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💆‍♀️Self-Care Series: Protect Your Energy 🔋 · ✨️Aligned and Thriving: For Teachers🌿

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  Hey guys, and welcome back to another episode of Aligned and
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  Thriving for Teachers. This one's only a short one, but
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  this episode is one straight from the heart.
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  We're talking about protecting your energy and healing from
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  those toxic environments and learning how to fill your own
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  cup so that you're not constantly pouring from an empty
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  one. And look, I am not here to
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  preach to you from a pedestal. I have lived this one.
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  I've said things that I wish I could take back.
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  I've been on the receiving end of all of that hurt too.
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  And I've seen people in my life transform, but only because they
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  did the work. So this episode is about growth,
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  it's about healing and it's about you.
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  Let's start with the truth bomb. You can't unsay words.
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  You can apologise, you can try and repair the damage, but once
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  those words are out, they're out.
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  And how many times have we had to stop and say that to our own
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  students? In fact, I'm pretty sure I've
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  said it to my own kids multiple times.
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  Yes, you can say sorry for all of those things you've just
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  said. Yes, I know you didn't mean
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  them, but you actually can't take those words back.
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  They're not like cartoon fictional letters that come out
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  of your mouth and you can eat them back up and they disappear.
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  Once they're out, they're out and they do leave damage, OK,
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  but it's our choice whether we let them 'cause damage to
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  ourselves or the same as the other person chooses to forgive
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  you or allows the damage to occur.
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  Then you've got toxic energy, whether it's from others or
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  yourself. It's heavy, it lingers, and it
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  can really dim your light. And if you haven't already
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  listened to the Toxic Energy Self Care Series podcast
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  episode, go back and listen to that one first and then come
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  back to this. But here's the hope, the freedom
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  that you don't have to stay stuck in it.
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  It's a choice. You can shift, you can heal, you
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  can become the person who lifts the room just by walking in.
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  And that's what I want to be. I'm working on becoming that
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  person, the one with magnetic, grounded, loving energy.
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  Not because life is perfect, oh, no way.
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  My life is by far nowhere near like it's on a scale.
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  It's not near perfect, no, no, but because I've done lots of
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  internal work on myself, and babe, that work is messy, hard,
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  but absolutely freeing to me. My life is good where we're at.
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  And to other people, they might have the perception that my life
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  looks like it's perfect. That's great that that's the
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  view that you see. But that's taken a lot of work
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  from our end to get where we are today.
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  And that's what leads me into this part, that you can't
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  outsource your healing so nobody else can fix.
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  You get that straight. Not your partner, not your best
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  friend, not even your workplace, not even changing workplaces.
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  Yes, therapy is incredible. Coaches, mentors, healers,
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  they're all amazing, but you still have to walk through the
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  line of fire and you have to change you.
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  You can access those resources to support you in your change,
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  but you're the one who has to change you.
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  So healing is not a one time thing, it's a lifelong journey.
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  I'm still learning, I'm still growing and I'm still making
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  mistakes and coming back to reflect on things and myself.
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  So wherever you're at today, know this.
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  You are not behind, you're just beginning again and again and
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  again because it's a process. So some self care tools from the
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  heart if you ignore the little murmur in the background.
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  My lovely dog Nyla who loves to star on this show is currently
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  squished sitting behind me in her little bubble because that
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  is part of herself care as a dog.
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  She likes to be close to people, she likes to have company.
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  So yes, being squished behind me on the chair is her little space
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  of I need love and attention. So that is her there.
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  So the little groans and little Jingle noises, that's Nyla being
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  the star of the show. So I just thought I'd better
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  name that out because I can't edit that out.
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  I'm not that good. OK, you will get the real and
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  the raw here. I'm doing the very best I can.
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  So back to the back to the episode, back on topic because I
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  I drifted off there for a moment, but there you go.
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  So coming back, self care tools. Yeah, that's what I was up to.
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  Self care tools from the heart. So let me share the tools that I
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  use every single day, especially when you've been in that space
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  of overwhelm or emotional exhaustion.
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  And I know I've shared these with you before, but just so you
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  haven't forgotten, I have my morning mantra.
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  So saying something loving to yourself, the first thing,
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  something like I am safe, I trust the process, I'm full of
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  calm, grounded energy. You can write it, you can say
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  it, you can stick it to the mirror.
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  You're letting it anchor your day.
