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E90: Authentic Male Leadership, Taylor Swift, Biden + Q& A (LIVE) · The Lila Rose Show

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There's a lot to talk about. Today was going to be pretty jam
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packed. I'm going to keep it to an hour
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because that's the window that we have, but there's so much for
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us to cover. We're going to be talking about
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spiritual leadership and what to look for in a man as women and
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what really is the what does that even mean to be a spiritual
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leader? There's some viral clips that
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have gone around recently about this topic in the Christian
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world. And I think it's a very
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important topic because it really determines in many ways
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expectations for dating if you're a Christian and for
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marriage and how you even operate within a marriage as a
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husband or a wife. So I think it's very, very
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important. We're going to look at also what
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Scripture has to say about spiritual leadership.
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There's a lot to learn. We're also going to talk about
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someone who's been in the news frequently and you've probably
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already heard a lot about her and that's Taylor Swift.
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She's obviously dating Kansas City Chiefs, the the star Travis
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Kelsey football player that's been headline news wall to wall
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for weeks and months and maybe we'll be for years, who knows.
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And of course, the Super Bowl is this Sunday, so we're going to
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talk about Taylor Swift. Is Taylor Swift a psyop?
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It's just like a psychological operation by the government to
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get Democrats elected. A bunch of people are saying
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that in the kind of conservative right wing space.
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We're going to unpack that. And then I think there's some
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very important things that are coming out of the White House
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that people should know about and comments from the president,
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from President Biden. So we're going to do that too.
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And we're also going to take questions and do AQ and a.
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So we already have questions. And and then you guys can leave
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questions in the chat or comment a question.
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And I will be looking at the chat.
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Let me make sure I have the right chat up here so that I can
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be watching for comments as they come in.
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So thanks for being here. Thanks for tuning in for the
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That's a great way to start alive with all that
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encouragement. All right, let's start with the
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first topic today on spiritual leadership.
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So we have talked in the podcast before about the roles of women
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and men. We've talked about obviously
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spirituality a lot in faith and but I think we've only scratched
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the surface. There's so much more that can be
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said about how we should live, live together in in a marriage,
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how that, what that looks like for a man and a woman to come
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together and be not just married in a beautiful marriage, but to
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grow together towards heaven. And I've, I'm a newlywed ish.
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You know, I'm five years in. I am not an expert on marriage
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from experience because I'm only five years in, but I've spent my
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20s and I have deeply been inspired by the writings and the
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examples and the wisdom of other people.
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And then of course, there's what God says about marriage and God
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says about men and women in a marriage and leadership and
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spirituality. And so I want to go there.
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And the reason I'm talking about this right now is because I
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think it's a common question that comes up in dating when
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people are looking for a spouse. How should I value, what should
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I value when it comes to spirituality?
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Obviously you want someone, a person of faith, a person of
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principles, a person of goodwill, you want someone that
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you can fall in love with. But what should you be looking
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for in terms of a husband? Do you want a spiritual leader?
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What does it mean to want a spiritual leader if you're a
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woman in a husband? And for men listening, what does
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that mean for them to be a spiritual leader?
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Does that mean the woman never does any spiritual leadership
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and she's just sort of like being passive in that
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arrangement? No, I don't think so.
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We're going to get into that. And then there's a lot of, I
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think, dating advice on the Internet and, you know, in the
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podcast space, and there was a very viral clip recently about a
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young woman expressing her desire for a spiritual leader.
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We're going to watch that and unpack that as well.
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But I want to start with what Scripture says because that
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really is core to understanding as Christians what it means,
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what spiritual leadership is. And I first want to start with
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the ultimate example of the spiritual leader, who is, of
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course, Jesus Christ our Lord. And how did he live out his
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spiritual leadership? Obviously, he was a teacher, he
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was a preacher, he was a healer, but most importantly, he is God
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the Savior, and he literally gave up his life for us.
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So I think a core principle for anybody who wants to be a
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leader, period, and that's a spiritual leader included, of
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course, is that they are willing to give themselves up for the
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person that they are leading, whom they are actually serving.
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And Jesus Christ, of course, our Lord, is that example of that
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perfect leadership, which is sacrificial leadership, even to
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the point of death for the sake of his sheep, for the sake of
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us, the people that he's leading.
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So anybody who wants to be a leader, that means the first
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shall be last, right? You want to be the person who's
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serving as, as the core expression of your leadership,
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you're serving the, the souls and the welfare of the people
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that you are in leadership of. So that's very important because
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I think there's, there's, you know, demonstrations of
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leadership in today's world where it's more dictatorial.
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I mean, they are not loving sacrificial leaders.
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They are strong men who are abusing and misusing their
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people. And this can happen in a
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marriage, this can happen in a business, this can happen in
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government. And that is not true leadership,
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right? That's certainly not Christian
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leadership. That is actually a, a
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destruction of authentic leadership.
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So I wanted to start with that, that the principle of the
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leadership is that it's someone who is exerting themselves and
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has an authority in their exertion.
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So they are in a position of authority for the sake of the
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welfare of the people that they are leaders of.
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They're not dictators. They're not masters and slave,
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you know, slave masters. And in the negative sense, they
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are the, they are the servants who are actually guiding these
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people to heaven ultimately and to who they're created to be.
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So let's start with that, but let's go to what scripture says.
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I'm going to start with Second Corinthians 614.
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This is something that has been, I think, commonly quoted.
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I've heard this quoted. So I grew up evangelicals, you
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guys know, and I've heard this frequently, I think in maybe
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that's not Bible studies, but church in the context of like
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this is what you're looking for in a spouse, the idea of being
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equally yoked. And I think there's a lot of
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truth to this concept, but I want to unpack it a little bit.
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So let's go to the quote or the, the the verse.
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Second Corinthians 614 says do not be unequally yoked with
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unbelievers. You can also have a a
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translation of this that says matched or you know, matched
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with an unbeliever. So this is where people think
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it's can be referring to marriage.
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Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers for what partnership
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has righteousness with lawlessness or what fellowship
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has light with darkness. So you've heard this thing about
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be equally yoked. You know, if you're too oxen,
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you're have your yoke on and you're pulling a cart and you're
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not equally yoked. 1 oxen is slowing the other guy down.
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It's going to be a pain to pull that cart.
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You can't really get your work done.
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That's the that's the image this evokes.
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And there's a lot of truth to that.
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And it certainly can apply to marriage.
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You want someone who's going to pull their weight, so to speak,
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morally, spiritually. You want someone who can be a
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partner with you in your journey to heaven and to virtue and in
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service of others in your future family, your kids.
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You want a partner, a true partner, fellow oxen or ox
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pulling that load with you, right?
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So there is absolute truth to that.
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And I think this is true in business.
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I think this is true in general in life and, you know, deep
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friendship. You want someone who can be a
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match for you. I think what that looks like
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when you unpack it in terms of OK, well, do they have to?
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If I'm a Catholic, do they have to be Catholic, right?
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If I'm, you know, I am, I'm someone who prays an hour a day.
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Do I need someone who prays an hour a day?
