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The Power Of Thoughts: Everything Happens For A Reason With Melissa Deally · Mindful You

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Alan Carroll: Melissa, welcome.
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Melissa Deally: Thank you very much, Alan, good to be here.
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Alan Carroll: Well, it's exciting for for me to be with
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you. Because we share a lot in common. And so we already have a
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connection, which is great. Yes. And the deep connection that we
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have is mindfulness. And so what I like to do is have the
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audience experience your stories and about mindfulness and how
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you got into the mindfulness, umbrella. And various paths
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under the mindfulness umbrella, and how you bring mindfulness
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into the world to heal. To heal the stress and the agitation
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caused by the put them in close, but the chaos that's happening
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with all the stirring up of our thoughts. And so I'd like to
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welcome you to the mindful you podcast, and have added,
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Melissa Deally: well, thank you. And I'm just gonna go back a
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little bit in time, back to when I was in the corporate world,
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which was up until eight years ago. And back then I really
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didn't know anything about mine fullness. But sure, I'd heard of
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meditation, I'd never done it didn't really understand the
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value of it, I was in that go, go go doo doo doo world that the
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corporate world gets you caught up in. And then one day, big
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fish bought little fish. And I was just given an hour to clear
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out my desk. And after 24 years, not even a word of thanks. And
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in that moment, I knew three things, I knew I was never going
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to work for someone else. Again, whatever I did next had to be
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more service to the planet and humanity. And then I had no idea
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what that be. And that was really the start of my journey
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into mindfulness, because now I had time time to explore who I
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was, and what I wanted to do with the second half of my
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career, and to allow myself to be guided into that versus
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forcing it. And I literally went from the hotel world of
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corporate to health and wellness and health and wellness had
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never been on my radar, other than I, you know, tried to eat
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well and exercise and look after my health. And through a series
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of circumstances, I was very much guided into this work. And
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part of that was both of my daughter's going through
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concussions at a very similar time. And I don't know if you've
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ever experienced concussions in your household, but it's tough
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for anybody who have a concussion, let alone teenage
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girls, and one in particular who was in grade 12 At the time, and
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life just shuts down because the brain can't handle that normal
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level of energy that it used to be able to handle. So she
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couldn't go to school, she couldn't participate in all the
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fun stuff, all the other kids were doing, couldn't go to prom,
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couldn't go to graduation, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera.
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And feeling like I'm missing out on everything. And it's very
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easy to for people with concussions to slip into
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meditation, and it sorry, into depression. So I started
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learning about meditation and mindfulness to support her, and
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also started learning that everything happens for a reason.
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And there was a reason I got let go, there was a reason she had
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this concussion. And part of me being let go was so that I was
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around and had the time to support both my daughters
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through their healing journeys. So we started practicing
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mindfulness, and slowing down as part of the healing process for
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these concussions and stepping into guided meditation
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practices. And just allowing the time to sit still and be and you
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know, reading the research about how powerful this is, how
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healing it is, for our mind for our entire nervous system. I
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started learning about breath work. And again, we have our
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breath with us all the time. It's something that we can do
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anywhere to drop ourselves out of that fight or flight state
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and into our parasympathetic nervous system stage. And soon
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after working with both girls and supporting them through
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their healing journey, I had also connected with a company
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that specialized in brain health supplementation, so I was giving
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them really good nutrition to support the healing as well as
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seeing physiotherapist to help them. I became known in my small
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community for helping my girls recover and both did fully
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recover. And then I was asked to work at a clinic. Yeah, that was
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very good news. Thank you. And I was asked to work at a clinic, a
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holistic clinic that was opening to help more people with
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concussion recoveries. And there is a need I Live in a ski town
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and there's winter at skiing in the summer, it's downhill
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biking. So there is a lot of concussions. However, I couldn't
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work there because I couldn't get insurance because I didn't
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have any training. I just had my own learning research and
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experience with my daughters. So I realized I need to go back to
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school. So I did that I went back to school and became a
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health coach. And even that was a gift because I had never even
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heard of the term health coach before. But I had called a
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friend who was a life coach and thought maybe I should be a life
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coach that had kind of been bouncing in the back of my head
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and not landed. And I asked him where he did his training, and
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he said, You shouldn't be a life coach, you need to be a health
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coach. And I went, what, what's that, and I took that to be a
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gift from the universe, and started researching health
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coaching schools and literally started 10 days later, I found
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one that I really aligned with, and jumped right in. And one of
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the first things that I learned there was that self care is not
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selfish. And previously, I had always thought that it was and
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that I had to look after everybody else first before I
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could look after myself. And I loved how it was presented that
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it is the most selfless act. And I then added a little bit more
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of a mantra to that, that self care is the most selfless act
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because it allows you to show up and give the world the best of
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you instead of what's left of you.
