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Ep. 53 Leadership is shifting - here's what you need to stay relevant · The Pausecast

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  Leadership is Shifting. We can feel it.
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  There is so much change happening now.
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  And today I wanted to take a few minutes and talk about what I
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  call mindfulness 2.0, and maybe it's even 3.0 at this point, not
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  really sure. But we hear this word all the
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  time, right? Mindfulness, mindfulness, Eder
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  being mindful feeling mindful. I feel like it's a very
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  ubiquitous term at this point. Lee saturated and it's kind of
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  lost what it really means. And I think in the traditional
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  sense, what do you think of when you hear mindful leader, right,
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  I want to cite my friend, Mark Thornton who wrote a book called
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  how to meditate in a New York minute a few years ago and he
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  defines mindfulness as being aware of what is going on
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  inside. While noticing what happens on
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  the outside? I think we can all identify with
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  that, right? So, knowing what's going on
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  inside and Be present for that while we are taking in the
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  outside. Usually, with our with our five
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  senses and it doesn't just mean noticing your gurgling stomach,
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  or your tensed up shoulders. You're hunched over full body
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  over the computer, although, that might be true.
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  But it also means noticing what emotions are you feeling, right?
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  And this means being really aware of your emotional state at
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  all times and allowing these Oceans to be present with you.
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  This is what the new part about this is the 3.0, we'll call it.
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  It doesn't mean avoiding them or because you're at work, they
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  don't matter or forgetting about them, or putting the stuffing
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  them under the rug, really, it means actually feeling, maybe it
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  might even be unpleasant uncomfortable or painful, and I
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  know it was, let's all do this to its close, your eyes with me,
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  for a moment, think of a Time. I'm in the last 24 hours being
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  being aware of what you've been doing.
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  When was the last time you took a couple minutes to really just
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  be fully present? And it might be right now.
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  Right? So think of that time it might
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  have been listening to us your favorite song and hearing the
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  words that make you smile or cry.
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  Maybe it was outside getting the mail and feeling the sun on your
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  face. You know, when we have these
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  moments of mindfulness, Knowing, we can just potentially be with
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  ourselves, new things emerged in that time in space, right?
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  And I know, I think of a time when I went outside on my porch
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  in San Francisco and really, just let the moment be there
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  with myself. And then I noticed some sadness
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  creeping in and I just wanted to cry and I didn't know why, but I
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  didn't care. I really just allowed that space
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  and feeling sad. And I knew because I was feeling
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  Is it didn't mean anything else other than I was having this
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  emotion pass over me. I didn't feel shameful and
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  wasn't like, I try to avoid it, right?
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  And that was because I had created this space and I do
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  think that's where leadership is going, where we are available to
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  create this space as the leaders in our domains, whatever that
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  our Industries are who we are is as leaders and Executives but we
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  allow what is going on to be present so that we can do
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  something about it. And I think this is more and
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  more of what we need in the leadership community in bigger
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  companies, smaller companies and everything.
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  So while you might be hearing this term mindful leader, think
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  about it in this new way, I encourage you to kind of think
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  about it, where if it, it actually means not just, being
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  present to yourself, but knowing how you feel and really using
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  that as data. So that you Make the moves and
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  do different things. Make the call, you need to make
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  go with your gut brain in your gut instinct to do something
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  different. But if we lose touch with
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  ourselves, if we aren't taking those times to pause, right Q,
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  my favorite word, then we sit in that fear.
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  Maybe, and that dictates our day, right?
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  Because we didn't, we didn't speak up when we thought we
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  could, or we didn't share in respond.
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  When someone maybe had something to say that we didn't
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  necessarily agree with, it was a conflict or things like that.
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  So, mindful leaders, I truly believe are in touch with their
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  emotions which is not the norm in business, or in the corporate
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  world, right? Think about even 20 years ago,
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  15 years ago, emotional intelligence, didn't even enter
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  our vernacular, until really the mid-90s, when Daniel goleman,
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  who's a guest on our podcast here, he coined this term in A
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  to the business World from economic plate, the economic
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  economists Olivine mayor who had talked about it in 1990, I
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  believe. So, this is all kind of new, I
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  would say, so, how can you be a mindful leader?
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  What is it that you need to do to stay relevant now?
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  And this is the coolest part you guys because we can learn this,
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  that's the nice thing. It we can learn this and this is
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  the number one skill that recruiters are looking for.