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There's a lot of a, a lot of questions that can arise and I
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think generally speaking, I would encourage everyone to
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marry the person you know. Yes, if you're Catholic, you
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should marry someone practicing their Catholic faith and you are
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you have to marry someone who's willing to raise your kids
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Catholic. That is actually a as something
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you have to do as a Catholic and someone who's going to support
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you going to mass and fulfilling your obligations to God as a
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Catholic. And I think any Christian ever,
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any evangelical should want somebody who is passionately
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aligned with their values and wants to seek after God.
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But the spirituality, how that's done can look very different.
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I'm going to unpack that more in a moment, but and set that
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aside. I'm going to go to go to the
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next verse. So this is from where is this
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from? Let's see, this is Ephesians, I
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believe Ephesians 5, and it says the Christian household.
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OK, be subject to one another. Ephesians 521 be subject to one
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another out of reverence for Christ.
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Wives, be subject to your husband as to the Lord, for the
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husband is the head of the wife, as Christ is the head of the
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church, his body, and is Himself its Savior.
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So right there, clear as day, you see spiritual headship.
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Your husband is the head, just like Christ is the head of the
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church, as the church is subject to the wife or to the Christ.
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Excuse me, As the church is subject to Christ, so let wives
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also be subject in everything to their husbands.
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I mean, that's a hard pill to swallow for a lot of feminists
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today, right? I'm subject to my husband.
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What does that even mean? We'll unpack.
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It goes on. Husbands, love your wives as
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Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he
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might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of
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water with the Word, that he might be present, that he might
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present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or
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wrinkle or any such thing, and that she might be holy and
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without blemish. Even so, husbands should love
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their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves
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himself, for no man ever hated his own flesh.
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And it goes on to say, for this reason a man shall leave his
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mother and father and be joined to his wife, and the two shall
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become one flesh. This is a profound mystery.
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It refers to Christ and the Church.
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Let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the
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wife see that she respects her husband.
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So there's a clear delineation here that there is a mutual
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subject subject being subject to one another in Christ.
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That's the first line. Be subject to one another out of
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reverence for Christ. There's a mutual sharing of 1's
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bodies. Obviously your spirituality,
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your heart, body, mind, soul, You are one flesh.
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You leave and cleave. Leave your parents and
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especially since a man leaves his parents and cleaves to his
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wife, but the but the husband is the head of the wife.
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He is the spiritual head of the wife and in premarital
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counseling when I was getting preparing to get married to my
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husband, who I am extremely grateful for increasingly as I'm
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married because he is the best. I mean, he's someone that I can
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submit myself to, I can listen to.
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I want to, you know, obey in that sense of not that he's like
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lording over me, but that he's someone that I trust and he is a
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man of virtue and character. He's not perfect.
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I'm not perfect, but he's someone striving for excellence
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every day, working hard towards that.
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That is a huge blessing to me. I know that is a privilege that
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I have as a wife to be married to him.
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And in our premarital counseling, the you know, the
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the the way that this was unpacked for us, which I thought
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was really prudent was listen, this isn't again, some dictator
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husband, you know, calling the shots every day for the wife and
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ordering her around. This is a servant leader husband
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and in very challenging moments are in really big decisions in
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all things. The spouses should work together
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and hear each other out and go deep and really hear each
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other's concerns and husband and wife together.
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And that wife will have great wisdom at times and the husband
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will have wisdom at other times. But that when there needs, when
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there might be a disagreement about a final call to make about
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a big decision, right? That in that sense, in those
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rare cases where there really is this real disagreement that
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they've spent a lot of time praying through and
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collaborating on, they can't come to a full agreement, then
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it is good for the husband to be the tiebreaker.
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And yes, maybe part of his way to be a tiebreaker is to say,
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listen, I know that I want it this way, but out of love for
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you, I'm going to go your way. And that's the way he chooses to
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break the tie in terms of their disagreement on this, you know,
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significant matter. And that would be servant
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leadership in a sign of love. If he chooses to do that, right?
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Or maybe he feels convicted, he has to go lead this in this
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direction. But that in that moment, it is,
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I think the Christian thing for the woman to say, yes, yes, I,
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I, I, I, you know, I, I know we disagree.
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We've, we've heard me out, we flushed this out, we've prayed
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about it, we've gotten counsel, whatever.
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And I, I go your way in the end because you are my husband and
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God has given you the grace as my husband to lead.
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Now, if you are married, unfortunately to someone who's
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become abusive towards you or there's been some horrible
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things happen, you know, after the fact of marriage, which
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again, these are stories you hear all the time.
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Maybe someone listening knows this story or they live the
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story. There's different, there's a
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different ball game, right? You're dealing with someone who
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you may need to legally separate from to protect yourself or your
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children. That's a different question I'm
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dealing with right now. Men of goodwill, imperfect men
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of goodwill in a marriage, imperfect women of goodwill who
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are working things out. OK, That's what this advice is
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for in this in this, I believe this Bible verse is for all
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right. So I want to do one more Bible
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verse here, and this is from where is this Timothy?
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This is Timothy. OK, I'm like, where did I know?
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I've heard the verse. But first is it's first Timothy
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3, the qualifications of bishops.
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This is important because I think it helps understand the
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longing of some Christian women to want a certain kind of
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spiritual man. And I'm going to read what it
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says. It says.
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The saying is sure, if anyone aspires to the office of Bishop,
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he desires a noble task. Now a Bishop must be above
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reproach, the husband of one wife, temperate, sensible,
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dignified, hospitable, an apartment teacher, no drunkard,
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not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, and no lover of
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money. He must manage his household
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well, keeping his children submissive and respectful in
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every way. For if a man does not know how
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to manage his own household or he a household, how can he care
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for God's church? He must not be a recent convert.
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He or he may be puffed up with conceit and fall into the
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condemnation of the devil. Moreover, he must be well
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thought of by outsiders, or he may fall into reproach and the
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snare of the devil. And then it goes on to Deacon
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saying, deacons must be serious, not double tongued, not addicted
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to too much wine, not greedy for gain.
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They must hold the mystery of the faith with a clear
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conscience. Onward, OK.
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And then it says the women likewise must be serious, not
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slanderers, but temperate, faithful in all things.
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Deacons also should be husband of one life.
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What if life and manage their children and households well,
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etcetera. So it's talking about leadership
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in the church. Now, obviously there are leaders
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in the Church who are married and in the Catholic Church
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there's leaders who are celibate, many of them which are
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priests, right? You can actually be a Bishop and
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be married. It is possible that means not
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that you're a priest and you're married, but you can be elevated
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in the church and leadership to some of these positions.
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And I believe be married. Fact Check me if I'm wrong on
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that. But I've heard it said that
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especially if you're coming from a different faith tradition
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where you are within the Catholic under, under the
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papacy, but you are, maybe you were married as an, you're an
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Anglican priest and you were married and then you become
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Catholic. And that's still the line of the
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still the line of Apostolic succession, meaning you are,
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you're, you're not in obedience to Rome and as an Anglican, but
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you were when you became a priest, you still had the actual
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grace of becoming a actual priest and now you're in
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obedience, but you still could be married.
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So anyways, that's not really an important aside, except to say
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that's why it's talking about wives here.
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And then Deacon certainly can have wives in the Catholic
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Church too. And then certainly in Protestant
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denominations, etcetera. You know, pastors have wives,
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etcetera. So, but here it has very
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specific things to say about spiritual leadership and what
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that practically looks like, right?
