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Committed to Our Covenant Connection Pt 2 | Mishandling Someone Else’s Success | Bishop Rosie O’neal · Koinonia Christian Center

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Who
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liy daddy and everybody
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I want to talk tonight. We're in
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covenant with each other.
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Huh?
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No, we're in covenant. Jesus is our
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representative
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and he and the father cut covenant and
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we are beneficiaries of what was done.
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Which means if Jesus is our
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representative, then we're connected.
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It's one family. Amen. Uhoh.
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That was slow sounding, right? It's one
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family. Amen.
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Yeah. And as we said today on Sunday,
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you have different kinds of
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relationships.
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I said, but it's like being on a plane.
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Yes, sir. If you're on a plane and
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there's trouble, you don't jump out the
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plane. Somebody feet smell like corn
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chips. You just put your mask on, but
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you ain't jumping out the plane over
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there. And if it gets turbulent, they'll
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come on and tell you, "Sit down." We're
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not going to serve soda right now.
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There's some turbulence and they may
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say, "Make sure you fasten your seat
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belt." So, in a relationship that's
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turbulent, I fasten my seat belt. I
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don't jump out the plane. Amen. But if
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the plane is on fire,
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y'all not talking.
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When it becomes toxic,
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then I'm grabbing the parachute. As I
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said in noonday, as I text in as they
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were chopping it up, get your parachute
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and get your hind parts out that plane.
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But we are a family of believers in
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Jesus Christ. Amen. Ain't no star but
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him.
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He said, "And I if I be lifted up that
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he would draw all men to himself." And
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so as we lift him up, I love that he
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raises us up together. Tonight I want to
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talk about one of the
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hindrances to our remaining connected
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long term because you know some folk
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that you can connect for a week.
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Amen. If all your friends are brand new,
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I'm scared of you.
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No. Come on, y'all. Come on. You need
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some long-term things in your life.
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Amen. Okay. And one of the hindrances to
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you and I staying connected long term
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with people is when we mismanage
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somebody else's success.
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Okay. Genesis chapter 4.
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We're going to listen to verses
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3-2 because I think God has some it's
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going it's going to talk to all of us.
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Amen. So, let's listen in. And in
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process of time, it came to pass that
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Cain brought of the fruit of the ground
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an offering unto the Lord. Seemed like
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he'd be doing good. He brought an
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offering. Come on. And Abel, he also
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brought of the first of his flocks,
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right? And of the fat thereof. And the
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Lord had respect unto Abel and to his
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offering. But unto Cain, and to his
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offering he had no respect. And Cain was
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very wroth. Got mad and his countenance
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fell to his face up. And the Lord said
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unto Cain, "Why art thou wroth?" What's
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wrong with you? And why is thy
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countenance fallen? If thou dost well,
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shalt thou not be accepted? Come on. And
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if thou dost not well, sin lith at the
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door. Lies at the door. Come on. and
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unto thee shall be his desire. Okay? And
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thou shalt rule over him. Now, let me do
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this while she's just read that in King
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James. Any other version, King James on
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this particular text did not do a good
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job. NIV, NLT, me, any other amplified
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uh New American, New Revised Standard
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Version, New American. I need you to
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hear how it really is rendered because
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we may misunderstand what it's saying.
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says, "If you do right, of course, you
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will be accepted. But if you refuse to
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do what is right, then you need to watch
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out. Sin is crouching at the door, eager
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to control." You watch this. See,
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because I don't want you to get mixed up
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into thinking this is now the and ruling
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and all that has to do with Cain and
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Abel. Listen, it says, "But you must
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subdue sin and be its master
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because sin desires to control us." But
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you and I have to rule over sin.
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I just need you to make sure that you
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understood that part because in one of
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the rare places King James does not give
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the real heart of that. Okay? So come
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on, keep reading in verse eight. And
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Cain taught with Abel his brother. Oh my
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goodness. And it came to pass when they
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were in the field that Cain rose up
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against Abel his brother and slew him.
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Supposed to be to connect it. Come on.
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And the Lord said unto Cain, "Where is
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Abel thy brother?" Come on. And he said,
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"I know not. Am I my brother's keeper?"
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Look at that. And he said, "What hast
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thou done?" What have you done? The
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voice of thy brother's blood is the
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voice of your brother's what? Blood.
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Come on. Crith unto me from the ground.
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Yep. And now art thou cursed from the
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earth, which hath opened her mouth to
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receive thy brother's blood from thy
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hand. Watch this. When thou tillest the
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ground, it shall not henceforth yield.
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now on you're not going to get the kind
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of yielding you should
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when you work. It will not henceforth
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yield unto thee the strength you should
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get. All
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right, y'all want to go back to
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singing? Let's
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talk. It is natural to live and to look
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at your life and then look at other
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people's lives too. Let's go on and
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admit that that we have a tendency to
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kind, you know, we try not to be in
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other folks business.
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Amen. But it don't always flow that
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easily, does it? Because, you know,
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let's say if you believe in God to get
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married, all you need is for one more
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person to send you an invitation. That
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thing almost cares you over the edge,
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doesn't it? Okay, y'all. You You being
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fake tonight. You got right out the
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presence of God and ain't going to tell
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the truth.
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Or if you if you have been if you are
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working on something and it does not
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seem like it's yielding anything to you
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and then you talk to somebody else and
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act like everything just handed to them.
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Okay. And and what we find is comparison
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to a degree is natural.
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Okay. Just going through your lesson
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rows. Don't try to worry about it. But
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there are good and bad ways to compare.
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There are good and bad ways to compare
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y'all. When comparison is done in the
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wrong way,
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okay? When it is done in the wrong way,
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it is going to cause problems and the
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kind of emotions that you will
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experience if you mismanage them, they
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will turn your heart dark and you will
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disconnect from the body God put you in.
