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💆🏼‍♀️Self-Care Series: Protecting your energy and your peace ✌🏼 · ✨️Aligned and Thriving: For Teachers🌿

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  Hello everyone, and welcome back to another episode of Aligned
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  and Thriving for Teachers. I would like to remind you that
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  Nyla is always the star of the show.
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  So if you hear the small little dog barking in the background,
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  that's who that is because she's just helping out as always.
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  But this one is a great episode and it is close to my heart.
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  And I have a feeling that you will probably agree with me and
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  it will be a really valuable time for us to talk with each
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  other. So I just want you to imagine
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  that we are having a normal conversation as always across
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  the table. We could be having coffee, we
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  could be going for a walk, whatever it looks like to you.
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  But let's just have a chat. So this one is about your
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  energetic boundaries, not just physical ones.
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  I mean, those invisible lines that protect your peace, your
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  energy, your nervous system, your mindset and your you Ness.
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  I was trying to find a word, but I couldn't really think of one.
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  It's like, what makes you you? Yeah.
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  I hope that makes sense. I want you to know something
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  from the start though, And I've talked about this in another
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  episode, but setting boundaries is not selfish.
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  It is self respect. Honestly, it is self love in
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  action. And if you're like me, who is
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  someone who works on manifesting, working on their
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  mindset and creating a life that just feels good inside and out,
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  this one really will matter to you.
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  Because here's the thing, when you're a teacher or a mom, a
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  partner, a friend, a daughter, a sister, whatever you are, you
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  are pulled in so many directions.
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  Everyone wants something from you, whether it's your time,
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  your energy, your brain, your smile, your problem solving
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  superpowers. And if you're not careful,
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  you'll be running on empty without even realising you never
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  filled your own cup up. And what have I said before?
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  You can't pour from an empty cup.
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  It is a classic quote, but it is so real and I will keep banging
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  on my drum about it. When I started being more
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  intentional about my energetic boundaries, everything changed.
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  I stopped saying yes when I meant no.
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  I started protecting my mornings.
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  I made time for meditation and journaling, even if it was just
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  5 minutes before school or with my coffee in the car that I get
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  on the way to work. Setting boundaries isn't just
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  saying no to others though. It's saying yes to yourself.
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  It is choosing not to engage in staff room gossip.
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  It is leaving school without the guilt when you're contracted
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  hours are done. It's closing your laptop without
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  feeling like you're a bad teacher and to reminding
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  yourself I am not available for burnout anymore.
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  Now this work ties into everything I talk about.
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  Yourself worth, self care, manifesting your mindset and
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  just all around personal growth. If you want to attract a calmer,
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  more balanced life, you need to become the kind of person who
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  honours that energy. Now, how you show up for
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  yourself teaches others how to treat you.
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  That one, I hope, hits you hard. How you show up for yourself
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  teaches others how to treat you. So that means if you are not
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  showing up for yourself and you are not putting yourself first,
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  then others will not put you first either.
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  You literally give and you'll get back what you're giving.
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  It's it's that whole theory. So I want to give you some
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  simple but powerful ways that you can begin to protect your
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  peace. So let's start from the top #1
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  you are going to ground yourself daily.
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  Even if it is just one minute of deep breathing before you enter
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  your classroom, it can completely shift your energy.
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  I want you to visualise a bubble around your body filled with a
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  golden light that is your boundary.
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  Nothing gets inside it unless you allow it #2 want you to
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  journal your energy leaks Now this is what I'm talking about
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  when I'm saying your energy leaks.
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  Like who or what do you think is draining you is taking up all
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  your time and all of your effort?
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  What feels heavy in your day? What would it look like to
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  lovingly put a boundary in that space?
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  So if you are writing down and recording what that is, you can
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  start thinking about how can I protect myself from these things
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  #3 create energetic routines. This is how you get your vibe
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  back. You could shake it off.
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  So shake off the day with a walk, a dance, or even just a
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  shower. Like let water wash away your
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  day. You could, if you're a little
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  bit woo woo, smudge your classroom or your home if that's
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  your vibe. That's like the say stick and
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  things like that. But Oh my gosh, I'm telling you
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  to do that in a school. Probably don't because you'd
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  probably set the smoke alarm off and that won't go down well.
