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The New You in Relationship: When Growth Changes Everything · Mentor365 Services, Inc.

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  Hello everyone, welcome back. I'm Dina, your host, and this is Mentor 365 Services.
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  I am so sorry I took a month off from podcasting and I went to China my first time.
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  I loved it and have some friends there. So I stayed a few weeks and I'm so sad
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  to leave because I love China so much.
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  It was just amazing experiences and i would definitely go back again definitely
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  like in three to four months okay but it's a new month it's june so let's get
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  back on track welcome back um if you are here right now it means you have been
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  doing the work so the new uh,
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  title or episode you should call it is the new you in relationship right so
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  if you have been healing, growing, reflecting, becoming more aware of yourself,
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  now something feels different.
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  Not just within you, but in how you experience the people around you.
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  Today we're talking about the new you in a relationship. Because one of the
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  most unexpected parts of healing is realizing that once you change,
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  your relationship begins to feel different.
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  The way you communicate changes, the way you respond changes,
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  the things you tolerate change, the things you desire change,
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  and suddenly situations and people that once felt normal no longer feel aligned.
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  That can be very confusing because part of you is proud of your growth.
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  You know you have matured. You know you have learned.
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  You know you are not the same person anymore. But at the same time,
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  you may feel a sense of distance.
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  The sense of discomfort, a sense that things are no longer fitting the way they used to.
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  The truth is, they are not supposed to. Growth shifts your standards, right?
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  When you were in survival mode, your focus was on getting through.
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  You accept what you could. You adapt. You adjust. You make things work,
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  even when they were not ideal.
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  But now, you are no longer in survival mode. You are more aware.
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  You are more grounded. You are more intentional.
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  And because of that, your standards begin to rise.
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  You begin to notice things you are once
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  ignored you begin to feel things more
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  clearly you begin to recognize what is healthy and what is not and that awareness
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  change how you move in relationship you may find yourself needing more space
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  you may find yourself setting boundaries that you never set before you may find
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  yourself no longer engaging in conversation that drained you.
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  You may find yourself wanting deeper, more meaningful connections instead of
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  surface-level interactions.
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  And sometimes, this shift can create tension.
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  Because not everyone grows at the same pace. Not everyone understands your changes.
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  Not everyone is ready for the new version of you. And that is where faith becomes important.
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  You have to trust that growth is not a mistake. You have to trust that the changes
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  you are making are necessary for your next level.
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  You have to trust that even if some relationships feel distant,
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  you are not losing yourself, you are finding yourself.
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  The new you in a relationship is more aware.
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  You are no longer ignoring the red flags. You are no longer dismissing your intuition.
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  You are no longer explaining away behaviors that don't feel right.
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  Instead you are paying attention. You are listening to how people make you feel.
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  You are noticing patterns.
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  You are recognizing consistency or the lack of it.
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  And this awareness protects you. The new you also values peace.
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  You are not as interested in drama, chaos, or emotional instability.
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  You don't feel the need to prove your point in every situation.
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  You do not feel the need to argue just to
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  be understood you are more selective with
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  your energy you choose calm over conflict you
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  choose clarity over confusion you choose alignment
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  over attachment and that is growth
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  but let's be honest here this version of you may feel unfamiliar at times you
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  may question yourself you may wonder if you are being too distant or too guarded
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  or too different you may You feel like you are outgrowing people or situations
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  and that can bring a sense of sadness.
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  Because growth does not only bring clarity, it can also bring separation.
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  And that is not always easy, but I want you to understand something clearly.
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  Outgrown is not abandoning it is evolving
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  it is recognizing that you are no longer
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  the same and giving yourself permission to move
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  accordingly you are allowed
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  to change you are allowed to require more you are allowed to choose differently
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  and you are allowed to trust that the right people will align with who you are
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  becoming another important part of this new version of you is how you approach
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  love you are no longer chasing you are no longer trying to convince people to see your value,
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  you are no longer overextending yourself to maintain connections.
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  Instead, you are observing. You are allowing people to show you who they are.
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  You are letting relationships develop naturally instead of forcing them.
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  You are creating space for something real, something healthy,
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  something aligned, and that takes patience.
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  Because healthy relationships are not rushed, they are built,
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  they are developed through consistency, communication, trust, and mutual respect.
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  And how you understand that?
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  You are no longer looking for intensity you understand
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  that right you you do understand what i'm trying to
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  talk you know tell you guys right you are
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  looking for stability you are no longer looking for temporary excitement you
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  are looking for a long-term peace and that shift is powerful as you continue
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  this journey i want you to give yourself grace this version of you is still adjusting,
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  still learning, still growing.
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  You don't have to have everything figured out right now. You just have to stay
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  aligned with what you know is right for you.
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  Trust your growth, trust your awareness, trust that you are becoming someone
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  who can build healthy, meaningful, aligned relationships. Okay.
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  And most importantly, trust that God is guiding you.
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  Even in the changes even in the
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  discomfort even in the moments when things feel
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  uncertain you are not being led in
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  the wrong direction you're not being prepared for something better
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  you embrace the
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  new you you don't shrink back
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  to into your old pattern just because
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  they are familiar um don't lower
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  your standard just because changes feel uncomfortable
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  don't doubt your growth
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  just because others don't understand it you are evolving and that evolution
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  is necessary the new you is not a mistake the new you is the result of everything
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  you have learned and the this version of you is exactly who you need to be for
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  the life you are building,
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  okay i hope this message or this episode helps you and i wish you all the best
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  i'll be praying for you all and take care and god bless you.