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How to Teach Your Kids to Pray: 3 Simple Daily Habits w/ Kendra Tierney Norton | Lila Rose Show · The Lila Rose Show

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Every mom is busy. What would be one of your top
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tips for praying and incorporating prayer into your
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daily life, especially when you have little?
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Ones it's something we can do in the car, it's something that we
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can do when we're out. We'll be at a field trip at the
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aquarium. What would be that?
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Maybe an anchor practice? Like a first habit that you say,
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hey this is a really good one to nail.
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The first thing I'll say is is to have some sort of a like
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tense. Welcome back everyone to the
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Lila Rose Show and this special series on motherhood.
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It's Part 2, sitting down with another one of everybody's
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favorite guests, Kendra Tierney Norton, mother of a whole tribe
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of children. Also, we did episodes with her
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about grieving after loss, the loss of her first husband,
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finding love after loss, how she lives, the liturgical calendar
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with her kids. Enjoy this conversation with
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Kendra Tierney Norton, make sure to share with a friend and stay
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tuned for parts 3 and 4. Kendra, I so admire you.
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I have little ones, oldest sister five and then baby
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three-year old and you've got kids of all ages and the the way
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you do the faith, the prayer, making the whole life ultimately
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come back to the faith in this very beautiful ways.
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Huge fan. So I'm excited to hear your top
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tips for me and for other ladies listening about how we can, as
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mothers, help our children and our families pray.
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So first of all, thank you for being a role model for me and so
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many other moms. Thank you so much and it's my
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pleasure to be here. I always love talking with you.
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So can you just share really quick Catholic all year?
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What's the heart behind Catholic all year?
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Yeah, so Catholic all year started off as a mommy blog back
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in those days and and has become more of an apostolate and but
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but the heart behind it is, is helping parents to bring the
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faith home, you know, home with them and, and do that with their
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families in a way that seems fun and natural and not in a way
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that it is stressful or or, you know, feels like lessons that
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you want to feel natural and part of your everyday life.
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So it can be very tough. So I work, I have a lot of
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things going on. I know a lot of moms do, and
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every mom is busy. Especially when you got little
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ones. It's just life is busy.
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What would say, what would be one of your top tips for praying
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and incorporating prayer into your daily life, especially when
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you have little ones? Sometimes they go to bed at
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different times, there's nap times at different times,
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there's the chaos. What?
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What do you say? Yeah.
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So there's, there's a few different sort of angles that I
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try to approach it. And the first thing I'll say is,
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is to have some sort of a like a tent pole religious practices,
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the the things that are most important to you because
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developing that strong family culture is really an important
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part of of faith development with kids.
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So there are so many beautiful prayers, there are so many
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devotional practices and we can't, there's not time to do
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all of them for anyone, let alone, you know, busy families.
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But you pick the couple that are really seem the most meaningful
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and the most manageable for your family and do those.
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Now, there are some that are especially recommended, like if
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you can do the rosary, do the rosary.
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But if you can't do the rosary, you know, do the Angelus, do
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there, there's the Divine Mercy chaplet.
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There are little prayerful practices, you know, blessing
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your children before they leave in the morning to, to go to
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school, you know, with, with holy water.
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There are so many of those little things.
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It would be perhaps burdensome, you know, to do all of them.
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But you pick those, those few and you really stick with them.
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And, and then, you know, your, your kids have memories of those
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and, and it's just sort of an expectation of a thing that's
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built into your, to your daily routine.
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What are the top three that you would say?
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These ones are true blue easy. You know, if a child is having a
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rough day or moment, you know, there you can still, you know,
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plow forward with this. Even if the kids are not like
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sitting quietly and praying with you.
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They're kind of part of the daily life.
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What will be the top three? You know, prayers or practices
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that you recommend, especially when you're dealing with kids of
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different ages? Well, the, the one that, that I
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think I have a big heart for the Angelus, whereas, you know, and,
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and we do try to get to the, to the rosary every day.
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We, we say a morning offering in the car.
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But, but I, I love the Angelus and I love that it's meant to
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sort of disrupt what you're doing because it's a, it's a
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prayer that happens at a particular time, most often at
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noon, but there's are also traditions of doing it at 6:00
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AM at noon and 6:00 PM. So any.