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Alan Carroll: Oh, that's sweet. So you say that again. Go ahead.
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And
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Melissa Deally: self care is the most selfless act because it
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allows you to show up and give the world the best of you
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instead of what's left of you. And that was absolutely pivotal
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for me, because I realized that I was giving my loved ones the
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ones nearest and dearest to me what was left of me, right, I
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thought I was serving them first. But I was actually
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running on empty and giving them what was left of me. And when I
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flipped it on its head and decided that I could care for
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myself first, I did have more energy for them. And so then I
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was able to build into my day and build my day around my self
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care, which included the mindfulness of a yoga practice,
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which I love, absolutely love my yoga, the mindful meditation
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practice, you know, in starting and ending my day was the
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meditation. I built in a gratitude practice, because I
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learned that our thoughts are so powerful, and our thoughts
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impact our actions, our behaviors, our results. So if I
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could change my thoughts that would change my behaviors that
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would change my results. And why not create more positivity out
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there, right? A lot of us go to sleep stressed out, we wake up
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in the night, we're already thinking about what we need to
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do the next day, and we're not getting great sleep, which means
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we wake up tired, less resilient to the stresses of the day. What
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if we could go to bed and have a really good deep restorative
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sleep, and one step and that is simply going to bed with
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positive thoughts running through our mind, because I
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learned our unconscious mind will work on whatever those last
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thoughts are we have as we go to sleep, and it will work on them
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all night long. So what are you thinking about as you're falling
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asleep? Are you thinking about the action violent movie that
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you just watched? Are you thinking about the book that you
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just read? And what are you feeding your mind in those last
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minutes before you go to sleep? And so what I started doing was
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feeding my mind gratitude, and thinking about my day, what was
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I grateful for and writing it down in my journal. And that let
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me go to sleep with all those positive thoughts and have a
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deeper, more restorative sleep. It also had just a really
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profound impact on how I went about my day because now it was
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in my RAs system that I was looking for gratitude. Our brain
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is wired to
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Alan Carroll: look for danger that was the acronym,
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Melissa Deally: their reticular activation system, the RAS
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system in our brain, that's when it becomes aware of something.
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So just as an example, you go and buy a new car, and you've
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you've tested four or five different cars, and you've
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settled on a Subaru. You've never had a Subaru before. You
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haven't even noticed them on the road. But it was the best car in
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the test driving and you love your new Subaru and now you're
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driving around and oh my goodness, there's Subarus
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everywhere you look because it's in your reticular activation
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system, whereas it wasn't before right? So I was doing this with
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gratitude. And instead of my brain looking for the danger to
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protect me from it started looking for the things that I
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could be thankful for. So when I was able to raise my vibration,
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raise my happiness level because I'm looking for the good In
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people, I'm looking for the good in my day, versus just relying
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on my safety mechanisms that are looking for the danger and
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looking for the negativity. That's the power of gratitude,
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and having a gratitude journal, and changing our outlook on how
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we go through our day, how we go through our life. So those are
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some of the key steps that I am have implemented in the last
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eight years and continued because I implemented them all
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very soon after learning all of this. And I've continued my
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learning. And more recently, in 2022, I really dove into
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understanding the power of the unconscious mind, as well as
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hypnosis, and I became trained as a hypnosis teacher. And that
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is, again, tapping into the ability to go into a deep
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relaxation. Have the brainwaves that are a theta, brainwave
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level, where we are going inside? The answers are all
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inside us. When we slow down, and we pay attention. How many
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times do we get a symptom of an illness, and we ignore it, it's
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aging is seasonal allergies, is my genetics, as opposed to
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recognizing that that symptom is our body's way of talking to us
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and asking us to do something differently. And when I work
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with my clients, that's what I'm teaching is I'm teaching the
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awareness of the way that our body communicates with us. And
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we can tap into that when we slow down and get into that
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space of mindfulness. And I'm sure it's very similar to the
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work that you do, we just may approach it from different ways.
