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- 0:56Speaker 2: My guest is the author of Ally Leadership, How to
- 0:59Speaker 2: Lead People who Are Not Like You. Here's a little
- 1:02Speaker 2: background on her. She's the first African American president of
- 1:05Speaker 2: a private aviation company and has more than thirty five
- 1:08Speaker 2: years of travel experience, which she began as a baggage handler.
- 1:13Speaker 2: This led her to top executive roles as president of
- 1:16Speaker 2: Jeftsweet and Chief Growth Officer at Will's Up. Please welcome
- 1:20Speaker 2: the Money Making Conversations Masterclass, Stephanie Chung.
- 1:24Speaker 3: Thank you for having me with Seanna.
- 1:25Speaker 2: Okay, the name of your book, tell us how you
- 1:27Speaker 2: came over and the name of the book, let's dive
- 1:29Speaker 2: deep into.
- 1:29Speaker 1: This book is a brilliant read. It's about leadership.
- 1:33Speaker 2: Is not when you hear that word how to lead
- 1:35Speaker 2: people who are not like you, being at your African American,
- 1:38Speaker 2: one would immediately go to race and this is not
- 1:41Speaker 2: what this book is about. This book is about communications.
- 1:46Speaker 4: You thank you, Thank you sir, and thank you for
- 1:47Speaker 4: saying that, because that is the most important part that
- 1:50Speaker 4: I really want people to convey. The reason why I
- 1:53Speaker 4: named the book ally Leadership and not allyship right is
- 1:57Speaker 4: because ally, first of all, is an acronym, so it
- 2:00Speaker 4: stands for ask, lists and learn and you take action.
- 2:03Speaker 4: So to your point, the book is really a leadership book.
- 2:06Speaker 4: It's not a DEI book or anything like that. It's
- 2:09Speaker 4: a book for all leaders who want to be able
- 2:11Speaker 4: to lead people who are not like them. And the
- 2:13Speaker 4: reason why that's important Rushan is because right now we
- 2:17Speaker 4: have five soon to be six generations working, so that's
- 2:20Speaker 4: unheard of. We've got people from sixteen years old to
- 2:24Speaker 4: seventy five years old, right, And those of us in leadership,
- 2:27Speaker 4: we know that a zoomer thinks very different than a
- 2:29Speaker 4: boomer or so the inner generations in the marketplace, in
- 2:34Speaker 4: the workforce is really challenging for leaders. So that's the
- 2:37Speaker 4: first reason why I brote the book. The second reason
- 2:40Speaker 4: is we also have women as the majority of the population,
- 2:44Speaker 4: so we think differently, we communicate differently, we lead differently,
- 2:48Speaker 4: so that changes the dynamics in the workforce as well.
- 2:51Speaker 4: And then the last piece I want to really mention
- 2:54Speaker 4: is that the ethnic demographics are changing also, right, So
- 2:57Speaker 4: you have all the ethnic groups that are growing, non
- 2:59Speaker 4: ethnic groups shrinking, so that changes dynamics as well as
- 3:03Speaker 4: people with neurodiversity or people who have different abilities or
- 3:07Speaker 4: LGBTQ plus. So all said, those of us in leadership
- 3:11Speaker 4: are leading people who are not like each other, and
- 3:14Speaker 4: they're not like us. And so I come from an
- 3:16Speaker 4: industry where there's not a lot of people that look
- 3:19Speaker 4: like me, sound like me, act like me, etc. Don't
- 3:22Speaker 4: have my same background, so I have become really efficient
- 3:25Speaker 4: in how to lead people who are not like me,
- 3:28Speaker 4: And so I wrote the book as a tool for
- 3:30Speaker 4: today's leader to know how to lead today's modern force
- 3:33Speaker 4: and a modern workforce. So I really just wanted to
- 3:36Speaker 4: be a tool and hopes that it would help other
- 3:38Speaker 4: leaders be able to do it more, quicker, better, faster,
- 3:41Speaker 4: et cetera.
- 3:42Speaker 2: Cool, let's start some a couple of comments. I'm a
- 3:45Speaker 2: good listener, and you've brought up women and you say
- 3:47Speaker 2: women think differently?
- 3:49Speaker 1: Yeah? How and who you when you said think differently?
- 3:53Speaker 1: Who you're saying referencing when you say to think differently?
- 3:57Speaker 3: Yeah?
- 3:57Speaker 4: So when I say think differently, today's to day's leadership, Right,
- 4:01Speaker 4: it's primarily made up a majority of men, And so
- 4:04Speaker 4: women think differently than men and any of us that
- 4:07Speaker 4: you have any interaction, whether it be with our spouses
- 4:10Speaker 4: or kids, et cetera.
- 4:11Speaker 3: We know men and women think differently. Now what does
- 4:13Speaker 3: that mean in the workforce?
- 4:14Speaker 1: Though?
- 4:15Speaker 4: So when you think of from a woman's perspective, we're
- 4:18Speaker 4: going to really for the most part, and I'm obviously
- 4:20Speaker 4: I'm generalizing, but we tend to look at the whole person, right, So, yes,
- 4:25Speaker 4: you may be my employee, but I also acknowledge the
- 4:28Speaker 4: fact that you were somebody's husband, or somebody's son, or
- 4:31Speaker 4: somebody's best friend, or somebody's father. So when I'm addressing you,
- 4:35Speaker 4: I'm actually addressing you as the entire person of who
- 4:38Speaker 4: you are versus just you work on my team type
- 4:42Speaker 4: of thing. So we women tend to, maybe as part
- 4:44Speaker 4: of our nurturing as well, we tend to look at
- 4:46Speaker 4: people as an entire you know, we say bring your
- 4:49Speaker 4: whole self to work.
- 4:50Speaker 3: We actually look at you as a whole person.
