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Remi Adeleke Full Interview · The Steve Harvey Morning Show

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  Speaker 1: My next guest is on the show to talk about
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  Speaker 1: his new book, Transformed. He takes us back to the
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  Speaker 1: stories from his childhood, from living his Nigerian royalty, to
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  Speaker 1: losing his father early in life, being stripped financial of
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  Speaker 1: everything by the Nigerian government, to travel in the unlikely
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  Speaker 1: play from drug dealer to Navy seal. Please welcome to
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  Speaker 1: Money Making Conversation. The author of Transform, Remy at a
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  Speaker 1: lek Ay, Good morning. Before they take your fatly on
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  Speaker 1: the show, Well, first of all, all right, I got
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  Speaker 1: your name right, thank my. I'm that's a littlement. Let's
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  Speaker 1: go give me some a little grand All day thinking
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  Speaker 1: about that name sir, doesn't trust I get it all
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  Speaker 1: the time. I've heard it all kinds of ways. Use
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  Speaker 1: right because I respect because my name is Roshane, people
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  Speaker 1: get it wrong. And I think there's part of the
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  Speaker 1: process of building your brand is people say your name
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  Speaker 1: correctly when you're walking in the room, and sometimes strangers
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  Speaker 1: come up and see your name. Then you know you're
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  Speaker 1: on the right track. That's when you know you're moving
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  Speaker 1: up to the world. Well, my friend, you have an
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  Speaker 1: interesting world. Like I said before I brought you up,
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  Speaker 1: it's about being a member of the Navy Seal? Uh
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  Speaker 1: Will you always be a member? When you even leave
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  Speaker 1: the military? Are you still considered a member of the
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  Speaker 1: Navy Seal? And our community wants to seal always a
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  Speaker 1: seal um, so it kind of never leaves you. It's
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  Speaker 1: always a part of you, and it's we call it
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  Speaker 1: the brotherhood, so it kind of never ends. Yeah, And
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  Speaker 1: so a couple of there's a serious of question. You've
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  Speaker 1: got two breaks, and I wanted to slow it down
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  Speaker 1: to talk about it because one of the I want
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  Speaker 1: to start out initially said how Jesus transform your life?
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  Speaker 1: You know, so religious played a major role in you.
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  Speaker 1: I want to start the interview out with that because
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  Speaker 1: faith is important. Otherwise I wouldn't even bring that part
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  Speaker 1: of the conversation up. So how did how did faith
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  Speaker 1: play such a strong role in your life? And what
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  Speaker 1: part did it become a significant player in your life?
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  Speaker 1: You know, early on from from you know, from adolescence
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  Speaker 1: to high school to college, not colleges, but you know,
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  Speaker 1: early twenties to bid twenties. I had no faith background.
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  Speaker 1: I would fluctuated between eight years of agnosticism growing up
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  Speaker 1: UH and the Bronx. My mom would take it to
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  Speaker 1: a Baptist church and I personally, as a young kid,
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  Speaker 1: I saw a lot of hypocrisy and so that's what
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  Speaker 1: really kept me away from it. Fast forward, my brother,
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  Speaker 1: he had became a Christian UH in his early twenties,
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  Speaker 1: and he would he would always tell me, Remy, when
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  Speaker 1: you hit rock bottom, just remember cryots of Jesus and
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  Speaker 1: you're trying everything and nothing's worth pryor to Jesus. And
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  Speaker 1: at twenty six, I kind of, you know, I hit
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  Speaker 1: rock They were there, you know, going to detailing my book,
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  Speaker 1: but you know I was struggling with it. I had
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  Speaker 1: it all on outside. I was a davy seal as
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  Speaker 1: girlfriends all over the place. I had money, I had
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  Speaker 1: a beautiful place in San Diego, California. But on the inside,
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  Speaker 1: I just I was empty. And uh, I was battling
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  Speaker 1: with depression. I was battling went through a bad break up,
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  Speaker 1: battling with guilt from decisions that I made, and I
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  Speaker 1: just I just cried out. Like my brother told me to,
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  Speaker 1: I said, let me try this. Jesus out it. And
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  Speaker 1: I did. And that's what was the X factor for me.