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And I'm not talking about church. I'm
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talking about Jesus himself.
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We are looking at one of the very first
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stories to really open our eyes about
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our nature. You know the story. Cain and
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Abel come and they both bring a
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sacrifice.
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Now, here's the thing. God answers
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visibly for one of them.
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That's hard right by itself. So Abel
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brings his sacrifice, Cain brings his.
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Now make note of this, Re Marshall.
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Notice that when you read it, it said
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Cain brought of the fruit of the ground.
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Abel did the same thing. He brought of
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the fruit. He brought of the firstling
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of his flock. They both brought out of
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what they had.
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But God answered one or respected one of
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them with some kind of visible sign.
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What kind of what? Visible. I know it
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was visible cuz how would we know? He
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accepted one and didn't accept the
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other.
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Well, if you look in scripture, normally
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the way God showed that he was
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respecting an offering or accepting it
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is he answered by fire.
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So imagine you lay your sacrifice up
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there and she lays hers up there and the
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power of God comes down and consumes
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hers. yours just sitting there.
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Everybody like
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and what's worse, you go.
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That's exactly what happened. Now, I
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want you to watch what Cain
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does. When Cain noticed that God
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answered Abel's sacrif had respect to
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his stuff, blessed
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him. Cain said, "See, that's why I don't
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like stuff now."
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and Cain got mad and he tore his face
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up.
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Now, there are two kinds, at least two
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kinds of comparison that I want to deal
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with with you tonight. You ready to take
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notes? Yeah. Okay. There is the kind
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that brings is like self- torture. Write
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it
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down. Thank you, baby. Cuz y'all I'm
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tell this is I never expected this, but
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I'm all right. Self torture.
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You look You look on fa You look on
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Facebook and they talking about save the
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date and you so mad you
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can't. Right. Those ain't holy tongues,
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right? Or or or you you happen to I was
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listening to um a book and we're talking
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about how this one lady had gotten into
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design. She was a designer and had been
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in it for some years and she was kind of
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just doing her thing or whatever. And
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all of a sudden that she had a neighbor
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that she kind of didn't get along with
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that.
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Well, I know y'all saved. Y'all get
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along with everybody. You just hug and
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kiss everybody. But you know, sometimes
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you meet people and there's something
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about them. They like all the attention
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and they just wear you out to be around
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them.
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And so it wasn't even her favorite
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person. So she's a designer. She's been
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in the business for years. And then this
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other lady who she don't really is not
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her favorite. That's what we'll call it.
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T is not her favorite. She starts a
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divine a design
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company. And she gets on Facebook. She's
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posting every day. She's doing little
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videos. She's doing little snippets.
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She's taking pictures of her house. And
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what made it worse, all the neighborhood
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start posting comments on the other
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lady's page.
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So the woman who been the designer,
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she's she's
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spiraling cuz she's looking up there.
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Those are pictures of her house. She
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didn't even design her own house. And
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everybody thinks she's so talented. And
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she is hot.
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She's so mad. She doesn't know what to
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do because she's comparing. And then she
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did. She went that next step. And I know
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you you don't want to nod, but I'm f to
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come for you.
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Then she started reading the individual
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comments.
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Then she started going to their page.
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She done become a straight up stalker.
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And you see they all of a sudden they in
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a
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relationship and you said cuz have you
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noticed he liked the last seven things
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that they put
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up. So now you going to everybody's
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I know he didn't
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put torture.
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That's torture. And that's what happened
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to Cain when Cain
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recognized that Abel had gotten
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something that he did not get jealousy.
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Envy.
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He got so
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mad that he start tearing his face up.
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And what we have to
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recognize is that if you're not careful,
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that kind of comparison where you look
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at that. See that now? See, that's what
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I'm talking. See, I don't even
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understand that they they don't hardly
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live nothing. No way.
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Okay. Okay.
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See, some of us get into self torture. I
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want you to hear this. Some of us get
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into torture. self torture when we see
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other people begin to prosper because we
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have the faulty belief that someone
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else's success can shortcircuit yours.
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I want to say something to you and I
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want you to hear it and I hope it kind
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of stings in your behind a little
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bit. There's enough love, money,
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happiness, and everything else for
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everybody to have some
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So somebody else watch this being a
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success does not have to mean if just
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because uh if that yo pastor well pastor
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Trev already said uh like we weren't
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made to do life alone so ain't no sense
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of me that honey they got it on t-shirts
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ain't no sense of me coming up with a
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slogan
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some of us somebody write a book on
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something you were thinking
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about ain't no sense of doing it now
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like there ain't but one book on it.
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See, a lot of times we start finding
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ourselves torturing in this self torture
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because we do not believe truly in the
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sovereignty of God. Oh, y'all don't want
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to talk to me tonight. We don't. Let me
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tell you something. We sing it, but we
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don't believe it. I tell that's why I
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don't hardly even like to hear stuff.
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And I, you know, I had to catch myself.
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That's why I went on and got on my knees
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because sometime I start critiquing
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things theologically that don't probably
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don't need all that. They said there's a
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sound that comes down from heaven that
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changes everything. And there is. But my
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mind was saying, "But seem like we're
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talking about praise. So really that
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song should be sound should be going
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up." I said, "I'm doing too much
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thinking. Get on your knees. Just get up
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here and start praising. See, figure
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that out." Right? But if we we sing
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stuff like say stuff what God has for
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me.
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Y'all act like you don't know the answer
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to finish it. It is for me. But then, so
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if that's the case, then why is it when
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somebody gets ahead or seems to do well
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in an arena that we wanted to do well
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in, do we act like now we don't have any
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options?
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I was going to go back and and and get
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my masters in this and that they you
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know what I
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That's torturous.
