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Navigating Meltdowns? Essential Strategies for Home Educating Parents · Home Education Matters

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  Welcome
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  Hello
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  And
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  today
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  is
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  going
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  to
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  be
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  the
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  first
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  in
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  our
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  look
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  at
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  supporting
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  your
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  child's
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  well
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  being.
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  And
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  not
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  just
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  your
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  child's
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  well
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  being,
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  but
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  your
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  well
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  being
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  as
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  well
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  as.
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  There's
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  nothing
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  more
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  pressured
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  than
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  being
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  at
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  home
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  on
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  your
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  own
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  with
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  your
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  children
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  when
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  they're
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  having
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  a
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  bit
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  of
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  a
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  meltdown,
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  you're
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  having
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  a
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  bit
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  of
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  a
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  meltdown
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  and
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  everything
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  feels
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  really
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  overwhelming
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  all
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  of
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  a
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  sudden.
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  So
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  I
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  thought
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  I
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  would
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  bring
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  Charlotte
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  Webb
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  on
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  today.
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  Charlotte
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  Webb
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  is
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  a
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  psychologist.
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  I
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  did,
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  yeah.
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  Psychologist,
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  therapist,
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  many
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  hats
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  to
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  help
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  guide.
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  Us
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  through
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  this
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  is
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  Charlotte
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  Webb.
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  And
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  Charlotte
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  Webb
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  is
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  going
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  to
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  be
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  telling
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  us
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  some
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  of
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  her
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  top
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  strategies
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  for
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  helping
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  us
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  with
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  overwhelm.
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  And
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  Charlotte,
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  first
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  of
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  all,
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  thank
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  you
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  so
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  much
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  for
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  joining
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  us
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  on
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  Home
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  Education
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  Matters.
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  Do
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  tell
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  us
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  a
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  little
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  bit
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  about
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  your
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  home
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  education
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  journey.
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  Okay,
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  so
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  I
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  trained
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  as,
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  originally
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  I
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  trained
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  as
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  forensic
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  psychologist.
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  I
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  quickly
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  realized
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  that
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  that
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  was
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  not
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  a
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  bit
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  of
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  me
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  and
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  I
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  was
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  very
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  scared
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  at
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  the
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  prospects
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  of
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  working
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  with
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  really
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  traumatized
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  prisoners.
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  And
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  I
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  quickly
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  changed
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  my
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  mind
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  very,
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  very
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  swiftly.
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  I
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  went
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  back
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  to
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  uni,
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  I
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  did
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  a
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  masters
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  in
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  clinical
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  Child
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  psychology.
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  I
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  did
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  loads
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  of
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  extra
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  courses
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  on
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  top
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  dbt,
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  cbt,
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  yada
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  yada,
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  yada
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  yada.
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  I
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  then
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  my.
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  I'd
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  always
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  loved
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  the
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  idea
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  of
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  home
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  ed.
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  My
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  eldest
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  is,
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  he's
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  now
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  nearly
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  14.
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  He's
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  autistic
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  and
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  ADHD
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  and
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  school
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  never
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  seemed
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  to
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  sit
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  right.
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  It
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  was
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  always
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  very,
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  you
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  know,
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  it
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  just,
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  it
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  just
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  felt
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  wrong
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  from
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  even.
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  I
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  had
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  him
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  very
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  young
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  and
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  I
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  was
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  only
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  20
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  when
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  he
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  went
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  to
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  school.
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  And
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  even
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  at
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  20
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  I
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  was
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  like
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  this,
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  I
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  don't
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  like
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  this.
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  Why
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  am
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  I
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  leaving
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  my
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  baby
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  for
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  six
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  hours
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  today?
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  This
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  is
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  really
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  strange.
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  Anyway,
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  obviously
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  as
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  society
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  provides,
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  you
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  just
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  follow
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  suit
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  and
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  do
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  as
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  you're
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  told
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  to
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  do
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  and
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  yada
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  yada.
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  So
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  he
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  went
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  to
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  school
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  and
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  then
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  my,
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  I
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  had
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  my
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  next
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  two
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  children
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  and
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  it
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  wasn't
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  until
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  my
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  second
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  one
• 2:21
  got
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  to
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  year
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  two
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  I
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  started
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  realizing,
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  okay,
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  my
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  children
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  are
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  not
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  suited
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  for
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  this
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  environment.
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  They're
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  too
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  emotional.
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  You
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  know,
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  I'm
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  not
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  a
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  strict
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  parent,
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  I'm
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  not
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  an
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  authoritarian
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  parent.
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  I
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  don't
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  do
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  the
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  whole
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  punishment
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  system,
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  all
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  of
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  that.
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  So
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  it
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  was
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  a
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  completely
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  unknown
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  social
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  cue
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  to
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  them.
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  They
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  didn't
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  know
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  any
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  of
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  it
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  because
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  we
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  don't
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  do
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  it
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  at
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  home.
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  Right.
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  So
• 2:42
  they
• 2:42
  didn't
• 2:42
  know
• 2:42
  that
• 2:42
  that
• 2:43
  was
• 2:43
  a
• 2:43
  normal
• 2:43
  thing.
• 2:45
  My
• 2:46
  eldest,
• 2:46
  because
• 2:47
  he's
• 2:47
  autistic,
• 2:48
  he
• 2:48
  probably
• 2:48
  chameleons
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  A
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  little
• 2:50
  bit
• 2:50
  where
• 2:50
  he
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  just
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  sort
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  of
• 2:51
  blends
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  in
• 2:51
  with
• 2:51
  his
• 2:51
  environment
• 2:52
  and
• 2:52
  does
• 2:53
  what
• 2:53
  everybody
• 2:53
  else
• 2:53
  is
• 2:54
  doing.
• 2:54
  But
• 2:55
  my
• 2:55
  next
• 2:55
  one
• 2:55
  down,
• 2:56
  she
• 2:56
  does
• 2:56
  not.
• 2:57
  She
• 2:57
  is
• 2:57
  not
• 2:57
  fit
• 2:58
  for
• 2:58
  the
• 2:58
  crowd.
• 2:58
  She
• 2:59
  doesn't
• 2:59
  blend.
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  She
• 3:00
  is
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  a
• 3:01
  product
• 3:01
  of
• 3:02
  me,
• 3:02
  me
• 3:03
  only.
• 3:03
  And
• 3:04
  she's
• 3:04
  not
• 3:04
  in
• 3:04
  the
• 3:04
  box
• 3:05
  by
• 3:05
  any
• 3:05
  imagination.
• 3:06
  So
• 3:07
  she
• 3:07
  started
• 3:07
  to
• 3:07
  really
• 3:08
  struggle.
• 3:08
  And
• 3:08
  then
• 3:08
  my
• 3:08
  third
• 3:09
  one
• 3:09
  went
• 3:09
  to
• 3:09
  school.
• 3:10
  And
• 3:11
  she
• 3:11
  is
• 3:12
  the
• 3:12
  epitome
• 3:13
  of
• 3:13
  adhd,
• 3:14
  bless
• 3:14
  her.
• 3:14
  If
• 3:14
  you
• 3:15
  put
• 3:15
  her
• 3:15
  name
• 3:15
  next
• 3:16
  to
• 3:16
  the
• 3:16
  word
• 3:16
  ADH,
• 3:17
  PhD,
• 3:17
  it
• 3:17
  probably
• 3:17
  matches
• 3:18
  up
• 3:18
  very
• 3:18
  well
• 3:19
  because
• 3:19
  she
• 3:19
  is
• 3:19
  just.
• 3:20
  She's
• 3:20
  like
• 3:21
  Tigger.
• 3:21
  She
• 3:21
  just
• 3:21
  bounces,
• 3:22
  just
• 3:23
  constantly.
• 3:24
  Love
• 3:24
  her.
• 3:25
  And
• 3:25
  she
• 3:26
  was
• 3:26
  only
• 3:26
  at
• 3:26
  school
• 3:26
  for
• 3:27
  six
• 3:27
  weeks
• 3:28
  and
• 3:28
  the
• 3:29
  teacher
• 3:29
  came
• 3:29
  out
• 3:29
  to
• 3:30
  me
• 3:30
  and
• 3:30
  was
• 3:30
  like,
• 3:30
  oh,
• 3:31
  she's
• 3:31
  going
• 3:31
  to
• 3:31
  really
• 3:32
  struggle
• 3:32
  next
• 3:33
  year,
• 3:33
  isn't
• 3:33
  she?
• 3:33
  And
• 3:34
  I
• 3:34
  was
• 3:34
  like,
• 3:34
  right,
• 3:34
  that's
• 3:35
  it,
• 3:35
  I'm
• 3:35
  done.
• 3:35
  I
• 3:36
  was
• 3:36
  like,
• 3:36
  I'm
• 3:36
  not
• 3:36
  doing
• 3:37
  this.
• 3:37
  I
• 3:37
  was
• 3:37
  like,
• 3:38
  this
• 3:38
  is
• 3:38
  silly.
• 3:38
  I've
• 3:39
  done
• 3:39
  this
• 3:39
  with
• 3:39
  three
• 3:39
  kids.
• 3:40
  I'm
• 3:40
  not
• 3:40
  doing
• 3:40
  this
• 3:40
  anymore.
• 3:41
  So
• 3:41
  I
• 3:41
  pulled
• 3:42
  them
• 3:42
  out
• 3:43
  that
• 3:43
  I'd
• 3:43
  had
• 3:44
  the
• 3:44
  baby.
• 3:44
  He
• 3:44
  was
• 3:45
  only,
• 3:47
  I
• 3:47
  think
• 3:47
  he
• 3:47
  was
• 3:48
  only
• 3:48
  about
• 3:48
  three
• 3:48
  weeks
• 3:48
  old.
• 3:49
  And
• 3:49
  I
• 3:49
  was
• 3:49
  just
• 3:50
  like,
• 3:50
  you
• 3:50
  know
• 3:50
  what?
• 3:51
  My
• 3:51
  masters
• 3:51
  is
• 3:52
  nearly
• 3:52
  done.
• 3:52
  Let's
• 3:53
  just
• 3:53
  do
• 3:53
  this,
• 3:53
  Pull
• 3:53
  these
• 3:54
  out.
• 3:54
  Let's
• 3:54
  just
• 3:54
  see
• 3:55
  what
• 3:55
  happens.
• 3:55
  And
• 3:56
  that
• 3:56
  was
• 3:56
  nearly
• 3:56
  two
• 3:57
  years
• 3:57
  ago
• 3:57
  now.
• 3:57
  And
• 3:58
  we've
• 3:59
  been
• 3:59
  living
• 4:00
  our
• 4:00
  best
• 4:00
  life
• 4:01
  for
• 4:01
  two
• 4:01
  years
• 4:02
  the
• 4:02
  whole
• 4:02
  way
• 4:02
  through.
• 4:03
  I
• 4:03
  did
• 4:03
  do
• 4:03
  in
• 4:04
  lockdown.
• 4:05
  I
• 4:05
  didn't
• 4:05
  send
• 4:05
  my
• 4:05
  kids
• 4:06
  to
• 4:06
  school
• 4:06
  at
• 4:06
  all.
• 4:07
  So
• 4:07
  even
• 4:07
  when
• 4:07
  they
• 4:07
  were
• 4:08
  meant
• 4:08
  to
• 4:08
  be
• 4:08
  going
• 4:09
  back,
• 4:09
  I
• 4:10
  kept
• 4:10
  them
• 4:10
  at
• 4:10
  home.
• 4:10
  So
• 4:11
  we
• 4:11
  had
• 4:11
  sort
• 4:11
  of
• 4:11
  like
• 4:11
  a
• 4:11
  year
• 4:12
  trial
• 4:12
  run
• 4:12
  of
• 4:13
  home
• 4:13
  ed
• 4:13
  anyway,
• 4:15
  which
• 4:15
  obviously
• 4:15
  looking
• 4:15
  back
• 4:16
  now,
• 4:16
  I
• 4:16
  did
• 4:16
  really
• 4:16
  well.
• 4:17
  But
• 4:17
  at
• 4:18
  the
• 4:18
  time
• 4:18
  I
• 4:18
  was
• 4:18
  being
• 4:18
  told
• 4:19
  that
• 4:19
  I
• 4:19
  was
• 4:19
  doing
• 4:19
  everything
• 4:20
  wrong,
• 4:20
  which
• 4:21
  now
• 4:21
  I'm
• 4:21
  like,
• 4:21
  oh,
• 4:21
  no,
• 4:22
  this
• 4:22
  is
• 4:22
  fine,
• 4:23
  we're
• 4:23
  all
• 4:23
  fine.
• 4:24
  So,
• 4:24
  yeah,
• 4:24
  so
• 4:24
  now
• 4:24
  we're
• 4:25
  on
• 4:25
  year
• 4:25
  two
• 4:26
  and
• 4:26
  the
• 4:26
  kids
• 4:27
  are
• 4:27
  just
• 4:28
  so
• 4:29
  much
• 4:29
  better.
• 4:29
  They'll
• 4:30
  talk
• 4:30
  more
• 4:30
  in
• 4:30
  public
• 4:31
  and
• 4:32
  they
• 4:32
  meltdowns,
• 4:33
  especially
• 4:34
  for
• 4:34
  this
• 4:35
  episode,
• 4:36
  meltdown
• 4:36
  wise.
• 4:37
  We
• 4:37
  used
• 4:38
  to
• 4:38
  have
• 4:38
  daily
• 4:38
  meltdowns.
• 4:39
  We
• 4:39
  used
• 4:40
  to
• 4:40
  have
• 4:40
  daily
• 4:41
  meltdowns
• 4:41
  all
• 4:41
  the
• 4:41
  time,
• 4:42
  all
• 4:42
  three
• 4:42
  kids.
• 4:43
  And
• 4:43
  I
• 4:43
  struggled
• 4:44
  to
• 4:44
  know
• 4:44
  what
• 4:45
  to
• 4:45
  do
• 4:45
  because
• 4:45
  I
• 4:46
  didn't
• 4:46
  have
• 4:46
  a
• 4:46
  clue.
• 4:46
  And
• 4:46
  even
• 4:47
  my
• 4:47
  work
• 4:48
  at
• 4:48
  the
• 4:48
  time,
• 4:48
  where
• 4:49
  I'd
• 4:49
  been
• 4:49
  doing
• 4:50
  adults,
• 4:51
  they
• 4:51
  don't
• 4:51
  really
• 4:52
  teach
• 4:52
  you
• 4:52
  much
• 4:52
  about
• 4:53
  how
• 4:53
  to
• 4:53
  deal
• 4:53
  with
• 4:53
  it.
• 4:54
  So
• 4:54
  I
• 4:55
  then
• 4:55
  had
• 4:55
  to
• 4:55
  adapt
• 4:56
  my
• 4:56
  own
• 4:56
  strategies
• 4:57
  and
• 4:57
  research
• 4:57
  lots
• 4:58
  of
• 4:58
  strategies
• 4:58
  and
• 4:59
  go
• 4:59
  on
• 4:59
  extra
• 5:00
  courses
• 5:00
  and
• 5:01
  join
• 5:01
  seminars
• 5:02
  and
• 5:03
  all
• 5:03
  the
• 5:03
  rest
• 5:03
  of
• 5:03
  it.
• 5:03
  And
• 5:03
  then
• 5:04
  I
• 5:04
  then
• 5:05
  started
• 5:05
  up
• 5:05
  my
• 5:05
  business
• 5:06
  doing
• 5:06
  therapy
• 5:07
  for
• 5:07
  kids
• 5:08
  and
• 5:08
  parents
• 5:09
  to
• 5:09
  sort
• 5:09
  of
• 5:10
  coach
• 5:10
  them
• 5:10
  through
• 5:10
  any
• 5:11
  issues
• 5:12
  that
• 5:12
  they've
• 5:12
  got
• 5:12
  going
• 5:12
  on.
• 5:13
  It's
• 5:13
  kind
• 5:13
  of
• 5:14
  worked
• 5:14
  out
• 5:14
  that
• 5:14
  I
• 5:14
  now
• 5:15
  sort
• 5:15
  of
• 5:15
  specialize
• 5:16
  in
• 5:16
  neurodivergence
• 5:17
  in
• 5:18
  a
• 5:18
  roundabout
• 5:19
  way.
• 5:19
  I
• 5:20
  think
• 5:20
  just
• 5:20
  because
• 5:21
  my
• 5:22
  children
• 5:22
  are.
• 5:22
  And
• 5:23
  a
• 5:23
  lot
• 5:23
  of
• 5:23
  children
• 5:24
  in
• 5:24
  my
• 5:24
  area
• 5:25
  in
• 5:25
  home
• 5:25
  ed
• 5:25
  are,
• 5:26
  so
• 5:26
  I
• 5:26
  end
• 5:26
  up
• 5:27
  having
• 5:27
  quite
• 5:27
  a
• 5:27
  lot
• 5:27
  of
• 5:27
  those
• 5:28
  through
• 5:28
  the
• 5:28
  door.
• 5:28
  So
• 5:29
  it's,
• 5:29
  it's
• 5:29
  kind
• 5:29
  of.
• 5:29
  I've
• 5:30
  rolled
• 5:30
  it
• 5:30
  all
• 5:30
  into
• 5:30
  one
• 5:31
  and
• 5:31
  just
• 5:31
  created
• 5:31
  this
• 5:32
  big,
• 5:33
  big,
• 5:33
  big,
• 5:34
  big
• 5:35
  landing
• 5:36
  net
• 5:36
  of.
• 5:37
  Yeah.
• 5:37
  Work
• 5:38
  and
• 5:38
  home
• 5:38
  ed
• 5:38
  coaching.
• 5:39
  And
• 5:40
  now
• 5:40
  I'm
• 5:40
  running
• 5:41
  home
• 5:41
  ed
• 5:42
  trips
• 5:42
  and
• 5:43
  a
• 5:43
  group
• 5:43
  and
• 5:43
  we've
• 5:43
  just
• 5:44
  opened
• 5:44
  a
• 5:44
  home
• 5:44
  ed
• 5:44
  center.
• 5:45
  Yeah.
• 5:46
  So
• 5:46
  we're
• 5:46
  now
• 5:47
  full
• 5:47
  go
• 5:47
  steam
• 5:48
  ahead.
• 5:49
  Busy,
• 5:49
  busy,
• 5:49
  busy.
• 5:50
  You're
• 5:50
  one
• 5:51
  of
• 5:51
  these
• 5:51
  people,
• 5:51
  right,
• 5:51
  that
• 5:52
  has
• 5:52
  like
• 5:52
  a
• 5:52
  hundred
• 5:53
  projects
• 5:53
  on
• 5:53
  the
• 5:53
  go
• 5:53
  at
• 5:54
  one
• 5:54
  time
• 5:54
  and
• 5:55
  like
• 5:55
  a
• 5:55
  football
• 5:55
  team
• 5:55
  of
• 5:56
  children
• 5:56
  that
• 5:56
  you're
• 5:56
  home
• 5:56
  educating,
• 5:57
  basically.
• 5:58
  Yes,
• 5:58
  all
• 5:58
  of
• 5:58
  the.
• 5:59
  Very
• 5:59
  cool.
• 6:00
  I
• 6:00
  think
• 6:00
  I'm
• 6:00
  on
• 6:00
  Project
• 6:01
  5
• 6:01
  at.
• 6:02
  The
• 6:02
  moment,
• 6:03
  just
• 6:04
  in
• 6:04
  case,
• 6:04
  God
• 6:04
  forbid,
• 6:05
  you're
• 6:05
  quiet
• 6:06
  at
• 6:06
  any
• 6:06
  point
• 6:06
  in
• 6:07
  your
• 6:07
  day.
• 6:07
  And
• 6:07
  I
• 6:07
  can't
• 6:07
  cope
• 6:08
  with
• 6:08
  being
• 6:08
  quiet.
• 6:09
  If
• 6:09
  I'm
• 6:09
  quiet,
• 6:09
  I
• 6:10
  don't
• 6:10
  know
• 6:10
  what
• 6:10
  to
• 6:10
  do.
• 6:10
  And
• 6:10
  then
• 6:11
  I'm
• 6:11
  doing
• 6:11
  something
• 6:11
  else
• 6:12
  because
• 6:12
  I'm
• 6:12
  like,
• 6:12
  oh,
• 6:13
  well,
• 6:13
  if
• 6:13
  I
• 6:13
  just
• 6:13
  do
• 6:14
  this.
• 6:14
  And
• 6:14
  then
• 6:14
  my
• 6:15
  husband's
• 6:15
  like,
• 6:15
  what
• 6:15
  are
• 6:15
  you
• 6:16
  doing
• 6:16
  now?
• 6:16
  Just
• 6:16
  stop,
• 6:17
  just
• 6:17
  put
• 6:17
  it
• 6:17
  down.
• 6:17
  But
• 6:18
  I
• 6:18
  can't,
• 6:18
  can't
• 6:19
  sit
• 6:19
  still.
• 6:20
  Yeah.
• 6:20
  So
• 6:21
  it's.
• 6:21
  Yes,
• 6:21
  but
• 6:22
  a
• 6:22
  lot
• 6:22
  of
• 6:22
  hats.
• 6:23
  But
• 6:23
  I
• 6:23
  now
• 6:24
  focus
• 6:24
  on
• 6:24
  helping
• 6:25
  home
• 6:26
  ed
• 6:26
  mums
• 6:27
  deal
• 6:27
  with
• 6:28
  children.
• 6:29
  Any
• 6:29
  issues
• 6:29
  that
• 6:29
  they
• 6:30
  have,
• 6:30
  especially
• 6:31
  with
• 6:31
  other
• 6:31
  people,
• 6:32
  that
• 6:32
  seems
• 6:32
  to
• 6:33
  be
• 6:33
  coming
• 6:33
  through
• 6:33
  quite
• 6:33
  a
• 6:34
  lot.
• 6:34
  The
• 6:34
  outside
• 6:35
  influences
• 6:36
  and
• 6:36
  opinions
• 6:37
  that
• 6:37
  people
• 6:37
  have
• 6:38
  in
• 6:38
  their
• 6:39
  life
• 6:39
  just
• 6:39
  seem
• 6:40
  to
• 6:40
  be
• 6:40
  really
• 6:40
  negative
• 6:41
  and
• 6:41
  horrible.
• 6:42
  So
• 6:42
  I
• 6:42
  actually
• 6:43
  started
• 6:43
  a
• 6:44
  thing
• 6:44
  on
• 6:44
  my
• 6:45
  Facebook,
• 6:45
  like
• 6:46
  a
• 6:46
  theme
• 6:46
  on
• 6:47
  my
• 6:47
  Facebook
• 6:47
  where
• 6:47
  I
• 6:48
  posted
• 6:48
  the
• 6:49
  activities
• 6:49
  that
• 6:49
  me
• 6:49
  and
• 6:50
  my
• 6:50
  children
• 6:50
  are
• 6:50
  doing
• 6:51
  and
• 6:51
  I
• 6:51
  link
• 6:52
  it
• 6:52
  up
• 6:52
  with
• 6:52
  the
• 6:52
  actual
• 6:53
  curriculum
• 6:54
  from
• 6:54
  the
• 6:54
  government
• 6:55
  and
• 6:56
  sort
• 6:56
  of
• 6:56
  explain
• 6:57
  to
• 6:57
  people
• 6:57
  how
• 6:57
  they
• 6:58
  can
• 6:58
  cross
• 6:58
  over
• 6:59
  curriculum.
• 6:59
  So
• 7:00
  when
• 7:00
  people
• 7:00
  say
• 7:00
  to
• 7:00
  them,
• 7:01
  oh,
• 7:01
  well,
• 7:01
  you
• 7:01
  know,
• 7:01
  they're
• 7:01
  not
• 7:02
  going
• 7:02
  to
• 7:02
  learn
• 7:02
  anything,
• 7:03
  and
• 7:03
  it's
• 7:03
  like,
• 7:04
  well,
• 7:04
  actually
• 7:04
  we're
• 7:04
  still
• 7:05
  kind
• 7:05
  of
• 7:05
  doing
• 7:05
  curriculum,
• 7:06
  but
• 7:07
  we're
• 7:07
  just
• 7:07
  not
• 7:07
  doing
• 7:08
  it
• 7:08
  in
• 7:08
  your
• 7:08
  standard
• 7:09
  way
• 7:09
  of
• 7:09
  sitting
• 7:10
  at
• 7:10
  a
• 7:10
  desk
• 7:10
  and
• 7:10
  writing
• 7:11
  10
• 7:11
  ton
• 7:12
  of
• 7:12
  crap
• 7:12
  on
• 7:12
  papers.
• 7:13
  But
• 7:13
  yeah,
• 7:14
  it's,
• 7:14
  it's,
• 7:14
  you
• 7:14
  know,
• 7:15
  it's
• 7:15
  just
• 7:15
  teaching
• 7:15
  them
• 7:15
  a
• 7:16
  different
• 7:16
  way
• 7:16
  to
• 7:16
  look
• 7:16
  at
• 7:16
  it,
• 7:16
  which
• 7:17
  I
• 7:17
  think
• 7:17
  people
• 7:17
  need.
• 7:18
  I
• 7:19
  think
• 7:19
  it
• 7:19
  can
• 7:19
  be
• 7:19
  reassuring,
• 7:20
  particularly
• 7:21
  with
• 7:22
  relatives
• 7:23
  that
• 7:23
  have
• 7:23
  opinions,
• 7:24
  like
• 7:24
  you
• 7:24
  say,
• 7:24
  about
• 7:25
  home
• 7:25
  ed,
• 7:25
  for
• 7:25
  you
• 7:26
  to
• 7:26
  be
• 7:26
  able
• 7:26
  to
• 7:26
  say,
• 7:26
  oh,
• 7:26
  well,
• 7:27
  actually
• 7:27
  we
• 7:27
  went
• 7:27
  to
• 7:28
  this
• 7:28
  group
• 7:28
  today
• 7:28
  and
• 7:29
  we
• 7:29
  covered
• 7:29
  this
• 7:30
  bit
• 7:30
  of
• 7:30
  the
• 7:30
  Curriculum,
• 7:30
  that
• 7:31
  bit
• 7:31
  of
• 7:31
  the
• 7:31
  curriculum.
• 7:31
  It's
• 7:32
  a
• 7:32
  shame
• 7:32
  that
• 7:32
  we
• 7:32
  have
• 7:33
  to
• 7:33
  do
• 7:33
  that,
• 7:33
  but
• 7:33
  realistically,
• 7:34
  sometimes,
• 7:35
  sometimes
• 7:36
  we
• 7:36
  do.