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And it says things like you've got to be serious and not double
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tongued. You have to manage your
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household. Well, you have to be, if you
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scroll up, actually Franco for me, let's go up for all of us.
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You know you have to not be a lover of money, not
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materialistic, dignified, temperate, sensible, a teacher.
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Not violent, but gentle. I mean, these are really
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beautiful. These are really beautiful
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qualifications that it's presenting as what signs of
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spiritual leadership look like. All right, let's go now to what
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does this mean for everyday people or for us who are married
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or dating or wanting to date and trying to sort out a spouse?
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There is a clip I want to show you from a podcast that I found
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out about recently. It's become really viral.
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A lot of clips from it called Girls Gone Bible.
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And there's these two women who talk with each other.
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They're dear friends about spiritual things, which I think
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is beautiful. Anyways, hopefully I'll meet
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them at some point. I think they're doing some
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beautiful things. But one of the ladies shared her
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heart about what she's looking for in a spouse.
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This clip went viral and it got some pushback as well as praise
21:09
from people of varying opinion. So let's watch the clip.
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OK, let me know if you guys can hear this one.
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Thing somebody asked Do you guys know why you're single?
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And I'll speak for myself. I know exactly why I'm single
21:26
because I've never dated a guy. My God would have.
21:29
Approved for me not to say. Let me clarify and say that I've
21:33
actually only dated great men. I have a great picker.
21:36
I've only dated really wonderful guys, Good people to their core.
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Obviously not perfect and clearly not from me, because we
21:42
would be together if that was the case.
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But like good, good people. But never somebody who's further
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along in their faith than I am. Yeah.
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And I know without a shadow of a doubt that the person God has
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for me is like so far along in their faith than I am.
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And I have such a desire, like a true, a yearning to be LED
22:02
spiritually. I just want to sit and look up
22:05
at a man talking to me about theology and I'll be so happy,
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you know what I mean? And so I, there's always been
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unfortunately, not in like an insulting way, but there's like
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a, there's a level of respect that I'll have for the person
22:20
that I'm with when that's the case.
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And I've never experienced that. You know what it is.
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OK, so I love the spirit behind what she's saying because she's
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just expressing her heart for what she wants in a husband.
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I mean, and she wants a man of spiritual, a spiritual leader.
22:37
The reason she got some pushback, which I can also
22:40
understand, is people were saying, well, you're saying
22:43
basically a spiritual leader. Well, first of all, she sort of
22:45
saying the guy she dated before we're not spiritual enough.
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And a spiritual leader to her is someone in part that she can sit
22:51
down at the feet of and listen to them talk theology, right.
22:55
And by the way, she may very well be called to that to to
22:57
marry someone who's like a preacher, like a theologically
23:02
very well versed man whose job is to help teach other people.
23:06
That's maybe his profession in addition to him being a husband
23:10
and a father, you know. So I think that could be
23:12
beautiful and sounds like something that she desires in
23:14
her heart. And so I hope the best for her
23:16
and that she can find that that's God's will for her life.
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Not every Christian woman is called to marry a preacher.
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Not every Christian woman is going to be called to marry a
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man who is really well versed in theology.
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And that is not the marker of spiritual maturity.
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And I think that's an important point.
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And that's where somebody, some people in the comment section
23:33
were like, this is not, this is not necessarily spiritual
23:36
leadership. And you're, you're setting up
23:37
the wrong expectations for women.
23:39
I do think we take things too personally all the time on the
23:42
Internet. Someone shares what they want or
23:44
what their hopes are and people judge them and say, well, that's
23:47
not right. That's not for everyone.
23:49
Of course, it's not for everyone.
23:50
That person was sharing what they hoped for or what they
23:53
liked or what their dream was. And that doesn't mean it has to
23:56
be everyone. So I think first, to give Girls
23:59
Gone Bible credit, they're not saying this is necessary for
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everyone. She's sharing her own heart's
24:04
desire, which again, I think is beautiful.
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But I do think it does exist in the Christian and even the the
24:11
evangelical and Catholic worlds. There does exist this temptation
24:15
at times, I think, for some girls who are very spiritual and
24:20
very much into their faith to have maybe a bit of an idol when
24:24
it comes to their idea of what spiritual leadership looks like
24:28
in a man. And the expectations that they
24:30
have are not necessarily good. And what I mean by that is maybe
24:34
they pray the holy hour every day, or they, you know, they
24:36
praise and worship every day for an hour or whatever their prayer
24:39
practice is. And they expect that that is how
24:42
their husband should and will be.
24:44
And they look for that. And they look for these
24:46
manifestations of spirituality that maybe they themselves have,
24:51
but they think need to be exist in their spouse.
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Therefore that spiritual leadership looks like a man who
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prays for an hour a day or who does praise and worship really,
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you know, emotionally or someone who is really charismatic and
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says they hear from God all the time.
25:07
That someone who's always reading theology books,
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whatever, right? None of those things are bad.
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All of those things can be really beautiful and good, but
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that does not define spiritual leadership.
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You saw how Scripture define spiritual leadership.
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Jesus Christ lay down his life and you saw how they defined it
25:23
for a Bishop and for a Deacon. And that is not even necessarily
25:27
for everyone anyways. And we also see that spiritual
25:30
leadership has a lot to do with love and service and virtue and
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not necessarily these other aspects of spirituality that we
25:39
can value some of us more than others.
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So I want to show next a quote from a young woman on Instagram
25:48
that I thought was really wise. Let's pull up Annalise.
25:51
OK, so here's an account that I found recently.
25:54
She is on Twitter and Instagram. She's a young married mother and
25:59
she writes about femininity. She says some really beautiful
26:02
things. She wrote this, I believe it was
26:05
in response to Girls Gone Bible indirectly, but I thought she
26:08
made some good points and I wanted to read it.
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She says now being married 5 plus years, I can tell you that
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marrying a man who can talk theology with with is one of the
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least important things to me. So she's saying I don't really
26:23
care so much if you talk theology to me or with me.
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Men that can talk theology eloquently even are everywhere.
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OK, maybe not everywhere, but definitely there's men who talk
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theology and that doesn't necessarily mean they're they're
26:36
good men. You know the devil can talk
26:38
theology, right? How does he respond to conflict?
26:42
What is his relationship towards his emotions?
26:44
Does he treat you like a woman? These questions affect your life
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far more than how well read he is.
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And then I think there was another side.
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And she says, I can confidently say that my idea of what it
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means to be LED spiritually has done a 180 since actually being
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married. I'm not downplaying the
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importance of theology. Hear me out.
27:02
You have endless books and resources at your disposal.
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Your husband doesn't need to be a Spurgeon.
27:06
So she's, I think, Protestant evangelical.
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She's talking about Charles Spurgeon, who is a famous, I
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think, preacher and teacher from the 19th century.
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I believe to be mature in the faith.
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If he's humble, works hard, prioritizes duty over comfort,
27:21
and cares for the people in his life, you've got a spiritual
27:24
leader. Bingo on the last line,
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Annalise. If he's humble, works hard,
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prioritizes duty over comfort, and cares for the people in his
27:31
life, you've got a spiritual leader.