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Of those 4:00 AM these days, sadly, but kids in the bed at
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6:00 AM. We're praying right now, guys.
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We're going to go back to bed now.
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But I have an alarm set on my phone and it rings church bells
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and you stop what what you're doing.
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And I love that. My kids, my kids know it.
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Now we stop what we're doing. We stand up and we say the
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Angelus and it takes one or you know, one minute like maybe 2
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and and we say that together. It's a call and response.
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So it's something that we that we really do together, but mid
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sentence, mid activity, whatever, we stop and we do it.
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And so that's something that that I particularly,
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particularly love. Can we, can we do it now just as
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a practice of what this looks like?
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So you're, let's say if you're homeschooling mom or your kids
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are at school and you've got a couple little ones at home or
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you just got the one baby, doesn't matter.
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You have the lock set, you know the timer on your phone set for
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noon. Maybe you're about to eat lunch.
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You just had a snack. It doesn't matter at noon.
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Like, hey, guys, it's the Angelus.
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How do you describe to your kids what you're about to do and why
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it matters? Well, so at this point they hear
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the alarm and they just stand up.
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Oh, they. Know they're.
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Trained, Yeah, when we're in a group with, you know, with our
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other Catholic family moms, multiple alarms will go off at
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noon, which is fun. But yeah, so we just, we, we did
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start saying, you know, there's first I started, well, I'm going
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to try to do the Angelus, but until I set the alarm on my
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phone, it didn't really happen. But but yeah, I just explained
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this is this prayer that we're going to do.
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And I did both sides with them for a while and now they, you
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know, now they can do it either either leading or following.
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Did you? Kind of share what was the
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reason behind the Angeles for them and like why we pray the
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Angeles? Like what?
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How did you kind of introduce it to your kids?
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Yeah. Well, and that goes into another
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really important part of of our practice of the faith in the
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home, which is the liturgical calendar.
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And there are so they're all these little things that we want
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to introduce to our kids. And the beautiful thing about
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the liturgical calendar is that there are feast days, and the
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entire intention behind them is to reach the lady and help us to
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learn and understand and appreciate and celebrate our
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faith. So on the feast of the
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Annunciation, that's when we talk about the story behind it.
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And, you know, the fact that the Angel Gabriel appeared to marry,
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told her, you know, asked her if she, you know, would be willing
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to be the mother of God, and that she assented.
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And and that's what we're remembering every day when we
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pray the Angelus. But it's that it's the
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liturgical calendar that, that that gives me sort of the push
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to all right, on this day every year, we're going to talk about
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this, we're going to explain it. And they can understand it a
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little better, a little more deeply every time it comes back
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around. But so, you know, on Divine
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Mercy Sunday, we do the same thing.
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We talk about that. And then when we do the Divine
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Mercy Chaplet, they understand and there are feast days for
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most of the mysteries of the rosary.
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So it gives them a greater understanding of those things
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that we're praying about if we've discussed them and
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celebrated them in in a way on their on their particular.
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Day when is the Feast of the Annunciation?
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Feast of the Annunciation is on March 25th.
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It's We celebrate it during Lent, but nine months from
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Christmas. So March 25th, that's when Jesus
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ultimately was conceived. Mama Mary, the Angel comes to
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Mother Mary and says, you know, you know, you know, full of
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grace. Blessed are, you know, if she
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doesn't say blessed says full of grace, hailful of grace.
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Later on, Elizabeth says, blessed are you?
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But she says full of grace and then basically says, you know,
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he offers her the opportunity to conceive the Son of God, God
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himself. And she says, be it done unto me
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according to thy will. So we're going to pray this
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right now if that's OK, this prayer.
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But I, I think that's really beautiful that you're reminding
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us about the liturgical calendar.
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Because the reality is, if we did pay attention to every feast
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day on a liturgical calendar and solemnity on the liturgical
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calendar and explain it to our even very young kids, they'll
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start to know these things more familiar.
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They'll be more familiar for them, right?
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Like, Oh yes, you know, Jesus was conceived by the Holy Spirit
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after the Angel Gabriel comes. And there's a whole day where we
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celebrate that once a year on March 25th.
