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Dr. Simone Whitmore is a Board Certified OB-GYN talks about starring on Bravo’s “Married to Medicine” · The Steve Harvey Morning Show

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  Speaker 1: My next guest is Dr Simone Whitmore. She's a Board
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  Speaker 1: certified O B G y N and star on Bravos.
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  Speaker 1: Married to Medicine, returning for his eighth season with guests well.
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  Speaker 1: Some of the co stars are stars or Dr Jacqueline
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  Speaker 1: of course of Mrs Dr Whitmore, Dr Heavily who's a
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  Speaker 1: danist uh. Dr Tessa who's an occupying occupational medicine, Toya
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  Speaker 1: who's well Tarya and they're married to a doctor. And
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  Speaker 1: friends of the cast Likenessa and the Cold Guard Well
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  Speaker 1: and Carrie Welles. New cast member this season, Anila a
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  Speaker 1: song on the pilot first year. She's a fashion blog
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  Speaker 1: up but she's married to a doctor. Dr Simone Whitmore
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  Speaker 1: is on my show to talk about a COVID eight
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  Speaker 1: team as civil unrest. That's an erring on the season
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  Speaker 1: that she's experienced personally as well and the upcoming season
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  Speaker 1: of marriage, which is the eighth seeding, the marriage to
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  Speaker 1: medicine and the realities of being a real doctor on
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  Speaker 1: a reality show, Please work on Monday, making a conversation
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  Speaker 1: for the very first time. I'm happy to have her
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  Speaker 1: on the show. Dr Simone Whitmore, how are you doing
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  Speaker 1: I'm doing excellent, and thank you so much for having me.
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  Speaker 1: First of all, thank you for coming on the show.
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  Speaker 1: And uh, you know, the reality shows at one time
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  Speaker 1: would considered I thought it would be a fad. I
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  Speaker 1: thought they wouldn't last. And at one time there was
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  Speaker 1: really out of control. They were physically out of control
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  Speaker 1: and a lot of a lot of noise, like of cussing,
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  Speaker 1: a lot of fussing, a lot of drink throwing. And
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  Speaker 1: you decided to a being a certified doctor into this room.
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  Speaker 1: What what drove you or what was the motivation behind
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  Speaker 1: being a part of Married to Medicine. The reason I
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  Speaker 1: was willing to film reality TV is because I felt
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  Speaker 1: that little black girls in America needed to see somebody
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  Speaker 1: that didn't come from money. I came from an alcoholic dad,
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  Speaker 1: a single mom, and I know how to have a
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  Speaker 1: good time and live my life without the white coat.
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  Speaker 1: And I wanted little brown girls in America to see
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  Speaker 1: that if I did it, she can do it too. Well.
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  Speaker 1: You know you are doing that. It's in this an
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  Speaker 1: eight season and it's all about branding too and always
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  Speaker 1: about what people think of you, and that this is
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  Speaker 1: not a negative interview. These are just basic questions and
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  Speaker 1: that I'm just probing and just trying to get your
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  Speaker 1: story out because I think it's a really great story.
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  Speaker 1: I've watched and I've watched the show offered on over
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  Speaker 1: the years, and my background is casting and producing, so
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  Speaker 1: I'm very familiar with your talents and a lot of
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  Speaker 1: your cast member quite where Up has been on my
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  Speaker 1: show several times. I'm a big fan of hers and so.