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That's torturous. And what what it is is
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a byproduct of not really trusting the
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sovereignty of God and by utilizing the
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wrong kind of comparison.
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Because when people are successy, if you
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let someone else's success put you in
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competition mode,
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then you assume their victory is
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blocking you.
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But their victory is not blocking you.
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It's showing you what to do.
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I just found out Pastor Trev said, was
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it yesterday or the day before? I I
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don't do well with days about the
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lawnmower.
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It was yesterday. He told me that he
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went to do a funeral of one of our
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members and somebody was there that said
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when they got out of prison I bought
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them a lawnmower mean pro I could have
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probably did memory is not my strong
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suit so I don't have no recollection of
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it but praise God now he got a
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landscaping business he said cuz I told
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and I do believe that when a lot of
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times you get out of prison you have to
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start a business cuz you may not have a
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quick hiring situation.
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Isn't that now? Wouldn't it have been
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silly for him to say, "What am I
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supposed to do with a lawnmower?"
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You know how many lawnm how many
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landscaping? I'm not saying there's no
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wisdom into understanding the saturation
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of a market. But y'all, this a big
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world. It's 8 billion people out here.
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Everybody grass ain't cut. Y'all not
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talking to me. You're not talking to me.
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See, if I really believe in the
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sovereignty of God, then your success
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does not diminish mine. And see, if I
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trust that God has a plan for my life
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and that there are desires that I have,
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then I can go after that. And watch
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this. If I get out of competition mode,
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instead of going, see, that's honey.
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Well, I guess you probably can get your
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stuff, you know, get fire to fall for
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you cuz uh da da da. If I stop that mess
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and stop comparing myself to the other
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person, that's the wrong kind of
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comparison.
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What's the wrong kind? Comparing myself
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to the other person. What's the wrong
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kind?
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What's wait, Bishop? If comparing myself
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to the other person is the wrong kind,
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what should I do? I should compare my
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strategies to theirs.
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Y'all not here, are you? I'm going just
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keep going. Second Corinthians. Pastor,
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if you act, okay, you seem like you
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enjoy. I'mma do it for you
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cuz second Corinthians. Yeah. You go to
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school. You think you you think your
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outfit some you Oh, I'mma get ready. Oh,
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girl, where you walk before you can even
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get in? Good. There go the shoes and the
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sweater.
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If you're if that is able to take all
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the joy and and happy juice out of you,
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you got some rough days ahead.
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See, I'm going to show you Cain's
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mistakes in here. But look at 2
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Corinthians. Did I give it to you?
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Chapter 10, verse 12. For we dare not
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make ourselves of the number or compare
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ourselves with some that commend
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themselves. We don't want to compare
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ourselves. We don't want to try to be
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trying to be like folk who always talk
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about themselves so proud. Come on. But
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they measuring themselves by themselves.
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They're measuring them.
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Thank y'all. Them what? Self. They're
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measuring the self person by the other
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people comparing
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themselves among the other people to
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them. That's not wise.
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Amen. Amen. If the only way you can have
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joy is if you're the smartest or if you
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have the most, you're not going to have
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it long. Cuz as pretty as you are,
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somebody
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now I'm holding it down up here. But
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there's somebody that looks like me
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without the moles I got.
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Or there's somebody that has eyes. Or
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there's somebody they built a certain
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way, rounded here or straight there,
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whatever.
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You don't compare yourself with others.
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That's self torture.
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What is it? Self torture. Turn and tell
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your neighbor, I'm too smart to do that.
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Yeah. I'm I'm getting out of competition
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mode because they're not blocking your
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way. They're showing you the way. If I
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compare the
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strategy, come on, let's just look at
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it. Then there's a self-eing way.
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There's a comparison that is a self-eing
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way where you say, "Okay, this is what
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this is what Cain should have done.
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Wow. Fire came down for yours. Fire
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didn't come for mine. Hey Doc, what you
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do now? What? How? How you put yours up
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there?
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See, we make enemies of the people who
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could help us.
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Instead of looking at
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him, I was giving it up. I guess I could
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get married,
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too. I just wonder if y'all heard that.
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Y'all
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listening? Instead of starting that
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looking at a c cross side and doing all
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that stuff or testifying, slapping at
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people. You ever seen folk testify and
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try to slap at people at the same time?
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I give an honor to God for I thank God
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for being
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holy. I don't do it and everything. But
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who is this for? Who is this for?
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What are we doing?
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You would do better. Say, "Girl,
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whenever you get out of church, let's go
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get some coffee. Tell me how y'all did."
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And you just make mental notes. Okay.
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Yes, indeed. Okay. So, she never wore
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that bonnet around him. Okay. Okay. I
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got you. What uh what tation told me?
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They say, "Check." Okay. So, yeah. See,
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there's self-eing comparison where I
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look at strategies.
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Okay. where I step back and say, so the
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thing for that lady to have done is to
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step back and say, okay, what has she
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done differently from me
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instead of sitting around and acting
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like the world has done you wrong? And
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one of the things I've always tried to
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share with the boys, which are grown men
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now, and I remember we would have the
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conversation be like, Kardashian, they
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don't do nothing. What have they ever
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done? Right. Okay, got you. I mean, I'm
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not aware prior. I mean, I don't know
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him personally,
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but you know, you can't just all I got
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is little looks and, you know, round it
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out. Okay, there's a whole bunch of
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rounded out poor folk.
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Y'all ain't talking. There's some pretty
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folk that can't rub two nickels
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together.