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And so when we praying the Angelus at noon every day, we're
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remembering that beautiful, not just story, but that, you know,
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sacred part of our faith. Let's go to.
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If you're good with doing it, let's let's.
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I'll be your. Five year old and you be and
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I'll do this. I've got my phone up with the
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words and we'll, we'll pray this, all right?
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There's a beautiful painting that a lot of people have
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probably seen that's called the Angelus.
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And it's it's a man and a woman who stopped in a field, stopped
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their work and they're standing, bowing their head, praying the
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Angelus. And so that's what I love about
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it. It's you.
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You stop what you're doing and, and take that moment for God.
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So in the name of the Father and of the Son and the Holy Spirit,
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Amen. The Angel of the Lord declared
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unto Mary, and. She conceived of the Holy
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Spirit. Hail Mary, full of grace, the
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Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou amongst women,
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and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus holy.
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Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners now and at the hour of
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our death. Amen.
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Behold the. Handmaid of the Lord.
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Be it done unto me according to thy word.
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Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee, blessed thou
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amongst women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus,
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Holy Mary. Mother of God, pray for us
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sinners now and at the hour of our death.
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Amen. And the Word was made flesh.
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And dwelt among us. Hail Mary, full of grace, the
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Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou amongst women,
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and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus holy.
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Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners now and at the hour of
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our death. Amen.
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Pray for us, the Holy Mother of God, that.
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We may be made worthy of the promises of Christ.
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Let us pray for forth we beseech Thee, O Lord, Thy grace into our
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hearts, that we to whom the incarnation of Christ Thy Son
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was made known by the message of an Angel, made by His passion
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and cross, be brought to the glory of His resurrection
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through the same Christ our Lord, Amen, Amen, Father, and of
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the Son and the Holy Spirit, Amen, that feels.
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Doable, yeah. How do you explain incarnation,
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the incarnation of Jesus, to a three-year old?
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Yeah, well, I mean, my, my kids know the excitement of, of
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finding out a new baby is coming, right?
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So, so they know that that that baby that was once growing
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inside their mom's tummy is now their brother or sister.
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And, and so that, that understanding of that, you know,
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that God would choose to come and become a tiny baby and grow
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in his mother's womb. Honestly, like they think that
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sounds like a great idea and really fun, you know, because
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it's part of their, you know, general frame of reference.
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But yeah, I, I, I think the, the neat thing about starting this
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when kids are young is that it's, it doesn't seem so far
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fetched to them as it does for adults that have never heard it
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before. Kids are really open to to the
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more sort of weird mystical, you know, what's the what's the
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word? I'm looking for the.
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Unexpected. It's.
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Like out of. Routine it's like we're going to
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get AI. What I love about it is like
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with the idea with the Angeles and making that part of like a
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staple for family prayer with kids is that it's also like
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you're going to stand up. OK rise, we're standing up and
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it's interactive. Like I say a prayer you say
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prayer and even if they mess up or they don't know the prayer
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yet you can say it for them, right?
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You can like guide them along and then they bow, you know bow
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your head now and it just takes what, 3 minutes?
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Yeah. And then you're done and then
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move forward. But you had a moment as a family
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where you're remembering the incarnation Jesus coming into
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the world to save us, You know, our Lord and Savior.
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I mean, there's something so beautiful about making anchoring
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the day with that. And having it be community that,
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that there was a time when church bells would ring in, in
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town and everyone would stop and say the Angelus.
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And so I like that idea of, of our domestic church stopping for
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a moment and coming together. You know, the kids, if they
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aren't, if we aren't all together and they see what time
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it is, they'll come running. So, so I, I like that aspect of
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it too. It's something we can do in the
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car. It's something that we can do
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when we're out. You know, we'll, we'll be at a
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field trip at the aquarium and a couple of families will just,
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you know, stand over to the side and we'll say our, our Angelus.
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And it's a way to be, you know, a subtle witness to, you know,
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We got we were gonna do that. Give me two more.
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What else? What else are we doing in the
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given day? I think that that to start the
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day with something is, is really important and really beautiful.