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  Speaker 1: And that's what changed my life to transform me ultimately
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  Speaker 1: into into the man I am today. And what what
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  Speaker 1: type of man is that? Uh? Well, well, I want
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  Speaker 1: a man of a man of faith, a man who
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  Speaker 1: puts Christ first. And uh, and everything I do and
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  Speaker 1: what I mean by that in my decision making, um,
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  Speaker 1: as it relates to to my businesses and my decision making,
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  Speaker 1: as it relates to me being a husband and and
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  Speaker 1: honoring my wife, and and being being a father and
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  Speaker 1: honoring my kids and and leading by example. Uh, you know,
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  Speaker 1: and it's just just in everything that I do. I'm
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  Speaker 1: on the phone with speaking to Remy the Lek. His
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  Speaker 1: new book, Transformed, is the personal journey that he took
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  Speaker 1: from the streets of the Bronx to become a Navy Seal, actor, entrepreneur, writer,
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  Speaker 1: husband and father. Now when we when we talk about
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  Speaker 1: this journey in your book transformed what was the purpose
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  Speaker 1: of writing that book? You know, because there's a lot
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  Speaker 1: of layers in that book and actually you can like
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  Speaker 1: stayed on one part and I've just been because the
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  Speaker 1: Navy Seal was a whole book. You know what I'm
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  Speaker 1: saying that the whole, the whole Getting out of the
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  Speaker 1: Hood is a whole book. You know, the educational factor there,
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  Speaker 1: the relationship with your wife, that's you know, there's so
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  Speaker 1: many different chapters, but you managed to put it all
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  Speaker 1: in this book. Why well, you know, for years, people
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  Speaker 1: who had heard my story, just just the African part
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  Speaker 1: of my story going from royalty and riches in Africa
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  Speaker 1: to being stripped of everything and and then moving to
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  Speaker 1: the Bronx and being poor and that's living in that
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  Speaker 1: street life. People who just heard that one of my
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  Speaker 1: story would tell me, brother, you need to write a book.
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  Speaker 1: The story is inspiring and can inspire people. And for you,
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  Speaker 1: as I said, no, I'm not gonna do that because
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  Speaker 1: being a naked seal, there's a stigma attached to seals.
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  Speaker 1: You write books and as you know, you kind of
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  Speaker 1: break the code and I never will. You know, I
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  Speaker 1: had a great reputation and the seal teams that did
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  Speaker 1: seven and a half years UM and the thirteen years
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  Speaker 1: overall in all of the military, and I didn't want
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  Speaker 1: to want to, you know, hurt my my my reputation,
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  Speaker 1: and so I avoided that until I went on to
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  Speaker 1: Today's show. Was I was in the poltical Transformers and
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't it enough to be part of the press tour.
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  Speaker 1: And I went on went on a Today's show and
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  Speaker 1: after one went back stage captive the gift or said
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  Speaker 1: to me, you know you could get the story is
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  Speaker 1: just to inspiring with me. You need to write a book.
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  Speaker 1: And I told her no, and she and I told
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  Speaker 1: her why, and she said, that's foolish. I know your heart.
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  Speaker 1: I know your your heart would be to write a
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  Speaker 1: book in a way to inspire positive instorpation and people.
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  Speaker 1: And when she said that to me, that's when a
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  Speaker 1: switch went off in my head. And that's when I said, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: I need to do this book, cause I know it
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  Speaker 1: won't be about me beating my chest and say, hey,
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  Speaker 1: look at me. I'm an av shield on this. I
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  Speaker 1: know it would be for me to inspire people to
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  Speaker 1: reach for their dreams, reach for their goals despite the
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  Speaker 1: odds that they may be basing on the deficiencies that
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  Speaker 1: they may have as it relates to their dreams. Now,
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  Speaker 1: you know you mentioned the movie The Transformers last night.
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  Speaker 1: That was the movie you played in, and you've you've
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  Speaker 1: you've started to carve out an acting career. Was that
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  Speaker 1: the goal or that's just one of the many blessings
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  Speaker 1: that by having strong faith and being uh, being purposely driven.