• 7:37
  Right,
• 7:37
  so.
• 7:38
  So
• 7:38
  you
• 7:38
  mentioned
• 7:39
  about
• 7:39
  meltdowns
• 7:40
  there.
• 7:40
  And
• 7:40
  I
• 7:40
  know
• 7:40
  that
• 7:40
  today
• 7:41
  we're
• 7:41
  going
• 7:41
  to
• 7:41
  be
• 7:41
  covering
• 7:42
  techniques
• 7:42
  to
• 7:43
  really
• 7:44
  sort
• 7:44
  of
• 7:44
  go
• 7:45
  through
• 7:45
  the
• 7:45
  arc
• 7:46
  of
• 7:46
  a
• 7:46
  meltdown.
• 7:46
  So
• 7:47
  we're
• 7:47
  going
• 7:47
  to
• 7:47
  start
• 7:48
  with
• 7:48
  ones
• 7:49
  that
• 7:49
  might
• 7:49
  help
• 7:49
  prevent
• 7:50
  it,
• 7:50
  what
• 7:51
  to
• 7:51
  do
• 7:51
  in
• 7:51
  the
• 7:52
  midst
• 7:52
  of
• 7:52
  it,
• 7:52
  and
• 7:52
  then
• 7:53
  maybe
• 7:53
  what
• 7:53
  to
• 7:53
  do
• 7:53
  afterwards
• 7:54
  to
• 7:54
  kind
• 7:54
  of
• 7:54
  settle
• 7:55
  things
• 7:55
  down
• 7:55
  and
• 7:55
  consolidate.
• 7:56
  So
• 7:56
  Charlotte,
• 7:57
  what
• 7:57
  is
• 7:57
  your
• 7:57
  first
• 7:58
  technique
• 7:59
  or
• 7:59
  tip
• 8:00
  for
• 8:00
  us
• 8:00
  to
• 8:00
  use
• 8:01
  if
• 8:01
  we
• 8:01
  feel
• 8:02
  that
• 8:02
  a
• 8:02
  meltdown
• 8:02
  is
• 8:03
  coming?
• 8:03
  Yeah,
• 8:04
  so
• 8:04
  if
• 8:04
  we're.
• 8:04
  So
• 8:05
  we
• 8:05
  all
• 8:05
  know
• 8:05
  our
• 8:05
  signs
• 8:06
  of
• 8:06
  our
• 8:06
  children,
• 8:06
  right?
• 8:07
  Like
• 8:07
  we
• 8:07
  can
• 8:07
  all
• 8:08
  see
• 8:08
  when
• 8:09
  our
• 8:09
  kids
• 8:09
  are
• 8:09
  starting
• 8:09
  to
• 8:10
  get
• 8:10
  a
• 8:10
  little
• 8:10
  bit
• 8:10
  flustered,
• 8:11
  a
• 8:11
  little
• 8:11
  bit
• 8:11
  overwhelmed.
• 8:12
  Especially
• 8:12
  if
• 8:13
  you
• 8:13
  have
• 8:13
  young
• 8:13
  children,
• 8:13
  it's
• 8:14
  normally
• 8:14
  being
• 8:14
  tired
• 8:15
  or
• 8:15
  hungry
• 8:16
  or
• 8:16
  bored
• 8:16
  or
• 8:17
  whatever
• 8:17
  the
• 8:17
  situation
• 8:18
  is.
• 8:19
  As
• 8:19
  they
• 8:19
  get
• 8:19
  older,
• 8:20
  you,
• 8:20
  you
• 8:20
  can
• 8:20
  kind
• 8:20
  of
• 8:21
  gauge
• 8:21
  by
• 8:21
  language.
• 8:22
  And
• 8:23
  you
• 8:23
  know,
• 8:23
  I,
• 8:23
  I
• 8:24
  know
• 8:24
  with
• 8:25
  my
• 8:25
  six
• 8:25
  year
• 8:25
  old
• 8:25
  now
• 8:26
  that
• 8:26
  if
• 8:26
  she
• 8:26
  starts
• 8:26
  to
• 8:27
  like
• 8:27
  grunt
• 8:27
  or
• 8:27
  make
• 8:28
  funny
• 8:28
  noises,
• 8:28
  I'm
• 8:29
  like,
• 8:29
  oh,
• 8:29
  okay,
• 8:29
  there's
• 8:29
  something
• 8:30
  going
• 8:30
  on
• 8:30
  here.
• 8:30
  She's
• 8:31
  losing
• 8:31
  the
• 8:31
  ability
• 8:31
  to
• 8:32
  speak.
• 8:32
  So
• 8:33
  let's
• 8:33
  figure
• 8:33
  out
• 8:33
  what
• 8:34
  it
• 8:34
  is.
• 8:35
  I
• 8:35
  play
• 8:35
  this
• 8:35
  really
• 8:36
  cool
• 8:36
  game
• 8:36
  with
• 8:36
  all
• 8:37
  of
• 8:37
  my
• 8:37
  clients
• 8:37
  and
• 8:38
  on
• 8:38
  my
• 8:38
  online
• 8:39
  classes,
• 8:40
  it's
• 8:41
  called
• 8:41
  the
• 8:41
  five
• 8:42
  Senses
• 8:42
  game.
• 8:42
  And
• 8:43
  you
• 8:43
  can
• 8:43
  sort
• 8:43
  of
• 8:43
  use
• 8:43
  it
• 8:43
  as
• 8:44
  a
• 8:44
  pre
• 8:44
  preventative
• 8:45
  measure.
• 8:46
  If
• 8:46
  you
• 8:46
  can
• 8:46
  see
• 8:46
  it
• 8:47
  starting
• 8:47
  to
• 8:47
  go
• 8:47
  a
• 8:47
  bit
• 8:47
  ski
• 8:48
  whiff
• 8:48
  and
• 8:48
  you
• 8:48
  think,
• 8:48
  oh,
• 8:49
  need
• 8:49
  to
• 8:49
  catch
• 8:49
  this
• 8:50
  before
• 8:50
  it
• 8:50
  blows
• 8:50
  up.
• 8:51
  So
• 8:51
  you.
• 8:52
  It's
• 8:52
  really
• 8:52
  easy.
• 8:53
  You
• 8:53
  can
• 8:53
  do
• 8:53
  it
• 8:53
  wherever,
• 8:54
  whenever.
• 8:54
  I've
• 8:55
  done
• 8:55
  it
• 8:55
  in
• 8:55
  the
• 8:55
  car,
• 8:55
  I've
• 8:56
  done
• 8:56
  it
• 8:56
  out
• 8:56
  in
• 8:56
  the
• 8:57
  street,
• 8:57
  I've
• 8:57
  done
• 8:57
  it
• 8:58
  at
• 8:58
  home.
• 8:58
  You
• 8:58
  can
• 8:58
  do
• 8:59
  it
• 8:59
  wherever
• 8:59
  because
• 8:59
  you,
• 8:59
  it
• 9:00
  can
• 9:00
  be
• 9:00
  adapted
• 9:00
  to
• 9:01
  your
• 9:01
  environment.
• 9:01
  So
• 9:02
  you
• 9:03
  ask
• 9:03
  them
• 9:03
  to
• 9:03
  go
• 9:03
  and
• 9:04
  find
• 9:04
  something
• 9:04
  they
• 9:04
  can
• 9:05
  see,
• 9:05
  something
• 9:06
  they
• 9:06
  can
• 9:06
  feel,
• 9:07
  something
• 9:07
  they
• 9:08
  can
• 9:08
  hear,
• 9:10
  smell
• 9:10
  and
• 9:10
  taste.
• 9:11
  Lots
• 9:11
  of
• 9:11
  kids
• 9:12
  cheat
• 9:12
  and
• 9:12
  bring
• 9:13
  me
• 9:13
  one
• 9:13
  thing
• 9:14
  that
• 9:14
  they
• 9:14
  can
• 9:14
  do
• 9:14
  all
• 9:15
  five
• 9:15
  with
• 9:17
  which
• 9:17
  if
• 9:17
  they
• 9:18
  do
• 9:18
  that,
• 9:18
  I
• 9:18
  do
• 9:19
  say
• 9:19
  that
• 9:19
  to
• 9:19
  you,
• 9:19
  I
• 9:20
  do
• 9:20
  say
• 9:20
  that
• 9:20
  to
• 9:20
  them
• 9:21
  that
• 9:21
  you
• 9:21
  know,
• 9:22
  as
• 9:22
  long
• 9:22
  as
• 9:22
  you
• 9:22
  can
• 9:23
  explain
• 9:23
  to
• 9:23
  me
• 9:23
  what
• 9:24
  each
• 9:24
  bit
• 9:24
  is
• 9:25
  and
• 9:25
  what
• 9:25
  it
• 9:25
  smells
• 9:26
  like
• 9:26
  or
• 9:26
  tastes
• 9:27
  like,
• 9:27
  then
• 9:27
  I
• 9:27
  will
• 9:27
  let
• 9:28
  you
• 9:28
  have
• 9:28
  it.
• 9:28
  But
• 9:28
  I
• 9:29
  would
• 9:29
  like
• 9:29
  five
• 9:29
  different
• 9:30
  things.
• 9:30
  However,
• 9:31
  when
• 9:31
  you're
• 9:31
  dealing
• 9:31
  with
• 9:32
  an
• 9:32
  autistic
• 9:33
  PDA
• 9:33
  kid
• 9:33
  that
• 9:34
  if
• 9:34
  you've
• 9:34
  told
• 9:34
  them
• 9:34
  five,
• 9:35
  they
• 9:35
  then
• 9:35
  go,
• 9:35
  I
• 9:35
  don't
• 9:36
  want
• 9:36
  to
• 9:36
  get
• 9:36
  five,
• 9:36
  I
• 9:36
  want
• 9:36
  to
• 9:36
  get
• 9:36
  two.
• 9:37
  And
• 9:37
  I'm
• 9:37
  like,
• 9:37
  okay,
• 9:38
  fine,
• 9:38
  you
• 9:38
  can
• 9:39
  have
• 9:39
  two,
• 9:39
  let's
• 9:40
  just
• 9:41
  smell
• 9:41
  it,
• 9:41
  shall
• 9:41
  we?
• 9:42
  But
• 9:43
  the
• 9:43
  idea
• 9:43
  behind
• 9:43
  it
• 9:44
  is
• 9:44
  that
• 9:45
  when
• 9:45
  you
• 9:45
  ground
• 9:46
  with
• 9:46
  your
• 9:46
  senses,
• 9:47
  you
• 9:48
  lock
• 9:48
  into
• 9:49
  your
• 9:49
  nervous
• 9:49
  system
• 9:50
  a
• 9:50
  little
• 9:50
  bit
• 9:50
  and
• 9:50
  you
• 9:51
  can
• 9:51
  touch
• 9:51
  on
• 9:52
  the
• 9:52
  inside
• 9:52
  without
• 9:53
  realizing
• 9:53
  that
• 9:54
  you're
• 9:54
  touching
• 9:54
  on
• 9:54
  the
• 9:54
  inside.
• 9:55
  So
• 9:55
  if
• 9:55
  they're
• 9:55
  feeling
• 9:56
  a
• 9:56
  little
• 9:56
  bit,
• 9:57
  you
• 9:57
  know,
• 9:57
  icky
• 9:58
  with
• 9:58
  whatever
• 9:59
  it
• 9:59
  is,
• 9:59
  or
• 9:59
  even
• 10:00
  if
• 10:01
  they
• 10:01
  don't
• 10:01
  know
• 10:01
  what
• 10:02
  it
• 10:02
  is
• 10:02
  that
• 10:02
  they're
• 10:02
  feeling
• 10:03
  a
• 10:03
  lot
• 10:03
  of
• 10:04
  the
• 10:04
  time,
• 10:04
  if
• 10:04
  I
• 10:04
  play
• 10:05
  that
• 10:05
  and
• 10:05
  then
• 10:05
  afterwards
• 10:06
  my,
• 10:07
  my
• 10:08
  third
• 10:08
  one
• 10:08
  will
• 10:08
  be
• 10:08
  like,
• 10:09
  oh,
• 10:09
  mom,
• 10:09
  actually
• 10:09
  I'm
• 10:09
  hungry.
• 10:10
  I'm
• 10:10
  like,
• 10:10
  there
• 10:10
  we
• 10:10
  go.
• 10:11
  There
• 10:11
  it
• 10:11
  is.
• 10:11
  So
• 10:12
  you've
• 10:12
  locked
• 10:12
  into
• 10:12
  your
• 10:12
  senses,
• 10:13
  you've
• 10:13
  listened
• 10:14
  to
• 10:14
  your
• 10:14
  body,
• 10:15
  you've
• 10:15
  paid
• 10:15
  attention
• 10:16
  to
• 10:16
  how
• 10:16
  you're
• 10:16
  feeling,
• 10:16
  and
• 10:17
  then
• 10:17
  you
• 10:17
  can
• 10:17
  now
• 10:17
  tell
• 10:17
  me
• 10:18
  what's
• 10:18
  wrong.
• 10:18
  It
• 10:18
  can
• 10:19
  get
• 10:19
  you
• 10:19
  out
• 10:19
  of
• 10:19
  a
• 10:20
  jam,
• 10:20
  hopefully,
• 10:21
  is
• 10:21
  the
• 10:21
  plan.
• 10:22
  Obviously
• 10:23
  kids
• 10:23
  don't
• 10:23
  always,
• 10:24
  it
• 10:24
  doesn't
• 10:25
  always
• 10:25
  go
• 10:25
  to
• 10:25
  plan,
• 10:26
  but
• 10:26
  yeah,
• 10:27
  using
• 10:27
  it
• 10:27
  as
• 10:27
  a
• 10:27
  preventative
• 10:28
  measure
• 10:28
  can
• 10:29
  sometimes
• 10:30
  get
• 10:30
  you
• 10:31
  caught
• 10:31
  it
• 10:31
  before
• 10:32
  it
• 10:32
  goes
• 10:32
  overboard
• 10:33
  a
• 10:33
  little
• 10:33
  bit.
• 10:34
  Yeah.
• 10:34
  And
• 10:35
  it's
• 10:35
  a
• 10:35
  lovely,
• 10:35
  it's
• 10:36
  a
• 10:36
  lovely
• 10:36
  kind
• 10:37
  of
• 10:37
  kinesthetic
• 10:38
  way
• 10:38
  to
• 10:39
  build
• 10:39
  in
• 10:39
  that
• 10:39
  5,
• 10:40
  4,
• 10:40
  3,
• 10:40
  2,
• 10:40
  1,
• 10:41
  DBT
• 10:41
  approach
• 10:42
  of
• 10:42
  five
• 10:42
  things
• 10:43
  you
• 10:43
  can
• 10:43
  see,
• 10:43
  four
• 10:44
  things
• 10:44
  you
• 10:44
  can.
• 10:45
  I
• 10:46
  can
• 10:46
  never
• 10:46
  remember.
• 10:46
  Whichever
• 10:47
  way
• 10:47
  around.
• 10:47
  Yes,
• 10:48
  yeah,
• 10:48
  yeah.
• 10:48
  I
• 10:48
  always
• 10:49
  say
• 10:49
  to
• 10:49
  my
• 10:49
  clients,
• 10:49
  it
• 10:49
  doesn't
• 10:50
  really
• 10:50
  matter.
• 10:51
  Honestly,
• 10:51
  the
• 10:52
  order
• 10:52
  does
• 10:52
  not
• 10:52
  matter.
• 10:53
  It's
• 10:53
  a
• 10:53
  distraction
• 10:53
  technique.
• 10:54
  So,
• 10:54
  yeah,
• 10:54
  it's.
• 10:55
  That's
• 10:55
  a
• 10:55
  really
• 10:55
  nice
• 10:55
  idea
• 10:56
  that
• 10:56
  you
• 10:56
  get
• 10:56
  the
• 10:56
  children
• 10:56
  going
• 10:57
  around
• 10:57
  looking
• 10:57
  for
• 10:58
  things
• 10:58
  that
• 10:58
  will
• 10:58
  cover
• 10:59
  these
• 10:59
  different
• 10:59
  senses.
• 11:00
  Okay.
• 11:00
  So
• 11:00
  we've
• 11:01
  got
• 11:01
  that
• 11:01
  period
• 11:02
  in
• 11:02
  the
• 11:02
  run
• 11:02
  up
• 11:03
  where
• 11:03
  you
• 11:03
  think
• 11:03
  something's
• 11:04
  going
• 11:04
  awry
• 11:05
  and
• 11:06
  so
• 11:06
  you've
• 11:06
  maybe
• 11:06
  tried
• 11:07
  to
• 11:07
  distract
• 11:07
  them
• 11:08
  and
• 11:08
  then
• 11:08
  you've
• 11:09
  got
• 11:09
  the
• 11:09
  period
• 11:10
  when
• 11:10
  they're
• 11:11
  just
• 11:11
  kind
• 11:11
  of
• 11:11
  on
• 11:11
  the
• 11:12
  cusp.
• 11:12
  But
• 11:12
  now
• 11:13
  one
• 11:13
  thing
• 11:13
  I
• 11:13
  like
• 11:14
  to
• 11:14
  recommend
• 11:14
  with
• 11:14
  my
• 11:15
  clients
• 11:15
  is,
• 11:15
  is
• 11:16
  nervous
• 11:16
  system
• 11:16
  regulation.
• 11:17
  This
• 11:18
  is
• 11:18
  really
• 11:18
  nice.
• 11:19
  I
• 11:19
  think
• 11:19
  for
• 11:19
  older
• 11:21
  children,
• 11:21
  younger
• 11:22
  children,
• 11:22
  I,
• 11:22
  I
• 11:23
  find
• 11:23
  struggle
• 11:24
  a
• 11:24
  little
• 11:24
  bit
• 11:24
  sometimes
• 11:25
  with
• 11:25
  this,
• 11:25
  but.
• 11:26
  But
• 11:26
  for
• 11:27
  children
• 11:27
  over
• 11:28
  the
• 11:28
  age
• 11:28
  of
• 11:28
  about
• 11:28
  10ish,
• 11:29
  I
• 11:29
  find
• 11:29
  that
• 11:30
  a
• 11:30
  nervous
• 11:30
  system
• 11:30
  regulation
• 11:31
  can
• 11:31
  be
• 11:31
  a
• 11:31
  really
• 11:32
  nice
• 11:32
  preventative.
• 11:33
  It
• 11:33
  can
• 11:33
  just
• 11:33
  sort
• 11:33
  of
• 11:34
  settle
• 11:34
  all
• 11:35
  the
• 11:35
  tension
• 11:36
  down
• 11:36
  in
• 11:36
  the
• 11:36
  body.
• 11:36
  It
• 11:37
  is
• 11:37
  really
• 11:37
  good
• 11:37
  for
• 11:37
  parents
• 11:38
  as
• 11:38
  well,
• 11:38
  I
• 11:38
  find,
• 11:38
  because
• 11:39
  we
• 11:39
  can
• 11:40
  find.
• 11:40
  We
• 11:40
  know
• 11:40
  we
• 11:41
  are
• 11:41
  on
• 11:41
  high
• 11:41
  alert,
• 11:42
  so
• 11:43
  we
• 11:43
  notice,
• 11:43
  okay,
• 11:44
  there's
• 11:44
  something
• 11:44
  happening
• 11:45
  now.
• 11:45
  We
• 11:45
  then
• 11:45
  get
• 11:46
  triggered.
• 11:46
  Our
• 11:47
  nervous
• 11:47
  system
• 11:47
  starts
• 11:48
  getting
• 11:48
  sort
• 11:49
  of
• 11:49
  quite
• 11:49
  flooded.
• 11:50
  And
• 11:50
  what
• 11:51
  I
• 11:51
  like.
• 11:51
  There's
• 11:52
  two
• 11:52
  nervous
• 11:52
  system
• 11:53
  regulation
• 11:53
  techniques
• 11:54
  that
• 11:54
  are
• 11:54
  probably
• 11:54
  my
• 11:54
  favorites.
• 11:56
  One
• 11:56
  is
• 11:56
  the
• 11:56
  peripheral
• 11:57
  vision
• 11:57
  technique.
• 11:58
  I
• 11:58
  don't
• 11:58
  know
• 11:58
  if
• 11:58
  you've
• 11:59
  ever,
• 11:59
  have
• 12:00
  you
• 12:00
  ever
• 12:00
  come
• 12:00
  across
• 12:00
  this
• 12:01
  one?
• 12:01
  I
• 12:02
  think
• 12:02
  I
• 12:02
  have,
• 12:02
  yeah.
• 12:03
  Yeah.
• 12:03
  It's
• 12:03
  like,
• 12:04
  it's
• 12:04
  like
• 12:04
  a
• 12:04
  sniper
• 12:05
  one.
• 12:05
  So
• 12:05
  what
• 12:05
  you
• 12:06
  have
• 12:06
  to
• 12:06
  do
• 12:06
  is
• 12:07
  you
• 12:07
  have
• 12:07
  to
• 12:07
  look
• 12:08
  at
• 12:08
  a
• 12:08
  spot
• 12:09
  straight
• 12:09
  ahead
• 12:09
  and
• 12:09
  slightly
• 12:10
  up.
• 12:11
  And
• 12:11
  then
• 12:11
  you
• 12:11
  have
• 12:11
  to
• 12:11
  really
• 12:12
  focus
• 12:12
  on
• 12:12
  it
• 12:13
  for
• 12:13
  about
• 12:13
  10
• 12:13
  seconds.
• 12:14
  Then
• 12:15
  you
• 12:15
  have
• 12:15
  to
• 12:15
  soften
• 12:16
  your
• 12:16
  gaze
• 12:16
  for
• 12:17
  about
• 12:17
  10
• 12:17
  seconds.
• 12:18
  And
• 12:18
  then
• 12:19
  what
• 12:19
  you
• 12:19
  do
• 12:19
  is
• 12:19
  you
• 12:19
  bring
• 12:20
  your
• 12:20
  awareness
• 12:20
  to
• 12:21
  two
• 12:21
  points
• 12:21
  on
• 12:22
  your
• 12:22
  periphery,
• 12:23
  but
• 12:23
  you
• 12:23
  keep
• 12:24
  your
• 12:24
  eyes
• 12:24
  looking
• 12:25
  straight
• 12:25
  ahead.
• 12:26
  Now
• 12:26
  this
• 12:26
  is
• 12:27
  such
• 12:27
  a
• 12:27
  lovely
• 12:27
  one.
• 12:28
  A
• 12:29
  lot
• 12:29
  of
• 12:29
  my
• 12:29
  clients
• 12:29
  like
• 12:29
  it.
• 12:30
  You
• 12:30
  get
• 12:30
  a
• 12:30
  kind
• 12:30
  of
• 12:30
  almost
• 12:31
  like
• 12:31
  an
• 12:31
  elevator
• 12:32
  drop
• 12:32
  feeling
• 12:32
  in
• 12:32
  your
• 12:32
  nervous
• 12:33
  system.
• 12:34
  If
• 12:34
  you
• 12:34
  get
• 12:34
  that,
• 12:35
  you
• 12:35
  know
• 12:35
  it's
• 12:35
  working
• 12:36
  for
• 12:36
  you.
• 12:36
  So
• 12:36
  it's
• 12:36
  10
• 12:37
  seconds
• 12:37
  focus
• 12:37
  straight
• 12:38
  ahead,
• 12:38
  10
• 12:39
  seconds
• 12:39
  blurring
• 12:40
  your
• 12:40
  eyes,
• 12:41
  and
• 12:41
  then
• 12:42
  10
• 12:42
  seconds
• 12:42
  just
• 12:43
  with
• 12:43
  an
• 12:43
  awareness
• 12:44
  of
• 12:44
  two
• 12:44
  things
• 12:45
  on
• 12:45
  your
• 12:45
  periphery.
• 12:45
  You
• 12:46
  can
• 12:46
  put
• 12:46
  your
• 12:46
  fingers
• 12:46
  up
• 12:47
  at
• 12:47
  your
• 12:47
  periphery
• 12:48
  or
• 12:48
  you
• 12:48
  can
• 12:48
  just
• 12:48
  notice
• 12:49
  something
• 12:49
  sort
• 12:50
  of
• 12:50
  in
• 12:51
  at
• 12:51
  the
• 12:51
  sides
• 12:51
  of
• 12:51
  your
• 12:52
  room.
• 12:53
  That's
• 12:53
  a
• 12:53
  really
• 12:53
  nice
• 12:53
  one.
• 12:54
  It
• 12:54
  doesn't
• 12:54
  work
• 12:55
  for
• 12:55
  everybody.
• 12:55
  And
• 12:56
  some
• 12:56
  children
• 12:56
  particularly
• 12:57
  who
• 12:57
  have
• 12:57
  eye
• 12:58
  issues,
• 12:58
  they
• 12:59
  won't
• 12:59
  like
• 12:59
  it.
• 12:59
  So
• 13:00
  I
• 13:00
  always
• 13:00
  have
• 13:00
  a
• 13:00
  backup,
• 13:01
  which
• 13:02
  is
• 13:03
  something
• 13:03
  along
• 13:04
  the
• 13:04
  lines
• 13:04
  of
• 13:06
  the
• 13:06
  Americans
• 13:07
  call
• 13:07
  it
• 13:08
  like
• 13:08
  instant
• 13:09
  noodles
• 13:09
  or
• 13:10
  something.
• 13:10
  Or
• 13:10
  like
• 13:10
  cooked
• 13:11
  noodles
• 13:11
  or
• 13:11
  something.
• 13:11
  I
• 13:12
  prefer
• 13:12
  cooked
• 13:12
  spaghetti.
• 13:13
  And
• 13:13
  it's
• 13:13
  this
• 13:13
  idea
• 13:14
  that,
• 13:14
  you
• 13:14
  know,
• 13:14
  when
• 13:14
  you
• 13:14
  cook
• 13:15
  spaghetti
• 13:15
  and
• 13:15
  you
• 13:15
  put
• 13:15
  it
• 13:16
  on
• 13:16
  a
• 13:16
  plate
• 13:16
  and
• 13:16
  it's
• 13:16
  all
• 13:16
  just
• 13:17
  like
• 13:17
  flip,
• 13:18
  like
• 13:18
  flurpy.
• 13:19
  You
• 13:19
  tense
• 13:20
  all
• 13:20
  your
• 13:20
  muscles
• 13:20
  in
• 13:20
  your
• 13:21
  body
• 13:21
  and
• 13:21
  then
• 13:21
  you
• 13:21
  try
• 13:21
  to
• 13:21
  like
• 13:22
  spaghetti
• 13:23
  them.