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  Speaker 1: But when you're when you're practicing doctor like you are,
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  Speaker 1: and you're on the reality show, does it and you
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  Speaker 1: have a practice, does it ever become an issue with
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  Speaker 1: the people that you are, that you are, that are
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  Speaker 1: your patients. So most of my patients who have been
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  Speaker 1: with me for years, they know who I am. I
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  Speaker 1: may say a little mild cuss word in the office
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  Speaker 1: trying to be funny, and my patients understand me. When
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  Speaker 1: I came to reality TV, I came as my authentic self,
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  Speaker 1: no more, no less, just my authentic self. And what
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  Speaker 1: is your authentic self? I'm just asking. I love medicine,
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  Speaker 1: I love O B G. Y N. But I also
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  Speaker 1: like to have a good time, hang out shop, have
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  Speaker 1: a cocktail hour, and I love the lab. Well, you know,
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  Speaker 1: I think you're thinking, hear what you're saying. You want
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  Speaker 1: to break the stereotype, or if there is a stereotype,
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  Speaker 1: you want to say, this is me, and it's all
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  Speaker 1: right to be me with no with no um. I
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  Speaker 1: guess you know. Standards are are because some people kind
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  Speaker 1: of put people on pedestals. And I think that's what
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  Speaker 1: you're saying that please look at me. I'm Dr Samone
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  Speaker 1: with Moore, I am I am board certified, I am successful,
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  Speaker 1: I'm happily married. I have a son about to go
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  Speaker 1: to college. He's living a good life, and I live
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  Speaker 1: in a beautiful home. Why can't I be me? Why
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  Speaker 1: can't I be Why can't I dress this way and
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  Speaker 1: this fast and fashion savvy? Why can't I eat this way?
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  Speaker 1: Why can't that laugh out lot in public? So in
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  Speaker 1: your sense, you're feeling that there are certain standards that
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  Speaker 1: people hold doctors to that should be pulled down or accepted,
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  Speaker 1: that it's all right to be a human being. Not
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  Speaker 1: to say that any standard that we have or the
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  Speaker 1: way we see our doctors should be pulled down, but
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  Speaker 1: they should be humanized. Man, we are human first, and
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  Speaker 1: I have that doctor before my name. Now I have
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  Speaker 1: that m D after my name, but it's not on
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  Speaker 1: my birth certificate. It does not define who I am.
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  Speaker 1: I'm a wife, I'm a mother, I'm a sister, I'm
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  Speaker 1: a girlfriend. And again, life is about being well rounded.
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  Speaker 1: My dad always taught me that be well rounded. Well,
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  Speaker 1: you know the thing I got that impression of you,
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  Speaker 1: uh and the first episode of the eighth season, which
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  Speaker 1: I did get a chance to see because I want
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  Speaker 1: to make sure I was caught up to speed on
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  Speaker 1: where the character's being developed, and first of the first
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  Speaker 1: basically the first episode is your episode. Like I said,
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  Speaker 1: you joked off air and said, you know you start
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  Speaker 1: why not? And so it ended with you and you
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  Speaker 1: and coming down You're Jackie still got issues, heavenly got issues.
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  Speaker 1: You know, You're son about to go off to college.
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  Speaker 1: But I thought that was a real tender moment in there,
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  Speaker 1: your conversation with your son about racism, you know, because
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  Speaker 1: that's a reality that you know. I have a daughter,
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  Speaker 1: she's uh, you know, she's in college, and but even
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  Speaker 1: having a young African American male that has to be
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  Speaker 1: even more stressful knowing he's going to an environment that
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  Speaker 1: may have seeds of racism. Talk about that and we're
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  Speaker 1: just talking about parenting. That's when you or not we're
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  Speaker 1: both parents. But you had a conversation with your son,
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  Speaker 1: how do you feel? And you know, lights on on
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  Speaker 1: and lights like I felt that was a real conversation,
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  Speaker 1: was happing with him. But that still has to be
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  Speaker 1: some hesitation about him walking out that door. And because
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  Speaker 1: you want him to come home. You wanted to when
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  Speaker 1: you when you call that phone, you wanted to answer.
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  Speaker 1: You wanted to be there when he's happy. You want
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  Speaker 1: to be there when you said, but you want to
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  Speaker 1: be there when somebody is doing it wrong because you
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  Speaker 1: didn't put eighteen years of your life into him or
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  Speaker 1: bring him into this world for ignorance to step into,
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  Speaker 1: you know, shortening his life or causing difficulty in his life.
