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EP: 125 Youth & Domestic Violence Part 1 · Humanity Unplugged Podcast

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  [SPEAKER_01]: Good morning.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Good morning.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Welcome, guys.
• 0:09
  [SPEAKER_01]: Welcome.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I'm your host and welcome to Humanity Unplug Podcast.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Guys, I like to take a minute and say thank you.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: First and foremost, I like to thank all of our supporters for continuing to support us as we go through this journey.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Today
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  [SPEAKER_01]: 2026 and today I'm up here giving you one of the episodes I love to talk about and go through with you.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: We're going to get into that in the moment, but again, I like to think everyone that supports us on all social media platforms.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I'm not under the weather.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I feel great.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I feel good.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I thank all for all blessings that flow.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: But I'm a little disturbed.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And I'm disturbed guys because there's been an increase on youth and domestic violence.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And the true topic I like to share with you guys is
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  [SPEAKER_01]: children killing their parents.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: They've been an increase in the fluctuation of parents dying or being murdered or unaligned by their children.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: In North Carolina, it has increased dramatically
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  [SPEAKER_01]: We've seen it happen all over in Greensboro, we've seen it in Raleigh, we've seen it in Durham, we've seen it in Fedville, and Fuqua, you see it all over, and North Carolina, that kids are becoming more impulse to take in the life of the ones who gave them life.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And then I get in the way with it there.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: They're being locked up for life at 16, 15, 14.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: In some cases, we have seen where there's twins doing it.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: We have seen other people assisting the teens and executing and killing their loved ones.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And we need to talk about this.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: We need to find out
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Where do this stuff start?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Where do the mind takes effect on, even fantastically saying, I want to take out my mother and my father?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Or I want to do some type of harm to anyone.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So when I look at this, I look at this on two levels, two coins on one side, you have an innocent child who doesn't know
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  [SPEAKER_01]: On the other side of the coin, you have a premeditated person thinking about such acts.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And when we look forward or look into this deeper, we're going to knock down a lot of different things or talk about a lot of different issues that we may be able to help people better understand what's going on.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So take on a few shoes, set your feet up, get you something hot or something cold, refreshing, beverage, and we're gonna talk about it today on humanity on podcasts.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And the first thing I want you to understand is first, this is a teen, this is a youth, this is not what you think it is.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So let's get some clarity on what is domestic violence.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Because before we get into why children are killing their parents, we got a first understand, this is domestic violence.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And what triggers domestic violence, what starts domestic violence, what are the types of domestic violence, what are some of the symptoms, as we would say, that may cause a child
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  [SPEAKER_01]: then execute later on the murder of their parent.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So let's look at that.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Youth and domestic violence refers to a pattern of abuse of behavior, physically, sexually, emotionally or psychological use of power to control with the in teen dating relationships or by adolescents against family members.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It's also included children witnessing abuse between care givers.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Now we're talking.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I don't know if you understand what that mean.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: But when you hear that abuse between caregivers, mother and father arguing, a mother and father calling each other names, a father perhaps may be talking to the child in a manner or talking to the mother in a manner which is not respectable in front of the teens.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: the child to pick up these emotions because of what they hear from their parent.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Now, of course, when you look at it and you look deeper into the X's and O's, a lot of sons want to be like their father.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: a lot of girls want to be like their mother.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: You know opposites where the mother might cling to the son and the father might cling to the daughter.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: These things happen because that's just how God has it.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: You know, when that man walks into that house, the boys might run over sometime.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And I say that word sometime when they're children, the boy might run over sometime.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: But if you have a little girl, and she hear that word daddy, she's running to that door.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: If the dad is there in her life, constantly being in a symbol for that little girl to see, she's running with all speed to see her father.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Because I think the psychological impact of it is,
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Where has he been?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I miss him.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And when I see my dad, he picks me up.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: He gives me a candy.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: He kisses on me.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: He hugs me.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: He excrues me tight and tell me how important I am to him.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And that impacts the child structure.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Confidence.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: give to child a need or somewhat of ability to look in the mirror and say I am worth something at a young age.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: That confidence that that father or that mother may bring to that child is priceless.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: When you tell that child or you ask that child a question that
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Um, how was your day?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: What did you do?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And she might than do nothing.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: She could be two three years old, but she started talking.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Uh, David, David, David, David, David, David, David, and she ain't saying nothing, but it's just that you made her brain think.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: and she was able to express what she's been trying to say all day, which ain't nothing, but you gave what a platform to do that.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And it impacts the child greatly.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And over time, as you constantly do that, you constantly build up that strength, that structure, that ability to communicate and express themselves.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So that's the positive that comes with that.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Now, look at the other coin on the side of the coin that is when a child doesn't get that.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: When that child comes, when you come in that door and your child runs over to you, you say, get out my face, or I'm tired.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: You're annoying.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: What have you done all day?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: You're fat, you're sloppy.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: You haven't eaten, wait, ate all the food.