• 13:23
  Yeah,
• 13:23
  you'd
• 13:24
  like
• 13:24
  flurp
• 13:24
  everything.
• 13:25
  Now
• 13:25
  the
• 13:25
  only
• 13:26
  caveat
• 13:26
  I
• 13:26
  will
• 13:26
  say
• 13:26
  is
• 13:26
  if
• 13:27
  you
• 13:27
  do
• 13:27
  this
• 13:27
  with
• 13:27
  young
• 13:27
  children,
• 13:28
  they
• 13:28
  can
• 13:28
  do
• 13:28
  wheeze,
• 13:29
  which
• 13:30
  is
• 13:30
  like
• 13:30
  the
• 13:30
  last
• 13:31
  thing
• 13:31
  you
• 13:31
  want
• 13:31
  to
• 13:31
  do
• 13:31
  because
• 13:32
  everything
• 13:32
  relaxes.
• 13:33
  But
• 13:34
  it
• 13:34
  is
• 13:34
  really
• 13:34
  nice
• 13:35
  and
• 13:35
  it's
• 13:35
  quite
• 13:35
  fun.
• 13:36
  And
• 13:36
  you
• 13:36
  can
• 13:36
  kind
• 13:36
  of
• 13:37
  like
• 13:37
  say,
• 13:37
  oh,
• 13:37
  let's,
• 13:37
  let's
• 13:38
  do
• 13:38
  the
• 13:38
  kind
• 13:38
  of
• 13:38
  cook
• 13:38
  spaghetti
• 13:39
  thing.
• 13:39
  And
• 13:39
  it's
• 13:40
  very
• 13:40
  quick.
• 13:41
  So
• 13:41
  I
• 13:41
  think
• 13:41
  both
• 13:42
  of
• 13:42
  those
• 13:42
  nervous
• 13:43
  system
• 13:43
  regulation
• 13:44
  things
• 13:44
  are
• 13:44
  quite
• 13:45
  nice
• 13:45
  to
• 13:45
  tuck
• 13:46
  in
• 13:46
  if
• 13:47
  you
• 13:47
  feel
• 13:47
  like
• 13:48
  things
• 13:48
  are
• 13:48
  getting
• 13:48
  very
• 13:48
  heightened.
• 13:49
  Maybe
• 13:50
  they're
• 13:50
  feeling
• 13:50
  quite
• 13:51
  tense,
• 13:51
  a
• 13:51
  bit
• 13:51
  shouty,
• 13:52
  or
• 13:52
  you're
• 13:52
  feeling
• 13:52
  tense
• 13:53
  and
• 13:53
  a
• 13:53
  bit
• 13:53
  shouty.
• 13:54
  I
• 13:54
  think
• 13:54
  something
• 13:54
  like
• 13:55
  a
• 13:55
  nervous
• 13:55
  system
• 13:56
  regulation
• 13:56
  technique
• 13:57
  like
• 13:57
  that
• 13:57
  can
• 13:57
  be
• 13:57
  good.
• 13:58
  So
• 13:58
  we've
• 13:58
  got
• 13:59
  the
• 13:59
  five
• 13:59
  Senses
• 14:00
  game.
• 14:00
  Yeah,
• 14:00
  we've
• 14:01
  got
• 14:01
  a
• 14:01
  nervous
• 14:01
  system
• 14:02
  regulation.
• 14:03
  What
• 14:03
  about
• 14:03
  then
• 14:05
  when
• 14:05
  you're
• 14:05
  more
• 14:05
  sort
• 14:06
  of
• 14:06
  towards
• 14:07
  the
• 14:07
  height
• 14:08
  of
• 14:09
  the
• 14:09
  main.
• 14:09
  The
• 14:10
  main
• 14:10
  event.
• 14:10
  The
• 14:11
  main.
• 14:11
  Yeah,
• 14:11
  the
• 14:11
  main
• 14:12
  goal.
• 14:12
  Exactly.
• 14:13
  So
• 14:14
  actually
• 14:14
  using
• 14:15
  what.
• 14:15
  What
• 14:15
  you
• 14:16
  just
• 14:16
  said,
• 14:16
  one
• 14:17
  of
• 14:17
  them
• 14:17
  that
• 14:18
  ties
• 14:18
  in
• 14:18
  with
• 14:18
  that
• 14:19
  is
• 14:20
  dancing
• 14:21
  or
• 14:21
  singing.
• 14:22
  So
• 14:22
  the
• 14:22
  same.
• 14:22
  Same
• 14:23
  as
• 14:23
  what
• 14:23
  you're
• 14:23
  saying,
• 14:23
  instead
• 14:24
  of
• 14:24
  like
• 14:24
  where
• 14:25
  you
• 14:25
  tense
• 14:25
  your
• 14:25
  body,
• 14:26
  just
• 14:26
  start
• 14:27
  randomly
• 14:27
  dancing
• 14:28
  and
• 14:28
  flapping
• 14:28
  and
• 14:28
  singing.
• 14:29
  Some.
• 14:29
  I
• 14:29
  mean,
• 14:30
  my
• 14:30
  kids
• 14:30
  look
• 14:30
  at
• 14:30
  me
• 14:31
  like
• 14:31
  I've
• 14:31
  lost
• 14:31
  my
• 14:31
  mind
• 14:32
  when
• 14:32
  I
• 14:32
  do
• 14:32
  it.
• 14:33
  They
• 14:33
  do
• 14:33
  look
• 14:33
  at
• 14:33
  me
• 14:33
  like,
• 14:33
  what
• 14:34
  on
• 14:34
  earth
• 14:34
  are
• 14:34
  you
• 14:35
  doing?
• 14:35
  But
• 14:36
  sometimes
• 14:36
  you
• 14:37
  just
• 14:37
  need
• 14:37
  to
• 14:37
  dance
• 14:38
  it
• 14:38
  out,
• 14:39
  because
• 14:39
  if
• 14:39
  you're
• 14:39
  going
• 14:39
  to
• 14:40
  shout,
• 14:40
  it's
• 14:40
  a
• 14:40
  lot
• 14:41
  better
• 14:41
  to
• 14:41
  sing
• 14:41
  or
• 14:42
  to
• 14:42
  dance
• 14:42
  than
• 14:43
  it
• 14:43
  is
• 14:43
  to
• 14:43
  shout.
• 14:44
  So
• 14:44
  get
• 14:44
  out
• 14:45
  of
• 14:45
  the
• 14:45
  way.
• 14:45
  Literally,
• 14:46
  if
• 14:47
  it's
• 14:47
  in
• 14:47
  the
• 14:47
  car
• 14:47
  with
• 14:48
  my
• 14:48
  kids,
• 14:48
  I
• 14:48
  turn
• 14:48
  my
• 14:49
  volume
• 14:49
  up
• 14:50
  full
• 14:50
  blast
• 14:50
  so
• 14:51
  I
• 14:51
  can't
• 14:51
  hear
• 14:51
  any
• 14:51
  of
• 14:52
  them
• 14:52
  speaking
• 14:52
  and
• 14:52
  I
• 14:53
  just
• 14:53
  sing
• 14:53
  at
• 14:53
  the
• 14:53
  top
• 14:53
  of
• 14:54
  my
• 14:54
  lungs.
• 14:54
  And
• 14:54
  then
• 14:54
  eventually
• 14:55
  they
• 14:55
  all
• 14:55
  start
• 14:55
  copying
• 14:56
  and
• 14:56
  then
• 14:56
  everyone's
• 14:57
  calmed
• 14:57
  down
• 14:57
  and
• 14:57
  we're
• 14:58
  all
• 14:58
  fine.
• 14:59
  If
• 14:59
  it's
• 15:00
  not
• 15:00
  a
• 15:00
  situation
• 15:01
  where
• 15:01
  you
• 15:01
  can
• 15:01
  do
• 15:01
  very
• 15:02
  big
• 15:02
  dancing
• 15:02
  and
• 15:02
  very
• 15:03
  big
• 15:03
  singing,
• 15:04
  breathing
• 15:04
  is
• 15:05
  a
• 15:05
  really
• 15:05
  good
• 15:05
  one.
• 15:06
  So
• 15:07
  I
• 15:07
  always
• 15:07
  have
• 15:08
  done
• 15:08
  box
• 15:09
  breathing.
• 15:10
  You
• 15:10
  can
• 15:10
  demonstrate
• 15:11
  it
• 15:11
  quite
• 15:11
  easily
• 15:12
  wherever
• 15:12
  you
• 15:13
  are,
• 15:13
  because
• 15:14
  you
• 15:14
  need
• 15:14
  a
• 15:14
  square.
• 15:14
  Right.
• 15:15
  So
• 15:15
  most
• 15:15
  things
• 15:16
  are
• 15:16
  a
• 15:16
  square.
• 15:16
  You
• 15:16
  got
• 15:17
  your
• 15:17
  phone,
• 15:17
  a
• 15:17
  bank
• 15:17
  card,
• 15:18
  what,
• 15:18
  whatever
• 15:19
  it
• 15:19
  is
• 15:19
  that
• 15:19
  you've
• 15:20
  got.
• 15:20
  Something
• 15:20
  square.
• 15:21
  You
• 15:21
  don't
• 15:21
  have
• 15:21
  to
• 15:22
  have
• 15:22
  anything
• 15:22
  physical,
• 15:23
  but
• 15:23
  just
• 15:24
  having
• 15:24
  something
• 15:24
  is
• 15:25
  a
• 15:25
  little
• 15:25
  bit
• 15:25
  more
• 15:25
  visually
• 15:26
  effective.
• 15:27
  You
• 15:27
  have
• 15:27
  a
• 15:27
  square
• 15:28
  and
• 15:28
  you
• 15:29
  do.
• 15:29
  In
• 15:29
  for
• 15:29
  four,
• 15:30
  hold
• 15:30
  for
• 15:31
  four,
• 15:31
  out
• 15:31
  for
• 15:31
  four,
• 15:32
  hold
• 15:32
  for
• 15:32
  four.
• 15:33
  And
• 15:33
  you
• 15:34
  track
• 15:34
  it
• 15:34
  along
• 15:34
  the
• 15:35
  square.
• 15:37
  Yeah,
• 15:37
  obviously,
• 15:38
  if
• 15:38
  you're,
• 15:38
  you
• 15:39
  know,
• 15:39
  older
• 15:39
  kids,
• 15:39
  again,
• 15:40
  like
• 15:40
  you
• 15:40
  said,
• 15:40
  older
• 15:41
  kids,
• 15:41
  you
• 15:42
  can
• 15:42
  just
• 15:42
  tell
• 15:42
  and
• 15:43
  they.
• 15:43
  They
• 15:43
  get
• 15:44
  on
• 15:44
  with
• 15:44
  it
• 15:44
  quite
• 15:44
  easy.
• 15:45
  Younger
• 15:45
  kids
• 15:46
  need
• 15:46
  a
• 15:47
  little
• 15:47
  reminder
• 15:48
  sometimes.
• 15:48
  I
• 15:49
  actually
• 15:49
  bought
• 15:50
  these
• 15:50
  square
• 15:51
  stickers.
• 15:51
  They
• 15:52
  were
• 15:52
  from,
• 15:52
  I
• 15:52
  don't
• 15:52
  know,
• 15:52
  Teemo
• 15:53
  or
• 15:53
  some
• 15:54
  nonsense,
• 15:54
  wherever.
• 15:55
  And
• 15:55
  you.
• 15:55
  They're
• 15:56
  like,
• 15:57
  you
• 15:57
  know,
• 15:57
  a
• 15:57
  bit
• 15:57
  like
• 15:57
  Braille,
• 15:58
  like
• 15:58
  what
• 15:58
  Braille
• 15:59
  feels
• 15:59
  like.
• 15:59
  Like
• 16:00
  the
• 16:00
  bumps,
• 16:01
  they're
• 16:01
  like
• 16:01
  that,
• 16:01
  they're
• 16:02
  a
• 16:02
  square
• 16:02
  and
• 16:02
  they've
• 16:02
  got
• 16:03
  the
• 16:03
  arrows.
• 16:04
  So
• 16:04
  I
• 16:04
  have
• 16:04
  them
• 16:05
  stuck
• 16:05
  like,
• 16:06
  you
• 16:06
  know,
• 16:06
  places,
• 16:07
  so
• 16:07
  that
• 16:07
  if
• 16:07
  I'm
• 16:08
  in
• 16:08
  anywhere
• 16:08
  and
• 16:08
  need
• 16:08
  to
• 16:09
  use
• 16:09
  them
• 16:09
  quickly,
• 16:10
  they're
• 16:11
  always
• 16:11
  there.
• 16:11
  But,
• 16:11
  yeah,
• 16:12
  you
• 16:12
  can
• 16:12
  use
• 16:12
  a
• 16:12
  phone,
• 16:13
  a
• 16:13
  card,
• 16:14
  a
• 16:14
  box,
• 16:14
  a
• 16:14
  paper,
• 16:15
  whatever,
• 16:15
  but
• 16:15
  just
• 16:16
  the.
• 16:16
  In
• 16:16
  for
• 16:16
  four,
• 16:17
  hold
• 16:17
  for
• 16:17
  four.
• 16:18
  Sometimes
• 16:19
  you're
• 16:19
  gonna
• 16:20
  get
• 16:20
  to
• 16:20
  the
• 16:20
  point
• 16:20
  where
• 16:21
  your
• 16:21
  kids
• 16:21
  are
• 16:22
  not
• 16:22
  listening
• 16:22
  to
• 16:23
  it
• 16:23
  and,
• 16:24
  you
• 16:24
  know,
• 16:24
  especially
• 16:24
  if
• 16:25
  we're
• 16:25
  in
• 16:25
  full
• 16:25
  height,
• 16:26
  we're
• 16:26
  at
• 16:26
  top
• 16:26
  tether.
• 16:27
  They're
• 16:27
  not
• 16:27
  going
• 16:28
  to
• 16:28
  listen,
• 16:28
  they're
• 16:28
  not
• 16:29
  going
• 16:29
  to
• 16:29
  see
• 16:29
  it,
• 16:30
  they're
• 16:30
  not
• 16:30
  going
• 16:30
  to
• 16:30
  hear
• 16:30
  it,
• 16:30
  they're
• 16:31
  just
• 16:31
  too
• 16:31
  far
• 16:32
  gone.
• 16:33
  But
• 16:33
  that's
• 16:33
  when
• 16:34
  you
• 16:34
  modeling
• 16:35
  it
• 16:35
  sometimes
• 16:36
  can
• 16:36
  help.
• 16:36
  So
• 16:37
  even
• 16:37
  little,
• 16:37
  little
• 16:38
  kids,
• 16:38
  you
• 16:38
  know,
• 16:39
  babies,
• 16:40
  just
• 16:40
  holding
• 16:40
  them
• 16:40
  or
• 16:41
  sitting
• 16:41
  them
• 16:41
  on
• 16:41
  your
• 16:41
  lap
• 16:42
  and
• 16:42
  you
• 16:42
  doing
• 16:43
  1,
• 16:43
  2,
• 16:43
  3,
• 16:44
  4,
• 16:44
  you
• 16:44
  will
• 16:44
  start
• 16:44
  to
• 16:45
  feel
• 16:45
  that
• 16:45
  their
• 16:45
  breathing
• 16:46
  will
• 16:46
  eventually
• 16:46
  start
• 16:46
  to
• 16:47
  catch
• 16:47
  up
• 16:47
  with
• 16:47
  yours
• 16:48
  and
• 16:48
  they
• 16:48
  will
• 16:48
  Get
• 16:49
  a
• 16:49
  little
• 16:49
  bit
• 16:49
  calmer.
• 16:50
  A
• 16:50
  lot
• 16:51
  of
• 16:51
  the
• 16:51
  time
• 16:51
  in
• 16:52
  that
• 16:52
  situation,
• 16:52
  less
• 16:53
  is
• 16:53
  more.
• 16:53
  So
• 16:54
  less
• 16:54
  words
• 16:55
  are
• 16:55
  gonna,
• 16:55
  you
• 16:55
  know,
• 16:56
  if
• 16:56
  you're
• 16:56
  giving
• 16:57
  it
• 16:57
  all,
• 16:58
  oh,
• 16:58
  I
• 16:59
  can
• 16:59
  see
• 16:59
  that
• 16:59
  you're
• 16:59
  feeling
• 17:00
  really.
• 17:01
  They're
• 17:02
  gone.
• 17:02
  They
• 17:02
  haven't
• 17:02
  heard
• 17:03
  it.
• 17:03
  They've
• 17:03
  heard
• 17:04
  the
• 17:04
  first
• 17:04
  two
• 17:04
  words
• 17:04
  and
• 17:05
  they've
• 17:05
  gone.
• 17:06
  So
• 17:06
  just
• 17:07
  sometimes
• 17:08
  you're
• 17:08
  angry
• 17:08
  right
• 17:09
  now,
• 17:09
  then
• 17:09
  breathing,
• 17:10
  you.
• 17:10
  It
• 17:10
  can
• 17:11
  just
• 17:11
  cut
• 17:11
  off
• 17:12
  the
• 17:13
  big
• 17:13
  meltdown.
• 17:14
  Obviously,
• 17:15
  neurodivergent
• 17:16
  cases
• 17:16
  are
• 17:16
  slightly
• 17:16
  different,
• 17:17
  but
• 17:17
  for
• 17:17
  the
• 17:17
  most
• 17:18
  part,
• 17:18
  meltdowns,
• 17:19
  if
• 17:19
  you
• 17:20
  escalate
• 17:20
  it
• 17:21
  with
• 17:21
  more
• 17:21
  shouting
• 17:22
  or
• 17:22
  more
• 17:23
  arguing,
• 17:23
  it's
• 17:23
  just
• 17:24
  going
• 17:24
  to
• 17:24
  keep
• 17:24
  building
• 17:24
  and
• 17:25
  building
• 17:25
  and
• 17:25
  building
• 17:25
  and
• 17:25
  building.
• 17:26
  It's
• 17:26
  not
• 17:26
  ever
• 17:26
  going
• 17:26
  to
• 17:27
  come
• 17:27
  down
• 17:27
  until
• 17:27
  the
• 17:27
  point
• 17:28
  where
• 17:28
  you're
• 17:28
  both
• 17:28
  exhausted
• 17:29
  of
• 17:29
  shouting
• 17:29
  at
• 17:29
  each
• 17:29
  other
• 17:30
  and
• 17:30
  then
• 17:30
  that's
• 17:30
  it.
• 17:30
  Everyone
• 17:31
  just
• 17:31
  cries
• 17:31
  for
• 17:32
  the
• 17:32
  rest
• 17:32
  of
• 17:32
  the
• 17:32
  afternoon.
• 17:33
  So,
• 17:34
  yeah,
• 17:34
  doing
• 17:34
  box
• 17:35
  breathing,
• 17:36
  there
• 17:36
  is
• 17:36
  more
• 17:36
  techniques
• 17:37
  than
• 17:37
  just
• 17:37
  box
• 17:37
  breathing.
• 17:38
  I
• 17:38
  always
• 17:38
  type
• 17:39
  in
• 17:39
  on
• 17:39
  YouTube,
• 17:40
  like
• 17:40
  breathing
• 17:40
  for
• 17:41
  kids,
• 17:41
  and
• 17:42
  there's
• 17:42
  loads
• 17:42
  of
• 17:42
  fun
• 17:43
  videos
• 17:43
  that
• 17:44
  come
• 17:44
  up.
• 17:44
  There's
• 17:44
  like
• 17:44
  a
• 17:44
  lion
• 17:45
  one
• 17:45
  where
• 17:45
  you
• 17:45
  have
• 17:45
  to
• 17:46
  like,
• 17:46
  roar
• 17:46
  like
• 17:46
  a
• 17:46
  lion
• 17:47
  instead
• 17:47
  of
• 17:47
  breathing.
• 17:48
  I
• 17:48
  use
• 17:48
  those
• 17:49
  on
• 17:49
  my
• 17:49
  online
• 17:49
  classes
• 17:50
  just
• 17:50
  because
• 17:50
  it
• 17:50
  keeps
• 17:51
  it
• 17:51
  a
• 17:51
  bit
• 17:51
  more
• 17:51
  fun
• 17:51
  rather
• 17:52
  than
• 17:52
  keep
• 17:52
  doing
• 17:52
  the
• 17:53
  box
• 17:53
  breathing
• 17:53
  with
• 17:53
  them
• 17:54
  again.
• 17:54
  But,
• 17:54
  yeah,
• 17:55
  there's
• 17:55
  loads
• 17:55
  on
• 17:55
  there.
• 17:55
  There's
• 17:56
  lions
• 17:57
  and
• 17:57
  bears
• 17:57
  and
• 17:58
  whatever.
• 17:58
  It's
• 17:58
  all
• 17:59
  still
• 17:59
  the
• 17:59
  same
• 17:59
  technique
• 18:00
  of
• 18:00
  breathing,
• 18:00
  but
• 18:01
  sometimes
• 18:01
  just
• 18:01
  quickly
• 18:02
  grabbing
• 18:02
  your
• 18:02
  phone,
• 18:03
  YouTube
• 18:04
  breathing
• 18:04
  video
• 18:04
  and
• 18:05
  sticking
• 18:05
  it
• 18:05
  in
• 18:05
  front
• 18:05
  of
• 18:06
  them,
• 18:06
  they
• 18:06
  will
• 18:07
  then
• 18:07
  learn
• 18:08
  to
• 18:08
  breathe
• 18:09
  it
• 18:09
  out.
• 18:09
  And
• 18:09
  it's
• 18:10
  all,
• 18:10
  it's
• 18:10
  all
• 18:10
  a
• 18:10
  coping
• 18:11
  mechanism
• 18:11
  for
• 18:11
  when
• 18:11
  they're
• 18:12
  older,
• 18:12
  because
• 18:12
  if
• 18:12
  you
• 18:12
  get
• 18:12
  it
• 18:13
  into
• 18:13
  them
• 18:13
  enough
• 18:13
  when
• 18:13
  they're
• 18:14
  younger,
• 18:14
  eventually
• 18:15
  they'll
• 18:15
  just
• 18:15
  start
• 18:15
  to
• 18:15
  use
• 18:16
  it
• 18:16
  without
• 18:16
  even
• 18:16
  thinking
• 18:17
  when
• 18:17
  they're
• 18:18
  older.
• 18:18
  So,
• 18:19
  yeah,
• 18:19
  two
• 18:19
  birds
• 18:19
  with
• 18:20
  one
• 18:20
  stone
• 18:20
  and
• 18:20
  all
• 18:20
  that
• 18:20
  jazz.
• 18:21
  Yeah.
• 18:22
  And
• 18:22
  I
• 18:22
  think
• 18:22
  a
• 18:22
  lot,
• 18:23
  I
• 18:23
  think
• 18:23
  a
• 18:23
  lot
• 18:23
  of.
• 18:25
  A
• 18:25
  lot
• 18:25
  of
• 18:25
  the
• 18:25
  techniques
• 18:26
  that
• 18:26
  you
• 18:27
  use
• 18:27
  when
• 18:27
  they're
• 18:28
  young
• 18:28
  and
• 18:28
  they're
• 18:28
  having
• 18:28
  meltdowns,
• 18:29
  realistically,
• 18:30
  they're
• 18:31
  probably
• 18:31
  still
• 18:31
  going
• 18:32
  to
• 18:32
  have
• 18:32
  a
• 18:32
  bit
• 18:32
  of
• 18:32
  a
• 18:32
  meltdown
• 18:33
  and.
• 18:33
  And
• 18:34
  you
• 18:34
  may
• 18:34
  not
• 18:34
  even
• 18:35
  make
• 18:35
  it
• 18:35
  that
• 18:35
  much
• 18:35
  better,
• 18:36
  but
• 18:36
  you
• 18:36
  are
• 18:36
  modeling
• 18:37
  really
• 18:37
  good
• 18:37
  behavior.
• 18:38
  And
• 18:38
  so
• 18:38
  that
• 18:39
  when
• 18:39
  they
• 18:39
  do
• 18:39
  get
• 18:39
  older,
• 18:40
  they
• 18:40
  remember
• 18:41
  that,
• 18:41
  oh,
• 18:41
  what
• 18:41
  was
• 18:42
  it
• 18:42
  that
• 18:42
  Mummy
• 18:42
  always
• 18:43
  did
• 18:43
  or
• 18:43
  always
• 18:43
  said
• 18:44
  I
• 18:44
  should
• 18:44
  do,
• 18:44
  or
• 18:44
  things
• 18:45
  like
• 18:45
  that.
• 18:45
  Because
• 18:46
  realistically,
• 18:46
  in
• 18:47
  a
• 18:47
  meltdown,
• 18:47
  my
• 18:48
  children
• 18:48
  didn't
• 18:48
  have
• 18:49
  many,
• 18:49
  but
• 18:49
  I
• 18:49
  know
• 18:49
  that
• 18:49
  when
• 18:50
  they
• 18:50
  did,
• 18:50
  there
• 18:51
  was
• 18:51
  very
• 18:51
  little
• 18:51
  intervention
• 18:52
  that
• 18:52
  was
• 18:52
  going
• 18:52
  to
• 18:53
  be
• 18:53
  of
• 18:53
  much
• 18:53
  help.
• 18:54
  Yeah,
• 18:54
  a
• 18:55
  little
• 18:55
  bit
• 18:55
  at
• 18:55
  the
• 18:55
  start,
• 18:56
  a
• 18:56
  little
• 18:56
  bit
• 18:56
  at
• 18:57
  the
• 18:57
  end,
• 18:57
  but
• 18:57
  in
• 18:58
  the
• 18:58
  middle
• 18:58
  you
• 18:58
  just
• 18:59
  have
• 18:59
  to
• 18:59
  kind
• 18:59
  of
• 18:59
  ride
• 19:00
  that
• 19:00
  Roller
• 19:00
  coaster
• 19:00
  a
• 19:00
  bit.
• 19:01
  Yeah.
• 19:01
  There's
• 19:01
  not
• 19:01
  much
• 19:01
  that
• 19:02
  you
• 19:02
  can
• 19:02
  do
• 19:02
  to
• 19:02
  get
• 19:03
  them
• 19:03
  out
• 19:03
  of
• 19:03
  it,
• 19:04
  but
• 19:04
  there
• 19:04
  is
• 19:04
  a
• 19:05
  lot
• 19:05
  that
• 19:05
  you
• 19:05
  can
• 19:05
  do
• 19:05
  to
• 19:05
  not
• 19:06
  make
• 19:06
  it
• 19:06
  worse.