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  Speaker 1: We've always taught our sons to respect authority, to not
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  Speaker 1: run your mouth, not to talk back when a police
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  Speaker 1: or a teacher or any of those is talking to you.
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  Speaker 1: But one of the most important things we try to
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  Speaker 1: teach our sons do not have an encounter with the police.
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  Speaker 1: So it means abiding by the law, not speeding when
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  Speaker 1: you're driving down the highway. And we had always thought
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  Speaker 1: if we taught our boys be respectful, follow the rules,
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  Speaker 1: that they would always come home. And George Floyd that
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  Speaker 1: video last year showed us that you don't have to
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  Speaker 1: be doing anything illegal, you don't have to be running,
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  Speaker 1: you don't have to be talking back, and you could
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  Speaker 1: still lose your life based on someone else's perception of
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  Speaker 1: what they think a black man is. And that's you know,
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  Speaker 1: being a black man. And I think then you and
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  Speaker 1: and and at the end of the premier episode of
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  Speaker 1: the eighth season they do the fellas get around talking about,
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  Speaker 1: you know, being pulled over being a black man in America.
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  Speaker 1: The reality is that you are raising a young black
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  Speaker 1: man in America and he's going to a school. Tell
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  Speaker 1: us about the school that he's going to, you know,
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  Speaker 1: not in the environment, and how what makes you feel
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  Speaker 1: comfortable about him going because he has to feel comfortable
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  Speaker 1: he's going, okay, but what also is making you feel
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  Speaker 1: uncomfortable about the environment that he's going to. So the
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  Speaker 1: school is Lee University in Cleveland, Tennessee. Cleveland, Tennessee is
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  Speaker 1: a small town and tennis See that's near Chattanooga. But
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  Speaker 1: I just remember that during the pandemic the school was closed.
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  Speaker 1: We drove up to Cleveland, Tennessee, just to drive around
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  Speaker 1: the campus to see what it was like, since he
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  Speaker 1: didn't get the traditional tour with school open. And I
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  Speaker 1: just remember as we're driving through this small town of Cleveland,
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  Speaker 1: seeing all of the Confederate flags. So when I saw those,
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  Speaker 1: of course I became concerned. Downtown Cleveland has a Confederate
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  Speaker 1: monument which is walking This is from the school, and
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  Speaker 1: it's a small school, majority white. It's a Christian school.
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  Speaker 1: And the reason we were willing to take the chance
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  Speaker 1: for him to go to the university. Number one, you
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  Speaker 1: just hope, you really hope that people who are claiming
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  Speaker 1: to be Christians somehow that God is touching their minds,
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  Speaker 1: their souls, their bodies to really live a Christian life.
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  Speaker 1: But you know, there were some other basketball players whom
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  Speaker 1: he had spoken with over the summer who had not
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  Speaker 1: had any racial encounters, and we're not having any difficult
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  Speaker 1: time on campus. Is the reason we decided that it
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  Speaker 1: would be okay for him to attend Lee University. You know,
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  Speaker 1: the interesting thing about it is that this is part
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  Speaker 1: of married to medicine. This is a part of the
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  Speaker 1: lessons of life, lesson that are relatable to it because
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  Speaker 1: this that that storyline was relatable to me. My daughter was,
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  Speaker 1: you know, um a tennis phenomen at sixteen, and so
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  Speaker 1: she was going out there playing. Then she blew out
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  Speaker 1: her knee in nineteen and now she's in college and
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  Speaker 1: very happy for her. But the reality is that where
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  Speaker 1: can you send your Sunday He won't experience racism indirectly
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  Speaker 1: or directly, you feel me. So, so you're you're basically
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  Speaker 1: and you're and your husband basically saying, yes, we're uncomfortable,
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  Speaker 1: but this is life. You know. We hope we've raised them.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm not putting any words in your mouth. I'm
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  Speaker 1: just talking like a parent that hopefully we raised it
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  Speaker 1: with the values like you told him. You know, if
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  Speaker 1: it's just a thirty or five drive, thirt or five son, okay,
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  Speaker 1: you know, a void ignorant for a cop pulls you over,
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  Speaker 1: tend to understand world, say yes or no, sir till
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  Speaker 1: you get out the car. Get out the car. Don't
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  Speaker 1: be playing loud music unnecessarily. So these are the rules
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  Speaker 1: that we lived by because of the color of our skin.
