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💆🏼‍♀️Self-Care Series: Act As If 🎬 · ✨️Aligned and Thriving: For Teachers🌿

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  Hey guys, welcome to another episode of Aligned and Thriving
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  for Teachers. I'm really excited for this one.
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  It took me a little while to sort of get my thoughts
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  together, but I think this is going to be a good one.
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  And I'm I have really high hopes.
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  And if you listen to my last podcast, that was about having
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  hope. So I have a lot of hope and
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  faith in myself here that I can do this justice, but I just
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  think it's something that is really good to talk about.
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  So let's settle into that comfy spot.
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  Or if you're on a walk, keep me playing in your ears because you
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  love the sound of my voice. I'm just beaming with confidence
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  right now. But this is pure gold.
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  So this episode is talking about acting as if and how it all ties
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  into manifesting through the law of attraction.
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  But I just want you to imagine that This Is Us chatting over a
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  coffee 'cause this is real. This is real talk.
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  So acting as if and the law of attraction when we act as if
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  we're not just playing make believe.
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  OK, It's not like your little Kitty playing games.
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  We're actually aligning with the frequency of our future selves.
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  The virgin, the virgin. Oh my gosh, the version.
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  Oh, I can't talk sometimes. Forgive me.
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  Now that's just gonna resonate in your head.
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  See, if we were talking over coffee like we should be, then
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  that would be just a little laughable moment.
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  So rewind and we'll go back. But this is about the version of
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  us that already has what we want, and it's pretty amazing.
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  Jordana Levine, our Levin, I apologise if I don't say her
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  name right, but this is teacher life.
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  We never get everyone's names right.
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  But she puts it so well. That manifestation is
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  essentially about taking ownership of your future.
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  Things are not happening to you, you are making them happen.
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  This is the whole idea of the life of your dreams, like life
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  happens for you, it doesn't happen to you, it happens for
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  you. And that's exactly what we're
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  acting as, if we're making a conscious choice to step into
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  the ownership of our life right now.
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  There's another author I want to quote to, I think her name, how
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  you say it is Roxy Nefusi. And she teaches that our
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  thoughts, emotions, and feelings are all made up of energy and we
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  attract back to us the frequency that we put out.
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  If we alter our thoughts, we can alter, alter our vibration and
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  ultimately our reality. So when you're acting as if and
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  you're using your thoughts, your feelings, and your actions are
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  all aligned with whatever goal you're working towards, you're
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  essentially tuning your energy to attract more of that
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  frequency. And it's pretty cool.
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  My nan years ago, like she would know nothing about this stuff
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  but my nan's secret. So you remember my nan growing
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  up? I've told you.
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  I may have told you about her before, but I thought she had
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  this. Excuse me.
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  Excuse me. I need to clean my throat.
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  I thought she had unshakable confidence.
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  Like, to me, she was one of the most confident women I had ever
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  met or known. But it turns out she was
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  literally just acting as if deep down she was utterly scared.
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  But she would take a deep breath, square shoulders, and
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  would just walk into a room as if she belonged there and as if
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  she knew everyone. They were all her friends.
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  She had nothing to hide. She wasn't shy, she wasn't
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  anything. She would just dominate the
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  room. That is true confidence.
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  There wasn't an absence of nerves, they were there, but she
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  would just move through them. And I like to do what she does
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  and I do it all the time, especially before appeal.
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  I have to tell myself I'm gonna show up like Beyoncé.
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  Even if I feel like I'm shaking, my knees will be shaking, I'll
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  be sweating profusely under my top.
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  Like seriously. And I'm so nervous, but I just
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  show up and I act as if I've got this.
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  Because sometimes you don't realise but you actually do.
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  But I've never had that sort of confidence like I thought I had.
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  But I learnt from my nan and now I know she was just acting as if
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  it's a whole thing. And then you get this idea of 10
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  seconds of courage. It all starts with 10 seconds of
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  insane courage. That little spark that just gets
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  the magic flowing. A friend of mine posted as if
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  she had thousands of followers before anyone even knew who she
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  was and they just came and now she has thousands of followers.