• 19:07
  That's,
• 19:07
  that's
• 19:07
  probably
• 19:08
  the
• 19:08
  important
• 19:08
  part
• 19:09
  is
• 19:09
  that
• 19:09
  you're
• 19:10
  probably
• 19:10
  going
• 19:11
  to
• 19:11
  have
• 19:11
  the
• 19:11
  meltdown
• 19:12
  regardless.
• 19:13
  It's
• 19:13
  going
• 19:13
  to
• 19:13
  happen.
• 19:14
  You
• 19:14
  need
• 19:15
  to
• 19:15
  let
• 19:15
  it
• 19:15
  ride
• 19:15
  out
• 19:15
  because
• 19:16
  the
• 19:16
  more
• 19:16
  you
• 19:16
  shout,
• 19:17
  the
• 19:17
  more
• 19:17
  stressed
• 19:18
  you
• 19:18
  get,
• 19:18
  the
• 19:18
  more
• 19:19
  you're.
• 19:19
  Then,
• 19:19
  you
• 19:20
  know,
• 19:20
  if
• 19:20
  you're
• 19:21
  screaming,
• 19:21
  well,
• 19:21
  now
• 19:21
  you
• 19:22
  can't
• 19:22
  have
• 19:22
  this
• 19:22
  or
• 19:23
  now
• 19:23
  you
• 19:23
  can't
• 19:23
  have
• 19:23
  that.
• 19:24
  Whatever
• 19:24
  it
• 19:24
  is
• 19:25
  that
• 19:25
  you're
• 19:25
  trying
• 19:25
  to
• 19:25
  do
• 19:26
  to
• 19:26
  get
• 19:26
  them
• 19:26
  to
• 19:26
  see
• 19:26
  reasoning,
• 19:27
  that
• 19:28
  part
• 19:28
  of
• 19:28
  the
• 19:28
  brain
• 19:29
  at
• 19:29
  that
• 19:29
  point,
• 19:30
  it,
• 19:31
  it's
• 19:31
  not
• 19:31
  switched
• 19:32
  on.
• 19:32
  So
• 19:32
  you're
• 19:32
  trying
• 19:33
  to
• 19:33
  reason
• 19:33
  with
• 19:33
  a
• 19:33
  part
• 19:34
  of
• 19:34
  the
• 19:34
  brain
• 19:34
  that
• 19:34
  is
• 19:34
  not
• 19:35
  turned
• 19:35
  on.
• 19:36
  So
• 19:36
  it's
• 19:36
  never
• 19:36
  gonna,
• 19:37
  it's
• 19:37
  never
• 19:37
  gonna
• 19:37
  work.
• 19:37
  You're
• 19:38
  never
• 19:38
  gonna
• 19:38
  have
• 19:38
  reason
• 19:39
  in
• 19:39
  the
• 19:39
  part
• 19:39
  of
• 19:39
  the
• 19:39
  brain
• 19:40
  that
• 19:40
  reasons
• 19:40
  that
• 19:41
  then
• 19:41
  shut
• 19:41
  down.
• 19:41
  It's
• 19:42
  just,
• 19:42
  this
• 19:42
  is
• 19:43
  going
• 19:43
  to
• 19:43
  be
• 19:43
  completely
• 19:43
  pointless
• 19:44
  for
• 19:44
  everyone.
• 19:45
  Yeah,
• 19:46
  exactly.
• 19:46
  Because
• 19:46
  your,
• 19:47
  your
• 19:47
  brain
• 19:47
  is
• 19:47
  not
• 19:48
  focusing
• 19:48
  on
• 19:48
  that
• 19:49
  kind
• 19:49
  of
• 19:49
  prefrontal
• 19:50
  cortex.
• 19:50
  Like
• 19:51
  let
• 19:51
  me
• 19:51
  be
• 19:51
  rational
• 19:52
  and
• 19:52
  reasonable.
• 19:53
  So
• 19:53
  I'm
• 19:53
  getting,
• 19:54
  we
• 19:54
  will
• 19:54
  segue
• 19:55
  off
• 19:55
  very
• 19:55
  slightly
• 19:55
  then
• 19:56
  in
• 19:56
  the
• 19:56
  middle
• 19:56
  of
• 19:56
  this
• 19:57
  meltdown
• 19:58
  to
• 19:58
  talk
• 19:58
  very
• 19:59
  briefly
• 19:59
  about
• 19:59
  the
• 19:59
  things
• 19:59
  we
• 20:00
  shouldn't
• 20:00
  be
• 20:00
  doing.
• 20:00
  So
• 20:01
  we
• 20:01
  shouldn't
• 20:01
  be
• 20:01
  escalating
• 20:02
  it
• 20:02
  by
• 20:03
  matching
• 20:04
  in.
• 20:04
  And,
• 20:05
  and
• 20:05
  this
• 20:05
  is
• 20:05
  why
• 20:05
  a
• 20:05
  lot
• 20:06
  of
• 20:06
  these
• 20:06
  techniques
• 20:06
  that
• 20:07
  maybe
• 20:07
  not
• 20:07
  running
• 20:07
  around
• 20:07
  the
• 20:07
  house
• 20:08
  yourself
• 20:08
  looking
• 20:08
  for
• 20:09
  sensory
• 20:10
  stuff,
• 20:10
  although
• 20:10
  that
• 20:10
  could
• 20:10
  be
• 20:10
  fun,
• 20:11
  but
• 20:11
  certainly
• 20:12
  nervous
• 20:12
  system
• 20:12
  regulation
• 20:13
  and
• 20:13
  breathing
• 20:13
  is
• 20:13
  a
• 20:14
  good
• 20:14
  thing
• 20:14
  for
• 20:14
  parents
• 20:14
  to
• 20:15
  do
• 20:15
  as
• 20:15
  well.
• 20:15
  So
• 20:15
  don't
• 20:16
  escalate,
• 20:17
  don't
• 20:17
  suppress
• 20:18
  it
• 20:18
  by
• 20:18
  sort
• 20:19
  of
• 20:19
  like
• 20:19
  shutting
• 20:19
  it
• 20:20
  down.
• 20:20
  Don't
• 20:20
  feel,
• 20:21
  don't
• 20:21
  ignore
• 20:21
  it.
• 20:22
  So
• 20:22
  my
• 20:22
  rule
• 20:23
  is
• 20:23
  kind
• 20:23
  of
• 20:23
  acknowledge,
• 20:24
  empathize,
• 20:26
  and
• 20:26
  then
• 20:26
  I'd
• 20:27
  probably
• 20:27
  call
• 20:27
  it
• 20:28
  resting.
• 20:30
  You
• 20:30
  need
• 20:30
  a
• 20:31
  good
• 20:31
  acronym.
• 20:32
  Yeah,
• 20:32
  I
• 20:32
  need,
• 20:32
  I
• 20:33
  need
• 20:33
  to
• 20:33
  think
• 20:33
  of
• 20:33
  a,
• 20:34
  of
• 20:34
  a
• 20:34
  thing.
• 20:35
  Because
• 20:35
  you
• 20:35
  need
• 20:36
  to
• 20:36
  acknowledge
• 20:36
  it
• 20:36
  first.
• 20:37
  That's
• 20:37
  how
• 20:37
  we
• 20:37
  don't
• 20:38
  create,
• 20:38
  you
• 20:38
  know,
• 20:39
  self
• 20:39
  esteem
• 20:39
  issues
• 20:40
  and
• 20:40
  internalization
• 20:41
  and
• 20:41
  yada
• 20:41
  yada,
• 20:42
  yada.
• 20:42
  We
• 20:43
  need
• 20:43
  to
• 20:43
  make
• 20:43
  sure
• 20:44
  that
• 20:44
  we
• 20:44
  not.
• 20:45
  They
• 20:45
  know
• 20:45
  that
• 20:45
  we've
• 20:46
  heard
• 20:46
  them.
• 20:47
  So,
• 20:47
  you
• 20:47
  know,
• 20:47
  we
• 20:48
  need,
• 20:48
  they
• 20:48
  need
• 20:48
  to
• 20:48
  know.
• 20:49
  Okay,
• 20:49
  Mommy's
• 20:49
  listened.
• 20:50
  She
• 20:50
  knows
• 20:50
  I'm
• 20:51
  angry.
• 20:51
  Yeah.
• 20:51
  Okay,
• 20:51
  cool.
• 20:52
  I
• 20:52
  can
• 20:52
  hear
• 20:52
  you.
• 20:52
  You're
• 20:52
  screaming
• 20:53
  like
• 20:53
  you
• 20:53
  get
• 20:53
  it,
• 20:53
  you're
• 20:54
  angry.
• 20:55
  Simple
• 20:55
  things
• 20:56
  with
• 20:56
  that,
• 20:56
  you
• 20:56
  know,
• 20:57
  oh,
• 20:57
  you
• 20:57
  really
• 20:57
  wanted
• 20:58
  that
• 20:58
  toy.
• 20:58
  Oh,
• 20:59
  you
• 20:59
  really
• 20:59
  wanted
• 20:59
  that
• 20:59
  book.
• 21:00
  Oh,
• 21:00
  that
• 21:00
  little
• 21:01
  girl's
• 21:01
  got
• 21:01
  that
• 21:01
  and
• 21:01
  you
• 21:02
  wanted
• 21:02
  it.
• 21:03
  Those
• 21:03
  sorts
• 21:03
  of
• 21:03
  things.
• 21:03
  That's
• 21:04
  just
• 21:04
  acknowledging
• 21:04
  it.
• 21:05
  Fine,
• 21:05
  Done.
• 21:06
  Then
• 21:06
  you
• 21:06
  need
• 21:07
  to
• 21:07
  empathize
• 21:07
  with
• 21:07
  it.
• 21:08
  It's
• 21:08
  really
• 21:08
  hard
• 21:08
  when
• 21:09
  someone
• 21:09
  has
• 21:09
  something
• 21:09
  that
• 21:10
  you
• 21:10
  want,
• 21:10
  tell
• 21:11
  them
• 21:11
  how
• 21:11
  it
• 21:11
  is,
• 21:12
  how
• 21:12
  you
• 21:12
  feel
• 21:12
  to
• 21:13
  match
• 21:13
  what
• 21:13
  it
• 21:14
  is
• 21:14
  that
• 21:14
  they
• 21:14
  are
• 21:15
  feeling.
• 21:15
  One
• 21:16
  thing
• 21:16
  parents
• 21:16
  forget
• 21:17
  that
• 21:17
  I
• 21:17
  deal
• 21:17
  with
• 21:18
  quite
• 21:18
  a
• 21:18
  lot.
• 21:18
  They
• 21:19
  forget
• 21:19
  that
• 21:19
  these
• 21:19
  are
• 21:20
  little
• 21:20
  children.
• 21:20
  They
• 21:21
  haven't
• 21:21
  lived
• 21:21
  through
• 21:22
  bills
• 21:22
  and
• 21:22
  rent
• 21:23
  and
• 21:23
  all
• 21:23
  of
• 21:23
  that.
• 21:24
  Literally
• 21:25
  that
• 21:25
  toy
• 21:25
  in
• 21:26
  that
• 21:26
  moment
• 21:26
  is
• 21:26
  the
• 21:27
  most
• 21:27
  important
• 21:27
  thing
• 21:28
  in
• 21:28
  their
• 21:28
  whole
• 21:28
  existence.
• 21:29
  And
• 21:29
  if
• 21:29
  someone
• 21:30
  else
• 21:30
  has
• 21:30
  got
• 21:30
  it,
• 21:31
  that's
• 21:31
  like
• 21:31
  someone's
• 21:32
  just
• 21:32
  walked
• 21:32
  into
• 21:33
  their
• 21:33
  house
• 21:33
  and
• 21:33
  burnt
• 21:33
  it
• 21:34
  down.
• 21:34
  But
• 21:34
  they
• 21:34
  are
• 21:35
  mad.
• 21:35
  They're
• 21:35
  mad
• 21:36
  mad.
• 21:36
  They're
• 21:36
  not
• 21:36
  even
• 21:36
  just
• 21:37
  a
• 21:37
  little
• 21:37
  bit
• 21:37
  mad,
• 21:37
  they're
• 21:38
  super
• 21:38
  mad
• 21:39
  because
• 21:39
  it's
• 21:39
  the
• 21:40
  only
• 21:40
  thing
• 21:40
  that
• 21:40
  they
• 21:41
  know.
• 21:41
  It's
• 21:42
  very
• 21:42
  nice
• 21:42
  for
• 21:43
  parents
• 21:43
  to
• 21:43
  empathize
• 21:44
  on
• 21:44
  a
• 21:44
  level
• 21:45
  that
• 21:45
  they
• 21:45
  get.
• 21:46
  And
• 21:47
  then,
• 21:47
  yeah,
• 21:47
  resting,
• 21:48
  ride
• 21:49
  in
• 21:49
  the
• 21:49
  storm,
• 21:50
  whatever
• 21:50
  we're
• 21:50
  going
• 21:50
  to
• 21:50
  call
• 21:50
  the
• 21:51
  last
• 21:51
  bit.
• 21:51
  But
• 21:51
  let
• 21:51
  them
• 21:52
  be
• 21:52
  upset,
• 21:52
  let
• 21:53
  them
• 21:53
  have
• 21:53
  the
• 21:53
  tantrum,
• 21:54
  let
• 21:54
  them
• 21:54
  have
• 21:54
  the
• 21:55
  meltdown,
• 21:55
  let
• 21:55
  them
• 21:55
  kick
• 21:56
  and
• 21:56
  scream.
• 21:57
  Importantly,
• 21:58
  another
• 21:58
  one,
• 21:59
  keep
• 22:00
  everyone's
• 22:00
  body
• 22:01
  safe.
• 22:02
  So
• 22:02
  if
• 22:02
  we're
• 22:03
  hitting
• 22:03
  and
• 22:03
  throwing
• 22:04
  and
• 22:05
  doing
• 22:05
  whatever
• 22:06
  that
• 22:07
  can't
• 22:07
  be
• 22:07
  allowed.
• 22:08
  So,
• 22:08
  you
• 22:08
  know,
• 22:09
  if
• 22:09
  we
• 22:09
  need
• 22:09
  to
• 22:09
  move
• 22:09
  them
• 22:09
  away
• 22:10
  or
• 22:10
  we
• 22:10
  need
• 22:10
  to
• 22:10
  move
• 22:11
  ourselves
• 22:11
  away
• 22:11
  and
• 22:12
  just
• 22:12
  saying,
• 22:12
  I
• 22:12
  need
• 22:13
  to
• 22:13
  keep
• 22:13
  my
• 22:13
  body
• 22:13
  safe
• 22:13
  right
• 22:14
  now,
• 22:14
  I'm
• 22:14
  going
• 22:14
  to
• 22:14
  stand
• 22:14
  up
• 22:14
  so
• 22:15
  that
• 22:15
  you
• 22:15
  don't
• 22:15
  hit
• 22:15
  me
• 22:16
  or,
• 22:16
  you
• 22:16
  know,
• 22:16
  you're
• 22:17
  not
• 22:17
  being
• 22:17
  very
• 22:17
  kind,
• 22:18
  you're
• 22:18
  hitting.
• 22:19
  I'm
• 22:19
  going
• 22:19
  to
• 22:19
  move
• 22:20
  you
• 22:20
  away
• 22:20
  from
• 22:20
  the
• 22:20
  situation.
• 22:21
  It
• 22:22
  doesn't
• 22:22
  need
• 22:22
  to
• 22:22
  be
• 22:22
  a
• 22:22
  big
• 22:22
  thing.
• 22:23
  It
• 22:23
  doesn't
• 22:23
  need
• 22:23
  to
• 22:23
  be
• 22:23
  a
• 22:23
  punishment.
• 22:24
  It
• 22:24
  doesn't
• 22:24
  need
• 22:25
  to
• 22:25
  be
• 22:26
  anything
• 22:26
  like
• 22:26
  that.
• 22:26
  It
• 22:26
  just
• 22:27
  needs
• 22:27
  to
• 22:27
  be
• 22:27
  a
• 22:27
  simple.
• 22:28
  Just
• 22:28
  room
• 22:29
  check.
• 22:29
  Are
• 22:30
  we
• 22:30
  safe?
• 22:30
  Is
• 22:31
  there
• 22:31
  any
• 22:32
  adverse
• 22:32
  objects
• 22:33
  that
• 22:33
  are
• 22:33
  going
• 22:33
  to
• 22:33
  get
• 22:33
  thrown
• 22:33
  at
• 22:34
  my
• 22:34
  head
• 22:34
  at
• 22:34
  any
• 22:35
  point
• 22:36
  and
• 22:36
  then
• 22:36
  the
• 22:37
  rest
• 22:37
  is
• 22:37
  just
• 22:37
  riding
• 22:37
  it
• 22:38
  out.
• 22:38
  And
• 22:39
  it
• 22:39
  depends
• 22:39
  a
• 22:39
  lot
• 22:39
  on
• 22:40
  the
• 22:40
  child
• 22:40
  as
• 22:40
  well.
• 22:40
  I
• 22:41
  know
• 22:41
  that
• 22:41
  with
• 22:42
  my
• 22:42
  two
• 22:42
  children,
• 22:42
  my
• 22:43
  son
• 22:44
  liked
• 22:44
  distance.
• 22:45
  He
• 22:45
  liked
• 22:46
  space
• 22:46
  and
• 22:46
  distance.
• 22:47
  My
• 22:47
  daughter
• 22:48
  liked
• 22:48
  to
• 22:48
  be
• 22:48
  held
• 22:48
  close
• 22:49
  and
• 22:49
  tight.
• 22:50
  And
• 22:50
  you,
• 22:50
  you'll
• 22:51
  know
• 22:51
  that
• 22:51
  through
• 22:51
  a
• 22:52
  certain
• 22:52
  amount
• 22:52
  of
• 22:52
  trial
• 22:52
  and
• 22:52
  error,
• 22:53
  because
• 22:53
  if
• 22:53
  you
• 22:53
  try
• 22:53
  it
• 22:53
  and
• 22:54
  they
• 22:54
  hate
• 22:54
  it,
• 22:54
  you're
• 22:54
  like,
• 22:54
  okay,
• 22:55
  so,
• 22:55
  so
• 22:56
  that's
• 22:56
  not,
• 22:56
  not
• 22:56
  a
• 22:57
  good
• 22:57
  move.
• 22:57
  I
• 22:58
  noticed
• 22:58
  that
• 22:58
  when
• 22:58
  you're
• 22:58
  talking
• 22:58
  about
• 22:59
  empathizing,
• 22:59
  that
• 23:00
  comes
• 23:00
  on
• 23:00
  to
• 23:00
  what
• 23:00
  I
• 23:01
  was
• 23:01
  thinking
• 23:01
  about
• 23:01
  not
• 23:02
  escalating,
• 23:02
  not
• 23:02
  suppressing
• 23:03
  and
• 23:03
  not
• 23:03
  shaming.
• 23:04
  So
• 23:04
  guessing
• 23:04
  that
• 23:05
  the
• 23:05
  empathizing
• 23:05
  is
• 23:06
  part
• 23:06
  of
• 23:06
  this.
• 23:06
  It's
• 23:07
  okay.
• 23:07
  It's
• 23:08
  all
• 23:08
  right.
• 23:08
  And
• 23:09
  actually
• 23:09
  the
• 23:09
  next
• 23:09
  technique
• 23:10
  I
• 23:10
  was
• 23:10
  going
• 23:10
  to
• 23:10
  talk
• 23:11
  about,
• 23:11
  which
• 23:11
  is
• 23:11
  a
• 23:12
  really
• 23:12
  good
• 23:12
  one,
• 23:12
  I
• 23:12
  think,
• 23:13
  for,
• 23:13
  for
• 23:13
  the
• 23:13
  parents
• 23:14
  as
• 23:14
  well.
• 23:14
  A
• 23:14
  really
• 23:14
  good
• 23:15
  one
• 23:15
  is
• 23:16
  art
• 23:16
  slightly
• 23:17
  after
• 23:17
  the
• 23:17
  event,
• 23:18
  or,
• 23:18
  you
• 23:18
  know,
• 23:19
  just.
• 23:19
  Just
• 23:20
  on
• 23:20
  the
• 23:20
  sort
• 23:20
  of
• 23:20
  the
• 23:21
  tail
• 23:21
  end
• 23:21
  of
• 23:21
  it.
• 23:23
  That's
• 23:23
  right.
• 23:24
  What
• 23:24
  was
• 23:24
  it
• 23:24
  Churchill
• 23:25
  said?
• 23:25
  It's
• 23:25
  not
• 23:25
  the
• 23:26
  beginning
• 23:26
  of
• 23:26
  the
• 23:26
  end,
• 23:26
  it's
• 23:27
  the
• 23:27
  end
• 23:27
  of
• 23:27
  the
• 23:27
  beginning.
• 23:28
  So,
• 23:28
  like,
• 23:28
  kind
• 23:28
  of
• 23:29
  more
• 23:29
  towards
• 23:29
  the
• 23:29
  beginning
• 23:30
  of
• 23:30
  the
• 23:30
  end.
• 23:31
  I
• 23:31
  think
• 23:32
  naming
• 23:32
  what
• 23:33
  you.
• 23:33
  What
• 23:34
  you're
• 23:34
  feeling
• 23:34
  is
• 23:35
  really
• 23:35
  important,
• 23:35
  particularly
• 23:36
  for
• 23:36
  parents,
• 23:36
  actually,
• 23:37
  because
• 23:37
  I
• 23:37
  know
• 23:37
  that
• 23:37
  you.
• 23:38
  You
• 23:38
  work
• 23:38
  with
• 23:39
  children.
• 23:39
  I.
• 23:39
  I
• 23:40
  don't
• 23:40
  work
• 23:40
  with
• 23:40
  children.
• 23:40
  I
• 23:41
  only
• 23:41
  work
• 23:41
  with
• 23:41
  adults.
• 23:41
  And
• 23:42
  I
• 23:42
  find
• 23:42
  that.
• 23:42
  Just
• 23:43
  saying
• 23:44
  I'm
• 23:44
  feeling
• 23:44
  angry
• 23:45
  because
• 23:46
  I'm
• 23:46
  feeling
• 23:46
  angry,
• 23:47
  because
• 23:47
  I'm
• 23:48
  feeling
• 23:48
  sad,
• 23:48
  because
• 23:49
  I'm
• 23:49
  afraid
• 23:50
  that.
• 23:50
  And
• 23:50
  just
• 23:51
  getting
• 23:51
  these
• 23:51
  emotions
• 23:52
  out,
• 23:52
  particularly
• 23:53
  as
• 23:53
  a
• 23:53
  parent,
• 23:53
  because
• 23:53
  we
• 23:53
  can
• 23:54
  focus
• 23:55
  everything
• 23:55
  on
• 23:55
  our
• 23:55
  child
• 23:56
  and
• 23:56
  then
• 23:56
  we
• 23:57
  just
• 23:57
  bottle
• 23:57
  everything
• 23:57
  up.
• 23:58
  And
• 23:58
  then
• 23:58
  we
• 23:58
  go
• 23:58
  to
• 23:58
  bed
• 23:59
  that
• 23:59
  night
• 23:59
  and
• 23:59
  we're
• 23:59
  like,
• 23:59
  wow,
• 24:00
  I
• 24:00
  am
• 24:00
  wound
• 24:00
  up
• 24:01
  tight.
• 24:01
  Yeah.
• 24:01
  And
• 24:02
  then.
• 24:02
  And
• 24:02
  if
• 24:02
  anything
• 24:03
  else
• 24:03
  happens,
• 24:03
  then
• 24:03
  we're
• 24:04
  at
• 24:04
  full
• 24:04
  pelt
• 24:05
  anyway,
• 24:06
  so
• 24:06
  the
• 24:06
  slightest
• 24:07
  thing
• 24:07
  and
• 24:07
  we're
• 24:07
  suddenly
• 24:08
  shouting
• 24:08
  stuff
• 24:08
  or.
• 24:09
  It
• 24:09
  was
• 24:09
  funny
• 24:09
  when
• 24:09
  you
• 24:10
  were
• 24:10
  talking
• 24:10
  about
• 24:10
  music,
• 24:10
  because
• 24:11
  my
• 24:11
  children
• 24:11
  learned
• 24:12
  very
• 24:12
  early
• 24:12
  on
• 24:12
  that
• 24:13
  if
• 24:13
  I
• 24:13
  was
• 24:13
  playing
• 24:13
  Radiohead
• 24:14
  really
• 24:14
  loudly
• 24:15
  in
• 24:15
  the
• 24:15
  kitchen,
• 24:15
  they
• 24:15
  did
• 24:15
  not
• 24:15
  come
• 24:16
  in.
• 24:16
  It
• 24:16
  was
• 24:16
  not
• 24:17
  a
• 24:17
  safe
• 24:17
  zone.
• 24:19
  Exactly.
• 24:20
  And
• 24:20
  so
• 24:21
  I
• 24:21
  think
• 24:21
  that
• 24:22
  allowing
• 24:22
  you
• 24:22
  to
• 24:23
  have
• 24:23
  that
• 24:23
  space
• 24:23
  to
• 24:23
  say,
• 24:24
  I
• 24:24
  am.
• 24:24
  You
• 24:24
  know,
• 24:25
  I'm
• 24:25
  feeling
• 24:25
  this
• 24:26
  because
• 24:26
  of
• 24:26
  these
• 24:26
  things
• 24:27
  and
• 24:27
  being
• 24:27
  able
• 24:27
  to
• 24:28
  express
• 24:28
  it
• 24:28
  out
• 24:28
  loud,
• 24:29
  even
• 24:29
  if
• 24:29
  it's
• 24:29
  just
• 24:29
  you
• 24:30
  in
• 24:30
  the
• 24:30
  bathroom
• 24:31
  on
• 24:31
  your
• 24:31
  own,
• 24:31
  to
• 24:32
  the
• 24:32
  mirror,
• 24:32
  but
• 24:33
  your
• 24:33
  child
• 24:33
  as
• 24:33
  well.
• 24:34
  Right?
• 24:34
  Yeah.
• 24:35
  You
• 24:35
  need
• 24:35
  to.
• 24:36
  So
• 24:36
  the
• 24:36
  no
• 24:37
  shaming
• 24:37
  thing.
• 24:38
  Exactly
• 24:38
  that.