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  Speaker 1: And like you said, all America, all of America, because
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  Speaker 1: it was involved and it was in the uproar, including
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  Speaker 1: you know, continually. I don't work in fear at all,
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  Speaker 1: friendship with Jackie twenty three years in And I'll just
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  Speaker 1: Jackie was constantly talking about getting back with you, talking
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  Speaker 1: about I just want to reconcile, and then they showed
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  Speaker 1: you constantly, never saying that they well, you know, I
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  Speaker 1: don't know what it is what it is, and you know,
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  Speaker 1: and as a producer and an editor, I know they
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  Speaker 1: could play characters to develop storylines. And so this is
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  Speaker 1: a person you've known betweent three years. She's an original
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  Speaker 1: member of the show, along with yourself. Where do you
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  Speaker 1: go when you see these storylines being developed? And we're
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  Speaker 1: gonna get to Heavenly in a minute. But I want
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  Speaker 1: to talk about the friendship of Jackie and Simone m
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  Speaker 1: So I again, I come to reality TV as my
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  Speaker 1: authentic self. I'm not going to fake a friendship. I
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  Speaker 1: am not going to pretend to make up unless my
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  Speaker 1: heart is really in it, right. And Jackie and I
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  Speaker 1: have known each other a very long time, and of
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  Speaker 1: all the cast on this show, she knows me the best.
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  Speaker 1: I know her the best. And I did not want
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  Speaker 1: to make up for TV's sake. I just wasn't interested
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  Speaker 1: either we were going to have a genuine sit down
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  Speaker 1: conversation or not. But I didn't want to make up
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  Speaker 1: just for TV's sake. And I'm just asking now, I
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  Speaker 1: don't know that I'm just asking, So, what is makeup
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  Speaker 1: for TV sake versus having a genuine sit down? Would
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  Speaker 1: it be on camera or would it be off camera
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  Speaker 1: between you and jack Um? It could be either one
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  Speaker 1: quite frankly, because again I'm going to express my real
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  Speaker 1: thoughts and opinions. And it doesn't matter whether a camera
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  Speaker 1: is rolling or not. When you say true to who
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  Speaker 1: you are, it doesn't matter whether a camera is present
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  Speaker 1: or not. Well, you're showing that. Now, You're shown that.
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  Speaker 1: Now heavenly? How is heavenly? She was a dentist, you know,
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  Speaker 1: y'all y'all joke about that a lot throughout the seasons,
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  Speaker 1: though we just said Dr dan Is. Even Anila came
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  Speaker 1: in cracking jokes. Jo, She's a blogger, Okay, gonna crack
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  Speaker 1: jokes on the dentist. Um, So how does she get
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  Speaker 1: in between the two of you? Guys? Did I miss
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  Speaker 1: that episode? Well? So, in actual in actuality, I don't
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  Speaker 1: think that Heavenly came between me and Jackie. And that
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  Speaker 1: is how I felt last year. But in the pandemic,
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  Speaker 1: I spent more time at home. I was able to
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  Speaker 1: think about things and get my feelings in check, if
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  Speaker 1: you will, and basically, I mean Heavily and I have
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  Speaker 1: gone back and forth, back and forth, getting along not
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  Speaker 1: getting along over the years since she started the show
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  Speaker 1: on season two. As a matter of fact, she hated
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  Speaker 1: me and Jackie when she started, we hated her. The
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  Speaker 1: feeling was mutual, but over the years we had all
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  Speaker 1: grown to be come close friends. But Heaviley and I
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  Speaker 1: would get into it one top for a couple of
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  Speaker 1: months on in our camera, and Jackie always gave me
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  Speaker 1: her thoughts and opinions. She would tell me, I think
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  Speaker 1: you shouldn't even be taking this stuff, Heavily saying too serious,
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  Speaker 1: You shouldn't be doing this, or you should be doing that,
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  Speaker 1: And she always talked to both of us. This time,
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  Speaker 1: my friend of twenty three years decided she didn't have
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  Speaker 1: any words on it because I guess she didn't want
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  Speaker 1: to hurt my feelings. But she knows me. She had
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  Speaker 1: never been her tongue before, and you know that expression,
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  Speaker 1: cat got your tongue, I'll just leave you with the cash. Well,
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: you know, when y'all didn't have to sit down when
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  Speaker 1: she said that she was gonna be it was on
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  Speaker 1: camera that she didn't want to make a decision. She
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  Speaker 1: want to make it and then you took that very personal.
