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The Pausecast Emily Fletcher Ziva Mediation Ep. 37 · The Pausecast

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It's so great to be here today with Emily Fletcher.
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Hello Emily. How are you?
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I'm so happy. So happy to be here and I'm
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feeling really grateful at the moment.
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Mmm, I'm excited that you're here too.
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And I want to share a little bit about who Emily is with all of
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our listeners and then we can go into a exercise that I love you
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lead us in for a pause in manifesting.
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Does that sound good? Let's do it.
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Awesome. So some of you may know Emily.
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Emily literally has, in my opinion, changed the game of
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meditation. She's the founder of Ziva
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meditation and a leading expert in meditation for performance.
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You've taught over 25,000 people and probably more than that
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actually already now. Okay, we're gonna update that
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statistic anytime. Yeah, that's amazing.
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And you've written a book called Stressless accomplish more.
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You're an international speaker. It's been translated into 12
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languages, and you've been on a myriad of shows, New York Times,
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Good Morning America. Today's Show ABC Vogue, that's
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all incredible as it. They know and recognize how
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important your work is. You've been named one of the top
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100 women in Wellness, the watch and you've spoken at Google,
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where I work at Apple and Harvard Business School.
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You've also helped graduates from your programs when things
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like Oscars and Grammys and Emmys, Excitable.
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Yeah. Just you know little things like
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that and what I think is so powerful is this Ziva technique
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that is mindfulness meditation and manifesting so that we can
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so that we can all live a better life and not just necessarily
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meditate but use that for going for our potential.
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So Emily, welcome to the podcast.
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And I would be honored if you would lead us in a cause that
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work for you. I would be delighted to actually
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did an interview yesterday with a Owen.
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And she was talking about how she really doesn't talk about
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stress very much. She's much more speaking about
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connection and unity and Consciousness.
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I was like, look, that is great for your audience, but the
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people that I speak to are usually a little bit more,
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skeptical pragmatic, they are dealing with stress.
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They are dealing with overwhelmed there in the
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corporate environment and but at the end of the day, we were
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really saying the same thing. And when you asked me to lead a
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manifesting exercise, I thought, okay.
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Well, what would someone think about that?
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If they had never done manifesting, The only knew about
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manifesting was the secret, like, what kind of resistance
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would come up? And so, I think that a lot of
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people, when they hear that word, they roll their eyes and I
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think, oh, it's woo. And it's not for me, or you want
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me to just like, you know, get high and sit on the couch and
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secret my dreams. It's like, no, no.
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You have to take action you have.
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But this is the blueprint, I think this is us bringing our
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dreams from the unmanifest into 3D reality.
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But before that can happen, we have to lay the 2D reality.
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And so this time of manifesting is we Start by feeling really
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good, we sort of float, our brain and body with dopamine and
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serotonin, which her Bliss, chemicals.
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And then, the manifesting is simply consciously, creating a
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life, you love. It's you getting intentional
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about what you want your life to look like.
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And here's the trick, when you start to put your attention on,
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where you're going on, what would bring you the most Joy on.
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What's the dream case scenario, if you had a magic wand and you
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could wave it over one area of your life.
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What would that look like when you start to put all your time
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and energy on that thing? All the problems in the
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overwhelm and the stress and the issues, they really start to
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fall away. And it was like as we water the
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flowers, the we'd start to die. But if we spend all of our time,
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tending to the weeds, we can't help.
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But give our attention to them. And then we're accidentally
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growing the things we don't really want to be growing, so
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that's sort of the philosophical.
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Why behind manifesting? So we're gonna start with just a
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few seconds of breathing because it really is important to pause
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to be in our bodies to start to feel good and then to wave that
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magic. Jaquan to ask the question.
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What would I love from a place of presence from a place of
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feeling good? So let's go ahead and close our
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eyes. Take a big deep inhale, through
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the nose. Exhaling through the mouth and
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long getting the exhale from the inhale.
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Another big deep inhale through the nose breathing space into
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the belly, space around the heart.
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And this time, as you exhale, letting the Brows often letting
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the jaw soften letting your shoulders drop letting your
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belly be soft. Really good.
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Another inhale through the nose breathing.
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So, much spaciousness around her heart, letting it open.
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Letting its often. And this time as you exhale,
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imagine every single muscle in your body surrendering, every
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single muscle in your body, from your brow, to your jaw, to your
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shoulders, to your hips, to your feet.