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Bring me my stuff.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: You curse at them.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: You're degrading the child.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: You're making the child going into a closet of fear or a fear of talking or expressing yourself.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: The confidence goes down.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: They don't want to be seen.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: They don't want to talk.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: because when they come to the light to see you, you shoot them down.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: These negative tendencies and acts do not help the child when they get older.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It calls other emotions that start just the pattern or other emotions that may start that might not benefit that child as they get older.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: They might become in close, they might pick up the tone that you're saying, all the curse and the profanity, the yelling and the screaming, the kid could pick up all of that as a way of communicating because of what they were taught by the father or by the mother.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Because of a person that you look up to curses or yell at you, does it mean they're teaching you something positive?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: But as a child, you don't know that.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So you think it's okay because my dad or my mom allowed me to do that.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: But it's not okay.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: You start other things to happen in that infant's life that you can't cut off as they get older because like a tree that's planted by the water, it began to grow a root.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And that root expands into more roots.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And before you know it, these bad behavior tendencies are anchored into the ground and it's hard to be pulled up away from that child.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Because now as a girl older, it impacts them and how they move.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: What friends they pick, what decisions they make, things that you do at a youth, at a young age, impacts that child as they get older.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: statistics don't lie.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: We could have our own preference of what we think works, but statistically, it shows you what happens when a child is in an environment like that and how they raised up as an adult or youth and what they turned into as an older adult.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Oftentimes the father or the
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  [SPEAKER_01]: They can't complete nothing because you always stop of them from completing what they started.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Fear comes in.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I don't belong here, sets in.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I can't do that, set in, doubt, set in.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: If you were worth them when they do wrong, why would they do right?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: If you buy them what they want when they act in up,
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  [SPEAKER_01]: That is one of the biggest issues that's going on in these teens.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: We love them so much that it hurts, that from functioning and becoming an upstanding citizen because you gave them gifts when they acted up.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: You supported them by telling them, it's okay after they keep doing the same thing over.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It's not okay.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So how can the child learn or understand that because of your actions, there are consequences?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So as we look deeper into this and we talk about how upbringing is so important or what a child sees with their eyes.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It's recorded into the DNA, what they see with their eyes.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: The lenses input to the brain of what it sees.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It doesn't always break it down on the layers of what they see, because as an infant, you don't have that in you yet.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Those different layers are not built for you to understand the deeper concept of what you're consuming with your eyes or your ears.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: You're taking it at face value, because that's where your mental state is.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It's at face value.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So you actually killing your child before they even start.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: You're destroying them before they even have a chance of hope.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: You're destroying the base, the foundation.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Our house is only as good as its foundation.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And you give them nothing of structure.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Nothing of value.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Most children don't know how to do the basic stuff.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Most teenagers can't do the basic stuff.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Basic.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I'm talking about basic.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: You figure it out, the basics.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Because we don't give them a chance to do it on their own because we wanna protect them but yet we didn't protect them when they were little.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: We didn't protect them, we left them exposed.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So, as they get older, by the age of 14, 15, 16, they are strong and wrong.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: You can't help them at that point.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: You try, you do, you try to help them, but they're still stuck in their ways.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And they think they know more than you.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And that is one of the biggest issues.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: That is why things happen at a fast rate, because everybody's speeding to go nowhere.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I tell my children all the time, relax.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Take a deep breath.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It's not that serious.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I know you like those sneakers, but there's more, there'd be another pair come out next week.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I know you want that iPhone 13, but they have a 14, 15, 16, 17.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: They have more.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It's okay.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I know you want to go to that concert, but they have another concert.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I know you like that girl.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: There'd be more girls.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Teach your children the word, no.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: That is a word, it's not used enough to what I use or what our kids.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: We're gonna get into that at another time, right?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So when I say about youth and domestic violence, I have something for us to listen to.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It's not long, probably three minutes, four minutes.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And this gonna show you
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  [SPEAKER_01]: the aftermath of some what of a youth upbringing and domestic violence and what could happen.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And it's really good.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I love watching stuff like this.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I love listening to it.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Let's listen up.
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  [SPEAKER_02]: teens and young adults killing their own parents just this year on our first coast six reported domestic violence homicides involving parents and their children and one expert is calling it a trend our investigative reporter Riley Phillips has been looking into why we could be seeing this trend and Riley I know you spoke with the psychologists who says there are several contributing factors
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  [SPEAKER_05]: Yes, there's not just one reason for why this could be happening.
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  [SPEAKER_05]: It could be modeled behavior from inside the home or mental illness, but no matter what psychologists say early intervention is key.
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  [SPEAKER_05]: We saw the first case on February 6, 20-year-old Adiel Gonzalez accused of beating his mother to death in their Arlington apartment.