- 4:52Speaker 4: And that's a little bit different than perhaps what people
- 4:54Speaker 4: are used to with the traditional type of leadership that
- 4:58Speaker 4: has historically been in place.
- 5:00Speaker 2: Now, just later, everybody, I'm talking to Stephanie Chung her
- 5:03Speaker 2: book Ally Leadership, How to Lead People Who Are Not
- 5:06Speaker 2: like You. This book is not just about traditional leadership.
- 5:09Speaker 2: It's about revolutionizing leadership practices to be more effective in
- 5:13Speaker 2: a rapidly changing corporate world. Like she mentioned the just
- 5:16Speaker 2: racial different ethnic groups, the social issues that we're dealing with. Now,
- 5:20Speaker 2: this issue transitions transcends the category of race, gender, sexual orientation,
- 5:26Speaker 2: different abilities, and age. Now let's talk about age, because
- 5:29Speaker 2: I'm a big proponent of age should never be an excuse,
- 5:33Speaker 2: and people are somehow been told at sixty five there
- 5:37Speaker 2: is a check waiting on them for retirement. And you
- 5:40Speaker 2: know that's not true. We all know that's not true.
- 5:42Speaker 2: But somehow that message is not getting down to the masses.
- 5:47Speaker 2: But so people tend to think that they hit fifty,
- 5:49Speaker 2: they hit sixty, they hit seventy, their dreams have stopped.
- 5:53Speaker 2: Let's talk about the age process when it comes to
- 5:56Speaker 2: your book and what you message you was trying to
- 5:58Speaker 2: deliver to that audience.
- 5:59Speaker 1: Stephanie.
- 6:00Speaker 4: Yes, So, first of all, I'm in my sixties and
- 6:03Speaker 4: I'm like, I'm telling you, I'm loving it. I feel
- 6:06Speaker 4: like I have more clarity, more energy. I mean, it's fantastic.
- 6:10Speaker 4: So my message to anyone regardless of the age, because
- 6:13Speaker 4: the reverse is true as well with Sean. Right, So
- 6:15Speaker 4: people think if you're too young, you can't lead, If
- 6:17Speaker 4: you're too old, you know, it's time for you to
- 6:18Speaker 4: get out.
- 6:19Speaker 3: The truth of the matter is we're all living longer.
- 6:22Speaker 1: Right.
- 6:23Speaker 4: You know, it's funny AARP thinks that the person who's
- 6:25Speaker 4: going to be one hundred and fifty is going to
- 6:27Speaker 4: actually make it to one hundred and fifty has already
- 6:29Speaker 4: been born. So really what that means is if you're
- 6:32Speaker 4: in your sixties or fifties or you know later, it's
- 6:35Speaker 4: no longer that you have to retire at sixty five.
- 6:38Speaker 4: I know a lot of people personally that their second
- 6:42Speaker 4: you know, dreams they're kind of who they are now,
- 6:45Speaker 4: actually started.
- 6:46Speaker 3: When they were in their sixties.
- 6:47Speaker 4: So my message for people reading the book is it
- 6:50Speaker 4: really doesn't matter what your age is, because we're all
- 6:53Speaker 4: living longer. You know, today's sixty is really like yesterday's forty, right,
- 6:57Speaker 4: And so I just want people to know that it
- 6:59Speaker 4: doesn't really matter if you are a leader, and if
- 7:02Speaker 4: you feel like you're called for leadership, and whether that's
- 7:05Speaker 4: leading in a company or just leading yourself right, or
- 7:08Speaker 4: you're an entrepreneur, this guy's.
- 7:10Speaker 3: The limit for you.
- 7:11Speaker 4: There's no longer the thought process of oh I'm sixty
- 7:13Speaker 4: five and now I need to start to retire.
- 7:16Speaker 3: Now are you kidding me?
- 7:17Speaker 4: I mean, today's sixty five year old is like again
- 7:20Speaker 4: their second win.
- 7:22Speaker 2: And I'd like to say I'm in my sixties to Stephanie,
- 7:24Speaker 2: So I think you and I may hit that sixty
- 7:27Speaker 2: one hundred and fifty, Okay, we might be in a
- 7:29Speaker 2: race for that one hundred and fifty.
- 7:30Speaker 3: Let's do it.
- 7:31Speaker 1: Just let you know not I don't know who they
- 7:34Speaker 1: talk about.
- 7:34Speaker 2: For them to be talking about me and make me
- 7:36Speaker 2: talk about you, I'll be remissed. I know we're talking
- 7:40Speaker 2: about the book, but the fact that you were president
- 7:45Speaker 2: of Jet sweet chief gross officer, it will's up and
- 7:49Speaker 2: if the people are listening, I know everybody doesn't fly
- 7:51Speaker 2: fiber jets. This is like the green Daylight Cream, a
- 7:56Speaker 2: private jet travel that we're talking about. And as an
- 7:59Speaker 2: African America, as a female, tell us about that experience.
- 8:03Speaker 1: And I was reading that.
- 8:04Speaker 2: I read your book and I was that little pebble
- 8:06Speaker 2: beat bomb with that when you look up and down,
- 8:08Speaker 2: you know who is she out there on.
- 8:10Speaker 1: The golf course?
- 8:11Speaker 2: Tell us about going from a baggage handler and then
- 8:15Speaker 2: you know, we all have dreams and people say I'm
- 8:18Speaker 2: gonna do this. People go yeah, right, and as you
- 8:20Speaker 2: start going up that ladder realizing the possibilities.
- 8:23Speaker 1: Let's share that moment.
- 8:24Speaker 2: With us, because I think it's important that our audience,
- 8:27Speaker 2: whether they're black, white, Latino, younger, old, need to understand
- 8:31Speaker 2: that a dream can happen.