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Just letting go really good in one final time, breathing in the
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word. Let And breathing out the word,
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go. Taking a moment to feel your
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body against the chair. To hear all of the sounds
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happening around you. I'm not shoving anything away.
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We're not trying to be anywhere other than where we are.
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We're accepting and surrendering, accepting and
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surrendering. Now, from this place, I invite
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you to think of one thing that would bring a smile to your
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face. One thing that you would love to
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create in your romantic life, your professional life.
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Personal life. Doesn't matter what the dream is
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probably. The first thing that popped into
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your mind is a great one to play with for today.
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But just one thing, that's one thing I would love right now.
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And now like you're a little kid playing pretend like you're
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giving yourself permission to awaken your imagination.
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I invite you to imagine this dream unfolding all around you.
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Imagine this thing that you would love.
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Unfolding. As if it is, your current
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reality. So, you're signing the contract,
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you're saying, yes, you're taking the stage, you're seeing
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the number and the bank account, you're waking up next to the
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person, whatever it is, awaken your imagination and allow it to
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unfold all around you. So where are you at the moment
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that this dream comes true. Inside or outside.
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Today, or night. Who's with you?
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And what does it sound like at the very moment that you realize
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that this thing is happening, this dream is coming to
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fruition. What does it sound like?
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Are you laughing? Our people applauding.
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Is it silent? Is there music playing?
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Starting to engage our five senses to really make this
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reality real for us. So that when the opportunity
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comes which it will feels like you've already achieved it.
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Decreasing our chances for self Sabotage by imagining this
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dream, as if it's happening now, to who's with you, what does it
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sound like And most importantly, what does it feel like at the
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very moment that you hear the news?
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You realize that this dream is becoming a reality.
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What does that feel like in your belly?
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What does that feel like in your heart?
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You feel excited, proud. Generous.
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Taking a big inhale and breathing that feeling into
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every single cell in your body, starting to charge up your cells
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so that they can match the frequency of your dream.
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Giving thanks. As if this dream has already
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happened. Knowing that this or something.
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Better is already on the way to you.
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Big inhale. And as you exhale, letting go of
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anything that is not serving you or this dream.
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And one final breath bringing your awareness into your room,
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into your body, moving your hands, moving your feet, letting
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a little smile, come to your face, but that sense of trust,
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would that sense of gratitude? Really believing that this thing
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is on the way. Otherwise nature would not have
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given you the desire. In your own time whenever you're
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ready, we can start to slowly gently Open the Eyes.
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Wow. Thank you.
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Thank you so much for that exercise.
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That pause, I call a pause and intentional shift in behavior
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and me, that's such a powerful way to imagine your desire.
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I know I'm also a student of yours, but I've taken the actual
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manifesting class and it's incredible.
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What you can feel when you allow yourself that they, and, and
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honestly, that's the trick about manifesting, it's about feeling
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good. Because the better you feel the
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higher quality people jobs, abundance, you're going to be
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calling in but if you're sick and scared and tired and angry
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and lock down your your dream person could walk right down the
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street and you probably won't see them.
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You know, that that job offer might have come in but you were
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in overwhelm that you missed the email, you know, the opportunity
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to start the company that would have brought the abundance might
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have shown up. But if you're so busy, stressing
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out about the past and the future, you might not be
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available to hear that little whisper when it comes in a miss
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it. Yeah.
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So it's really about feeling good.
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It's about getting into the present moment and then your
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lens pulls back and you can start to take advantage of and
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recognize all these opportunities as they are
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arriving. Yeah.
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And I like what you said earlier where if we're feeling that
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stress or we think like this isn't for me, this isn't
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something that I even know what do or like this is like the
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woowoo stuff. I think it's so interesting that
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it's actually really just you're envisioning and creating what
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you want and that's just more likely to happen because you
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Actually, recreated that like, cellular memory of what that
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feels like, right. Is that, is that kind of what
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happens, you know, we get into this like if you can sound a
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little Booboo, it's like the cellular and the energy, and the
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vibration. But if you were the CEO of a
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company, or if you were your team lead and you had objectives
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for 2021, you're not going to just be like, we'll just go out
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and just work like just do whatever, just keep working and
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we'll see if we hit some goals that we never said like without
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a plan without the know. Plan.
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Okay, apis. No assignment of who's doing
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what? And yet.
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This is kind of what we're doing with our personal dreams.