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  If you're trying to land a new job, you just act like you
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  belong and within a week you probably do.
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  That's the thing. Like I walk into a new role and
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  I act like I know what I'm doing and eventually I actually do.
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  Don't give everyone my secrets though.
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  If you're walking into a gym class, oh, which I've done many
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  times before and you really pretend like you've got this,
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  but by the end you're probably in utter pain and agony, but
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  you've smashed it and you feel like you're a pro.
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  It's those mini little acting as if moments to help shift your
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  vibration and open opportunities.
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  So, and, and this is the thing, like I'm talking about my
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  grandparents a lot because you can learn a lot from people who
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  have lived an amazing life. My Alma was another one of those
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  people. I've got some really amazing
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  women in my life. Guys like if we're talking over
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  coffee, my nan was an absolute legend.
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  My Alma was true. And my mom, who's still alive
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  and thriving is just as amazing as these two women.
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  But my alma was a big one for 10 Seconds of Courage.
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  She was one who would always say to me, what's the worst that
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  could happen? Just go ask the question.
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  If they say no, who cares? At least you tried or apply for
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  the job. If you don't give it a go,
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  you're not going to know or you're not going to get feedback
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  to do better next time. So why not just go and try the
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  thing and then you'll know for next time?
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  Or at least you could act as if and then you, if you actually
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  get it well done, what are you going to do then?
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  Like hello, onwards and upwards. So I've been brought up with
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  these strong influential people in my life telling me just go
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  and act as if have some courage and get it done.
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  Because eventually life's gonna happen for you and everything's
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  just gonna work out because I've made that conscious effort to
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  move and shift my vibration and it opens up all of those
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  opportunities. So your and I know some people
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  might not believe in the whole manifesting thing, but you are
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  doing it every day without even naming it up for yourself.
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  If you are a person who's driving around and going I want
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  a car park and it's going to be right there and you drive around
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  the corner and there it is, congratulations, you've just
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  manifested your car park. If you walk in with your Lotto
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  ticket in your hand and go, yeah, this has got some money on
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  it and you hand it to the lady and it has 5 bucks, guess what,
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  You're abundant. You've just manifested.
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  Congratulations. It is all those little things
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  that all add up and so you are basically practising
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  manifestation and you are doing it if you're acting as if.
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  So how do you do that? Well #1 visualise and embody
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  your future self today. You need to act like them, dress
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  like them, speak like them. Now I'm not saying go and if you
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  wanted to be a certain type of person, go and throw everything
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  out of your wardrobe. Buy a whole new wardrobe and do
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  this, that and the other. No, just start with little
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  things, little things that are future.
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  So if I'm talking about me, future male's going to wear
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  those tights. So I might save up and buy those
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  tights because future male is going to wear them because they
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  are going to be better quality, they're going to last longer,
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  they're going to be more comfortable.
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  I can do so much more in them. You might do something like
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  that, or it might be that you just act like, oh, future male's
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  really confident. So I'm just going to start
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  pretending and acting as if I'm really confident.
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  So you do that #2 align your thoughts and your feelings with
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  what you want. So I'm going to quote Roxy
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  again. And like she says, your thoughts
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  create vibration and the vibration creates reality.
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  Now, I've read lots and lots of books.
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  I'm an avid reader. I may be an avid reader, slash
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  listener, you know, Audible, like listen to your books,
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  listen to a podcast, read. I have lots of books, but the
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  one I'm quoting is called Manifest and it's 7 Steps to
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  Living Your Best Life by Roxy Nefusi.
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  I think that's how you say it and it's just really super
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  simple. The same as the one by Jordana
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  is called Make It Happen. It's all these little things
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  that all add up that you're probably already doing, you just
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  didn't realise and it starts to become your reality.
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  So you're making all these things happen #3 speak
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  ownership. As Jordana advises.
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  These things are not happening to you, you are making them
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  happen. So I want you to tell yourself
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  life happens for me and it's going to happen #4 feel it now,
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  say it now. Change your gratitude, your
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  discussion around your good things as if the good is already
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  here. Like I'm so thankful for and OK,
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  if you're going to quote me, I would really like to have our
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  deck built for summer. So I'm so thankful for our
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  beautiful deck. It's so nice being able to sit
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  out there and relax in the beautiful summer sunset.