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  Speaker 1: I considered that type of personality I took away from
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  Speaker 1: the book You're focused person. You know you you plan,
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  Speaker 1: your your your You're a man of plan and a
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  Speaker 1: man of action. Absolutely, you know, for me, I wasn't tasting.
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  Speaker 1: It wasn't part of my plan. If I was actually
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  Speaker 1: grad spooking and my master's when I received the phone call.
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  Speaker 1: My plan was to get my education and going to
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  Speaker 1: full time consulting as a business consultant. And I was,
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  Speaker 1: you know, writing papers in my phone ring or the
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  Speaker 1: other end of the line was a woman to work
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  Speaker 1: with director Michael Pain and she asked me what I'm
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  Speaker 1: doing tomorrow and I said, I'm like paper. She said,
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  Speaker 1: come down to the book. He said, I got a
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  Speaker 1: boy for you to be in. So that's kind of
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  Speaker 1: how my my film and TV and slow that down. Now,
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  Speaker 1: how did you get into a major movie? Going back
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  Speaker 1: back then up there? You you missed some steps and
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  Speaker 1: Burger Key if I computed that at the universities called
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  Speaker 1: to West Virginia and what happened. You know, there's lady shop.
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  Speaker 1: Michael Day, he likes he likes to use real Navy
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  Speaker 1: seals and some of his films and uh, you know,
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  Speaker 1: there's not that many African Americans. That's like, there's less
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  Speaker 1: per than one percent of the Special Operations communities African American.
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  Speaker 1: I was around the fifty of Navy seal in the
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  Speaker 1: history of the seal teams and his Steal Teams was
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  Speaker 1: creative nineties sixty two. Um, so Michael Day was looking
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  Speaker 1: for some diversity in the film. He wanted a former
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  Speaker 1: Navy seal who was African Americans to be a partner
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  Speaker 1: of the film. And I just happened to be that
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  Speaker 1: and and and and you know that's when when when
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  Speaker 1: of the casting, uh, women reached out to me, and
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  Speaker 1: that's how I got into it. Okay, but you but
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  Speaker 1: you were talking though, what do you mean in the movie? Right?
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yea, yeah, that's what I'm saying. See, they
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  Speaker 1: call you on the phone, they call you on the phone. Right,
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  Speaker 1: This ain't no extra now I'm just leaving thereby. That's
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  Speaker 1: not an extra. Now he's talking about an extra. To
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  Speaker 1: be honest, I started out of extra because it was
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  Speaker 1: just for me one day and then um, after two
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  Speaker 1: weeks later, they called me back and they said, fight
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  Speaker 1: they likes your look and he likes you that you
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  Speaker 1: could take direction. So they kept me on for three weeks.
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  Speaker 1: And then then that's at the end of the third week,
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  Speaker 1: that's when I started get in line. And that's when
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  Speaker 1: production approached me and said, hey, they wants to bump
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  Speaker 1: you to a principal role until you stay on the film.
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  Speaker 1: And I stayed on the film until we wrapped in December,
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  Speaker 1: so that so I was supposed to start out of action.
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  Speaker 1: But then I've gotten I got up. Let's talk about this.
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  Speaker 1: Let's talk about this because see this is what I
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  Speaker 1: talked about. People fear, they fear opportunity. They questioned themselves,
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  Speaker 1: you know, because opportunity that comes a person's way on
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  Speaker 1: a regular basis. But a lot of people see there,
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  Speaker 1: they're they'll say they that keep over there, or that's
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  Speaker 1: not my time, or it's not I don't feel I'm
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  Speaker 1: educated enough, that's not my my game plan. You you
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  Speaker 1: give me a little cracking it though. I mean because
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  Speaker 1: because I'm always preparing myself every day for an opportunity.
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  Speaker 1: So so you got this phone call, you went down there,
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  Speaker 1: You're next? What were you doing that was like making
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  Speaker 1: you stand out? You know, were you friendly on set?