- 8:32Speaker 1: But it's applied to work and relationships.
- 8:35Speaker 3: Yes, yes, so thank you for that.
- 8:37Speaker 4: You know, I always like to start off because you're right,
- 8:39Speaker 4: my career is very unique, right, and so I always
- 8:43Speaker 4: like to start off and give and give credit where
- 8:45Speaker 4: credit is due. My dad was a master sergeant in
- 8:48Speaker 4: the US Air Force, so I grew up around planes
- 8:50Speaker 4: my entire life. And really what that meant is I moved.
- 8:54Speaker 4: Also every two years of my life. I always lived
- 8:56Speaker 4: on active Air Force faces, so I heard planes taking
- 8:59Speaker 4: off and landing all the time, and so early on
- 9:01Speaker 4: I knew I wanted to be an aviation The problem, though, Ruschan, was.
- 9:06Speaker 3: That I didn't know what I could do in aviation.
- 9:08Speaker 3: And the reason.
- 9:09Speaker 4: Why is because way back in the day, whenever you
- 9:12Speaker 4: would see aviation depicted in TV or film or magazines
- 9:16Speaker 4: or anything like that, any type of media, you would
- 9:19Speaker 4: always see if you were a man, you were a pilot,
- 9:23Speaker 4: or if you were a female, you were a flight attendant.
- 9:27Speaker 3: But back in the day, none of those pictures ever
- 9:29Speaker 3: looked like me.
- 9:30Speaker 4: And so though I knew I wanted to be an
- 9:32Speaker 4: aviation I really didn't know what was accessible to me
- 9:36Speaker 4: because I'd never seen a person of color or any
- 9:38Speaker 4: type of representation in as an aviator when I was
- 9:42Speaker 4: growing up, so I didn't know what was available to me.
- 9:44Speaker 4: That said, my very first job, to your point, I
- 9:47Speaker 4: ended up parking planes and load and luggage at the
- 9:50Speaker 4: Boston Logan.
- 9:51Speaker 3: Airport for a very big airline, and.
- 9:53Speaker 4: I loved that job. Now here's what's really interesting, Ruchan.
- 9:57Speaker 4: Back then we're talking like.
- 9:58Speaker 3: Forty years ago.
- 9:59Speaker 4: Then women didn't work on the ramp, right, But I
- 10:03Speaker 4: felt really comfortable because I grew up around soldiers, so
- 10:07Speaker 4: I grew up around men. So I was like quite
- 10:09Speaker 4: comfortable working on the ramp.
- 10:10Speaker 3: Loved the job.
- 10:11Speaker 4: But because I always also needed extra money, I would
- 10:14Speaker 4: go work upstairs at the ticket counter to make some
- 10:17Speaker 4: extra money and then check customers in for their flights, etc.
- 10:21Speaker 4: So one day I was up there, and you know, again,
- 10:23Speaker 4: I worked for a really big airline in the Boston area,
- 10:26Speaker 4: and so I would always see our executives flying in
- 10:28Speaker 4: and out of the airport, so I knew who they
- 10:31Speaker 4: were rouchamp, but I didn't think that they knew who
- 10:33Speaker 4: I was because I was a stick counterperson right or
- 10:35Speaker 4: working on the ramp.
- 10:36Speaker 3: And so one day this gentleman, his name was Jim.
- 10:39Speaker 3: I'll never forget Jim.
- 10:40Speaker 4: Jim was like this little, short white guy with a
- 10:42Speaker 4: deep Southern accent, and he came over to me when
- 10:45Speaker 4: I was checking customers in and he said, in his
- 10:48Speaker 4: Southern drawl, he said, you know, Stephanie, every time I
- 10:51Speaker 4: come to this airport, I see you, and I see
- 10:53Speaker 4: you checking customers in with a smile on your face.
- 10:56Speaker 3: I think we have you in the wrong position. I
- 10:58Speaker 3: think you should be in sales. Now. Up until that point,
- 11:02Speaker 3: I was really headed.
- 11:03Speaker 4: More towards in operations, you know, type of career, and
- 11:06Speaker 4: I didn't know anything about sales, but I respected Jim.
- 11:10Speaker 4: And so with that said, you know, he and I
- 11:13Speaker 4: had a conversation and one thing led to nether and
- 11:15Speaker 4: I ended up, you know, then selling for the airlines
- 11:18Speaker 4: and then did that for many years, and then got
- 11:20Speaker 4: recruited into private aviation, and so started off in sales,
- 11:25Speaker 4: and then to your point, all the things that you
- 11:27Speaker 4: mentioned that you know, ended up going up the ladder
- 11:29Speaker 4: and ended up being one of the highest, if not
- 11:31Speaker 4: the highest ranked black.
- 11:33Speaker 3: Person in private aviation.
- 11:35Speaker 4: And so it's because though I started off like, let
- 11:38Speaker 4: me just start at the bottom, let me figure out
- 11:40Speaker 4: because I don't know what's successible, but here's what I
- 11:42Speaker 4: do know. I've got a good work ethic, I'm smart,
- 11:46Speaker 4: and I'm willing to put in the time, effort, energy,
- 11:48Speaker 4: et cetera in order to get into the position that
- 11:51Speaker 4: I want to be in now.
- 11:53Speaker 3: Early on Ruschard, I never.
- 11:55Speaker 4: Would have dreamed that I would be in the types
- 11:57Speaker 4: of positions that I ended up in. But it all
- 12:00Speaker 4: always starts with the first step. And I think that's
- 12:02Speaker 4: really what I would want lead your listeners to really
- 12:05Speaker 4: think about it. I didn't think, couldn't even think right
- 12:08Speaker 4: about where I would end up because I just didn't know.
