger problem. Correct.
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  Speaker 3: Absolutely, How do.
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  Speaker 1: We see the warning signals if nobody is willing to
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  Speaker 1: tell us that they're dealing with issues that we need
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  Speaker 1: to be talking about a sea king, a therapist, taking
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  Speaker 1: some form of counseling, or some form of family or
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  Speaker 1: friend support.
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  Speaker 3: Well, it's based on the person's functioning and the severity
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  Speaker 3: of what's going on with them. If you see a
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  Speaker 3: person that you know is typically like uplifted and doing
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  Speaker 3: this and doing that, and you're noticing that they're kind
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  Speaker 3: of withdrawing, or you're noticing that they no longer have
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  Speaker 3: a desire to do something, or you're noticing or they're saying,
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  Speaker 3: you know what, I don't feel comfortable when I'm in
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  Speaker 3: certain spaces, like I start to feel like something is
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  Speaker 3: you know, like something is bothering me, or like I'm
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  Speaker 3: getting pastaphobic when I'm in certain places, and things like that.
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  Speaker 3: It's just that the normal people in the world, other
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  Speaker 3: than those of us who are trained to identify in
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  Speaker 3: no signs of depression and anxiety and things like that,
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  Speaker 3: they're not aware of what to look for when it
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  Speaker 3: comes to things like that. They don't might not know
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  Speaker 3: that depression has different signs. There are people who complete
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  Speaker 3: it suicide, and every time you talk to someone, they
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  Speaker 3: might say, Oh, they seemed like they were just so happy, right, Oh,
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  Speaker 3: this person just seemed like they were so happy. We're
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  Speaker 3: not saying that this is a ketch all, but there
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  Speaker 3: are certain things. If you know this a person's patterns
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  Speaker 3: of behavior changing, then you can just do a check
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  Speaker 3: in with them, Hey are you okay? And even if
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  Speaker 3: they say I'm okay, are you sure? Oh you're okay?
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  Speaker 3: Because I noticed this, this and this and this, or
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  Speaker 3: I notice this, this and this and this. Don't just
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  Speaker 3: accept okay as the end all be all, because if
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  Speaker 3: you tend to explore a little bit more, then you
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  Speaker 3: might get something else out of them.
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  Speaker 1: That's important. I know that.
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  Speaker 3: You know.
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  Speaker 1: It's not being nosy, it is being concerned. And that's
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  Speaker 1: that's a big difference, because in the end, you don't
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  Speaker 1: want to you don't want to sit around and with regret.
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  Speaker 1: I rather pester somebody, I rather make them mad at me,
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  Speaker 1: leave me alone. Well, we're thinking we're angry now. At
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  Speaker 1: least you've refocused on me. Okay, refocused on me, redirected
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  Speaker 1: whatever bothering you back on me. I take that. I
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  Speaker 1: take that. But more importantly, the workplace can create mental
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  Speaker 1: stress too. And I'm gonna get to the HBCUs in
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  Speaker 1: a minute, because we recently had a violent incident as
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  Speaker 1: an HPCU. What is the workplace? How does people especially
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  Speaker 1: people of color, because that's where we run into a
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  Speaker 1: lot of issues. You know, we're not getting the raised
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  Speaker 1: we thought we should get. We're not getting promoted like
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  Speaker 1: we thought we should get, we're not getting respected, we
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  Speaker 1: feel we're being harassed, we feel when in an environment
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  Speaker 1: that won't let us grow. All these things create stress.
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  Speaker 1: Talk about that work environment.
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  Speaker 3: But listen, I have been doing EAP consulting for the
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  Speaker 3: last five to six years, right, and there are a
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  Speaker 3: lot of things that I feel are reactive. There are
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  Speaker 3: EAPs that the services that's provided are reactive to situations,
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  Speaker 3: meaning they come after something has happened. Now that the
• 19:14
  Speaker 3: place is on fire, let me call somebody to put
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  Speaker 3: it out. But there is nothing that's really being done
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  Speaker 3: to be proactive and maintaining and managing mental wellness. Remember
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  Speaker 3: when I said earlier, mental wellness is something that should
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  Speaker 3: be practiced often and it's owing ongoing. So why are
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  Speaker 3: we dealing with things after something had happened and then
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  Speaker 3: it's put back on to the employee to go and
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  Speaker 3: seek an EAP counselor or someone to get that help.
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  Speaker 3: So what we do with my business, Transformational Living Coaching
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  Speaker 3: and Consulting, is we offer mental wellness coaching as well
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  Speaker 3: as performance coaching to where they're getting. They have a
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  Speaker 3: coach that's supporting them twice a month at least to
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  Speaker 3: support their mental well being, to help guide them, to
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  Speaker 3: help them process, to not necessarily processing, but to help
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  Speaker 3: them stay in a great mental place, to help prevent burnout,
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  Speaker 3: to reduce stress, to help increase productivity, and things of
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  Speaker 3: that nature.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I employ people, and so I employ people
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  Speaker 1: to come to work. You know, forty hours a week,
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  Speaker 1: give me their job responsibility that I requested them every day?