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  [SPEAKER_05]: For days later, former college basketball player Eric Cobb was accused of shooting and killing his mother in their jerkyville home.
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  [SPEAKER_05]: 18-year-old Larry Baldwin Jr. was arrested on June 21, after police say he shot and killed his father and best friend at this shopping center off Bay Meadows Road, and on August 4,
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  [SPEAKER_05]: 14-year-old Trevor Lee calling 911 after investigators say he shot and killed his parents in Clay County.
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  [SPEAKER_05]: Later that month, Hector Ochoa was arrested for stabbing his mother in Jacksonville, and on December 2nd, 17-year-old Seier Williams was accused of stabbing his father to death at a home on the west side.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So we just listened to seven or eight different kids.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: debt executed to kill their parents in 2025.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Let us into what the studies and statistics say.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: I can tell you that what we're finding with these cases is oftentimes they're in lower socioeconomic neighborhoods.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: They are in families that are experiencing domestic violence.
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  [SPEAKER_05]: Dr. Christine Coffield, the CEO of L.S.F.
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  [SPEAKER_05]: Health System, says this type of violence is more common than people might realize.
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  [SPEAKER_05]: She says one in three children will be aggressive towards their parents and one in ten will turn violent towards their parents.
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  [SPEAKER_05]: But there's not one specific reason for why it occurs.
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  [SPEAKER_05]: Dr. Coffield says it could be a learned behavior for watching domestic violence in their homes.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So now that they're guessing, the guests are mating, that this could happen at home.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So
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  [SPEAKER_01]: These teens and adults, younger adults, was in this as well, like 17 and 18, to me, it's the younger adult, but still a minor, I get it, whatever.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: There's some type of upbringing they say they might take play of fact to a child or this teen to do this, and it could start at home.
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  [SPEAKER_05]: or it could be mental illness.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: In the cases that have been recent, the ages range from 15, 17, 20, and that is generally the first time with the disorder of schizophrenia, for example, that an individual typically has their first psychotic break.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I haven't heard, guys, of schizophrenia, playing a factor in a long time.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: and it could be my negligence and I think it is.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: But that is awesome to hear that because I'm going to do some studies on that and where it comes from the origin and how it impact our children, how they could be the food they're eating.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Who knows, right?
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  [SPEAKER_05]: These three of the suspects in these homicides have been ruled in competent by the court, and were ordered to a state run mental health facility.
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  [SPEAKER_05]: Dr. Coughfield says early intervention is important to prevent future violence.
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  [SPEAKER_05]: If you notice your child is becoming more aggressive, such as punching or hitting things, making threatening statements, or if you feel like you're walking on eggshells around your child, these could be signs that they're not okay.
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  [SPEAKER_05]: And it's time to get help.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: It is a normal reaction for parents to really want to protect their child.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: They love their child.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: but they're afraid of their child, but it's okay to reach out for help.
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  [SPEAKER_04]: In fact, it's critical for the entire family, including your child that obviously is struggling.
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  [SPEAKER_05]: Dr. Cawfield added another contributing factor is access to weapons inside the home.
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  [SPEAKER_05]: She says all guns and weapons should be locked away and out of the reach of your children.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: teens.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So now, you know, that's great to see that and hear that because getting that info makes us more aware.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: That was a lot of different.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: things to understand and to receive in that informational piece.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I have one more for you and we heard that these are 14, 15, 16, 17-year-old that's doing this.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And now let's find out as we look at this because I want us to look at what is domestic violence when it comes to
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Ah, kids getting it.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I'll see you in it, right?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Here we go.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Today's topic is, what is domestic violence?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Types, symptoms, treatment, and more?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Domestic violence is a widely used term for acts of violence that take place in households with the intent of harm.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Although it can encompass child and elder abuse as well, the term is most commonly used to refer to violence between individuals sharing an intimate relationship.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It often involves one partner using intimidation and assault to assert control over the other.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: A victim may endure economic, sexual, and psychological abuse as well.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Domestic violence has only recently been recognized as a major health issue, having been a part of many cultures around the world for millennia.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It is important to recognize domestic violence as an aberration and seek help to end it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Here's everything you need to know to help with that.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Types.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Domestic violence includes physical, economic, sexual, and psychological abuse.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: An abuser commits their acts of violence to assert authority and manipulate the victim.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Acts of physical violence include one, pinching, two, slapping, three, tripping, four, punching, five.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Grabbing.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Six.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Twisting of arms or legs.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Seven.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Pulling hair.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Eight.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Beating.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Nine.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Choking.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Ten.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Pushing.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Eleven.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Biting.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And 12.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Use of a weapon.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Psychological violence may be carried out by one.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Threatening emotional or physical harm.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Two.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Threats of child abuse.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: 3.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Threatening to publicly reveal the victims' sexual orientation.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: 4.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Threatening suicide.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: 5.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Threatening to take children away.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: 6.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Threatening or harming pets.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And 7.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Threatening to harm family.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Emotional abuse can evolve.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: 1.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Playing mind games.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: 2.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Laying the blame for anything on the victim.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: 3.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Putting you down.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: 4.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Treating you like a servant.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: 5.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Not allowing you to make any big decisions and 6.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Making you feel bad about yourself.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Types of sexual abuse include 1.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Treating you as a sex object.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: 2.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Making you perform sexual activities against your will.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Moreover, an abuser might not allow any economic
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  [SPEAKER_00]: and abuser may also isolate the victim socially to keep control at all times.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Signs and symptoms.