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Now I will say that you need to anybody needs to, man or woman,
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depending on no matter their personalities, needs to take
27:44
time for prayer. And it is possible for a man to
27:48
be a very virtuous Goodman who struggles with taking time for
27:52
prayer. And that's where that doesn't
27:54
mean he's not a spiritual leader because spirit is more than
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prayer. You know, it's how we live our
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work is prayer, how we love is prayer.
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You know, our whole life should be prayer.
28:03
But you we don't want to downplay the power of prayer and
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the importance of taking time for prayer and theological
28:07
study. But again, that is not a certain
28:11
amount of that or certain appearance of that doesn't mean
28:13
the prerequisite for a spiritual leader in a marriage.
28:17
So I'll just end here with my final take on this and and some
28:20
personal a personal take too. When Joe and I got married, I
28:25
was most drawn to his virtue, his intellect, his values,
28:31
obviously very attracted all of these things.
28:34
And he certainly had profound respect and devotion for God and
28:39
for for our faith. How he lived it out looked
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different than me when we got married.
28:44
It looks different today, although we've gotten more
28:45
similar as we've been married. But my prayer practices were not
28:50
his. He had different prayer
28:51
practices than me. And, you know, you could say
28:54
technically, because I at the time, I think I was doing a holy
28:56
hour a day. And, you know, I had a certain
28:57
prayer practice as a, as a single woman at the time who
29:00
didn't have kids yet and, and other, the other things I do
29:03
now. So my prayer has changed.
29:05
But at the time, you know, if you added up the amount of
29:08
physical time he spent, like in prayer, it might have been less
29:12
than me. And I remember at one point I
29:14
was thinking about that, right? We were preparing to get married
29:17
and I was like, Oh gosh, is this that, you know, is this an
29:20
issue? Like what does it mean that I'm
29:22
being I'm in some sense praying more now.
29:25
He was probably praying more than me because he's such a good
29:27
person and just living his day. But again, like that, this idea
29:31
of like, and it can be hyper spiritualize of sitting down in
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prayer before God and, you know, doing a holy hour of doing
29:37
adoration. This was this is very beautiful.
29:40
It is a good thing. And so I remember talking to a
29:42
spiritual guide, a director, and they reminded me again, and I
29:48
knew this was true, that you are not, we are not in a marriage
29:53
called to, you know, look, it's not good.
29:56
So much for us to demand, hey, they live out their spirituality
29:59
the way we do. They live out their devotion to
30:02
God the way they do. We must have profound respect
30:05
for the way they relate to God because people relate to God
30:07
differently and there's different kinds of
30:10
spiritualities. And that the core that we're
30:12
looking for in a marriage is, is this someone who is a leader in
30:16
the sense of their sacrifice, their virtue, their work, and
30:21
their love. And so that would be my final
30:23
advice to the ladies listening that you are good to want
30:30
spiritual leadership. It's good to want that, that you
30:32
should try to be take, take leadership of yourself in terms
30:38
of want to be the best you can be and make time for prayer in
30:42
your own life. You know, don't expect someone
30:44
else to do the work for you is what I'm saying.
30:45
But in a marriage, yes, you want someone that you can respect
30:49
their faith and their values so much that what if there's a
30:54
tiebreaker decision to be made? If there's a tiebreaker moment
30:57
where they need to, someone needs to call the shot and it
31:00
should be the husband that you can in peace submit to that, say
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yes, I trust you and I respect you and I will go your way and I
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know God will bless that. So that's the final advice
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there. Hope that was helpful.
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I do think this is a very important topic.
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And so please, you know, send me your thoughts on it.
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I'd love to hear them. Don't be afraid of marriage.
31:21
Don't be afraid of men, women listening.
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There are very good men in the world there, of course, a lot of
31:28
people who've been hurt, but there are such good men in the
31:30
world. And the that good man won't
31:33
necessarily look like, doesn't need to look like some
31:37
theologically impressive preacher to be the spiritual
31:42
leader that you need. Maybe you're called to be with
31:45
that preacher guy, and that's beautiful too.
31:48
Keep discerning it, keep exploring it.
31:50
God will guide you. OK, we're going to go now to
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Taylor Swift. What a great next thing to talk
31:58
about after spiritual leadership.
31:59
She's dating someone, Travis Kelsey.
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Is he a spiritual leader? We're not really going to
32:03
psychoanalyze that one. I don't know.
32:05
My understanding is he's not necessarily living a faith, but
32:09
maybe he is. I'm not going to even make up
32:12
opinions about that because I don't know.
32:13
But we have some opinions about whether or not Taylor Swift is a
32:16
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All right, Taylor Swift, is she a psyop?
33:08
Have you guys seen this story? This has been this has been
33:13
making the rounds on Twitter, both left and right wing
33:17
Twitter, mind you are XI should say and Taylor Swift has been in
33:22
the news constantly. She is dating Travis Kelsey, who
33:26
I believe is the tight end. I'm going to be embarrassingly
33:29
wrong here because I am not the biggest football fan, but he is
33:32
on the team for the Kansas City Chiefs and he is going to the
33:36
Super Bowl this Sunday. As you guys know, I think
33:39
against the 49ers, which is my team or should be my team, I'm
33:42
from the San Francisco Bay Area. I might be going for the Kansas
33:46
City Chiefs. So like cheering for them in
33:49
part because Harrison Butker, a Catholic guy who's a wonderful
33:53
guy, is on the Kansas City Chiefs as well.
33:56
And I think that's super cool. And I know some of the owners of
33:59
the Kansas City Chiefs who are pro-life.
34:00
So I think there's just like a lot of cool things happening
34:02
with the Kansas City Chiefs. All right, So what we're going
34:06
to do is, first of all, what is a psyop?
34:08
What is a psyop? Psychological operations are to
34:12
convey selected information and indicators to audiences to
34:16
influence their motives and objective reasoning.
34:19
So basically the government or these big corporations are
34:22
controlling the narratives in order to get people to vote or
34:28
behave a certain way. And so they use people like
34:31
celebrities in special conspiracies to control
34:35
populations. Right?
34:36
That's the idea here. OK, so is she as high up?
34:41
Let's pull up this headline. This is so funny.
34:44
Where is the and the reason people are saying that sorry
34:47
for? We want to make sure we give the
34:49
context here. She endorsed Joe Biden in the
34:52
last election. Joe Biden won.
34:54
She is now dating a huge football star and she's headline
34:58
news and she has so much influence.
34:59
She's obviously this wildly talented singer.
35:02
And so the idea is she is positioning herself by dating
35:06
this football star to be even more influential for more sort
35:09
of like middle America. So not just like chicks, but
35:12
like football dudes. And that means she has more
35:15
control over the way people vote.
35:17
And therefore, if she comes out for Biden again, Biden's going
35:20
to win. And so this is a plan.
35:22
This is a plan all along. OK, let's this is a video here
35:26
or let's go to the tweet actually.
35:28
So there's a tweet here that let's pull that tweet up.
35:33
OK, so here's a commentator saying Mike Cripple, I think is
35:38
his name. And he says Chris Bill crispy
35:42
crispy, Mike Crispy. And he says the NFL is totally
35:45
rigged for the Kansas City Chiefs, Taylor Swift, Mr.
35:48
Pfizer, Travis Kelce, all to spread Democrat propaganda.