• 24:39
  Yesterday,
• 24:39
  my
• 24:40
  little
• 24:40
  girl
• 24:40
  said
• 24:40
  to
• 24:40
  me,
• 24:41
  she
• 24:41
  obviously,
• 24:42
  bless
• 24:43
  her
• 24:43
  soul,
• 24:43
  ADHD
• 24:44
  life,
• 24:45
  and
• 24:45
  she's
• 24:45
  doing
• 24:46
  cartwheels
• 24:46
  and
• 24:46
  handstands
• 24:48
  every
• 24:48
  second
• 24:48
  of
• 24:48
  every
• 24:48
  day.
• 24:49
  And
• 24:49
  she
• 24:50
  kicked
• 24:50
  where
• 24:50
  my
• 24:51
  coffee
• 24:51
  was
• 24:51
  and
• 24:52
  the
• 24:52
  table,
• 24:52
  little
• 24:53
  table
• 24:53
  thing
• 24:53
  that
• 24:53
  I've
• 24:53
  got,
• 24:54
  and
• 24:54
  it
• 24:54
  wobbled.
• 24:54
  It
• 24:55
  didn't
• 24:55
  break.
• 24:55
  And
• 24:55
  she
• 24:55
  said,
• 24:56
  mommy,
• 24:56
  would
• 24:56
  you
• 24:56
  have
• 24:56
  been
• 24:57
  really
• 24:57
  mad
• 24:57
  at
• 24:57
  me
• 24:58
  if
• 24:58
  I
• 24:58
  had
• 24:58
  broke
• 24:58
  that?
• 24:59
  And
• 24:59
  I
• 24:59
  said,
• 25:00
  no.
• 25:00
  I
• 25:01
  said,
• 25:01
  I
• 25:01
  would
• 25:01
  have
• 25:01
  been
• 25:01
  mad
• 25:02
  that
• 25:02
  it
• 25:02
  was
• 25:02
  broken,
• 25:03
  but
• 25:03
  I
• 25:03
  wouldn't
• 25:03
  be
• 25:04
  mad
• 25:04
  at
• 25:04
  you.
• 25:05
  I
• 25:05
  said,
• 25:05
  I
• 25:05
  would
• 25:05
  be
• 25:05
  telling
• 25:06
  you
• 25:06
  to
• 25:06
  be
• 25:06
  careful
• 25:07
  next
• 25:07
  time
• 25:07
  and
• 25:07
  that
• 25:07
  you
• 25:08
  need
• 25:08
  to
• 25:08
  look
• 25:08
  at
• 25:08
  what
• 25:08
  you're
• 25:09
  doing,
• 25:09
  but
• 25:09
  it
• 25:10
  was
• 25:10
  an
• 25:10
  accident.
• 25:10
  So
• 25:11
  I'm
• 25:11
  not
• 25:11
  going
• 25:11
  to
• 25:11
  be
• 25:11
  mad
• 25:11
  at
• 25:11
  you
• 25:12
  that
• 25:12
  it's
• 25:12
  broken,
• 25:12
  but
• 25:13
  I
• 25:13
  am
• 25:13
  going
• 25:13
  to
• 25:13
  be
• 25:13
  upset
• 25:14
  that
• 25:14
  my
• 25:14
  favorite
• 25:15
  mug's
• 25:15
  broken.
• 25:15
  So
• 25:16
  explaining
• 25:16
  things
• 25:17
  like
• 25:17
  that
• 25:17
  to
• 25:17
  children.
• 25:18
  And
• 25:18
  it's
• 25:19
  like,
• 25:19
  I.
• 25:19
  I
• 25:19
  tell
• 25:20
  my
• 25:20
  eldest
• 25:21
  all
• 25:21
  the
• 25:21
  time.
• 25:21
  He
• 25:22
  says
• 25:22
  to
• 25:22
  his
• 25:22
  sisters,
• 25:22
  you're
• 25:22
  so
• 25:23
  annoying.
• 25:23
  I'm
• 25:23
  like,
• 25:23
  no.
• 25:24
  I'm
• 25:24
  like,
• 25:24
  they
• 25:25
  are
• 25:25
  Annoying
• 25:25
  you.
• 25:26
  They
• 25:26
  are
• 25:27
  not
• 25:27
  annoying.
• 25:27
  There's
• 25:27
  a
• 25:28
  very
• 25:28
  big
• 25:28
  difference.
• 25:28
  And
• 25:29
  growing
• 25:30
  up,
• 25:30
  if
• 25:30
  you
• 25:31
  have
• 25:31
  parents
• 25:31
  that
• 25:32
  continuously
• 25:33
  tell
• 25:33
  you
• 25:33
  you're
• 25:34
  annoying,
• 25:35
  you
• 25:35
  just
• 25:35
  did
• 25:35
  this.
• 25:36
  You
• 25:36
  upset
• 25:37
  me.
• 25:38
  We
• 25:38
  become
• 25:38
  people
• 25:38
  pleasers.
• 25:39
  We
• 25:39
  become
• 25:40
  very
• 25:40
  worried
• 25:40
  about
• 25:41
  having
• 25:42
  our
• 25:42
  emotions
• 25:43
  changed
• 25:43
  by
• 25:43
  other
• 25:44
  people.
• 25:44
  And
• 25:45
  we
• 25:45
  feel
• 25:45
  like
• 25:45
  other
• 25:45
  people's
• 25:46
  emotions
• 25:46
  are
• 25:46
  our
• 25:47
  responsibility,
• 25:47
  which
• 25:48
  they
• 25:48
  aren't
• 25:48
  in
• 25:49
  any.
• 25:49
  There's
• 25:50
  no
• 25:50
  crossover
• 25:50
  with
• 25:50
  that.
• 25:51
  There's
• 25:51
  no
• 25:51
  exception
• 25:52
  to
• 25:52
  the
• 25:52
  rule.
• 25:53
  No
• 25:53
  one
• 25:53
  else's
• 25:54
  emotions
• 25:54
  are
• 25:55
  your
• 25:55
  responsibility.
• 25:56
  You
• 25:56
  can
• 25:56
  have
• 25:56
  done
• 25:56
  something
• 25:57
  to
• 25:57
  someone
• 25:57
  that's
• 25:57
  upset
• 25:58
  them
• 25:58
  and
• 25:58
  that
• 25:59
  is
• 25:59
  your
• 25:59
  responsibility
• 26:00
  to
• 26:00
  fix
• 26:00
  it,
• 26:00
  but
• 26:01
  someone
• 26:01
  else's
• 26:02
  emotions
• 26:02
  are
• 26:03
  not
• 26:03
  yours
• 26:03
  to
• 26:04
  keep.
• 26:04
  And
• 26:04
  a
• 26:05
  lot
• 26:05
  of
• 26:05
  us,
• 26:05
  especially
• 26:06
  now,
• 26:07
  my
• 26:07
  generation
• 26:08
  especially,
• 26:08
  we're
• 26:09
  encountering
• 26:09
  so
• 26:10
  many
• 26:10
  problems
• 26:11
  because
• 26:11
  our
• 26:11
  whole
• 26:11
  lives
• 26:12
  we've
• 26:12
  just
• 26:12
  been
• 26:12
  holding
• 26:12
  other
• 26:13
  people's
• 26:13
  emotions
• 26:14
  continuously.
• 26:15
  And
• 26:15
  it,
• 26:15
  you
• 26:15
  know,
• 26:15
  it
• 26:15
  gets
• 26:16
  to
• 26:16
  the
• 26:16
  point
• 26:16
  where
• 26:16
  the
• 26:17
  cup
• 26:17
  is
• 26:17
  going
• 26:17
  to
• 26:18
  explode
• 26:18
  at
• 26:18
  some
• 26:18
  point.
• 26:19
  Right.
• 26:19
  And
• 26:19
  you're
• 26:20
  not
• 26:20
  going
• 26:20
  to
• 26:20
  be
• 26:20
  able
• 26:20
  to
• 26:20
  hold
• 26:20
  them
• 26:21
  anymore.
• 26:21
  So,
• 26:22
  yeah,
• 26:22
  making
• 26:22
  sure
• 26:23
  that
• 26:23
  we
• 26:23
  don't
• 26:24
  shame,
• 26:24
  we
• 26:24
  just
• 26:24
  name
• 26:25
  it.
• 26:25
  You
• 26:25
  are
• 26:25
  angry.
• 26:26
  I
• 26:27
  am
• 26:27
  angry.
• 26:28
  This
• 26:28
  is
• 26:28
  what's
• 26:28
  happened.
• 26:29
  Keep
• 26:29
  it
• 26:29
  very
• 26:30
  factual.
• 26:30
  That's
• 26:30
  probably
• 26:31
  the
• 26:31
  word
• 26:31
  to
• 26:31
  describe
• 26:32
  it.
• 26:32
  Logical
• 26:32
  and
• 26:33
  factual.
• 26:33
  You
• 26:33
  know,
• 26:33
  you
• 26:33
  don't
• 26:34
  need
• 26:34
  to
• 26:34
  add
• 26:34
  all
• 26:34
  the
• 26:34
  fluff.
• 26:35
  It's
• 26:35
  the
• 26:35
  fluffing
• 26:36
  that
• 26:36
  gets
• 26:36
  us
• 26:36
  in
• 26:36
  the
• 26:36
  trouble.
• 26:37
  But,
• 26:37
  you
• 26:38
  know,
• 26:38
  just.
• 26:38
  You're
• 26:39
  angry
• 26:39
  because
• 26:39
  of
• 26:39
  this.
• 26:40
  I'm
• 26:40
  angry
• 26:41
  because
• 26:41
  of
• 26:41
  this.
• 26:41
  That's.
• 26:42
  It's
• 26:42
  pretty
• 26:42
  simple.
• 26:43
  It's
• 26:43
  just.
• 26:43
  Don't
• 26:44
  overcomplicate
• 26:44
  it.
• 26:45
  Yeah,
• 26:46
  I
• 26:46
  think
• 26:47
  that
• 26:47
  it's
• 26:47
  because
• 26:47
  you're
• 26:48
  a
• 26:48
  millennial
• 26:49
  right
• 26:49
  now.
• 26:49
  I
• 26:49
  am
• 26:50
  Gen
• 26:50
  X.
• 26:51
  So
• 26:51
  we
• 26:51
  are
• 26:52
  at
• 26:52
  least
• 26:52
  50
• 26:53
  years
• 26:53
  different.
• 26:54
  Yeah,
• 26:55
  we
• 26:55
  are
• 26:55
  like
• 26:55
  you're
• 26:55
  15
• 26:56
  years
• 26:56
  or
• 26:56
  so
• 26:56
  younger
• 26:57
  than
• 26:57
  me.
• 26:57
  And
• 26:57
  it's
• 26:57
  interesting
• 26:58
  when
• 26:58
  you're
• 26:58
  talking
• 26:58
  because
• 26:59
  I
• 26:59
  have
• 26:59
  a
• 26:59
  lot
• 26:59
  of
• 26:59
  clients
• 27:00
  who
• 27:01
  are
• 27:01
  your
• 27:01
  kind
• 27:01
  of
• 27:01
  age,
• 27:02
  and
• 27:02
  they
• 27:02
  really
• 27:03
  do
• 27:03
  struggle
• 27:03
  with
• 27:04
  just
• 27:04
  the
• 27:04
  immensity
• 27:05
  of
• 27:05
  other
• 27:06
  people's
• 27:06
  emotions
• 27:06
  that
• 27:07
  they
• 27:07
  take
• 27:07
  on.
• 27:08
  Now.
• 27:08
  Gen
• 27:08
  X
• 27:09
  is
• 27:09
  completely
• 27:09
  different.
• 27:10
  Anyone,
• 27:10
  you
• 27:11
  know,
• 27:11
  between
• 27:11
  the
• 27:11
  ages
• 27:11
  of
• 27:12
  like
• 27:12
  45
• 27:12
  to
• 27:13
  sort
• 27:13
  of
• 27:13
  60,
• 27:13
  you're
• 27:14
  talking
• 27:14
  a
• 27:14
  massive
• 27:15
  suppression
• 27:16
  of
• 27:16
  emotions.
• 27:17
  Not
• 27:17
  talking
• 27:17
  about
• 27:18
  it,
• 27:18
  not
• 27:18
  saying
• 27:18
  what
• 27:18
  you're
• 27:19
  feeling,
• 27:19
  not
• 27:19
  even
• 27:19
  feeling
• 27:20
  what
• 27:20
  you're
• 27:20
  feeling,
• 27:20
  or
• 27:21
  not
• 27:21
  thinking
• 27:21
  you
• 27:21
  are.
• 27:22
  And
• 27:22
  so
• 27:22
  a
• 27:23
  lot
• 27:23
  of
• 27:23
  this
• 27:23
  can
• 27:23
  work
• 27:24
  for
• 27:24
  both.
• 27:24
  You're.
• 27:24
  You're
• 27:25
  modeling
• 27:25
  this
• 27:26
  behavior
• 27:26
  to
• 27:26
  your
• 27:27
  child,
• 27:27
  that
• 27:27
  it's
• 27:27
  okay
• 27:28
  for
• 27:28
  me
• 27:28
  to
• 27:28
  say
• 27:28
  I
• 27:29
  feel
• 27:29
  sad
• 27:29
  because
• 27:30
  of
• 27:30
  this.
• 27:30
  You
• 27:31
  know,
• 27:31
  I
• 27:31
  feel
• 27:31
  angry
• 27:32
  because
• 27:32
  of
• 27:32
  this.
• 27:33
  And
• 27:33
  also
• 27:34
  for
• 27:34
  them
• 27:34
  to
• 27:34
  be
• 27:34
  able
• 27:34
  to
• 27:34
  explain,
• 27:35
  express
• 27:35
  that
• 27:35
  as
• 27:35
  well.
• 27:35
  And
• 27:35
  it
• 27:35
  is
• 27:36
  really
• 27:36
  important
• 27:36
  because
• 27:36
  otherwise
• 27:37
  if
• 27:37
  you
• 27:37
  shush
• 27:38
  it
• 27:38
  down,
• 27:39
  give
• 27:39
  them
• 27:39
  a
• 27:39
  bit
• 27:39
  of
• 27:39
  cake
• 27:40
  or
• 27:40
  to
• 27:41
  try
• 27:41
  to
• 27:41
  distract
• 27:41
  them
• 27:42
  from
• 27:42
  it.
• 27:42
  When
• 27:43
  they're
• 27:43
  properly
• 27:43
  in
• 27:44
  it
• 27:44
  and
• 27:44
  feeling
• 27:45
  it,
• 27:45
  it
• 27:45
  can
• 27:45
  teach
• 27:46
  them
• 27:46
  that
• 27:46
  actually
• 27:46
  maybe
• 27:47
  it's
• 27:47
  not
• 27:47
  safe
• 27:47
  for
• 27:48
  me
• 27:48
  to,
• 27:48
  to
• 27:48
  express
• 27:49
  what
• 27:49
  I'm
• 27:49
  feeling.
• 27:50
  Yeah,
• 27:50
  and
• 27:50
  this
• 27:50
  is
• 27:51
  when
• 27:51
  you
• 27:52
  get
• 27:52
  into
• 27:52
  all
• 27:52
  sorts
• 27:52
  of
• 27:53
  different
• 27:53
  things.
• 27:53
  But
• 27:54
  yes,
• 27:54
  give
• 27:54
  them
• 27:54
  a
• 27:55
  bit
• 27:55
  of
• 27:55
  cake.
• 27:55
  This
• 27:55
  is
• 27:56
  another
• 27:56
  thing
• 27:56
  that
• 27:56
  I
• 27:56
  see
• 27:57
  parents
• 27:57
  doing.
• 27:57
  Feed
• 27:58
  them
• 27:58
  with
• 27:58
  a
• 27:58
  snack
• 27:58
  to
• 27:59
  get
• 27:59
  them
• 27:59
  to
• 27:59
  be
• 27:59
  quiet.
• 28:00
  Oh,
• 28:00
  we're
• 28:00
  creating
• 28:00
  an
• 28:01
  eating
• 28:01
  disorder.
• 28:02
  When
• 28:02
  you
• 28:02
  look
• 28:02
  at
• 28:02
  mental
• 28:03
  health
• 28:03
  across
• 28:03
  adults
• 28:04
  and
• 28:04
  well
• 28:05
  being
• 28:05
  with
• 28:05
  children,
• 28:06
  it's
• 28:06
  very
• 28:06
  easy
• 28:07
  to
• 28:07
  see
• 28:07
  where
• 28:07
  it
• 28:07
  came
• 28:08
  from.
• 28:08
  You
• 28:08
  can
• 28:08
  reverse
• 28:09
  back
• 28:09
  whatever
• 28:10
  issue
• 28:10
  it
• 28:10
  is
• 28:10
  that
• 28:11
  you
• 28:11
  have.
• 28:12
  My
• 28:12
  thing
• 28:12
  is
• 28:13
  I
• 28:13
  used
• 28:13
  to
• 28:13
  get
• 28:13
  told
• 28:14
  that
• 28:14
  I
• 28:14
  talk
• 28:14
  too
• 28:15
  much
• 28:15
  when
• 28:15
  I
• 28:15
  was
• 28:15
  a
• 28:15
  kid,
• 28:16
  which
• 28:16
  I'm
• 28:16
  aware
• 28:16
  I
• 28:17
  talk
• 28:17
  a
• 28:17
  lot.
• 28:18
  However,
• 28:18
  now
• 28:18
  my
• 28:19
  job
• 28:19
  is
• 28:19
  talking.
• 28:20
  So
• 28:20
  my
• 28:21
  natural
• 28:21
  ability
• 28:22
  to
• 28:22
  be
• 28:22
  able
• 28:22
  to
• 28:22
  talk
• 28:23
  does
• 28:23
  me
• 28:23
  a
• 28:24
  favor.
• 28:24
  But
• 28:24
  growing
• 28:25
  up,
• 28:25
  I
• 28:25
  believe
• 28:26
  that
• 28:26
  no
• 28:26
  one
• 28:26
  wanted
• 28:26
  to
• 28:26
  hear
• 28:27
  what
• 28:27
  I
• 28:27
  had
• 28:27
  to
• 28:27
  say
• 28:27
  say
• 28:28
  because
• 28:28
  I
• 28:28
  got
• 28:28
  told
• 28:28
  that
• 28:28
  I
• 28:29
  talk
• 28:29
  too
• 28:29
  much.
• 28:29
  So
• 28:29
  it's
• 28:30
  very
• 28:30
  easy
• 28:31
  to.
• 28:31
  It's.
• 28:32
  And
• 28:32
  it's
• 28:32
  sometimes
• 28:33
  it's
• 28:33
  not
• 28:33
  even
• 28:33
  that
• 28:33
  you're
• 28:34
  being
• 28:34
  nasty.
• 28:34
  It's
• 28:35
  not
• 28:35
  these
• 28:35
  really
• 28:35
  malicious,
• 28:36
  horrible
• 28:36
  words.
• 28:37
  It's
• 28:37
  just
• 28:37
  these
• 28:37
  little
• 28:37
  things
• 28:38
  that
• 28:38
  if
• 28:38
  you
• 28:38
  say
• 28:39
  it
• 28:39
  enough
• 28:40
  eventually
• 28:40
  can
• 28:40
  start
• 28:41
  to
• 28:41
  creep
• 28:41
  the
• 28:41
  wrong
• 28:42
  way.
• 28:42
  So
• 28:42
  it's
• 28:42
  just,
• 28:43
  it's
• 28:43
  a
• 28:43
  very
• 28:43
  fine
• 28:44
  line
• 28:44
  between,
• 28:45
  you
• 28:45
  know,
• 28:45
  being
• 28:46
  a
• 28:46
  bit
• 28:46
  harsh
• 28:47
  and
• 28:47
  just
• 28:48
  being
• 28:48
  a
• 28:48
  bit
• 28:48
  more
• 28:48
  realistic.
• 28:49
  With
• 28:49
  the
• 28:49
  kids,
• 28:50
  there's
• 28:50
  quite
• 28:51
  similar,
• 28:51
  but
• 28:52
  it's
• 28:52
  very
• 28:52
  easy
• 28:52
  to
• 28:52
  get
• 28:53
  your
• 28:53
  head
• 28:53
  around.
• 28:53
  Once
• 28:53
  you've
• 28:54
  got
• 28:54
  your
• 28:54
  head
• 28:54
  around
• 28:54
  it,
• 28:54
  if
• 28:55
  that
• 28:55
  makes
• 28:55
  sense,
• 28:55
  you
• 28:56
  can,
• 28:56
  you
• 28:56
  can
• 28:56
  quite
• 28:56
  easily
• 28:57
  figure
• 28:57
  it
• 28:57
  out.
• 28:58
  Yeah,
• 28:58
  it
• 28:58
  doesn't.
• 28:59
  And
• 28:59
  I
• 28:59
  think
• 29:00
  as
• 29:00
  well,
• 29:00
  for
• 29:00
  anyone
• 29:01
  listening
• 29:01
  who
• 29:01
  thinks,
• 29:01
  oh
• 29:02
  great,
• 29:02
  I've
• 29:02
  already
• 29:02
  screwed
• 29:03
  my
• 29:03
  children
• 29:03
  up,
• 29:03
  then
• 29:04
  I
• 29:04
  will
• 29:04
  say
• 29:05
  my
• 29:05
  daughter,
• 29:06
  my
• 29:06
  daughter
• 29:06
  always
• 29:06
  says,
• 29:07
  look,
• 29:07
  you
• 29:07
  know,
• 29:07
  like
• 29:08
  there's
• 29:08
  always,
• 29:08
  no
• 29:09
  matter
• 29:09
  what
• 29:09
  perfect
• 29:10
  parent
• 29:10
  you
• 29:10
  are,
• 29:10
  there's
• 29:11
  always
• 29:11
  going
• 29:11
  to
• 29:11
  be
• 29:11
  a
• 29:11
  reason.
• 29:12
  They
• 29:12
  go
• 29:12
  to
• 29:12
  therapy
• 29:13
  when
• 29:13
  they're
• 29:13
  30.
• 29:14
  And
• 29:14
  it's
• 29:14
  true.
• 29:15
  Like
• 29:15
  you
• 29:15
  could
• 29:15
  do
• 29:15
  the
• 29:15
  best
• 29:16
  job
• 29:16
  ever.
• 29:16
  And
• 29:16
  they
• 29:17
  will,
• 29:17
  there
• 29:17
  will
• 29:17
  be
• 29:17
  something
• 29:18
  they
• 29:18
  need
• 29:18
  to
• 29:18
  work
• 29:18
  through.
• 29:18
  So
• 29:19
  don't
• 29:19
  feel
• 29:19
  bad
• 29:20
  if
• 29:20
  you
• 29:20
  think,
• 29:20
  okay,
• 29:21
  like,
• 29:21
  Christ,
• 29:21
  I've
• 29:22
  been
• 29:22
  doing
• 29:22
  this
• 29:22
  wrong,
• 29:23
  or
• 29:23
  you
• 29:24
  know,
• 29:24
  wrong
• 29:24
  in
• 29:24
  inverted
• 29:25
  commas
• 29:25
  or
• 29:26
  oh,
• 29:26
  you
• 29:26
  know,
• 29:26
  I
• 29:26
  said
• 29:27
  this
• 29:27
  or
• 29:27
  I
• 29:27
  did
• 29:27
  that,
• 29:28
  because
• 29:28
  every
• 29:28
  parent,
• 29:29
  every
• 29:29
  parent
• 29:30
  guaranteed
• 29:30
  can
• 29:30
  look
• 29:31
  back
• 29:31
  at
• 29:31
  at
• 29:32
  least
• 29:32
  one
• 29:32
  instant,
• 29:32
  if
• 29:33
  not
• 29:33
  multiple
• 29:33
  ones,
• 29:34
  where
• 29:34
  they
• 29:34
  think,
• 29:34
  oh
• 29:35
  my
• 29:35
  God,
• 29:35
  did
• 29:36
  I
• 29:36
  do
• 29:36
  that
• 29:36
  wrong?
• 29:36
  Yeah,
• 29:37
  100%.
• 29:37
  And
• 29:37
  there's
• 29:38
  always,
• 29:38
  there's
• 29:39
  always
• 29:39
  ways
• 29:39
  to
• 29:39
  change
• 29:40
  it.
• 29:40
  Like
• 29:40
  all
• 29:41
  of
• 29:41
  these
• 29:41
  things,
• 29:42
  even
• 29:42
  if
• 29:42
  you
• 29:42
  have
• 29:42
  Been
• 29:43
  doing
• 29:43
  it
• 29:43
  and
• 29:43
  you're
• 29:43
  now
• 29:44
  listening
• 29:44
  and
• 29:44
  thinking,
• 29:44
  oh
• 29:45
  my
• 29:45
  God,
• 29:45
  what
• 29:45
  have
• 29:45
  I
• 29:45
  done
• 29:46
  to
• 29:46
  my
• 29:46
  kid?
• 29:46
  There's
• 29:47
  always
• 29:47
  ways
• 29:47
  to
• 29:48
  undo
• 29:48
  it.
• 29:48
  And
• 29:48
  the
• 29:49
  good
• 29:49
  thing
• 29:49
  is
• 29:49
  with
• 29:50
  a
• 29:50
  lot
• 29:50
  of
• 29:50
  these
• 29:50
  techniques
• 29:51
  is
• 29:52
  as
• 29:52
  soon
• 29:52
  as
• 29:52
  you
• 29:52
  implement
• 29:53
  them,
• 29:53
  you
• 29:54
  see
• 29:54
  them
• 29:54
  working
• 29:55
  pretty
• 29:55
  straight
• 29:55
  away.
• 29:56
  The
• 29:56
  naming,
• 29:57
  the
• 29:57
  feelings.
• 29:58
  I
• 29:58
  know
• 29:58
  with
• 29:58
  my
• 29:58
  six
• 29:59
  year
• 29:59
  old,
• 29:59
  she's
• 30:00
  the
• 30:00
  kid
• 30:00
  that
• 30:00
  I
• 30:00
  got
• 30:01
  right,
• 30:01
  right?
• 30:02
  Like
• 30:02
  she's
• 30:03
  the
• 30:03
  kid
• 30:03
  that
• 30:04
  I
• 30:04
  learned
• 30:05
  through
• 30:05
  the
• 30:05
  first
• 30:05
  two.
• 30:05
  They
• 30:06
  were
• 30:06
  the
• 30:06
  guinea
• 30:06
  pigs.