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It is It
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is It's immature to look up at people
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who have any degree of sustained success
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in an area. and think it came easy
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because by doing that you are robbing
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yourself the opportunity to learn some
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stuff you learn what to do and some
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stuff you learn what not to do and some
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stuff you say now that may be okay for
22:59
you I got a covenant with God I can't do
23:02
that but I can still look to learn your
23:05
strategies
23:07
that's okay you'll appreciate it later
23:12
so Here's the thing. We got to really
23:15
deal with this concept of what happens
23:19
when
23:20
somebody seems to get the attention and
23:23
the respect of God on their
23:27
sacrifice and you don't seem to.
23:31
Let me tell you how deep this thing can
23:32
run. You want how far can we go with it
23:36
for real? Because now it's going to be
23:37
real personal. It's going to be real
23:38
sensitive.
23:40
What do you
23:41
do when
23:43
you make all the same confessions and
23:47
quote all the same scriptures and your
23:50
loved one dies?
23:55
And they over here talking about, "I
23:57
know he's a healer. He healed me."
24:01
See how serious that thing got just that
24:03
fast, wasn't
24:04
it? And this is one of the things we got
24:07
to come to terms with. And I remember
24:08
even down on my knees today while it
24:10
while we were singing. I said, "God,
24:12
there's some situations that I think
24:14
about, some things that are going on."
24:15
And I said, "God, you know, I lovingly
24:18
bow down. I I don't always understand."
24:21
And I bring my worship and my submission
24:24
to your sovereignty and to your
24:26
judgments. Yeah. I don't just bow before
24:29
your love
24:31
because I don't understand how come
24:36
this one's fire fell and got that one
24:38
and raised it up
24:41
and this one didn't.
24:44
I know your nature is the same. But you
24:47
know the other thing that does help
24:49
me with the I'm telling you having them
24:54
boys has taught me a mess of
24:57
stuff because you love your
25:01
children to the same degree but you
25:04
can't treat them the same.
25:08
See, we say God honey, God ain't no
25:10
respector of And he's not
25:12
and I'm not either, but I can't treat
25:14
them the same because they're different.
25:17
Oh, Lord. I don't have no parents in
25:20
here, do Oh, you you know what I'm
25:23
talking about. Some of y'all got
25:24
brothers and sisters. You could tell
25:25
your mama can't hand them $100 and say,
25:27
"Go get the
25:29
grocery." You
25:31
know, they come back, "Hi, Zak. I got
25:34
you some uh some rollups. What you call
25:37
them things you put in the oven? The
25:39
little pizza pop things.
25:42
Who? Hot pot. There you
25:46
go. Well, you know them thing,
25:49
right? Buy can't be the one to get the
25:52
$100. Now, that doesn't mean that they
25:55
don't love that he or she, the parent
25:57
does not love them the same, but she
25:59
cannot treat them the same because they
26:02
have different Y'all ain't talking. See
26:03
this again too. I told you it's going to
26:05
get personal
26:06
because they have different
26:07
proclivities. When you were talking the
26:10
other week, there were someone pastor
26:11
Chris was preaching. Whenever God is
26:13
looking at us and dealing with us, Holy
26:15
Spirit takes into account our past, our
26:18
present, our future and our
26:21
proclivities.
26:23
Proclivity is a tendency. Yeah. So, I
26:27
have to be a little more careful in the
26:29
way I may
26:30
put I don't have to be careful on the
26:33
way I lay out. If I if I get some good
26:36
cabbage cooked, some some
26:39
collards, I can leave them in the
26:41
refrigerator all week at John's house.
26:48
And I can know when I get home every
26:50
day, they're going to be right there.
26:53
But if I leave them at TJ's
26:56
house, day one, I'm coming home, half
27:00
them gone, then he going to say, "Oh,
27:03
these weren't for me."
27:06
So, I may have to do things a little
27:09
differently because I know that y'all
27:11
ain't having church with me. Their
27:13
tendency if I if I have to make a
27:15
decision on who to give money to, like I
27:17
was looking at things for myself on like
27:19
when I when I go to heaven, who would be
27:21
in charge? because I wouldn't want
27:22
Taurus's mind, you know, taken with
27:24
that. Who would be the best? Well, you
27:26
know, Zenobi is my sister. I can't Z
27:29
would the
27:31
pressure of all these people looking at
27:34
her that ain't I might as well shoot her
27:38
myself. But I can say, darling, darling,
27:40
like, hey, this is what's on the paper,
27:42
so this is what we're going to go with.
27:44
And if something happened, darling, then
27:46
Lady Tracy and Terra
27:49
Tracy, I'm sorry, but this is really
27:52
what you know, Bishop. I mean, I mean,
27:54
is everybody already know you ain't
27:56
going to strong arm, huh? And she going
27:58
to be so sweet. Oh gosh, I really
28:01
understand
28:02
that. I got a little terror-ish on the
28:06
end. Are you understanding? So when God
28:09
is dealing with us, a lot of times we
28:12
look up at God and you got to be careful
28:15
that you don't look up at God like God
28:17
is not fair to you because you don't
28:20
understand how your life fits into the
28:23
bigger scheme of eternity. Y'all ain't
28:26
talking to me.
28:28
So there have been times like I remember
28:30
and I tell this story about my
28:31
grandfather, but I remember when I tell
28:33
you I was in complete faith. When I say
28:36
I had no doubt, I'm telling y'all God is
28:40
my witness. I had no doubt that God get
28:42
ready to heal and raise him up after he
28:44
died.
28:46
None. And I went in there. I had already
28:48
imagined the headlines. Granddaughter
28:51
minister raised his grandfather pastor
28:53
from the day. I'd already seen it and I
28:56
wasn't necessarily trying to be
28:57
impressed. I just said imagine it. I was
28:59
like, "Thank you, Jesus, for going in
29:00
here. You read in the Bible. You say we
29:02
lay here. I'm I'm I'm I'm here for it.
29:12
I was
29:14
hot,
29:16
furious. But when I look
29:20
back, if he I call it like the domino,
29:25
if his domino piece had not
29:27
fallen, it never would have tipped me
29:29
into my purpose.