35:53
Calling it now, Casey wins, goes to Super Bowl.
35:55
He's right. That didn't happen.
35:57
Swift comes out at the halftime show and endorses Joe Biden with
36:00
Kelsey at midfield. It's been an op since day one.
36:06
All right, well, some of that has already come true.
36:09
So this, it's so funny here because, yeah, of course, Travis
36:16
Kelsey has gone to the Super Bowl.
36:18
But this whole idea that Taylor Swift shows up and then endorses
36:20
Joe Biden on the field, I don't think that's going to happen.
36:22
But who knows? She did endorse Biden before.
36:27
There's another article out. Let's go to the next one from or
36:32
the Joy Reid clip. Actually, there's another clip
36:34
we want to show here. So the very left wing
36:38
commentator Joy Reid is saying here that Taylor Swift, this is
36:43
the actually the tweet. So this is the Post Millennial,
36:45
which is a right wing conservative news source, and it
36:48
says Joy Reid explains how Taylor Swift has been a Democrat
36:52
operative since 2018. Then she gets triggered by Jack
36:55
Prostebiak saying that she's a Democrat operative.
36:58
I know Jack, he's hilarious and very talented, and he has
37:01
tweeted this saying that Taylor Swift is a psyop.
37:04
OK, so in one sense they're right that yes, Taylor Swift
37:08
wields a lot of influence and I'm sure the Democrats around
37:10
her love it and she'll probably come out for bite in this
37:12
election. Let's just get real about that.
37:14
Those things are all true. That doesn't mean it's a big
37:16
conspiracy. It just means that a lot of
37:18
people in entertainment are Democrat and left wing and they
37:22
choose to use their platforms to promote their values, which are
37:25
unfortunately are opposed to the things that we know to be true.
37:27
Like they're pro abortion, their anti marriage, etcetera,
37:31
etcetera. The Pfizer things interesting.
37:33
Meaning Travis Kelsey is very pro vaccine and that's also
37:37
around a lot of people, understandably so because of the
37:39
vaccine mandates. That's another aspect to this.
37:42
I actually am happy to see Taylor Swift seem happy with
37:47
someone that she could marry named Travis Kelsey.
37:49
I think she's 34 years old. I think she wants to get married
37:52
from what I understand. And I hope it works out for them
37:55
and I hope that they can grow in virtue together and actually
37:57
build a family together. I think that would do a lot of
37:59
good for people to watch their idol, Taylor Swift, their
38:02
musical inspiration, Not just be single her whole life, dating
38:07
guys and breaking up with them and dating guys and breaking up
38:09
with them, but actually getting married and building a family.
38:11
That would be a beautiful example and encouragement to
38:13
other women. So I do hope it happens for her
38:16
sake and the sake of the people that look to her.
38:19
Do I agree with her views on abortion or think that she is a
38:23
good role model holistically for women?
38:25
No, I do not. I do not.
38:28
And you know, I was really sad to see when Roe V.
38:31
Wade was overturned in 2022. Taylor Swift come out who rarely
38:35
says put the political things. That's one of the reasons people
38:37
like her, by the way, is that she kind of stays above the fray
38:39
on this stuff typically. But she came out and she said,
38:43
I'm absolutely terrified this was on Twitter or on X.
38:46
She says, I'm absolutely terrified that this is where we
38:49
are, that after so many decades of people fighting for women's
38:53
rights to their own bodies, today's decision has stripped us
38:56
of that. So she's criticizing the
38:59
overturning of Roe and saying she's actually terrified.
39:03
Very dramatic. And she's, quote, tweeting
39:06
Michelle Obama's statement where she says, I'm heartbroken.
39:12
We've lost a fundamental right to make decisions about our own
39:14
bodies. No, you have not lost a single
39:18
iota of a right to make a decision about your body.
39:22
You have lost the right to kill the baby, the living body in
39:25
your body if you're pregnant, which was never a right to begin
39:28
with. I mean, the doublespeak here,
39:31
the propaganda here is so mind blowing.
39:33
And it's sad because I believe Michelle Obama, someone like a
39:35
Taylor Swift, these are intelligent human beings.
39:37
They would think they're intelligent, but they have
39:39
bought this propaganda. They're they're they're spouting
39:42
this propaganda that when you're pregnant, you are the, the
39:47
property owner, you are the slave owner basically of the
39:50
child within you and their body is your body that you can kill.
39:54
You can literally kill. You know, it's one thing you
39:58
would want, you wouldn't want someone to kill themselves.
40:00
Why would you want them to kill their child?
40:02
Even if that child was somehow their body and belong to them in
40:05
that sense, why would you want them to kill them?
40:08
And, and support a right to kill them.
40:10
And yet, of course, that's what is happening here with Taylor
40:13
Swift statement and Michelle Obama's statement.
40:15
So I don't, you know, I, I don't think it's good to idolize
40:19
Taylor Swift. I get a little uncomfortable
40:23
when I see, you know, 10 year old girls singing her songs and
40:27
wanting to buy all of her paraphernalia and her apparel.
40:30
And she, they're like Taylor swifting themselves out because
40:34
she is not someone who lives the values or speaks the values that
40:39
I think lead to human flourishing and happiness.
40:41
And she believes some very toxic things.
40:44
She is very talented, obviously, as a singer and an artist.
40:49
And she, I think in some aspects of her behavior is a good
40:53
example. I think she seems to be fair in
40:54
her business dealings from what I see.
40:56
And I think she seems to work really hard.
40:59
I mean, there's some good virtues there.
41:03
I mean, it makes me think I'm having a daughter In 2-3 months,
41:06
we're going to bring our first daughter into the world.
41:09
And I mean, she's in the world already, but she's going to be
41:12
born. And I wonder about her
41:15
influences. Who will her role models be?
41:18
Who will her inspirations be? Would I be bothered if she
41:22
listens to Taylor Swift? Of course not.
41:24
Would it concern me if she became obsessed with Taylor
41:27
Swift and wanted to be Taylor Swift?
41:28
Yeah, it would. I think that's, I think what
41:32
this speaks to is a larger issue about how we engage with pop
41:37
culture in our culture, which is that we look up to entertainers,
41:42
people that entertain and we want to be them or we want to be
41:48
like them or we want to do what they tell us to do.
41:51
And I think that's dangerous because unless they're people
41:55
that are living good lives themselves and are trustworthy
41:58
and teaching good things, we should not be taking their
42:01
advice. No, we should not.
42:03
And unfortunately, a lot of people in entertainment don't
42:06
fit that bill. They do not fit that standard of
42:08
people that we could actually, we should actually live like.
42:12
So that is a concern I have just largely speaking, I understand.
42:16
I get it why people idolize entertainers.
42:20
And I think it it speaks to a formation crisis that we have
42:25
where people don't have good role models in their own life
42:28
and they struggled in their own life with how to be.
42:31
And so they're attracted to these celebrities, right?
42:34
All right, there was one more thing I want to say about Taylor
42:37
Swift, actually, which on the positive note about her and
42:40
Travis Kelsey is that there is a very wholesome representation of
42:45
family life coming from Travis, Kelsey's older brother.
42:47
Actually, I wanted to share this.