• 30:07
  And
• 30:07
  my
• 30:07
  parenting
• 30:07
  changed
• 30:08
  a
• 30:08
  lot
• 30:08
  through
• 30:08
  having
• 30:09
  them.
• 30:09
  Obviously
• 30:10
  I
• 30:10
  was
• 30:10
  17
• 30:11
  when
• 30:11
  I
• 30:11
  had
• 30:11
  my
• 30:11
  first.
• 30:12
  That
• 30:12
  parenting
• 30:13
  was
• 30:13
  probably
• 30:14
  horrendous
• 30:14
  because
• 30:14
  I
• 30:15
  had
• 30:15
  no
• 30:15
  clue
• 30:15
  what
• 30:15
  I
• 30:15
  was
• 30:16
  doing.
• 30:16
  He's
• 30:16
  alive.
• 30:17
  But
• 30:17
  whether
• 30:17
  I
• 30:18
  knew
• 30:18
  what
• 30:18
  I
• 30:18
  was
• 30:18
  doing
• 30:18
  or
• 30:19
  not
• 30:19
  is
• 30:19
  a
• 30:19
  completely
• 30:20
  different
• 30:20
  story.
• 30:21
  But
• 30:21
  you
• 30:21
  can
• 30:22
  see
• 30:22
  the
• 30:22
  difference.
• 30:22
  And
• 30:23
  she
• 30:23
  is
• 30:23
  the
• 30:23
  kid
• 30:24
  that,
• 30:24
  because
• 30:24
  I
• 30:24
  changed
• 30:25
  my
• 30:25
  parenting
• 30:26
  style
• 30:26
  and
• 30:26
  because
• 30:26
  I
• 30:26
  changed
• 30:27
  my
• 30:27
  words
• 30:28
  and
• 30:28
  what
• 30:28
  I
• 30:28
  was
• 30:28
  choosing
• 30:29
  to
• 30:29
  say,
• 30:30
  she's
• 30:30
  the
• 30:30
  one
• 30:30
  that
• 30:30
  picks
• 30:31
  it
• 30:31
  all
• 30:31
  up
• 30:31
  very
• 30:32
  quickly.
• 30:32
  And
• 30:32
  you
• 30:32
  know,
• 30:33
  if
• 30:33
  she,
• 30:33
  she
• 30:34
  now
• 30:35
  is
• 30:35
  the
• 30:35
  one
• 30:35
  where
• 30:36
  I
• 30:36
  don't
• 30:36
  have
• 30:37
  to,
• 30:37
  I
• 30:37
  don't
• 30:38
  have
• 30:38
  to
• 30:38
  navigate
• 30:39
  through
• 30:39
  her
• 30:39
  being
• 30:39
  upset
• 30:40
  or
• 30:40
  anything
• 30:40
  because
• 30:41
  she
• 30:41
  will
• 30:41
  just
• 30:41
  come
• 30:41
  to
• 30:41
  me
• 30:41
  and
• 30:42
  be
• 30:42
  like,
• 30:42
  mom,
• 30:42
  I'm
• 30:42
  really
• 30:43
  upset
• 30:43
  that
• 30:43
  this
• 30:44
  happened.
• 30:44
  She's
• 30:45
  the
• 30:45
  one,
• 30:45
  like,
• 30:45
  she's
• 30:46
  obviously,
• 30:46
  she's
• 30:47
  not
• 30:47
  the
• 30:47
  youngest,
• 30:47
  but
• 30:47
  she's
• 30:48
  the
• 30:48
  youngest
• 30:48
  out
• 30:48
  of
• 30:48
  three
• 30:48
  of
• 30:49
  them.
• 30:49
  And
• 30:49
  she's
• 30:49
  the
• 30:50
  one
• 30:50
  that
• 30:50
  can
• 30:50
  articulate
• 30:51
  her
• 30:51
  emotions
• 30:52
  the
• 30:52
  best.
• 30:52
  And
• 30:52
  it's
• 30:53
  because
• 30:53
  I
• 30:53
  changed
• 30:54
  my
• 30:54
  parenting
• 30:54
  style
• 30:55
  and
• 30:55
  I
• 30:55
  made
• 30:56
  it
• 30:56
  better
• 30:56
  with
• 30:57
  her.
• 30:57
  And
• 30:58
  it
• 30:58
  shows
• 30:58
  that,
• 30:59
  you
• 30:59
  know,
• 30:59
  if
• 31:00
  you
• 31:00
  do
• 31:00
  it,
• 31:00
  it
• 31:01
  does
• 31:01
  get
• 31:01
  a
• 31:01
  result.
• 31:02
  You
• 31:02
  can
• 31:02
  see
• 31:02
  it
• 31:02
  happening.
• 31:03
  So
• 31:04
  even
• 31:04
  if
• 31:04
  you
• 31:04
  have
• 31:05
  been
• 31:05
  doing
• 31:05
  things
• 31:06
  that
• 31:06
  may
• 31:06
  not
• 31:06
  be,
• 31:07
  you
• 31:07
  know,
• 31:07
  this
• 31:08
  perfect,
• 31:09
  inverted,
• 31:10
  perfect
• 31:10
  parenting
• 31:11
  that,
• 31:11
  you
• 31:11
  know,
• 31:11
  everyone
• 31:12
  talks
• 31:12
  about,
• 31:13
  it
• 31:13
  doesn't
• 31:13
  mean
• 31:13
  that
• 31:13
  you
• 31:14
  can't
• 31:14
  change.
• 31:14
  And
• 31:14
  if
• 31:14
  you're
• 31:15
  aware
• 31:15
  of
• 31:15
  it
• 31:15
  and
• 31:15
  you
• 31:16
  can
• 31:16
  make
• 31:17
  it
• 31:17
  better,
• 31:17
  then
• 31:18
  try
• 31:18
  it.
• 31:18
  Of
• 31:18
  course
• 31:19
  you'll
• 31:19
  see
• 31:19
  the
• 31:19
  results.
• 31:20
  But
• 31:20
  if
• 31:20
  not,
• 31:20
  then
• 31:21
  you
• 31:21
  know
• 31:21
  that
• 31:22
  it's
• 31:22
  not
• 31:22
  going
• 31:22
  to
• 31:22
  be
• 31:22
  a
• 31:23
  perman
• 31:24
  damaged
• 31:24
  cause
• 31:25
  that
• 31:25
  you've
• 31:25
  created.
• 31:26
  It's
• 31:26
  just,
• 31:26
  you
• 31:26
  know,
• 31:27
  there's
• 31:27
  things
• 31:27
  that
• 31:27
  everyone
• 31:28
  needs
• 31:28
  to
• 31:28
  work
• 31:28
  on,
• 31:29
  even
• 31:29
  us.
• 31:30
  We're,
• 31:30
  you
• 31:30
  know,
• 31:30
  we
• 31:30
  do
• 31:31
  this
• 31:31
  as
• 31:31
  a
• 31:31
  job
• 31:31
  and
• 31:32
  we're
• 31:32
  still
• 31:32
  not
• 31:32
  getting
• 31:32
  it
• 31:33
  completely
• 31:33
  right
• 31:33
  all
• 31:34
  the
• 31:34
  time.
• 31:34
  It
• 31:34
  doesn't
• 31:35
  happen
• 31:35
  otherwise.
• 31:35
  There's
• 31:36
  no
• 31:36
  such
• 31:36
  thing
• 31:36
  as
• 31:36
  perfect,
• 31:37
  is
• 31:37
  there?
• 31:37
  There
• 31:38
  really
• 31:38
  isn't.
• 31:38
  And
• 31:39
  I
• 31:39
  think
• 31:39
  if
• 31:39
  you
• 31:39
  start
• 31:40
  comparing
• 31:41
  yourself
• 31:41
  to
• 31:41
  other
• 31:41
  people
• 31:41
  or
• 31:42
  comparing
• 31:42
  yourself
• 31:42
  to
• 31:43
  your
• 31:43
  ideal
• 31:44
  vision
• 31:44
  of
• 31:45
  yourself
• 31:45
  as
• 31:45
  a
• 31:45
  parent,
• 31:46
  you're
• 31:46
  always
• 31:46
  going
• 31:46
  to
• 31:46
  come
• 31:46
  up
• 31:47
  short
• 31:47
  and
• 31:47
  then
• 31:47
  it
• 31:48
  just
• 31:48
  makes
• 31:48
  you
• 31:48
  feel
• 31:48
  like
• 31:48
  crap.
• 31:49
  So
• 31:49
  don't
• 31:49
  do
• 31:49
  that.
• 31:49
  So,
• 31:50
  so
• 31:50
  what
• 31:51
  is
• 31:51
  the.
• 31:52
  We've.
• 31:52
  We've
• 31:53
  arced
• 31:53
  our
• 31:53
  way
• 31:54
  through
• 31:54
  the
• 31:54
  meltdown,
• 31:55
  and
• 31:55
  now
• 31:55
  let's
• 31:56
  think
• 31:56
  that
• 31:56
  we're
• 31:57
  coming
• 31:57
  out
• 31:57
  the
• 31:57
  other
• 31:57
  side.
• 31:58
  We
• 31:58
  have
• 31:59
  played
• 32:00
  the
• 32:00
  five
• 32:00
  Senses
• 32:01
  games.
• 32:01
  We've
• 32:01
  tried
• 32:02
  to
• 32:02
  veer
• 32:03
  them,
• 32:03
  veer
• 32:03
  them
• 32:03
  off.
• 32:04
  We
• 32:04
  have
• 32:05
  done
• 32:05
  some
• 32:05
  nervous
• 32:06
  system
• 32:06
  regulation.
• 32:06
  Just
• 32:07
  kind
• 32:07
  of,
• 32:07
  okay,
• 32:07
  let's
• 32:07
  settle
• 32:08
  everything
• 32:08
  down.
• 32:08
  Settle
• 32:08
  everything
• 32:09
  down.
• 32:09
  We've
• 32:10
  done
• 32:10
  some
• 32:10
  beautiful
• 32:10
  breathing.
• 32:11
  We
• 32:12
  have
• 32:12
  named
• 32:12
  the
• 32:13
  emotions,
• 32:13
  and
• 32:13
  this
• 32:13
  is
• 32:14
  probably
• 32:15
  slightly
• 32:15
  after
• 32:15
  the
• 32:16
  event,
• 32:16
  because
• 32:16
  trying
• 32:16
  to
• 32:16
  get
• 32:17
  a
• 32:17
  child
• 32:17
  to
• 32:18
  name
• 32:18
  their
• 32:18
  emotions
• 32:18
  when
• 32:19
  they're
• 32:19
  feeling
• 32:19
  it
• 32:19
  is
• 32:19
  really
• 32:20
  difficult,
• 32:20
  especially
• 32:20
  when
• 32:20
  they're
• 32:21
  young.
• 32:21
  So
• 32:22
  what
• 32:22
  about
• 32:22
  now,
• 32:22
  the
• 32:23
  final
• 32:23
  of
• 32:24
  the
• 32:24
  five
• 32:24
  techniques
• 32:25
  or
• 32:25
  the
• 32:25
  five
• 32:25
  strategies?
• 32:26
  What
• 32:26
  can
• 32:26
  we
• 32:26
  do
• 32:27
  really,
• 32:27
  almost
• 32:28
  to
• 32:28
  consolidate
• 32:29
  things
• 32:29
  at
• 32:29
  the
• 32:30
  end
• 32:30
  of
• 32:30
  the
• 32:30
  meltdown?
• 32:31
  First
• 32:31
  thing
• 32:32
  would
• 32:32
  be
• 32:32
  like
• 32:32
  a
• 32:32
  mini
• 32:33
  debrief.
• 32:34
  I
• 32:34
  would
• 32:34
  have
• 32:35
  a
• 32:35
  mini
• 32:35
  debrief.
• 32:36
  Like,
• 32:36
  again,
• 32:37
  readdressing
• 32:37
  the
• 32:38
  naming
• 32:38
  and,
• 32:39
  you
• 32:39
  know,
• 32:39
  acknowledging
• 32:40
  yada,
• 32:40
  yada,
• 32:41
  yada,
• 32:41
  that
• 32:41
  happened
• 32:42
  because
• 32:42
  of
• 32:42
  xyz.
• 32:43
  Again,
• 32:44
  keep
• 32:44
  it
• 32:44
  very
• 32:45
  factual,
• 32:46
  very
• 32:46
  logical.
• 32:47
  You
• 32:47
  just
• 32:47
  want
• 32:47
  to
• 32:48
  state
• 32:48
  the
• 32:48
  facts,
• 32:49
  statements
• 32:49
  only.
• 32:50
  We
• 32:50
  don't
• 32:50
  need
• 32:50
  to
• 32:50
  be
• 32:50
  asking
• 32:51
  questions
• 32:51
  and
• 32:51
  all
• 32:52
  of
• 32:52
  that
• 32:52
  because
• 32:52
  we
• 32:52
  might
• 32:52
  reopen
• 32:53
  it.
• 32:53
  But
• 32:54
  just
• 32:54
  saying,
• 32:54
  you
• 32:55
  know,
• 32:55
  this
• 32:55
  happened
• 32:56
  because
• 32:56
  of
• 32:56
  this
• 32:57
  and
• 32:57
  that
• 32:57
  resulted
• 32:58
  in
• 32:58
  this
• 32:59
  end
• 32:59
  of
• 32:59
  story
• 32:59
  debrief,
• 33:00
  hug,
• 33:00
  kiss,
• 33:01
  makeup.
• 33:01
  Let's
• 33:02
  do
• 33:02
  that.
• 33:02
  Sometimes
• 33:03
  that
• 33:03
  works.
• 33:04
  However,
• 33:04
  if
• 33:04
  you're
• 33:05
  struggling
• 33:05
  in
• 33:06
  this,
• 33:06
  like,
• 33:06
  lose
• 33:07
  stage,
• 33:07
  where,
• 33:07
  you
• 33:08
  know,
• 33:08
  they're
• 33:08
  still
• 33:08
  not
• 33:08
  quite
• 33:09
  right,
• 33:09
  but
• 33:09
  they're
• 33:10
  calm,
• 33:11
  there's
• 33:11
  this
• 33:11
  amazing
• 33:12
  thing
• 33:12
  called
• 33:12
  tapping.
• 33:13
  It
• 33:13
  is.
• 33:13
  It's
• 33:14
  gonna.
• 33:14
  I
• 33:14
  obviously
• 33:14
  can't
• 33:15
  show
• 33:15
  you,
• 33:15
  however,
• 33:16
  it's.
• 33:17
  It
• 33:17
  is
• 33:17
  a
• 33:18
  nervous
• 33:18
  system
• 33:18
  reset,
• 33:19
  I
• 33:19
  suppose
• 33:20
  you
• 33:20
  kind
• 33:20
  of
• 33:20
  can
• 33:21
  call
• 33:21
  it
• 33:21
  that.
• 33:21
  It
• 33:22
  taps
• 33:22
  in
• 33:22
  with
• 33:22
  all
• 33:22
  the
• 33:22
  meridian
• 33:23
  points
• 33:23
  in
• 33:23
  your
• 33:24
  body.
• 33:24
  So
• 33:24
  they're
• 33:24
  like
• 33:24
  different
• 33:24
  points
• 33:25
  in
• 33:25
  your
• 33:25
  body.
• 33:25
  Everyone
• 33:26
  knows,
• 33:26
  like,
• 33:26
  your
• 33:27
  temple,
• 33:27
  right,
• 33:27
  is
• 33:27
  a
• 33:28
  pressure
• 33:28
  point
• 33:28
  and
• 33:28
  whatever.
• 33:29
  It's
• 33:29
  all
• 33:29
  of
• 33:29
  those
• 33:29
  points
• 33:30
  in
• 33:30
  your
• 33:30
  body
• 33:31
  where
• 33:31
  it
• 33:31
  matches
• 33:32
  your
• 33:32
  energy
• 33:33
  in
• 33:33
  your
• 33:33
  nervous
• 33:34
  system.
• 33:34
  So
• 33:35
  a
• 33:35
  lot
• 33:35
  of
• 33:35
  it
• 33:35
  is
• 33:35
  just
• 33:36
  getting
• 33:36
  two
• 33:36
  fingers
• 33:37
  and
• 33:37
  tapping
• 33:38
  different
• 33:38
  parts
• 33:39
  of
• 33:39
  your
• 33:39
  body.
• 33:39
  So
• 33:39
  you
• 33:40
  tap
• 33:40
  in
• 33:40
  between
• 33:40
  your
• 33:41
  eyes,
• 33:41
  the
• 33:41
  top
• 33:41
  of
• 33:41
  your
• 33:41
  head,
• 33:42
  your
• 33:42
  chest.
• 33:43
  There's
• 33:44
  a
• 33:44
  really.
• 33:45
  He's
• 33:45
  an
• 33:45
  American
• 33:46
  man.
• 33:46
  He's
• 33:46
  called
• 33:46
  Nick
• 33:47
  Ortner
• 33:47
  on
• 33:48
  YouTube
• 33:48
  and
• 33:48
  he
• 33:49
  does
• 33:49
  lots
• 33:49
  of
• 33:49
  videos.
• 33:50
  He
• 33:50
  does
• 33:50
  lots
• 33:50
  of
• 33:50
  ones
• 33:51
  with
• 33:51
  different
• 33:52
  times.
• 33:52
  There's
• 33:52
  some
• 33:53
  that
• 33:53
  are
• 33:53
  only
• 33:53
  two
• 33:53
  minutes.
• 33:54
  There's
• 33:54
  some
• 33:54
  that
• 33:54
  are
• 33:54
  20
• 33:54
  minutes,
• 33:55
  depending
• 33:55
  on
• 33:55
  how
• 33:56
  much
• 33:56
  you
• 33:57
  need
• 33:57
  it.
• 33:57
  But
• 33:58
  he
• 33:58
  guides
• 33:58
  you
• 33:59
  through
• 33:59
  it
• 34:00
  and
• 34:00
  he
• 34:00
  sort
• 34:01
  of
• 34:01
  does
• 34:01
  a
• 34:01
  routine
• 34:02
  of,
• 34:02
  like,
• 34:02
  top
• 34:03
  of
• 34:03
  the
• 34:03
  head,
• 34:03
  eyes,
• 34:04
  temples,
• 34:05
  chest,
• 34:06
  nose.
• 34:07
  It
• 34:07
  goes
• 34:07
  through
• 34:07
  your
• 34:07
  body,
• 34:08
  and
• 34:08
  then
• 34:08
  he
• 34:09
  tells
• 34:09
  you
• 34:10
  to
• 34:10
  say
• 34:11
  to
• 34:11
  yourself,
• 34:12
  whilst
• 34:12
  you're
• 34:12
  doing
• 34:12
  it,
• 34:13
  like,
• 34:13
  I
• 34:13
  now
• 34:13
  feel
• 34:14
  safe
• 34:14
  or
• 34:14
  I
• 34:15
  now
• 34:15
  feel
• 34:15
  calm
• 34:16
  or
• 34:16
  whatever
• 34:17
  it
• 34:17
  is,
• 34:17
  it's
• 34:17
  a
• 34:17
  really
• 34:18
  good
• 34:18
  way
• 34:18
  to
• 34:18
  get
• 34:18
  them
• 34:19
  to
• 34:19
  recognize
• 34:21
  how
• 34:21
  their
• 34:21
  body's
• 34:22
  feeling.
• 34:22
  That
• 34:22
  was,
• 34:23
  it's
• 34:23
  the
• 34:23
  same
• 34:24
  reason
• 34:24
  why
• 34:25
  we
• 34:25
  name
• 34:25
  the
• 34:25
  emotion
• 34:26
  because
• 34:26
  what
• 34:27
  we
• 34:27
  want
• 34:27
  to
• 34:27
  do
• 34:27
  with
• 34:28
  especially
• 34:28
  little
• 34:29
  kids,
• 34:29
  we
• 34:30
  want
• 34:30
  to
• 34:30
  match
• 34:31
  their
• 34:31
  feelings
• 34:32
  that
• 34:32
  they
• 34:32
  can
• 34:32
  feel
• 34:32
  because
• 34:33
  they
• 34:33
  don't
• 34:33
  know
• 34:33
  the
• 34:33
  words,
• 34:34
  right?
• 34:34
  So
• 34:34
  they
• 34:34
  know
• 34:34
  the
• 34:35
  feeling.
• 34:36
  We
• 34:36
  want
• 34:36
  to
• 34:36
  match
• 34:36
  whatever
• 34:37
  it
• 34:37
  is
• 34:37
  that
• 34:37
  their
• 34:37
  body
• 34:38
  feels
• 34:38
  like
• 34:39
  to
• 34:39
  what
• 34:39
  it
• 34:39
  is
• 34:39
  that
• 34:40
  they're
• 34:40
  feeling.
• 34:40
  So
• 34:41
  again,
• 34:41
  doing
• 34:41
  it
• 34:41
  the
• 34:41
  other
• 34:42
  way
• 34:42
  around,
• 34:42
  when
• 34:43
  they're
• 34:43
  then
• 34:43
  calming
• 34:44
  down
• 34:44
  and,
• 34:45
  and
• 34:45
  you
• 34:45
  know,
• 34:45
  it's
• 34:46
  starting
• 34:46
  to
• 34:46
  settle,
• 34:47
  we
• 34:47
  need
• 34:47
  to
• 34:47
  also
• 34:47
  name
• 34:48
  that.
• 34:48
  Because
• 34:48
  if
• 34:49
  that's
• 34:49
  how
• 34:49
  you
• 34:50
  feel
• 34:50
  when
• 34:50
  you're
• 34:50
  safe
• 34:51
  or
• 34:51
  you're
• 34:51
  calm
• 34:52
  when
• 34:52
  we're
• 34:53
  then
• 34:53
  telling
• 34:53
  them,
• 34:53
  you
• 34:53
  know,
• 34:54
  you
• 34:54
  need
• 34:54
  to
• 34:54
  calm
• 34:54
  down,
• 34:55
  they
• 34:55
  know
• 34:55
  that
• 34:55
  that's
• 34:55
  where
• 34:56
  the
• 34:56
  point
• 34:56
  is
• 34:56
  that
• 34:56
  they
• 34:56
  need
• 34:57
  to
• 34:57
  get
• 34:57
  to.
• 34:57
  So
• 34:57
  it's
• 34:58
  very
• 34:58
  good.
• 34:58
  It's
• 34:59
  equally
• 35:00
  as
• 35:00
  good
• 35:00
  to
• 35:01
  name
• 35:01
  the
• 35:01
  calm
• 35:02
  down
• 35:02
  emotion
• 35:03
  as
• 35:03
  it
• 35:03
  is
• 35:03
  to,
• 35:03
  to
• 35:04
  name
• 35:04
  the
• 35:04
  heightened
• 35:04
  emotion.
• 35:05
  Because
• 35:05
  you
• 35:06
  can,
• 35:06
  you
• 35:06
  can
• 35:07
  tell
• 35:07
  a
• 35:07
  kid,
• 35:07
  oh,
• 35:07
  you're
• 35:07
  angry,
• 35:08
  you're
• 35:08
  sad,
• 35:09
  you're,
• 35:09
  you
• 35:09
  know,
• 35:09
  whatever.
• 35:10
  But
• 35:10
  if
• 35:10
  a
• 35:11
  kid
• 35:11
  doesn't
• 35:11
  know
• 35:11
  how
• 35:12
  they're
• 35:12
  feeling
• 35:12
  when
• 35:12
  they're
• 35:12
  happy
• 35:13
  or
• 35:13
  safe
• 35:13
  or
• 35:13
  calm,
• 35:14
  they
• 35:14
  have
• 35:14
  no
• 35:15
  reference
• 35:15
  to
• 35:15
  get
• 35:15
  it
• 35:16
  back
• 35:16
  to,
• 35:16
  right?
• 35:16
  So
• 35:17
  they
• 35:17
  need
• 35:17
  a,
• 35:18
  they
• 35:18
  need
• 35:18
  a
• 35:18
  center
• 35:18
  point
• 35:19
  of
• 35:19
  gravity.
• 35:19
  They
• 35:19
  need
• 35:19
  to
• 35:20
  be
• 35:20
  able
• 35:20
  to
• 35:20
  know
• 35:20
  where
• 35:21
  can
• 35:21
  I
• 35:21
  bring
• 35:21
  it
• 35:21
  back
• 35:22
  to?
• 35:22
  How
• 35:22
  does
• 35:22
  my
• 35:22
  body
• 35:23
  feel
• 35:23
  when
• 35:23
  I'm
• 35:24
  back
• 35:24
  at
• 35:24
  that
• 35:24
  point?
• 35:25
  Whether
• 35:25
  that
• 35:25
  be
• 35:26
  with
• 35:26
  a
• 35:26
  cuddle,
• 35:27
  with
• 35:27
  tapping,
• 35:28
  with
• 35:28
  a
• 35:28
  debrief,
• 35:29
  whatever.
• 35:29
  It
• 35:29
  works
• 35:30
  for
• 35:30
  your
• 35:30
  kids.
• 35:31
  Like
• 35:31
  you
• 35:31
  said,
• 35:31
  your
• 35:31
  kids
• 35:32
  are
• 35:32
  different.
• 35:32
  I
• 35:32
  have
• 35:32
  a
• 35:33
  kid
• 35:33
  that
• 35:33
  needs
• 35:33
  to
• 35:33
  just
• 35:34
  go
• 35:34
  off
• 35:34
  and
• 35:34
  have
• 35:35
  his
• 35:35
  time
• 35:35
  and
• 35:35
  listen
• 35:36
  to
• 35:36
  his
• 35:36
  music
• 35:36
  and
• 35:36
  then
• 35:36
  he
• 35:37
  comes
• 35:37
  back
• 35:37
  to
• 35:37
  me
• 35:37
  and
• 35:37
  talks.
• 35:38
  I
• 35:38
  have
• 35:38
  another
• 35:39
  kid
• 35:39
  that
• 35:39
  literally
• 35:39
  needs
• 35:39
  squeezing
• 35:40
  the
• 35:40
  life
• 35:40
  out
• 35:40
  of
• 35:41
  because
• 35:41
  otherwise
• 35:41
  she
• 35:41
  would
• 35:42
  just
• 35:42
  not
• 35:42
  calm
• 35:42
  down.
• 35:43
  Whether,
• 35:43
  whether
• 35:43
  I
• 35:44
  like
• 35:44
  it
• 35:44
  or
• 35:44
  not,
• 35:45
  she
• 35:45
  just
• 35:45
  has
• 35:45
  to
• 35:46
  be
• 35:46
  on
• 35:46
  top
• 35:47
  of
• 35:47
  me
• 35:47
  and
• 35:47
  you
• 35:48
  know,
• 35:48
  in
• 35:48
  my
• 35:48
  breathing
• 35:49
  space
• 35:49
  to
• 35:49
  calm
• 35:50
  down.