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Some people, you know, will bless their their kids with holy
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water as they're leaving for the house.
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What we usually do is say the morning offering and the
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guardian Angel prayer and we do that, you know, for my
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homeschoolers, I do it when we start the homeschool day for the
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kids who go to traditional school.
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When I was driving them, we would say it in the car
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together. Now they say it on their own,
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but but what I love about a morning offering is that if it's
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the only thing you get to in a day, you're saying I want to
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make my whole day a prayer. I want everything that I do this
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day, whether you know the whether it's a challenge or a
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joy, I want to offer all of that to God.
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And I'm making a point of saying that this morning.
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And if it kind of slips my mind every now and again during the
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day, at least I, you know, at least I started, started the day
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right. And, and again, the guardian
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Angel prayer, asking our guardian angels to be with us
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during the day. That's something that kids
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especially love the idea that that they have not the idea, the
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fact that they have a guardian Angel that is there with them
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all the time. And, and it's it, it's great to
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acknowledge that. So the Angeles at noon, the
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guardian Angel prayer and the and the Angeles in, you know,
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first thing in the morning, at the morning.
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Offering the Guardian in the morning.
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Offering, yes. Guardian Angel prayer in the
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morning offering I think are are both things that are really.
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You're sneaking in A2 on one. Oh, I know, I knew this was
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going to happen with you. Kendra, you've got so many
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liturgical living opportunities with you.
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But so, so you're saying, So what does that look?
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And we're going to say that these prayers too here in a
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moment, the morning offering, which is a really short prayer.
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I mean, it literally takes like 20 seconds.
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It's awesome. And the Gordian Angel prayer,
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again, like 15 second prayer. You're done, right.
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I'm, I am curious though, if I don't know about your household,
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but, and you have many more children than I have, but I have
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the three kids, you know, 5 and under.
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And the mornings are always, you know, crazy.
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Like there's screaming, laughing, jumping, running.
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They often get up around the same time, but not always.
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Someone's always sick or there's something else going on.
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And so it's like that moment to try to collect everyone and do
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this together. Like, how do you, how do you
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approach that? What do you?
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Recommend. I have two answers.
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One is for, you know, me personally as a mom, and then
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one's for the family. And the because I always my
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preference is to do these things together.
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So that's the better. But sometimes the better is the
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enemy of good enough, right? And so I say it on my own when I
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first wake up because I want to make sure that, you know, that
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I've said it. And then I try to find a time
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when we are all together. And for a long time that was,
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you know, us buckled into the car for the school drop.
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Yeah, exactly. So whatever, you know, whatever
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you're doing, first thing in the morning, before we turn on the
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radio, before we have any conversations, we immediately
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say the the morning offering and the guardian Angel prayer.
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But there was a long time where I almost didn't have to drive
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anywhere when my all my kids were homeschooled, which that
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was great. And so then we started, we just
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did it at the beginning of our homeschool day.
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So there was sort of a set time when when we were all together
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you. Are highly organized, but you
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you could probably do breakfast, I mean, or like if you're all in
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the kitchen together. Oh guys, let's stop and do the
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morning offering together. But I love what you said about
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as a mom, saying the prayer yourself before with doing it
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with the kids if at all possible, like having that just
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even a few minutes or or even a minute right before the create
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the chaos begins. I think that's really beautiful
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because it's like this is first fruits for God, first moments of
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my my day, my alertness. It's put on yours Put.
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On your oxygen mask, Yes. Yes, all.
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Right, let's do the morning offering together.
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I'm actually going to let you just pray it, OK?
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And I'll pray along with you silently.
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In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy
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Spirit, Amen. Oh my Jesus, through the
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Immaculate Heart of Mary, Ioffer thee all my prayers, works, joys
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and sufferings of this day, for all the intentions of thy Sacred
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Heart, in union with the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass offered
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throughout the world in reparation for my sins, and for
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all the intentions of the Holy Father.
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Amen. Amen.
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Father and son, we love that. Literally less than 20 seconds,
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I think that was that's for sure.
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And then there's the guardian Angel prayer, which I love.