42:48
This is actually an ad that he, his older brother, and the older
42:52
brother's wife were in with their beautiful young family.
42:55
And I thought it was really cute.
42:57
And I thought, again, if this is the route Taylor Swift goes, the
43:00
more traditional route, you could say she gets married to
43:02
Travis. They have children, they end up
43:04
really building a family together.
43:06
That in and of itself is a good, natural thing to do.
43:09
That can be a good example. So that's where I would
43:12
celebrate that. I tweeted recently, I hope it
43:14
works out for Taylor Swift and Travis Kelsey.
43:16
I got an unexpected amount of heat for that.
43:20
People saying why would you? Why would you wish that She's
43:23
pro abortion. I want good things for my
43:26
enemies because good things can help them be good.
43:29
So it's not that I don't want, you know, my political enemies
43:32
or you could say our, our spiritual enemies in terms of
43:34
their beliefs or their behaviors.
43:36
So we want them to, we want them to live good lives and have
43:41
access to good things in hopes that that will help them be
43:44
better as it can help us be better.
43:47
But God, of course, is sovereign.
43:48
He will, he will figure that all out in his time.
43:50
This is the ad this is called at home with the Kelsey family,
43:54
Pottery Barn Kids. Let's just watch this and I
43:57
don't think this will be at the Super Bowl.
43:58
This was out recently though, so we can watch it.
44:04
We can play it now. We're Jason and Kylie Kelsey and
44:07
you guys are in our home. Welcome to our new playroom by
44:14
Pottery Barn Kids. Family's everything.
44:17
It's really important to have the space feel cozy and
44:20
comfortable that people want to stay there.
44:23
Pottery Barn Kids has always been my we are not.
44:25
Sponsored by Pottery Memories. We should have.
44:28
Gotten that for this episode we'll talk about.
44:29
Later the same way, but there's these.
44:31
Cute little girls, and they're in their homey homes for
44:34
stopping by, all hanging out casually.
44:36
And it's very sweet. And this is, I think his name is
44:40
Jason Travis, Kelsey's older brother.
44:41
And it's just a beautiful depiction of family life.
44:44
I think we need more of that. It's good to see that in media.
44:48
It reminds people what is healthy and good.
44:51
So that's my hope for Taylor Swift, that she can find that,
44:55
for Travis Kelsey, that they can find that.
44:58
And my hope is that by being exposed to the good things in
45:03
life, good people, people of faith, she and he can grow as
45:09
people and they can come to see, especially her abortion for what
45:14
it is, an evil act and she can reject it.
45:16
She's just live in the propaganda, right?
45:18
She can reject it. How amazing would it be if
45:22
Taylor Swift, arguably the biggest female celebrity in the
45:25
world, came out and said, no, I reject abortion.
45:29
I'm super pro-life now. I mean, how amazing would that
45:32
be? So pray for that.
45:34
You can join me in praying for that.
45:36
Prayers do work and if she tells you to vote for Joe Biden, say
45:41
no. Just in case anyone is
45:45
wondering. If she does come out for Joe
45:47
Biden, which you probably will, don't be all shocked she did
45:50
last last election. Then don't do it.
45:53
I don't think Joe Biden is in any way the answer to our
45:57
problems and he's created more and I'll explain that in a
46:00
moment. You guys already know where I
46:02
stand on this. Before we talk about Joe Biden,
46:04
though, that's our last topic. President Biden and his latest
46:07
statements, which you got to hear.
46:08
You got to hear what he has to say on abortion and some of the
46:11
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46:14
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47:21
Biden, pray for him too, guys. Pray for all these people when
47:25
we criticize them or talk about them on podcasts or read about
47:27
them in news articles or scroll on, scroll about them on social
47:30
media. Pray for them, pray for their
47:33
conversion. Pray for our own conversions.
47:36
All right, what did he have to say?
47:37
He recently, this was like 2-3 days ago, he had this to say the
47:42
president about Roe V Wade. Let's watch the clip.
47:47
He's very critical of Trump right now.
47:48
Biden, because Trump is the presumptive nominee.
47:51
Haley will drop out soon enough, I'm sure.
47:53
Nikki Haley, everyone else has pretty much dropped out.
47:56
Trump seems to be the presumptive nominee.
47:58
I have mixed feelings about that.
47:59
As you guys know. We won't get into that right now
48:02
on the show we'll talk about in the future.
48:03
But he is the presumptive Republican nominee and he is
48:06
certainly more pro-life than Joe Biden.
48:08
So here's what President Biden has to say.
48:14
I wrote Ron Trump about saying Biden's been abortion on demand.
48:18
Not true. That's not what pro we would
48:21
say. It's in the three trimesters.
48:24
How it works. OK, so a little hard to hear
48:29
what he's saying, I think, But he's saying, I love how Trump is
48:32
saying Biden is for abortion on demand.
48:34
That's not true. That's not what Roe V.
48:36
Wade said. It said the three trimesters.
48:38
OK, What does that even mean? OK, what's happening here is
48:42
President Biden in his administration has been
48:44
radically pro abortion. He supports abortion through all
48:47
nine months. He wants to codify Roe V Wade.
48:50
He wants taxpayers to fund it. He's against every abortion
48:52
restriction. He wants to fund Planned
48:55
Parenthood. Of course, that's a no brainer.
48:57
Of course he does that. He wants to do that.
48:59
And he regularly has this rhetoric about how.
49:02
A. Republican who wants to have any
49:04
abortion ban whatsoever is out to get women and is evil,
49:07
basically. And so he's attacking Trump here
49:10
because he's saying that Trump is saying that Democrats want
49:13
abortion on demand. And Biden seems to have enough
49:16
sense to know that most people don't like that most Americans
49:19
want abortion restrictions of some kind or another.
49:24
But Biden knows that's not him. I mean, his administration
49:27
doesn't want any abortion restriction.
49:28
So he's sort of trying to, he's creating confusion here as a
49:32
politician to dodge Trump's accusation.
49:36
So he's attacking Trump for the accusation to say that Biden
49:39
wants abortion on demand. And then he's dodging it and
49:42
saying that's not what Roe V. Wade said.
49:44
It said the three trimesters now because Biden, I think,
49:49
struggles sometimes to speak coherently as our leader, which
49:53
is also very concerning. In a separate question that we
49:56
could analyze, it's unclear what exactly he means here because it
50:01
sounds like he could be saying, oh, I'm for abortion in all
50:05
three trimesters. It's not so much about abortion
50:07
on demand when you do what you want and have it in all three
50:10
trimesters before he's kind of referring to the three trimester
50:14
framework, which is really arbitrary that Roe V Wade
50:17
effectively set up to say that in certain trimesters you can
50:20
have abortion on demand. And in other trimesters like the
50:23
third, you need a doctor's note basically, which by the way, is
50:27
not a barrier to late term abortion because if your doctor
50:29
is the abortionist who's profiting off of the abortion,
50:31
he's going to give you the the dumb doctor's note to say you
50:34
should have this abortion because you're feeling
50:36
emotionally unwell about being pregnant.
50:38
That is how it works. By the way, this whole thing
50:40
about oh, late term abortions don't happen or won't happen
50:43
because it have to be only extreme circumstances.