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  Speaker 1: And so I see, now you know Dr helth A Le,
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  Speaker 1: who is a dentist, by the way, is uh is
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  Speaker 1: reveling in this breakup. I think she's reveling and driving
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  Speaker 1: a wage between the relationship and personally and I persually,
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  Speaker 1: I don't think Jackie sees that. Am I correcting assuming
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  Speaker 1: that I think Jackie is not eve or she's or
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  Speaker 1: she has developed a wall of stubbornness just to say
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  Speaker 1: that she's not gonna be bothered. So I don't think.
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  Speaker 1: I definitely think Jackie is aware of what Heavenly is doing.
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  Speaker 1: But Heavenly is also Jackie's bulldog, right, and so maybe
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  Speaker 1: that is just a strategy that you'd rather have this
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  Speaker 1: bulldog who defends you. Even on the days you're wrong,
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: She's still defending you with An interesting thing about my
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  Speaker 1: show is called money Making Conversation. You are an entrepreneur
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  Speaker 1: or small business, let's talk about that whole process of
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  Speaker 1: dealing with because people want to hear theyboy show by
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  Speaker 1: that what would you give and old starting to practice?
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  Speaker 1: How would you hire people? I always tell people you
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  Speaker 1: gotta have a great hr person when you gotta have
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  Speaker 1: a great accountant. That's my early notes to anybody is
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  Speaker 1: starting to start, especially accountant. Don't be sitting over there
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  Speaker 1: talking to trying to do books about yourself and you've
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  Speaker 1: never done books before. So as a as a as
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  Speaker 1: an entrepreneur who start up because you represent you know,
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  Speaker 1: the fastest growing population and entrepreneurship or African American females.
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  Speaker 1: And you are an African American female, you are star,
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  Speaker 1: you are brand. Talk about being a small business owner
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  Speaker 1: just when you started, but also now doing COVID nineteen.
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  Speaker 1: What I would talk, what I would recommend for anybody
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  Speaker 1: who is starting a business, do as much research as
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  Speaker 1: you possibly can before you start your business. Know the
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  Speaker 1: industry you're going into. Know some of the pitfalls of
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  Speaker 1: the industry you're going into. And for me, I was
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  Speaker 1: already practicing medicine before I opened up a business. You
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: can't even imagine how hard it's going to be until
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  Speaker 1: you actually open those doors. But I do agree with
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: you that you have to have an accountant who gives
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  Speaker 1: you advice regularly. And what I like to say is
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  Speaker 1: count all your pennies, look for your pennies, figure out
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  Speaker 1: ways when you're buying supplies that you could save money
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  Speaker 1: because you may be only buying from this supplier, but
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: then somebody over here has a cheaper Learn how to
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: build relationships so that when you need help you can
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: get help. You need a banking relationship, that relationship with
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: an accountant. You need relationships with people in the industry
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: who are doing the exact same thing you're doing, just
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: to get advice on the pitfalls when they actually happen,
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: how to get out of those pitfalls, and just know
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: that no matter what happens, you can always depend on
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  Speaker 1: yourself in business for yourself. There you go. Now, when
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: one going closing question is about you didn't plan on
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  Speaker 1: because we talked about budget, you said, always count your pinions,
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: no where every penny is. We did not think, and
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: I'm saying I'm a business owner. I did not see
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: masking my budget. I didn't see hand sanitizing my budget.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't see working from home and my budget and
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: telling medicine. I'm sure we'll picked up strongly in your business.