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Like, yeah, I want a partner. I want to make a million
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dollars. I want to have a dream house,
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but I have no strategies. I have no specific dreams in my
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mind or written down, and I have no daily habits that are moving
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me towards those dreams and they're like, how come she's
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getting it? And I'm not, it's like well,
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she's one placing the order, right?
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Like we have to place the order with out what I called, The
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Cosmic, waitress, the cosmic about rest.
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But then we also have to take action, right?
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So it's okay. It doesn't have to be any more,
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like, whoo, then it's a core strategic objective, you know,
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like what's important to you? What do you want to accomplish
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and are you taking action towards that goal?
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And what do you got to lose? Is kind of where I go with that.
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Like why would I not try that to see what happens right to
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experience. And if the point of manifesting
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is feeling good, then like, oh no, I spent two weeks.
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I'm good. I'm so mad.
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I wasted that time my bummer. Yeah, yeah, well, I love that
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analogy where it's about similar to planning for your year or the
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2021 business plan. I think a lot of us are in the
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corporate world. I know from listening to the
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podcast, but even if you're not, if you're just a mom at home,
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you know, what would you want to create for your day?
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And I think that just the pause to align with what it is or to
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allow that to surface is so important.
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Because how will, you know, or what would you want, and that's
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what I would call. Intention and attention is so
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important for creating what we want and in our world, and we
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need that right now. So much, I think with her world
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and pandemic welcoming dose of moving towards the positive of
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moving towards, what we want to create, there's plenty of things
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to move against right now. There's plenty of things to put
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our attention on removing. And and yet, what we put our
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attention on, grows the harder. You push against something the
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harder, it pushes back with it. Equal and opposite force.
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And so, it's like, if we have new legislation in place, we
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have new government in place, like where we moving towards in
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your company, you know, if you're trying to disrupt an
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industry, we can't move away from the old.
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You have to move towards the New Vision.
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If you're changing a relationship, don't move away
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from the old relationship move towards the new one.
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So it's it's the simplest of natural laws, but it's so easy
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to get distracted. I was a overly What's happening
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in this 3D reality, right? Because we can see and hear and
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taste and smell everything that's real now.
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And so it was like, I don't like that.
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We push away from that. But then again, watering the
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weeds versus, oh, I'm going to spend the time to take the pause
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to get intentional, to listen, to what it is that I actually
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even want. And then use my very powerful
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mind, my very powerful imagination to bring this into
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existence. The thing is, were imagining all
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day, it's just that most people are imagining, what they don't
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want to happen, and that's called Stress and Anxiety.
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And depression. And so I'm not even asking
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people to spend up any more minutes on this than they're
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already spending is like you're already using your imagination
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to think about the things that may or may not happen.
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It's just instead of the speculation which leads only to
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suffering. I'm now inviting you to put that
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same amount of energy and Imagination on.
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What you do want to happen, that is such wise words of wisdom,
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Emily. I couldn't agree more and
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knowing you're building this meditation.
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Technique the Ziva technique you've got 40,000 students.
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I'm so curious. What is your vision for what
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you're creating? Because it is so important.
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Especially in the work world right now where this has not
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been the norm and we are learning, we're learning to
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maybe pause and shift our Behavior or to learn that we can
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create from intention where and what do you looking to create
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for your for yourself? I'm so curious.
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Yeah. So thank you for asking that
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because honestly I've been putting So much time and
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attention manifesting my personal goals right now because
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there's a lot of things that are shifting in my life.
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Personally, that's where I've really been using a lot of
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energy and and I've been and also things are changing a lot
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of my company. And so I've to be very honest, I
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haven't been crystal clear on what ziva's goals are.
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I mean, I know big picture like for this year we delayed our
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off-site until after we're about to launch a Ziva kids.
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And so I feel like every once a year, we do this off site where
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we just dream and dream and dream and manifest minimis
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amount of And that's happening in late March.
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So I feel a little bit. Like, I'm not totally sure, but
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I can tell you, like, the big picture one's even.
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Yeah, that's that would be great.
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So one, is it, so it, like, I just mentioned, we're starting
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Ziva kids in a few weeks. It was coming out in February,
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and this is going to be. I'm working on it for two years
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with folks, from Harvard psychology and also Sesame
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Street. And I think it's going to be the
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world's best meditation training for kids to help kids Thrive and
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so this I wanted to legit Go Global like there.
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Is nothing out there that I think is good enough for kids
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and most of the stuff is like free apps or for YouTube videos
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or Barbie and it's like, no, no. Like we got to get the most
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powerful tools into the hands of these children in a way that is
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accessible and enjoyable, and if they want to come back to it.