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Alan Carroll: One words that I would use stillness. Yes,
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between the sounds that you speak. The sound is a heat,
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fire. Stillness is a cool, quiet, still. And there's no
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stress and stillness. By training people to be still,
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especially with meditation, I'm a meditation becomes a daily
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practice that that I Ay, ay, I want. Yes. And I did my work
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with Sadhguru. And his shamba V. Practice and Sonia, and it's all
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about becoming still and, and I'm in the psychology business,
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and we deal with the ego and the being. And you were talking
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about the mind body relationship. Let's talk a
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little bit about that. Because it's important that people
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realize the power of your thoughts, to create the physical
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changes in your body. And that idea about gratitude is a real
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sweet idea to focus your attention on what you want to
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have happen in your life versus, you know, the things that you
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don't don't like or don't want. And just think about, oh,
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that's, that's really a valuable gift that you just gave our
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audience, I want to underline that with a big thank you.
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Melissa Deally: My pleasure. And yes, that mind body connection
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is so powerful. Every single experience that we've ever had,
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is stored in our mind and body in our cells, as well as in the
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filing cabinet in our unconscious mind. It retains
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every single memory without judgment, for later access by
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the conscious mind. And I think of the the mind, gives the
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directions and the body is simply the robot. And I'll give
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you an example of how powerful this is and how our thoughts not
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only change our, you know our actions and our behaviors and
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our results, but they will actually biochemically change
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our body. So if you were to close your eyes right now, and
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if you're driving listening to this podcast, please don't
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everybody else, just close your eyes. And imagine that you're
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standing in your kitchen and you can see all the counter spaces
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and you can see your refrigerator right in front of
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you. And I want you to go to your refrigerator and open up
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the door. And then open up one of the drawers in your
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refrigerator and pull out a nice, juicy yellow lemon. And as
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you do that, close the door, close your refrigerator door and
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lift that lemon up to your nose and smell that lemons sent. And
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now I want you to take that lemon over to the counter, get
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your cutting board, get yourself a knife and slice that lemon in
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half. And as you slice that lemon in half, you feel some
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juices spray out and land on your fingertips. And I want you
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to slice that one half in half again, and in half again. So now
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you have a nice one eight wedge of lemon, and bring that lemon
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up to your mouth and bite into it. It's so juicy. And then
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you're going to throw that rind away as you enjoy that lovely
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fresh lemon. And now I want you to open your eyes. And tell me
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what happened. Did you notice saliva start forming in your
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mouth, as you were imagining, slicing and biting into that
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lemon
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Alan Carroll: was like it was real, the same kind of reaction
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that I would have over the real lemon. My, my body was specially
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in my mouth, there was a bitter Oh, it's gonna be bitter. You
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know, I could feel it.
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Melissa Deally: Exactly. And so that shows you the power of our
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imagination, which is all in our unconscious mind, your ability
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to pull on past experiences to be able to create that image in
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your mind of that lemon. As if you were really doing it, the
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mind doesn't know the difference between what's real and what's
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imagined. And so as a result, even though I had to imagine it,
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the mind thought it was real. So it thought you're gonna eat the
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lemon. So it starts producing salivary enzymes in your body.