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  Speaker 1: Will you cooperative? It's just let people know how did
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  Speaker 1: you get bumped up? Because it applies to everyday jobs too. Yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: you know, that's a great question. I think, you know,
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  Speaker 1: going back, I think the seal teams prepared me for
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  Speaker 1: that opportunity big time because in the Seal team, you've
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  Speaker 1: gotta be able to take orders and not question those orders,
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  Speaker 1: and you gotta trust that direction. When I wanted that,
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  Speaker 1: you know, one, I just want to kept my mouth shut.
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't that guy walking around set like hey, I'm
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  Speaker 1: gonna see them. There's some that trying to be bunty
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  Speaker 1: funny with anybody that just in my corner, and when
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  Speaker 1: I was told to go on set and when I
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  Speaker 1: was sold to do when Michael Bay told me to
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  Speaker 1: move in certain ways, I just did it. And after
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  Speaker 1: I did it, I didn't try and make friends. I
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  Speaker 1: walked back to my corner and I get my mom,
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  Speaker 1: and I think, that's what did it? You know? And
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  Speaker 1: I saw other people who would be on set and
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  Speaker 1: and they're trying to have conversations with the DP and
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  Speaker 1: the director and this and then and you know, trying
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  Speaker 1: to hand out business cards, and you know, I think,
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  Speaker 1: you know, for me, it was either because I didn't
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  Speaker 1: want to be an actor, you know what I mean.
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  Speaker 1: So I wasn't out there trying to impress anybody. I
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  Speaker 1: was just there because I was asked to be there.
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  Speaker 1: So because I didn't have that I need to do,
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  Speaker 1: this is my big brink I needed because that seal
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  Speaker 1: or that that that anxiety wasn't there. I just did
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  Speaker 1: what I was supposed to do. And I think that
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  Speaker 1: that's I think that that was recognized and I think
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  Speaker 1: that that's what led to the to the opportunity after that,
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  Speaker 1: the bigger opportunity. That's awesome, that's an awesome story because
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  Speaker 1: I already I wanted to pull that out of you
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  Speaker 1: because because so many people can apply that to everyday life,
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  Speaker 1: everyday job, because I've applied that same principle, you know,
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  Speaker 1: and the thing about it. But you looked apart though.
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  Speaker 1: Come on, when you put on that uniform, when you
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  Speaker 1: put on that uniform, you know, it looked like you
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  Speaker 1: could do something. I was perfectly you know. You know,
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  Speaker 1: after I got out the military, I didn't just I
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  Speaker 1: was still hitting the gym like I was still in.
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  Speaker 1: I was still trying to keep it together. There you go.
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  Speaker 1: So so now let's telling people. My wife sometimes I
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  Speaker 1: always tell her that, you know, certain things, what I
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  Speaker 1: gotta lose weight, or change clothes or change a look.
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  Speaker 1: I said, something's about to happen in my life. I'm
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  Speaker 1: just preparing for that. I can't tell you what's gonna happen.
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  Speaker 1: I know because I will, first of all, always keep
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  Speaker 1: a positive look. And when you've read this book Transform,
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  Speaker 1: you'll see despite all the obstacles in his life, he
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  Speaker 1: keeps an uplifting approach, even though when he knows he's
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  Speaker 1: made a mistake. He's a quick thinker, you know, like
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  Speaker 1: when he got when when you got busted, going down
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  Speaker 1: to San Diego and didn't think they're gonna page him
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  Speaker 1: and went down there and half drive later. Yeah, but
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  Speaker 1: we're gonna be back and talking more about this book.
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  Speaker 1: I got another break because I really want to break
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  Speaker 1: down that Navy Seal experience of how you got that
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  Speaker 1: because you overcame a lot of flaws, physical flaws like
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  Speaker 1: swimming that he couldn't do that he was able to
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  Speaker 1: come through it and guess what he had to go
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  Speaker 1: through Hell week twice. So so we'll be back with
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  Speaker 1: more of my man. Uh, this book is transformed. His
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  Speaker 1: name is Remy Out of late K money making conversations.
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  Speaker 1: You hear all. That's what we do here, give you information.
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  Speaker 1: We tried to share advice that will label you to
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  Speaker 1: win in your personal and your professional life. And when
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  Speaker 1: you do that, guess what you got it from me?