50:46
Every single Democratic Democrat written law on abortion that
50:51
says, oh, it's only in these certain circumstances for late
50:53
term abortion. You actually read what it says.
50:56
And it says that if the woman and the doctor decide for any
51:00
number of reasons, which include emotional, financial, whatever
51:03
mental relational reasons that they want this abortion, they
51:08
get it. They get to kill that baby even
51:10
full term. That's their right as long as
51:12
the doctor signs off. Well, if your doctor's the
51:15
abortionist who's profiting sometimes 20 K, $20,000 off of a
51:21
butchering an infant basically, then he's going to sign off.
51:25
So it's very disingenuous. It's very deceptive.
51:28
It's also confusing what he's even trying to communicate here,
51:32
Biden. This is a problem, of course,
51:35
with our commander in chief right now, unfortunately.
51:37
But one thing is true that President Biden's record on
51:41
abortion is crystal clear and he is for abortion through all nine
51:44
months of pregnancy. He is against every abortion
51:47
restriction and he wants to put reproductive rights, as he calls
51:51
it, front and center in his campaign.
51:54
Here's the headline from CNN says Biden campaign puts
51:58
reproductive rights front and center as it plans to tie Trump
52:03
to abortion bans. So they're going to say, you
52:06
know, President Trump is so anti abortion and we we are so for
52:11
women's rights. Isn't it funny how they use the
52:14
language right? We are for reproductive rights.
52:16
Trump's anti abortion. How about Trump's anti killing
52:18
babies and they are for pro killing babies is the correct
52:23
lexicon. That's the correct language to
52:24
use here. That is not euphemistic that
52:26
they're using. Of course CNN is not going to
52:29
report it that way and Biden won't say it that way, but that
52:31
is the truth. Biden is for killing babies
52:34
through all nine months of pregnancy tax funded for any
52:36
reason. He doesn't want a single law, an
52:38
iota of a law to defend one child in the womb.
52:42
President Trump has an imperfect record on this and he has a lot
52:46
of other issues as a candidate, but he has been much more
52:49
pro-life, dramatically more anti abortion than Biden.
52:52
That is a fact and it was after he appointed the justices to the
52:56
Supreme Court, Amy Coney Barrett, one of my faves, as
52:59
well as Kasich as well as Gorsuch, that Kasich as well as
53:04
Gorsuch that they decided in Roe V Wade's overturning that that
53:09
case, Dobbsy Jackson to overturn Roe V Wade.
53:12
And now we have we have Kavanaugh, of course, now we
53:15
have the over over ruling of Roe V Wade.
53:18
And that was from Trump appointed judges.
53:21
That's a fact. That's the record.
53:22
And so he's trying to make it to be a bad thing when actually
53:26
it's a good thing. That is one of the great things.
53:29
That is one of the things I most approve of that President Trump
53:33
has done when he was president. And one of the reasons I would
53:36
understand, of course, many people flocking to vote for him
53:40
as opposed to voting for President Biden who's
53:43
extraordinarily pro abortion. All right, let's move to the
53:47
chat now. We've got some Q&A, some
53:49
questions coming in and some Q&A to do.
53:51
I have a few questions from before from social media that
53:54
I'm going to take here. And then if you've got
53:56
questions, you can put them in the chat as well.
53:59
Thank you guys for the kind words.
54:02
Thank you. Someone saying yay for your seem
54:04
to be born baby daughter. Thank you so much.
54:10
We've got here, Ray saying hello.
54:12
Just want to say hi. Thanks.
54:14
Hello, Ray. Rachel, let's be real.
54:16
Men will need to be LED when it comes to religiosity.
54:19
Men are something more passive. OK, Well, it depends on the man.
54:22
Some men are more passive. I think women in some ways,
54:25
because we're more emotionally receptive by nature, we're
54:29
designed to be more empathetic. I think sometimes aspects of
54:33
spirituality comes more easy, easy to women.
54:35
It's more easy for women to be spiritual in certain ways.
54:39
That doesn't mean we're the spiritual leader per SE or that
54:42
doesn't mean that we are holier, right?
54:45
You can look really spiritual and not be holy.
54:48
The devil is spirit and he is, he is damned, right?
54:52
So the out the the the external manifestation of spirituality
54:58
can be deceptive. What really matters in my book
55:01
would be virtue and good, good behavior and obviously seeking,
55:05
seeking the good as well as a life of prayer.
55:07
I think prayer is key too. And he takes the same debate
55:11
with destiny again, please. That was a that's a couple times
55:16
a couple rounds now. All right, let's go to some
55:18
questions from social media. We'll pull up a couple here to
55:21
close this out. All right, since you're on the
55:25
front, here we go. Here's a question that came in
55:28
through Instagram. Since you're on the front lines,
55:30
do you see abortion being completely eradicated?
55:36
Yes, 100%. I do think abortion will be
55:40
eradicated legally. May.
55:42
Might it still be practiced in some rare cases the way that
55:45
murder and rape and theft still happen even though those things
55:47
are illegal? Yes, because humans are sinful
55:51
and we have broken human nature. But do I think it will be
55:54
abolished legally? Yes.
55:56
I think it's going to take more time and effort, lots of effort,
56:00
especially educational effort. Live Action does this everyday.
56:04
My organization, we educate millions of people about human
56:06
dignity. It's going to take fierce
56:09
political fighting. But I do think it is possible
56:11
and I think it is probable. And I think with prayer and
56:14
work, we'll get it done. Let's do another one here, OK.
56:21
Do you think, oh, this is a good one.
56:23
Do you think no fault divorce should be federally reversed
56:27
from having a legal, What is the last bit?
56:30
What I'm saying from being a legal option for adults, OK, Do
56:36
you think no fault divorce should be federally reversed
56:38
from being a legal option for adults?
56:41
So I think that divorce is bad. I think that in extremely rare
56:46
cases, divorce in the legal sense may be necessary if there
56:51
is abuse in a marriage and you need to protect your assets and
56:55
your children, right? So I do think that in some
56:58
cases, legally it can be permissible.
57:02
I think spiritually speaking, if you're in a valid marriage, even
57:05
if you do a legal divorce, you are still married before God to
57:09
someone who is unfortunately an abuser.
57:13
So you pray for them and you do your best to live your life.
57:16
But I do not, I would not say remarriage is permissible in
57:20
that case. There are many cases often where
57:23
there is abuse, where there was an issue with how the marriage
57:26
happened, meaning there was deception or a lack of full
57:30
consent. And so that would mean the
57:31
marriage was not necessarily valid and that would be grounds
57:36
not just for divorce but annulment, meaning then marriage
57:39
didn't take place in the 1st place.
57:40
It wasn't a real marriage. Some people say, well, that's
57:43
Catholic divorce and it's not true.
57:46
In order for you to be married, you have to fully choose the
57:49
person, freely choose the person, go in with eyes wide
57:52
open. You have to have made full
57:54
consent. You have to have had been in the
57:56
position to be able to consent. There's some serious standards
58:01
there. And sometimes in today's modern
58:03
world, they're not met. All right, but the question no
58:06
fault divorce, I think that at at large, the at the concept of
58:10
it is not good. It's not good to say you can
58:13
just divorce Willy nilly for any reason.