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So just like I've done with Ziva for adults, we're really framing
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meditation as a tool to help you get better at life, right?
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So if you want to get better at work, right?
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You need to handle your stress. You want to find a relationship
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great. You need to handle your stress.
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So it's the same for kids. It's like, look, you love
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soccer. Amazing.
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This is a tool to help you be better at soccer.
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I would love to see this like one in people's homes to start,
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you know, thousands of homes around the world and then
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hopefully in schools and community centers.
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So that's the dream for that. I once we're all convening
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together, you know, we can be together.
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I want to be, I want to be in a stadium filled with 15,000
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people, meditating the start and then eventually I'd love to have
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stadiums of people around the world like telecasting to each
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other. So we're legit having like Mass
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Global meditations? Ins Mass manifestations healing
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climate change. You know ending genocides like
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you really putting 15,000 people's antennas tuned to a
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specific goal, that seems very exciting to me.
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You know, this is all pre-pandemic but I love the idea
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of partnering with Starbucks and having like a Ziva T just
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because they have all this real estate and it's boasted.
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It's mostly empty from like noon until 6:00 and especially in New
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York City. It's hard for people to find
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places to Is he it's like why don't you just have like a Ziva
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tea and a meditation our at Starbucks or people pop in and
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can go and meditate there. So it's like your utilize that
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and say that's already there, I'd love to have Ziva online,
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which is the course that you did star 15-day.
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Like Flagship training in mindfulness.
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She's my way of meditation so good and I'd love to have that
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and, you know, Google, I'd love to have it in, you know, in
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schools and universities because it's only 15 minutes a day for
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15 days. And then you have these tools to
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take With you for life. And it's not like not like
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Tethered to your phone like an app.
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You don't need a dude, playing drums on your chest and burning
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incense in order to be able to do it, you just close your eyes
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and so I'd love to really see that program scaled through
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corporations and colleges. So yeah, I love that vision for
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yourself and knowing where in the virtual world right now, for
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who knows, indefinitely right now.
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But that Stadium mentality. Do you see that being like we
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could just do that virtually if we had a hook?
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15,000, Zoom connections or something.
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You know, we're almost there because I do, I do weekly Global
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meditations, every Tuesday at 6 p.m. and we're up to about
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10,000. So, you know, that's, that's
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just like a stone throw away from 15,000 and then, yes, a
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virtually. It's that's happening.
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Now that's so exciting. And so what?
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Yeah, you mentioned Ziva online and I want to say a word about
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that because as a person that was introduced so I wasn't
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looking for a new way to meditate and I've been
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meditating. Like maybe many of us look
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several As bait or nine years since my first Burning Man,
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actually. And, and what I learned was, the
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structure of doing something within 15 minutes twice a day,
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where I don't have to rely on anything, including having a
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anything, but a timer basically, and I have to look at it myself.
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It's not even something that I could have a chime on.
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That's what you recommend not to do that for meditation bends,
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which I love that analogy. So, again, scuba diving, you can
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get the bends. If you come up too fast, same
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thing, I'm in meditation and Give you what I call The
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Meditation bends which looks like headaches and irritability.
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Yeah. So it's about your own time and
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what works for you and then the two times a day, I really like I
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thought that wasn't going to happen, you know, I thought
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there's no way there's no way I'm going to do 15 minutes and I
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granted don't do it every day for to Choice a day.
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But what I do find is how much more empowered and good.
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I feel when I do do that, and I think that, you know, if we all
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just take those 15 days to learn what you're thinking, there's so
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much there, I think for us to shift and that's what you're
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talking about is living our best lives.
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So like all the power to you, Emily.
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I'm so excited for what you're doing.
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Thank you. Tell me.
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Yeah, tell me a little bit about how you got started.
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I know your background somewhat but share a little bit about how
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you got started in this world. Hmm, so I was on Broadway for 10
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years, singing, dancing acting. And my last show was A Chorus
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Line where I was understudying 3 of the lead roles.
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So you never know which You're going to play when you show up
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to the theater each night, which led to a lot of anxiety led to
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make my gray led to insomnia, led to me getting sick and
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injured all the time. So, long story short, I found
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meditation, I took this four-day course, and on the first day of
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my first class, I was meditating.
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I had no idea what that meant, but I was in a different state
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of consciousness that I had ever been in before, and you've got
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to think this is 12 years ago. So there was no abscess was no
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online meditation training. There was no overt Oprah.