- 12:10Speaker 3: I didn't know what was accessible.
- 12:12Speaker 4: But I could think about the first step, right, And
- 12:15Speaker 4: I think sometimes people just don't take that first step.
- 12:18Speaker 4: They overthink it, they think too much about it. It's like,
- 12:21Speaker 4: just take the first step, take that step, and then
- 12:23Speaker 4: that leads you to all the other steps. So I
- 12:26Speaker 4: loved my career. I am still obviously still have a
- 12:29Speaker 4: foot in private aviation. I do some advisory board work
- 12:32Speaker 4: and whatnot, and so it's a fun career. And you
- 12:34Speaker 4: know this because you and I talked off camera. It's
- 12:37Speaker 4: an aspirational industry and what I mean by that is,
- 12:40Speaker 4: everybody either wants to fly in a private jet or
- 12:43Speaker 4: wants to have enough money to be able to buy
- 12:45Speaker 4: a private jet. So it's very aspirational and so it's
- 12:48Speaker 4: a little bit different than most careers.
- 12:50Speaker 3: But I have loved it.
- 12:52Speaker 4: I've loved my industry, and thankfully the industry has loved
- 12:55Speaker 4: to be back as well.
- 12:56Speaker 2: Well, let's understand this is Stephanie Chong in the business
- 13:00Speaker 2: that you have Delta, you have American Airlines, you have
- 13:05Speaker 2: private travel, which is very unique, which is very specific,
- 13:11Speaker 2: but they have an audience out there and it's not
- 13:13Speaker 2: celebrity driven.
- 13:14Speaker 1: I'm just letting everybody know this is not It's so.
- 13:17Speaker 2: Many just regular looking people who are flying private jets.
- 13:21Speaker 2: It will shock you. These are the people who have
- 13:23Speaker 2: hedge frogs. These are people who are executives. These are
- 13:26Speaker 2: people who are just regular everyday people who have worked hard,
- 13:32Speaker 2: want to move fast, and cannot do the security reasons
- 13:36Speaker 2: hang out with the regular folks.
- 13:37Speaker 1: They just cannot.
- 13:38Speaker 2: And that business is being being led by a person
- 13:41Speaker 2: of your color makes me mad because I hadn't met
- 13:45Speaker 2: you before, because Steve Harveys should have met you.
- 13:48Speaker 1: I'm gonna make sure Steven A. Smith knows about.
- 13:50Speaker 2: You because these are people who fly these planes and
- 13:54Speaker 2: use these planes and don't know that a voice of
- 13:57Speaker 2: your magnitude was important to our participation as passengers.
- 14:02Speaker 1: Now let's get.
- 14:03Speaker 4: Back to I got to you know, the think about it,
- 14:07Speaker 4: Oh my show, Money Making Conversations master Class.
- 14:09Speaker 2: You know, I have a very diverse audience. Six percent
- 14:12Speaker 2: African America, twenty percent white, twelve percent Latino. You know,
- 14:15Speaker 2: fifty two percent male, forty eight percent female, sixty five
- 14:18Speaker 2: percent of my audience is under the age of forty five.
- 14:20Speaker 2: You are a person that we expire, a drever who
- 14:24Speaker 2: comes in. Did not allow color to denounce your opportunities,
- 14:28Speaker 2: but allow your personality. And when people gave you that
- 14:32Speaker 2: moment and since were I always talk about this show, Stephanie,
- 14:35Speaker 2: and I want to talk about that a little bit longer.
- 14:38Speaker 2: Somebody offered you something you could have been intimidated by
- 14:41Speaker 2: and said, oh no, I never thought about that, because,
- 14:43Speaker 2: like you said, you were headed to operations sales. Talk
- 14:47Speaker 2: about that moment a little bit more detailed, because that
- 14:50Speaker 2: was the turning point in your life and there up
- 14:52Speaker 2: there have been others along the way, but that was
- 14:55Speaker 2: the one moment that made you really go home and
- 14:58Speaker 2: sit on the side of your bed.
- 15:01Speaker 4: Yes, yes, absolutely absolutely. And here's what's really interesting. I
- 15:05Speaker 4: want to even take it back because because you have
- 15:07Speaker 4: such a diverse audience, which makes me very happy, by
- 15:10Speaker 4: the way, but you know, you just never know where
- 15:12Speaker 4: your opportunities are going to come from. So here was
- 15:14Speaker 4: a gentleman who was born and raised in the South
- 15:17Speaker 4: in the nineteen forties, and here I am, you know,
- 15:20Speaker 4: an African American girl born and raised all over the place.
- 15:23Speaker 4: Because of my military background. You would think we wouldn't
- 15:26Speaker 4: have a lot in common, right, But the truth of
- 15:28Speaker 4: the matter is he saw something because of all the
- 15:31Speaker 4: things you and I talked about before being able to
- 15:33Speaker 4: you know, working hard, having a good attitude.
- 15:36Speaker 3: You know, when the opportunity struck, I was. I was
- 15:38Speaker 3: ready for that conversation.
- 15:40Speaker 4: But you know, I also appreciate him that he was
- 15:43Speaker 4: a person paying attention. The first thing he said to
- 15:45Speaker 4: me is every time I come through, I see you, right.
- 15:49Speaker 4: And so one of the things that I always like
- 15:50Speaker 4: to encourage people is you just never know where that
- 15:52Speaker 4: opportunity is going to come up.
- 15:54Speaker 3: You never know who, you know, God puts in your path.
