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Ep. 73 5 Things to love about being an EQ leader - Dec 22 edition · The Pausecast

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  All right, welcome and hello friend.
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  I am so glad that you're here today to tune into my next
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  Edition. For top leadership skills that I
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  wanted to pass along, just things I love about being in
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  highly attuned, emotionally intelligent leader, a high EQ
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  leader. As I like to say and these are
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  kind of me just riffing on some of the thoughts that I have
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  about it. I would love to hear your
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  thoughts about At it too. Because I think these are great
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  discussion points. It's not just me as a one-way
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  here. But to me, this is what I
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  support these rise, our leaders. With as my clients, we all need
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  support in these because if we're literally looking to grow,
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  that means we're doing things. We've never done before, we're
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  thinking about things in new ways, and we can't do that
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  unless we've got the help from outside the box.
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  So to speak, the how open the support outside our own neural
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  network, our own brain because like I like to say, we're like
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  fish in the fish bowl and we only see the water around us.
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  We're swimming were swimming but if we are never aware that
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  there's a life and existence outside of that Fishbowl than
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  how the heck, are we ever going to get there, right?
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  We literally need someone to scoop us up and help transport
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  us. So to speak, I'm joking around.
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  But you know what I mean? So let's go ahead and get
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  started. One of my favorite tips as a
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  highly emotional. One of my tips about highly and
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  got to keep saying hi one of them.
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  One of the things I love about being a high EQ leader, is that
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  it's easy to stay inspired because literally think about
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  anyone, you think about as a leader, who inspires you, give
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  that a moment thought who comes up in your mind's eye, it could
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  be someone not even Been alive anymore.
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  Just someone you've meant to support or in feel inspired by
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  on a daily basis or maybe it's once a year because you don't
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  think about it often. But you do once a year in some
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  way Right, whatever that is. Give yourself a moment to think
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  and appreciate them. What are those qualities?
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  That stand out for them, right? That can be inspiration in
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  itself. Maybe you have a quote that they
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  said, and it's on your wall or maybe you even wrote it down on
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  a Post-It note, or you printed printed it out in some way.
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  I'm curious. If it's something that you see
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  that brings you Joy, that's also something inspiring.
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  Maybe it's a photo, or maybe it's a pet, who brings you some
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  Else, right? It's like about what works for
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  you and give yourself credit for being with these leaders in that
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  way, because they have inspired you.
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  And it's LED you to where you are today.
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  So, I just like to mention that because a lot of times we're
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  just heads down focused on the next rung, in front of us on the
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  ladder where the transom or wherever we're going, but we
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  forget that. Oh yeah, like I got here.
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  Like this is, this is not in itself, a good thing and I'm an
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  inspiration. And remember you probably We
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  more than you think. So are inspiring to others.
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  The next thing to mention is that you can be a leader who
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  leads from the feminine values side and this could be for any
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  gender doesn't really matter if you're a woman or not, what it
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  means to me is that you lead with these feminine values and
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  would be considered attributes or traits.
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  That are most often associated with the feminine versus the
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  masculine space and that sense literally Bean, right.
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  Your presence creating Being creative holding space for
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  others. That's that presence.
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  Maybe it's big picture thinking like you don't have all the
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  linear thinking down that would be more masculine but it's
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  really just this bigger Vision that you're holding.
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  It might be the power of Silence might be your own care for
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  someone else or empathy love collaboration.
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  Communication to me, all of these are really strong,
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  feminine values that I think are sir.
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  Severely underrepresented in the workplace in the workforce.
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  And so we need these attributes more in our ecosystem, right?
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  These are things that can be brought into the business world
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  because you're gifted in them already right?
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  And left again everyone can have these.
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  However, I think that as a female leader you are especially
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  well positioned to bring these more into the space and even
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  though maybe the workplace doesn't emphasize these as much
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  as things like report. Numbers, for example, finite,
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  deliverables project linear, thinking constructive and
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  building the plan out in the project, right?
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  These are the things that I think of, as more very tangible,
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  but productive and linear more of what we're used to in the
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  business world. But guess what?
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  We need both. We really, really do and we are
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  hearing and hearing this more and more because there's things
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  like that burnout that's happening at a faster, more
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  rapid Pace people. All are talking about wanting
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  better culture at work. These are all the things that
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  the feminine values can really step up and help us lead in.