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There was no head space so I had no idea really, what meditation
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was? I just knew that I I was like
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like in this other state of consciousness and that night, I
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slept through the night for the first time in 18 months, and I
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have every night since that was 12 years ago, then I stopped
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going gray. I stopped getting injured.
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I started enjoying my job again, I didn't get sick for eight and
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a half years and so, I just thought, why does everybody not
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do this? I left Broadway went to India
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started. What became a three-year
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training process to teach. And, you know, like I said, now,
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I we've created actually the world's first online meditation
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training, which is now called Ziva online.
23:13
And it's not over 40,000 people and I think I think the book is
23:16
about like 65,000 now. So I think like all in were
23:19
about 100,000, which is great, but it's also like a drop in the
23:23
bucket of the eight billion stressed out humans on the
23:26
planet. It's like, well, I'm very like
23:28
ego proud, like, great 100,000 people.
23:30
It's like that ain't nothing. Like we gotta get into the
23:33
hundreds of millions very, very quickly because we can feel it.
23:37
Like we can feel the pressure cooker that everyone is under as
23:41
the world is changing. Even if you take the pandemic
23:44
out of it, technology Healthcare, you know, it's all
23:48
speeding up and then you put a global pandemic on it.
23:52
That's really changed. Our whole civilization in a very
23:54
fast way and you put loneliness and isolation on top of it.
23:58
And it's a recipe for people, feeling lonely and sick and
24:03
scared, and stressed and the sad reality is that stress makes us
24:06
stupid, sick and slow, and we cannot afford to be stupid, sick
24:11
and slow right now. We need all Is on Deck to face
24:13
the very real challenges that were being called upon as a
24:16
species. And so, I think that this whole
24:19
time of This Global pause, right?
24:22
Like there's in some ways, we're in a global pause.
24:24
It can be an opportunity to really look at.
24:26
Well, what stuff is coming up for me?
24:28
What needs to be healed and move us closer towards Enlightenment?
24:31
Or it can be like another layer on the callous, it can be
24:35
another chink in the armor of stress.
24:38
And I think it's really important that we decide that
24:40
we're going to move towards healing.
24:42
That we're going to soften and open our hearts and lead with
24:45
compassion and create the world that we would want to live in on
24:49
the other side of this versus allowing it to be like another
24:52
traumatic experience. Yeah.
24:55
What I'm hearing is that choice. We all have that free will to
24:59
say I want to change my my attitude or my stress levels or
25:05
how I show up. And I think this time is is
25:09
Paramount for knowing what was working?
25:12
What Here won't get us there. That's kind of how I see it.
25:15
Yeah. And what better way to do that
25:17
than to up here up here Auntie and your game for like going
25:21
deeper in a way of present so that you know what's going on
25:25
with you so that you can feel okay?
25:27
And be okay with that. And I would argue that while
25:30
yes, I cosmically, I do believe that.
25:32
We all have a choice. I also think that, you know,
25:35
while we're all in the same storm, a lot of us have
25:37
different sized and shaped boats, you know, I have the
25:40
privilege of working from home. I have the privilege of having
25:42
an Annie. I have a prince of having a son
25:44
who's not in school yet and so you know I already had an online
25:48
business. So I know that like I was very
25:50
well positioned to take this time and to do this internal
25:53
work or some people single parents people have three jobs
25:57
and they don't really have a choice of like whether or not or
26:00
perhaps they're more susceptible to covid or they have a
26:03
pre-existing condition or they don't have health care.
26:05
So I just want to acknowledge the fact that some people are
26:08
legit in survival mode right now.
26:10
And, and those of us who have the privilege, Of taking this
26:13
Clause of doing this internal work.
26:15
I think we have an obligation both to ourselves and to the
26:18
people around us so that we can help to lift up the collective.
26:22
Yeah, thank you for acknowledging that.
26:24
I 100% agree. Christina breath into that.
26:28
Yeah, It's Tricky thing. The privilege piece, right?
26:33
Because it's like, I think when people hear it, they think of oh
26:35
you want me to feel guilty about what I have and it's not about
26:38
guilt, right? To me, privilege is something
26:41
that you have that. You maybe didn't learn.
26:43
So the question is, how are you going to spend it?
26:45
You don't so, guilt isn't helping anybody really, unless
26:48
it's pointing towards something that needs to be healed.
26:51
But if you just think about it, like currency, you didn't earn
26:53
but you have an opportunity to spend then I think it's quite
26:56
empowering. All right, then it's like oh
26:59
wait this is like a. I can use this to help people.