- 15:57Speaker 4: That may be the person that speaks one sentence or
- 15:59Speaker 4: one has one conversation that truly changes the trajectory of
- 16:03Speaker 4: your career. And that's what happened for me. And so
- 16:07Speaker 4: with that in mind, what I would just tell people is,
- 16:09Speaker 4: you know what, grow where you're planted. Wherever you are now,
- 16:14Speaker 4: it is probably not where you're going to be two years,
- 16:16Speaker 4: five years from now. And so what you want to
- 16:18Speaker 4: do is always remember that you're your personal brand. Yes,
- 16:22Speaker 4: you work for a brand, but you have a personal
- 16:25Speaker 4: brand as well, and so what do you want your
- 16:27Speaker 4: personal brand to stand for? And then you work every
- 16:30Speaker 4: single day to honor that your personal brand. So for me,
- 16:35Speaker 4: my personal brand I really wanted to stand for. You know,
- 16:38Speaker 4: I treat people kindly, that I work really hard. My
- 16:41Speaker 4: yes is my yes, my no is my no. There's
- 16:44Speaker 4: certain things that I really am intentional about when it
- 16:46Speaker 4: comes to my brand. So therefore, when the opportunity comes
- 16:49Speaker 4: up or in a lot of times too, you know, Rashan,
- 16:51Speaker 4: we always have to remember we may not be in
- 16:53Speaker 4: the room when our personal brand is.
- 16:55Speaker 3: Being discussed, right, but.
- 16:57Speaker 4: How then can you make sure that when you're not
- 17:00Speaker 4: in the room and your brand is being discussed. How
- 17:03Speaker 4: do you want people to discuss it? And that's what
- 17:05Speaker 4: you're doing every single day at work.
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- 17:35Speaker 2: Now here's up to interesting in your book because it's
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- 17:49Speaker 2: What you your possession of counsel culture so that we
- 17:51Speaker 2: all be on the same page, and how do we
- 17:53Speaker 2: steer clear of that because that can't impact how you
- 17:56Speaker 2: lead people who are not like you.
- 17:58Speaker 4: Flor absolutely, and so you know what you want to
- 18:01Speaker 4: do when you think about leading people who are not
- 18:03Speaker 4: like you, at its core, it doesn't actually matter, you know,
- 18:07Speaker 4: in regards to if they're different than you, because most
- 18:09Speaker 4: likely they are going to be different than you. Just
- 18:12Speaker 4: because of what's happening in the world today. And so
- 18:14Speaker 4: one of the things I mentioned earlier the acronym for all.
- 18:17Speaker 4: I was asked listen, learn, you take action. The reason
- 18:21Speaker 4: why that's really important is because I was getting tired
- 18:24Speaker 4: of having people self anoint themselves as an.
- 18:27Speaker 3: Ally, right, right, and so that is that's crazy.
- 18:31Speaker 4: And really what I mean by that is, you know,
- 18:33Speaker 4: I speak as a profession That's what I do, is
- 18:36Speaker 4: I speak, and so often I would, you know, be
- 18:39Speaker 4: done with the speech. Have people come up during the
- 18:41Speaker 4: meet and greets and they would say, especially men, oh
- 18:43Speaker 4: my god, Steph, I love you know everything you just said.
- 18:45Speaker 4: And I'm an ally. You know, I'm married, I've got
- 18:48Speaker 4: three daughters, and I'm an ally. I'm like, I'm all in.
- 18:51Speaker 4: And my follow up is always the same. I always
- 18:55Speaker 4: say to the raushan like, thank you so much. I'm
- 18:57Speaker 4: so glad to hear that you're an ally. Tell me
- 18:59Speaker 4: what you've done this week.
- 19:00Speaker 3: To show your ally ship.
- 19:03Speaker 4: Crickets, right, people don't have anything that they've anything tangible.
- 19:08Speaker 4: So really what I'm really pushing for leaders is people
- 19:11Speaker 4: want to know the receipts that you have to back
- 19:14Speaker 4: up this statement, because you can't just call yourself an ally, right,
- 19:17Speaker 4: I can't call myself a nice person. You can call
- 19:20Speaker 4: me a nice person, like, oh, I've met Stephanie. She
- 19:22Speaker 4: seems like she's a nice person. But I can't self
- 19:24Speaker 4: annoint myself and it's a nice person. And the same
- 19:27Speaker 4: is true with ally, and so you have to earn
- 19:31Speaker 4: the right to be called an ally. And that's the
- 19:34Speaker 4: culture that we're living in today, right. Everybody wants you
- 19:37Speaker 4: to back up your comments with actual receipts, and so
- 19:41Speaker 4: earning from a leadership perspective, earning literally means and this
- 19:44Speaker 4: is going back to your cancel culture question. Earning means
- 19:48Speaker 4: that you, as a leader, you establish the environment where
- 19:52Speaker 4: everyone feels seen, appreciated and psychologically safe.
- 19:56Speaker 3: So you get that's the E. You also have to
- 19:58Speaker 3: assure alignment.
- 19:59Speaker 4: Right, anybody needs to know what business are you in
- 20:02Speaker 4: and how does the make the business make money? And
- 20:04Speaker 4: also how does what they do impact how the business functions.
- 20:08Speaker 4: So every employee wants to know that and we leaders
- 20:10Speaker 4: need to do a better job communicating that.
- 20:12Speaker 3: So that's what the A is for a sure alignment.
- 20:15Speaker 4: The R stands for rally the troops because if you
- 20:19Speaker 4: can get people who feel like they're safe and they're
- 20:21Speaker 4: heard and their scene and they know what role they
- 20:24Speaker 4: play in the in the in the bigness of the organization,
- 20:27Speaker 4: and you rally them towards a cause.
- 20:29Speaker 3: These people will be absolutely unstoppable.
- 20:32Speaker 4: And then the last part is the inn in I'm
- 20:35Speaker 4: from aviation, so in means you need to.
- 20:37Speaker 3: Know how to navigate the narrows, right. You need to
- 20:39Speaker 3: know where we.