• 35:50
  So,
• 35:50
  yeah,
• 35:50
  each
• 35:51
  kid
• 35:51
  works
• 35:51
  differently.
• 35:52
  And
• 35:52
  again,
• 35:52
  like
• 35:53
  you
• 35:53
  said,
• 35:53
  you're
• 35:53
  going
• 35:54
  to
• 35:54
  learn
• 35:54
  this
• 35:54
  through
• 35:55
  parenting
• 35:55
  them.
• 35:55
  You're
• 35:55
  going
• 35:56
  to
• 35:56
  trial
• 35:57
  and
• 35:57
  error.
• 35:57
  You're
• 35:57
  going
• 35:57
  to
• 35:58
  do
• 35:58
  it
• 35:58
  with
• 35:58
  one
• 35:58
  kid
• 35:59
  and
• 35:59
  go,
• 35:59
  oh,
• 35:59
  that
• 35:59
  nope,
• 36:00
  that
• 36:00
  was
• 36:00
  bad.
• 36:01
  Let's
• 36:01
  do
• 36:01
  a
• 36:01
  different
• 36:02
  one.
• 36:02
  Yeah.
• 36:02
  And
• 36:02
  it's
• 36:03
  going
• 36:03
  to
• 36:03
  change
• 36:03
  kid
• 36:03
  to
• 36:04
  kid.
• 36:05
  And
• 36:05
  I
• 36:05
  think
• 36:05
  as
• 36:05
  well
• 36:06
  as
• 36:06
  a
• 36:06
  parent,
• 36:07
  once
• 36:07
  you've
• 36:08
  calmed
• 36:08
  your
• 36:08
  child
• 36:09
  down,
• 36:09
  it's
• 36:09
  really
• 36:10
  important
• 36:10
  that
• 36:10
  you
• 36:10
  take
• 36:11
  some
• 36:11
  time
• 36:11
  for
• 36:11
  yourself.
• 36:12
  And
• 36:12
  I
• 36:12
  know
• 36:12
  that
• 36:12
  is
• 36:13
  almost
• 36:13
  impossible.
• 36:14
  Before
• 36:14
  we
• 36:14
  came
• 36:14
  on
• 36:15
  air,
• 36:15
  I
• 36:15
  know
• 36:15
  that
• 36:17
  Charlotte
• 36:17
  and
• 36:17
  I
• 36:17
  Were
• 36:18
  talking
• 36:18
  about
• 36:19
  that
• 36:19
  period
• 36:19
  of
• 36:19
  your
• 36:20
  parenting
• 36:20
  where
• 36:20
  you
• 36:20
  can't
• 36:20
  even
• 36:21
  go
• 36:21
  to
• 36:21
  the
• 36:21
  toilet
• 36:21
  on
• 36:21
  your
• 36:21
  own,
• 36:22
  let
• 36:22
  alone
• 36:22
  spend
• 36:23
  some
• 36:23
  time,
• 36:23
  you
• 36:24
  know,
• 36:24
  regulating
• 36:24
  your
• 36:24
  nervous
• 36:25
  system.
• 36:25
  But
• 36:26
  just
• 36:26
  a
• 36:26
  little
• 36:26
  bit
• 36:26
  of
• 36:27
  time
• 36:27
  afterwards,
• 36:27
  just.
• 36:28
  Just
• 36:28
  to.
• 36:28
  To
• 36:28
  have
• 36:29
  what
• 36:29
  you
• 36:29
  need.
• 36:30
  Because
• 36:30
  I
• 36:30
  personally,
• 36:31
  I'm
• 36:31
  quite
• 36:31
  like
• 36:31
  my
• 36:31
  son.
• 36:32
  I.
• 36:32
  I
• 36:32
  need
• 36:32
  space
• 36:33
  from
• 36:34
  people
• 36:34
  to
• 36:34
  regulate.
• 36:35
  I
• 36:35
  don't
• 36:35
  want
• 36:35
  people
• 36:36
  in
• 36:36
  my.
• 36:36
  In
• 36:36
  my
• 36:37
  space.
• 36:37
  Whereas
• 36:38
  my
• 36:38
  daughter
• 36:38
  liked
• 36:39
  that
• 36:39
  proximity.
• 36:40
  So
• 36:40
  I
• 36:40
  would
• 36:40
  do
• 36:40
  that
• 36:41
  first.
• 36:41
  Then
• 36:41
  I
• 36:41
  would
• 36:42
  go
• 36:42
  and
• 36:42
  have
• 36:42
  my
• 36:42
  space.
• 36:43
  I
• 36:43
  would
• 36:43
  put
• 36:43
  the
• 36:44
  TV
• 36:44
  on
• 36:44
  that
• 36:44
  beautiful
• 36:45
  babysitter,
• 36:45
  and
• 36:45
  then
• 36:45
  I
• 36:46
  would
• 36:46
  go
• 36:46
  and
• 36:46
  have
• 36:46
  like
• 36:47
  10
• 36:47
  minutes
• 36:47
  in
• 36:47
  the
• 36:47
  kitchen
• 36:48
  with
• 36:48
  a
• 36:48
  cup
• 36:48
  of
• 36:48
  tea.
• 36:48
  I
• 36:49
  needed
• 36:49
  that
• 36:49
  to
• 36:49
  regulate
• 36:50
  down.
• 36:51
  I
• 36:51
  think
• 36:52
  that
• 36:52
  it's
• 36:52
  so
• 36:52
  important
• 36:52
  what
• 36:53
  you
• 36:53
  say
• 36:53
  there
• 36:54
  about
• 36:54
  tapping.
• 36:55
  So
• 36:55
  now
• 36:55
  for
• 36:55
  anyone
• 36:56
  listening
• 36:56
  there,
• 36:56
  I'm
• 36:57
  going
• 36:57
  to
• 36:57
  put
• 36:57
  a
• 36:57
  link
• 36:57
  to
• 36:58
  the
• 36:58
  videos
• 36:58
  that
• 36:59
  Charlotte's
• 36:59
  mentioning.
• 37:00
  I'm
• 37:00
  also
• 37:00
  going
• 37:00
  to
• 37:01
  put
• 37:01
  a
• 37:01
  little
• 37:01
  infographic,
• 37:02
  like
• 37:02
  a
• 37:02
  pictorial.
• 37:03
  Pictorial.
• 37:04
  Pictorial.
• 37:05
  I
• 37:05
  never
• 37:05
  know
• 37:05
  which
• 37:06
  word
• 37:06
  is
• 37:06
  pictorial.
• 37:09
  Visual.
• 37:10
  Yeah,
• 37:10
  a
• 37:11
  visual
• 37:11
  of
• 37:12
  the
• 37:12
  different
• 37:12
  tapping
• 37:12
  points.
• 37:13
  But
• 37:14
  I
• 37:14
  think
• 37:14
  that
• 37:15
  tapping
• 37:15
  is
• 37:15
  one
• 37:15
  of
• 37:15
  these
• 37:16
  weird
• 37:16
  things.
• 37:16
  So
• 37:16
  I
• 37:16
  just
• 37:16
  want
• 37:16
  to
• 37:17
  very
• 37:17
  quickly
• 37:17
  say,
• 37:18
  when
• 37:18
  I
• 37:18
  first
• 37:18
  came
• 37:18
  across
• 37:19
  tapping,
• 37:20
  I
• 37:20
  was
• 37:21
  extremely
• 37:22
  dubious.
• 37:22
  And
• 37:23
  then
• 37:23
  I
• 37:23
  looked
• 37:23
  at
• 37:23
  all.
• 37:24
  It
• 37:24
  sounds
• 37:24
  crazy,
• 37:25
  right?
• 37:25
  Like,
• 37:25
  it
• 37:26
  sounds.
• 37:26
  It
• 37:26
  looks
• 37:26
  and
• 37:27
  sounds
• 37:27
  crazy
• 37:27
  as
• 37:28
  well.
• 37:28
  Right.
• 37:28
  And.
• 37:29
  And
• 37:29
  some
• 37:29
  versions
• 37:29
  of
• 37:30
  it
• 37:30
  have
• 37:30
  you
• 37:30
  singing
• 37:30
  Happy
• 37:31
  Birthday
• 37:31
  and
• 37:31
  stuff.
• 37:31
  And
• 37:32
  I
• 37:32
  was
• 37:32
  like,
• 37:32
  whoa,
• 37:33
  buddy,
• 37:34
  this
• 37:34
  is
• 37:34
  not
• 37:34
  my
• 37:34
  jazz.
• 37:35
  So
• 37:35
  then
• 37:35
  I
• 37:35
  looked
• 37:36
  at
• 37:36
  all
• 37:36
  the
• 37:36
  research
• 37:37
  papers
• 37:37
  and
• 37:38
  they
• 37:38
  were
• 37:38
  overwhelming
• 37:40
  in
• 37:40
  the
• 37:40
  evidence
• 37:41
  for
• 37:41
  this
• 37:41
  stuff.
• 37:41
  So
• 37:42
  I
• 37:42
  thought,
• 37:42
  okay,
• 37:42
  now
• 37:42
  I
• 37:42
  need
• 37:43
  to
• 37:43
  understand
• 37:43
  why
• 37:43
  this
• 37:44
  works.
• 37:45
  So.
• 37:45
  And
• 37:45
  then
• 37:45
  I
• 37:45
  looked
• 37:46
  at
• 37:46
  meridian
• 37:46
  points
• 37:46
  and
• 37:47
  realized
• 37:47
  they
• 37:47
  don't
• 37:47
  kind
• 37:48
  of
• 37:48
  exist.
• 37:48
  So
• 37:49
  then
• 37:49
  I
• 37:49
  started
• 37:49
  freaking
• 37:49
  out.
• 37:50
  So
• 37:50
  then
• 37:50
  I
• 37:50
  realized
• 37:51
  that
• 37:51
  actually
• 37:51
  meridian
• 37:52
  points,
• 37:52
  or
• 37:53
  the
• 37:53
  points
• 37:53
  that
• 37:53
  you
• 37:54
  tap
• 37:54
  equate
• 37:55
  across
• 37:55
  to
• 37:55
  where
• 37:56
  your
• 37:56
  nerve
• 37:57
  endings
• 37:57
  kind
• 37:57
  of
• 37:58
  come
• 37:58
  up
• 37:58
  almost.
• 37:59
  And
• 37:59
  also
• 37:59
  some
• 38:00
  of
• 38:00
  your
• 38:00
  joints
• 38:01
  meet
• 38:01
  and
• 38:02
  muscles.
• 38:02
  So
• 38:03
  there
• 38:03
  is
• 38:03
  a
• 38:03
  lot.
• 38:05
  That's
• 38:05
  right.
• 38:05
  There's
• 38:06
  a
• 38:06
  logical.
• 38:07
  And
• 38:07
  the
• 38:07
  side
• 38:07
  of
• 38:07
  your
• 38:08
  hand
• 38:08
  and
• 38:08
  stuff.
• 38:08
  Right.
• 38:09
  There's
• 38:09
  a
• 38:09
  logical
• 38:10
  side
• 38:10
  to
• 38:11
  the
• 38:11
  physicality
• 38:12
  of
• 38:12
  it,
• 38:13
  but
• 38:13
  also
• 38:13
  then
• 38:13
  the
• 38:14
  repetition
• 38:14
  of
• 38:15
  positive
• 38:15
  words.
• 38:15
  We
• 38:16
  know
• 38:16
  that
• 38:16
  cognitively,
• 38:17
  just
• 38:17
  telling
• 38:18
  yourself
• 38:19
  something
• 38:20
  actually
• 38:20
  kind
• 38:20
  of
• 38:21
  ingrains
• 38:21
  it
• 38:22
  neurologically
• 38:23
  for
• 38:23
  us.
• 38:23
  Yeah.
• 38:24
  So
• 38:24
  there
• 38:24
  are.
• 38:24
  There
• 38:25
  is
• 38:25
  a
• 38:25
  lot
• 38:25
  of
• 38:25
  actual
• 38:26
  scientific
• 38:27
  evidence
• 38:27
  for
• 38:28
  it.
• 38:28
  And
• 38:28
  obviously
• 38:28
  the
• 38:29
  nervous
• 38:29
  system
• 38:29
  is
• 38:30
  an
• 38:30
  electrical
• 38:30
  system,
• 38:31
  so
• 38:31
  we
• 38:31
  talk
• 38:32
  about
• 38:32
  energy.
• 38:32
  And
• 38:33
  I
• 38:33
  know
• 38:33
  that
• 38:33
  people
• 38:34
  listening
• 38:35
  might
• 38:35
  be
• 38:35
  like,
• 38:35
  what
• 38:36
  the
• 38:36
  hell
• 38:36
  is
• 38:36
  energy?
• 38:37
  Energy
• 38:37
  is
• 38:37
  like.
• 38:38
  Yeah,
• 38:39
  exactly.
• 38:39
  But
• 38:40
  actually
• 38:40
  the
• 38:40
  nervous
• 38:40
  system
• 38:41
  fires
• 38:42
  elect
• 38:42
  very
• 38:43
  tiny
• 38:43
  electrical
• 38:44
  signals
• 38:44
  in
• 38:44
  our
• 38:44
  body.
• 38:45
  So
• 38:45
  again,
• 38:45
  there
• 38:46
  is
• 38:47
  a
• 38:47
  logical
• 38:48
  thing
• 38:48
  behind
• 38:48
  it.
• 38:49
  So
• 38:49
  give
• 38:50
  it
• 38:50
  a
• 38:50
  go
• 38:50
  if
• 38:50
  you're
• 38:50
  a
• 38:50
  bit
• 38:51
  suspicious.
• 38:51
  And
• 38:51
  you're
• 38:52
  thinking,
• 38:52
  yeah,
• 38:52
  I'm
• 38:53
  not
• 38:53
  going
• 38:53
  to
• 38:53
  be,
• 38:53
  like,
• 38:54
  tapping
• 38:54
  random
• 38:55
  bits
• 38:55
  of
• 38:55
  my
• 38:55
  body
• 38:55
  and
• 38:56
  saying,
• 38:56
  oh,
• 38:56
  I
• 38:57
  am
• 38:57
  a
• 38:57
  hippie,
• 38:58
  or
• 38:58
  whatever.
• 38:58
  Right.
• 38:59
  Just.
• 38:59
  Just
• 39:00
  give
• 39:00
  it
• 39:00
  a
• 39:00
  go.
• 39:00
  Because
• 39:01
  it
• 39:01
  is
• 39:01
  surprising
• 39:02
  how.
• 39:03
  And
• 39:03
  it's
• 39:04
  actually
• 39:04
  quite
• 39:04
  fun
• 39:04
  with
• 39:04
  children.
• 39:05
  I
• 39:05
  do.
• 39:05
  I've
• 39:06
  done
• 39:06
  it
• 39:06
  with
• 39:06
  both
• 39:06
  of
• 39:06
  mine
• 39:07
  when
• 39:07
  they
• 39:07
  were
• 39:08
  really
• 39:08
  cynical
• 39:08
  teens
• 39:09
  as
• 39:09
  well.
• 39:09
  Okay.
• 39:10
  If
• 39:10
  you
• 39:10
  can
• 39:10
  get
• 39:10
  your
• 39:10
  teenagers
• 39:11
  to
• 39:11
  do
• 39:11
  it
• 39:11
  with
• 39:11
  you.
• 39:11
  Oh,
• 39:12
  yeah,
• 39:12
  it's.
• 39:12
  Yeah,
• 39:12
  you
• 39:13
  can
• 39:13
  get
• 39:13
  your
• 39:13
  kids
• 39:13
  to
• 39:13
  do
• 39:14
  it
• 39:14
  as
• 39:14
  well
• 39:14
  when
• 39:14
  they're
• 39:14
  young.
• 39:14
  So
• 39:15
  give
• 39:15
  tapping
• 39:16
  a
• 39:16
  go.
• 39:16
  It
• 39:16
  is
• 39:16
  surprisingly
• 39:17
  nice.
• 39:17
  It's
• 39:18
  a
• 39:18
  very
• 39:18
  nice
• 39:18
  regulating
• 39:19
  thing
• 39:19
  to
• 39:20
  do
• 39:20
  after
• 39:20
  the
• 39:20
  event.
• 39:22
  Okay,
• 39:22
  so
• 39:22
  we
• 39:22
  have
• 39:22
  got
• 39:23
  five
• 39:23
  senses
• 39:24
  gain,
• 39:25
  nervous
• 39:25
  system
• 39:25
  regulation,
• 39:27
  breathing,
• 39:28
  naming
• 39:29
  what
• 39:29
  you're
• 39:29
  feeling,
• 39:30
  and
• 39:30
  then
• 39:30
  tapping
• 39:31
  and
• 39:32
  debriefing
• 39:32
  afterwards.
• 39:33
  I
• 39:33
  will
• 39:33
  add
• 39:34
  one
• 39:34
  thing
• 39:34
  in,
• 39:34
  and
• 39:35
  that
• 39:35
  is
• 39:35
  that
• 39:35
  I
• 39:35
  think
• 39:36
  that
• 39:36
  the
• 39:36
  biggest
• 39:37
  gift
• 39:38
  I
• 39:38
  learned
• 39:38
  as
• 39:39
  a
• 39:39
  parent
• 39:39
  was
• 39:40
  to.
• 39:40
  To
• 39:41
  apologize.
• 39:42
  This
• 39:42
  was
• 39:42
  not
• 39:42
  something
• 39:42
  I'd
• 39:43
  ever
• 39:43
  done
• 39:43
  in
• 39:43
  my
• 39:43
  life.
• 39:44
  I
• 39:44
  literally
• 39:44
  had
• 39:44
  never
• 39:45
  apologized.
• 39:45
  Even
• 39:45
  if
• 39:46
  I
• 39:46
  was
• 39:46
  blatantly
• 39:47
  wrong.
• 39:47
  I.
• 39:48
  I
• 39:48
  like,
• 39:49
  when
• 39:49
  I
• 39:49
  was
• 39:49
  younger,
• 39:50
  I
• 39:50
  would,
• 39:50
  like,
• 39:50
  cheat
• 39:51
  on
• 39:51
  my
• 39:51
  boyfriends.
• 39:51
  I
• 39:51
  didn't
• 39:52
  apologize.
• 39:53
  I
• 39:53
  wasn't
• 39:53
  apologizing.
• 39:56
  No
• 39:56
  way.
• 39:56
  I
• 39:57
  was
• 39:57
  owning
• 39:57
  that.
• 39:57
  However,
• 39:58
  I
• 39:58
  learned
• 39:59
  when
• 39:59
  having
• 39:59
  children
• 40:00
  that
• 40:01
  you
• 40:01
  can
• 40:01
  sometimes
• 40:02
  get
• 40:02
  it
• 40:02
  monumentally
• 40:03
  wrong
• 40:03
  or
• 40:03
  even
• 40:04
  actually
• 40:05
  a
• 40:05
  little
• 40:05
  bit
• 40:06
  wrong.
• 40:06
  And
• 40:06
  if
• 40:06
  you
• 40:07
  go
• 40:07
  up
• 40:07
  to
• 40:07
  them
• 40:07
  after
• 40:07
  the
• 40:08
  event,
• 40:08
  you
• 40:08
  know,
• 40:09
  in
• 40:09
  that
• 40:09
  debrief
• 40:09
  and
• 40:09
  you
• 40:10
  say,
• 40:10
  I
• 40:10
  am
• 40:11
  so
• 40:11
  sorry
• 40:11
  that
• 40:12
  I
• 40:12
  shouted.
• 40:13
  I
• 40:13
  am
• 40:13
  so
• 40:14
  sorry
• 40:14
  that
• 40:14
  I
• 40:14
  threw
• 40:15
  your
• 40:15
  toy
• 40:15
  across
• 40:15
  the
• 40:15
  road.
• 40:16
  Across
• 40:17
  the
• 40:17
  road.
• 40:17
  I
• 40:17
  wouldn't
• 40:18
  do
• 40:18
  that.
• 40:18
  That
• 40:18
  would
• 40:18
  be
• 40:18
  really
• 40:18
  harsh.
• 40:19
  I
• 40:19
  am
• 40:20
  so
• 40:20
  sorry
• 40:20
  that
• 40:21
  I
• 40:21
  threw
• 40:21
  your
• 40:21
  toy
• 40:21
  across
• 40:22
  the
• 40:22
  room.
• 40:23
  I
• 40:23
  had
• 40:23
  to
• 40:23
  apologize
• 40:24
  to
• 40:24
  my
• 40:24
  daughter
• 40:25
  numerous
• 40:25
  times
• 40:25
  for
• 40:26
  throwing
• 40:26
  her
• 40:26
  math
• 40:26
  book
• 40:27
  across
• 40:27
  the
• 40:27
  room
• 40:27
  during
• 40:27
  a
• 40:27
  math
• 40:28
  lesson.
• 40:28
  So
• 40:29
  I
• 40:29
  would
• 40:29
  just
• 40:29
  own
• 40:29
  up
• 40:30
  and
• 40:30
  say,
• 40:30
  I
• 40:30
  am
• 40:30
  really
• 40:31
  sorry
• 40:31
  that
• 40:31
  I
• 40:32
  did
• 40:32
  this.
• 40:33
  And
• 40:33
  I
• 40:33
  found
• 40:33
  that
• 40:33
  that
• 40:34
  helped
• 40:35
  a
• 40:35
  lot.
• 40:35
  It
• 40:35
  helped
• 40:35
  a
• 40:35
  lot
• 40:36
  with
• 40:36
  both
• 40:36
  my
• 40:36
  children.
• 40:37
  My
• 40:37
  son
• 40:37
  is
• 40:38
  super
• 40:38
  rational.
• 40:38
  He
• 40:39
  liked
• 40:39
  to
• 40:39
  hear
• 40:40
  my
• 40:40
  explanation.
• 40:41
  My
• 40:41
  daughter
• 40:42
  is
• 40:42
  very
• 40:42
  emotional.
• 40:43
  She
• 40:43
  wanted
• 40:43
  to
• 40:44
  take
• 40:44
  on,
• 40:45
  you
• 40:45
  know,
• 40:45
  she
• 40:45
  wanted
• 40:46
  to
• 40:46
  sort
• 40:46
  of
• 40:46
  be
• 40:46
  like,
• 40:46
  oh,
• 40:46
  yeah,
• 40:47
  no,
• 40:47
  I
• 40:47
  know.
• 40:47
  I
• 40:48
  can
• 40:48
  get
• 40:48
  why
• 40:48
  you
• 40:48
  were
• 40:49
  feeling
• 40:49
  bad.
• 40:49
  And
• 40:49
  then
• 40:50
  we
• 40:50
  would
• 40:50
  kind
• 40:50
  of
• 40:50
  almost
• 40:50
  have
• 40:51
  a
• 40:51
  mutual
• 40:51
  feeling,
• 40:51
  share
• 40:52
  in
• 40:52
  that
• 40:52
  beautiful
• 40:53
  millennial's
• 40:53
  way,
• 40:53
  even
• 40:54
  though
• 40:54
  she
• 40:54
  isn't
• 40:54
  one.
• 40:54
  I
• 40:55
  think
• 40:55
  that
• 40:55
  that
• 40:55
  apology
• 40:56
  aspect
• 40:56
  is
• 40:56
  really
• 40:57
  important
• 40:57
  as
• 40:57
  well.
• 40:58
  I
• 40:58
  did
• 40:58
  that
• 40:59
  this
• 40:59
  morning.
• 40:59
  So
• 41:00
  my
• 41:00
  daughter's
• 41:01
  rooms,
• 41:02
  it's
• 41:02
  a
• 41:02
  big
• 41:02
  room,
• 41:02
  and
• 41:03
  I've
• 41:03
  split
• 41:03
  it
• 41:03
  in
• 41:03
  the
• 41:03
  middle
• 41:04
  with,
• 41:04
  like,
• 41:04
  a
• 41:04
  unit.
• 41:05
  So
• 41:05
  the
• 41:05
  older
• 41:05
  one
• 41:06
  has
• 41:06
  the
• 41:06
  outside
• 41:07
  one
• 41:07
  where
• 41:07
  she
• 41:08
  has
• 41:08
  all
• 41:08
  her
• 41:08
  nail
• 41:08
  stuff
• 41:09
  and
• 41:09
  yada
• 41:10
  yada.
• 41:10
  And
• 41:10
  then
• 41:11
  the
• 41:11
  first
• 41:11
  One
• 41:11
  is
• 41:11
  a
• 41:12
  bit
• 41:12
  more
• 41:12
  where
• 41:12
  the
• 41:12
  toys
• 41:12
  and
• 41:13
  stuff
• 41:13
  are.
• 41:13
  The
• 41:13
  baby
• 41:14
  likes
• 41:14
  to
• 41:14
  go
• 41:14
  in
• 41:14
  and
• 41:14
  out
• 41:15
  and
• 41:15
  just,
• 41:15
  you
• 41:15
  know,
• 41:15
  wander
• 41:16
  around
• 41:16
  and
• 41:16
  do
• 41:16
  whatever
• 41:17
  he's
• 41:17
  doing.
• 41:17
  And
• 41:18
  he
• 41:18
  was
• 41:18
  in
• 41:19
  the
• 41:20
  further
• 41:20
  away
• 41:21
  one.
• 41:21
  And
• 41:21
  she
• 41:21
  was
• 41:21
  trying
• 41:22
  to
• 41:22
  do.
• 41:22
  She
• 41:22
  was
• 41:22
  on
• 41:22
  a
• 41:22
  nail
• 41:23
  course
• 41:23
  this
• 41:23
  morning.
• 41:23
  So
• 41:24
  she's
• 41:24
  trying
• 41:24
  to
• 41:24
  do
• 41:24
  all
• 41:24
  of
• 41:24
  her
• 41:24
  nails
• 41:25
  and
• 41:25
  stuff.
• 41:25
  Obviously,
• 41:26
  you
• 41:26
  know,
• 41:26
  there's
• 41:26
  now
• 41:26
  varnish
• 41:27
  and
• 41:27
  lights
• 41:27
  and
• 41:28
  whatever
• 41:28
  things
• 41:28
  that
• 41:28
  we
• 41:29
  don't
• 41:29
  want
• 41:29
  the
• 41:29
  baby
• 41:29
  touching.