27:01
I can use this to do good in the world versus like oh you want me
27:04
to feel guilty about something that I feel like I didn't have
27:07
any control over. Yeah.
27:09
And what a, what a shift that is in terms of thinking of it like
27:13
that because all of a sudden, when I think of it like, how can
27:16
I use this? Whether it's privileged or my my
27:22
until like the, like the academic studies, or white
27:25
privilege or anything like that. It's just about what what do I
27:30
know and now how can I serve? I feel like that that comes up
27:33
for me that was goes right. Back to the bigger conversation
27:36
of like I have this talk called how to use your desires as
27:40
Nature's GPS. And in it, I walk people through
27:43
an exercise, its bolt series of questions where you just say
27:46
like, what's the most pressing need of the time?
27:49
And then, how do my gifts, best serve that need and then which
27:54
of those gifts. Do I want to use right now?
27:57
Right. So what's the most pressing need
27:59
of the time? Which of my gifts best serve
28:01
that needs to all of your privileges intelligence having a
28:04
family having internet, you know the color of your skin where you
28:08
live, like there's a million Health B million types of
28:12
Privileges and the things that you've cultivated things you've
28:15
been given and things. You've cultivated how to my
28:18
gifts, best serve the needs of the time and then which of those
28:21
gifts do I want to use right now and you answer those three
28:24
questions? Quite honestly.
28:26
Like you make you make a list of List of lists Circle to
28:28
overlaps. This is what I would call the
28:30
conscious design of Happiness. That's such a powerful exercise.
28:35
So let me just recap that because I want to make sure I
28:37
get it. So it's what is, what are the
28:40
issues at the moment? Like, what is happening?
28:42
What do I think of like the most pressing needs in a pressing
28:45
needs, right now? What do, what are my, what are
28:48
my gifts? Like, what do I have to offer?
28:51
And then what are the ones? They're like, circling the
28:53
things that stand out to me that I could apply in that and that
28:56
you To use radar and loving and wanting to use.
29:00
Yeah, like I cannot really good tap dancer and I don't really
29:03
want to spend my days tap dancing right now and I don't
29:05
think it's the best service of the time, but some people might
29:08
feel differently. Like I actually have a friend
29:10
who's an amazing tap dancer. And she's been offering these
29:12
like Zoom Instagram tap classes once a week that I've been
29:15
taking and I love them and they make me so happy and so but like
29:19
for me my gift of teaching meditation is I feel like a much
29:23
more useful skill for this particular.
29:27
Time. And so it's just a matter of
29:28
going through of like, oh well, I understand polymers, so I may
29:31
be able to help get the Plastics out of the ocean.
29:34
You know, you just, it's just fine combination of problem and
29:36
solution. And I think of that, even back
29:39
to our manifesting exercise, where it's about feeling it and
29:42
knowing that's what you desire. So it's almost like full circle
29:46
there. That's pretty wild.
29:48
Yeah, yeah. And I think the other thing that
29:52
I really appreciate about the Ziva work and what you're
29:56
bringing to the world. Browning it in so much science,
30:00
right? Where your shift you're talking
30:01
about the neuroscience and how this is applying on a daily
30:04
basis. Whether it's, our neural
30:06
plasticity, that's changing and and why that matters?
30:11
Like what does that mean? When we do this every day and
30:14
things like that? And and some of I've actually
30:16
taken notes, when I've heard you speaking, like, what did she say
30:18
about the hippocampus? Like, I want to know that too.
30:20
So, can you share a little bit about the actual effects?
30:23
Like what is going on in our brain, as we are Linking up the
30:28
right and the left hemispheres. As we are of going inwards, I
30:31
would just love to hear a little bit about that because I don't
30:33
think people recognize how much can be affected.
30:37
You think it's just like a maybe, a one-time thing, and
30:39
nothing really changes, but, I know, I know that there's a
30:41
different story there. Yeah.
30:43
So so a lot of people think that one that meditation is just a
30:47
mental technique, but actually it's changing everything about
30:50
your physiology because your brain is responsible for
30:52
printing every single cell in your body.
30:54
And it's also running your endocrine system, your heart.
30:57
On system like all of all the chemical system.
31:00
And so actually the first seven chapters of the book stress,
31:04
less accomplish more, it all goes into this, there's a whole
31:07
chapter on sex, there's a whole chapter on immune system as a
31:09
whole chapter on, well, how can reverse your body age by up to
31:12
eight years? There's a chapter on the other
31:16
physical ones, it's basically like all the selfish reasons
31:19
that people come to meditation. But here's what's happening.