29:32
Watch this. If I hadn't tipped over into
29:34
my purpose, y'all would probably be
29:37
watching the news right about
29:39
now. Wouldn't be no corn be another
29:43
church. And so when I went back to fuss
29:46
at
29:50
God, how come? Cuz then I had to help.
29:53
Of course, you always know one friend
29:54
that had somebody to pray for somebody
29:56
that had already coded been dead five
29:58
minutes. They rose up, lived another
30:00
three years. So, of course, you gonna
30:01
bump into them and hear their story.
30:05
And I'm mad at God. And I'm say, God
30:07
says to me, "What what are we doing
30:09
here? You're fussing because I paid him
30:13
early and positioned you in time."
30:19
See, I don't even have the mentality to
30:22
judge an action of God because I'm only
30:25
seeing from right here. It's not until
30:28
you get elevated. Oh, good God. Preach
30:30
O'Neal. It's not until God raised you up
30:32
to see differently that you can know
30:35
what was good for you in that situation.
30:41
But be a be able in your be be can in
30:43
your mind. Fire fell for them and it
30:47
didn't fall for me. Here's the thing
30:50
that really troubled me. Now, the Bible
30:52
says they both brought of their stuff.
30:54
Is that right? All right. Now, one
30:57
minute. Let me go back to make sure
30:58
you're getting this. There is a kind of
31:00
comparison that is bad and it breeds
31:03
what? Self torture. That's right. And
31:07
there is a kind of comparison that is
31:09
good and it is what? Self teaching.
31:12
Uh-huh. The one compares my life, the
31:15
person who's better. That kind of
31:18
foolishness. The other compares
31:20
strategies.
31:22
I can never learn from a person that
31:24
I've now set up as my enemy.
31:27
Amen.
31:29
So if in my comparison I make you an
31:32
enemy, I've lost your ability to help
31:35
me.
31:37
Okay. Well, let's just keep going. Rose,
31:39
the Bible said they both brought of what
31:41
they had. Is that right? Abel brought of
31:44
the first ones of his flock. Cain
31:46
brought of the fruit. Now, there's a
31:49
little bit more to it, though, because
31:50
Hebrews chapter 11. Turn to your Bible.
31:53
Who has your Bible? I forgot to even do
31:55
the confession. Hurry, get your Bible.
31:57
Get your Bible. Hebrews 11:4
32:01
says that Abel, it was by faith that he
32:06
offered a more excellent sacrif. Y'all
32:08
see it. Read it for me. By faith, Abel,
32:11
check your neighbor. Check your
32:12
neighbor. Somebody didn't even try to
32:14
turn. Check them. This Bible study, we
32:16
you can take time to look for it. All
32:18
right. Okay. By faith, Abel offered unto
32:22
God a more excellent sacrifice than
32:24
Cain. How How did Abel offer his? By
32:26
faith. Now faith comes by. So apparently
32:32
God
32:35
Oh, here it come. Here it come. We
32:38
didn't even receive offering, did we?
32:40
Oh, Lord, that pastor offer going to be
32:42
low like 9 cent. Watch
32:45
this. See, apparently there's more to
32:49
it because he offered it by faith,
32:51
Reverend Rashard. So now here's the
32:54
thing that seems to imply that it was
32:57
made clear what God wanted. And one of
33:01
the reasons we get angry when we see
33:03
someone else's success is because their
33:06
success highlights what we didn't do
33:09
that we knew we should have been doing.
33:18
We knew we sitting
33:20
around. We sitting around fussing,
33:23
child. I see. That's why I don't like
33:26
people now cuz see everybody everybody
33:28
ain't the same. So So let me tell you
33:29
something. Success is still going to be
33:31
about the same basic stuff. Amen. You
33:34
going to have to do the hard work. You
33:35
going to have to do it consistently. And
33:37
that's pretty much all there is to it.
33:39
And you can sit around and get mad. Most
33:41
of the time we're just angry because we
33:43
and we'll say, "I knew I should have so
33:45
and so because I had this is what we do.
33:47
I had meant to um um I because what I
33:52
was going I what happened was I was
33:54
supposed to be getting I remember I oh
33:57
my god I was supposed to talk to
33:59
remember I had called them but they
34:00
ain't never called me back.
34:03
So you're going to make your casual lax
34:06
attitude about what you needed to do
34:10
somebody else's fault.
34:13
Let me tell you something. No,
34:16
when you see somebody successful, look
34:19
at their strategy.
34:21
What did they do?
34:23
And then you don't imitate the person,
34:25
you imitate, you look at the strategy.
34:28
How does this appeal to me? How could I
34:30
work this into my life?
34:33
I was talking the other day. We were
34:34
lifting some weight doing some stuff. I
34:36
was like, "Oh my god, age is taking
34:38
muscle tone so quickly." I just don't
34:40
appreciate it's getting on my nerves.
34:41
And I then I had and and it's almost
34:43
like your phone. I believe them phones
34:45
be listening in on her. Let me tell you
34:47
something. Oh, you better live holy cuz
34:48
I'm telling you, somebody got a video.
34:51
Somebody got a video of this mess. So
34:53
then the phone sends me this thing. This
34:55
woman is 72. She looks like she's 35 and
35:00
she and just a soft. So she took a photo
35:03
shoot for her 72nd birthday. Boy, that
35:05
thing wore me out. And I was sitting I
35:07
said, "Tyl, look at this." And she said,
35:08
"Well, it's just a matter of doing the
35:10
work.
35:16
But at the end of the day, it is.
35:20
There's some things you cannot control.
35:24
But can I tell you most things?
35:27
You can.