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  Speaker 1: Roshan McDonald. You know, after ending a successful naval career
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  Speaker 1: in twenty sixteen, he was led to pursue a career
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  Speaker 1: in acting, writing, speaking, and including appearance in the twenty
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  Speaker 1: seventeen Blockbuster when he went from Sideline Extra to a
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  Speaker 1: speaking role transform The Last Night, and So to lead
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  Speaker 1: technical advice on Netflix of Coming Motion Pictures six Underground
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  Speaker 1: and every turn Remy found a way to overcome the
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  Speaker 1: odds even when it didn't make sense. His story is
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  Speaker 1: inspiring and uh, if you're a fan, club members have
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  Speaker 1: over two thirty thousand fans. I am actually sending out
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  Speaker 1: his book as part of my newsletter today. It's going
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  Speaker 1: out this this morning. That trying to drive traffic to
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  Speaker 1: Amazon dot com. That boy, this book. It's an amazing
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  Speaker 1: books entitled Transform the Navy Seals Unlikely Journey from the
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  Speaker 1: throne of Africa to the streets of the Bronx to
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  Speaker 1: define all odds. When you say the word define our odds,
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  Speaker 1: what does that mean, Remy? It means, you know, getting
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  Speaker 1: over those obstacles that you're not expected to get over. Um,
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  Speaker 1: when you look at my story, you want to you know,
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  Speaker 1: there were so many obstacles who on Goop transitioning from
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  Speaker 1: Africa being rich to the Bronx just making it to
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  Speaker 1: be where I'm at today. You know, that was a
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  Speaker 1: huge odds to define and there were people, know who
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  Speaker 1: my mom would say, you know, there are people never
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  Speaker 1: thought we would make it. Once we came back to
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  Speaker 1: this stace. Um, you know what we did. You know,
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  Speaker 1: defining the odds from the education statistics in the Bronx
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  Speaker 1: at the time, I think it was only of uh
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  Speaker 1: people from the Bronx went to college and graduated. Uh, no,
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  Speaker 1: I have a master's now, you know. Um, you know, uh,
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  Speaker 1: the sixties to seventy percent at the time dropped out
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  Speaker 1: of high school. I graduated high school. I deified those odds.
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  Speaker 1: And we can go on and on being trying to
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  Speaker 1: get it become a Navy seal, not able to swim,
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  Speaker 1: not having the academic scores and skinny, but defining those odds. So, um,
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  Speaker 1: that's that's what I mean by that. Let's talk about
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  Speaker 1: that not being able to swim and becoming a Navy
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  Speaker 1: seal because when reading book, now you trained, you know,
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  Speaker 1: because you meet with my man every day every weekly.
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  Speaker 1: He was training you how to get through the process.
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  Speaker 1: Now I thought you were ready. But when you got
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  Speaker 1: to the actual US budgets first, right, but b uds right, yes,
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  Speaker 1: or basically the water demotion seal training. Okay, cool and
• 15:54
  Speaker 1: uh and so you go to buds, it did it
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  Speaker 1: all kind of like fell apart? What what happened? You know?
• 15:59
  Speaker 1: When I ain't that trained without fins because I didn't
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  Speaker 1: know that when you went to fluds you had to
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  Speaker 1: swim wh strips. I thought that, you know, I thought
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  Speaker 1: you just had to pass the five hundred yard screening
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  Speaker 1: tests to get into buzzs five of the York swimming
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  Speaker 1: spin tests to get into buzz and then after that
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  Speaker 1: you just ran around and they push up and pull
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  Speaker 1: up and got yelled at and all that kind of stuff.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't know that you had to swim in the
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  Speaker 1: ocean with fins for two miles, then three miles, then
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  Speaker 1: five miles. How didn't know that? So when they put
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  Speaker 1: those fins on me and threw me in the water,
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  Speaker 1: I was like confused, confused, and uh, it was a struggle.
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: It was a huge struggle for me that you know.