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How cool is that. So that's why I say the body is the robot of
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what we're thinking in our mind. And this is powerful, because
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when we tap into the unconscious mind, which is where we have
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access to 90% of what our mind can access versus the 10%. In
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our conscious mind, we have access to so many more
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resources. And this is the power of hypnotherapy. It's the power
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of mindfulness. It's the power of imagination. Willpower,
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people try to do things by willpower, make change
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behaviors, etc. And that is all conscious. And it doesn't work.
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Because we know and we know it doesn't work, because by the end
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of January, most people have fallen off their new year's
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resolutions, right. But when we instead tap into the unconscious
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mind, we can create behavioral change that lasts. And we can do
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it quickly and effectively. Because our mind controls the
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body to that extent. And this is really, really powerful
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knowledge to have. And it all ties into mindfulness, and
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understanding the importance of our mind, the value of our mind
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and our ability to calm our mind, which is so important in
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today's world because as you mentioned earlier, we're living
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in a stressed out stage, the world was the most stressed out
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it had ever been before the pandemic. And now it's worse and
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everybody looks around and sees everyone else stressed out and
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normalizes it and just assumes that it's okay. And they don't
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realize the downside negative effects that it's having on
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their health. 90% of all doctor's visits are due to
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stress. 65% of all chronic illness and disease is due to
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stress. So we as a human population, need to learn to
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calm our mind, which will calm our body and get us out of that
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fight or flight state that is meant to only be to get us to
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safety in dire moments of a tiger chasing us when we're
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hunting for food versus in and out of it all day long because
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your boss yelled at you when your kids are cranky and your
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you and your husband had a spat and you got stuck in traffic and
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you got a flat tire and you got to the gas station and they had
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no gas and all those other things that happened we need to
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learn to calm our bodies for long term health and wellness
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but also for our happiness today because in that stressed out
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state it's really hard to find happiness and joy and live in
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that place.
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Alan Carroll: I like to jump into the calm the body calm the
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body to me is well yeah, I got my mind knows I can't control my
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thoughts but I can control a lot of things about my body if I
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choose to. Got to give up the thoughts, but And you talked
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about breathing. And so let's talk a little bit about the
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value of conscious breathing.
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Melissa Deally: The value of conscious breathing is simply
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think that it does trick your brain into believing it's safe.
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And it gets you out of that fight or flight state and into
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your rest and digest state. And so it is very calming on the
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mind and the entire body. And again, it doesn't have to take
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long, all of the mindful mindfulness activities we're
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talking about can be done in little short spurts five minutes
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throughout the day, 15 minutes, you don't have to find an hour
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in your, in your calendar. To do this, just start with five
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minutes and build on that. And once you've built on that, you
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will notice that you're more productive, because you're less
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stressed, you're more focused, and then you're more productive,
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you get more done. And that in, in and of itself creates more
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time for you to spend in mindfulness. So breath work, my
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favorite technique is called 557. Breathing. And you
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literally breathe in for five counts, you hold for five
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counts, and you exhale for seven counts. And you do this for 10
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cycles. And the brain catches on and goes, hmm, I thought I was
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stressed out. But I'm breathing like a safe person, I must be
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safe. And that's when it will switch off the fight or flight
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system and turn on the rest and digest system. And that's
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because if you are running away from a tiger, you're going to be
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running hard. And therefore panting, there's no way your
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exhale is longer than your inhale in that stress moment of
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getting to safety. So by making the exhale longer than the
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inhale, it tells the brain you're safe. The other thing
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that it does is so often when we're in a stressed out state,
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is we've got all these thoughts ruminating in our mind, and we
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can't keep up. But when we have to start doing all of this
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counting of 557 and 10 cycles, I don't know about you, but I
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count the 557 in my head, but I count the 10 cycles on my
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fingers. So all of this concentration on the counting
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releases whatever was running around in your mind so
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frantically having you stressed out. So it has a double whammy
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positive effect. This can be used anywhere you can do this
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when you're driving and stuck in traffic and you're going to be
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late you can do this just sitting at your desk, you can do
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this before you eat a meal, it's actually really helpful to do
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that. Because it actually turns on your digestive system because
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it's a rest and digest state. And it allows your body to
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properly digest your meal and get the nutrients from that
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meal. You can do this if you wake up in the middle of the
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night, and you can't get back to sleep. Because the mind is
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already thinking about the next day. You shut that off, you
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start doing your counting. And you'll fall asleep again. If
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you'd like me fall asleep before you get to number eight. I don't
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do it very often, but when I do, I've never actually got past
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number eight before I fallen asleep again. So it's a very
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powerful technique. And if you would like I can just guide you
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through a couple of rounds of it so you can experience it. The
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listeners can experience it again, as long as we're not
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Alan Carroll: sure. Okay, my eyes.