- 20:40Speaker 4: Go and how are we getting there, when are we
- 20:41Speaker 4: going to get there, and what all do we need
- 20:43Speaker 4: to get there efficiently?
- 20:45Speaker 3: So all of that is what's required of the leader.
- 20:48Speaker 3: Now you do that.
- 20:50Speaker 4: And so because people talk about culture, culture, and they've
- 20:52Speaker 4: got these beautiful mission statements and you know, culture stuff
- 20:55Speaker 4: up on their walls. But if you it's not about
- 20:58Speaker 4: what's on the wall, it's how do you bet people?
- 21:01Speaker 4: That's about the culture. So you know, when I talk
- 21:03Speaker 4: about cancel culture, it's really like, let's let's get away
- 21:07Speaker 4: from just flinging the word around, right, and let's lean
- 21:10Speaker 4: into how do you treat people? And that's what this
- 21:14Speaker 4: book is all about. And it's not treating people from
- 21:17Speaker 4: your perspective, because your perspective is a moot point. It's
- 21:20Speaker 4: really all about how do people want to be treated,
- 21:23Speaker 4: And so you have to realize that you don't know
- 21:25Speaker 4: about their cultures, or their gender, or their life experience.
- 21:29Speaker 4: And because you don't know, it doesn't mean that people
- 21:32Speaker 4: want to sit around and hear you talk about what
- 21:34Speaker 4: you see you know should be done.
- 21:36Speaker 3: Or shouldn't be done.
- 21:37Speaker 4: What people want is they want you to get to
- 21:39Speaker 4: know them, and you only do that by asking, listening,
- 21:42Speaker 4: and learning, and then you figure out those areas that
- 21:45Speaker 4: you can actually take action to help and support. That's
- 21:49Speaker 4: how we as leaders can actually be much more effective,
- 21:52Speaker 4: and we can have those types of teams that don't
- 21:55Speaker 4: quit because I know you were going to be asking
- 21:57Speaker 4: me about quiet quitting and revenge quitting.
- 22:00Speaker 3: Listen.
- 22:01Speaker 4: Every industry right now is struggling with labor and talent,
- 22:04Speaker 4: and how you circumvent that is you make sure that
- 22:08Speaker 4: you're that leader that people want to work for, and
- 22:11Speaker 4: that your competitors want to steal all your people because
- 22:14Speaker 4: they're so trained and so really good at what they do,
- 22:18Speaker 4: but that your people don't want to leave because they're
- 22:20Speaker 4: getting from you as a leader in ally an ali
- 22:24Speaker 4: and their success and ally and their growth and ally
- 22:27Speaker 4: and their future. That's what people are looking for. Benefits
- 22:31Speaker 4: and dollars and cents are helpful, right. We want to
- 22:33Speaker 4: pay people what they're worth, and certainly always pay them
- 22:36Speaker 4: fairly and competitively. But really people are not just looking
- 22:40Speaker 4: for that, They're looking for leaders to step up. And
- 22:43Speaker 4: that's really why I wrote this book because I know
- 22:45Speaker 4: that it's a tough job to be a leader, but
- 22:48Speaker 4: I also know that it's not impossible.
- 22:50Speaker 1: Wow.
- 22:51Speaker 2: Talking to Stephanie Chung, her book, Ally, Leadership is more
- 22:54Speaker 2: than a book, is a road map for leaders who
- 22:56Speaker 2: aspire to create an environment where every individual fills value,
- 23:00Speaker 2: youth and empowered to get the job done.
- 23:02Speaker 1: Now, were talking about revenge quitting.
- 23:06Speaker 2: Now in your book you talk about navigating complex conversations.
- 23:09Speaker 2: These are the conversations we kind of avoid, We kind
- 23:12Speaker 2: of ignore. Oh he's okay today, Oh she's okay to
- 23:15Speaker 2: borrow h I get to him next week.
- 23:17Speaker 1: But there is a job market that.
- 23:19Speaker 2: Shrinks, and you can have somebody that you feel is
- 23:23Speaker 2: riding the ship with you to the end, and that
- 23:26Speaker 2: person's not there or that warning signs based on you
- 23:30Speaker 2: talking about navigating is in your book complex conversations?
- 23:34Speaker 1: You say twenty twenty five is gonna peak.
- 23:37Speaker 2: This revenge quitting allied leadership. God us, Stephanie, guide us,
- 23:42Speaker 2: now take us up that runway. I'm some airlines talking
- 23:46Speaker 2: take off, take off, off, take off.
- 23:48Speaker 4: Okay, So yes, and it's not just me saying revenge
- 23:51Speaker 4: quitting is if you google it when you probably did, it.
- 23:54Speaker 3: Is a thing, right.
- 23:55Speaker 4: And so employees are you know, they've got a lot
- 23:57Speaker 4: of options.
- 23:58Speaker 3: They've got a lot of options.
- 24:00Speaker 4: Unemployment is at as low, so people can certainly pack
- 24:03Speaker 4: up and go someplace else. So revenge quitting if they're
- 24:06Speaker 4: not getting their needs met, they're out of there. And
- 24:09Speaker 4: so where A lot of times what happens is leaders think,
- 24:12Speaker 4: oh well, if I just throw them more stuff, if
- 24:14Speaker 4: I just you know, have more free snacks available, or
- 24:18Speaker 4: if I you know, throw them a party once in
- 24:20Speaker 4: a while, or you know, all those things, or give
- 24:22Speaker 4: them more pay.
- 24:23Speaker 3: All of those are good.
- 24:24Speaker 4: I'm not saying don't do that, but I am saying
- 24:26Speaker 4: that what people really.
- 24:28Speaker 3: Want is they want your attention, leaders.
- 24:31Speaker 4: They want your time, they want your energy, they want
- 24:33Speaker 4: your constructive feedback, they want.