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  Just little things like that. And you start to visualise that
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  it's happening because you know it's going to get there.
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  And then #5 take action. Even messy action like
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  manifestation is intention plus action.
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  It's just those little things that you might do.
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  It's aligned actions, I'd like to call them because they're
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  aligning with your goals. So if you have like a really big
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  goal that you're trying to achieve, maybe it's like you're
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  saving up for something. Your aligned actions might be
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  you create yourself a savings plan and you start working
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  towards that because manifestation is not what you
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  think. Like click your fingers and you
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  get it. No, you actually have to put in
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  some work. You need to start aligning
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  yourself with that. So you're matching that
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  vibration. OK, does that.
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  I hope that all of that makes sense because I'm quoting like a
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  lot of things all in once, all in one, because that's what I've
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  been learning about and doing lots of research around to make
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  it really simple for you to follow.
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  But that's what it is. It's all about acting as if, and
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  I didn't know that I was actually doing it until I
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  started reading about all these different strategies and going,
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  oh, that's what I was doing or that's what Nan was doing.
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  I know that now. And it's just amazing.
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  So then you have this idea of affirmations and talking about
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  the stuff that you have within you to act as if.
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  So I'll give you some to help you help guide you in the right
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  direction. But here are some really easy
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  affirmations that you could be telling yourself.
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  And the best thing to do with these is to literally look
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  yourself in the face in the mirror or on your phone and say
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  them to yourself. It's really confronting if you
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  haven't done that before, but they are really good for that.
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  So you're looking at yourself in the mirror and you're saying I
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  already have everything I need inside me.
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  I walk into every room like the person I'm becoming because I am
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  her or I am them. I trust myself and I trust the
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  magic of this process. I am grateful for the blessings
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  already on their way. Every choice I make today
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  reflects the future I'm creating.
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  So as I said, there's some really good ones to help focus
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  on the acting as if, and you can add in whatever affirmations you
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  want. Maybe it's related to your
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  class, and you can say something about the way you want to walk
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  into that room, the way you want to hold that space, what type of
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  a teacher you want to be, all of those things.
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  Then you can maybe journal some journal prompts that you could
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  write about to help get it out. So which qualities or actions
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  does your future self naturally embody?
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  So you've got to paint that picture of what you want future
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  self to look like, be like, act like.
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  What is that all about? Where could you give yourself 10
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  seconds of courage today? It might be really simple.
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  It might be making that phone call that you've been putting
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  off and putting off because you really just don't want to do it.
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  Third one, how can you speak and act as if the life you want is
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  already yours? You write that down.
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  What thoughts, feelings or actions might need shifting to
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  help raise your vibration? Can you recall a moment that you
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  acted as if in the past and what opened up for you afterwards?
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  As I said to you before, like I pretty much act as if every time
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  I'm doing a professional learning.
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  Probably when I started doing these podcasts, I was acting as
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  if I was an amazing podcaster. You never know, one day I might
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  be, but at this point, I just like that.
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  This feels like a conversation between friends, between you.
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  You teach a bestie. Really, that's what I want it to
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  be. I just want it to be real.
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  And so I'm acting as if I'm already that person, and that's
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  what I'm wanting you to be able to do too.
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  So whenever you feel that doubt just creeping in, just remember
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  you don't need to feel ready. You can just act as if you can
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  take the deep breath, summon your confidence just as Nan
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  taught me to do, and start living like what you want has
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  already arrived. Because you can do this.
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  You've got this. I've told you so many times
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  before that you've got this. I mean, seriously, every
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  beginning teacher has probably had to act as if they've got
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  this nearly every day that they turn up to teach.
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  I know I was acting as if probably my whole first year of
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  teaching because when I was released from university, I
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  thought I knew everything until I was in front of a class and
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  went, Oh my gosh, now they're all mine.