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  That is a leadership trait for the most successful leaders of
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  our time and there is no mistake.
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  This is not an accident, right? So what is, what does that mean?
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  What can that look like for you? If you're in this mindful leader
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  3.0 space. So I think the first thing is to
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  be aware of what you're feeling in any given moment and that's
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  really hard. Okay?
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  Because we know we are not always present to be that aware
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  but then the next step of that isn't just to notice it but it's
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  so Allow it to inform you, maybe there's an action, you might
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  take or a choice, you would make if you hadn't.
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  If you had, otherwise may be ignored that you wouldn't have
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  even thought of, right? So if you feel frustrated, let's
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  say something's not going your way or upset about something,
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  it's not about just forgetting about it, and moving on although
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  we do need to do that. I'm not saying that's not
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  realistic, but we do need to deal with it.
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  Otherwise it will come back and be in be a Around in an in one
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  shape or form that may or may not likely help us out.
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  So share your thoughts responsibly is my go-to there.
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  What does that mean? It means maybe talking to
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  someone telling someone, we know when you said X I noticed that
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  blah blah blah blah. This wasn't like what I really
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  thought of this project and I felt frustrated that I had
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  something to share and in actually didn't do it in the
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  moment. I wanted to share it now because
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  it really Keeps coming at me to talk about responsibility.
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  All that means is you're taking responsibility for your thoughts
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  as you say them. So you're not knee-jerk reacting
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  being like, how could you do this?
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  What are you thinking right? Like that's a little more
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  reactivity. That's not necessarily
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  responsible in that way and that's it.
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  Just being aware of what you're feeling is the best way to start
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  that and, and then allowing that to inform you to make your
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  choices in action. Ins then I think with also is
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  really important is speaking with intention as a mindful
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  leader. What does that mean, right?
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  So intention is aliveness with direction.
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  That is the definition from dr. Bob right from the right
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  foundation and your points will be stronger and you are helping
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  others and yourself. Be clearer in when you have that
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  more present experience knowing. Here's what I want to do.
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  This is my intention. If you have a meeting tell
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  Yourself before you walk in the door or maybe click on the video
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  conference. What's my intention for this?
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  How do I want this meeting to go?
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  How do I want to show up and that can make a world of
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  difference, right? You could check in with how you
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  feel, right then and there you can make it a habit that you
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  have a little post it on your desk or maybe in your notebook
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  when you do do join others. This is something that you
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  reflect on, okay? I'm feeling a little, a little
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  nervous so that must mean I don't know what's going to
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  happen, so I I know I need to really just focus on my
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  breathing. Stay on track for what I want to
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  be in my intention and go from there.
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  Right? The idea is that when you shift
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  to speak intentionally, you sound so much more succinct and
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  your authorities, there you are present with yourself
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  emotionally, as you communicate out to the world.
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  What is going on in what you're thinking?
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  When, and I think a bonus for this, by the way, is when you
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  bring in that awareness with your breath and the body, maybe
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  just ask yourself as you breathe.
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  What's my, what's my feeling right now?
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  Okay, then your reorienting and realigning, again with what
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  matters. It's such a great thing to do
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  and maybe that is your intention.
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  I think it all goes hand in hand.
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  So that it is being mindful why we need to be mindful leaders
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  and 3.0 version. It's not just about being
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  present, it's about bringing the emotions into the equation, so
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  that you can act accordingly. Our emotions are everywhere.
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  We feel thousands of times a day in different ways but we may or
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  may not notice them because we're either conditioned not to
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  feel that or don't think about it at work and I think it's time
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  to change that. I think when we bring our Whole
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  selves to work and we are allowed to be okay to feel
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  frustrated and voice it in a safe space that can make a world
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  of difference, right? Then, we're starting to build
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  psychological safety in a way that maybe it didn't exist
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  before and so much more is possible.
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  My book pause, that is really the foundation of creating new
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  habits. I would say, talk to us a lot
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  about this. And it's not just, About pausing
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  being doing nothing and being still, it's about intentionally
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  shifting your behavior in these new ways so that you can emerge
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  as a, as a leader in your own, right?
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  In ways that serve you. Now, that's what being a mindful
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  leader, and being relevant today, personally and
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  professionally in in them personally, and professionally
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  is all about. I hope you enjoyed this message
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  and you can tune in to me every Tuesday for the The latest
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  episode. Don't forget to subscribe and we
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  will see you soon. Bye.