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We, we actually pray this in the evenings, but I love the idea
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about the morning. It actually makes as much sense
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in the morning. You could also do it both times,
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of course, but let's do the guardian Angel prayer next, All
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right. And how do you, how do you
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actually, before we pray the guardian Angel prayer, how do
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you explain the guardian Angel prayer to the kids?
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Yeah, I mean, again, they are just ripe to to accept that that
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sort of that sort of thing that that they absolutely believe
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that God assigned an Angel to look after them.
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And, and my my mother-in-law talks about, you know, that when
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she was in parochial school, the the nuns would have them scooch
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over just a little bit to make room for their guardian Angel.
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That is so cute. And but just this idea of
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talking about it, making sure that our kids are are aware of
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it. I remember talking with my, I
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think then maybe 3 year old and we were looking at this.
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Very fanciful artwork in a doctor's waiting room.
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And there were mermaids and there were angels and there were
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narwhals. And, and I'm going through and
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asking her, all right, which is real and which is not real, just
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to see. And she was pretty sure mermaids
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were definitely real. Narwhals were not.
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No way that could exist. And but she knew that angels
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were real, so. How old was she?
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Three. I love that.
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I love that. All right.
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What's the guardian Angel prayer?
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All right. In the name of the Father and of
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the Son, the Holy Spirit, Amen. Angel of God, my guardian, dear,
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through whom God's love commits thee here ever this day be at my
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side to light, to guard, to rule, to guide.
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Amen. And I love that ever this day,
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be at my side. And then if it's night and
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you're praying it at night, ever this night be at my son.
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Beautiful. All right, we've got you snuck
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in another one. That's good because I was like 3
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things we can do. But we got the guardian Angel
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prayer, the morning offering. But again, less than a minute of
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time. The Angelus got 2 minutes, maybe
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3 minutes of time. What would you say?
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And, and here's the thing, like to your point, it's like, if you
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want to really develop a sense of God's presence with your
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kids, it does take a habit of building in more, more than just
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one little prayer day. It's not like just a prayer
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before meals, like the whole idea of like living your faith
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with your kids as you're incorporating it throughout the
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day. So I'm not trying to say, you
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know, it's not beautiful to get to the point where you're doing
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a rosary, you're doing maybe even meditation or other things
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in the evening with your kids. But if you're kind of maybe
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folks are listening like they, they're kind of haven't
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strengthened the muscle yet. They maybe they do a quick, you
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know, prayer of Jesus loves you before bed and a sign of the
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cross. Maybe.
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But what would be that kind of maybe an anchor practice, like a
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first habit that you say, Hey, this is a really good one to
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nail and and to to nail, meaning NAIL, not kneel, nail while you
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kneel, whatever that this is like a core 1 to start with and
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get really consistent with as a family.
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Well, and that's, that's something that I really
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appreciate again, about the Catholic churches that there
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are, there are these frameworks and so there's the liturgical
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calendar and there are these prayers that were said
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traditionally at different times during the day.
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So I, I like that. I like that we can have the
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morning offering and morning, we can have the Angeles at noon,
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Divine Mercy tablet. If you're going to throw that in
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there, it's usually at 3:00 and then, you know, and then at
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bedtime to do the acting contrition or you know, which,
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which itself is meditative, right?
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Because you're thinking about what, what things did I do
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during this day that I could have done better?
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And that's a beautiful thing to, to actually stop and do as a
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conversation with kids as they're, you know, winding down,
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you know, what are, what are things we're grateful for?
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What are things we could have done better?
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Would you recommend the Act of Contrition as as a really great
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starting place for evening our bedtime prayers?
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Yes, yeah, that would be my number one recommendation.
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And it seems like a long complicated prayer and it's not
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a not a very easy one for kids to memorize, but but it's what
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got me to finally memorize it. And then you, you know, you want
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to have it ideally memorized by the time kids have their first
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confession. So if they've heard it
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throughout their, you know, early years and that makes that
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part of of your first confession very easy.
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And why would you say that Act of Contrition is such a
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important and powerful prayer, even as the starting prayer for
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an air bedtime routine with kids?
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Yeah, because in the same way that the morning offering, you
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know, offers my whole day to God, the act of contrition
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allows me to look back on on the day and see, you know what,
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where am I grateful for things that that happened during this
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day? Where what are things that, you
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know, that I could have done better?