35:29
I don't hear my teens. Y'all ain't
35:30
talking. What y'all talking about? I'm
35:32
getting ready to have you come up here
35:33
and re repeat what I said. You better
35:34
have it. All right. So, by faith, Abel
35:37
offered. How'd he do it? By faith. All
35:40
right. Now,
35:42
so that seems to imply that God had made
35:44
clear what he wanted. But Cain didn't
35:48
feel like going through the trouble. He
35:50
could have taken his fruit, traded it in
35:54
for a sacrifice, killed it, and had God
35:57
receive it. But he ain't feel like doing
36:00
all that. Is there anybody could at
36:02
least be honest enough to say how many
36:04
times you have looked back over and
36:06
said, "I just didn't feel like doing all
36:08
that, and that's why I am where I am.
36:12
Now, can I tell you why I love it when
36:14
we can admit that? Because as long as
36:17
you blame others, you have no power.
36:22
Don't ever blame. Push somebody and say,
36:24
"Stop blaming folk." Push them. You're
36:26
giving away your power when you blame.
36:29
Because if you're the reason that I
36:31
can't get it, then I can't do nothing
36:32
till you let me.
36:38
No, I'm not blaming anybody. I am where
36:40
I am at the choices I made. And that's
36:42
good news for me. It's bad that I did
36:44
it, but it's good news because if my
36:46
choices got me where I am, I can make
36:49
different choices.
36:51
Preach.
36:54
Now, write this. Wrong comparisons
36:57
lead to
36:59
wicked conversations and wasted
37:04
conversations. Wrong
37:06
comparison lead to wicked
37:09
conversations and wasted conversations.
37:13
And to be honest in this one, the wasted
37:16
ones are even more
37:18
devastating because when you compare
37:20
yourself and you child, then it leads to
37:24
that kind of stuff where you you sit
37:26
around like Abselon did. You sit around
37:28
and try to sneak in and throw out little
37:31
negatives about people. Y'all ain't
37:34
talking to me. Just I'm going just
37:35
preach it out. Just do what you what you
37:37
will. That's where jealous talk comes
37:39
out.
37:41
She get on my nerves. She thinks she's
37:43
so much. You think she's so much that
37:46
why you talking about
37:48
it? Just I mean, look at her hair. Well,
37:51
go and get you some.
37:56
Come on, y'all. Amen. Wicked. Envy,
37:58
talking
38:01
ugly, throwing off on
38:03
people. That should not be the talk of
38:06
Christians.
38:08
Remember, we are one body. Amen. Death
38:10
and life are in the power of the tongue.
38:13
A fro man soul strife. So it already
38:17
shows something is wrong with me when
38:18
I'm trying to start a mess.
38:23
Man, I got to be careful. You can't let
38:25
this get in your heart. If you start
38:26
getting into that wrong comparison,
38:28
you're going to get into self- torture.
38:30
It's going to eat you up. You're going
38:31
to be stalking folk. You're going to be
38:33
having wicked conversations, man, and
38:36
saying things about people. And the
38:38
challenge is, watch this. If they never
38:41
hear it, it's still out in the
38:43
atmosphere and it will change things.
38:48
They don't know to clap on that with
38:50
trace, but we live long enough. It will
38:52
change things. Wicked conversations, the
38:56
Bible says that kind of stuff, blessings
38:58
and cursings ought not come out the same
39:00
fountain.
39:03
And it is challenging. Burn. I ain't
39:05
lying. It's challenging. If I feel like
39:07
I'm doing what I can do and I'm
39:10
struggling and then they doing what they
39:12
can do and they get another million
39:14
dollar deal,
39:19
but the place to go with that is back in
39:22
the prayer. Okay, God, let me get my
39:24
head together. Okay, so it's not like
39:27
there's a limit on success or a limit on
39:29
money or a limit on opportunity.
39:32
So help me to step back and look and see
39:35
what can I learn from the example.
39:39
It could be could it be that I can set
39:43
up a lunch with them? Tell me how you
39:46
got to where you are
39:48
instead of going all them followers.
39:50
Satan got a lot of followers too.
39:54
Really? Is there is this where we are?
39:57
All right. So it So wrong comparisons
40:00
lead to what y'all? Wicked kind of what?
40:03
Conversation. Lead to what?
40:06
Here's another one. This is the one I
40:08
need to hit. This is what gets me,
40:10
Pastor Tracy. It leads to
40:12
wasted conversations.
40:15
Now I'm f to help
40:17
somebody. Watch this. This is what stood
40:20
out when I shared this when I was
40:22
studying this. Watch this. Re Marshall
40:25
preacher, read this. It says Cain
40:28
brought his stuff. Verse four, right?
40:30
God didn't have respect under his. So in
40:32
verse five, he got mad. Right. Verse
40:35
six. Read it. Oh, she gone. That's
40:39
okay. This This word ain't playing with
40:41
none of us, is it? No, I'm just playing.
40:43
The Lord said unto Cain, "Why are you
40:47
angry? And why is your countenance fall
40:50
fallen?" Watch this, y'all. He's having
40:53
a conversation with God. Amen.
40:58
And he's God say if you if you do right,
41:01
you'll be accepted.
41:04
Okay. I got a problem with verse six and
41:07
seven. How come Cain ain't saying
41:09
nothing?
41:11
Y'all not talking to me? He's compared
41:14
himself with Abel. He's in the presence
41:17
of the one that didn't accept it. How
41:19
come he didn't say, "God, what did I do
41:21
wrong?"
41:23
That's right.
41:25
as a wasted conversation.
41:28
Where I'm looking for it in the text.