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  Speaker 1: There were times when the ocean swim they gave us
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  Speaker 1: eighty five minute time limits and I was out there
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  Speaker 1: for two hours and the freezing cold water, and they
• 16:43
  Speaker 1: would keep me in the water because they figured, old,
• 16:46
  Speaker 1: let's just wait for him to either he'll quit or
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: he'll fill this one and come back next week and
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: getting that cold water and quit again. But I just
• 16:52
  Speaker 1: kept showing her. It was It was horrible. It was horrible.
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: When he said cold water. His body tempered to drop
• 16:57
  Speaker 1: to eighty degrees yep, and so they had to rush
• 17:00
  Speaker 1: the hospital and woman back up real quick. Now at
• 17:04
  Speaker 1: that point in the book, were you ready to get out?
• 17:06
  Speaker 1: Were you ready to like, hey, this is not for me. Nope?
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: Never never? Why not? Um? For two reasons run. You know,
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  Speaker 1: my mom always preached this concept of excellence to my
• 17:18
  Speaker 1: brother and I when we're your little kids in the Bronx.
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  Speaker 1: She would always tell me and my brother, you have
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  Speaker 1: to be excellent. Whatever you do, don't half way it.
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: You know, she can do a word. But I wanted
• 17:26
  Speaker 1: to don't half way, you know, to give a draw,
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: and I wanted to give it my all. I wanted
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: to be part of the best, you know. I didn't
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: want to sail at that And which brings me to
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: my second answer. I have failed so much at life
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: up to that point. I didn't want to sail with
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: something else. Now, so they were that concept of quitting never,
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: And that's that's amazing because of the fact that fear
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: had to play a part. Overcoming fear had to play
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: a party and decision making because there's a history of
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: you know, people not survived physically survived this these training sessions. Correct, Yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I got that in my class. I mean it happens
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: right hap to other classes, right and right. And then
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: your second run through the lead or the lead he
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: quit and you had to take charge because of your
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: right yep, yep, and that that that happened. That happened
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: a lot too lovely to happen multiple times. And now
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: I found myself in the leadership position. How to having
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: deleted motivated other other guys, and they also motivated myself
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  Speaker 1: to keep pushing. Now that's that's that's what I thought
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: was really that that to me in the book was
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: a key moment for me. Here was a person, you know,
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: knowing your background, you've been dis disenfranchised from Nigeria because
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: of your because of your royalty. You know, you're in
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: the streets just hustling. You know, you can say drug deal,
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: Lets just hustle. You know, you know, you don't have
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: mentor mentors out there to guide you in the right direction.
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: You're gonna do what everybody else is associated with your
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: posset or your road, your crew or whatever tells you
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: to do. Okay, that's what's hop do that My my
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: seller Southern Drugs I played basketball because crew just play basketball. Okay. Yeah,
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: So so then then you you're coming along and you
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: and you and you pursue an opportunity where you cannot swim.
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: He says this in the book. I can not swim,
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: but I want to be an ab seal. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: I just wanted it. You know, I just wanted it.
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: There was no offensive but and you know I wasn't
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: gonna And then that's the question I try to teach
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: people to this day. When you have a deficiency as
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: it relates to your dream, you do one or two things.
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: Either say you know what, I have this major deficiency
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: which means I cannot do that and then you can
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: go about your life and try something else. Or be
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: you could just do the extra extra hard work to
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: overcome that deficiency. And that's what I did. I did
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: the extra extra hard work to overcome that deficiency, and
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: that's how it got over. Awesome. Now, with that being said,
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: getting over when you asked to speak, what is the
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: message you're trying to deliver when people invite you in
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: this because it could be different age groups. I know,
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: if you if you deal with young people as this age,
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: when you do of a people who are more focused
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: in the corporate environment that speak. But what is the
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: overall message you're trying to deliver when you when you're
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: asked to speak? There are so many but I was
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: just so I would just boil it down to to
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: the lesson that that I pulled out of the book,
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: and a lot of people are pulled out of the
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: book as well, And that is this concept of failure.
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: You know, none of us are immune to failure. We
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: will all fail at some point, that's something in our life.
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: And and and but it's important that when we fail, um,
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: we have to you know, I have a saying, our
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: failure is only a failure if you don't learn from it.