31:22
So when U Prime and then PS, This is not go for all types of
31:26
meditation because I know that now Now, when you say imitation
31:28
people like oh yeah, I do headspace ride.
31:29
Ooh, calm or I have I do this for YouTube thing and those are
31:32
all great, right? Like I'm not here to, you know,
31:37
be disrespectful to any other techniques, and I'm very glad
31:40
that they exist. It's a beautiful, many of them
31:42
are beautiful, gateway drugs, and have really made people a
31:45
lot more open to the idea that it you don't have to move to a
31:48
cave or shave your head or you know stop drinking Jack Daniels
31:52
in order to meditate that you can just be you and do this
31:55
tool. And But I what I'm speaking
31:58
about right now is specifically the Ziva technique.
32:00
So this is when you're, when you're combining mindfulness
32:04
with what I would call meditation and then manifesting
32:07
and a quick prequel on the difference between those two
32:10
mindfulness is the art of bringing your awareness into the
32:12
present moment. Very good at dealing with your
32:14
stress in the Now versus The Meditation portion of Ziva.
32:18
It's all about getting rid of your stress from the past,
32:21
healing, you on a cellular level, and this is ultimately
32:24
where we search to change your physiology and get this massive
32:26
upgrade. Raid in both Consciousness and
32:31
performance and cognitive ability.
32:33
So, so there's that. So when we meditate and by
32:37
meditation, I mean, accessing a verifiable fourth state of
32:39
consciousness, different than waking sleeping or dreaming.
32:42
And when you do that, right and left, hemispheres of the brain
32:44
sort of function in unison. So that means, if you were to be
32:48
unlike an EEG machine, all the leads would rise and fall and
32:51
Unison which is unique to meditation.
32:53
It doesn't happen in your waking sleeping or dreaming states of
32:56
consciousness. And they're right and left
32:58
hemispheres are still functioning separately.
33:00
So when you do that, when you start to create this brain
33:02
cohesion, you strengthen something called the corpus
33:05
callosum. And that is the Thin White Strip
33:07
that connects the right and left hemispheres of the brain.
33:10
So it's like, alright, cool party trick.
33:12
But why would I want a fat corpus callosum?
33:14
Well, everybody should. And here's why it's quite
33:17
literally, the bridge between your critical and creative mind
33:20
is the bridge between your masculine and feminine the
33:22
bridge between the present moment and the past and future.
33:26
So, Let's say you're at work or Google or boss comes to you and
33:29
is like hey we just miss this deadline is competitor.
33:31
Did this thing? What are we going to do about
33:33
it? And you're like and you just
33:35
freeze? Are you flight and you go back
33:38
to your desk and you can think of anything and then two hours
33:40
later. Once you calm down, you come up
33:41
with all these ideas but Meanwhile your boss has given
33:43
the project to someone else, or you get into a fight with your
33:46
partner, right? Gets really heated and then
33:48
eventually start crying and Retreat to the bedroom.
33:50
Two hours later, you start coming up with all these witty
33:52
comebacks and you're like, why couldn't I have thought of that
33:55
in the moment? Well, my This is the thicker
33:58
corpus. Callosum is the easier, it is
33:59
for you to come up with all those witty comebacks, have
34:01
those creative problem-solving ideas, even in the middle of a
34:05
high, demand situation. So, that's the corpus, callosum.
34:08
Neuroplasticity is simply the brain's ability to change itself
34:11
and we want the brains to be quite plastic, okay?
34:14
We want the brains to be quite malleable, because if it's
34:17
fixed, once it's becomes fixed, once it starts to stagnate, then
34:21
it starts to atrophy and that is Parkinson's.
34:24
That is dementia. That is all timers.
34:26
Like it's a brain is not Not growing if it's not creating
34:29
than it is destroying like everything else in life.
34:32
And so we really want and neurogenesis is the brain's
34:35
ability to generate new neurons. And we used to think that that
34:38
stop at 24 that the brain was growing growing growing, until
34:42
it was fully formed in the early 20s and there was just a slow
34:45
decline to the Grave. That is not true.
34:48
You can in, you can keep neurogenesis going up until your
34:51
80s provided that you're eating food.
34:53
That is food having sex being in nature.