• 24:45
  [SPEAKER_00]: Most signs of domestic violence are hard to spot as a victim might hide them out of guilt and fear.
• 24:51
  [SPEAKER_00]: Physical violence will cause injuries that will show up.
• 24:55
  [SPEAKER_00]: However, a victim may try to offer explanations that will not make sense.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Domestic violence also takes a big psychological toll on the victims.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They might become quieter and less sociable.
• 25:07
  [SPEAKER_00]: Victims may also start to lose motivation for regular activities and become depressed and increasingly anxious.
• 25:14
  [SPEAKER_00]: Treatment, it is important to find protection and help as soon as possible.
• 25:20
  [SPEAKER_00]: Witnesses should report any instances of domestic violence while victims should develop safety plans for protection if they live with the abuser.
• 25:28
  [SPEAKER_00]: It is important to engage the abuser as little as possible and to avoid confrontation or arguments in tight spaces or close rooms.
• 25:38
  [SPEAKER_00]: Quick access to a phone is important to call for help in case of a physical threat.
• 25:43
  [SPEAKER_00]: Once away, the victim might struggle for years with the trauma and may require counseling and psychotherapy to continue their regular life.
• 26:03
  [SPEAKER_01]: Those are a lot of symptoms for you to check out how domestic violence or some of those that they said actually can be used and are used against the children, the mind games, forcing your kids to decide what parent they want to go with or deal with, who's the right parent, who's a wrong parent.
• 26:33
  [SPEAKER_01]: or the kid realizing I don't want to listen to my mom because she makes me do homework.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And my dad doesn't.
• 26:44
  [SPEAKER_01]: All vice versa.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: The dad makes you do homework, but the mom says, I don't care about it.
• 26:50
  [SPEAKER_01]: So since the dad makes him do homework, the kid going to choose the mom because she's
• 27:06
  [SPEAKER_01]: The dad might push activities, what a mom might say, you don't need activities, you need to eat more.
• 27:14
  [SPEAKER_01]: So the mom tries to perhaps boil the child through food and the father wants to boil the child through activities.
• 27:24
  [SPEAKER_01]: The dad might say, I want my kid to have better grades and the mom is like, no, he don't need grades.
• 27:31
  [SPEAKER_01]: He's going to be a chef because he loves to eat and cook.
• 27:37
  [SPEAKER_01]: You don't know the person's mindset.
• 27:42
  [SPEAKER_01]: Oftentimes, women and men changes once a child is born.
• 27:46
  [SPEAKER_01]: And the mindset changes because they want to live through their child.
• 27:52
  [SPEAKER_01]: Oftentimes, the mother want to live or the father want to live.
• 27:56
  [SPEAKER_01]: The life they never had through the children.
• 27:59
  [SPEAKER_01]: And the children become pawns in this chess game of life.
• 28:08
  [SPEAKER_01]: Take the time to talk to your child.
• 28:11
  [SPEAKER_01]: Take the time to listen.
• 28:14
  [SPEAKER_01]: Sometimes talking to them is very difficult.
• 28:19
  [SPEAKER_01]: Try to give them the understanding that they could talk to you.
• 28:24
  [SPEAKER_01]: But that'll mean it's going to fix the situation.
• 28:28
  [SPEAKER_01]: They could tell you what's going on.
• 28:31
  [SPEAKER_01]: That'll mean your situation will change.
• 28:35
  [SPEAKER_01]: In order for things to get better, you have to put in the work.
• 28:40
  [SPEAKER_01]: You must want to fix what's going wrong in your life.
• 28:46
  [SPEAKER_01]: Nothing happens to you.
• 28:48
  [SPEAKER_01]: That turns your life around.
• 28:52
  [SPEAKER_01]: Unless you put the work in.
• 28:57
  [SPEAKER_01]: If you don't put no work in, you can't get none out.
• 29:03
  [SPEAKER_01]: This is humanity on plug, podcast.
• 29:07
  [SPEAKER_01]: I'm your host, your main equipment.
• 29:10
  [SPEAKER_01]: Take care and protect yourself at all times.
• 29:14
  [SPEAKER_01]: Peace.