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: But if you learn from it, it's a lesson. It's
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: a lesson, and and and and and and then we
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: could either allow our failure to define our future or
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: we can find a lesson within our failure that we
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: can use for our future, for the success of our future.
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: And so that's the main thing. I tried it out,
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: because when you read this book, this book is nothing.
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: It's all about a man who failed over and over
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: and over and over again, but he eventually learned to
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: take hold those failures and turn them into lessons and
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: then use those lets such a tournament to successes. So
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: that's what I want people to get away from from
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: from my talks. My talk from this book is that
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: don't give up after you fail. Don't let that fail
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: you define, you, find a lesson you use, just move forward.
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: So on what I'm hearing is that he is a
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: man who failed over and over again, then he used
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: those lessons of failure to transform that transformed him to
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: be the man he is today. That's a man who's
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: who was admitted flaws, which I always tell people, but
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: you don't admit a flaw, that's a that's a problem
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: because you're seeking perfection, which is impossible. So if you
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: seeking possibility, then guess what comes into your life frustration?
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: And if you're a frustrated person, guess what. Don't nobody
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: want to be around a frustrated person. Nobody want a
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: champion of frustrated person. So so what is your message?
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: What is your message for young people who may be
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: struggling out there today? Uh, you know, you know, don't
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: get caught up in this concept of everything should happen
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: right now. I want young people to realize that things
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: take time. As she said, I you went through seal
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: training twice. That sounds when you know me saying that
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: may not sound like a long time. But we're talking
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: from the time I started training to be a seal
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: to the time I finally graduated from seal training. We're
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: talking two thousand and three to two thousand and seven.
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: That's four years of constant, day in and day outglinding.
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: But you don't see that. You just see the end results.
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: I want young people to realize that you gotta put
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: in the work and it's not gonna happen overnight. You
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: got to show up every single day and that's how
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: you you achieve what you want to achieve. And what
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: what is it that you want to achieve? Really now,
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: I mean it changes old time. Well uh well, now
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: you know, I you know, I've got the book out,
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: so obviously I want that to be successful, which is
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: being very successful, uh to uh you know, you know
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: now moving you know, I'm a writer producer now in Hollywood.
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: You know I've been I'm in talking and it really
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: still now here here here from an answer to a
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: writer producer in Hollywood. Yeah, yeah, man, I'm gonna talking
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: with the major studio right now to option the rights
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: to my book and option a screenplay I wrote and
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: some other projects. So I'm gonna talk to kind of
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: set up an overall deal flash our first book deal
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: with a major studio. I'm still taking other offers that
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: people want to throw me some offers, I'll entertain them.
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: That's that's a day, is uh, getting that production company
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: off the ground and just putting out amazing inspirational stories
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: and a lot of black stories as well. You know,
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: I'm writing a film now about one of the first
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: groups of African Americans to serve in special operations and
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: the story that that you know, it's hidden, it's like
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: a hidden figure story, but these are probably one of
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: the first groups of guys to serving Special Forces. No
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: one knows this story. So as a guy who was
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: in Special Forces and you know, I'm telling that story now.
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: So so that's that's what my next goal in life
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: is getting these amazing stories out um via film and TV. Well,
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: I would just tell you this, first of all, you're unique, okay,
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: you know and that that kid that and you're special
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: because of the fact that you you crossed uncharted waters
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: when you started with a number of African American men
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: who and we look at him. Man, you gotta tell
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: this story who started because we know there's racism at
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: every level. And when you when you're when you're the
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: first ding, when you first did, it's worse because guess what,
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: they don't want anybody to break cold break to break
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: the new members of the club. And I'm not saying anything,
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: and that's just life that happens in any environment, you know,
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: all right, and so but I just want to let
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: you know, I'm glad. I know we kept hitting and
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: missing and coming on the show and getting the time right,
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: and I'm glad I wanted to show you respect and
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: say I really want to jeel my show. I'm glad
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: we was able to schedule list. And I read your
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: book and I'm inspired by your book, and I just
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: wanted anybody who reads this book transformed to just to
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: value what he did and used the same values and
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: failures and successes and let you know that you can
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: do it too. Rem thank you for coming on my show, man,
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: thank you for having me on the show. I appreciate it.
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