41:30
Where is the Father? I'm sorry. I I I
41:33
Lord, my heart is open before before
41:35
you. If I if I've done any, search me,
41:38
oh God, and try my mind, my heart. And
41:40
if there's any wicked way in me, lead me
41:42
in the way everlasting. Lord, let me
41:44
know. What did I do? Could I have should
41:46
I I Oh, I Okay, I should I I you know
41:49
what? I already knew Jesus. Let me go
41:51
and trade my fruit in. Give me Give me
41:53
another chance. I don't hear nothing.
41:56
You got the attention of God. I'm
41:58
looking for repentance. I'm I'm looking
42:00
for anything. He in the presence of God
42:02
whining.
42:04
He's in the presence of God fuming.
42:08
God came.
42:15
Uh in church praise and
42:18
worship. That's that's what we're doing.
42:22
You're in the very presence of the one
42:24
who could help you make the adjustment
42:27
and get you in the line that you believe
42:29
that you supposed to be in. And you
42:31
ain't you ain't going you you going to
42:32
egg God.
42:35
Okay, it gets worse. It gets worse. Keep
42:37
reading. Give me verse eight. Here's
42:38
another wasted convers. See, when you
42:40
compare yourselves in the wrong way, you
42:44
end up with a wasted conversation. Watch
42:46
this. Read verse eight. And Cain talked
42:48
with Abel, his brother. Stop.
42:52
Now you're talking to the one that's
42:54
successful.
42:56
How come I don't say nothing about Doc?
42:58
Tell me how you did it. How have you
43:01
used your prayer life to get you to this
43:03
place? How did you make it through that
43:06
divorce?
43:11
H how have you been in ministry? That's
43:13
what just the other night. Bishop Ed
43:16
text me right later. It's about 1:00.
43:20
How you been in ministry this long and
43:23
still got
43:25
joy? Said because I don't know nobody. I
43:27
said, doc, it ain't easy in these
43:30
streets. That's what I call these
43:34
streets. Well, we started talking about
43:36
it. But how you you got the person in
43:40
front of you that is the success that
43:42
you want. You have the example right
43:44
there and you you ain't going to ask
43:46
them.
43:50
See,
43:51
comparison will make you ignore God
43:56
and then waste the conversation with the
43:59
example of success that's right in front
44:02
of you. You right there with a person
44:04
that could help you, but you won't ask
44:06
the right questions.
44:10
Well, the fun that's going on. So then
44:13
it says he talked with his brother, but
44:16
it must not have been a good talk
44:18
because then it came to pass. Isn't that
44:20
what it says? Keep reading. And it came
44:22
to pass when they were in the field that
44:24
Cain rose up against Abel his brother.
44:27
Watch this. And slew him. You know what
44:29
I what hit me? That the
44:32
field is the work their work environment
44:34
was the trigger. He talked to him. Okay.
44:40
But every time he got into the
44:42
environment where he's reminded of what
44:45
he doesn't have,
44:47
and what he has, it became too much for
44:51
him.
44:56
They were in the field and he killed
44:57
them. Now, this is what I need to say
44:59
and I'm going to let y'all go home
45:00
because I know it's been a heavy night
45:02
both in worship and word.
45:05
The scripture
45:07
says that he rose up and slew him. He
45:11
killed him. What'd he do? Now y'all,
45:14
it's Bible class, right? And I know I
45:18
shouldn't watch serial killer novels and
45:20
read those and watch the shows the way I
45:22
do, but I enjoy them.
45:24
So, which, you know, says a lot about
45:26
me. But anyway,
45:29
whole bunch of ways to kill people.
45:35
particularly a lot. I have Oh, in
45:39
categories. It's
45:43
great. He could have snapped his neck,
45:45
but that ain't what he
45:47
did. Because if you keep reading, oh
45:50
God, I'm getting ready to show show you
45:52
something. It hit me like a ton of
45:53
bricks. God starts asking him questions.
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Verse nine, read, baby. And the Lord
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said unto Cain, watch this. Where is
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Abel thy brother? Come on. And he said,
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"I know not." What else he say? Am I my
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brother's keeper? Do you see why
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comparison is a hindrance to real
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kingdom connection?
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Oh, y'all is Come on. Don't let it go
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past you. Because when you start
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comparing yourself against people and
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you put yourself against their selves
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and you're comparing wrongly, you
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torture. Next thing you start distancing
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yourself. I don't know. Am I supposed to
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know? I don't try to keep up with
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everybody. First of all, you lying.
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You've been on your phone 20 hours a day
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for the last six months. You are you're
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lying. You do know.
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But do you see that now? It's all of a
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sudden, am I my brother's keeper?
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The only person who would even ask that
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question is a murderer.
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Of course you should be.
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But keep reading. It's still more. And
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he said, what does it say? What hast
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thou done? What? Keep going. The voice
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of thy brother's blood. What? Whoa.
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Wait.
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So you didn't just snap his neck.
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You did something that drew blood.
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You know you stabbed him. I know you
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did. Now this is where I really have my
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problem. And I'm ready to go on now.
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So can't help me
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understand you get in a situation. Okay,
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it is tough because God answered this by
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fire. But when you had a chance to ask
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God, you didn't do it. You didn't repent
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and say, "Hey, what did I do wrong? What
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can I do to fix it?" Nothing. You so mad
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you don't even want to be right
47:46
now. So you get a chance to talk to your
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brother. You don't ask him, "Show me
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your secret, man, cuz I want to do this
47:52
thing right. You seem to have this thing
47:53
clicking for you. Show me." No, you
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don't do that. Then you get in your spot
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and you kill him. And you didn't just
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kill
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him, you came at him and got blood. Now,
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help me to understand this. The same way
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you killed him, it took the same effort
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that you could have done the sacrifice.