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  Speaker 1: As an employer, what should I be doing? What should
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: I be aware of? You know, if I'm doing stuff,
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  Speaker 1: am I being just just more? Should I be more
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: aware of the person and not so much aware of
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  Speaker 1: what I'm asking them to do? Are what are my
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  Speaker 1: responsibilities as an employe for that pre care that you're talking.
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  Speaker 3: About, We're talking about call out monitoring, call outs stress.
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  Speaker 3: When it comes to how are they dealing with stress?
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  Speaker 3: Do they seem like they're fragled, Do they seem like
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  Speaker 3: they're able to manage it? How are they how is
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  Speaker 3: their productivity? Are they doing? Are they doing things on time?
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  Speaker 3: Are they late? Are they coming in la You know,
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  Speaker 3: these are all like patterns of behavior, just observing patterns
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  Speaker 3: of behavior to kind of see what is going on
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  Speaker 3: with that person. And then if you work with them
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  Speaker 3: on a regular basis, you're able to notice change. Right,
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  Speaker 3: No different than what we talked about before. You're able
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  Speaker 3: to notice the change in those individuals so that you
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  Speaker 3: can get them help. But again that's after the fact.
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  Speaker 3: What are we doing ongoing on a regular base.
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  Speaker 1: Well, you know, I try to keep you I'm just
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  Speaker 1: talking about my company. You know, I try to I
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  Speaker 1: try to cook, cook desserts, you know, snacks for my staff.
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  Speaker 3: You know.
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  Speaker 1: You know people always say, man, I wish I worked
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  Speaker 1: for you. You're always cooking, approaching you know, I got
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: to make homemade of ice cream. You know, they come
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  Speaker 1: in sometimes. I because in my office I have a
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: kitchen and so I'm able to cook food, and so
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  Speaker 1: I'm able to do snacks. So I try to build
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: that atmosphere that hey, you know, you know that there's
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: fun there, there's uh because we have a job to
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: do it right and I'm trying to keep these doors open.
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  Speaker 1: But in the meantime, you know, I'm making desserts or
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: hamburger or some chicken or cast role or sometimes I
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: might do a full blown lunch for him. And so
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: that's my way of trying to keep that stress down,
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: is that somethings I should continue doing.
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  Speaker 3: Absolutely, people like to feel valued and appreciate it on
• 22:55
  Speaker 3: their jobs. And if you're contributing to that and allow
• 23:00
  Speaker 3: them to feel valued and appreciate it sincerely on the job,
• 23:05
  Speaker 3: then that lets them say, that makes them want to
• 23:08
  Speaker 3: work for you, That makes them want to stay in
• 23:12
  Speaker 3: your company to kind of help prevent turnover and things
• 23:15
  Speaker 3: like that. But it's just when you go to those
• 23:17
  Speaker 3: other areas where you're not being valued and then it
• 23:21
  Speaker 3: is high stress, you know, on the job, and you're
• 23:25
  Speaker 3: not necessarily taking care of them as a as a whole,
• 23:29
  Speaker 3: because telling them to go to the EAP are just
• 23:33
  Speaker 3: callities number if you need to talk to somebody or
• 23:36
  Speaker 3: something like that. Like oftentimes they're not gonna they're not
• 23:40
  Speaker 3: going to follow through with that. EAP services are only
• 23:44
  Speaker 3: used five to ten percent of the time out of
• 23:49
  Speaker 3: a study show and then you as EAP services is
• 23:52
  Speaker 3: only US five to ten percent, and most often it's
• 23:56
  Speaker 3: not by the employee the employees and is non related
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  Speaker 3: to mental health.
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  Speaker 1: And EP stands for what.
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  Speaker 3: Employee assistance programs.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, cool, that's.
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  Speaker 3: What the employee. That's what the employees get through their
• 24:10
  Speaker 3: insurance company. If they get a certain amount of sessions
• 24:14
  Speaker 3: for free. Some companies might give you three sessions, some
• 24:17
  Speaker 3: might give you six. And then oftentimes when you tell
• 24:20
  Speaker 3: people that, it's like, oh, well that's it, three sessions,
• 24:23
  Speaker 3: that's it. They don't want to take they don't want
• 24:25
  Speaker 3: to take any parts in it because it's just gonna
• 24:27
  Speaker 3: be three sessions like that ain't gonna be enough. I
• 24:29
  Speaker 3: got all these problems.
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: You know, I know, don't put a limit on my problems. Now,
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: Renate Smith D. How can we get in touch with you?
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  Speaker 3: All right? You can reach me at t LCCs dot net.
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