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  So they so we so they need you, we need you and The Time Is Now
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  to help bring those into the world, okay?
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  My third reason why it's so awesome to be a high EQ leader
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  is that it's really requires to always be learning a BL all To
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  be learning, right? Like always be closing or what
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  was that from? Yeah, from the movie, Glengarry,
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  Glen Ross, am I saying that right?
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  Anyway, always, be learning following your curiosity and
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  doing something that you would enjoy, right?
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  Maybe you're taking a class, it may have nothing to do with the
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  Work World. It might be more of a hobby or
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  passion project. To me, that's a pause, right?
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  Reading a book, perfect watching a TED, Talk.
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  Stimulating your brain in new ways so that you feel inspired.
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  Right. Getting back to inspiring note
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  and that it can be infectious. It's like something that you get
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  excited about and share with someone else.
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  So, whatever it is for, you find out what that might be and it's
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  really about what gets you excited.
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  So what I mean, what would you like to learn?
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  Maybe that's the way to start with that question.
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  And then, just do that instead, that's all that.
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  All, that's all it takes. And on a similar vein, I would
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  say, another reason that I love being a high EQ leader is to be
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  enthusiastic about ideas, is really, really awesome.
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  So so generate that enthusiasm give yourself permission to get
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  excited. And to me, this means really
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  just allowing your own Vitality. Your own aliveness to course
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  through your veins and do what you came here to do, right?
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  So what does that The for you that you feel excited about and
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  enthusiastic about maybe your present to it or maybe you bring
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  others along with you, you teach them what it is, because your
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  emotion is contagious and infectious, so that's the
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  emotional contagion, right? If you find it, exciting people
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  can read and pick up on that all the time, right?
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  In itself. That's inspiring and you're
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  motivating, others. You're not only motivating
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  yourself but others, see that and you that's your, that's your
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  inner light that's shining through and then they want to do
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  something that's that exciting for themselves.
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  Maybe it's a little different but they would be like, wow.
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  Maybe I'm going to take up this thing that I thought about a
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  while ago and really haven't done much with it.
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  I think a lot of times as we get older and we mature and we just
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  kind of get on with ourselves and our lives.
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  We forget that this is part of the fun of learning and be
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  enthusiastic means we're playful.
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  We actually relax more. It kind of tells our whole
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  bodies nervous system that we're good.
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  Like we don't need to be Zone scanning for threats as much.
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  And then there's just more joy there, right?
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  And that's just allowing yourself to do that.
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  A lot of times we're conditioned out of that sometimes we're
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  taught to not make a big deal out of it or just keep going,
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  you're fine. But the reality is like that
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  dumb that I was going to say numbs us out.
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  It dumbs us down to though, that's that's what came out.
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  So remember your enthusiasm counts and it's part of your
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  vitality and you and it helps to create that wave of
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  infectiousness. That can be so, so exciting.
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  And that's what high EQ leaders do, is they bring others along
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  with them, right? And so that's that's the idea
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  here. Okay, and then, the last one I
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  want to share in my set for today is to lead by example,
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  okay. What that what I mean by that is
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  you are not authentic leader, how uq L are true to who they
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  are, they don't make stuff up. That feels out of alignment or
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  say things because they think they should say it, they're
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  literally leading. By their own example because it
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  feels true and authentic and a lined with them.
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  Right. So that means if you don't want
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  to work on a Sunday, you don't work on a Sunday and you let
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  other people know that. That's not okay for you, right?
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  If you want to take a day off, then you take the day off,
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  right? You know, you need it.
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  So that means you don't check your email that day or you tell
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  people, you'll be offline, you help set expectations.
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  That's part of where this sometimes falls apart for people
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  if you're not a high EQ leader because there's no expectations
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  or Unifications that's really clear.
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  But the key here is doing exactly that.
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  Be clear, said, expectations and then go for what you want and I
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  think that that can really lead you to a place in space, that
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  feels supportive and Incredibly nurturing and nourishing for
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  yourself as a high EQ leader. And next thing, you know, my
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  guess is, you're going to feel way better be happier and be
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  more successful and productive as a result.
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