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Oh, she got it. Same action,
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same energy. Come on. This is in the
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Bible. This is You You see it? Remember
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the man that they that gave the talents
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some
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151211. The one that got one got a nasty
48:32
attitude and instead of burying instead
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of taking it and exchanging
48:38
it, get what he does. I mean, I'm I can
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take any of y'all. Who got money over
48:43
here? Piece of money. Let's give a piece
48:45
of money. Somebody got a piece of money.
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Hurry. Just don't have to be a big
48:48
piece. Just give me a piece quickly.
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Y'all ain't serious. Bible class about
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over. Here she is. No, she got it right
48:54
here. Okay. All right. See, you always
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should reach. When I ask to exchange,
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you should always exchange with me.
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That's y'all slow. Okay. But anyway, so
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watch.
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That didn't take a lot.
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And I know she glad, but it didn't take
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a lot. I went, traded, made.
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The other guy with one
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had to dig in the earth.
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And bury it and then cover it back up.
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That's right. It took more energy to
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disappoint God and himself than it would
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have to go make something. It took the
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same energy to kill as it would have to
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cut the sacrifice.
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But your mind
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messes with you. When you make a mistake
49:50
or you start comparing, it's like you go
49:52
temporarily nuts. Yeah. Yeah. But we
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need to say, "God, help me step back and
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and let me look at the strategy they
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used. Help me. Help me to learn from
50:04
what they did and not attach it to them
50:06
as a person. I'm not diminishing my
50:08
worth or elevating them so high. They've
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done something I haven't done." Every su
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success in every area can be boiled down
50:16
to some solid strategies.
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Everything. Amen. So, let me see this as
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an opportunity. I'm done. But it is
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Bible class. And can I say this?
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Sometimes God is good enough to let the
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person that outshines you be somebody
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you don't like.
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And he does it on purpose. Ask me why.
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No, you don't want to know bad enough.
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Who want to know? You do. Okay. I'm
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going to tell you exactly why. Because
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if okay, go to Hannah and Panana. Yeah.
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If somebody that you loved was
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successful in quote unstead of because
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it's so much success, eight billion
51:01
people, everybody could be. But anyway,
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if somebody you just really love
51:04
successful and you were flunking, but
51:07
you'd be like, "But she's so sweet
51:08
though. She deserves it." Oh god. And
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that wouldn't motivate you. But when
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it's somebody that gets on your ever
51:15
loving last nerve and they get See, you
51:18
don't you ain't ain't nobody. Oh,
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people that you love when they when they
51:26
stop eating carbs and they get real
51:27
smart, you be like, "But they they've
51:29
been be they're beautiful inside and out
51:31
cuz you love them." But when it's
51:33
somebody something about them that get
51:34
on your nerves so bad and then all of a
51:36
sudden they lose weight. You said I'll
51:37
be dog on if I'mma eat another piece of
51:38
cake for the rest of my life cuz I ain't
51:41
because you are more motivated y'all act
51:44
like I'm not telling the truth. You are
51:46
more motivated when it is something that
51:49
rubs you wrong. God, thank you Jesus for
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sometime letting us have to deal with
51:55
the success of people we don't like.
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Yes.
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And here's how we do it. Cuz we church
52:03
it up. This we church it up. We ain't
52:06
going to just say we don't like them cuz
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we're saved and try to be sweet. But
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honey, if if if if if those people with
52:12
no walk with God can have it.
52:18
Wow. God is trying to get us to really
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take a look.
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Hannah was barren and Panana was popping
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them children out like nothing. And
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Hannah was the one trying to walk and
52:31
please God.
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But God let it be somebody that was
52:36
agitating enough that Hannah said, "You
52:39
know what? I'm f to take this prayer up.
52:41
Oh no, I'm getting ready to go to
52:42
another level cuz I'm not going to be
52:43
here next year. This is wearing me out.
52:45
This over here, Jesus, is getting to be
52:48
too much." She says, "So I'm getting
52:50
ready to get focused. What I'm trying to
52:52
get you to see Yeah. I don't know what's
52:54
going on with the sound. I guess that's
52:56
their way of telling me stop. What I'm
52:59
trying to get you to understand
53:01
is Cain killed his
53:05
brother because he couldn't
53:08
stand that Abel was successful.
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If he had just compared the strategy to
53:16
his
53:17
own, he could have made adjustments
53:21
and been accepted. That's what God said.
53:24
If you do right, you going to be
53:26
accepted. Amen. So he should have said,
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"Well, what's right?" Or, "You know
53:32
what? God, forgive me. Give me five
53:34
minutes. I got this thing." That's all
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he had to do. And when you see other
53:39
people who are
53:41
successful, don't go, don't do that.
53:45
say, "Let me step back and see what they
53:48
did and utilize that in my life so that
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I can lead not only a prosperous and
53:55
successful life, but I don't have to cut
53:57
folk off."
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Amen. Come on, we're going to pray.
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Lord,
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you already know, and I guess that's
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what has to be said.
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Lord, please don't let us be the kind of
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people that turn up our nose at each
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other. Lord, we're going to naturally
54:24
kind of get a little scratchy, kind of
54:27
scratchy sometimes to see other people
54:30
with what looks like your visual
54:32
approval.
54:34
But Lord, help us to go to you about
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that and then see what we can learn from
54:40
what they've done so we don't have to
54:43
keep cutting toes and fingers and hands
54:47
off. We don't want to end up some
54:51
self-righteous just core of a person
54:55
because we've cut everything else off.
54:59
Give us the kind of wisdom that comes
55:02
from your word that would help us to
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learn how to stay connected by
55:10
celebrating other people's success, by
55:13
learning from other people's success,
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Father, and by imitating the things that
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apply to us, so that God, when we're all
55:23
successful, we can give you the glory
55:26
and we can do it
55:27
together. We don't want you to have to
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ask us about the blood of our brother or
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our sister.
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I pray for our hearts to be turned
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toward you, Jesus, ever the