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Where are places that I failed and and it you know, we can all
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use that moment of of introspection, I think and to
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praise God, you know, in in all of those moments.
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How does? That work if the kit, if the
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child is, you know, below the age of reason, meaning they're,
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you know 345, you know they're a baby.
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Obviously if they're a baby, they're not they're just you're
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praying and they're in your lap or whatever running around or
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crawling around. But you know, my 3 year old,
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like he does remember things in the day earlier, like, you know,
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what was we go, we say what was your highlight and what was your
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low light? You know, sometimes, you know,
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at the family dinner table and it's like, you know, you know,
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my highlight is when I played with my Big Brother.
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My low light is when me hit me or whatever, whatever it is.
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But with the act of contrition, how do you explain what the
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child like to like a four year old?
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Right? How would you explain an act of
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contrition to a four year old and why it is important?
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Well, I. I think that that the, the crux
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of it is that every action that we do effects us, affects the
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people around us, affects the body of Christ, you know, and
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that God is aware of of all of it.
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And so all of those little things, all those highlights and
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low lights of the day, you know, we, we give those to God and we
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know that when we hit our brother, you know, God wishes
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that we had made a different decision that, you know, like
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that God wants better for us than that.
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And so to, to tie these places where we're trying to grow in
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personal holiness or even to say, you know, this afternoon, I
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got really frustrated and I, you know, I yelled at you and I
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apologize to you and I apologize to God for that because you
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know, God loves you and God wants me to be the best mom I
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can be. So.
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It sounds like you're using the active contrition, even with the
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very little ones as a way to talk as a family, even just for
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a few minutes about the day and look back on mistakes made and
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like good things that were given to us, blessings or good choices
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that were made. Just very high level to kind of
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have this family round up before God.
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And then you say the pro together, right?
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And some days it's just the prayer and I'm off to bed, but
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some days it's a conversation. And, and I, I love, I love that.
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I love that, you know, prayer is conversation with God and, and,
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and that, that prayer can stimulate conversation, you
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know, among, among the family. I love that.
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All right, let's do it. Let's see the act of contrition.
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Here we go. In the name of the Father, and
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of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit, Amen.
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Oh my God, I am heartily sorry for having offended Thee, and I
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detest all my sins because I fear the loss of heaven and the
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pains of hell, but most of all because they offend Thee.
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My God, who are at all good and worthy of all my love, I firmly
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resolve, with the help of Thy grace, to do penance, amend my
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life, and avoid the near occasion of sin.
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The name of the Father and of the Son and the Holy Spirit.
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Amen. Love it.
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I'm sure of you. I'm sure you've gotten asked me
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times what is hell? We do the Saint Michael's prayer
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a lot in there. It's like cast into hell.
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What is you know, So we have this and say hell ISM you, but
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people choose to go there because they don't want to be
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with God's love. Why would they want, you know,
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the conversations? It's incredible the
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conversations when you, you know, do prayers like this where
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there's so much curiosity and interest, not every night, but
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most nights about what is this? What what are we doing right
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now? What does it mean to say these
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words? What do these words mean?
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And the conversations they open are some of the best
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conversations I've seen. Absolutely.
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Absolutely. And I love it when kids have
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funny little insights into things like wow, you know,
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that's a really good point. I hadn't thought about it like
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I. Usually let my husband handle
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the tough theological questions. I'm like that one.
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You can, you can do. I love this, Kendra.
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Thank you. I'd love for us to just close
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with a little prayer for just moms listening or anyone
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listening for their families, for us to be able to grow in
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prayer practices of prayer, to draw closer to God as a family
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with our little ones. Do you want to lead us?
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Lead us here in? The name of the Father and of
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the Son, the Holy Spirit. Amen.
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Thank you God for the gift of motherhood and, and all of the
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accompanying blessings and, and challenges.
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And we ask you to watch over all of us and all of the mothers who
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are listening today and help us to love our kids for you and,
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and to love them the way that you love them and, and to help
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them to come to know you more. Amen.
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Amen, Father, son. Helise Freeman.
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Thanks Kendra all. Right.
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Thank you.