• 41:30
  So
• 41:31
  I
• 41:31
  am
• 41:31
  trying
• 41:31
  to
• 41:32
  pack
• 41:32
  for
• 41:32
  a
• 41:32
  holiday
• 41:32
  that
• 41:33
  we're
• 41:33
  going
• 41:33
  on.
• 41:33
  So
• 41:34
  I'm
• 41:34
  trying
• 41:34
  to
• 41:34
  do
• 41:34
  a
• 41:34
  suitcase
• 41:35
  whilst
• 41:35
  I
• 41:36
  can
• 41:36
  hear
• 41:36
  them.
• 41:36
  Mom,
• 41:37
  get
• 41:37
  Ralph
• 41:37
  away
• 41:38
  from
• 41:38
  me.
• 41:38
  Get
• 41:38
  Ralph.
• 41:39
  So
• 41:39
  I'm
• 41:40
  like,
• 41:41
  everyone
• 41:41
  just
• 41:41
  leave
• 41:42
  me
• 41:42
  alone.
• 41:42
  And
• 41:42
  I
• 41:42
  was
• 41:43
  like
• 41:43
  screaming
• 41:44
  because
• 41:44
  I'm
• 41:45
  not
• 41:45
  at
• 41:45
  anybody,
• 41:45
  but
• 41:46
  just
• 41:46
  because
• 41:47
  I'm
• 41:47
  trying
• 41:48
  to
• 41:48
  do
• 41:48
  this
• 41:48
  thing
• 41:48
  that
• 41:48
  would
• 41:49
  literally
• 41:49
  take
• 41:49
  me
• 41:50
  five
• 41:50
  minutes
• 41:51
  if
• 41:51
  you
• 41:51
  just
• 41:51
  all
• 41:52
  left
• 41:52
  me
• 41:52
  alone
• 41:52
  and
• 41:53
  just
• 41:53
  didn't
• 41:53
  do
• 41:54
  anything,
• 41:54
  that
• 41:54
  I
• 41:54
  needed
• 41:55
  to
• 41:55
  intervene
• 41:55
  for
• 41:56
  five
• 41:56
  minutes.
• 41:57
  So
• 41:57
  I
• 41:57
  ended
• 41:57
  up
• 41:57
  just
• 41:58
  shouting.
• 41:58
  I
• 41:58
  wasn't
• 41:58
  shouting
• 41:59
  at
• 41:59
  any
• 41:59
  of
• 42:00
  them.
• 42:00
  And
• 42:00
  then
• 42:01
  my
• 42:01
  six
• 42:01
  year
• 42:01
  old,
• 42:01
  she
• 42:02
  got
• 42:02
  a
• 42:02
  bit
• 42:02
  upset
• 42:02
  and
• 42:02
  a
• 42:03
  bit
• 42:03
  scared
• 42:03
  because
• 42:03
  she
• 42:04
  thought
• 42:04
  I
• 42:04
  was
• 42:04
  shouting
• 42:05
  at
• 42:05
  her.
• 42:05
  So
• 42:06
  I
• 42:06
  then
• 42:06
  had
• 42:06
  to
• 42:06
  go
• 42:06
  in
• 42:06
  and
• 42:06
  explain,
• 42:07
  you
• 42:07
  know,
• 42:07
  I'm
• 42:08
  not
• 42:08
  shouting
• 42:08
  at
• 42:08
  anybody.
• 42:09
  I
• 42:09
  was
• 42:09
  just
• 42:10
  being
• 42:10
  loud
• 42:11
  and
• 42:11
  I
• 42:12
  was
• 42:12
  just
• 42:12
  getting
• 42:13
  my
• 42:14
  frustration
• 42:14
  out
• 42:15
  of
• 42:15
  my
• 42:15
  body.
• 42:16
  It
• 42:16
  wasn't
• 42:16
  aimed
• 42:16
  at
• 42:17
  anybody,
• 42:17
  it
• 42:17
  wasn't
• 42:18
  aimed
• 42:18
  at
• 42:18
  any
• 42:18
  of
• 42:18
  you.
• 42:18
  I'm
• 42:19
  really
• 42:19
  sorry
• 42:19
  that
• 42:19
  I
• 42:20
  thought
• 42:20
  that
• 42:20
  you
• 42:20
  thought
• 42:20
  it
• 42:20
  was
• 42:21
  at
• 42:21
  you,
• 42:21
  but
• 42:21
  it
• 42:21
  really
• 42:21
  wasn't.
• 42:22
  So
• 42:22
  even
• 42:23
  sometimes
• 42:23
  just
• 42:24
  explaining
• 42:25
  the
• 42:25
  situation
• 42:26
  that
• 42:26
  they
• 42:26
  might
• 42:26
  have
• 42:27
  got
• 42:27
  a
• 42:27
  little
• 42:27
  bit
• 42:27
  confused
• 42:28
  at,
• 42:28
  because
• 42:28
  we
• 42:28
  are
• 42:29
  human,
• 42:29
  we
• 42:29
  do
• 42:29
  make
• 42:30
  big
• 42:30
  noises
• 42:30
  and,
• 42:31
  you
• 42:31
  know,
• 42:31
  we
• 42:31
  scream
• 42:32
  and
• 42:32
  shout
• 42:32
  and
• 42:32
  whatever,
• 42:33
  you
• 42:33
  know,
• 42:33
  you
• 42:33
  stub
• 42:34
  your
• 42:34
  toe
• 42:34
  and
• 42:34
  they're
• 42:34
  gonna
• 42:35
  know
• 42:35
  that
• 42:35
  you've
• 42:35
  hurt
• 42:35
  yourself.
• 42:36
  But
• 42:37
  if
• 42:37
  you
• 42:38
  don't
• 42:38
  explain
• 42:39
  it,
• 42:39
  maybe
• 42:39
  not
• 42:40
  apologize.
• 42:40
  You
• 42:40
  don't
• 42:40
  always
• 42:40
  have
• 42:41
  to
• 42:41
  apologize
• 42:41
  if
• 42:41
  you
• 42:41
  weren't
• 42:42
  doing
• 42:42
  anything
• 42:42
  wrong
• 42:43
  per
• 42:43
  se.
• 42:44
  But
• 42:44
  you
• 42:44
  know,
• 42:44
  just
• 42:44
  having
• 42:45
  a
• 42:45
  conversation
• 42:45
  with
• 42:45
  them
• 42:46
  to
• 42:46
  let
• 42:46
  them
• 42:46
  know
• 42:46
  that
• 42:47
  it
• 42:47
  isn't
• 42:47
  because
• 42:47
  of
• 42:48
  them
• 42:48
  and
• 42:48
  it
• 42:48
  isn't
• 42:48
  their
• 42:48
  fault
• 42:49
  and
• 42:49
  you
• 42:49
  know,
• 42:49
  they
• 42:49
  haven't
• 42:50
  done
• 42:50
  anything
• 42:50
  wrong
• 42:51
  and
• 42:51
  we're
• 42:51
  just
• 42:52
  outwardly
• 42:54
  progressing
• 42:55
  our
• 42:55
  frustration.
• 42:57
  Not
• 42:57
  aimed
• 42:58
  at
• 42:58
  their
• 42:58
  faces.
• 42:59
  Yeah,
• 43:00
  apologizing.
• 43:02
  Yeah,
• 43:02
  exactly.
• 43:03
  And
• 43:03
  it's
• 43:03
  really
• 43:03
  important
• 43:04
  that
• 43:04
  they
• 43:04
  understand,
• 43:05
  especially
• 43:06
  for
• 43:06
  when
• 43:06
  they
• 43:07
  get
• 43:07
  older,
• 43:07
  because
• 43:08
  if
• 43:08
  they
• 43:08
  have
• 43:08
  an
• 43:09
  altercation
• 43:10
  with
• 43:10
  anybody
• 43:10
  and
• 43:11
  they've
• 43:11
  shouted
• 43:11
  or
• 43:12
  they've,
• 43:12
  you
• 43:12
  know,
• 43:12
  said
• 43:13
  something
• 43:13
  or
• 43:13
  done
• 43:14
  something
• 43:14
  that
• 43:14
  they
• 43:14
  maybe
• 43:15
  shouldn't
• 43:15
  have
• 43:15
  done,
• 43:15
  they
• 43:15
  have
• 43:16
  an
• 43:16
  argument
• 43:16
  with
• 43:16
  a
• 43:16
  boyfriend
• 43:17
  and
• 43:17
  they've
• 43:17
  chucked
• 43:18
  his
• 43:18
  clothes
• 43:18
  out
• 43:18
  the
• 43:18
  window,
• 43:19
  you
• 43:19
  know,
• 43:19
  they
• 43:20
  need
• 43:20
  to
• 43:20
  then
• 43:20
  learn
• 43:21
  to
• 43:21
  say
• 43:21
  I'm
• 43:22
  really
• 43:22
  sorry
• 43:22
  that
• 43:22
  I
• 43:23
  overreacted
• 43:23
  because
• 43:24
  you
• 43:24
  use
• 43:24
  my
• 43:24
  toothbrush
• 43:25
  or
• 43:25
  whatever
• 43:25
  it
• 43:26
  is
• 43:26
  that
• 43:26
  they
• 43:27
  going
• 43:27
  on
• 43:28
  cheated
• 43:28
  or.
• 43:29
  Cheated
• 43:29
  on
• 43:29
  someone
• 43:29
  and
• 43:30
  not
• 43:30
  taken
• 43:30
  ownership.
• 43:31
  Yeah,
• 43:31
  I
• 43:31
  reckon
• 43:32
  you
• 43:32
  owe
• 43:32
  a
• 43:32
  few
• 43:33
  apologies
• 43:34
  along
• 43:34
  the
• 43:34
  way.
• 43:35
  If
• 43:35
  I
• 43:35
  was,
• 43:35
  if
• 43:36
  I
• 43:36
  was
• 43:36
  an
• 43:36
  alcoholic,
• 43:37
  I
• 43:37
  would,
• 43:37
  I
• 43:37
  would
• 43:37
  work
• 43:38
  my
• 43:38
  way
• 43:38
  through
• 43:38
  the
• 43:39
  steps.
• 43:39
  Maybe
• 43:39
  I
• 43:39
  should
• 43:39
  just
• 43:40
  do
• 43:40
  that.
• 43:40
  Anyway,
• 43:41
  Charlotte,
• 43:41
  thank
• 43:41
  you
• 43:42
  so
• 43:42
  much
• 43:42
  for
• 43:42
  today.
• 43:42
  It
• 43:43
  has
• 43:43
  been
• 43:43
  really
• 43:43
  helpful
• 43:44
  to,
• 43:45
  to,
• 43:45
  to
• 43:45
  sort
• 43:46
  of
• 43:46
  map
• 43:46
  across
• 43:47
  the,
• 43:48
  the
• 43:48
  arc
• 43:48
  of
• 43:49
  a
• 43:49
  meltdown.
• 43:49
  Do
• 43:50
  let
• 43:50
  our
• 43:50
  listeners
• 43:51
  know
• 43:51
  where
• 43:51
  they
• 43:51
  can
• 43:51
  find
• 43:52
  you.
• 43:52
  Because
• 43:52
  you
• 43:52
  mentioned
• 43:53
  about
• 43:53
  working
• 43:53
  with
• 43:54
  home
• 43:54
  ed
• 43:55
  children
• 43:55
  and
• 43:55
  parents.
• 43:56
  So
• 43:56
  I
• 43:57
  have,
• 43:58
  I
• 43:58
  told
• 43:59
  you
• 43:59
  many
• 43:59
  hats.
• 44:00
  So
• 44:00
  Charlotte,
• 44:00
  Web
• 44:01
  just
• 44:02
  on
• 44:02
  Facebook
• 44:02
  is
• 44:03
  my
• 44:03
  name
• 44:03
  and
• 44:03
  I
• 44:04
  post
• 44:04
  all
• 44:04
  of
• 44:04
  my
• 44:05
  things
• 44:06
  on
• 44:06
  there.
• 44:07
  I
• 44:08
  have
• 44:08
  a
• 44:08
  business,
• 44:09
  Facebook,
• 44:10
  Break
• 44:10
  the
• 44:11
  Cycle.
• 44:11
  That's
• 44:12
  all
• 44:12
  of
• 44:12
  my
• 44:12
  work
• 44:13
  stuff.
• 44:14
  Therapy,
• 44:15
  psychology,
• 44:15
  yada
• 44:16
  yada.
• 44:16
  And
• 44:17
  then
• 44:17
  I
• 44:17
  actually,
• 44:18
  believe
• 44:19
  it
• 44:19
  or
• 44:19
  not,
• 44:19
  I
• 44:19
  am
• 44:20
  doing
• 44:20
  the
• 44:20
  Tick
• 44:20
  tock.
• 44:22
  I'm
• 44:22
  doing
• 44:23
  the
• 44:23
  tick
• 44:23
  tock
• 44:23
  and
• 44:24
  the
• 44:24
  Instagram.
• 44:24
  I'm
• 44:25
  trying
• 44:25
  to
• 44:25
  be
• 44:25
  current.
• 44:26
  I
• 44:26
  don't
• 44:26
  know
• 44:26
  how
• 44:26
  good
• 44:26
  I
• 44:26
  am
• 44:27
  at
• 44:27
  it,
• 44:27
  but
• 44:28
  that's
• 44:28
  all
• 44:28
  linked
• 44:28
  through
• 44:29
  there.
• 44:29
  And
• 44:29
  I
• 44:30
  just
• 44:30
  kind
• 44:30
  of
• 44:30
  post.
• 44:31
  I
• 44:31
  do
• 44:31
  a
• 44:31
  lot
• 44:31
  of
• 44:32
  review
• 44:32
  stuff.
• 44:33
  So
• 44:33
  I
• 44:34
  find
• 44:34
  it
• 44:34
  really
• 44:34
  helpful
• 44:34
  when
• 44:35
  I
• 44:35
  see
• 44:35
  other
• 44:35
  home
• 44:36
  ed
• 44:36
  people
• 44:36
  doing
• 44:37
  review
• 44:37
  stuffs.
• 44:39
  And
• 44:39
  I
• 44:39
  try
• 44:39
  and
• 44:40
  review
• 44:40
  as
• 44:40
  many
• 44:40
  places
• 44:41
  that
• 44:41
  we
• 44:41
  go
• 44:41
  to,
• 44:42
  as
• 44:42
  many
• 44:42
  programs
• 44:43
  that
• 44:43
  we
• 44:43
  use,
• 44:43
  as
• 44:44
  many,
• 44:44
  you
• 44:44
  know,
• 44:45
  curriculums
• 44:46
  that
• 44:46
  we
• 44:46
  use.
• 44:46
  Whatever
• 44:47
  we
• 44:47
  use,
• 44:47
  I
• 44:47
  try
• 44:47
  and
• 44:47
  just
• 44:48
  update
• 44:49
  everything
• 44:49
  on
• 44:49
  there
• 44:49
  because
• 44:50
  even
• 44:50
  if
• 44:50
  I
• 44:50
  just
• 44:50
  help
• 44:51
  one
• 44:51
  person
• 44:51
  see
• 44:52
  what
• 44:52
  they're
• 44:52
  doing,
• 44:52
  it's,
• 44:53
  you
• 44:53
  know,
• 44:53
  it's
• 44:54
  so
• 44:54
  much
• 44:54
  nicer
• 44:54
  than
• 44:54
  just
• 44:55
  being
• 44:55
  a
• 44:55
  blank
• 44:55
  canvas
• 44:56
  of
• 44:56
  not
• 44:56
  knowing
• 44:57
  what
• 44:57
  you're
• 44:57
  doing.
• 44:58
  And
• 44:58
  we've
• 44:58
  also
• 44:59
  just
• 44:59
  opened
• 45:00
  a
• 45:01
  home
• 45:01
  ed
• 45:01
  center
• 45:02
  on
• 45:02
  a
• 45:02
  Thursday
• 45:03
  in
• 45:03
  actual
• 45:04
  Acton.
• 45:04
  Sudbury.
• 45:05
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• 45:06
  don't
• 45:06
  know
• 45:06
  where
• 45:06
  everyone
• 45:06
  is,
• 45:06
  but
• 45:07
  yeah,
• 45:07
  Sudbury,
• 45:07
  Acton.
• 45:08
  And
• 45:08
  it's
• 45:09
  a
• 45:09
  whole
• 45:09
  day
• 45:09
  thing,
• 45:10
  10:30
• 45:10
  till
• 45:10
  3:30.
• 45:11
  I've
• 45:12
  created
• 45:12
  a
• 45:13
  structure
• 45:14
  which
• 45:14
  I
• 45:15
  hope,
• 45:15
  I
• 45:15
  hope
• 45:16
  patterns
• 45:17
  and
• 45:17
  I
• 45:17
  hope
• 45:17
  people
• 45:18
  copy
• 45:19
  it
• 45:19
  and
• 45:19
  do
• 45:19
  it
• 45:19
  other
• 45:20
  places.
• 45:21
  The
• 45:21
  idea
• 45:21
  will
• 45:21
  be
• 45:22
  eventually
• 45:22
  for
• 45:22
  me
• 45:23
  to,
• 45:23
  you
• 45:23
  know,
• 45:23
  branch
• 45:24
  out
• 45:24
  and
• 45:24
  make
• 45:24
  it
• 45:24
  a
• 45:25
  thing.
• 45:25
  So
• 45:25
  basically
• 45:26
  it's
• 45:26
  a
• 45:27
  social
• 45:28
  hangout.
• 45:28
  You
• 45:28
  come,
• 45:29
  you
• 45:29
  pay
• 45:30
  an
• 45:30
  entry
• 45:30
  fee,
• 45:31
  you.
• 45:31
  There's
• 45:31
  activities
• 45:32
  laid
• 45:32
  out.
• 45:32
  We
• 45:32
  do
• 45:33
  like
• 45:33
  topics.
• 45:34
  So
• 45:34
  this
• 45:34
  topic
• 45:35
  we're
• 45:35
  doing
• 45:35
  ancient
• 45:36
  Egypt
• 45:36
  and
• 45:36
  America,
• 45:37
  things
• 45:38
  like
• 45:38
  that.
• 45:38
  And
• 45:39
  we
• 45:39
  put
• 45:39
  out
• 45:39
  some
• 45:40
  educational
• 45:40
  activities
• 45:41
  and
• 45:41
  some
• 45:41
  little
• 45:41
  things
• 45:42
  for
• 45:42
  the
• 45:42
  kids
• 45:42
  to
• 45:42
  do.
• 45:43
  We
• 45:43
  have
• 45:43
  an
• 45:43
  area
• 45:44
  for
• 45:44
  little,
• 45:44
  little
• 45:44
  kids
• 45:45
  for
• 45:45
  families
• 45:46
  that
• 45:46
  have
• 45:46
  got,
• 45:46
  you
• 45:46
  know,
• 45:47
  multiple
• 45:47
  children.
• 45:47
  We've
• 45:48
  got
• 45:48
  a
• 45:48
  kitchen
• 45:48
  and
• 45:49
  cars
• 45:50
  and
• 45:50
  you
• 45:50
  know,
• 45:50
  whatever
• 45:51
  massive
• 45:51
  outside
• 45:52
  space
• 45:52
  with
• 45:53
  lots
• 45:53
  of
• 45:53
  games
• 45:54
  that
• 45:54
  they
• 45:54
  can
• 45:54
  play.
• 45:55
  And
• 45:55
  then
• 45:55
  we
• 45:55
  have
• 45:55
  your
• 45:55
  usual
• 45:56
  play
• 45:56
  doh
• 45:56
  and,
• 45:57
  you
• 45:57
  know,
• 45:57
  sensory
• 45:57
  stuff.
• 45:58
  We
• 45:58
  then
• 45:59
  have
• 46:00
  a
• 46:00
  whole
• 46:01
  schedule
• 46:01
  of
• 46:02
  groups
• 46:03
  run
• 46:03
  alongside
• 46:04
  this.
• 46:04
  So
• 46:05
  the
• 46:05
  idea
• 46:05
  is
• 46:05
  that
• 46:05
  you
• 46:06
  can
• 46:06
  come
• 46:06
  as
• 46:06
  a
• 46:07
  family
• 46:07
  and
• 46:07
  one
• 46:08
  of
• 46:08
  you
• 46:08
  can
• 46:08
  be
• 46:08
  in
• 46:09
  the
• 46:09
  room
• 46:09
  with
• 46:09
  the
• 46:09
  little
• 46:10
  kids,
• 46:10
  and
• 46:10
  then
• 46:10
  one
• 46:10
  of
• 46:10
  you
• 46:11
  can
• 46:11
  be
• 46:11
  in
• 46:11
  the
• 46:11
  groups.
• 46:12
  And
• 46:12
  we've
• 46:12
  got
• 46:12
  phonics
• 46:13
  and
• 46:14
  English
• 46:14
  and
• 46:14
  science
• 46:15
  and
• 46:15
  cooking
• 46:16
  and
• 46:17
  football
• 46:19
  and
• 46:20
  life
• 46:20
  skills
• 46:21
  lessons.
• 46:21
  We've
• 46:21
  got
• 46:22
  so
• 46:22
  many
• 46:22
  things.
• 46:23
  And
• 46:24
  you
• 46:24
  can
• 46:24
  join
• 46:24
  them
• 46:24
  all
• 46:24
  or
• 46:25
  you
• 46:25
  can
• 46:25
  join
• 46:25
  none
• 46:25
  of
• 46:26
  them,
• 46:26
  and
• 46:26
  you
• 46:26
  can
• 46:26
  just
• 46:26
  come
• 46:26
  for
• 46:27
  the
• 46:27
  social.
• 46:27
  So
• 46:27
  it's
• 46:27
  kind
• 46:28
  of
• 46:28
  like
• 46:28
  a
• 46:28
  bit
• 46:28
  of
• 46:28
  a,
• 46:29
  you
• 46:29
  know,
• 46:29
  a
• 46:29
  whole
• 46:30
  center
• 46:30
  where
• 46:30
  you
• 46:30
  could
• 46:30
  come
• 46:31
  and
• 46:31
  do
• 46:31
  everything.
• 46:32
  So,
• 46:32
  yeah,
• 46:33
  it's.
• 46:33
  It's
• 46:33
  getting
• 46:34
  going.
• 46:34
  We
• 46:34
  did
• 46:34
  a
• 46:35
  fundraiser.
• 46:35
  We
• 46:35
  raised
• 46:36
  £600.
• 46:37
  That's
• 46:37
  in
• 46:37
  the
• 46:38
  bank
• 46:38
  ready
• 46:39
  for
• 46:39
  us
• 46:39
  to
• 46:39
  buy
• 46:40
  things
• 46:40
  for
• 46:40
  the
• 46:40
  kids
• 46:40
  and
• 46:41
  pay
• 46:41
  for
• 46:41
  classes
• 46:42
  and
• 46:42
  stuff.
• 46:43
  So,
• 46:43
  yeah,
• 46:44
  we're
• 46:44
  doing
• 46:44
  all
• 46:44
  right.
• 46:44
  We're
• 46:45
  doing
• 46:45
  okay,
• 46:45
  but
• 46:45
  we're.
• 46:46
  The
• 46:46
  main
• 46:46
  point
• 46:46
  is
• 46:47
  that
• 46:47
  we're
• 46:47
  trying
• 46:47
  to
• 46:48
  support
• 46:49
  our
• 46:49
  area
• 46:49
  with
• 46:50
  home
• 46:50
  ed,
• 46:50
  because
• 46:50
  it
• 46:51
  feels
• 46:51
  like
• 46:51
  a
• 46:51
  minefield
• 46:52
  when
• 46:52
  you
• 46:52
  first
• 46:53
  sign
• 46:53
  up
• 46:53
  to
• 46:53
  it
• 46:53
  and
• 46:53
  you
• 46:54
  think,
• 46:54
  oh,
• 46:54
  God,
• 46:55
  what
• 46:55
  have
• 46:55
  I
• 46:55
  put
• 46:55
  myself
• 46:56
  in
• 46:56
  for?
• 46:57
  And
• 46:57
  I
• 46:57
  don't
• 46:57
  want
• 46:57
  anyone
• 46:58
  feeling
• 46:58
  like
• 46:58
  that.
• 46:58
  So
• 46:59
  if
• 46:59
  I
• 46:59
  can
• 46:59
  help
• 47:00
  anyone,
• 47:00
  and
• 47:01
  if
• 47:01
  you
• 47:01
  ever
• 47:01
  need
• 47:02
  to
• 47:02
  message
• 47:02
  me
• 47:02
  or
• 47:03
  you
• 47:03
  want
• 47:03
  to
• 47:03
  ask
• 47:03
  a
• 47:03
  question,
• 47:04
  anyone
• 47:05
  can.
• 47:05
  I'm
• 47:05
  an
• 47:05
  open
• 47:06
  book
• 47:06
  and
• 47:06
  I
• 47:06
  will
• 47:06
  try
• 47:07
  and
• 47:07
  help
• 47:07
  anyone
• 47:07
  at
• 47:08
  any
• 47:08
  point.
• 47:09
  Well,
• 47:09
  everyone's
• 47:10
  moving
• 47:10
  to
• 47:10
  Acton
• 47:10
  now
• 47:11
  after
• 47:11
  that.
• 47:11
  Yeah.
• 47:13
  Thank
• 47:13
  you
• 47:13
  so
• 47:14
  much,
• 47:14
  Charlotte.
• 47:14
  It
• 47:15
  was
• 47:15
  really
• 47:15
  lovely
• 47:15
  having
• 47:15
  you
• 47:16
  on.
• 47:16
  And
• 47:16
  I'll
• 47:16
  put
• 47:16
  all
• 47:16
  of
• 47:17
  your
• 47:17
  links
• 47:17
  down
• 47:17
  in
• 47:17
  the
• 47:17
  show
• 47:18
  notes.
• 47:18
  Lovely.
• 47:19
  Thank
• 47:19
  you
• 47:19
  so
• 47:19
  much.
• 47:21
  Thank
• 47:21
  you
• 47:21
  so
• 47:21
  much
• 47:21
  for
• 47:21
  joining
• 47:22
  us
• 47:22
  for
• 47:22
  today's
• 47:22
  Home
• 47:22
  Education
• 47:23
  Matters
• 47:23
  podcast.
• 47:24
  See
• 47:24
  you
• 47:24
  at
• 47:24
  the
• 47:25
  next
• 47:25
  one.
• 47:25
  Have
• 47:25
  a
• 47:25
  lovely
• 47:26
  day.
• 47:26
  It.