34:57
To tating and exercising? Do you have to have all pieces
35:00
of the pie? But meditation is a really
35:02
important piece of that pie in order for the brain to continue
35:04
to grow. We have to have sex.
35:06
That's very important to. Yeah.
35:07
I mean and sex is hugely. I mean we're of over-sexualized
35:12
as a society and undersexed, right?
35:14
It's like there's porn and screens and phones but not
35:18
actual like human touch and especially now Timothy demek,
35:22
you know you think about babies they can live for 18 days
35:25
without water or food. You Don't touch them, they will
35:28
die. Yeah.
35:29
Like so it's for the physical touch is really important and if
35:32
you have been locked up in isolation for a long time, touch
35:35
yourself, get a massage, getting a bath, get a quarantine buddy,
35:40
you know, like get tested and Bubble Up, you know.
35:43
But I don't think that isolation is, it's not tenable in the long
35:47
term. So there's that second
35:50
neurogenesis we have neuroplasticity with the corpus
35:53
callosum, the hippocampus. Now, to be honest, I don't know,
35:56
a ton about the The only thing I know is that over like eight
36:00
weeks of regular practice, we can increase the size of your
36:04
hippocampus by 27%. Now if you think about your
36:07
bicep, right, if you could like, increase your bicep by 27% you
36:10
be like, whoa. But may not like, who really
36:13
cares about your biceps? So you look better in your
36:15
selfie but we're done. Integral part of your brain.
36:19
That is responsible for all kinds of functions that I cannot
36:22
remember at the moment, which is hilarious.
36:25
But really, I think it's I think it's independent and hormone
36:28
systems, I think, but you can fact check me on that.
36:31
Yeah, but anyway, point of the story is that this is not just
36:33
like a pedicure for your brain. Okay.
36:35
Meditation is not about just feeling good for 15 minutes.
36:39
This is actually healing you on a cellular level changing, your
36:42
chemistry and ultimately changing your physiology if you
36:46
do it regularly. Mhm.
36:48
Yeah. And all of that I think is just
36:50
so powerful for knowing what's going on in the moment.
36:53
I know when I when I, when I've learned things and understand it
36:56
and I'll While some things happen, it makes it actually
36:59
more motivating to do something. Like well, I'm changing my my
37:02
structure of the corpus callosum right now, I don't know.
37:05
I'm a kind of geeking I do. You got on that stuff, so I
37:07
appreciate you sharing all of that for us.
37:09
Thank you, my pleasure. Yeah.
37:12
And so tell us a little bit. I know there's a gift that you'd
37:15
like to offer us, and where can we find more out about you as we
37:18
want to take? Check out Ziva.
37:20
Yeah. So I would say if there's even a
37:23
kid there's Diva online, but it's like the best place to find
37:26
all of Of that, is that our website, which is Ziva
37:29
meditation.com. And is ziva's an interesting
37:32
word of zi. V a meditation.com ziva's a
37:36
Sanskrit word, that means Bliss. And then for I would love to
37:40
give people the first three days of the training that you took,
37:43
that's called Ziva online. It's 15 days, it's about 15
37:46
minutes a day for 15 days, but if people want to try it out and
37:49
see if they like it, they like my teaching style.
37:51
I'd love to gift them days, 1 2 and 3.
37:54
And you can get that at Ziva meditation.
37:56
Yep. Hello, you cut out.
37:59
Oh, whatever happened, they got your videos, it just stopped.
38:04
But what I heard was your gifting the three-day paintings.
38:10
But yeah. So see, I love to gift everyone.
38:12
The first three days of Ziva online and you can access that
38:16
at Ziva meditation.com. So, preview so Ziva,
38:20
meditation.com such preview, it's our gift to you and then if
38:23
people like it, they can go ahead and enroll in the whole
38:26
course. And then Ziva kids is just at
38:28
the website, / kids, and that's coming out really soon.
38:31
I might actually already be out by the time this is released,
38:33
but that is just it's for 4 to 14 year olds, and it's me and
38:37
this character named z bunny. He's my co-star for the, for the
38:41
little ones. And then, for the preteens,
38:43
it's, we have a lot of pre-teen meditators who are featured, so,
38:47
I'm super excited about it. And kids will actually learn
38:50
mindfulness meditation and manifesting, and they'll have
38:53
these skills to take with them for life.
38:55
For the rest of their life, will put those links in the show
38:58
notes. So Emily, thank you so much for
39:00
being here, Jerry and your wisdom and all of your gifts as
39:04
you are serving. Thank you so much, my pleasure.
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