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Melissa Deally: Yeah, I'm gonna have you close your eyes. Again,
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anybody listening and not driving close your eyes because
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just closing your eyes allows your brain to settle and calm
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because we get so much in through our eyes, so much
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information and when we close our eyes, it'll just that allows
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the brain to start calming. Of course, if you're driving please
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don't close your eyes, but you can do this with me anyway. So I
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want you to inhale 2345 Hold 2345 exhale 234567 inhale 2345
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Hold 2345 exhale 234567 inhale 2345 Hold 2345 exhale 234567
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inhale 2345 Hold 2345 exhale. 234567 inhale 2345 Hold 2345
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exhale 234567 So now open your eyes when you're ready? And how
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was that?
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Alan Carroll: You feel? grounded? Yes, you're you're no
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longer lost in the dream of thoughts you are anchored in an
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energy field in your in your body? Because that's where I'm
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putting my attention. Yes, I will go on, it's gonna
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Melissa Deally: say it's very, very calming for people. So the
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listeners are probably thinking, Oh, I just feel calmer, right? I
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only did five rounds. And it only took about two minutes. So
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do the 10 rounds, so that your brain goes hmm, I thought I was
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stressed out. But I'm breathing like a safe person, I must be
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safe, and it will switch into your rest and digest nervous
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system.
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Alan Carroll: Well, I love it. I love the practical things that
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you don't need to go to the university for 50 years or
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sitting on top of the mountain, you have access to this tool of
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mindfulness called breathing. become more conscious of your
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breathing. And you have to pay it in the Buddhist tradition
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they talk about disembodied, is your following your thoughts in
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body you're following your body. And anytime you can cut the
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connection between the mind doing the the mind thing and the
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body, it disrupts the the pattern, and you are released
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from the from the grip of the thoughts. And that's freedom.
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That's that's in India, they call it mukti to be able to
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release yourself from the grip of the thoughts. But most
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people, what do you mean, grip on my thoughts? What do you
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mean, they don't they don't understand the concept that the
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thought is something that exists in a space. And if you begin to
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focus on the space, rather than the thought, the thought becomes
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observable. And and when he can when you can observe the thought
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you can manage the thought to think thoughts of gratitude,
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rather than thoughts about things that would be detrimental
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to my physical body. And so that's real, powerful wisdom
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that you share with us. I really appreciate that.
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Melissa Deally: Well, and I think that ties in back to what
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I was saying earlier that everything happens for us.
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Right. So when we're in that moment of struggle, and
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potentially going into victimhood and the thoughts
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running around in our mind about why mean data out at Ah, yeah,
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if we can pull ourselves out of that thought pattern and into if
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everything happens for us, why is this happening? Now? What am
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I supposed to learn here? Because when we learn, we move
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through it and get beyond it. And there is always to learning?
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Why was I let go from work from my job that I love for 24 years.