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  What am I supposed to do? You have to act as if the same
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  as you have to do that in front of the parents that might be
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  watching you. You are acting as if so you can
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  do this because when you align your energy and you embody your
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  future self and show the universe that you're ready,
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  you're going to manifest the person that you're becoming or
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  the person that you want to be. So who do you want to be?
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  What type of a teacher do you want to be?
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  Who is your future self? What are they?
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  What are they doing? What is it that they want?
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  You need to go and take some time to think about that and jot
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  those things down so you can refer back to them.
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  It's so cool when you have a journal that you can refer back
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  to or a diary, whatever it might be, and go back to it like a
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  year later and go, Oh my gosh, all that stuff has happened.
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  I can't believe that. If you haven't got a vision
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  board or something like that. I mean, I know I do, obviously
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  on my vision board, I have that for like the year and then next
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  year I'll look at it and go, Oh my gosh, I've actually done all
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  those things because sometimes I just, it sits in the back of my
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  mind and then I'm like, oh, wow, we did all these things.
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  That's amazing. Or it may not happen in the way
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  that you think it was going to happen.
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  And it happens an even better way because the universe is just
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  like rewarding you and whatever you might believe in.
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  So there's got to be an, I'm a strong believer that there is
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  something else. So whether it is you have faith
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  in God or the universe or just whatever it may be, that's what
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  we're playing into. That whole idea that you are
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  acting as if and it is going to come.
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  It is going to happen. Even if all you get from this
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  little conversation that we've had that you're imagining that
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  we're having a coffee together and we're just talking.
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  If all you got out of this is to have 10 seconds of courage and
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  just pretend like you've got it, then that's what I want for you.
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  Because you don't know what's gonna happen when you start
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  doing that. Just start taking those deep
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  breaths and take the 10 seconds of courage.
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  I'll tell you one more little I'll just make you laugh.
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  This is a funny story. It's not really teaching
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  related, but it is like 10 seconds of courage related.
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  So when I met my husband, he actually crashed my own house
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  warming party. He was not invited.
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  He came with a friend who was invited.
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  But anyway, Long story short, he had 10 seconds of courage to
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  basically get the nerve to come and talk to me and the world's
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  absolute greatest pick up line. And I know he doesn't listen to
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  this podcast, but you I will share is that he sort of, he got
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  his phone out and he goes, oh, no, my phone's got a problem.
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  I said, oh, what's that? And he goes, it doesn't have
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  your number in it. Yes, I fell for that because
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  that was 10 seconds of courage. He had 10 seconds of courage.
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  He committed to it. He did it well.
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  And yes, I gave in and gave him my number.
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  Obviously was a conversation that happened after that was
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  like, oh, yeah, because I want to organise a motorbike ride
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  because I rode, I ride. I don't anymore really, but we
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  rode motorbikes and stuff. I just assumed that that's what
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  it was about and that's just how the love story started really.
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  But anyway, it was 10 seconds of courage and that's all it took.
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  He knew what he wanted and he was going to act as if he was
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  going to get it and that's where he went with that.
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  He's a, he's a great manifesto actually, without him even
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  knowing that that's what he's doing.
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  I've named it up with him a few times and said you're actually a
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  really determined human being who goes until you get sort of
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  what you want, what you're aiming towards, what your goals
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  are. You always go until you get
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  there. I thought, yeah, that's just
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  because it's going to happen. We're going to get there.
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  So really good at acting as if. So if I'm going to leave you
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  with that little story now, because this is a conversation
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  that we were just having over a coffee, I hope, or we were on a
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  walk. You might have taken me on a
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  walk. So yeah, I hope you have an
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  amazing rest of your day, evening, whatever time you might
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  be listening. But I want you to remember to go
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  and act as if. And Nyla, of course, the star of
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  the show, has just popped back in to eat a chew on the floor.
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  That was her racing in. So that's her 10 seconds of
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  courage of being brave and entering mummy's space.
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  Anyway, I want you to go out there.
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  I want you to act as if you've got this because you do want you
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  to take some moments of 10 seconds of courage.
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  Go and reflect on those journal questions, go and have a think
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  about what you want your future self to be to do all of those
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  things and go and have the best day, night, whatever it might
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  be. And I will talk to you again
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  next time. Bye, guys.