58:14
I don't like that. I think that's I think that's
58:17
harmful. Am I concerned about OK, well,
58:20
let's just go back to the divorce laws of 100 years ago.
58:23
We'll be good. That will be the solution.
58:25
I don't know that that's a solution either because
58:27
unfortunately, if you go back, you know, decades and decades
58:30
ago, there were divorce laws that really favored men and, and
58:34
unfortunately, in some rare cases, abusive men.
58:37
And so you have these really tragic cases where women
58:40
couldn't protect themselves or their children or if the woman's
58:42
abusive, the man couldn't protect himself or his children,
58:45
right? So you got to really look at
58:48
there is nuance here. But typically speaking, as a
58:52
policy, I think no fault divorce has been very problematic.
58:57
All right, let's see what I think We're going to do 2 more.
59:00
So the next one is the head over heels feeling necessary for a
59:05
good relationship geared to marriage.
59:08
I think it's good to be head over heels for at least a little
59:12
bit. And you know, I think in
59:16
marriage you, you ebb and flow like like in our marriage, Joe
59:20
and I like there's certainly head over heels moments still
59:22
that we experience, which we just love.
59:24
And then there's just normal days and doldrums and life that
59:27
has to happen, right? But I do think it's good to have
59:30
butterflies. It's good to feel in love.
59:33
I think that's beautiful. That's not the essence of love.
59:36
Love is a choice. Love is an act.
59:39
Love is willing the good for the other.
59:41
But I think the butterflies are great.
59:43
Should you seek the butterflies? Like, oh, if I don't feel the
59:45
butterflies, I must not love them.
59:47
Of course not. You might not have any
59:49
butterflies. You might actually feel rage and
59:50
frustration and you still love them to pieces and you're
59:54
married to them for life, right? And that's an emotion you're
59:56
going through because you're we're in a Rutter.
59:58
You're having a hard time. That's life, right?
1:00:00
Your toddler will have a rage sometimes and your toddler still
1:00:03
loves you and you love them right?
1:00:04
Similarly in a marriage. So I think you you can't idolize
1:00:09
the butterflies. But we shouldn't disparage them
1:00:12
either. They're beautiful and but we
1:00:13
also shouldn't chase them. I mean, that's the last thing.
1:00:15
I don't think you should chase the butterflies like I need to
1:00:17
feel in love to be loving. No, you don't need to feel in
1:00:20
love to be loving or to be loved.
1:00:23
Last thing though, I think you should make space in your
1:00:26
marriage if you're married to generate loving feelings.
1:00:31
So it's not that you're so much chasing the feeling as you are
1:00:34
creating space to date your spouse, creating space to enjoy
1:00:38
your spouse, laugh with your spouse because that will bring
1:00:40
good feelings and feelings are beautiful and and valuable.
1:00:45
I think we, I think we're going to do one more.
1:00:47
We're going to do one more and then I'm going to look at the
1:00:48
chat one more time. All right, so last question
1:00:52
here, and this is from social media, occasionally on Instagram
1:00:55
or on Twitter. I'll do ask me anything and
1:00:56
people send in stuff. OK, last one here.
1:00:59
Oh, this is a this is a controversial one.
1:01:01
Thoughts on gentle parenting ideology.
1:01:05
All right, we got to do an episode on this guys.
1:01:09
We are already at over an hour or so.
1:01:11
We're thoughts on gentle parenting ideology.
1:01:14
I think that aspects of gentle parenting are really good and I
1:01:18
think I would try to practice them.
1:01:21
Gentle parenting is what's commonplace on the Internet and
1:01:24
talked about in different parenting discussion groups and
1:01:27
accounts of this. You know, you don't spank.
1:01:30
Sometimes you don't even do time out.
1:01:32
And the child, if they're acting up, there's always a reason and
1:01:34
you have to really accommodate and understand the child to
1:01:36
really create emotional bonds with the child.
1:01:39
That's the way to really direct the child.
1:01:40
I think there's some principles there that are true.
1:01:43
We do timeouts in my household. So we're, we're not a no timeout
1:01:47
family. We do try to really understand
1:01:49
why our kids are acting up and give lots of grace and but part
1:01:52
of that is boundaries too. You need kids need boundaries.
1:01:55
Kids need expectations, kid need kids need discipline.
1:01:58
You got it. That's important.
1:02:00
So this is a topic for another day.
1:02:02
We should get a parenting expert on.
1:02:04
Actually, if you guys know someone that you recommend as a
1:02:06
parenting expert, we will invite them to the podcast.
1:02:08
We will look at that and and, and likely invite them or maybe
1:02:11
invite some future guests who have that expertise.
1:02:13
We've had some people and with parenting thoughts on the
1:02:16
podcast before, but not to particularly address gentle
1:02:19
parenting. I think that would be a
1:02:21
fascinating discussion. So let me go, let me know what
1:02:23
you guys think. Send me a message.
1:02:25
You can always e-mail me at lila@jtbmedia.com.
1:02:29
What are your thoughts on gentle parenting?
1:02:31
I've heard a lot of people on both sides who have good points.
1:02:35
All right, going to the chat here.
1:02:38
One question I just want to take from YouTube chat.
1:02:40
Thank you guys for watching live on YouTube from EC.
1:02:45
Hi Lila, Heroic virtue comes to mind when I hear your name.
1:02:47
That's very sweet. I got to live up to that.
1:02:51
What spiritual tools have helped you become the fearless advocate
1:02:54
that you are and build your own organization?
1:02:57
Well, I will tell you I'm not always fearless.
1:02:59
I have my anxieties. But I will say that spiritually
1:03:02
speaking, what has given me the most strength is learning my
1:03:07
faith and understanding God's teachings on, of course, life
1:03:12
and how I am to live how we are to live who God is.
1:03:15
So studying the faith, studying morality, and then in addition,
1:03:20
prayer, taking time to actually sit with God and hear him and
1:03:25
pour my heart out to him. And then mentorship, having
1:03:29
spiritual guides who can help me grow and keep me accountable and
1:03:32
help me become more of a, I hope, more of a follower, true
1:03:39
follower of Jesus Christ. So those are some things.
1:03:41
They're very simple, but they're really fundamental.
1:03:44
And you need a community too. You need a church community.
1:03:47
You need to become friends with people who are on a faith
1:03:51
journey with you towards God and who want to grow and who are
1:03:57
faithful. You know as a Catholic people
1:03:59
that are going to mass, that are doing their prayer, that
1:04:02
understand the Eucharist, this is really Jesus Christ who want
1:04:05
to go to confession or raising their kids in the faith.
1:04:07
You want that in your friendships, at least some of
1:04:11
them, people that you can try to grow with and who are oriented
1:04:14
towards God and and service of others.
1:04:18
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locals. Check out our locals community
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at the link in the bio. But this is how our podcast is
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growing. A community that's on a free
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speech platform. YouTube might shadow ban us or
1:05:03
shut us down. We have seen different things on
1:05:05
YouTube where like is YouTube suppressing this content?
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We don't know. The reality is YouTube is not
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our friend in terms of its values.
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Locals is is a friend. So go check out Locals.
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And this is a great place where we're going to be putting more
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content in the future. And you can also subscribe there
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and become a supporter of the podcast and that will help the
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podcast reach more people. Thank you guys so much and we
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will see you next week.