- 24:35Speaker 3: Your challenge, they want they want you. That's really what
- 24:38Speaker 3: they want.
- 24:39Speaker 4: And so we as leaders sometimes are so busy running
- 24:42Speaker 4: around like our hairs on fire that we forget job
- 24:45Speaker 4: number one.
- 24:46Speaker 3: And job number one is to be a developer of people.
- 24:50Speaker 4: That's the job, right, And so that's where how you
- 24:54Speaker 4: can minimize your revenge quitters, if you will, or even
- 24:57Speaker 4: the quiet acquitters, right, the ones who haven't actually quit yet,
- 25:00Speaker 4: but they're doing minimum work, so they're like one foot
- 25:03Speaker 4: out the door as it is. How you minimize all
- 25:06Speaker 4: that is you really get to know people for who
- 25:09Speaker 4: they are, right, You've got to meet them where they're at.
- 25:11Speaker 4: And so again I go back to the ask list
- 25:14Speaker 4: and learn, and then you take action.
- 25:16Speaker 3: And in my book, as you've read it, I tell
- 25:18Speaker 3: a lot of stories that you know and.
- 25:20Speaker 4: I actually and I also approach some of the things
- 25:23Speaker 4: that we don't want to talk about.
- 25:24Speaker 1: Right.
- 25:25Speaker 3: So there's the tough conversations.
- 25:27Speaker 4: But on the flip side, you know what's been really
- 25:29Speaker 4: getting a lot of traction Rashan is I also talk
- 25:32Speaker 4: about when leaders have somebody on their team that they
- 25:37Speaker 4: don't actually like, right, because we always talk about employees
- 25:41Speaker 4: not like in the leader, but we don't talk about
- 25:42Speaker 4: leaders not liking an employee. And so I go there
- 25:45Speaker 4: in that conversation. I know it's a taboo conversation, but
- 25:48Speaker 4: it's one that needs to be discussed. And I give
- 25:50Speaker 4: my own example on how I failed at that miserably
- 25:54Speaker 4: with a particular person, and then what I needed to
- 25:57Speaker 4: do and what I did do to get that relationship
- 26:00Speaker 4: ship back on track, because that wasn't her responsibility, that
- 26:03Speaker 4: was my responsibility. I'm the leader, right So anyways, I
- 26:08Speaker 4: grew you a long answer about that, but right now, and.
- 26:11Speaker 2: I always tell people this, Stephanie, is that I tell
- 26:14Speaker 2: people all the time, ninety percent of the money you
- 26:16Speaker 2: make will be with people you don't like, a people
- 26:18Speaker 2: you don't care to be around ninety percent of the time.
- 26:22Speaker 2: That's the nature of the business. This business is not
- 26:24Speaker 2: and life is not about that. Knife is about your family,
- 26:27Speaker 2: your friends, and that's a very small circle when you
- 26:30Speaker 2: compare it to the other one hundred percent of that pie.
- 26:34Speaker 2: And when you were you, when you talk about leading
- 26:36Speaker 2: people who are not like you, let's use the word respect.
- 26:40Speaker 2: You're an African woman, and I love listening to you talk.
- 26:44Speaker 2: You know, you talk about you know, forty years ago
- 26:46Speaker 2: when I was a Logan airport with nobody out there
- 26:48Speaker 2: like me, a female African American. Look here, when they
- 26:52Speaker 2: made Top Gun to Move with Tom Cruise, it wasn't
- 26:54Speaker 2: a female pilot. Okay, the new version had a female pilot.
- 26:58Speaker 2: Change happened own the way the word respect in your business,
- 27:02Speaker 2: because that's what it is about. When you talking about
- 27:04Speaker 2: leading people who are not like you, it comes down
- 27:07Speaker 2: to respect. Stephanie and I want to make sure people
- 27:10Speaker 2: understand and do not undervalue the important of respect. I'll
- 27:14Speaker 2: call it the two rs, respect and relationship. As we
- 27:17Speaker 2: close out this interview, tell us about that yes.
- 27:20Speaker 3: Yes, that's so good. That's so good.
- 27:23Speaker 4: That is the key, because if you go into a
- 27:26Speaker 4: conversation with someone that you don't know anything about, the
- 27:29Speaker 4: goal isn't to go in with your preconceived notions, right,
- 27:33Speaker 4: or what you've believed about that particular group of people
- 27:36Speaker 4: or that particular gender or what have you. True allyship
- 27:40Speaker 4: is I'm going to go in and be completely transparent
- 27:43Speaker 4: that I don't know anything right, and so therefore I'm
- 27:47Speaker 4: going to ask those questions. I think what tends to
- 27:49Speaker 4: happen with people, and especially you know the way that
- 27:52Speaker 4: society is all about canceling of you. If you make
- 27:55Speaker 4: a mistake or you have a little misstep. I want
- 27:58Speaker 4: leaders to know that when you're literally applying ally leadership
- 28:02Speaker 4: and you're trying to ask and listen and learn and
- 28:05Speaker 4: take action, you're going to make mistakes. And so we
- 28:08Speaker 4: as society need to start giving people more grace and
- 28:11Speaker 4: stop canceling them when they make one little mistake. Nobody's perfect,
- 28:15Speaker 4: but what I find is people are much more forgiving
- 28:19Speaker 4: if they know that you're coming in with an attitude
- 28:21Speaker 4: of trying to learn, versus if you say the wrong thing,
- 28:26Speaker 4: they're less likely to cancel you because they bother you.
- 28:29Speaker 4: They don't want you to not say anything right like
- 28:31Speaker 4: they're not talking to them at all. And so it's
- 28:33Speaker 4: really important that we do a give and take. We're
- 28:36Speaker 4: we just have to do better as society. So with
- 28:39Speaker 4: that said, the biggest thing is respect because when you
- 28:43Speaker 4: think about if you're not like me and I know
- 28:46Speaker 4: nothing about you, then I'm going to come.