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  Speaker 1: But like I said, you're dealing with with you know
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: O B. G Ryan profession, So tell the medicine almost
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: like what is that? So how did that affect your
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: business model and also your employees. How did you work
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: through that? Like I was able to do teleconferencing because
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: I'm just dealing with graphics and a production company, But
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: you're in medicine. How did you deal with that? And
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: how did your patients deal with that? So definitely finding
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: PPE to purchase and purchasing PPE wasn't an additional expan
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: But what I tell any anybody who's in business for themselves,
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: always save for a rainy day, because if you have savings,
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: when you run into these additional expenses, it just shouldn't
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: be that big of a deal. So you either have
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: the savings or you have a credit line with the
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: bank available to help you in a in a financial needs.
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: But with staff, I tried to stay calm and try
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: to reassure them. For me, with pregnant patients, I was
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: not able to do all of the visits using telemedicine.
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  Speaker 1: Surely we did some, but not all. And what I
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: did was we continue to come to the office. We
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: shortened the office hours, and I continue to make payroll
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: for the full forty hours a week. But again, just
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: looking for resources out there. There were a ton of
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: resources available to all businesses. I applied for the P
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: P P loan. My big bank didn't give it to me,
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: so I went to my small bank. And again I
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: have two banks. I have the big bank, I have
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: the small bank. Nobody told me to do it that way.
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  Speaker 1: That is just one of those life lessons that I
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: learned early on in practice. And I've been in solo
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: practice since two thousand four. So you learn things, and
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: there are always gonna be hiccups and speed bumps. You
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: just have to learn something from every speed bump in
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  Speaker 1: the road. Well, you know, I gotta close, and I
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: said my last question, but I have to bring this
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: up because my wife is important in my life. You know,
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: when those speed bumps. As you're talking about those speed bumps,
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: you gotta turn to somebody for some truth and sometimes
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: for some advice. Sometimes that truth is not what you
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: want to hear, but it also comes with good advice
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: because you know that person is gonna be honest with you.
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: So I'm leaving my question to your husband, who plays
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: on an amazing support the role. I'm gonna just tell you, doctor,
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: I'm I'm a fan of yours. I've always been a
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: fan of yours. And when you had that conversation with
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: your son when he was shooting the basketball. I was
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: over the roof with you because that was pure. That
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: was pure, honestly to me, you know, because it was
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: relatable to me, and uh and it and it and it,
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: and it was a seed that bore out of your
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: husband being there, because African American young men need that male,
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: that male. Look how to treat women, Look how what
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: you do in all these different situations. To talk about
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: your strong support group. You know, my man talked about
• 25:33
  Speaker 1: him right quick before we close it out. So Cecil
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: and I have been married for twenty five years and
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: he has definitely been a great sounding board when I've
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: asked him about business advice and he loves to do research.
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: But as any marriage goals, we have certainly had our struggles.
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: Our marriage actually came to the brink of the brink
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: of a divorce, which I shared on reality TV, and
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: I was so thankful for this reality TV family who
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: helped us to realize that we were being stubborn. We
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: had stopped listening to one another, and we were able
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: not only to reconcile, but to make some differences in
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: our marriage so that we could keep on going in
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: and not just keep going, but keep going strong with
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: my friend. Thank you for coming on money Making Conversations.
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: I just want to really lay it on the line
• 26:30
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• 26:33
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• 26:34
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• 26:36
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• 26:39
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• 26:42
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