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  But like cleansing your classroom, things like that, I
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  mean like using maybe essential oils in that space or music or
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  whatever feels really grounding to bring that calm and peace
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  into that space. Maybe that was more practical, I
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  should say #4 practise mirror work and affirmations.
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  Now this, I've given you lots of examples of affirmations, lots
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  and lots and lots. But you are going to go again
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  into the awkward position of looking at yourself in the
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  mirror and saying I protect my energy and peace with love and
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  confidence. OK, it is safe to rest.
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  I am allowed to choose myself. You might have your own
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  affirmations. If you have journaled about what
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  is taking your energy, you could type that into chat GTP and ask
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  it to help you to create some affirmations to help you release
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  some of those things and create a sense of peace that will help
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  you to guide you down that space or down that direction I should
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  say. And then the fifth one is decide
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  where your energy will go. So this is all a process of
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  manifesting, but it's not just like a vision board or
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  journaling, it's actually energy management.
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  Everything is energy. Who you are being in your day.
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  Are you acting for your future self or are you still acting
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  from that burnout mentality? Because you need to be acting in
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  the sense that you are a peaceful human and you are
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  protecting your peace and your energy.
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  So you need to be thinking about how you're doing that, and
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  that's what those affirmations are there for.
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  Now, if you're thinking about those five things that you can
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  do, I want you to also now I'm going to give you some
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  reflection. So some journal points that you
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  can write about to help guide you as well.
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  So the first one, what boundary would change everything for me
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  right now? Where am I giving too much of
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  myself and why? What does protecting my peace
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  look like in a practical real life action?
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  Where am I confusing guilt with responsibility?
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  That's a really good one because I think that's where a lot of us
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  get stuck. We feel like we get guilted into
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  something when it's actually not your responsibility and you need
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  to learn how you can get away from that feeling.
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  OK, and I want to leave you with this challenge.
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  This is like my call to action for you.
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  I want you to choose one boundary to set this week.
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  Just one. Maybe it is.
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  I'm going to leave school on time once this week.
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  If that's you, maybe it's I'm going to say no to a task that
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  is not mine. It is not my responsibility.
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  So I'm going to say no because I don't need to add it to my load.
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  Maybe it's making time for meditation or journaling a few
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  times this week. Whatever it is, I want you to
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  pick one and claim it. I want you to say it out loud.
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  This week I am protecting my piece by and then answer
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  whatever it is it might be. So for me, this week, I'm
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  protecting my piece by journaling every morning.
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  OK, I usually do it overnight, but I might start doing it in
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  the morning just to get some stuff out of my head.
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  Maybe do a little bit brain dump.
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  And if you need support or accountability or a space to
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  celebrate those shifts, you can come and find me on Instagram or
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  wherever we connect. Let's start normalising
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  boundaries, especially in our profession because they've been
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  ignored far too long and it's just getting really hard to
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  enforce them. You are allowed to be a teacher
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  and have a life, OK? You actually don't live at
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  school and you don't live under your desk like lots of kids used
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  to believe that I did, especially when I was a prep
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  teacher. Especially when I rode my bike
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  to school, I should say, because when my bike was in my office
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  then they really did think I lived at school because they
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  never saw me get there and they never saw me leave and my bike
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  was there, so therefore I must live there.
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  No, sorry children, but that can be the perception of some.
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  You are not a robot, OK? You are a full, radiant,
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  powerful human being. How many times do I have to tell
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  you you are a human being first, OK.
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  And your energy, that is your most sacred resource.
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  You need to protect it fiercely without the guilt, because it's
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  yours now. I've given a bit of a summary on
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  this as well for you to refer back to on my Instagram.
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  So if you want to or need some reminders of what we talked
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  about today, please go back to that post and you'll see all the
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  information sort of there in dot points to remind you of what we
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  talked about and what you need to go and focus on.
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  So choose something that you are going to implement.
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  You could use those five strategies to start doing go off
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  and do them. Put it into practise and let me
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  know how you go. So until next time, stay
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  aligned, keep thriving and have the best day or night wherever
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  you're up to. Nyla has just arrived in the
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  building, she is saying hello. So it is time for me to go and
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  until next time, I will talk to you again soon.
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  Bye, guys.