- 28:48Speaker 3: In asking you basic questions.
- 28:50Speaker 4: And that's okay because people can tell I always tell
- 28:53Speaker 4: people this is a head and heart issue.
- 28:56Speaker 3: A lot of times we.
- 28:57Speaker 4: Just have approached it from a more of a head
- 28:59Speaker 4: ish you, but it's head and heart, which is really
- 29:02Speaker 4: what respect is, right.
- 29:03Speaker 3: I want to understand you.
- 29:05Speaker 4: There's the logical part, But then I also really need
- 29:07Speaker 4: to be empathetic and understand that I don't know your life.
- 29:11Speaker 4: I have probably didn't have the same type of life.
- 29:13Speaker 4: Big experience doesn't make us good or bad, or one
- 29:17Speaker 4: more important than the other. None of that stuff actually matters.
- 29:20Speaker 4: What matters is how do I make sure that I
- 29:23Speaker 4: understand enough about you, especially if I'm the leader, that
- 29:26Speaker 4: I can know where I can actually add some value, right,
- 29:30Speaker 4: and I can take some action to help you and
- 29:33Speaker 4: your career, your journey, you know, your your goals, et cetera.
- 29:37Speaker 3: That's really what it's all about.
- 29:38Speaker 4: When I think about the workplace and I think about
- 29:41Speaker 4: dynamic teams, and I think about those leaders that are really,
- 29:44Speaker 4: really really good, awesome leaders, is that they appreciate the
- 29:47Speaker 4: fact that, Okay, everybody in my team may be different.
- 29:50Speaker 3: That's actually that's sign number one.
- 29:51Speaker 4: If you a leader and your team looks and acts
- 29:53Speaker 4: and things like you, and that's not good. Right, So
- 29:57Speaker 4: you need to have a diverse team, and not diverse
- 30:00Speaker 4: in gender or race or you know, ethnic groups, but
- 30:03Speaker 4: diverse in thought process and communications style. I mean, you
- 30:06Speaker 4: want a team that knows how to win. And the
- 30:08Speaker 4: only way that you're going to get the most productive
- 30:11Speaker 4: team based on the research, is that everybody's at the
- 30:14Speaker 4: table with a different upbringing and perspective and expectations and
- 30:19Speaker 4: they think differently. That's when you get the best of
- 30:21Speaker 4: the best of the best, so that you can accomplish
- 30:24Speaker 4: your goals.
- 30:25Speaker 3: Right.
- 30:26Speaker 4: So, really all that comes down to respect, because I
- 30:29Speaker 4: have to be able to hear if we always listen.
- 30:32Speaker 4: In business, we talk a lot about how important it
- 30:34Speaker 4: is to have a diverse team.
- 30:35Speaker 3: What we don't talk about is how hard.
- 30:37Speaker 4: It is to lead a diverse team because everybody is different, right,
- 30:41Speaker 4: So real leaders know how to lead a diverse team
- 30:45Speaker 4: and then draw out the best in every single person
- 30:47Speaker 4: because together you're you know, I would say if you
- 30:49Speaker 4: had a team and like let's say a sports team,
- 30:52Speaker 4: if the sports team a basketball team and everybody was
- 30:55Speaker 4: a forward, the team would never win, right, So you
- 30:58Speaker 4: have to have diversity on the team. That's true in sports,
- 31:01Speaker 4: it's true in business. So as leaders, we want to
- 31:03Speaker 4: figure out how do we diversify that team, and once
- 31:06Speaker 4: we do that, then we've got to make sure we
- 31:07Speaker 4: play people in the right position based on their talents,
- 31:10Speaker 4: their gifts, etc. All of that comes down from the
- 31:13Speaker 4: root of trust and respect. Right, I have to be
- 31:17Speaker 4: able to trust you with the position I'm getting ready
- 31:19Speaker 4: to put you in. But I also have to be
- 31:20Speaker 4: able to respect that you're different than me and maybe
- 31:23Speaker 4: somebody else on the team, and that's a good thing
- 31:26Speaker 4: and that's okay. So and going back to your relationship part,
- 31:32Speaker 4: how I actually can start to maneuver the relationship in
- 31:35Speaker 4: a good way so everybody wins is I have to
- 31:38Speaker 4: be able to ask, list and learn and then.
- 31:40Speaker 3: Take some action.
- 31:41Speaker 4: And taking that action could be making sure that I'm
- 31:43Speaker 4: playing the right people in the right position so the
- 31:45Speaker 4: team wins.
- 31:46Speaker 3: That's important.
- 31:47Speaker 4: But also that I'm earning your respect because I'm earning it,
- 31:51Speaker 4: not because I deserve it because of my title. I'm
- 31:54Speaker 4: earning it because you actually have seen my heart that
- 31:57Speaker 4: I really do want to figure out and learn as
- 32:00Speaker 4: much about you as I possibly can so that I
- 32:02Speaker 4: can play you in the right position to set you
- 32:05Speaker 4: up to win, because if you win, I also win.
- 32:08Speaker 4: I'm the leader, right, my job is to make sure
- 32:11Speaker 4: that the company wins, and I do that by making
- 32:14Speaker 4: sure that you win first.
- 32:17Speaker 1: Her book is a great read.
- 32:18Speaker 2: Ally Leadership How to Lead People who are not like You,
- 32:22Speaker 2: Stephanie Chong, thank you for coming on Money Making Conversation Masterclass.
- 32:26Speaker 3: Thanks for having me. This was fun. Thanks so much.
- 32:28Speaker 1: Thank you.
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