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Because I hadn't yet found my purpose. I didn't even know I
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had a purpose to find in all honesty. However, that journey
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led me here where my purpose has been very clear. I've found my
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passion. I love this work. And if I hadn't been let go, I would
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have stayed where I was right sitting in the middle of my
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comfort zone. Why did my kids have concussions part of that
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was because I it was part of getting me to where I'm at, but
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also for them. My oldest daughter wasn't ready to go to
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university that year, she was doing what everybody else was
28:50
doing and applying and she got rejected by her first choice
28:54
University. So she applied it another one, that rejection was
28:57
a sign because it didn't come when all the other rejection
29:01
letters came out. It came later, she had been tentatively
29:04
accepted and then got rejected. And I wondered what the sign of
29:08
that rejection was and I didn't know it at the time. Then she
29:11
got accepted at her second choice University and the next
29:14
day got a concussion. And that told me, she simply wasn't meant
29:19
to go to university yet. And if she kept, you know, getting
29:23
rejected and applying and getting into other places that
29:25
wasn't going to work for the universal plan for her, right.
29:29
So they gave her a concussion which was also aligned with my
29:35
learning and moving me into health and wellness. And it had
29:38
her not go to university and to the following year when she was
29:42
much more mature and ready and able to go and live away from
29:46
home across the country. And everything happens for a reason.
29:52
And what I find is when I apply that the stress of whatever that
29:57
situation is is released Because I know what's happening for me,
30:02
not to me. And when I step into that place, I'm open to the
30:07
learning, it still might not be a great situation. But I'm open
30:13
to the learning. And I've moved myself out of victimhood, and
30:17
keeping myself in this stress. And that's the power of our mind
30:23
that we can do that we have 70,000 thoughts in our mind
30:27
every single day? What are you saying to yourself? If you spoke
30:33
to your friends, the way you speak to yourself, would you
30:35
even have any friends? Are you aware of what you're saying to
30:40
yourself, because a lot of it is deeply embedded in our
30:44
unconscious mind that was routed there in our, you know, zero to
30:48
six age group, or years, and is no longer serving us as adults,
30:55
it served us then it had a purpose, then it's no longer
30:58
serving us as adults. And it's the root of our limiting
31:02
beliefs. And so that's work that I do with clients as well as we
31:06
will use timeline therapy to release the negative emotions
31:10
that people are carrying around because they've been squashed
31:12
down. Because we've been taught not to feel our emotions, and
31:15
they're stored in our body in our cells, as I said earlier,
31:18
that can create toxicity in and of themselves and cause disease.
31:24
We release all of that. And we release those limiting beliefs,
31:29
and shift you into the beliefs that you want to have that will
31:34
serve you in moving forward in your life. And it's powerful
31:38
work. Our mind is so powerful, and we only know this much about
31:42
it. But the more I learn, the more I am absolutely blown away,
31:49
blown away by the power of our own mind that we carry with us
31:53
each and every day. And that unfortunately, this isn't taught
31:56
through our education system. But I truly wish it was we could
31:59
teach this to our elementary school students. It's starting
32:03
to happen, actually, at my local high school, they now do
32:07
actually have a mindfulness class, which teaches yoga to our
32:11
high school students, which I'm thrilled about, I started trying
32:14
to implement that back when my kids were in elementary school.
32:17
And at the time, unfortunately, I was told we can't have yoga
32:21
classes at school, because that's got religious
32:23
connotations. And we don't do religion in public school. And
32:26
that might count we just call it stretching class, then quiet
32:29
time and stretching class. It took me until my daughter was in
32:32
grade 10. And I was working at that holistic clinic. And we
32:36
owned a yoga studio as well. And it was right across the street
32:39
from the high school. And I was able to get our high school kids
32:42
to come to yoga classes during their gym class for one year.
32:47
And that was great. And then what happened is they had a gym
32:50
instructor go and do a mindfulness teaching course so
32:53
that she could then teach mindfulness in high school. So
32:56
we're getting there, we're getting there.