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  So you choose something that you can anchor yourself, your mind
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  onto. That's a positive thing to start
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  the day. You, if you have it stuck to
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  your mirror, There's lots of companies like the I am, I think
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  it's called company that make mirror stickers that you can
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  stick on the mirror. They have them for kids as well.
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  So when they wake up, they can go read it and say, oh, I am
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  beautiful, I am safe, I am happy.
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  Like all of those things. You're just picking something to
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  help remind yourself of the positive intention for your day.
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  Then you might have some grounding type practise.
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  So this is me. I've done my morning mantra
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  might do some grounding, which is and you can try this now.
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  So you put one hand on your heart and one on your belly and
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  you have your feet flat on the floor.
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  So hand on your heart, hand on your belly, and your feet fat
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  flat on the floor. Then you breathe in through your
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  nose for three and out through your mouth for three.
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  You can imagine something here, maybe a wave of water running
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  through you, collecting all of the tension in your body, the
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  toxic energy, the pressure, and have it flowing out as you
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  exhale. Then you can pause and ask
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  yourself, how am I feeling now? And that's just one grounding
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  technique that's really short, sharp and easy.
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  Because breathing is proven to help regulate your nervous
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  system. It starts to force your body to
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  slow down and self regulate. It's trauma informed self care.
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  It's not fluffy stuff. It's real nervous system
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  support. So a nice and simple way to
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  ground yourself. Then you're filling your cup
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  first. So have you heard the same?
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  You can't pour from an empty cup?
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  I'm pretty sure I've told you quite a few times.
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  I say fill your cup so high that it's overflowing.
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  That way helping others doesn't drain you, it flows on from your
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  abundance because you have spent time on you.
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  You've focused on yourself first you are overflowing.
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  You can then support other people.
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  OK, what fills you up? What makes you feel alive, like
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  myself, like your integrity? Things that make you you.
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  It might be, again, like me getting your hair done in peace
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  with no children climbing on you.
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  Or maybe no talk about school. Having a hot coffee alone.
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  Could be painting, journaling, walking by water or on the beach
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  laughing with those friends who actually get you.
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  You know the ones. Could be listening to music
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  while you're subtly ignoring the other 47 open school tabs on
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  your laptop. Not talking from experiencing,
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  but make your list, write it down and start filling your cup
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  first. You might also have to ask
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  yourself, what have you given up that used to feed you?
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  What is it that you miss? What is it that you loved doing
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  and you don't do it anymore? You need to do that again
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  because you're focusing on you. You need to make time for you.
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  You haven't got that through this self care series.
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  Please get that message now. Make time for yourself because
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  self care is not selfish, OK? You deserve joy.
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  You deserve to feel human again. You need to make time for those
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  things on purpose, not when you crash.
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  It's preventative. OK, so here's your challenge.
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  If you haven't already done it, you're going to do it now.
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  You're going to write down 10 things that make you feel good
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  and star some of the ones that are quick and easy.
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  That could be under 10 minutes, and then pick 1 today.
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  Even if it's just 5 minutes, you're going to pick 1 today and
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  you're going to go do that for you, for yourself.
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  Keep that list in your journal, your planner, put it on your
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  phone as a note. If you've got Google Android,
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  Google on your Android, that makes sense.
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  There's apps for that. There's a Keep note app that one
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  can send you little reminders. You can schedule it to be every
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  day and you can just go, oh, I need to go do that now and spend
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  that time on you. So make sure you are pulling it
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  out. When the world starts getting
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  heavy, you can start chipping away at some of those things and
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  focus on you. So commit to 1:00 every day to
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  start filling your cup, not out of your obligation, but out of
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  love for yourself. So again, listen to all of the
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  episodes for the Self Care series.
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  All the messages are pretty similar in the fact that you are
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  looking after you first. OK, so here's what I really want
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  you to remember. Protect your energy.
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  Use all the tools, especially the ones I've given you.
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  Be gentle with yourself, but also be honest with yourself.
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  What do you need to do to heal, to shift, to grow?
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  You are not too far gone. If you're listening to this.
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  You're not too far gone. You're trying to make a change.
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  You're not behind. You're becoming.
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  You are doing the work, and I see you.
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  Let's keep becoming the kind of people who radiate love and
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  strength because we are walking our own journey with grace.
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  Feel free to DM me your list or tag me if this hits home.
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  And stay tuned for another episode in our wonderful self
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  care series. Go back through, listen to them
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  again. Remind yourself that you are
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  putting you first because you are important.
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  Please don't forget that. So until next time, stay
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  aligned, keep thriving, and I'll talk to you again soon.
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  Bye, guys.