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Alan Carroll: I love it. My thought about the speaking piece
33:06
is that the the creation of the pause, between the sounds can be
33:12
taught to very young children. And you can disrupt the
33:17
speaking, which is the ego, to shift to the empty space of the
33:22
being at an early age, then there's less resistance to
33:26
what's going on in front of them. Because there's now a
33:29
space you've been practicing between the sounds you speak,
33:33
but also disrupts the thoughts that you think. And then you get
33:37
to experience what's on the other side of the thoughts that
33:41
you're thinking, which is that infinite space of being, but you
33:44
never get to do that, because you're too You're too
33:48
constipated on your ego, you're hurt by your thoughts. And I
33:52
call that in my business, the the aeration of your thoughts
33:56
when you speak, just begin to aerate, put spaces. And you'll
34:05
notice that the oxygen flows through the empty spaces into
34:08
your body, and the and the relaxed waves of relaxation flow
34:13
through the empty spaces that you just created. And you're
34:18
speaking. And now that will be a lot without there'll be a it's
34:23
free. It's easy. You could you can easily teach a teacher to
34:29
play a game of let's play a game of pausing. And it's so easy and
34:38
it's so relaxing and allows so many things to happen and it's
34:41
an it's free. Well, before we complete the podcast, I just
34:45
want to thank you. Melissa was listening to an oracle system of
34:51
wisdom you have focused your energy on a particular path and
34:55
you are building your muscles on that path and You're able then
35:00
to coach other people who are on that path by using these
35:04
practical gifts that you've developed in your own in your
35:08
own experience. And before it, is there anything else you'd
35:15
like to share with the audience, that that would be ways of
35:19
contacting, you know, programs that we can contact you that
35:26
you'd like to share now with the audience?
35:28
Melissa Deally: Sure, thank you very much. So the easiest way to
35:31
contact me is simply Melissa at your guided health journey.com.
35:35
Or if you go to my website, your guided health journey.com, there
35:38
is a contact button there that you can use as well. One of the
35:42
programs that is new for this year that I'll be teaching every
35:45
month, I'm actually teaching it this Saturday and again, in
35:48
March and onwards, is learn self hypnosis is this is a tool that
35:54
you can have to use for the rest of your life. That is a form of
35:59
mindfulness, it's tapping into the power of your unconscious
36:02
mind, to affect the change that you want to create in your life.
36:06
It puts you in the driver's seat, it gives you that freedom
36:09
that you mentioned earlier, Alan, and it's a one day
36:13
masterclass. It's very experiential. It's a ton of fun,
36:18
because again, remember, the unconscious mind is all about
36:21
imagination. Playfulness is literally the age of a toddler.
36:25
So that's where we get to play during that day. And you walk
36:28
away with skills that as I said, you can use for the rest of your
36:31
life that will give you 10,000 times more focus on whatever it
36:35
is that you want to achieve. And you can literally Hypnotize
36:39
yourself into calm into joy into passion into love into health,
36:43
into all the positives that you want in your life. And it's easy
36:48
to do. And you can again, do it anytime, anywhere in just five
36:52
minutes once you learn now.
36:55
Alan Carroll: Oh, wow, that's exciting.
36:58
Melissa Deally: It is. It really is. I've had so much fun
37:01
teaching it this year, and had great testimonials from
37:05
participants that have already done the course with me. Again,
37:08
we could be teaching it in elementary school, we're not.
37:11
But I love sharing this with the world to give people the tools
37:14
and allow them to understand the power of their mind, and be able
37:18
to have tools that they can use every day for the rest of their
37:21
life.
37:22
Alan Carroll: Wonderful. Well, thank you for all the tools and
37:26
experiences of using the tools and how it altered your life and
37:31
changed your life. And I especially especially what
37:34
resonates in my mind is that journal of gratitude. That was a
37:38
nice thought about oh yeah, I could focus on giving life
37:42
support to that thought, rather than giving life support to
37:45
these other thoughts. So thank you again, Melissa, for being a
37:49
wonderful guest on the mindful podcast.
37:53
Melissa Deally: It's absolutely my pleasure. Thank you for
37:55
having me, Alan.
37:56
Alan Carroll: Okay. Bye bye.